#how can you be both over and understimulates at the same time???

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god hand-crafted my soul to be the research asssitant of an eccentric wizard and to help adventuring teams document their discoveries not to respond to 5 Teams messages, 3 emails and search Confluence AT THE SAME TIME

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how taesan loves ( zodiac series ) ˚ · .

how i think taesan would navigate relationships/love/communication based on his natal chart/birth chart!

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more under the cut!

taesan is "communicative, free, and understanding" when he truly loves.

taesan is a tough shell to crack. because of his gemini moon, he is always looking for excitement and variety, which means that he doesn't "settle down" often. despite this, both his sun and mars are in leo, so he can be very loyal when he genuinely likes someone. he either will have a crush on one person for a very long time, or wait until he finds the perfect person for a long-term relationship.

if he is going to confess, he'll be very detailed and communicative about it. he doesn't take his feelings lightly!!! he's attracted to people who he can have engaging conversations with, learn from, and have witty charm. he's pretty sarcastic himself, so i think he'd also like to have someone who can meet him on that level. other air sign moon placements are a good match for him as they can share their values of freedom and understanding with eachother.

taesan has a high need for variety and change and he can get bored quickly if things stay the same for too long; especially if he feels mentally understimulated. this is why he likes people who are a little unexpected, wild at heart, and have a passion for trying out new things!!! >< introduce him to new music artists, fashion brands, movies, etc.

he'd like dates that involve experiencing the cultures of other cities, road trips, museums, and other things that involve learning ^___^ he'd also like getaway trips to other countries, sightseeing, and stuff like that!

his love language is words of affirmation. he likes to be complimented, whether it be for his taste in fashion, his appearance, his mindset on something, etc. he wants you to think he's cool!!!! and because of his leo placements, he's especially sensitive on his spine, so hugs where you run your fingers up and down his back are ideal <3 also placing your hand on his chest right over his heart when you kiss will have him folding!!!

he is incredibly talkative once he feels comfortable around you. he will talk your ear off for hours if you let him, and please do! communication and sharing ideas and knowledge is one of the best ways to get closer to him. let him info dump about all of his favorite things, and he would like it if you do the same with him!!!

once taesan feels fully safe and commited in a relationship, he can provide you with some of the best security, comfort, and care. with his moon squaring jupiter, he requires the same treatment. he might not be the most emotional person ever, but his loyalty and admiration go a very long way. he can be passionate and driven by desire, so i think people who can match that are a good fit for him. it doesn't seem like he'd be into the "opposites attract" type of thing.

he loves being the center of attention, even though he'll never admit it. taesan is a cancer venus, so he is very sensitive at heart, but he hides behind the dismissive and cold demeanor of his gemini moon. he is very emotionally intelligent and self-aware, preferring to analyze and process his feelings thoughtfully in solitude before confiding in someone.

back to his cancer venus, taesan pays attention to your actions more than your words. don't try to lie about being "okay" if you're going through a hard time because he will see right through you. he'll encourage you to confide in him and if you ask him to, he'll help you figure out how to go about difficult situations.

the biggest area for potential conflict would be his struggle with empathy and concern. don't get me wrong, he does have a genuine interest for his partner's feelings, but sometimes he can be too rational. while he prefers to resolve conflict through communication, he gets really uncomfortable in highly vulnerable or irrational situations. this is where he struggles to incorporate empathy into his communication style, rather than stating facts over feelings.

if taesan is feeling insecure or rejected, he has a tendency to retreat into himself. expect pouting fits and silent treatments if you ever make him upset. :< he can get fired up pretty easily if he feels disrespected, humiliated, or mischaracterized. he might even resort to petty tactics to see how much you really care about him. he's a leo-gemini sun/moon so he has no shame in playing games with you. he'll probably do and say things to get a reaction out of you, like trying to make you jealous or pity him. he can also hold grudges for a bit too (cancer venus lol)

once he has enough alone time to sort out his emotions, with his mercury in virgo, he'll probably organize all of his thoughts in his notes app before sitting down with you to talk because he hates when his words are skewed or taken out of context. he likes serious communication to be neat and thorough. screaming fights and intense arguments make him shut down and go ghost, so communication should be respectful and calm. when he's clear-headed, he can see from multiple points of view very well; "i see where you're coming from", "i understand why you feel that way and i'm sorry".

how can you make taesan feel loved? firstly, be understanding. he may have bouts of criticism and pessimism, so understand that this is just who he is and it's never directed at you or your character! he thinks that being understood and communicating needs and wants clearly are the most important things. he wants you to truly know him and you can show that in whatever way feels best. secondly, be free and full of whimsy! take him out to dance in the rain, roll down a grassy hill...just enjoy those unexpected moments with him.

taesan is truly a big kid at heart, but has built up these walls around him which leads him to being extremely independent. he wants his partner to value independence as much as he does, and understand that they can still be each other's safe spaces. he wants to be able to let his guard down around you, so be open-minded and love him through it all. he'll do the same for you <3

reblogs are greatly appreciated! lmk what u think or if you have any other takes!!! i'm always open to learning more :o thank u...<3

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s/o with adhd headcanons — sam winchester

cw : gn!reader, fluff, college!au, stress from school, adhd symptoms like procrastination, executive dysfunction, over and understimulation, etc, eating and medication mentions, highkey just me blabbing, 0.8K words. requested !

prompt : neurodivergent!sam x adhd!reader disclaimer : based on my own experience with adhd but i tried to make it decently generalized (?)

MOVED BLOGS TO @sammyluvr !! no longer active on this blog! all fics can be found there!

⟢ first of all, both being neurodivergent really helps you two click when you meet!

⟢ it just adds a layer of understanding and relatability that’s really nice in a friend, especially at such a prestigious place like stanford where you’re expected to be pretty much perfect academically

⟢ so while you’re of course very intelligent, adhd totally gets in the way :,)

⟢ but even before you’re dating, sam’s already so helpful! even if he’s not adhd like you, he’s very understanding and relates to certain aspects!

⟢ mostly because he understands that you get easily understimulated and distracted in dull classes and he’s good at staying focused so he always lends you his notes

⟢ you naturally grow close to each other because you feed off of each other’s energy really well and end up studying for classes together a lot

⟢ even if you’re not the same major, you have several gen-eds that you share and work through together

⟢ it’s very easy to fall for him, and he thinks the same about you!

⟢ he realizes he likes you when he’s hugging you close after a stressful day :,) because he’s sweet and cute like that

⟢ he’s scared of ruining your friendship of course, but he becomes confident enough that you might like him back that he asks you on a date <33

⟢ no relationship is completely easy, but being will him feels so natural that it runs smooth and relieves a lot more stress than it creates

⟢ it’s really nice to date him after being friends first because you already know each other well!

