#horse autism maybe ADHD okay?

[0luna123]

Another W for Dungeon Meshi: A well animated horse and no unnecessary nickers and neighs

[the-owl-house-takes]

I absolutely hate the argument that Luz can be excused for her actions and people have no right to dislike her just because she’s neurodivergent. I struggled immensely in school both academically and socially in large to my own “neurodivergence”-can I just say I hate that word-but I was never so stupid as to think about bringing live animals and fireworks inside my school. The fact that Luz, the 14-year-old daughter of a veterinarian, saw a bunch of living, breathing animals and thought-‘yeah, I’m gonna use those as props! My book report is gonna be so cool! I surely can’t just use rubber snakes!’ Which probably why they were so damn aggressive! Because snakes only really bite and attack when they’re threatened, or stressed, or pissed off! Which really does not paint Luz as being a very caring or thoughtful person!

“But that’s the point! She needs to get better and she does!”-No she absolutely fucking does not. Instead of realizing that she can’t just run away and live in fantasy-land, the show again and again reaffirms that Luz can do no wrong, everybody else never should’ve felt angry about her reckless idiocy-because that’s what it is, idiocy-she gets to live out her little fantasy world and do whatever she wants. The way the show acts like the principal giving the summer camp pamphlet was some horrible evil thing, how could anyone do that? B I T CH LUZ IS FUCKING LUCKY that she weren’t expelled or arrested! She brought EXPLOSIVES WITH THE INTENT OF SETTING THEM OFF INSIDE A SCHOOL BUILDING. In an area of mass shoring fears and schools prohibiting anything can looks like or emulates(even if it is just a foam sword or something), Luz really should’ve just taken two seconds to think to at least leave the fireworks. Course at 14 I would think that a person who have the common sense for that to never be a thought.

And no, “neurodivergence” is not an excuse. It pains me when characters in media doing stupid shit and senseless(especially when it gets on the audience’s nerves) gets pinned on having autism or ADHD like it makes it okay, and that the character can’t be blamed or held accountable for it. Why do people hold those with these conditions to such low standards? When this happens, it feels like people are saying, “Yeah, this could’ve easily caused grievous bodily harm or death but they’ve got anxiety and autism, so we can’t be mad, they couldn’t possibly know better because they’re simply not on our level, they’re too stupid to understand!” Hell no. Stop giving excuses! The “I’m literally neurodivergent and a minor” attitude does not work in court!

And maybe if they understood this and actually challenged Luz on being very episodic on learning her lessons and that she did in fact run away to avoid consequences of her actions and reality won’t bend to her interests and she can’t treat everything like it’s a fanfiction instead of beating the dead horse with another dead horse about how Luz ““““helped”””” Belos when all she did was teach him one glyph and got used as bait by someone who she KNOWS tricked her. By that logic Lilith is just as responsible for Belos meeting the Collector as Luz is. Yeah she’s 14 but did it really have to stretch through the entirety of season 3?

Because season 3 is where I officially knew that Luz hadn’t learned a thing. The way the show frames the art teacher giving Luz the side eye like it’s wrong for her to distrust the kid who used the art supplies-that she probably paid out of pocket for-to infest the school with spiders and snakes and then would’ve blown it up if she hadn’t gotten sent to the principal’s office is so out of pocket. She has every right to view Luz with suspicion! People don’t tend to like others who make a mess in their areas with their stuff, shocker. I’ve already said a bit about the summer camp thing, but seriously, a summer camp that teaches teens about mortgages, how to manage a bank account and checkbook, do taxes, etc is literally the best thing Luz could’ve gotten out of that situation. She would’ve learned something many people complain wasn’t taught to them at a young age AND would’ve met people who she could easily befriended. Yeah, it’s boring and Luz probably would’ve checked out of the situation but it’s better than juvie! Also boring stuff is apart of life, it’s part of the way we can live the way we do because everything is easier said than done. Also with Camila, it’s a dumb retcon to have her not understand anime or Luz’s interests in Season 1 and 2 but a secret nerd who just got put down by the man in season 3. Like, Camila had to make a change with Luz, because 14 is not far from 18, and if Luz did do something stupid that ended up being a crime, she could very well be charged as an adult.

Then the whole ‘I just wanna be understood!’ Luz, honey, you’ve been surrounded by people who understand you and don’t get mad when you mess up, even if it’s spectacularly. Your girlfriend literally immediately told you she essentially wanted to spend the rest of her life by your side right after you got revealed as a liar which you promised you wouldn’t do anymore. Your best buds have always been on your side even when you’ve gone behind their backs. Your mom was sending you to that camp bc she had too, even though she originally believed it would expose you to kids with similar interests that could be befriended. And again, her hands were tied, because you were being reckless to the point of danger. But oh wait, it’s all okay now because you’re ‘understood’.

