#how to behave online

[jmtorres]

so a post wandered across my dash where someone had gotten a transphobic butthole commenting on their fic, and they were asking their followers go tell this person to kill themselves

and i said, have you considered telling people to kill themselves is an abusive tactic and maybe the proportionate response would be to delete the idiotic comment [alas blocking was not available as the coward hadn't logged in]

to their credit, this person blocked me rather than sending me abuse (though if they replied, I can't see it because they blocked, oh well)

but like. it kinda bothers me that someone i follow thought this was cool to reblog. i thought me and my mutuals were on the same page here. we don't tell people to kill themselves. we especially do not incite others to send someone a slew of such messages. we tell bigoted idiots off, block them when possible, report them if we can nail what they said to a hate speech or threat policy.

we do not tell people to kill themselves.

if you think it's acceptable to send someone a "kys" message for literally any reason please go ahead and block me, I don't want to know you.

[majoresca]

How are the magic wands of the magic users of the Ever Realm able to bend without breaking the magic crystals they contain at their core?

Like, crystals

I have two hypotheses:

The magical crystals used inside the wands are crushed into powder, and then placed inside their core. Like the phosphorus powder inside fluorescent lamps.

Or, the magic crystal is in a state of matter called liquid crystal, which is between the solid and liquid state and is capable of rearranging its particles through electrical charges. And the electrical charges in this case would be the effect of the magic itself passing from the magic user through the wand to the performance of a spell.

[iraprince]

Hiii, i love your stuff and kinda from a distance really look up at you for, in my perception, being able to express yourself without giving a fuck. Thats sick dude, Im so so afraid, of absolutely everything, its nice to think like i might grow into someone less apologetic of my existence. Nice to see people just being yknow

hey, thank you, this is really really nice. the secret that is probably not a secret is that i am also deeply afraid a lot of the time lmao -- but less than i used to be, and in ways that feel less stifling and self-suffocating, if that makes sense.

like, it used to be "i'm scared that if i express myself the way i want to, everyone will find me obnoxious, so let's just sand those edges down to be safe" -- now my fears are more like "now that i'm expressing myself in a way that feels natural and real, i'm afraid that it's all stupid/vapid/not worthwhile or meaningful" (<- specifically abt my art) or "i'm happy that i talk and act the way i want to now, but what if it makes me impossible to befriend," etc etc etc. which still feels bad and puts me in a funk a lot of the time but at least it's a fear that comes After/in reaction to doing stuff, rather than a fear that STOPS me from doing stuff, you know? like, it's evolved into a kind of fear that's less in my way.

anyway. i believe you'll experience something like this, because wanting to grow is the first step of growing. the fact that u hope or wish for something different means you're already on your way. to fewer fucks!! or at least distributing the fucks u give in a way that serves u better

[zombolouge]

For the record, the author/creator saying some shit online is NOT canon. Canon exists within the media. If it's not IN the media, it's up to interpretation. If the creator didn't fit it into that context, it IS NOT CANON.

I see a lot of you fools out there calling stuff "confirmed" because someone said some shit on social media, and I know they're gonna use it to be shitty to people who don't wanna engage with it. So again, for the record, and with feeling: nobody should care what the fuck the author said. If it's not IN the thing, it's not canon.

[vanmarkus]

it kinda worries me how so many people confuse fiction with reality; as in thinking that calling fictional characters slurs on public platforms doesn't affect real people and that shipping certain fictional characters is some kind of moral failing

[wttcsms]

HELLOO WILL U PLEASE SPOIL US FOR HOW ISAGI SAVES READER IN UR FIC I LOVE IT SM

NOOOO A SPOILER WOULD RUIN THE FUN!!!! i will say, the title of the fic comes from the gracie abrams song “free now” + it heavily applies to reader and rin’s relationship, especially considering the growth that it takes for reader to acknowledge their relationship and the breakup in a healthy manner. because obviously reader isn’t in a great headspace rn, and she’s not taking this breakup well, and soon (we have a few more chapters to go before it happens hehe) we have reader being thrust into a pr stunt of a relationship w isagi.