⟢ and in terms of your adhd, he’s already seen the biggest things that stress you out, so he knows how to help and what to look out for

⟢ he’ll know even better than you will if going to a party that night will overstimulate you and he tries to come up with fun dates that will help out when you’re understimulated

⟢ he still of course shares his notes with you for classes you share

⟢ and he tries to keep good track of the other classes you’re taking if you're more disorganized about them

⟢ he pays so so so much attention to everything ever that you say, and this includes all the projects and assignments you’re working on in case you forget

⟢ sam tries his best to be helpful and motivating when your executive dysfunction kicks in and makes you procrastinate, but he’s also understanding that sometimes even just thinking or talking about it is too stressful

⟢ so he’ll distract you for a little bit if you both have the time and then do his best to help you get started on whatever you need to do

⟢ he likes organizing things so he helps you stay organized in your dorm/apartment and for your assignments

⟢ he probably likes making lists, so if those are helpful/not stressful to you, he makes you lists too!

⟢ knows how certain things like your impulsivity or distractedness manifest and learns how to help with those!

⟢ is so understanding if you get distracted while talking to him or doing something with him!

⟢ and is so so so comforting when you get upset for whatever reason, usually stress from school and how your adhd is making it extra difficult for you to get everything done

⟢ loves that you play with his fingers absentmindedly when you get fidgety!!

⟢ and loves that you also understand him and how being neurodivergent affects things!

⟢ you of course reciprocate all of his efforts to understand and help you, and you learn how to best help and read him as well!!

⟢ i think he gets easily overstimulated, so you’re really helpful in reading him and removing him from situations or changing things up before he gets too overstimulated

⟢ holding his hand tight to ground him when he’s overwhelmed <3

⟢ and giving him tight hugs when he gets super stressed!!

⟢ he also makes sure you eat properly even when you don’t feel like it, but doesn’t pressure you too much!

⟢ if you take meds for it, he helps you remember those

⟢ but sometimes meds can feel unhelpful or make you feel worse so he understands if you don’t always take it

⟢ he prioritizes your mental health and comfort over your productivity!

⟢ he wants to help you feel productive and less stressed over unfinished school work, but he doesn’t actually care about your school stuff, he cares about you above all else!

⟢ bonus only having gay and neurodivergent friends because we flock together for real LMAO

⟢ adhd!jess my love, she’s your bestie in this au for sure, unimportant (so important because i love her sooooo much)

⟢ anyways! basically it’s a really nice part of your relationship to have this understanding of each other and ability to care for each other extra well

⟢ it may cause conflict sometimes because you might be understimulated while he’s overstimulated and you have to stay in separate rooms until you both sort of level out LOL

⟢ but it’s never anything big, and you’re both understanding of the other even when your vibes are not on the same wavelength heh

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Please help, the neighbor’s Squawkabilly, Iggy, is in love with my Arboliva, Grant, and neither of us can figure out what to do about it.

I think it’s because they’re both green and Grant’s branches kind of look like wings if you squint, so Iggy has decided he’s a really big Squawkabilly? I’m not sure.

They seem to get along well and I must admit that it’s funny to see Iggy strut about in his little mating performances, but should we worry about Iggy getting possessive? We’re limiting time spent together and supervising closely to avoid that.

yes, this is something you need to be careful about.

squawkabilly are highly social pokemon, and they're hard to keep as pets as a result. in the wild, they live in tremendous flocks with other squawkabilly of the same color. i presume iggy is your neighbor's only squawkabilly? that's the source of the issue here. iggy is likely socially understimulated, and he's latching onto grant because grant is green. a pretty common issue in pet squawkabilly is inappropriate mating bonds, and they'll even try to establish themselves as their trainer's mate if necessary. the difficulty with this is that squawkabilly become very possessive over their mates, and iggy may get upset with you or your neighbor for interfering with his time spent with grant. this isn't a safe situation for any of you. green squawkabilly are generally considered the most aggressive, territorial color of the species, and iggy could seriously injure you or grant if he gets upset enough to start attacking. green squawkabilly have been known to cause permanent hearing loss in humans.

i would not let grant around iggy at all given that he's displaying courtship behaviors, because doing so will only encourage this hormonal behavior and increase the odds of iggy getting territorial. your neighbor needs to talk with their vet about how best to address iggy's social needs and prevent potential behavioral incidents before letting iggy and grant hang out in the future.

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Yumephobic cat anon here! Last update cuz I just don't have much more to share:

To the other anon who was worried about her, thanks for the concern /gen! I can tell you care about animals :] I promise she's just playing. I left it out for the sake of comedy but the only times she bit me were after she had already gotten zoomies. She thinks it's how to initiate play despite how much my family has tried to train her out of it. I also left out the fact that my other cat has his own version of this just cause I thought it was much more cute than funny: he climbs all over me, mews cheerfully, and kneads every inch of skin he can find. Both of them have the same comfortable body language while doing this. I promise she's not being aggressive out of fear, anger, pain, overstimulation, understimulation, or anything like that. Still trying to get her to stop doing it but she's almost 10 and I'm starting to think the habit was either not reprimanded or actively encouraged by her previous owners. But I promise she's a very happy cat! Just got a quirk. Again, thanks for the concern!

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Charlie Kelly - Character Analysis as the Understimulated Self

Please read this disclaimer / introduction post first

Word Count: 713 Read Time: 3 minutes

The first to be analysed will be the Understimulated Self as seen through our friend Charlie Kelly. Kohut begins by explaining that in childhood, understimulated individuals were likely neglected by their selfobjects, which we see in Charlie’s upbringing. His mother is seen repeatedly putting her energy into other men and Charlie has no father figure to fill that hole Bonnie is leaving.

Kohut goes on to explain how throughout their lives, understimulated individuals will seek any kind of stimuli that will create a “pseudo-excitement” that wards off an internal sense of deadness. This is the main attribute that places them under the definition of ‘understimulated’. He describes how this begins in childhood and continues through into adulthood if not treated in some way, which we can see as Charlie’s tendency for huffing glue, drinking and other drugs that persists from a very early age (S06E13: A Very Sunny Christmas), through his adolescence (S01E03: Underage Drinking: A National Concern) and into adulthood (see: all 16 seasons).

Kohut also describes stimulus seeking in adulthood in the form of sexual stimulus, which is something we do see Charlie engaging in with Ruby Taft in “Charlie and Dee Find Love” (S08E04), with Dee in “The Gang Misses the Boat” (S10E06), and with Tatiana in “The Gang Hits the Slopes” (S11E03), however he doesn’t exhibit this behaviour to the same extent as the rest of the gang due to his series-long infatuation with the waitress. Specifically with Ruby Taft, we see Charlie actively using her for his own sexual pleasure & gain to make the waitress jealous with little to no regard for her feelings. While you can argue that Charlie only slept with her to emotionally manipulate the waitress, I would argue that Charlie would have only needed to sleep with her once to achieve this goal; rather, he was simultaneously exploiting Ruby for his own sexual pleasure.

