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hm. i think i am going to stop going to counseling. he does not understand me. he pathologizes things that are not pathological.
#purrs#the premises of counseling / therapy are that you need to have boundaries and be self sufficient and fully healed. FUCK THAT! relationships#are not transactions. we are allowed to need each other. we are allowed to blur lines. we are human and messy. our thoughts and feelings ar#PRECIOUS. im not letting go of my thoughts they mean EVERYTHING to me they are the key to the WORLD. im not letting go of redacted why on#EARTH would i stop redacteding to redacted that is HELPFUL for me. i don’t CARE about the roots. who the fuck is it hurting????? NO ONE!!!!#the way he flat out told me he agrees with my mom. bitch im done forever. im done literaly forever. i don’t know how to tell him but im don#forever. maybe it’s just my id which is what he said to me LMFAO and like maybe i just don’t like being uncomfortable or facing hard truths#but i don’t fucking think it’s TRUE!!!!!!!!!! yeah i need to grow yeah i have unhealthy behaviors. but i don’t need to let go of the whole#THING bc of some arbitrary transactional concept of what relationships are supposed to be / mean. ive NEVER had a counselor try to uproot t#the whole damn thing like omg what is WRONG with you. i#im paying this man $25 a week to UNDERSTAND me and not ONCE have i felt understood by him. counselors can disagree with me but i literally#never feel like he is on my side. he’s adhering to conventional ideas about what parents are supposed to be and friends are supposed to be#and work is supposed to be etc etc. and so patronizingly said just enjoy being 23 you don’t wanna waste your 20s! FUCK YOU. i will not#regret anything even if it’s unusual. FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!#and also i know he probably watches back thru the recordings and has like his supervisor and professors watch them too which means that#there is a whole team of scientists + my family studying me in a lab and thinking im insane and finding ways to tell me. but fucking bold o#him to assume he can give me any meaningful valuable insight when he is actively checking his laptop / phone during our sessions and rarely#if eve gives me a chance to drive MY OWN CONVERSATION THAT IM PAYING FOR and is so phony abt being on the recording. like Omg. maybe im jus#grown out of it. it fucking SUCKS bc i actually have things i am not normal about and really need help with and i can’t actually get help f#from ppl whose job it is to fucking help me bc they think im not normal about things i PROMISEEEE i am normal about. and the way i effectiv#effectively told him that and he responded that he can’t take that credibly bc there’s no action behind it BY WHICH HE MEANS I HAVENT#STOPPED REDACTEDING TO ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT REDACTED IN MY WHOLE LIFE? THAT I HAVENT DECIDED IM DONE LEARNING SND GROWING AND CUT IT#OFF?????? DO YOU FUCKING HEAR YOURSELF. INSANE. the ANTITHESIS of human. we are MEANT TO BE CONNECTED. FUCK!!!!!!!!!#delete later#my old counselors challenged me and disagreed with me b it i never felt like they flat out were unwilling to meet me where i am and#compromise with me. is that not what counselors are supposed to do???? or have i just had bad counselors until now??? because im NORMAL. i#swear to fucking god. im normal. im literally normal and it is not doing ANYONE harm. what is wrong with you. GOD
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The Aurum: Dallas Top 25 Vanguards
Aurum, the Latin word for gold, is most notably symbolized as "Au" in the scientific periodic table, but it takes on a different meaning at The Plutocrats Club. It represents the best… the few who inspire, create, and articulate vision for the rest of us. Often imitated, they’ve dedicated their careers to putting other brands, people, and organizations in the spotlight, by creating the most relevant platforms to do so.
Should you find yourself in Dallas, it would behoove you to connect with these individuals as they are at the forefront of the professional renaissance taking place in the city. Make no mistake, this isn’t a popularity contest. The pioneers you see below were selected using four distinct criteria.
Scope of Impact
Distinguished Achievement
Consistency & Sustainability
Primary Research
As we experience a new decade of black history, join us in recognizing the magnates who’ve worked extremely hard to make the future that much brighter for all of us.
#25 Adrian Killebrew Jr.
“Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.” - Adrian Killebrew Jr.
Adrian is a savvy professional whose ability to connect others and build relationships has allowed organizations to establish meaningful business connections nationally. Skilled in Business Development, Non-profit Management, Strategic Planning, Leadership, Career Development, and Sales Account Management, Adrian is a powerhouse in the DFW area.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Professional Development
Sales Consulting / Coaching
#24 Jasmine Armstrong
“Live for today, not for tomorrow!” - Jasmine Armstrong
Woman of God. Lover of Christ. Resident of Dallas. Jasmine is a class act of few words when it comes to describing herself, but her actions speak much louder as a professional speech pathologist and connector in Dallas.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Relationship Development
Speech Consulting / Coaching
#23 Joseph Abrahams
"As you invest in us, we invest in you bringing forth excellence within you." - Joseph Abrahams
Joseph has the uncanny ability to solve complex issues by taking responsibility for planning, procurement and execution of projects. He provides leadership in any undertaking that has a defined scope, start, and finish. In addition to that he’s all about advocacy for DFW professionals and entrepreneurs.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Project Management
#22 Brandon Moore
“I’m proud of a lot of people. I don’t always comment or tell people and I need to work on that but I’m just really happy to see people out here achieving. Even if they haven’t reached their exact goal I see so much progress out there and it really puts a smile on my face.” - Brandon Moore
Brandon leverages his diverse mix of experience consulting small businesses in multiple industries to help companies build their presence on social media. On the other side of that Brandon specializes in building communities to connect people in specific demographics. This allows him to tap into markets and create opportunities for businesses targeting thought leaders.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Development
Brand Consulting / Representation
#21 Tyrell Patterson / Jeremiah Egbele
Tyrell Patterson - below
“I’m not in charge, I don’t have to MAKE things happen, my life isn’t mine, my wife, my family my money my time it is allll Gods. I’m simply going to take my hands off and manage what he gave me. He owns it, not me. 2020 is the year it all makes sense and the vision is implemented. It’s time to run at the pace of obedience and watch God blow our minds” - Tyrell Patterson
Tyrell is a contagious communicator and financial specialist who provides clients, business owners, and entrepreneurs with strategies and tools to achieve their financial goals; chiefly by delivering data analysis to communicate intended outcomes and most efficient methods to reach them. His clients understand how to practically employ strategies and execute those processes that bring about maximum returns on energy, time, and finances.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Leadership Development & Community Cultivation
Financial Counseling
Jeremiah Egbele - below
“Mentors are like having cheat codes to life.” - Jeremiah Egbele
Creative Entrepreneur. Fashion Icon. Well Traveled. Those are just some of the words that describe Jeremiah the trendsetter and Sharepoint Systems Specialist. When he is not curating style he’s building walks of faith with intentionality.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Fashion, Culture, & Community Cultivation
IT Consulting
#20 Yasmine Lockett
“The only way to improve is to keep moving” - Yasmine Lockett
Yasmine is a creative and critical thinker who thrives on the big ideas. Not only is she an advocate for possibilities, but she also encourages those around her to find unshakeable joy. She’s dedicated close to a decade in support of DFW youth through innovative programs; with the goal of lessening the burdens that society often places on them.
Connect For
Education Opportunities
Program Development / Administration
Early Childhood Consulting
#19 Joshua Allen
”I told my high school band director I wanted to run a record label when I grew up. It’s pretty dope how Gods timing works.” - Joshua Allen
Joshua is an experienced graphic designer with a demonstrated history of working in the e-learning industry. Skilled in Non-profit Organizations, Retail, Sales, Event Management, and Media Relations, he has a passion for developing artists and musicians in the DFW area and has built a platform to do just that.
Connect For
Music Opportunities
Artist Development
Media Consulting
#18 Andrea Miles
“Karma is real and not to be played with.” - Andrea Miles
Andrea is a private practice attorney in Dallas County. She is very active in her community offering young professionals a chance to network and receive mentoring from some of the most talented and creative professionals in Dallas through hosted seminar settings. Andrea also mentors young girls, coaching them while teaching them leadership skills through sports.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Legal Consulting
#17 Sedrick Wall Jr.
“Sometimes you just have to smile in the face of an enemy.” - Sedrick Wall Jr.
