#homophobia -

[velvetvexations]

you don't actually have a problem with "heteronormative" dynamics in MLM art you just hate queer men and look for every possible excuse

[certifiedsexed]

Hello! Posting this to try and settle an argument/debate thing

Is it heteronormal to say that sex has to include some form of penetration (Penis or finger in any kind of hole) to count as sex?

I say yes but my friend says no, so wanted to get an opinion from a more informed party

Hiiiii. I don't like being involved in arguments or debates but sure, why not.

I think you mean heteronormative but yes, it is. It's very much an idea based in heteronormativity that penetration is sex and therefore sex is penetration. It's very much connected to the idea that anal sex is "degenerate sex", while anyone claiming to have sex that doesn't involve penetration is "delusional."

By that logic, that means many types of masturbation aren't sex, tribbing isn't sex, frottage isn't sex, some types of rimming aren't sex, as well as some types of general oral sex not being sex. The list goes on.

Which is a dangerous belief, by the way, because to deny that different types of sex are sex only feeds into rape culture and makes it harder to get across what exactly sexual assault/abuse is.

The idea that sex must involve penetration to "count" as sex is tied to so many bigotries, if I'm honest. Ableism, homophobia, lesbophobia specifically, misogyny, etc. It's not just heteronormative but it is explicitly heteronormative and tied to rape culture, as heteronormativity often is.

Not sure how helpful this is but I enjoy rambling about things I have a passion for, so thanks for involving me. Let me know if you have anymore questions! <3

(Or even if this is remotely helpful T_T)

[call-me-chips]

Hey, could any of the christians/christ followers on here please pray for me?

Religious trauma(?) warning

(Idk if this counts as religious trauma or not)

Don't know how to word this, so bear with me

I've decided to stop pursuing a relationship with God, because trying to do so has just been detrimental to my mental health

Every time I go to church, everyone there is putting up their hands, singing, some are even on their knees. And here I am, having never experienced God, and feeling like he's there. I've always felt alone in that sense

He's never answered my prayers, and because of this, I've doubted his existence since I was like, 10. When I was having nightmares and couldn't sleep, I tried praying with mother, but I always had to calm myself because I felt no comfort at all, prayer after prayer

I've really started struggling over the past few years as I've started finding my sexuality and gender identity. Although I feel happy with who I am, I still have a LOT of doubts. I've been told all my life that gays go to hell, and although I don't believe that God would create people just to send them to hell, it's still a prominent thought. I've quite literally been sobbing on the floor dozens of times, begging God to show me ANY sign from him that being gay is either wrong or right, he hasn't answered me at all. It's just been me crying at the wind. Nothing.

I can't change who I am or who I like, and it really scares me that I could be sent to eternal torment because of it. If I could choose to be a normal, cishet person, I absolutely would, no hesitation, just to remove all doubt and fear

I really wanna believe that god exists, but I'm really not sure at this point. Every time I try to pray, I wanna cry because I feel nothing, while EVERYONE ELSE seems to have a relationship with God and is happy. I dread going to church because I nearly cry every time I see everyone in the room worshipping and genuinely enjoying being there. I just feel so tired of trying and done with God and christianity

So yeah, if any of the religious people could please pray for me, that would be very appreciated /nf :)

[awkwardandeccentric]

I get so annoyed when people lecture me about how I shouldn’t care if I’m liked or not. Do you have any idea how much easier your life is if you’re liked?

It could mean the difference between getting the entry job that jumpstarts your career, or being passed over. It could mean the difference between getting help when you’re in a tight spot, or being ignored. It could mean getting your maintenance needs met by your landlord sooner rather than later (or at all). It could mean your teacher rounding up your grade, or rounding down. It could mean an agent bending the rules a little or a police officer letting you off with a warning instead of writing a ticket. It could mean the difference between being mentored and being managed. In higher stakes situations, it could mean crashing on someone’s couch if you get evicted. Getting a little extra food from the food pantry. Being less likely to fall through the cracks by overworked, underfunded systems employing flawed, exhausted people.

As a case manager, it could literally mean whether my colleagues will work with me to help a client or not (liking me, specifically. I’m currently dealing with a couple people who refuse to work with me to help a client because they don’t like me and the client is suffering because of their weird pettiness).