Not finding that happy balance where you can express yourself but not act like an idiot or endanger yourself and others, just some vague ‘understanding’ by an anonymous ‘them’. Do you mean everyone, all the time has to understand you the way Camila, Eda, King, Willow, Gus, Amity and Hunter do? Because that’s not how real life works.

And this isn’t a character hate-though I do hate the way Luz was finished-this is on the writers for not going through with the themes of Fantasy Vs. Reality they had going that could’ve taught Luz that balance and management; which in my personal opinion, would’ve been a better arc for a person with ADHD.

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[yomama-21]

Okay like bare with me. Here are my John Marston Headcanons for a Normal AU (Part 1)

Starting off strong with ✨autism✨

He’s so autism coded it’s not even funny. Maybe can agree on him just being ADHD, but what grown man acts like that

Makes jokes at the most INAPPROPRIATE times (I mean he literally does this in game it’s canon). Grandma died? Welp, she must’ve seen Micah— that finished her off.

This man freaking loved legos as a kid. Probably didn’t know what to do with em, but he just looks like the type to try and build the tallest houses or the fattest walls. 100% just decided to step on them on purpose one day

Drives a Harley that he named Rachel (yes after his horse in RDR2:E) It’s probably been so well loved by him it’s in the shop more often than not but hey he has that thing.

Would’ve totally got those dumbass helmets with the horns on them but nobody else thought they were cool

Leather and tight jeans kind of man. He was an emo, what can I say? Plus he’s a SLUT-

Like that one quote: Tight jeans, loose morals.

Ironically calls himself baby girl for shits and giggles (he barely knows how to use that term properly)

Rock, emo, metal, country dabbled in between and you got yourself a Marston approved playlist (dude is literally in a zombie game, that’s metal)

Still rides horses like a champ, but he’s not as good at competing as Arthur. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t have his own trophy set!

Has questionable hygiene, but in a sexy grungy way

He’s got a biker’s tan HAHA

[fablepaint]

First off, congratulations on your help with Lackadaisy!✨️✨️✨️

Second, I've been practicing with the Lackadaisy style using nothing but traditional art (paper and colored pencils), and I'm nervous about using digital art for the first time😓

I've been procrastinating with practicing digital art for years, and now I'm ready to get started!✨️✨️✨️

Got any helpful tips or advice for drawing Lackadaisy characters with digital art?🤔

Also, I have ADHD and I'm Autistic so trying new things takes time with me😅

Well the nice thing about ADHD and Autism is when you get into something, you get REALLY into something. So if you are able to build a routine that allows you the freedom to explore the medium you want to jump into, then you'll steamroll ahead. If you're finding it hard to kick off that fixation so you can focus easier, try to pair it up with an existing fixation. Are you into every kind of horse? Okay then, draw an example of every warmblood, coldblood, and hotblood you can think of. Every pony, every donkey, every mule. Find some good photos and go to town. Piggy-backing off my existing fixations is how I can chain together a lot of information that I would otherwise struggle to absorb and recall fully.

As for helpful tips, you're already doing it. I think starting with traditional materials is a good way to build up good art habits without the convenience of infinite colors and the undo button. You'll make quicker decisions and be a little less precious about mistakes. Cuz you have to live with them IRL, so might as well keep going even if the work didn't turn out great. Maybe you'll learn something along the way?

A second tip, more specific to Lackadaisy, is breaking characters down into simpler shapes and seeing if you can build them back up again. Feel free to trace them to turn them into mannequins. Then, knowing the proportions of those mannequins, can you draw them doing other things?

And research. Tracy deep-dives into historical stuff like clothing, hairdos, jobs, jewelry, etc. If you immerse yourself in something you find interesting, you'll see it cropping up in your work occasionally. Look into art deco and art nouveau, two schools of design thought that have a thread running between them that goes solidly through the 1920s. Consider how that design philosophy might get integrated into clothing or furniture.

Other than that, digital specific? There's isn't much, just have fun with what program feels good to use. Don't go too nuts on color (you have a million colors, but a million colors does not a good painting make) and make sure the ergonomics of your digital art situation doesn't hurt you longterm. Take breaks for your hands and stretch. It's more strenuous than traditional. Maybe it's the lack of physical feedback or the way we tend to curl around our devices. Not sure, but I find it more draining than trad work.

[lifmera]

Hey so I saw your requests were open and was wondering if I could get matchups for hazbin hotel, helluva boss, and Mystic Messenger please? I'm a trans guy (he/they pronouns), I'm open to any gender with a small preference to girls. Also for the more important and major things about be (at least in my opinion) I have autism, probably adhd (have a history of it in the family as well showing a bunch of signs), depersion, and major anxiety.