Sedrick has over 10 years experience helping others achieve their dreams. He believes everyone has a story to tell and he is a conduit between their dreams and reality. He works as an Account Manager analyzing data, developing business strategies, and consulting on how to grow businesses while also owning his own custom suiting clothier.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community Development
Fashion & Systems Consulting
#16 Shaun Balkum
“Those who do not take risks will never really know how far they can go will they? This is why I continue to push the boundaries I want to challenge how far I can go and inspire change.” - Shaun Balkum
Shaun is a high fashion model and actor that has worked with brands all across the globe. His passion for creating his own lane in the DFW fashion scene has led him to becoming a modeling coach as well, providing training services to aspiring models and enlightening parents about the industry.
Connect For
High-Fashion Opportunities
Brand Development / Representation
Model Coaching
#15 Maurice Sanford
“Never Assume That Quiet Is Weak & Loud Is Strong.” - Maurice Sanford
Maurice is a highly sought after videographer and photographer who has built one of the largest client bases in DFW. His visual and editing skills have been sought after by corporations and artists alike.
Connect For
Media Opportunities
Brand Development / Cultivation
Videography & Photography Consulting
#14 Chloe Airhart
“God created you to shine, share His good news, bless those who don’t bless you, and learn to be joyful through the ups and downs that He places in your path. ” - Chloe Airhart
Chloe is a seasoned account executive that loves meeting new people and building relationships. Her work ethic is guided by vibrant creativity, moral values, and care for humankind. When she is not overseeing valuable client accounts she is providing styling advice and building faith networks.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Personal Branding & Fashion Cultivation
Account Management & Business Development Consulting
#13 Bola Ibidapo
“Faith + Consistency= New Heights. Build something that’s worth sharing. Build something that leaves impact. Watch God do the rest.” - Bola Ibidapo
Bola is the founder of two non-profits, one provides travel grants and passports to students studying or volunteering abroad and the other instills leadership and entrepreneurial development in young girls. As an advocate for student empowerment she gives rousing speeches on her insights and ideas regarding the significance of our youth.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Non-profit & Youth Programs Cultivation
Diversity, Inclusion, & Empowerment Consulting
#12 Noble Madu Jr.
“Small acts, multiplied by many people, can transform the world.” - Noble Madu Jr.
Noble is an investing and lending associate with a passion for service and development. He’s established several organizations fostering community involvement, professional development, and environmental impact. As a host of networking workshops and volunteer events he continually builds community and synergy between thought leaders and their constituents.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
STEM & Community Development
Financial Consulting
#11 Amber Williams
“Find beauty within an imperfect process.” - Amber Williams
Amber is private chef and caterer that has built an empire to educate and empower Millennials to not be afraid of the kitchen, create jobs, and skill-share. As a huge advocate for entrepreneurship, she is known for reaching back and helping others through doors that she’s worked hard to open.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Cultivation
Culinary Consulting
#10 Erik Grayson / Attah Armand Essien
Erik Grayson - below
“Market Yourself. Brand Yourself. Promote Yourself. Network Yourself. Invest in Yourself.” - Erik Grayson
Erik is a brand builder and business consultant that controls the pulse of the Dallas event scene. His collective of social events, apparel and co-working spaces have made him a go to for connections, networking, and celebrations.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
Attah Armand Essien - below
“Thank You God for another day, another week, another opportunity!” - Attah Armand Essien
Attah is the man to know in Dallas, and an expert in utilizing social media marketing and advertising, with a proven ability to generate inbound traffic, develop a brand and build awareness, as well as cultivate leads and sales. As an event director and cultural ambassador of DFW, he gives professionals and networkers alike unprecedented access to the Dallas social scene and greater community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
#9 Kiera Tate / Gabriel Sheffield
Kiera Tate - below
“God made no mistake when he made you exactly the way he did. God made no mistake when he showed you that dream, when he gave you those friends and that job and those kids and that family. So go out there and glow Saint.” - Kiera Tate
Kiera is an architectural designer with extensive experience in graphic design and front end development. She is a connector of talents, people, and ideas leading by example as a contemporary renaissance woman in the truest sense.
Connect for
Business Opportunities
Professional & Community Cultivation
Creative Design / Consulting
Gabriel Sheffield - below
“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.” - Gabriel Sheffield
Gabriel is a vibrations creator with a social consciousness and he embodies this with every experience he produces. Whether it be photography or music curation, he captures moments and remixes them to suit the mood of his audience.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand & Community Cultivation
Event Production / Consulting
#8 Lauren McMillan
“Cover the earth before it covers you.” - Lauren McMillan
Lauren is an innovative public relations professional with an extensive creative background. She specializes in strategic communications, brand architecture, media relations, copywriting and graphic design, pioneering creative ventures designed to bring exposure and promotion to entrepreneurs and small business owners.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Cultivation
Creative Design & Marketing Consulting
#7 Kurtis Graham
“If you never ask the answer will always be no.” - Kurtis Graham
Kurtis strives to inspire and support the young, fresh and talented artists and entrepreneurs of today. He seeks to showcase those in the community who are making their dreams come true by knocking down barriers and stereotypes in hopes of raising awareness, building organizations, and diversifying the entertainment community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Development
Media Consulting
#6 Scottie Smith II
“The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, and a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success!” - Scottie Smith II
Scottie is a real estate broker, investor, developer and author that has made a lifestyle out of sharing his experienced insight in realty and business. He’s passionate about entrepreneurship, providing spaces, finances and education to facilitate the next generation of professionals who are looking to follow in his footsteps.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Real Estate Consulting
#5 Benjamin Vann
“Work your plan.” - Benjamin Vann
Benjamin is an award winning social entrepreneur, venture strategist, speaker, and economic justice advocate. Benjamin is an expert in impact investing, combining grass root experiences with community organization, civic engagement, workforce empowerment, and non-profit board governance to bring DFW professionals access to capital unlike never before.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Investment & Financial Consulting
#4 Larry Yarrell
“Sometimes it's as simple as changing or challenging the lens with which we use to focus and shape our perspective.” - Larry Yarrell
Larry is an experienced chief operating officer with a demonstrated history of achievement in the marketing and advertising industry. He is a gifted executive coach, public speaker, and project manager who’s built a legacy out of giving young creatives professional experience that gone on to define their careers.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Mentorship & Program Counseling, Media & Sales Consulting
#3 Taylor Toynes
“Looking at my ancestors and elders with my young boys behind me. We the greatest story ever told.” - Taylor Toynes
Taylor is a philanthropist, executive director and civic organizer with a huge heart for humanity. He’s also a certified educator and humanitarian who’s made it his mission to bring resources, knowledge, and tailored support to urban communities. His servanthood has touched touched thousands of lives and inspired many more.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community, Education, & Youth Development
Non-Profit Consulting

#2 S. Lee Merritt
“Look within yourself and ask what’s your purpose. Plan out your impact. We need you.” - S. Lee Merritt
Lee is one of the most recognized civil attorneys not only in Texas but in the nation as he tackles some of the most high profile cases involving victims of police brutality, hate crimes and corporate discrimination. As an activist, he has championed police reform and community empowerment, by galvanizing conversations surrounding justice, race, and equality.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Culture Development
Legal Consulting

#1 James Armstrong III
“Everything I am God made me; Everything I have God gave me; All that I know God taught me; Where I am God brought me.” - James Armstrong III
James is a disciple of Christ, man of eminence, seeker of justice, pursuer of excellence, and economic bridge builder. His work in community development is unparalleled as he spearheads initiatives, policies and programs committed to improving the housing, finances, and quality of life of the common wealth of DFW.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Housing Development
Political & Legislative Consulting
Spiritual Leadership & Development
“To those who facilitate the programs, finances, and environments for dreamers to dream and warriors to fight this is an emphatic thank you. Your efforts are not only noticed, but they are needed to progress our increasingly complex and growing culture. Not much in this life is promised, but you’ve established a personal brand of quality that has transformed from trusted to expected. I can’t speak for those who take it for granted, but it’s a beautiful thing to witness excellence. I hope you’re not getting tired because we are sending many more your way to learn from your example and to follow your footsteps. Cheers to you.”
- David Pailin Jr. - President, TPC
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themoguls · 5 years ago
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The Aurum: Dallas Top 25 Vanguards
Aurum, the Latin word for gold, is most notably symbolized as "Au" in the scientific periodic table, but it takes on a different meaning at The Plutocrats Club. It represents the best… the few who inspire, create, and articulate vision for the rest of us. Often imitated, they’ve dedicated their careers to putting other brands, people, and organizations in the spotlight, by creating the most relevant platforms to do so.