Kohut also describes adult stimulus seeking in the form of gambling. While we don’t see Charlie gambling habitually like Frank does, we do see him being incredibly reckless with Frank’s money and his own when he manages to save any. In “Dennis and Dee Go on Welfare” (S02E03) we watch Charlie abuse his access to Frank’s wealth for his and Mac’s personal gain, and to abuse the aforementioned stimuli by buying copious amounts of alcohol, drugs and sex workers. In “The Gang Gets Stranded in the Woods” (S06E11) we see Charlie explicitly gambling his own money and spending it irresponsibly in both the casino and at the charity event with Dennis after winning $15,000. You can also argue that Charlie saying ‘yes’ to everything in this episode is its own form of gambling through risk-taking behaviour.

The final type of stimulus seeking Kohut describes is in the form of hypersociability. While Charlie is not someone with a large collection of friends, we do see how he becomes incredibly jealous when someone he’s attached to chooses someone else over him, how he deludes himself into thinking that people who dislike him are actually his friends, and how he will do very drastic things to get people who hate him to like him; most notably the waitress.

While Charlie is seen continuously trying to gain the Waitress' affection and attention throughout the show, a notable example of Charlie’s need to be liked away from the Waitress is when Schmitty is re-initiated into the gang in “The Gang Gets a New Member” (S06E08). We see that while Charlie initially joins in with Mac and Dennis in making fun of Dee’s ambition to find her old acting teacher, as soon as Mac and Dennis kick Charlie out of the gang in favour of Schmitty, not only is he incredibly hurt, but he quickly rushes to Dee and immediately misinterprets her attempts to get rid of him as her wanting to be his best friend and work together at the school. Examples outside of the Waitress in Charlie's need to be liked are important to demonstrate how this behaviour is not just due to his infatuation, but rather a personality trait that would categorise him as Understimulated.

It is worth noting that I think all the members of the gang could easily be interpreted as Understimulated selves, however I do think Charlie fits it the best, and for the purposes of this analysis I’ll be doing one member per personality.

Find the other character analyses below:

Dennis - The Fragmenting Self Mac - The Overstimulated Self Dee - The Overburdened Self

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Hello, i am the anon about Tim crushing on Jason and omG, thank you so much, that was so lovely like???? OmG i love it. Also rereading some of your answers i saw one ablut possesive Dick and Kon lending Tim a hand but getting hot. I would love to see your thoughts on timkon being like hot damn at dickjay

(I love all your writings, thank you so much for sharing♡)

Thank you so much, anon! I'm glad you enjoyed the reply and all my other stuff. The support means so much! //u///

Mentioned asks here and here, btw. I wasn't sure what to write, so it's largely just Tim and Conner ogling.

Kon only turns up in Gotham because Tim's heart rate spikes and it's alarming. Because Kon knows the sound of Tim's heart and the rhythm of its beat so intimately that it may as well have a place behind his own ribs. Something is wrong and Kon doesn't wait around - he goes to save his friend. Always. Without thought or question.

Only when Kon gets there, there's no danger

Just the love of his life being a little voyeur perv creeping on his brothers who are getting hot and heavy and consequently getting hot under his little Robin collar, in turn

Tim being completely oblivious to Kon for a few moments because he's so enraptured by Dick and Jason. So Kon just crouches beside him and observes, petulant about the lack of attention until the exact moment he's not because - oh.

Oh, damn. Kon gets it.

But then to distract Kon from the view - Tim. Who finally realizes that Kon is there beside him and he startles so bad. Flustered because Tim has been caught out for having a wildly unsavory hobby

Which Kon wouldn't mind sharing with him and taking part in, but like - before that? Kon can't not tease Tim about it.

Kon also gets caught out for his own invasive hobby (of listening to Tim's heart like elevator music) and sputtering and flustering just as bad as Tim

Just two red faced boys trying to save face in light of being so brutally exposed. But it's just the way their relationship is, so Kon ends up breaking into titters while Tim hides in his hands, groaning a bit but also laughing because ffs

'Shove over, would you?' Kon tells him, nudging Tim to make room so that they can both be creeps together - watching and getting increasingly overwhelmed as they watch Dick and Jason get nasty.

And then TimKon get a little nasty themselves //u///

Alternative more sfw option:

SuperBatfam on a cruise together

Tim doing his utmost to convince Kon to fly him outta there immediately because he's so understimulated it's painful

Kon being 👀 because he can stimulate Tim plenty heyo

Tim gaping because what? was that a come on?

Comically, tragically, it was not

Kon just takes the challenge for what it is and it's all Tim and Conner doing all the cruise activities.

It's at these activities that they run into Dick and Jason who are just - so over the top and ridiculously cute?

Just the way they banter and challenge one another and get competitive. The stakes/rewards they put on things - making things fun in a way that's fun for them.

Which just so happens to become fun for Kon because aww 👀👀

Meanwhile Tim is exasperated because his brothers really don't quit so smitten it's too much

But at the same time? A little aww 👀

Just Tim and Conner admiring the easy comfort and easier affections. And both of them getting a little blushy when Dick or Jason steals the other away, ducking down halls or behind pillars for stolen kisses. How they hold hands but in a way that's barely there - hidden behind their bodies and with only one or two fingers hooked.

Them at the pool deck watching Dick put sunscreen on Jason. And Kon really sort of drooling over how Dick's hands span across Jason's shoulders and back - how small Jason's waist is when Dick holds it, hooking his chin over Jason's shoulder and smiling at him and -

Then all at once Dick's gaze slides over to Kon and Kon is in full sun but he is chilled when Dick smiles at him - an open threat and oh wow that only made this predicament all the more attractive

Tim smacking Kon in warning, but Kon misses the memo because: 'idk if you guys have ever thought about swinging, but...'

Jason, who's been aware of the extra attention, busting up because omfg. And Dick can't help but laugh too, because okay Kon. Shoot your shot, they respect that. Tim is just crawling away though save him throw him overboard he shouldn't be on a confined ship with these three.

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”he/she/they” and wears female clothing all the time

Oh no, you caught me being femme! The worst crime!! How dare I be comfortable being feminine no matter where my gender lands on a given day. Quick, run, hide! I’ve been found out! Gender expression isn’t the same as gender identity, silly goose. You thought this was such an epic slam dunk on me but you’ve just embarrassed yourself by announcing how little you actually understand about anything at all. 😭 That’s okay though, I really love teachable moments like this. Thank you for the opportunity for me to give my followers the vocabulary needed for these kinds of interactions. So, duh, but being queer takes tremendous fortitude and thick skin for many reasons. Even coming from a place of privilege (born and raised in Los Angeles, not the kind of visibly queer that gets me in dangerous situations, etc), I went through multiple un-fabulous “coming-outs” since age 12, because you never really just come out once. (The Merry-Go-Round of Coming Out🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️) I get comments like this both from actual transphobes or from people within my community accusing me of being a “transtrender”, questioning my validity based on how I look, my body, my fashion sense (which is lit, but okay? Sorry it upsets you?), my pronouns, etc, blah blah. The point is, I did not spend 30 years on this earth coming back to myself for a pitiful little anon like this to invalidate my entire lived experience. (The transphobes found my channel! 😱 Let's challenge them 🏳️‍⚧️ sex ≠ gender) And that’s a hard boundary in all of my relationships, online or offline: My lived experience with my gender, my body, my Self, is not up for debate. Period. So I’m not here to try to convince you that I’m Legit! I’m Actually Trans and Genderfluid, Please Believe Me or I’ll Just Die! I could try until I’m blue in the face and it wouldn’t matter to someone so miserable that they get mad at me over being comfortable with my own femininity. (Weird thing to get mad at an enby for? I serve cunt even on my low-spoon days and you’re mad? Are you okay?? If you have a therapist, this is something that could be worth investigating.) Let’s break it down:

1. You take issue with me being an all pronouns cutie.*But why? Is there something wrong with not having a fixed sense of gender? Because if I were AMAB, I’d be… the same. I’d also be all pronouns and I’d also be cute as fuck in things considered feminine. My experience with gender is fluid, it’s not something I can pin down or grasp or even really explain well. And that’s okay, because it’s not clear-cut for everyone. I love the mystery of it. Embracing it has been a huge part of coming home to myself. I don’t express in masc ways very often, it’s definitely more subdued, but uh… If you think that the only Real Trans Way is to like go totally 180 on the expression, then thaaaat’s weird and not even true to most people’s experiences. (Obviously since tomboys and femboys exist who aren’t trans.) I wasn’t feminine growing up. I wasn’t comfortable with it for a million different reasons. So coming to a place of gender euphoria with myself has been about reclaiming femininity on my terms. Not because it’s being forced on me as the “correct” gender expression but because it’s just who I am. I’m a fairy princess and I’m not gonna “try to be more masculine” so understimulated troglodytes like you will accept me. This is actually a common experience with a lot of AFABs! So many trans men become drag queens or finally feel comfortable being feminine once they’re out or starting transition. It’s a thing. *(Journaling prompt: Are you insecure? Does it trigger some kind of wound in you to see me live the way you’re too afraid to even try, even if you’re not queer/trans? This is often the case when people accuse me of having “fake pronouns” or being a transtrender. A lot of projection. The brain goes “if I were like them, I’d get hate for it! So I’m gonna send them hate!” I cannot imagine such misery. Please be free.) 2. “Wears female clothing” Hold up. Clothes are not sexed, so I assume you mean “feminine” clothing. Even then… Do you think that someone has to dress every which way in accordance with pronouns? This may be an education deficit on your part, which can be corrected with effort if your empathy or desire to be a better person ever exceeds your IQ. (Sorry, T got me sassy today.) 3. “All the time” – Oh, are you, like… in my room right now? Do you go to work with me? Errands? So you see what I’m wearing literally all the time? You would totally know what I wear all the time! Come on. You gotta admit this is pretty silly. It’s like when random guys on set would tell me, “You know, you look way better without all that makeup.” HUH? SIR? Were you in my room this morning before I beat this mug? No? Then what the hell are you talking about? So… My big question that I don’t expect an answer to is: Just what do you want me to do? Do you want me to ONLY be cool with all pronouns if I’m ONLY very distinctly presenting in more extremes of any gender? What’s the gender checklist that would make You Personally Comfortable with Me? Do you want me to completely drop he/they because I’m so pussy power? Orrr what? What’s your endgame for sending an anon like this? Or was it something you just did in the moment to try to offset whatever internal discomfort you’re battling? Because all you did was remind me of how far I’ve come. Maybe 10 years ago this kind of anon would’ve sent me back into the closet, because it was still so fucking hard to be out and proud as genderfluid in the 2010’s. The kind of invasive and invalidating shit I had to deal with on a daily basis was wild. Because no, I don’t want surgery, no, I’m not transitioning. I’m just me. Whoever’s reading this, wherever you’re at: this is also a good reminder of why it’s important to love yourself. And to get therapy. Because good lord, anon, if you haven’t tried it, PLEASE. There are options out there. I want you to not be this miserable.

Bye!

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life has been so strange recently and I'm not on here as much. I work extra at the bookstore and it makes me both happy and impatient, because that's not where I WANT to be, you know? happy and grateful for a job at all in this economy, but I'm so so tired of fighting for the life I want and not getting anywhere close to it. the bookstore is probably the best case scenario of retail jobs though. I'm surrounded by books and (mostly) lovely customers and I do really like all my coworkers and I'm comfortable and it doesn't give me any anxiety like every other job I've ever had, but it also messes with my energy so my freelancing is all over the place. but maybe I can't fully blame that. I felt I didn't give it my all last year either. everything is understimulating and not challenging enough but I'm also just. so tired.

I'm going back to therapy next week because I need to finally get some help for the random depressive episodes I have. the first half of january was so good. SO good. and for no particular reason. then it became so bad. also for no particular reason. I just have random bursts of not finding life worth living. but I love life. I love my family and friends and art and books and writing and traveling and the moon and sunshine and laughter and going dancing. but I sometimes kind of just don't want to be alive. it's been like this for 15 years. I don't think it's normal.

I ddin't get that job, but I might have an internship opportunity, but since it's not via school I need to figure out how to go about it. if I can get financial aid or something. it's at a publishing house and while I'm 99% certain it won't lead to a job, it will most definitely give me knowledge and experience that I lack. so that's good if I can figure all that out.

I've been reading. I find my hunger for reading is back and it's beautiful. I'm trying to save money. I'm trying to figure out what I need in order to not feel so behind in life. I feel so pathetic all the time. I can't reach the main things I need. the bigger ones. so I'm trying to change things by changing small things. I'm super discouraged after my most recent depressive episode. I don't know if I'll ever be where I want. a character in the book I'm reading (yerba buena by nina lacour) is having similar feelings. it's comforting but also stresses me out, because she's younger and has more things figured out after all. but it's also nice to see I guess. I went out to dinner with my extended family to celebrate my mom's birthday and my cousin, who's the same age as me but married with a child, was joking about being on top of the chain now, even though he has an older sister, and I joked about how my younger brother, who is getting married in the summer, has passed me and I'm in the bottom now. my aunt was actually really offended that I was putting myself down like that, but it helps to make jokes about it, because I definitely think it's true even if I don't necessarily think that's the case for other people who are in my position. but I think I'm a failure. it's getting worse. I don't know what to do. but on the other hand, there are worse chains to be at the bottom of than this one. I'm so lucky. I'm so so fucking tired.

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AAAAAA THANK YOU!! I'm putting it below because even though I summarized stuff it's still a long post

So I think Keith reacts to over/understimulation with anger and thats why Lance and Keith got on each others nerves so much at the beginning since Lance's stims are more vocal and noise based

When they found out about the other also having ADHD things got awkward since they both knew that what they needed was the opposite of what the other needed and they avoided each other a lot

When the lion switch happened one of the reasons that made Lance such a good right hand man to Keith is that he could tell when Keith was getting over/understimulated, and Lance would be right there getting him out of whatever's causing the issue and taking over for him.