And it’s so insidious that white, cishet, able-bodied and neurotypical men are liked almost automatically, and the rest of us have to hear about how we shouldn’t care if we’re liked or not. Wow. Okay. Fuck you. Maybe. Just a little.

[commander-ledi]

how on earth people will seriously claim that a bi male character absolutely must have been intended as a gay man because... not being masculine enough, taking care of own appearance too much, and being too flamboyant apparently cannot mean anything but being gay.

...and then go through olympics level mental gymnastics and come to conclusion that the homophobic part in this equation is that the character is bi rather than gay. while. being like a step or two away from just saying that the character is too much of a fruity little faggot to have sex with women.

how this keeps happening. why i am seeing this happen more than once with different bi video game men i wanna fuck.

[toxic-bisexual]

this is very true 100% and i wish more people would openly say they're bisexual instead of something else, but we need to examine the actual underlying reasons that this overwhelming denial exists instead of just demonizing these bi ppl for pretending otherwise.

straights, lesbians, gays, and pans all hate bis more than each other and it couldn't be more blatantly obvious. regardless of which gender(s) we date, we are morally bad and inherently red flags who don't experience pain but only inflict it. we're too straight for gays and too gay for straights. it's not really a wonder when you think about it why many bi sapphics would hope blending in with lesbians is a good idea (those with internalized homophobia and/or religious guilt who don't really interact with the queer community much may be more likely to do the same with straights). i'm not saying they're right to do so, just as a lesbian with comphet would be wrong to both bisexuals and themself to try believing they're bi instead, but it is a common logical thought process to assume the grass is greener on the other side. it's not exclusive to... any given concept, really, let alone queer struggles.

some of you lot will say ANYTHING to avoid admitting that youre just bisexual fr huh

[animentality]

[charlesoberonn]

[shiftingwithmars]

Fuck off🖕

[frameacloud]

Image description: Several symbols combined into one.

One is a symbol of Judaism, which is two triangles interlaced, making the six-pointed Star of David.

Another is a symbol of therianthropy, which is made of two Greek letters interlaced: the triangle-shaped delta, and the theta, which is a circle with a horizontal bar inside its middle.

Furthermore, these are in the three colors of the transgender flag. Those are blue for boys, pink for girls, and "white for those who are intersex, transitioning or consider themselves having a neutral or undefined gender," as described by Monica Helms, the creator of that flag.

The shade of pink shown here is darker than that of the trans flag, because it's from another symbol: the pink triangle. This originated in Nazi Germany as a badge to mark concentration camp prisoners as homosexuals, much as Jewish prisoners had to wear a badge of the star. In the 1970s and 1980s, the gay rights movement adopted the pink triangle as a memorial of those prisoners and to protest homophobia and the homophobia-driven discrimination against people who have HIV and AIDS.

The overall effect of these combined symbols is that of the usual Star of David with the addition of a white circle and white inner bar. The Star's upward pointing triangle is a blue outline, and it is also the delta. The Star's downward pointing triangle is a solid pink triangle.

Description ends.

I am an inhuman queer Jew and by G-d I love symbols

[kropotkindersurprise]

June 21, 2024 - Namibia's high court has declared the "sodomy law" that criminalised gay sex unconstitutional!

Namibia inherited the apartheid-era law banning “sodomy” and “unnatural offences” when it gained independence from South Africa in 1990. [link]

[draconym]

Seeing tumblr users tag their blorboposts with "gay panic" is making me insane. This term does not mean what you all think it means.

[theconcealedweapon]

It's like how conservatives regularly insist that businesses have every right to discriminate when deciding who works for them but shit themselves when a business won't hire unvaccinated people.

[nando161mando]

Pro-homosexual forces stay winning

[prokopetz]

I understand that folks tend to think of open homophobia in popular media as a Thing Of The Past, and that the 2000s are still sufficiently recent as not to count as The Past in a lot of folks' minds, but still it kills me the sheer incredulity I keep bumping into when people are confronted with how casually homophobic early 2000s popular media actually was. Like, buddy, you have no idea how recently "isn't it shameful for a straight man to know what a latte is?" stopped being a standard sitcom bit. There were whole shows airing as recently as the early 2010s whose entire premise was "this ostensibly straight man has somewhat fruity mannerisms" – like, that was the entire joke.

[itboytrends]

Reno Gold and Peter Korth photographed by Corey Myers for 'Homme Fatale' by Patrick Church