Should you find yourself in Dallas, it would behoove you to connect with these individuals as they are at the forefront of the professional renaissance taking place in the city. Make no mistake, this isn’t a popularity contest. The pioneers you see below were selected using four distinct criteria.
Scope of Impact
Distinguished Achievement
Consistency & Sustainability
Primary Research
As we experience a new decade of black history, join us in recognizing the magnates who’ve worked extremely hard to make the future that much brighter for all of us.
#25 Adrian Killebrew Jr.
“Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.” - Adrian Killebrew Jr.
Adrian is a savvy professional whose ability to connect others and build relationships has allowed organizations to establish meaningful business connections nationally. Skilled in Business Development, Non-profit Management, Strategic Planning, Leadership, Career Development, and Sales Account Management, Adrian is a powerhouse in the DFW area.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Professional Development
Sales Consulting / Coaching
#24 Jasmine Armstrong
“Live for today, not for tomorrow!” - Jasmine Armstrong
Woman of God. Lover of Christ. Resident of Dallas. Jasmine is a class act of few words when it comes to describing herself, but her actions speak much louder as a professional speech pathologist and connector in Dallas.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Relationship Development
Speech Consulting / Coaching
#23 Joseph Abrahams
"As you invest in us, we invest in you bringing forth excellence within you." - Joseph Abrahams
Joseph has the uncanny ability to solve complex issues by taking responsibility for planning, procurement and execution of projects. He provides leadership in any undertaking that has a defined scope, start, and finish. In addition to that he’s all about advocacy for DFW professionals and entrepreneurs.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Project Management
#22 Brandon Moore
“I’m proud of a lot of people. I don’t always comment or tell people and I need to work on that but I’m just really happy to see people out here achieving. Even if they haven’t reached their exact goal I see so much progress out there and it really puts a smile on my face.” - Brandon Moore
Brandon leverages his diverse mix of experience consulting small businesses in multiple industries to help companies build their presence on social media. On the other side of that Brandon specializes in building communities to connect people in specific demographics. This allows him to tap into markets and create opportunities for businesses targeting thought leaders.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Development
Brand Consulting / Representation
#21 Tyrell Patterson / Jeremiah Egbele
Tyrell Patterson - below
“I’m not in charge, I don’t have to MAKE things happen, my life isn’t mine, my wife, my family my money my time it is allll Gods. I’m simply going to take my hands off and manage what he gave me. He owns it, not me. 2020 is the year it all makes sense and the vision is implemented. It’s time to run at the pace of obedience and watch God blow our minds” - Tyrell Patterson
Tyrell is a contagious communicator and financial specialist who provides clients, business owners, and entrepreneurs with strategies and tools to achieve their financial goals; chiefly by delivering data analysis to communicate intended outcomes and most efficient methods to reach them. His clients understand how to practically employ strategies and execute those processes that bring about maximum returns on energy, time, and finances.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Leadership Development & Community Cultivation
Financial Counseling
Jeremiah Egbele - below
“Mentors are like having cheat codes to life.” - Jeremiah Egbele
Creative Entrepreneur. Fashion Icon. Well Traveled. Those are just some of the words that describe Jeremiah the trendsetter and Sharepoint Systems Specialist. When he is not curating style he’s building walks of faith with intentionality.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Fashion, Culture, & Community Cultivation
IT Consulting
#20 Yasmine Lockett
“The only way to improve is to keep moving” - Yasmine Lockett
Yasmine is a creative and critical thinker who thrives on the big ideas. Not only is she an advocate for possibilities, but she also encourages those around her to find unshakeable joy. She’s dedicated close to a decade in support of DFW youth through innovative programs; with the goal of lessening the burdens that society often places on them.
Connect For
Education Opportunities
Program Development / Administration
Early Childhood Consulting
#19 Joshua Allen
”I told my high school band director I wanted to run a record label when I grew up. It’s pretty dope how Gods timing works.” - Joshua Allen
Joshua is an experienced graphic designer with a demonstrated history of working in the e-learning industry. Skilled in Non-profit Organizations, Retail, Sales, Event Management, and Media Relations, he has a passion for developing artists and musicians in the DFW area and has built a platform to do just that.
Connect For
Music Opportunities
Artist Development
Media Consulting
#18 Andrea Miles
“Karma is real and not to be played with.” - Andrea Miles
Andrea is a private practice attorney in Dallas County. She is very active in her community offering young professionals a chance to network and receive mentoring from some of the most talented and creative professionals in Dallas through hosted seminar settings. Andrea also mentors young girls, coaching them while teaching them leadership skills through sports.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Legal Consulting
#17 Sedrick Wall Jr.
“Sometimes you just have to smile in the face of an enemy.” - Sedrick Wall Jr.
Sedrick has over 10 years experience helping others achieve their dreams. He believes everyone has a story to tell and he is a conduit between their dreams and reality. He works as an Account Manager analyzing data, developing business strategies, and consulting on how to grow businesses while also owning his own custom suiting clothier.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community Development
Fashion & Systems Consulting
#16 Shaun Balkum
“Those who do not take risks will never really know how far they can go will they? This is why I continue to push the boundaries I want to challenge how far I can go and inspire change.” - Shaun Balkum
Shaun is a high fashion model and actor that has worked with brands all across the globe. His passion for creating his own lane in the DFW fashion scene has led him to becoming a modeling coach as well, providing training services to aspiring models and enlightening parents about the industry.
Connect For
High-Fashion Opportunities
Brand Development / Representation
Model Coaching
#15 Maurice Sanford
“Never Assume That Quiet Is Weak & Loud Is Strong.” - Maurice Sanford
Maurice is a highly sought after videographer and photographer who has built one of the largest client bases in DFW. His visual and editing skills have been sought after by corporations and artists alike.
Connect For
Media Opportunities
Brand Development / Cultivation
Videography & Photography Consulting
#14 Chloe Airhart
“God created you to shine, share His good news, bless those who don’t bless you, and learn to be joyful through the ups and downs that He places in your path. ” - Chloe Airhart
Chloe is a seasoned account executive that loves meeting new people and building relationships. Her work ethic is guided by vibrant creativity, moral values, and care for humankind. When she is not overseeing valuable client accounts she is providing styling advice and building faith networks.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Personal Branding & Fashion Cultivation
Account Management & Business Development Consulting
#13 Bola Ibidapo
“Faith + Consistency= New Heights. Build something that’s worth sharing. Build something that leaves impact. Watch God do the rest.” - Bola Ibidapo
Bola is the founder of two non-profits, one provides travel grants and passports to students studying or volunteering abroad and the other instills leadership and entrepreneurial development in young girls. As an advocate for student empowerment she gives rousing speeches on her insights and ideas regarding the significance of our youth.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Non-profit & Youth Programs Cultivation
Diversity, Inclusion, & Empowerment Consulting
#12 Noble Madu Jr.
“Small acts, multiplied by many people, can transform the world.” - Noble Madu Jr.
Noble is an investing and lending associate with a passion for service and development. He’s established several organizations fostering community involvement, professional development, and environmental impact. As a host of networking workshops and volunteer events he continually builds community and synergy between thought leaders and their constituents.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
STEM & Community Development
Financial Consulting
#11 Amber Williams
“Find beauty within an imperfect process.” - Amber Williams
Amber is private chef and caterer that has built an empire to educate and empower Millennials to not be afraid of the kitchen, create jobs, and skill-share. As a huge advocate for entrepreneurship, she is known for reaching back and helping others through doors that she’s worked hard to open.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Cultivation
Culinary Consulting
#10 Erik Grayson / Attah Armand Essien
Erik Grayson - below
“Market Yourself. Brand Yourself. Promote Yourself. Network Yourself. Invest in Yourself.” - Erik Grayson
Erik is a brand builder and business consultant that controls the pulse of the Dallas event scene. His collective of social events, apparel and co-working spaces have made him a go to for connections, networking, and celebrations.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
Attah Armand Essien - below
“Thank You God for another day, another week, another opportunity!” - Attah Armand Essien
Attah is the man to know in Dallas, and an expert in utilizing social media marketing and advertising, with a proven ability to generate inbound traffic, develop a brand and build awareness, as well as cultivate leads and sales. As an event director and cultural ambassador of DFW, he gives professionals and networkers alike unprecedented access to the Dallas social scene and greater community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
#9 Kiera Tate / Gabriel Sheffield
Kiera Tate - below
“God made no mistake when he made you exactly the way he did. God made no mistake when he showed you that dream, when he gave you those friends and that job and those kids and that family. So go out there and glow Saint.” - Kiera Tate
Kiera is an architectural designer with extensive experience in graphic design and front end development. She is a connector of talents, people, and ideas leading by example as a contemporary renaissance woman in the truest sense.