They eventually figured out a balance where they could comfortably be around each other and they understood each other on a level that the other paladins couldn't

Like just the feeling of having someone who understands what executive dysfunction is like would be so beneficial for Lance because I see that being an issue for him, he's definitely one of those kids that got diagnosed late and spent most of his schooling getting in trouble for stuff he couldn't control.

Same as Keith but Keith was just going from school to school and didn't really have time to get diagnosed until Shiro took him in.

They're so different in how they experience ADHD but they understand each other's struggles so well that they end up not being the cause of the other's distress but one of the main preventors of it. And they find comfort with each other because they know they won't get judged for long rants or odd stims/interests or having a hard time with tasks

There's so much like Keith helping Lance remember stuff and Lance always being there to spar with Keith if he needs it, Keith getting Lance music that's similar to what Lance used to stim to on earth, them picking up each other's stims and Keith helping Lance through overstimulation during a fight just... they live in my head it's so cannon to me I'm probably gonna come back with more headcannons but my emotions can be summarized with this picture

Lance and Keith both having ADHD can actually be so personal... someone should totally ask me about it...

[kuredono]

JJK Boys and ADHD reader

Gn reader as always! Headcanon usually isn’t my thing (if you can’t tell TT) but I needed to get this brainrot OUT hahaha

MEGUMI FUSHIGURO:

Fushiguro knows of ADHD but will still look it up and learns about it to help you where he can, but low key

He will work with you on projects at the same time for accountability and keeping on track. He's stern on you but still soft for his favourite human

He can sense if you're under or over stimulated before you fully realise and will help accommodate either moods- will summon any and all the shikigami animals to pet!!

He will melt if you play with his hands or hair to fidget- especially while watching something together

He listens quietly to word vomits

He provides food and water and reminders to touch grass when you're hyperfixated

If he can’t physically be there with you while you’re hyperfixated, he will try and call you to snap you out of it, but if that doesn't work and he knows you actually need to stop, he will try his best to see you in person and drag you away

He habitually tidies after you and for some reason you always hyperfixate on cleaning when he can't be bothered to clean

On this note, he does tend to leave bigger cleaning jobs for when you next have a cleaning spree

He finds it most difficult to accommodate your RSD, especially if your preferred love language is physical touch or words of affirmation. He tries his best but sometimes struggles to communicate emotions, and he's not a fan of PDA, so it can feel like rejection, but he will always be super apologetic if he realises/when you tell him. Cuddles ensue.

YUUJI ITADORI:

He vaguely knows what ADHD is and goes off vibes/what you tell him you struggle with, but he will consult the internet if he doesn’t know what to do 

He will ask how he can help you all the time

He won’t be able to hold you accountable for work unless you ask him for help because he's caught up in his own work

Overstimulated? Itadori is reliable and can take you elsewhere to chill. Understimulated? He is there to help you spend your energy ! Loves it! Vibes with you on every level!

Joins in on word vomits and/or is keen to learn, asking lots of questions! He can easily and happily keep up with you!

He physically drags you to bed if your hyper fixation is eating into cuddling and/or sleeping time

He makes tasks fun so you procrastinate less (you don't stop procrastinating but Itadori will do the task with you, which is fun !!)

RSD who? We all know Itadori is a literal ray of sunshine and could never say no to you !

But if you do feel rejected, he is super reassuring with hugs, kisses and lots of reasons he loves you

If you tell him to let you know if you're being too much or too clingy or sensitive, his response is "no?? it's fine?? i didn't notice?? hugs please??"

RYOMEN SUKUNA:

What is ADHD?

Knows exactly zero, and he honestly doesn't care?

He looks at you weirdly if you start Doing Things when you're understimulated, but won't say anything otherwise

But if you're overstimulated, will yank you into his domain 

He learned this trick when you were one day getting stressed and panicking from everything being overwhelming, and he pulled you into his domain in a moment of protectiveness, and he noticed you stopped panicking. When you were overstimulated again, he did it again and it still worked.

He had to learn to just shut up instead of bombarding you with questions about what and why you're behaving this way [when you’re overstimulated]

He will drag you away from a hyperfixation if it bothers him even in the slightest

Sukuna doesn't remember every detail of when you need to be up for 9am, but remembers the Big Ones so will be strict on your bedtime

He is confused why you Never Learn Your Lesson on staying up late or hyperfixating or being late/ridiculously early, but he supposes it's your personality

Your procrastination is what annoys him the most- he does and will vocalise this

RSD goes both ways with him- he's blunt so is clear, but is also generally harsh. He doesn't apologise but will try and detract your mind from what he said with physical affection

He often says he hates your endless chatter, but is a classic case of: He Actually Misses Your Chatter When It’s Silent

SATORU GOJO:

Gojo knows of ADHD, and he might look up ADHD, but he generally goes off Vibes Only

He provides reminders of tasks due if he remembers

In high school would remind you of your homework so he can copy it

Punctuality: zero, unless you're the early type, in which case Gojo tries his best to meet your early-ness, but is kinda slow, so you end up bang on time (and very stressed, but Gojo Deals With That)

Understimulated? Please, by all means, kidnap him to go do something more fun! What a shame, he can't do his work now ! Overstimulated? He will take you somewhere quiet, if it's by teleporting or into his domain

He may accidentally reject you (implicitly and very rarely explicitly if you ever do argue), but feels incredibly guilty afterwards and cuddles and kisses you lots to make up for it

Like Yuuji, if you tell Gojo to tell you if you get too stifling, he says he doesn't care (though he may implicitly reject you when he feels it is low-key stifling, but he won't say it because he doesn't want to hurt you)

Gojo is always up late anyway, so disaster sleep schedule duo yay ! But Gojo loves how you both have similar sleep patterns because weekend afternoons waking up together is the best

He will probably procrastinate with you, but will also try to make your task more appealing to do- which ends up his procrastination

Gojo is messy so he can't really get annoyed at you for being messy, but quietly hopes you'll have a cleaning hyperfixation soon

He will partake in your hyperfixation if you allow him to ! Loves how you try so many new things ! Equally loves you going around the same hyperfixations because he likes to guess what it is next !

He finds your word vomits so interesting! He loves it!

KENTO NANAMI:

He knows of ADHD and looks it up and learns for you xoxo

He does not mind at all if you're early, but if you usually run late, he will fix that for you as best he can

But if you stayed up late, then he might try and let you sleep in...

He generally doesn't like you working late, but it happens- though he is firm when you have early morning next day

Absolutely loves when you fidget with his hands or hair or tie !!

If you hyperfixate, he will quietly work alongside you and gently pry you away when needed

Nanami is super tidy, so isn't bothered if he cleans up after you on the spot, but if he's gone for a while and returns to a huge pile, he does occasionally sigh

Understimulated? Can provide entertainment, but he usually will not partake. Overstimulated? Deals with it calmly.

Your word vomits are soothing to his soul

You Cannot Procrastinate. Nanami cooks and cleans so there's slightly less tasks for you to procrastinate your task with. He will often try and work alongside you to keep you on task.

Like Sukuna, Nanami is clear, but when you spiral he is there to reassure you calmly and clearly. He is usually too select with his words to actually say anything that may seem like rejection.