So some things about me uh I'm pretty creative, I mainly focus on drawing and writing though I do like acting from time to time as well I've tried writing song lyrics before. I can be pretty sarcastic and I can be jokingly mean but I still try to to be as kind as possible and make sure that my friends are happy and okay. I have a pretty massive sailor mouth and I make a bunch of sus jokes as well. I'm pretty nervous at first not really talking but once I get to know someone I become very loud and talk a lot. I jump around with different interests a lot like for months I'll have one main thing I'll be into with small maybe a week long other things then something new comes and the cycle repeats. While I do identify as a guy I still dress pretty femininity, wearing skirts and dresses because I like to be a pretty guy thank you very much.

I hope this is enough and that you have an amazing day/night!

HEY I THINK I JUST RESPONDED TO YOUR THING!!

I’ve decided to pair you with… 707, BLITZO, & ANGEL DUST

He’d enjoy whatever you did! Most of the time he’s busy so knowing you are nearby drawing he’d be happy.

I think he’d start cursing cus of you LOL. But he’d also join in on the jokes.

He doesn’t mind the switches, he’ll listen to anything.

He’d probably dress up in dresses and skirts with you, let’s be real, all of them would . 😭

Teach this poor boy how to draw. He needs to draw his horses :(

Already also curses like a sailor, especially the jokes. You guys would be a dynamic duo that nobody can get rid of !!

He also doesn’t mind, it’s not like he has anything better to do!! He’d probably rant to you about horses though.,.

I mean…. He’d dress in dresses with you to help you feel more confident, and would LOVE dressing up

Are we surprised? no xoxo

HUGE on dressing up. Loves so many outfits, would help you pick new outfits

Love to hear you switch up on topics; it means he won’t get bored!

He doesn’t curse TOO much compared to others, but he will definitely join in on the jokes, and probably feel for you bc of them!!

He wants to learn how to draw fat nuggets.. i can FEEL it….

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HOPE THIS WAS OKAY!

[nickeverdeen]

Hi! This is my first time requesting for anything ever on Tumblr, and I don't know how matchups work exactly, but I made sure to read your rules, so it is totally alright if you ignore this if I mess up or something XD (I'm also sorry if this is too long, I tried to make this as orderly as possible - I have OCD)

To start off, I would like to ask for a Romantic matchup, from MCU, Spider-Man Spiderverse, Hunger Games, and Detroit Become Human. If that is too many than my top two to either choose from are Spiderverse and Hunger Games (trilogy or BOSAS)

I am 23 years old. Bi and Ace. She/Her/Hers. And I am down for either male or female matchups (more into male though).

I am caring, especially for loved ones.

I am incredibly generous! I love buying things for people I care about, (like books, or things custom-made from Etsy.)

I am pretty loud and talkative when with someone I know.

I have ADHD and Autism, so I get distracted easily; sometimes when I talk I just go- Squirrel! Literally Doug from Up.

I hate when things change. Hate when schedules change, plans, or when books turn into movies (depending on the series).

It takes me a bit to get used to people, I am super shy and super awkward. But while I think I am just awkward, I've been told that I am intimidating. Huge RBF.

If someone talks to me first, I will reply, it's just hard to start conversations.

Stubborn, I like being right, and spontaneous.

I am emotional. I have RSD, (Rejection Sensitivity Disorder,) so I always think people dislike me, lol.

I love making sure the people that I am close to are okay.

I am so pretty optimistic, in certain situations.

I also get overwhelmed easily, and need time to cool down, and I like having my alone time, but I crave human interactions...

(I think I should continue with other stuff now, it's already getting long, so I apologize!)

Movies; ANYTHING in the Dreamworks Trolls Universe! I am obsessed with Trolls, it is my hyper fixation/special interest! I know everything about it. The Truman Show, Lord Of The Rings series, The Three Musketeers from 1994, National Treasure, The Barbie Movie, The Muppets, The Hobbit series, The Ash Lad series, and more!

TV; The Good Place, Futurama, Extraordinary Attorney Woo-Young-Woo, and Pride And Prejudice BBC

Books; Pride And Prejudice, anything Jane Austen honestly, Tim Burton, Edgar Allen Poe, William Shakespeare, The Phantom Of The Opera, and more!

My favorite colors; red, pink, and black

I love all animals, even the ugly ones, but I am very scared of horses (bad experience, lol)

Music; JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE and NSYNC, Backstreet Boys, Paris Paloma, Rachel Zegler, Sabrina Carpenter, Chappell Roan, The Trolls soundtrack, Twisters soundtrack, Poets Of The Fall, Snoop Dogg, Glass Animals, Troye Sivan and more! Current fav song is Say My Name from The Beetlejuice Musical (I am always listening to music, always have headphones on.)

This is maybe something to note, Idk, but I am a sometimes a hopeless romantic. I really wish for my life to be a fanfic or movie sometimes...

When someone says a fact, so confident that they are right, but they are not, you know?