Connect for
Business Opportunities
Professional & Community Cultivation
Creative Design / Consulting
Gabriel Sheffield - below
“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.” - Gabriel Sheffield
Gabriel is a vibrations creator with a social consciousness and he embodies this with every experience he produces. Whether it be photography or music curation, he captures moments and remixes them to suit the mood of his audience.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand & Community Cultivation
Event Production / Consulting
#8 Lauren McMillan
“Cover the earth before it covers you.” - Lauren McMillan
Lauren is an innovative public relations professional with an extensive creative background. She specializes in strategic communications, brand architecture, media relations, copywriting and graphic design, pioneering creative ventures designed to bring exposure and promotion to entrepreneurs and small business owners.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Cultivation
Creative Design & Marketing Consulting
#7 Kurtis Graham
“If you never ask the answer will always be no.” - Kurtis Graham
Kurtis strives to inspire and support the young, fresh and talented artists and entrepreneurs of today. He seeks to showcase those in the community who are making their dreams come true by knocking down barriers and stereotypes in hopes of raising awareness, building organizations, and diversifying the entertainment community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Development
Media Consulting
#6 Scottie Smith II
“The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, and a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success!” - Scottie Smith II
Scottie is a real estate broker, investor, developer and author that has made a lifestyle out of sharing his experienced insight in realty and business. He’s passionate about entrepreneurship, providing spaces, finances and education to facilitate the next generation of professionals who are looking to follow in his footsteps.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Real Estate Consulting
#5 Benjamin Vann
“Work your plan.” - Benjamin Vann
Benjamin is an award winning social entrepreneur, venture strategist, speaker, and economic justice advocate. Benjamin is an expert in impact investing, combining grass root experiences with community organization, civic engagement, workforce empowerment, and non-profit board governance to bring DFW professionals access to capital unlike never before.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Investment & Financial Consulting
#4 Larry Yarrell
“Sometimes it's as simple as changing or challenging the lens with which we use to focus and shape our perspective.” - Larry Yarrell
Larry is an experienced chief operating officer with a demonstrated history of achievement in the marketing and advertising industry. He is a gifted executive coach, public speaker, and project manager who’s built a legacy out of giving young creatives professional experience that gone on to define their careers.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Mentorship & Program Counseling, Media & Sales Consulting
#3 Taylor Toynes
“Looking at my ancestors and elders with my young boys behind me. We the greatest story ever told.” - Taylor Toynes
Taylor is a philanthropist, executive director and civic organizer with a huge heart for humanity. He’s also a certified educator and humanitarian who’s made it his mission to bring resources, knowledge, and tailored support to urban communities. His servanthood has touched touched thousands of lives and inspired many more.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community, Education, & Youth Development
Non-Profit Consulting

#2 S. Lee Merritt
“Look within yourself and ask what’s your purpose. Plan out your impact. We need you.” - S. Lee Merritt
Lee is one of the most recognized civil attorneys not only in Texas but in the nation as he tackles some of the most high profile cases involving victims of police brutality, hate crimes and corporate discrimination. As an activist, he has championed police reform and community empowerment, by galvanizing conversations surrounding justice, race, and equality.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Culture Development
Legal Consulting

#1 James Armstrong III
“Everything I am God made me; Everything I have God gave me; All that I know God taught me; Where I am God brought me.” - James Armstrong III
James is a disciple of Christ, man of eminence, seeker of justice, pursuer of excellence, and economic bridge builder. His work in community development is unparalleled as he spearheads initiatives, policies and programs committed to improving the housing, finances, and quality of life of the common wealth of DFW.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Housing Development
Political & Legislative Consulting
Spiritual Leadership & Development
“To those who facilitate the programs, finances, and environments for dreamers to dream and warriors to fight this is an emphatic thank you. Your efforts are not only noticed, but they are needed to progress our increasingly complex and growing culture. Not much in this life is promised, but you’ve established a personal brand of quality that has transformed from trusted to expected. I can’t speak for those who take it for granted, but it’s a beautiful thing to witness excellence. I hope you’re not getting tired because we are sending many more your way to learn from your example and to follow your footsteps. Cheers to you.”
- David Pailin Jr. - President, TPC
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The Aurum: Dallas Top 25 Vanguards
Aurum, the Latin word for gold, is most notably symbolized as "Au" in the scientific periodic table, but it takes on a different meaning at The Plutocrats Club. It represents the best… the few who inspire, create, and articulate vision for the rest of us. Often imitated, they’ve dedicated their careers to putting other brands, people, and organizations in the spotlight, by creating the most relevant platforms to do so.
Should you find yourself in Dallas, it would behoove you to connect with these individuals as they are at the forefront of the professional renaissance taking place in the city. Make no mistake, this isn’t a popularity contest. The pioneers you see below were selected using four distinct criteria.
Scope of Impact
Distinguished Achievement
Consistency & Sustainability
Primary Research
As we experience a new decade of black history, join us in recognizing the magnates who’ve worked extremely hard to make the future that much brighter for all of us.
#25 Adrian Killebrew Jr.
“Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.” - Adrian Killebrew Jr.
Adrian is a savvy professional whose ability to connect others and build relationships has allowed organizations to establish meaningful business connections nationally. Skilled in Business Development, Non-profit Management, Strategic Planning, Leadership, Career Development, and Sales Account Management, Adrian is a powerhouse in the DFW area.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Professional Development
Sales Consulting / Coaching
#24 Jasmine Armstrong
“Live for today, not for tomorrow!” - Jasmine Armstrong
Woman of God. Lover of Christ. Resident of Dallas. Jasmine is a class act of few words when it comes to describing herself, but her actions speak much louder as a professional speech pathologist and connector in Dallas.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Relationship Development
Speech Consulting / Coaching
#23 Joseph Abrahams
"As you invest in us, we invest in you bringing forth excellence within you." - Joseph Abrahams
Joseph has the uncanny ability to solve complex issues by taking responsibility for planning, procurement and execution of projects. He provides leadership in any undertaking that has a defined scope, start, and finish. In addition to that he’s all about advocacy for DFW professionals and entrepreneurs.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Project Management
#22 Brandon Moore
“I’m proud of a lot of people. I don’t always comment or tell people and I need to work on that but I’m just really happy to see people out here achieving. Even if they haven’t reached their exact goal I see so much progress out there and it really puts a smile on my face.” - Brandon Moore
Brandon leverages his diverse mix of experience consulting small businesses in multiple industries to help companies build their presence on social media. On the other side of that Brandon specializes in building communities to connect people in specific demographics. This allows him to tap into markets and create opportunities for businesses targeting thought leaders.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Development
Brand Consulting / Representation
#21 Tyrell Patterson / Jeremiah Egbele
Tyrell Patterson - below
“I’m not in charge, I don’t have to MAKE things happen, my life isn’t mine, my wife, my family my money my time it is allll Gods. I’m simply going to take my hands off and manage what he gave me. He owns it, not me. 2020 is the year it all makes sense and the vision is implemented. It’s time to run at the pace of obedience and watch God blow our minds” - Tyrell Patterson
Tyrell is a contagious communicator and financial specialist who provides clients, business owners, and entrepreneurs with strategies and tools to achieve their financial goals; chiefly by delivering data analysis to communicate intended outcomes and most efficient methods to reach them. His clients understand how to practically employ strategies and execute those processes that bring about maximum returns on energy, time, and finances.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Leadership Development & Community Cultivation
Financial Counseling
Jeremiah Egbele - below
“Mentors are like having cheat codes to life.” - Jeremiah Egbele
Creative Entrepreneur. Fashion Icon. Well Traveled. Those are just some of the words that describe Jeremiah the trendsetter and Sharepoint Systems Specialist. When he is not curating style he’s building walks of faith with intentionality.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Fashion, Culture, & Community Cultivation
IT Consulting
#20 Yasmine Lockett
“The only way to improve is to keep moving” - Yasmine Lockett
Yasmine is a creative and critical thinker who thrives on the big ideas. Not only is she an advocate for possibilities, but she also encourages those around her to find unshakeable joy. She’s dedicated close to a decade in support of DFW youth through innovative programs; with the goal of lessening the burdens that society often places on them.