[neurodivergientqueerthoughts]

Introduction

Have you been wondering what ADHD is really like? This will not be biased towards one minority of people who have ADHD. It will be focused on the big picture.

This document will explain the seriousness of ADHD and everything that may come with it. Make sure to do more research into ADHD, as I am not an expert (although I, myself, have ADHD). In this, I go into detail about different aspects of ADHD and why it should not be taken lightly.

What is ADHD?

(Note: Not everyone with ADHD has these symptoms. They can vary from person to person.)

Constant activity going on internally (Hyperactivity)

Hyperfixations

Hyperfocusing

Depression (Co-occurring)

Anxiety (Co-occurring)

Sensory Processing Disorder

Executive Dysfunction

Auditory Processing Disorder (Co-occurring)

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

Insomnia / Sleep issues

Inability to focus

Difficulty switching tasks

Inability to stick to one task

Mood swings

Difficulty regulating emotions

Choice paralysis

Problems with focusing

Poor impulse control

Trouble recalling things, such as commonly used words

Exhaustion levels

Imposter syndrome

Overwhelm

Overstimulation / Sensory Overload

Understimulation

Memory issues

Motivation issues

Time blindness

Poor sense of time

Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome (Co-occurring)

Extreme boredom

Going into Detail

Executive Dysfunction/ADHD Paralysis:

A feeling of constantly ‘waiting for something’, without knowing what or why.

Confusion as to how to start or do a task.

A feeling of being completely overwhelmed, even by mundane tasks, to a point of being unable to do the task or function.

A very good description of how this can feel is “a fuzzy-restless feeling when you need to do something but your brain won’t focus on anything… you’re silently begging yourself to just do one thing but instead you’re [sitting there] even though you don’t even want to be. It’s like your head is filled with heavy electric cotton… you’re both uncomfortable and unable to stop.”

This is not the same thing as procrastination or laziness. This occurs with tasks that the person is afraid to do, does not want to do, or even wants to do. Laziness means that a person does not feel like doing something, but they could if they wanted to. Executive dysfunction/ADHD paralysis can be described as something a person has been trying to do for [insert amount of time between minutes and months/years], but they physically cannot do the task and end up feeling like a failure because of that. It is debilitating.

Hyperfixation/Hyperfocus:

An extreme obsession over something. This can be creating something, finding out everything about something, or just something that creates extreme emotions in somebody.

This obsession can easily become unhealthy as the person may forget to take care of themselves due to it. However, these hyperfixations cause extreme joy or curiosity in the person.

Difficulty switching tasks:

“When you have ADHD, task switching can often be difficult. You might feel like you're stuck in a gear. It might be you're trying to start, and your gears just keep on grinding. Other times you may want to stop but the gear just stays in place because you're hyper-focusing on whatever you're doing.”

Inability to stick to one task:

People with ADHD often have issues with motivation, which leads to many unfinished projects.

If a task does not give a person with ADHD dopamine, they are often unable to complete the task (i.e. homework; chores).

Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome:

Instead of having a regular circadian rhythm, with sleeping hours from 11 pm to 7 am, people have an irregular pattern of 2 am to about 10 am.

These times are flexible. However, this means that people with ADHD tend to have issues with falling asleep at a “normal time”.

Extreme boredom:

People with ADHD have issues with dopamine and serotonin.

There are moments when boredom can be painful. People with ADHD can be bored to tears due to extreme emotions and a lack of dopamine.

Time Processing:

If somebody has to leave at 8 am and they wake up at 5:30, they will think that they have two hours or less to get ready. Time seems to pass without a pattern or rhythm.

“Today is Monday, but tomorrow is Tuesday and I have class. After that is Wednesday: I’m having lunch with my mom. Then on Thursday, I have a night class which means it’s basically already Friday and this week is already over.”

Time Blindness:

Not knowing how much time has passed based on their ‘internal clock’; they don’t have one!

Being completely unaware of how much time something will take.

Memory issues:

With ADHD, memory can be greatly affected. Some things will be forgotten very quickly, and some things can be over-remembered.

Difficulty regulating emotions:

“Processing emotions starts in the brain. Sometimes the working memory impairments of ADHD allow a momentary emotion to become too strong, flooding the brain with one intense emotion.” -Thomas Brown, PhD

Brain imaging shows that delayed rewards don’t register for people with ADHD. They are more motivated by the instant gratification that strong emotions deliver.

As a result, a person with ADHD may struggle to deal rationally and realistically with events that are stressful, but not of grave concern.

Motivation issues:

People with ADHD have much lower levels of dopamine than those without ADHD. This causes the brain to constantly crave dopamine.

If a task is not providing the dopamine the brain wants, it will make a person with ADHD less motivated to complete the task, or even start it.

Overstimulation / Sensory Overload:

Information reaching the senses feels like an assault of competing stimuli.

Understimulation:

Outside stimuli are dulled, as if a shade has been pulled over the environment, muting sights, sounds, and touch. These people crave extra stimulation to feel alive.

Exhaustion levels:

Feeling fatigued and tired all the time can actually be related to ADHD. Due to low dopamine levels, people with ADHD can feel exhausted even after getting ample amounts of sleep.

Ironically, people can get bursts of energy from ADHD as well. This can be from hyperactivity or high amounts of dopamine.

Imposter Syndrome:

Feeling like a fraud and doubting your own abilities.

Somebody who is intelligent and who has ADHD can have imposter syndrome towards both. They are not related to each other, but the ways they are portrayed in media causes imposter syndrome.

Auditory Processing Disorder:

Things can take longer to process when somebody hears them than when they see/read them.

The amount or complexity of noise around somebody can affect how they hear things.

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria:

Extreme anxiety towards being criticized or rejected by others, despite their relationship with the person.

Extreme pain or emotional sensitivity is caused by a sense of ‘rejection’.

Hyperactivity:

This is not always visible, if at all. There is constant activity going on inside of a person’s head when they have ADHD.

This creates difficulty with sleep and relaxation.

If visible, it usually takes the form of fidgeting or stimming.

“Dealing” with ADHD

ADHD cannot be fixed, but some things can help people work with it. The coping mechanisms vary from person to person, and they aren’t always going to work. Getting diagnosed with ADHD is the best step to take before anything else, as trained professionals can help with ADHD symptoms.

It is important to understand that ADHD is a learning and doing disability. It affects every aspect of life, but it isn’t a bad thing! Many things with ADHD can be positive as well. Hyperfocusing can lead to a lot of productivity! Additionally, people with ADHD are known to be more creative and inventive (according to numerous studies). Empathy and compassion are higher in individuals with ADHD. People with ADHD even have a stronger moral compass!