People touching my stuff without permish

Noisy people in movie theaters

Loud noises, crowded places, touchy people, gross/rude people, idk

Oh, I also like drawing/painting, I am an artist :)

Thunderstorms, I can sit and watch one for hours, and have

Collecting; Rocks, Trolls merch, action figures, books, Barbies, Kens, pictures, stuffed animals, movies DVDs, music CDs, records, and cassettes

I love reading! SOOOO much! And I love writing too!

Video Games! FNAF, Minecraft, Uncharted 4, Baldur's Gate 3, Still Wakes The Deep, Assassin's Creed: Brotherhood, Mario Kart, and more!

Love Lang - Giving; Gift-giving, acts of service, and words of affirmation

Love Lang - Receiving; Gift-giving, acts of service, words of affirmation, and some physical touch (hand-holding, forehead kisses are to die for, and hugs)

I am so sorry it is so long! You can ignore if this is too overwhelming! Thank you so much for your time! xoxoxo

You did it perfectly, but next time maybe make the letters bigger as I had to put on glasses for this

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Your MCU match is…

Peter Parker 1

Peter would adore your artistic talents, often asking for custom doodles or drawings to hang in his room

He’d join you in your hyperfixations, researching Trolls lore or quoting your favorite songs

Peter would never get tired of listening to your rants or tangents, often chiming in with his own random facts

He’d be amazed by your collection and always try to add unique items to it, like rare action figures or limited-edition Trolls merch

Peter would reassure you during moments of RSD, reminding you how loved and appreciated you are

He’d love playing games like FNAF or Mario Kart with you, often getting overly competitive in the best way

Peter would surprise you with small acts of service, like reorganizing your DVDs or cleaning your art supplies

He’d always remember little details about your favorite movies, songs, and books to bring them up in conversation

He’d hold your hand tightly during crowded places, always making sure you feel safe and comfortable

Your Spider-Man Spiderverse match is…

Miles Morales

Miles would love your hyperfixations, often drawing Trolls characters for you to surprise you

He’d gently help you through moments of overwhelm, offering his quiet company and letting you recharge

Miles would absolutely geek out with you about your favorite movies and soundtracks, always ready to share music recommendations

He’d frequently gift you small trinkets like rocks or keychains he found, knowing how much you love collecting

Miles would admire your artistic talent and sometimes ask for tips to improve his graffiti work

He’d encourage your love of writing, often volunteering to brainstorm plot ideas or just listen to your stories

Miles would always check in to make sure you’re okay, knowing how important emotional safety is to you

He’d hold your hand or give you forehead kisses during thunderstorms while you both watch the rain

Miles would adore your RBF, often joking about how intimidating you look versus how kind you are

He’d get into your favorite games like Minecraft or Mario Kart just to spend more time with you

Your Hunger Games match is…

Peeta Mellark

He’d understand your need for alone time, giving you space but always being ready with a warm hug when you’re ready to reconnect

Peeta would create quiet, romantic moments for you, like watching thunderstorms together or reading side by side

He’d encourage your optimism, reminding you to celebrate your wins and cherish small joys

Peeta would love listening to your music playlists and sometimes hum along to your favorite songs

He’d help you organize your collections, admiring each item and asking about their stories

Peeta would write sweet notes for you, slipping them into your art supplies or books for you to find

He’d always take your side when plans change, helping you adjust and ensuring you feel comfortable

Peeta would adore your hopeless romantic side, often surprising you with heartfelt gestures or recreating movie-like moments

He’d love cuddling during movie nights, always making sure your favorite snacks and DVDs are ready

Your Detroit Become Human match is…

Connor RK800

Connor would meticulously research Trolls to understand your hyperfixation, often surprising you with fun facts or rare merch

He’d create a soothing environment for you during moments of overwhelm, dimming lights and playing calming music

Connor would help you organize your collections with precision, ensuring every item is displayed perfectly

He’d admire your art, often asking for pieces to keep in his workspace as a reminder of you

Connor would encourage your writing, always giving constructive feedback and cheering you on

He’d learn your favorite songs and subtly hum them when he notices you feeling stressed

Connor would protect you in crowded places, always staying close and ensuring your comfort

He’d create a log of all your favorite movies, books, and songs to never forget important details about you

Connor would be endlessly patient with your ADHD and Autism, always adapting to your needs without hesitation

He’d develop a fondness for thunderstorms because of how much you enjoy them, sitting with you for hours to watch the rain

[sunshinexlollipops]

coming onto this post to share tips for fighting isolationism:

you may feel alone but you're not alone. look at the notes on this post, for example. that's how many people feel the same as you. it's easy to feel like a one off, but I promise, your struggles are more universal and human than you may realize. even in struggling w isolationism, you're not alone. ironic, huh?