Connect For
Education Opportunities
Program Development / Administration
Early Childhood Consulting
#19 Joshua Allen
”I told my high school band director I wanted to run a record label when I grew up. It’s pretty dope how Gods timing works.” - Joshua Allen
Joshua is an experienced graphic designer with a demonstrated history of working in the e-learning industry. Skilled in Non-profit Organizations, Retail, Sales, Event Management, and Media Relations, he has a passion for developing artists and musicians in the DFW area and has built a platform to do just that.
Connect For
Music Opportunities
Artist Development
Media Consulting
#18 Andrea Miles
“Karma is real and not to be played with.” - Andrea Miles
Andrea is a private practice attorney in Dallas County. She is very active in her community offering young professionals a chance to network and receive mentoring from some of the most talented and creative professionals in Dallas through hosted seminar settings. Andrea also mentors young girls, coaching them while teaching them leadership skills through sports.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Legal Consulting
#17 Sedrick Wall Jr.
“Sometimes you just have to smile in the face of an enemy.” - Sedrick Wall Jr.
Sedrick has over 10 years experience helping others achieve their dreams. He believes everyone has a story to tell and he is a conduit between their dreams and reality. He works as an Account Manager analyzing data, developing business strategies, and consulting on how to grow businesses while also owning his own custom suiting clothier.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community Development
Fashion & Systems Consulting
#16 Shaun Balkum
“Those who do not take risks will never really know how far they can go will they? This is why I continue to push the boundaries I want to challenge how far I can go and inspire change.” - Shaun Balkum
Shaun is a high fashion model and actor that has worked with brands all across the globe. His passion for creating his own lane in the DFW fashion scene has led him to becoming a modeling coach as well, providing training services to aspiring models and enlightening parents about the industry.
Connect For
High-Fashion Opportunities
Brand Development / Representation
Model Coaching
#15 Maurice Sanford
“Never Assume That Quiet Is Weak & Loud Is Strong.” - Maurice Sanford
Maurice is a highly sought after videographer and photographer who has built one of the largest client bases in DFW. His visual and editing skills have been sought after by corporations and artists alike.
Connect For
Media Opportunities
Brand Development / Cultivation
Videography & Photography Consulting
#14 Chloe Airhart
“God created you to shine, share His good news, bless those who don’t bless you, and learn to be joyful through the ups and downs that He places in your path. ” - Chloe Airhart
Chloe is a seasoned account executive that loves meeting new people and building relationships. Her work ethic is guided by vibrant creativity, moral values, and care for humankind. When she is not overseeing valuable client accounts she is providing styling advice and building faith networks.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Personal Branding & Fashion Cultivation
Account Management & Business Development Consulting
#13 Bola Ibidapo
“Faith + Consistency= New Heights. Build something that’s worth sharing. Build something that leaves impact. Watch God do the rest.” - Bola Ibidapo
Bola is the founder of two non-profits, one provides travel grants and passports to students studying or volunteering abroad and the other instills leadership and entrepreneurial development in young girls. As an advocate for student empowerment she gives rousing speeches on her insights and ideas regarding the significance of our youth.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Non-profit & Youth Programs Cultivation
Diversity, Inclusion, & Empowerment Consulting
#12 Noble Madu Jr.
“Small acts, multiplied by many people, can transform the world.” - Noble Madu Jr.
Noble is an investing and lending associate with a passion for service and development. He’s established several organizations fostering community involvement, professional development, and environmental impact. As a host of networking workshops and volunteer events he continually builds community and synergy between thought leaders and their constituents.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
STEM & Community Development
Financial Consulting
#11 Amber Williams
“Find beauty within an imperfect process.” - Amber Williams
Amber is private chef and caterer that has built an empire to educate and empower Millennials to not be afraid of the kitchen, create jobs, and skill-share. As a huge advocate for entrepreneurship, she is known for reaching back and helping others through doors that she’s worked hard to open.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Cultivation
Culinary Consulting
#10 Erik Grayson / Attah Armand Essien
Erik Grayson - below
“Market Yourself. Brand Yourself. Promote Yourself. Network Yourself. Invest in Yourself.” - Erik Grayson
Erik is a brand builder and business consultant that controls the pulse of the Dallas event scene. His collective of social events, apparel and co-working spaces have made him a go to for connections, networking, and celebrations.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
Attah Armand Essien - below
“Thank You God for another day, another week, another opportunity!” - Attah Armand Essien
Attah is the man to know in Dallas, and an expert in utilizing social media marketing and advertising, with a proven ability to generate inbound traffic, develop a brand and build awareness, as well as cultivate leads and sales. As an event director and cultural ambassador of DFW, he gives professionals and networkers alike unprecedented access to the Dallas social scene and greater community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
#9 Kiera Tate / Gabriel Sheffield
Kiera Tate - below
“God made no mistake when he made you exactly the way he did. God made no mistake when he showed you that dream, when he gave you those friends and that job and those kids and that family. So go out there and glow Saint.” - Kiera Tate
Kiera is an architectural designer with extensive experience in graphic design and front end development. She is a connector of talents, people, and ideas leading by example as a contemporary renaissance woman in the truest sense.
Connect for
Business Opportunities
Professional & Community Cultivation
Creative Design / Consulting
Gabriel Sheffield - below
“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.” - Gabriel Sheffield
Gabriel is a vibrations creator with a social consciousness and he embodies this with every experience he produces. Whether it be photography or music curation, he captures moments and remixes them to suit the mood of his audience.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand & Community Cultivation
Event Production / Consulting
#8 Lauren McMillan
“Cover the earth before it covers you.” - Lauren McMillan
Lauren is an innovative public relations professional with an extensive creative background. She specializes in strategic communications, brand architecture, media relations, copywriting and graphic design, pioneering creative ventures designed to bring exposure and promotion to entrepreneurs and small business owners.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Cultivation
Creative Design & Marketing Consulting
#7 Kurtis Graham
“If you never ask the answer will always be no.” - Kurtis Graham
Kurtis strives to inspire and support the young, fresh and talented artists and entrepreneurs of today. He seeks to showcase those in the community who are making their dreams come true by knocking down barriers and stereotypes in hopes of raising awareness, building organizations, and diversifying the entertainment community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Development
Media Consulting
#6 Scottie Smith II
“The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, and a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success!” - Scottie Smith II
Scottie is a real estate broker, investor, developer and author that has made a lifestyle out of sharing his experienced insight in realty and business. He’s passionate about entrepreneurship, providing spaces, finances and education to facilitate the next generation of professionals who are looking to follow in his footsteps.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Real Estate Consulting
#5 Benjamin Vann
“Work your plan.” - Benjamin Vann
Benjamin is an award winning social entrepreneur, venture strategist, speaker, and economic justice advocate. Benjamin is an expert in impact investing, combining grass root experiences with community organization, civic engagement, workforce empowerment, and non-profit board governance to bring DFW professionals access to capital unlike never before.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Investment & Financial Consulting
#4 Larry Yarrell
“Sometimes it's as simple as changing or challenging the lens with which we use to focus and shape our perspective.” - Larry Yarrell
Larry is an experienced chief operating officer with a demonstrated history of achievement in the marketing and advertising industry. He is a gifted executive coach, public speaker, and project manager who’s built a legacy out of giving young creatives professional experience that gone on to define their careers.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Mentorship & Program Counseling, Media & Sales Consulting
#3 Taylor Toynes
“Looking at my ancestors and elders with my young boys behind me. We the greatest story ever told.” - Taylor Toynes
Taylor is a philanthropist, executive director and civic organizer with a huge heart for humanity. He’s also a certified educator and humanitarian who’s made it his mission to bring resources, knowledge, and tailored support to urban communities. His servanthood has touched touched thousands of lives and inspired many more.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community, Education, & Youth Development
Non-Profit Consulting

#2 S. Lee Merritt
“Look within yourself and ask what’s your purpose. Plan out your impact. We need you.” - S. Lee Merritt
Lee is one of the most recognized civil attorneys not only in Texas but in the nation as he tackles some of the most high profile cases involving victims of police brutality, hate crimes and corporate discrimination. As an activist, he has championed police reform and community empowerment, by galvanizing conversations surrounding justice, race, and equality.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Culture Development
Legal Consulting

#1 James Armstrong III
“Everything I am God made me; Everything I have God gave me; All that I know God taught me; Where I am God brought me.” - James Armstrong III
James is a disciple of Christ, man of eminence, seeker of justice, pursuer of excellence, and economic bridge builder. His work in community development is unparalleled as he spearheads initiatives, policies and programs committed to improving the housing, finances, and quality of life of the common wealth of DFW.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Housing Development
Political & Legislative Consulting
Spiritual Leadership & Development
“To those who facilitate the programs, finances, and environments for dreamers to dream and warriors to fight this is an emphatic thank you. Your efforts are not only noticed, but they are needed to progress our increasingly complex and growing culture. Not much in this life is promised, but you’ve established a personal brand of quality that has transformed from trusted to expected. I can’t speak for those who take it for granted, but it’s a beautiful thing to witness excellence. I hope you’re not getting tired because we are sending many more your way to learn from your example and to follow your footsteps. Cheers to you.”