[sadaveniren]

I read some opinions here about how Harry and Louis are not together mostly because they have different values and they’re so different and that’s a thing I don’t personally agree with because I feel like I’ve seen them say the same thing about very important things in their lives and about their values and i just think that it doesn’t matter if Louis likes trash tv and Harry likes working out (examples all love to use to prove they’re so different) I just think that if your core values are still the same it doesn’t matter right

Things me and my husband (my soulmate, my business partner, my best friend, we’ve been together for … fuck i don’t even know at this point. It’s been over half our lives) don’t agree on/don’t share interests in:

- The MCU (I’m a Cap fan, my husband hates Cap with every fiber of his being)

- Shitty B movies on Netflix (my husband will see a movie on Netflix with 2.5 stars shot on a shitty camcorder and immediately turn it on so he can mystery science theater that bitch while I would rather die than waste time of BAD MEDIA)

- God (he’s an atheist, on my worst days I’m agnostic)

- whether or not Sherlock and Watson are lovers or not (me: yes him: Sherlock is an ace - possibly trans - man who finds relationships understimulating he would NEVER fall in love - and especially not with WATSON)

Things we agree on:

- our daughter is always top priority in every decision we make, both individually and as a couple

- if we can help someone in any way it is our duty as members of society and of the community to help, whether that means giving money, cooking food, providing transportation, offering a safe place to stay etc.

- if you allow one nazi (or racist, or misogynist, or homophobe, or other bigot) at the table, you have a table full of nazis etc.

- animorphs is the best YA series of all time and you cannot read the series without being radicalized (affectionate)

Notice how the ones we don’t agree on don’t weigh nearly as heavily as the things we do agree on? Who cares if my husband is never going to watch Winter Soldier even though it was my hyperfixation for 18ish months, or that I refused to learn how Yugioh worked despite it being my husband’s livelihood for the first half decade of our relationship. At the end of the day it matters more that A. We both let each other enjoy our own interests without genuine derision and B. We trust each other to always be on the same page when it comes to our end goals. Arguments and disagreements are much easier to navigate when we both know that we want the same outcome, we just don’t agree on how to get there.

Relationships aren’t about two people who are carbon copies of each other being together. Relationships involve people working towards a common goal, where that common goal ultimately helps the betterment of the people in the relationship. And this is true for all relationships, not just romantic ones! And when it comes to HL they talk A LOT about similar core values. They talk the same way when they see the future. What their end goal is for themselves and what makes them feel satisfied in their lives. It’s the kind of similar that really makes you go “they’ve talked with each other about this”. Louis says he doesn’t go to therapy but he talks like someone who has. Harry’s open about going to therapy. There’s a good chance that Louis soaks up a lot of what Harry talks about in his therapy sessions, or the therapy influences how their conversations have gone. Which is only normal.

[mental-health-advice]

What should I do when I feel understimulated and restless? I feel chronically bored and lonely. I try to reach out to friends but it's so hard to organise a day to catch up with them because everyone's schedule is different. I see one friend more than others but even when I hang out with her I feel emotionally detached. It feels like the same conversations over again. Like I am just living the same days on repeat. I hate this feeling. Even sometimes, I try new things and still feel empty.

Hey there,

It can be really hard when our schedules are so different to that of our friends, but there are some things you could possibly do to still keep in touch or reach out to them even if you cannot always catch up with them in a face-to-face context. For example, things such as texting or emailing or using other social media platforms can be ways to stay in contact with others. I know it’s not the same as face-to face communication but on the plus side it does give you and your friends the opportunity to reply when they have some free time and are not so busy with their own things. In regards to feeling emotionally detached though, can you bring this up with your friends and maybe even have more meaningful conversations with them? Like perhaps, speaking about what you are both passionate about, ask questions to find out more about them or even things like what your goals are for 2023 – as it is the new year and all! This can be really good to feel more involved in conversations instead of the same old conversations of asking how each of you are. Don’t get me wrong though, asking how others are is important, but after doing this try to expand the conversation out to other things, things that you haven’t previously spoken about if at all possible.

In regards to what you could do when you are feeling under stimulated or restless, have you tried to keep yourself busy with things such as fidget toys? These can be really useful and especially when you are feeling restless or need to focus on something other than what is going on at the time. More specifically though, is it possible for you to do short courses online of things that interest you? This can help to challenge you and especially if you are feeling bored or feel like the days are on repeat.

I myself have started doing short courses online and am finding it really good as it gets me out of my own head, gives me something else to focus on and also allows me to learn new things that I otherwise would never have known!

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren  

[scribbling-dragon]

Can we have some notes about characters about Jimmy, Scott and Joel? Maybe Pix too if you have any because i really like the vigilante au

Yes! Of course! I'm loving all these asks about my au!!

Jimmy (these are all his notes, excluding the flower husband ones i posted earlier!):

He knocks basically everything over with his tail. It wags when he gets happy, and he doesn't bother to control it as he’s never been asked to. It’s endearing, if not a little annoying, and most of the school are friends with Jimmy anyway so they don't mind.

He likes to go swimming in the lake by their school. It’s like a induction ritual for y7s to be pulled into the depths of the water by aquatic hybrids, though Jimmy is more so there to make sure no one actually drowns (if you can breathe underwater I'm sure you'd forget how long normal people could breathe for too)

Him and Lizzie are biological siblings. No one really knows why she’s an axolotl and he’s a cod. They don't ask though.

He’s basically a jock. He takes PE for god’s sake

He only lives with his mother. They don't talk about his father.

He’s really good friends with Joel, despite him benign a year older, and they're basically brothers at this point. Lizzie likes to joke that Jimmy would end up dating Joel if she wasn't, and revels in the disgust it gets from both of them in response.

He’s a massive social butterfly, but once his social battery is drained he’s unbearable to be around. All he wants to do is sleep/sit in silence and do something on his own (which Scott is perfectly happy to accommodate.)

He likes to do his homework with others around, meaning he either does it in the study centre or at home in his and Lizzie’s shared ‘office’.

Scott (same as Jimmy's with the FH stuff):

He’s the younger of the two twins, but everyone assumes he’s the older one.

Xornoth gave him one of their favourite gemstones once, and he’s worn it on a chain around his neck ever since. He only ever takes it off when he goes out vigilante-ing because he couldn't bear to lose it.

He tugs on his hair and feathers when nervous.

He also presses his fingertips together when understimulated for pressure stims.

Wears glasses, but very rarely because he's wearing contacts most of the time. (He’s short-sighted)

He’s trans. Lots of spots on his wings.

He only moves his tail while walking, mainly because his parents yelled at him when he was a child for knocking things over with it. This only makes him empathise/hate JImmy more from their first real encounter because of how he knocked the items over and didn't get yelled at.

His eyes are the most expressive part of his face other than his ears. Though his ears only do small twitches every now and again.

His hair is naturally white. But he dyes it cyan, because he and Xornoth did each others hair when they were younger to piss of their parents (it’s not like they're there to see it though)

He ties his hair up when they do lab practicals, and he knows it makes Jimmy go all blushy and stuttery, and finds it incredibly amusing.

He was a theatre kid, but did lighting etc instead, and sang the songs backstage because he was too anxious to actually audition in case he got rejected.

Rejection sensitive dysphoria.