your brains aren't built for fun, they're here for survival. and funny thing is that our brains often misunderstand their roles and their jobs. our brains are convinced there's dangers in things that really aren't that bad. one thing a therapist told me in IOP was about the classic "what if I do something wrong and I'm thought to be the village fool?" okay, and if you do become the village fool? what truly would happen? nothing. literally nothing. you'd exist as you are now and it wouldn't matter at all. it isn't life-ending like your brain makes it feel.

you have to stop shaming yourself into doing nothing and shutting yourself in. it's easy to put the cart ahead of the horse by saying "oh but if I screw that up, I'd embarrass myself" or "oh I can't go to this event, it'll go poorly and I won't have fun because no one will like me." the reality is: YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN AT ALL. YOU NEVER WILL. you are not precognitive. you're just living in your imagination and bullying yourself into believing your failure is guaranteed before you try or do anything at all. how can you be certain if you're a failure if you've never even given yourself the opportunity to fail?

hot take: failure is okay! you will not cease to exist or end up in jail for life bc of a faux pas or you weren't met w open arms. if anything, it's good it didn't work out bc clearly it wasn't going to work or be good for you long-term. I take it as a sign from the universe if something falls through that it wasn't meant for me and something better and true will fill the vacancy instead. onto the next chapter or opportunity!

this may sound harsh but it's true: people will not like you. there are billions of humans on this planet, thinking every single one will enjoy you or find you acceptable is unrealistic. you yourself have people you've met and instantly haven't vibed with. it's okay. no one on this planet, even people you think can do what you can't, has 100% compatibility w every person and gathering they come across.

try inserting different forms of socialization and community in your life. maybe you need to join a hobby group, an online forum, or even just tell a stranger you like their hair or clothes when they check you out at the store. you aren't given a metric based purely off being the life of a house party or having 1,000 friends on facebook.

FIND EMPATHY AND KINDNESS FOR YOURSELF. firstly, if you take your isolationism in with thoughts of "I'm just broken," "well they were right about me and I'm weird and unlikeable," or "I'll just be better off alone" — you're doing it all out of hate and rejection of yourself. since others didn't give you approval, you refuse to even accept who you are. why are you meeting yourself with such coldness? why are you tearing yourself down and thinking you're better off being removed from the world or even life itself? I'm going to be honest with you... the actual way you will find acceptance in this world? it's if you accept yourself. if you can't even look in the mirror and see the person there is worth loving and knowing, why would you ever try to give the world the same opportunity to discover it feels similarly? the only way to genuinely make a difference is to start loving and embracing yourself first.

please check out rejection sensitivity. various conditions like ADHD or autism can come w this. it's very easy to get lost in the feelings and experience of rejection, and thinking it will define you for the rest of your days. aside from working on your confidence, this may be something to check out and learn about. especially with tips and tricks on how to handle and improve with it.

you're human. you will make mistakes, have slip ups, rebounds/relapses of mental illness, etc. you have to learn that you aren't evil and unlovable because you didn't get something right, or one person has negative thoughts or opinions of you. especially in this day and age when hate and judgement appears to be in surplus. I beg of you to find love, kindness, and understanding. not only for others, but for yourself. and if people don't align with you, then move on and know you will find those that do click w you, and there's always a place for you to fit in. and don't force yourself into conforming into a place that clearly isn't your home, simply so you can avoid finding what really is right for you. you're only so far into your life. there's so many people and years you have left to meet and see through. and you'll be surprised at how different it will be from what you believe and expect now. and isn't that exciting?

[dramaphan]

oh did u mean the ppl trying to diagnose w dnp with various things? bc i saw that and it’s extremely gross lol

I mean exactly that yes

[hellfire-menace]

👉👈Matchup?

I'm nonbinary afab 5'5", chubby, blue eyes, and pale as fuck. I have wavy long colorful hair with a side shaved. poly/pan

My friends say I'm too nice... to a literal fault. I just think I'm very patient and understanding.

Annoying, repetitive jokes and teasing, however, is my love language. I love it when people do it back!

I'm 80% dad jokes, and the definition of beating a dead horse. Don't ask me what time it is unless you are prepared to hear me say "Time to get a watch." Every. Single. Time. My favorite response to get out of this is definitely people wishing me physical harm and mock violence.

I'm very stubborn, and will argue over facts until proven wrong. I don't get sore about being wrong though, I just really enjoy friendly arguments and debates.

I have adhd, ptsd, depression and anxiety disorders. (And maybe autism? But I haven't been tested for that one.) I'm frequently forgetful, and easily distracted. I'll probably ask for things to be repeated a ton because I have auditory processing issues and I also don't pick up on subtlety or social cues so I'll ask for clarification a bunch as well. So I need a lot of patience from my S.O's

I love suggles! I will want to cuddle and pet and hug a lot. I crave physical affection from friends, family and significant others 24/7.

I'm a creative soul and I love people taking the time to make things with me. Or even make things for me! Handmade gifts are best gifts.<3

I love listening to people ramble. When someone goes on and on about someone or something they're passionate about, I just love it!

and I'm drawn to chaotic energy.