- David Pailin Jr. - President, TPC
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artistsxcreatives · 5 years ago
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The Aurum: Dallas Top 25 Vanguards
Aurum, the Latin word for gold, is most notably symbolized as "Au" in the scientific periodic table, but it takes on a different meaning at The Plutocrats Club. It represents the best… the few who inspire, create, and articulate vision for the rest of us. Often imitated, they’ve dedicated their careers to putting other brands, people, and organizations in the spotlight, by creating the most relevant platforms to do so.
Should you find yourself in Dallas, it would behoove you to connect with these individuals as they are at the forefront of the professional renaissance taking place in the city. Make no mistake, this isn’t a popularity contest. The pioneers you see below were selected using four distinct criteria.
Scope of Impact
Distinguished Achievement
Consistency & Sustainability
Primary Research
As we experience a new decade of black history, join us in recognizing the magnates who’ve worked extremely hard to make the future that much brighter for all of us.
#25 Adrian Killebrew Jr.
“Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.” - Adrian Killebrew Jr.
Adrian is a savvy professional whose ability to connect others and build relationships has allowed organizations to establish meaningful business connections nationally. Skilled in Business Development, Non-profit Management, Strategic Planning, Leadership, Career Development, and Sales Account Management, Adrian is a powerhouse in the DFW area.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Professional Development
Sales Consulting / Coaching
#24 Jasmine Armstrong
“Live for today, not for tomorrow!” - Jasmine Armstrong
Woman of God. Lover of Christ. Resident of Dallas. Jasmine is a class act of few words when it comes to describing herself, but her actions speak much louder as a professional speech pathologist and connector in Dallas.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Relationship Development
Speech Consulting / Coaching
#23 Joseph Abrahams
"As you invest in us, we invest in you bringing forth excellence within you." - Joseph Abrahams
Joseph has the uncanny ability to solve complex issues by taking responsibility for planning, procurement and execution of projects. He provides leadership in any undertaking that has a defined scope, start, and finish. In addition to that he’s all about advocacy for DFW professionals and entrepreneurs.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Project Management
#22 Brandon Moore
“I’m proud of a lot of people. I don’t always comment or tell people and I need to work on that but I’m just really happy to see people out here achieving. Even if they haven’t reached their exact goal I see so much progress out there and it really puts a smile on my face.” - Brandon Moore
Brandon leverages his diverse mix of experience consulting small businesses in multiple industries to help companies build their presence on social media. On the other side of that Brandon specializes in building communities to connect people in specific demographics. This allows him to tap into markets and create opportunities for businesses targeting thought leaders.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Development
Brand Consulting / Representation
#21 Tyrell Patterson / Jeremiah Egbele
Tyrell Patterson - below
“I’m not in charge, I don’t have to MAKE things happen, my life isn’t mine, my wife, my family my money my time it is allll Gods. I’m simply going to take my hands off and manage what he gave me. He owns it, not me. 2020 is the year it all makes sense and the vision is implemented. It’s time to run at the pace of obedience and watch God blow our minds” - Tyrell Patterson
Tyrell is a contagious communicator and financial specialist who provides clients, business owners, and entrepreneurs with strategies and tools to achieve their financial goals; chiefly by delivering data analysis to communicate intended outcomes and most efficient methods to reach them. His clients understand how to practically employ strategies and execute those processes that bring about maximum returns on energy, time, and finances.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Leadership Development & Community Cultivation
Financial Counseling
Jeremiah Egbele - below
“Mentors are like having cheat codes to life.” - Jeremiah Egbele
Creative Entrepreneur. Fashion Icon. Well Traveled. Those are just some of the words that describe Jeremiah the trendsetter and Sharepoint Systems Specialist. When he is not curating style he’s building walks of faith with intentionality.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Fashion, Culture, & Community Cultivation
IT Consulting
#20 Yasmine Lockett
“The only way to improve is to keep moving” - Yasmine Lockett
Yasmine is a creative and critical thinker who thrives on the big ideas. Not only is she an advocate for possibilities, but she also encourages those around her to find unshakeable joy. She’s dedicated close to a decade in support of DFW youth through innovative programs; with the goal of lessening the burdens that society often places on them.
Connect For
Education Opportunities
Program Development / Administration
Early Childhood Consulting
#19 Joshua Allen
”I told my high school band director I wanted to run a record label when I grew up. It’s pretty dope how Gods timing works.” - Joshua Allen
Joshua is an experienced graphic designer with a demonstrated history of working in the e-learning industry. Skilled in Non-profit Organizations, Retail, Sales, Event Management, and Media Relations, he has a passion for developing artists and musicians in the DFW area and has built a platform to do just that.
Connect For
Music Opportunities
Artist Development
Media Consulting
#18 Andrea Miles
“Karma is real and not to be played with.” - Andrea Miles
Andrea is a private practice attorney in Dallas County. She is very active in her community offering young professionals a chance to network and receive mentoring from some of the most talented and creative professionals in Dallas through hosted seminar settings. Andrea also mentors young girls, coaching them while teaching them leadership skills through sports.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Legal Consulting
#17 Sedrick Wall Jr.
“Sometimes you just have to smile in the face of an enemy.” - Sedrick Wall Jr.
Sedrick has over 10 years experience helping others achieve their dreams. He believes everyone has a story to tell and he is a conduit between their dreams and reality. He works as an Account Manager analyzing data, developing business strategies, and consulting on how to grow businesses while also owning his own custom suiting clothier.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community Development
Fashion & Systems Consulting
#16 Shaun Balkum
“Those who do not take risks will never really know how far they can go will they? This is why I continue to push the boundaries I want to challenge how far I can go and inspire change.” - Shaun Balkum
Shaun is a high fashion model and actor that has worked with brands all across the globe. His passion for creating his own lane in the DFW fashion scene has led him to becoming a modeling coach as well, providing training services to aspiring models and enlightening parents about the industry.
Connect For
High-Fashion Opportunities
Brand Development / Representation
Model Coaching
#15 Maurice Sanford
“Never Assume That Quiet Is Weak & Loud Is Strong.” - Maurice Sanford
Maurice is a highly sought after videographer and photographer who has built one of the largest client bases in DFW. His visual and editing skills have been sought after by corporations and artists alike.
Connect For
Media Opportunities
Brand Development / Cultivation
Videography & Photography Consulting
#14 Chloe Airhart
“God created you to shine, share His good news, bless those who don’t bless you, and learn to be joyful through the ups and downs that He places in your path. ” - Chloe Airhart
Chloe is a seasoned account executive that loves meeting new people and building relationships. Her work ethic is guided by vibrant creativity, moral values, and care for humankind. When she is not overseeing valuable client accounts she is providing styling advice and building faith networks.
Connect For
Spiritual Opportunities
Personal Branding & Fashion Cultivation
Account Management & Business Development Consulting
#13 Bola Ibidapo
“Faith + Consistency= New Heights. Build something that’s worth sharing. Build something that leaves impact. Watch God do the rest.” - Bola Ibidapo
Bola is the founder of two non-profits, one provides travel grants and passports to students studying or volunteering abroad and the other instills leadership and entrepreneurial development in young girls. As an advocate for student empowerment she gives rousing speeches on her insights and ideas regarding the significance of our youth.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Non-profit & Youth Programs Cultivation
Diversity, Inclusion, & Empowerment Consulting
#12 Noble Madu Jr.
“Small acts, multiplied by many people, can transform the world.” - Noble Madu Jr.