a big part of the fic is that what we see vs what actually is the truth is sometimes vastly different. we get a glimpse of this through the jarring differences of me showing what the media is portraying you as versus how your life is currently going. so a common theme throughout the fic will always be about misconception through the public eye, especially bc of the role of social media. your “private” life is always going to be considered public business. and so, reader currently has an issue where she doesn’t mind the spotlight, but she desperately feels the need to have control over her image. so you’re constantly trying to show an outward image that will get you the headlines and feedback from fans that you’re searching for. but it comes with a nasty catch: you now have set a standard for yourself that you can’t always uphold. it’s unrealistic. it’s unrealistic bc a lot of what you present to the public is fake, and eventually, people get tired of acting, yknow? and your relationship w rin, it was this iconic pairing. a big thing i want to feature in this fic is the fact that we (collective we) have a tendency to see famous people’s private affairs as a spectacle and another form of entertainment. so reader is going through the worst heartbreak of her life, and you can delete images of him off your Instagram and camera roll, but people are still going to make tiktoks of you and him, even years after the breakup, saying some shit like “guys im still stuck at the restaurant” or “yall am i the only one who misses them😞😞”

and again, reader needs to understand and come to terms with the fact that she can’t control every aspect of her public. people will never behave the way she wants them to, and instead of focusing energy on trying to maintain a certain image, she has to just be happy with herself, with knowing the truth. and she learns this lesson (MINOR SPOILER!!!) whenever isagi gets tired of her behavior and it feels like he’s leaving her. it’s sort of her wake up call.

so not getting into too much specifics, but isagi is the reason why she realizes that she needs a change in her mentality and how she handles how the media talks about her. as for the relation to “free now”, i really like the bridge + the ending line of “never been less empty / all i feel is free now” + the meaning behind the song

[persephoneflouwers]

I feel genuinely sick thinking the amount of hate aimed at Liam was mostly coming from inside this fandom (not all, there is a substantial amount that was coming from the main pop community and platforms)

A sister mentions that hate as a contributing factor to the struggle she witnessed in her brother’s life…

I genuinely feel sick.

[felixisfruity]

abyone else lowkey remember that you have almost no close friends and then get really upset that you dont fit in like you think you do and

[thecryptidart1st]

i just watched an hour long video of fnaf tumblr's voldemort's drama

[thegalleonsnest]

I know this is kind of random and off topic for me, but after a few years of actually paying attention to the way people behave online and treat each other, or treat specific topics/concepts, and comparing it to real life behavior and reacting/dealing with situations, it really shows me how desperate some people really need to step away from the computer and just interact with the world or talk to people their age who isn't chronically online to realize how narrow their own way of thinking is & believe in very specific mindsets that no normal person ever thinks about or acts on.

Like, I know this really sounds like a repeat of many posts of people going like "No one online behaves like this in real life, actually go to these places and talk to these people," but I'm so serious. It genuinely feels like I'm constantly reading posts about the most insane behavior or a one track mind how to perceive and view people/media.

I actually can't believe there are people fighting over dumb stuff that doesn't even matter in the grand scheme of things, and people are willing to go as far to go to extremes like call outs, targeting people, cutting people off, or get very petty over others opinions.

And as someone who has witnessed and been involved in situations where I had to mediate and moderate behavior like this from both adults and teens, I'm sitting here thinking "You cannot be fucking serious right now." And no one knows how to be mature and actually communicate like an actual person, and it makes me wonder how they're surviving the real world like this.

My guy, the world and most of its people is so heavily lathered in nuance, you can't just chalk up everything as black and white and jump to the extreme every time something or someone slightly annoys you.

[mushroomsie224]

big question

would jay wholeheartedly love subnautica for the detailed fish behavior or for the little fish taxonomy

As someone who has never really been much of a gamer, I did not know about this game and had to look it up. Oh boy, Jay would go FERAL over this thing. But to answer the main question, I'm not entirely sure since I haven't played this game and don't know much about it (though it does look fun and I'm interested in it for sure), but I think the detailed fish behaviour would interest him more?

[judilyart]

I miss the period of time on the internet when undertale first came out and everybody was obsessed with it and finding weird secret lore and creating endless fanart... it was such a special game

[dominants-dominion]

May I please send you some titties, sir? 🥺🥺🥺🥺

I very much appreciate you asking first! But no thank you.

I'm sure they are gorgeous 🤩

[itsahotminuteinbetween]

Oh right i never actually did anything about the engineer au did i

[unhonestlymirror]

When an internet user who behaves like a mentally unstable teenager suddenly writes "Me and my wife/husband [...]":

[teethbomb]

I blocked someone for a petty reason for the first time