#his allyship

[swordofruln]

[mun] yall ever worry u dont fulfill expectations

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

[wormtime123]

thinking hard. about last life grian saying about etho “he has no loyalty to you, he’s just immediately teamed up with the next guy that’s come along. if he loved you why didn’t he give you a life" and secret life etho saying about grian “he had to move on with his life, what was he supposed to do, mourn the whole time?" both projecting their own reasonings for ‘abandoning’ certain alliances when they turned south. these two being teamed and staying loyal until the end. can anyone hear me

[unganseylike]

thought of the day: the way that everyone forgets noah and yet will be forever influenced by his presence in their lives is kinda appropriate for TRC as a coming of age story. do any of us truly, consciously know each person, event, or place that shaped us into the people we are today? though our consciousness forgets, their memory is inseparable from the way we go about life.

[swan2swan]

Arguably the Most Powerful Trio in the Jurassic franchise.

[stiffyck]

Okay what if the winners got to meet previous versions of themselves through the life games.

Like grian meets no one. He didn't have any previous "versions".

Scott meets 3rd life Scott.

Pearl meets 3rd life and last life pearl.

Martyn meets 3rd life, last life and double life Martyn.

Scar meets 3rd life, last life, double life and lim life him-

This whole thing was an idea that I got just because I was thinking about ll and sl scar because they were both so lonely like wtf and I just though about a scene that would be so. Grips chair.

Ll: "We won?"

Sl: "Yeah"

Ll: "Did we have allies? Friends?"

Ll scar probably thinks sl scar won only because he had allies to support him. He knows what its like being lonely and he hopes no one has to go through that loneliness. And he wants to be optimistic for once that sl scar, future him, gets allies, gets friends.

He tries to hope and then he sees the look on sl scars face. Or maybe sl scar tries to lie- maybe he tries to say they had allies.

Ll scar sees right through him. He's him after all. Maybe he's always gonna he lonely anyway

[bucklikethedollar]

all the critiques of the “male presenting” bit in the star beast are valid and true (patronizing, kind of bioessentialist, etc) however i think we’ve been ignoring the funniest part of the whole thing which is like. he was a woman like three hours ago. you don’t need to give him a lecture about What Women Are Like. he knows. and even when he was a woman he still bottled shit up so your argument is moot anyway

[shedontlovehuhself]

Every now and then I remember this.

[ct-multifandom]

If I met award-winning murder mystery author Stuart Turton (the 7 1/2 deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle, the devil and the dark water, the last murder at the end of the world) in person, I would gift him a copy of the zero escape trilogy the way Matpat gave the pope undertale

[ysabelmystic]

Yesterday I was having a conversation with my coworker about cars and I said “when my Kia kicks the bucket, I’ll probably lean into the stereotype and get a Subaru”.

Him: hmm wait…What stereotype is that?

Me: Doug, I’m a lesbian.

And he straight up went

And then high-fived me.

This is now the funniest coming-out that has ever happened to me

[astronomical-bagel]

theres just something about scar with white hair that sets off fireworks in my brain. its about loneliness its about the snow its about showing weakness its about giving away everything that you are its about rage its about people pleasing its about the SNOW its about being tired its about desparation its about being burned alive its about apathy its about being intrinsically changed by turning red its about self destruction and its also about being hot as fuck. does anyone HEAR ME

[helpimstuckinafandom]

I was talking to a friend about how it's kinda fucked that if any of the tortured poet songs are about Matty Healy (I think some are but you never know) that her issues about him are just "vague bad boy asshole" instead of the fact that he's a racist piece of shit. And my friend said something along the lines of "well how do you expect her to have a line in there that just says he's a racist"

And like..... she fully could actually. One of the other songs on the album, as shitty as the line is, does specifically mention racism and technically implies it is bad (very big problems with the actual content of the line but that's for a different post). She also previously had a song, as performative as it was, that told people homophobia was stupid.

So it's not that she doesn't want anything "political" in her songs, or that she wouldn't striaght up mention racism. Would it really be that hard to have a line basically being like "then i realized you were shitty to me, and a bigot too". Like. It isn't hard. You're not even pulling a dear john to mention his name explicitly or something, so it would be up for interpretation who it would be about (even if we all knew). I'm not asking for a full song called Bigot #5, just some indication that this was a problem

[natsmagi]

The problem with enstars is that it's a silly lil idol rhythm game and then you get into it and it swallows you whole and you end up with people going '....wait, phone calls?'

THE LEVEL OF PARASOCIALISM ENSTARS HAS IS INSANE. got me talking about these characters like theyre real people to my friends. got me saying shit like Sorry guys i gotta stop playing for now i need to go exercise with adonis and theyll just be like ? what?

[royaltea000]

Teutemp having their medieval wedding dance to Dancing and the Dreaming hit post

[epickiya722]

Todo and Itadori jumping folks part 2?? I'm damn sure am here for it!!!

[bagheerita]

"You must make an oath never to marry."

The fandom's like, Uhtred is such an ally 😉❤

I feel like Uhtred was more thinking: look we just spent half a movie with you being led around by the dick, you obviously can't separate your personal life from your position, so maybe think about that long and hard before you get into another relationship because war gets a lot of people killed for stupid reasons. And for the love of all the gods do not get a woman involved in this, her family's politics will fuck shit up to no end did you learn nothing from your father. I'm not going to be around to straighten out another generation of this family, but my son has your brother pretty well in hand so let's just go with that okay? Also, the like fifth thing on my list, you seem unreasonably torn up about liking dick, so I dunno maybe give yourself a break it's not a big deal.