Noble is an investing and lending associate with a passion for service and development. He’s established several organizations fostering community involvement, professional development, and environmental impact. As a host of networking workshops and volunteer events he continually builds community and synergy between thought leaders and their constituents.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
STEM & Community Development
Financial Consulting
#11 Amber Williams
“Find beauty within an imperfect process.” - Amber Williams
Amber is private chef and caterer that has built an empire to educate and empower Millennials to not be afraid of the kitchen, create jobs, and skill-share. As a huge advocate for entrepreneurship, she is known for reaching back and helping others through doors that she’s worked hard to open.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Community Cultivation
Culinary Consulting
#10 Erik Grayson / Attah Armand Essien
Erik Grayson - below
“Market Yourself. Brand Yourself. Promote Yourself. Network Yourself. Invest in Yourself.” - Erik Grayson
Erik is a brand builder and business consultant that controls the pulse of the Dallas event scene. His collective of social events, apparel and co-working spaces have made him a go to for connections, networking, and celebrations.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
Attah Armand Essien - below
“Thank You God for another day, another week, another opportunity!” - Attah Armand Essien
Attah is the man to know in Dallas, and an expert in utilizing social media marketing and advertising, with a proven ability to generate inbound traffic, develop a brand and build awareness, as well as cultivate leads and sales. As an event director and cultural ambassador of DFW, he gives professionals and networkers alike unprecedented access to the Dallas social scene and greater community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
#9 Kiera Tate / Gabriel Sheffield
Kiera Tate - below
“God made no mistake when he made you exactly the way he did. God made no mistake when he showed you that dream, when he gave you those friends and that job and those kids and that family. So go out there and glow Saint.” - Kiera Tate
Kiera is an architectural designer with extensive experience in graphic design and front end development. She is a connector of talents, people, and ideas leading by example as a contemporary renaissance woman in the truest sense.
Connect for
Business Opportunities
Professional & Community Cultivation
Creative Design / Consulting
Gabriel Sheffield - below
“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.” - Gabriel Sheffield
Gabriel is a vibrations creator with a social consciousness and he embodies this with every experience he produces. Whether it be photography or music curation, he captures moments and remixes them to suit the mood of his audience.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand & Community Cultivation
Event Production / Consulting
#8 Lauren McMillan
“Cover the earth before it covers you.” - Lauren McMillan
Lauren is an innovative public relations professional with an extensive creative background. She specializes in strategic communications, brand architecture, media relations, copywriting and graphic design, pioneering creative ventures designed to bring exposure and promotion to entrepreneurs and small business owners.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Cultivation
Creative Design & Marketing Consulting
#7 Kurtis Graham
“If you never ask the answer will always be no.” - Kurtis Graham
Kurtis strives to inspire and support the young, fresh and talented artists and entrepreneurs of today. He seeks to showcase those in the community who are making their dreams come true by knocking down barriers and stereotypes in hopes of raising awareness, building organizations, and diversifying the entertainment community.
Connect For
Social Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Development
Media Consulting
#6 Scottie Smith II
“The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, and a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success!” - Scottie Smith II
Scottie is a real estate broker, investor, developer and author that has made a lifestyle out of sharing his experienced insight in realty and business. He’s passionate about entrepreneurship, providing spaces, finances and education to facilitate the next generation of professionals who are looking to follow in his footsteps.
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Community & Professional Development
Real Estate Consulting
#5 Benjamin Vann
“Work your plan.” - Benjamin Vann
Benjamin is an award winning social entrepreneur, venture strategist, speaker, and economic justice advocate. Benjamin is an expert in impact investing, combining grass root experiences with community organization, civic engagement, workforce empowerment, and non-profit board governance to bring DFW professionals access to capital unlike never before.
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Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Investment & Financial Consulting
#4 Larry Yarrell
“Sometimes it's as simple as changing or challenging the lens with which we use to focus and shape our perspective.” - Larry Yarrell
Larry is an experienced chief operating officer with a demonstrated history of achievement in the marketing and advertising industry. He is a gifted executive coach, public speaker, and project manager who’s built a legacy out of giving young creatives professional experience that gone on to define their careers.
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Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Mentorship & Program Counseling, Media & Sales Consulting
#3 Taylor Toynes
“Looking at my ancestors and elders with my young boys behind me. We the greatest story ever told.” - Taylor Toynes
Taylor is a philanthropist, executive director and civic organizer with a huge heart for humanity. He’s also a certified educator and humanitarian who’s made it his mission to bring resources, knowledge, and tailored support to urban communities. His servanthood has touched touched thousands of lives and inspired many more.
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Philanthropic Opportunities
Community, Education, & Youth Development
Non-Profit Consulting

#2 S. Lee Merritt
“Look within yourself and ask what’s your purpose. Plan out your impact. We need you.” - S. Lee Merritt
Lee is one of the most recognized civil attorneys not only in Texas but in the nation as he tackles some of the most high profile cases involving victims of police brutality, hate crimes and corporate discrimination. As an activist, he has championed police reform and community empowerment, by galvanizing conversations surrounding justice, race, and equality.
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Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Culture Development
Legal Consulting

#1 James Armstrong III
“Everything I am God made me; Everything I have God gave me; All that I know God taught me; Where I am God brought me.” - James Armstrong III
James is a disciple of Christ, man of eminence, seeker of justice, pursuer of excellence, and economic bridge builder. His work in community development is unparalleled as he spearheads initiatives, policies and programs committed to improving the housing, finances, and quality of life of the common wealth of DFW.
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Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Housing Development
Political & Legislative Consulting
Spiritual Leadership & Development
“To those who facilitate the programs, finances, and environments for dreamers to dream and warriors to fight this is an emphatic thank you. Your efforts are not only noticed, but they are needed to progress our increasingly complex and growing culture. Not much in this life is promised, but you’ve established a personal brand of quality that has transformed from trusted to expected. I can’t speak for those who take it for granted, but it’s a beautiful thing to witness excellence. I hope you’re not getting tired because we are sending many more your way to learn from your example and to follow your footsteps. Cheers to you.”
- David Pailin Jr. - President, TPC
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The Aurum: Dallas Top 25 Vanguards
Aurum, the Latin word for gold, is most notably symbolized as "Au" in the scientific periodic table, but it takes on a different meaning at The Plutocrats Club. It represents the best… the few who inspire, create, and articulate vision for the rest of us. Often imitated, they’ve dedicated their careers to putting other brands, people, and organizations in the spotlight, by creating the most relevant platforms to do so.
Should you find yourself in Dallas, it would behoove you to connect with these individuals as they are at the forefront of the professional renaissance taking place in the city. Make no mistake, this isn’t a popularity contest. The pioneers you see below were selected using four distinct criteria.
Scope of Impact
Distinguished Achievement
Consistency & Sustainability
Primary Research
As we experience a new decade of black history, join us in recognizing the magnates who’ve worked extremely hard to make the future that much brighter for all of us.
#25 Adrian Killebrew Jr.
“Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.” - Adrian Killebrew Jr.
Adrian is a savvy professional whose ability to connect others and build relationships has allowed organizations to establish meaningful business connections nationally. Skilled in Business Development, Non-profit Management, Strategic Planning, Leadership, Career Development, and Sales Account Management, Adrian is a powerhouse in the DFW area.
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Business Opportunities
Professional Development
Sales Consulting / Coaching
#24 Jasmine Armstrong
“Live for today, not for tomorrow!” - Jasmine Armstrong
Woman of God. Lover of Christ. Resident of Dallas. Jasmine is a class act of few words when it comes to describing herself, but her actions speak much louder as a professional speech pathologist and connector in Dallas.
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Spiritual Opportunities
Relationship Development
Speech Consulting / Coaching
#23 Joseph Abrahams
"As you invest in us, we invest in you bringing forth excellence within you." - Joseph Abrahams
Joseph has the uncanny ability to solve complex issues by taking responsibility for planning, procurement and execution of projects. He provides leadership in any undertaking that has a defined scope, start, and finish. In addition to that he’s all about advocacy for DFW professionals and entrepreneurs.
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Business Opportunities
Speaking Engagements
Project Management
#22 Brandon Moore
“I’m proud of a lot of people. I don’t always comment or tell people and I need to work on that but I’m just really happy to see people out here achieving. Even if they haven’t reached their exact goal I see so much progress out there and it really puts a smile on my face.” - Brandon Moore
Brandon leverages his diverse mix of experience consulting small businesses in multiple industries to help companies build their presence on social media. On the other side of that Brandon specializes in building communities to connect people in specific demographics. This allows him to tap into markets and create opportunities for businesses targeting thought leaders.