He occasionally finds feathers in his hair, and some he leaves in, if they aren't visible, but he removes all the other ones.

He has Urith, and he loves her with all of his heart, even if she has a tendency to attack people that aren't him or Xornoth

He loves birds, all kinds, and he rescues them and helps rehabilitate them before releasing them. He only didn't release Urith because she wouldn't last in the wild, as they had her since she was a chick.

Joel:

He spends most of his time with Lizzie, and he doesn't live with his parents, instead living in their house with her, Jimmy and their mother

He makes pots and plates etc. some of which he gives to Lizzie’s mother for her to use, and others he sells to help her mother with the extra person.

He’s very friendly, but he gives off slightly insane (affectionate) vibes, so a lot of people steer very clear of him.

They're not wrong, and he does give off those vibes. He also understands why that puts people off but doesn't want to change it for anybody.

He once wore a crown (proper gold and gemstones) to school for a week once, because he lost a bet with Pixl. They don't talk about it.

His art teachers are just like, wow, he is in love with this girl, after he hands in another piece of coursework, and it's just Lizzie again, in another pose, maybe sat at a window, or doing homework

HIs sketchbooks are basically just filled with sketches and doodles of his friends/people in his classes. He likes to do it, because it allows him to draw a wide variety of people. Barely anyone gets to actually see them because of how protective of his sketchbook he is.

He normally sits in Jimmy and Lizzie’s office, but sometimes they both kick him out (which they have to vote on) because he normally completely derails whatever they're trying to do with some batshit insane idea/something he said that makes them both internally go, what the fuck.

Him and Lizzie went to the same primary school (ages 5-10) and they would always have those pretend marriages you did. They were also always the mum/dad when they played families.

Him and Lizzie will sometimes play a game together when they're bored/sat in a cafe of some kind, and will talk about the women that pass them (in an admiring way not an objectification way), and will often compliment them on their outfit if they're within hearing range

Pixl:

He’s also in Jimmy’s Biology class, and had saved a seat for him, but watched as he crashed through the door, sat next to his crush of several years, and decided to let fate run its course.

It does, however, mean he gets the absolute joy of watching Jimmy and Scott from across the classroom as they argue over what to do next. It’s especially funny to him when they have an instruction sheet in front of them they both of them have very obviously not read correctly.

He helps Jimmy with his coursework when he asks, and will happily sit there and let Jimmy rant about Scott for several hours. He pretends not to notice the way it devolves into ranting about how pretty Scott is (he also pretends not to notice how Jimmy gets increasingly quicker at jumping to that topic rather than staying annoyed with him)

He is the dad friend. He carries around paracetamol and stuff for his friends, and everyone goes to him for advice.

All of his teachers adore him, he’s their star pupil and they will happily ignore him making very rude gestures at people across the classroom when he thinks they're not looking.

He’s also very protective of Jimmy when they're out vigilante-ing, mainly because of how others will pick on him because they perceive him as weak for using a fishing spear rather than whatever powers he has.

Those same people learned very very quickly that Pixl is incredibly good at aiming lighting and he can aim it at the ground just in front of their feet without hitting them

He’s a little shit, but the teachers like him so he gets away with it. They want him to be Head Boy next year.

[introvert-celeste]

Jasper headcanons bc I've thinking about this all day:

1) You'd think she's an extrovert based on the way she acts, but she's actually quite introverted. Social situations are overstimulating to her--esp the mushy-touchy-feely type you get from Steven and the CGs--and her immediate response is aggression.

2) The only social situation she really enjoys is sparring but most gems aren't willing or able to spar with her, so she ends a lot of pent up energy that she doesn't get to release until it's spilling over.

3)She's basically in a constant state of overstimulated and understimulated, to the point where she's always lashing out in frustration. That's why she seemed almost happy to have found a worthy opponent in Steven, as unhealthy as their dynamic was.

4) In general, Jasper has very specific needs that haven't been met and boundaries that aren't easily respected by the gems at Little Homeworld. She's been been through a war, lost her Diamond, separated from the closest beings to family for who knows how long, idolized and feared by those beneath her, (probably) hated by her equals, and pressured by her superiors. She's been poorly socialized throughout her life, to day the least.

5) If she can't have someone who can match her physically, she needs someone who will respect her boundaries. Luckily, she manages to find both in Bismuth, who matches her in strength, pushes her buttons in just the right way to make their sparring a satisfying experience, and backs off when Jasper's had enough. She responds best frank, blunt conversation and smack talk, which is Bismuth's specialty.

6) Amethyst was the only gem to really go and check on her after the whole Steven situation. She was resistant at first, but she has begun to realize how alone she really was after Steven essentially abandoned her. So, she started to accept Ame's attention and eventually regarded her as a sister. She still isn't at all affectionate, but they spend a lot of time together nonetheless.

7) Skinny and Carnelian were the absolute closest things to family Jasper ever had prior to Amethyst and they were the first gems she ever cared about, before the gems in charge filled her head with their own prejudices. She actually wasn't a piece of shit in the beginning and openly cared about them, but the war changed her. This drove a rift between them that Ame encouraged them to bridge, now that Jasper was a little more approachable. Now they're closer than ever and they tease Jasper relentlessly to keep her humble. She tolerates it because she missed them.

Okay enough of the deep shit, here's some fun headcanons:

1) Amethyst starts a club/hang out spot of sorts for quartzes and other ex-soldiers to hang, spar, and generally let loose. Sometimes (often) it gets a little too rowdy and it's difficult to break it up. She invites Jasper in to check the place or and maybe make friends. Jasper surprisingly shows up and is an amazing deterrent. One look from her is sobering enough to stop the rowdiest gems. That's how she became an unofficial bouncer.

2) She and Amethyst eventually started an underground gem wrestling tournament by accident as the new and improved "Purple Puma" and "Tiger Millionaire" (with Steven's blessing). She thought a millionaire was too weak and a philanthropist was too sappy ( once she learned what those were) and became "Tiger Shark" instead (still maintaining the business gimmick, like an investor, but she also has sweet fucking serrated teeth).

3) When the Betas heard Amethyst calling her "Sis" they immediately started calling her that, too, much to Jasper's irritation. That didn't last long, however, bc once they heard about her wrestling persona, "Tiger" was just too good a name to pass up.

4) Skinny pinches Jasper's gem nose and shakes it gently (in the same way you would pinch someone's cheek) as an affectionate gesture. She's literally the only gem allowed to do this to her, although she acts like she doesn't like it.

5) Bismuth likes Jasper but has an ongoing feud with her over Jasper's complete disregard for other's property. When asked why she does this, Jasper shrugs and punches a hole through another wall. What wacky and destructive thing will she do next? No one knows.

6) Bismuth also enlists her for some heavy work gathering resources for some building projects, along with some other heavy lifters. Freckles--or "Nice Lapis"-- is over of the gems on this team. The others, having heard vague rumors about the Malachite situation, were a bit weary of these two being around each other, but they hit it off surprisingly well. They don't hang out at all otherwise, but they like to team up on the job.