Sorry for the wait! Hope you enjoy this!

I think a good match for you would be . . .

BlackLight!

Of course an aged up version if you're an adult

He finds your hair really cool! Also He's okay with you being nonbinary and respects your pronouns

He likes that you're nice, but he will probably get annoyed by your jokes sometimes

He does want to be right in arguments, so yeah, he doesn't want you to be mad at him because of those, so if anything goes a bit too much on his side he will apologize

He Has a "mother" with depression, ptsd and anxiety, so he knows how to deal with most of the problems you may have with those disorders

He's organized, so anything you may forget, He's remembering for you and reminding you, He's patient

He doesn't mind you asking for repeating, it's better to repeat than have a misunderstanding

He really loves hugs! He will give you a lot of them

He's an artist, he mostly does scrapbooking, he would love to do something with you and for you

He does ramble a lot, they're mostly vents and rants about stupid situations from the day, but he does ramble about his interests and opinions too

While he isn't chaotic himself, chaotic people are drawn to him, so he Has to deal with that

[kainumbernine009]

I literally cannot do anything else until I get this out.

I’m... really not okay.

And when I say that, I’m not mentally unstable. I say that because I’m tired of waiting on empty promises, I’m tired of never having money in our account, I’m tired of living in a fucking city where half of the white people fucking worship the ground Trump walks on, and where most of the gay community has so much messy drama that it’s worse than middle school. And I went to a rough middle school.

I never talk about my past, because I don’t like to. It sucked. HARD. Being and only child in my family was nothing less than torture, especially as a closeted queer person. We grew up in the white Christian part of Nashville that dominated Music Row in the 90′s and early 2000′s. I played basketball with Alan Jackson’s daughter, and being around famous people was just no big deal. But, my parents decided to leave Nashville after my dad lost his job at TPAC, and we moved down south an hour to the town where the KKK got started (Pulaski, TN).

I had maybe two non-white people in my private Christian school growing up. I was never afraid of Black people, but my parents showed their racist asses quick when we moved there. The KKK has never left America, guys, no matter how many articles you read or studies you do. From 2005 to 2009 I saw a white town show its very worst to the Black community. I’ll never forget the first time I saw a march for “White Christians for Purity” the summer before Obama got elected. The disgust I felt inside was palpable. I had all kinds of friends in school, and I didn’t give TWO SHITS who they were or what they looked like... but I saw children my age, being brainwashed by their parents, that “white” is “right.”

Ever since then, I have been learning and growing about the issues of race. I remember my white classmates using the N word and getting away with it. I remember hearing about the principal at the high school punishing all the Black kids but not the white kids. I remember being invited to a church south of town that was a historically Black church, and how nice the ladies were to me for coming.

But I’ll never forget the racism that the religious groups promoted there, especially First Baptist Church and the 12 Tribes. I’ll never forget how FBC told me that my friend was going to Hell because she killed herself. I’ll never forget my mom telling me not to marry a Black man because of “impure genes.” I WILL NEVER FORGET THE INJUSTICES I SAW WHITE PEOPLE DOING TO BLACK PEOPLE THERE. NEVER.

And thank God, I have shaken the burden of religious guilt, but I still fight against this mentality. I live in a place that’s usually not even 10 minutes away from Trump-humping, sister-fucking, meth-addicted Confederate cunts in any direction. And we’re even closer to the rich white people who silently supported him, upset that their taxes would go up because of Biden.

And in the past four years since Trump got elected, I’ve gotten married, graduated college with honors, started my own photography business, and was making more than my husband there for a minute. I did my own taxes, marketing, editing, and everything. And then I came out as trans.

I lost everything.

I lost my studio. I lost friends. I had rumors started about me. I had people post hate messages on my wall. I had people at my drag shows tell others not to tip me, for whatever fucking reasons. I’ve had bosses give cis people jobs over me, and I’ve had government workers give me second looks when I hand them my license.

It. Fucking. Sucks. To. Live. Here. Like. This.

Oh yeah, did I mention I’m also a witch/medium? I’ve talked to dead people before and have told their relatives things I shouldn’t have known otherwise about their grandparents. Like, this information doesn’t even exist on Google. And I’m attuned to reiki. I’m always aware of what’s happening on at least SOME metaphysical level. This is a gift that I’ve had to go through life developing and learning about myself, with no one’s help but me.

I didn’t even know until I was an adult that I have autism and ADHD.

I’ve taken bullets from people who were about to kill themselves. I’ve yelled at 5th grade music classrooms for doing racist dance moves and appropriating Native Americans (I have a degree in Music Education K-12). I’ve consoled kids in classrooms who suddenly have panic attacks. AND I’ve told horny teenagers to stay in their fucking lane and respect the girls around them. I’ve apparently been an inspiration to those around me, but inspiration NOR exposure pays the bills. I’ve already had COVID, and so has my husband, but I knew that after graduating college that I would never have a fulfilling life being a music teacher in Tennessee’s public schools.

And now that we have COVID, and an orange, small-dicked, pedophilic, rape apologizing, dirty, crusty white president who STILL REFUSES TO CONCEDE, who is DIRECTLY RESPONSIBLE FOR HAVING HIS FOLLOWERS SEND DEATH THREATS TO MY FAMILY, I really don’t know what the fuck else to do other than go burn down all the houses I know of in North Georgia that belong to these Christian sex cult pedophiles and call it a day. My girlfriend unfortunately was born into one of those families, and I know just how bad it can get. In fact, her dad’s lawyer threatened me with blackmail earlier in November, so that was fun!

And now, on December 11, 2020, I’m still sitting here in the same fucking house, doing the same fucking things I’ve been doing all year - trying to get a job and failing horribly. I’M SICK AND TIRED OF THIS COVID BULLSHIT AND OUR INCOMPOTENT CUNT OF A PRESIDENT! And there’s only ever one other person I’ve ever called a cunt... my own mother.

I’ve lived in many places. I’ve met many different people. I’ve made mistakes, and have grown, but there’s one thing for damn sure that I always make sure to do, every single fucking day.

I ALWAYS try to do better.

In addition to this, I treat everyone with the same amount of respect, unless they have done something directly to me to negate that. If I know that someone believes in something that directly harms me or my family, I don’t even associate with them. I don’t spend my energy on things that don’t need it. And everyone else should, too.

The problem with some of y’all is that you care about the wrong things. Like will Becky text me back or did I get front row seats to that concert, or did I slave my life away to capitalism just so that I can own a Mercedes and have my friends jealous. I’ve had way too many dear death experiences to know that EVERY single fucking day is a gift. EVERY day.

I don’t want to be remembered first for the art I create. I want to be remembered for my character. I want to be remembered as the courageous person who never backed down in the face of adversity. But when you live in a place that already hates you and that is against you, that’s really fucking hard. Trust me. My marriage went from a cis straight passing couple to a white gay passing couple. I’ve seen how people’s attitudes changed around me as I transitioned. I know what it feels like to slowly lose a piece of your privilege you were born with.

So yeah, I kinda get a little fucking upset when I see people saying All Lives Matter, or when I see doctors refusing to treat trans patients in pandemics, or when I see cops YET AGAIN harassing Black people only a few blocks away from my house for no other reason than racism. And at this point, anyone who thinks they know me but only knows what people think they know about me can suck my entire ass and eat ten dicks. I don’t give a FUCK about who you are or what you’ve done. If you treat me or other people with no respect for no reason other than to be an asshole, you’re just plain shit. If you SERIOUSLY believe every little rumor and lie that someone tells about me before meeting me, fuck you AND the horse you rode in on.

What I can’t stand is people doing or saying things just to get a rise out of me or others. I thought we left petty shit in high school. Some of the people that “know” me really need to fucking grow up and grow a pair and either say what they want to my face, or stay mad. I’m tired of playing fucking petty games with y’all. We have a whole ass pandemic to solve.

So here’s the ultimatum... if you agree that Black Lives Matter and that queer people deserve basic human rights, EVEN THE ONES YOU HATE, then that’s the bare minimum to even be a decent person. If you can’t even do those things, then I don’t fucking know what else to say to you.

So NBC, maybe not have John Mulaney joke about my license debacle with my gold van on SNL, and Seth Meyers... maybe HIRE ME INSTEAD of Mulaney because clearly y’all don’t know about the south as much as I do? Oh, and that gazeebo joke with Lee University... I caught that. I may have autism, but I’m not a fucking idiot. I mean. I’m funny when I’m given the chance. And yeah, I’m on a watchlist, but who the fuck isn’t these days? At least all my secrets are out for the world to see, and I have a bangin’ tattoo.

I’m tired of everyone being like “omg, I’ve seen what he can do, it’s fantastic!” or “omg you’re so funny haha” and bragging on me and then NOT FUCKING HIRING ME. I’m TIRED of waiting on something that’s clearly at this point never coming.

I don’t even have testicles, and my balls are bigger than most of the cis men I have EVER met.

So, if you want to help me, or hire me, or get me out to an audition... I’ll be there. But until then, I’m so fucking MAD at some of these producers. Yeah, my mom is a cunt, but she worked in various forms of digital production from the 1980′s until she retired this year. She taught me SO MUCH about directing, writing, shooting, and more. I know how these things are supposed to run behind the scenes. I know what the fuck I’m doing, and I don’t take constructive criticism like a bitch. I actually WANT to be criticized, so I can do even better.

So PLEASE, for the love of Christ... y’all need to get your priorities together AND PLEASE STOP LEAVING ME OUT OF THE LOOP WITH THIS BULLSHIT. Grow a fucking pair and either call me, email me, or leave me alone. It’s really not that fucking hard. Looking at you, Lorne Michaels.

Oh and someone tell my husband what the fuck’s been going on because I’m tired of him gaslighting me about it.

[findingyouagain]

hey how about we stop going around calling people “weird” for just being themselves when they’re not doing anything that is harmful or hurtful to others ?? step off your high horses & thinking you’re “so much cooler” bc you don’t like something that’s considered “cringey” or “childish”. stop making fun of others for having very specific interests or a sense of humor that doesn’t fit with yours. again, as long as someone isn’t being a homophobic racist misogynistic abelist asshole & isn’t harming anyone, leave them alone for being themselves.

“ Respecting neurodiversity means respecting nonverbal choices, even when those choices are “weird” or “not age-appropriate.” ” ( link )

being made fun of “weird” or “childish” behaviors is often something done to people with neuordivergency bc of how conditions like adhd, autism, & more shape people’s lives & their personality & interests. making fun of people for those things is straight up bullying. whether someone is or is not have nd doesn’t matter. you don’t know. you shouldn’t be making fun of them. “why not?” you cry. it’s all just good & fun.

it’s not. at the most, you’re making fun of someone & calling them names for something that may be out of their control & being an ableist asshole. at best, you’re still making fun of someone & being a fucking asshole. someone liking a video game you think is “cringey” or joking around with their friends in a manner you don’t understand ( but everyone in their friend group is clearly fine with it & no one is getting hurt ) doesn’t affect you. it’s not harming you. it’s actually none of your gd business. so let’s maybe stop being assholes, realize our words can be weapons & sometimes carry second meanings even if we don’t mean them to, & leave people to live their lives however they want when they’re not doing anything that’s causing you or anyone else harm. okay ?

[kagaminelen]

Saw a woman make a video saying these five things were disrespectful, and when people do them to you, you need to call them out on it

1. Being late for everything consistently

2. Backhanded compliments

3. Pressuring you to do things

4. Always being on their phone when you're talking

5. Constantly talking over/interrupting you

I knew it would be a controversial video when I saw it

A lot of the comments were like "but I have ADHD/autism/etc. and I'm not being disrespectful, it's ableist to tell me to just stop being that"

Having those things may make it harder to recognize when you're doing them, or make it harder to change, but it isn't impossible, really.

It might be very hard to manage your time, or not interrupt people, but it's really not impossible, really. And just because you have those things doesn't exempt you from even trying to change them. You might not have known those things were hurting the other people, which is okay. But once someone brings it up, you can't use that excuse…it'd be a different story if the person were mad you didn't know those things upset them without a convo beforehand

Someone even brought up RSD as a reason why people with these conditions might be defensive, which is probably the case. But honestly, no one likes being told they're wrong, or doing something harmful. Nobody. Not even me. It's not really an RSD thing. Nobody wants to believe their the villain

But I think the main point I'm trying to make is that if you do one of these things, or some other thing that people around you don't like, or have asked you to stop, I think it is actually a little disrespectful to tell them "that's just the way I am and you have to sacrifice your comfort so that I can be comfortable"

Nobody is perfect. We all do things that are disrespectful to other people unknowingly. But when someone (who you presumably care about) shares that something you do is upsetting them, I think it's worth the effort to try to work on it. And to say the person who's upset and is being vulnerable enough to tell you is just being rude or a bitch, is just so mean. They aren't saying you're a bad or disrespectful person, just that the one thing is disrespectful. It doesn't make you a bad person to do one bad thing, and they're not saying they don't want to be around you, that's not even what the woman in the video even said.

People have a hard time respecting other people's boundaries. And it's not just abusive people either. That's where the point about pressure comes in lol. People can have a really hard time believing that something they do can hurt someone. And her point wasn't even to throw these people out, just have a conversation about the behavior. Why are people fighting that? Why are you mad about clear communication between people who care about each other????????

Idk people talk about "oh those neurotypicals and their weird rituals" but like…if you can't respect things you don't understand???? Like???? Even if you don't get it, if it makes the other person feel respected, I think that's enough of a reason to try to do it. Idk. Maybe it's just the empathy. If the neurotypical is communicating clearly (without all the social norms and reading between the lines and whatnot) then why are you disregarding it? Communication is the holy grail of relationships. The stuff works magic. Why would we ever discourage using it???

Idk, nobody is incapable of hurting other people, and everyone is capable of trying to make their loved ones feel heard. Even if you mess up, even if it's really hard. I'm not perfect, I have a HUGE problem interrupting people when I get into a heated argument. But it's not about me, it's about respecting the other person and letting them know I hear them, and care what they have to say. So I'm not sitting here from a high horse telling people they should just fix habits at the drop of a hat, I'm just saying cherish the ones you love. And sometimes that looks like hearing them out and working on respecting them more