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Social Opportunities
Community Development
Brand Consulting / Representation
#21 Tyrell Patterson / Jeremiah Egbele
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“I’m not in charge, I don’t have to MAKE things happen, my life isn’t mine, my wife, my family my money my time it is allll Gods. I’m simply going to take my hands off and manage what he gave me. He owns it, not me. 2020 is the year it all makes sense and the vision is implemented. It’s time to run at the pace of obedience and watch God blow our minds” - Tyrell Patterson
Tyrell is a contagious communicator and financial specialist who provides clients, business owners, and entrepreneurs with strategies and tools to achieve their financial goals; chiefly by delivering data analysis to communicate intended outcomes and most efficient methods to reach them. His clients understand how to practically employ strategies and execute those processes that bring about maximum returns on energy, time, and finances.
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Spiritual Opportunities
Leadership Development & Community Cultivation
Financial Counseling
Jeremiah Egbele - below
“Mentors are like having cheat codes to life.” - Jeremiah Egbele
Creative Entrepreneur. Fashion Icon. Well Traveled. Those are just some of the words that describe Jeremiah the trendsetter and Sharepoint Systems Specialist. When he is not curating style he’s building walks of faith with intentionality.
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Spiritual Opportunities
Fashion, Culture, & Community Cultivation
IT Consulting
#20 Yasmine Lockett
“The only way to improve is to keep moving” - Yasmine Lockett
Yasmine is a creative and critical thinker who thrives on the big ideas. Not only is she an advocate for possibilities, but she also encourages those around her to find unshakeable joy. She’s dedicated close to a decade in support of DFW youth through innovative programs; with the goal of lessening the burdens that society often places on them.
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Education Opportunities
Program Development / Administration
Early Childhood Consulting
#19 Joshua Allen
”I told my high school band director I wanted to run a record label when I grew up. It’s pretty dope how Gods timing works.” - Joshua Allen
Joshua is an experienced graphic designer with a demonstrated history of working in the e-learning industry. Skilled in Non-profit Organizations, Retail, Sales, Event Management, and Media Relations, he has a passion for developing artists and musicians in the DFW area and has built a platform to do just that.
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Music Opportunities
Artist Development
Media Consulting
#18 Andrea Miles
“Karma is real and not to be played with.” - Andrea Miles
Andrea is a private practice attorney in Dallas County. She is very active in her community offering young professionals a chance to network and receive mentoring from some of the most talented and creative professionals in Dallas through hosted seminar settings. Andrea also mentors young girls, coaching them while teaching them leadership skills through sports.
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Speaking Engagements
Legal Consulting
#17 Sedrick Wall Jr.
“Sometimes you just have to smile in the face of an enemy.” - Sedrick Wall Jr.
Sedrick has over 10 years experience helping others achieve their dreams. He believes everyone has a story to tell and he is a conduit between their dreams and reality. He works as an Account Manager analyzing data, developing business strategies, and consulting on how to grow businesses while also owning his own custom suiting clothier.
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Philanthropic Opportunities
Community Development
Fashion & Systems Consulting
#16 Shaun Balkum
“Those who do not take risks will never really know how far they can go will they? This is why I continue to push the boundaries I want to challenge how far I can go and inspire change.” - Shaun Balkum
Shaun is a high fashion model and actor that has worked with brands all across the globe. His passion for creating his own lane in the DFW fashion scene has led him to becoming a modeling coach as well, providing training services to aspiring models and enlightening parents about the industry.
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High-Fashion Opportunities
Brand Development / Representation
Model Coaching
#15 Maurice Sanford
“Never Assume That Quiet Is Weak & Loud Is Strong.” - Maurice Sanford
Maurice is a highly sought after videographer and photographer who has built one of the largest client bases in DFW. His visual and editing skills have been sought after by corporations and artists alike.
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Media Opportunities
Brand Development / Cultivation
Videography & Photography Consulting
#14 Chloe Airhart
“God created you to shine, share His good news, bless those who don’t bless you, and learn to be joyful through the ups and downs that He places in your path. ” - Chloe Airhart
Chloe is a seasoned account executive that loves meeting new people and building relationships. Her work ethic is guided by vibrant creativity, moral values, and care for humankind. When she is not overseeing valuable client accounts she is providing styling advice and building faith networks.
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Spiritual Opportunities
Personal Branding & Fashion Cultivation
Account Management & Business Development Consulting
#13 Bola Ibidapo
“Faith + Consistency= New Heights. Build something that’s worth sharing. Build something that leaves impact. Watch God do the rest.” - Bola Ibidapo
Bola is the founder of two non-profits, one provides travel grants and passports to students studying or volunteering abroad and the other instills leadership and entrepreneurial development in young girls. As an advocate for student empowerment she gives rousing speeches on her insights and ideas regarding the significance of our youth.
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Philanthropic Opportunities
Non-profit & Youth Programs Cultivation
Diversity, Inclusion, & Empowerment Consulting
#12 Noble Madu Jr.
“Small acts, multiplied by many people, can transform the world.” - Noble Madu Jr.
Noble is an investing and lending associate with a passion for service and development. He’s established several organizations fostering community involvement, professional development, and environmental impact. As a host of networking workshops and volunteer events he continually builds community and synergy between thought leaders and their constituents.
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Business Opportunities
STEM & Community Development
Financial Consulting
#11 Amber Williams
“Find beauty within an imperfect process.” - Amber Williams
Amber is private chef and caterer that has built an empire to educate and empower Millennials to not be afraid of the kitchen, create jobs, and skill-share. As a huge advocate for entrepreneurship, she is known for reaching back and helping others through doors that she’s worked hard to open.
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Community Cultivation
Culinary Consulting
#10 Erik Grayson / Attah Armand Essien
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“Market Yourself. Brand Yourself. Promote Yourself. Network Yourself. Invest in Yourself.” - Erik Grayson
Erik is a brand builder and business consultant that controls the pulse of the Dallas event scene. His collective of social events, apparel and co-working spaces have made him a go to for connections, networking, and celebrations.
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Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
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“Thank You God for another day, another week, another opportunity!” - Attah Armand Essien
Attah is the man to know in Dallas, and an expert in utilizing social media marketing and advertising, with a proven ability to generate inbound traffic, develop a brand and build awareness, as well as cultivate leads and sales. As an event director and cultural ambassador of DFW, he gives professionals and networkers alike unprecedented access to the Dallas social scene and greater community.
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Social & Community Development
Event Planning / Consulting
#9 Kiera Tate / Gabriel Sheffield
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“God made no mistake when he made you exactly the way he did. God made no mistake when he showed you that dream, when he gave you those friends and that job and those kids and that family. So go out there and glow Saint.” - Kiera Tate
Kiera is an architectural designer with extensive experience in graphic design and front end development. She is a connector of talents, people, and ideas leading by example as a contemporary renaissance woman in the truest sense.
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Professional & Community Cultivation
Creative Design / Consulting
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“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.” - Gabriel Sheffield
Gabriel is a vibrations creator with a social consciousness and he embodies this with every experience he produces. Whether it be photography or music curation, he captures moments and remixes them to suit the mood of his audience.
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Brand & Community Cultivation
Event Production / Consulting
#8 Lauren McMillan
“Cover the earth before it covers you.” - Lauren McMillan
Lauren is an innovative public relations professional with an extensive creative background. She specializes in strategic communications, brand architecture, media relations, copywriting and graphic design, pioneering creative ventures designed to bring exposure and promotion to entrepreneurs and small business owners.
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Business Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Cultivation
Creative Design & Marketing Consulting
#7 Kurtis Graham
“If you never ask the answer will always be no.” - Kurtis Graham
Kurtis strives to inspire and support the young, fresh and talented artists and entrepreneurs of today. He seeks to showcase those in the community who are making their dreams come true by knocking down barriers and stereotypes in hopes of raising awareness, building organizations, and diversifying the entertainment community.
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Social Opportunities
Brand, Community & Culture Development
Media Consulting
#6 Scottie Smith II
“The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, and a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success!” - Scottie Smith II
Scottie is a real estate broker, investor, developer and author that has made a lifestyle out of sharing his experienced insight in realty and business. He’s passionate about entrepreneurship, providing spaces, finances and education to facilitate the next generation of professionals who are looking to follow in his footsteps.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Real Estate Consulting
#5 Benjamin Vann
“Work your plan.” - Benjamin Vann
Benjamin is an award winning social entrepreneur, venture strategist, speaker, and economic justice advocate. Benjamin is an expert in impact investing, combining grass root experiences with community organization, civic engagement, workforce empowerment, and non-profit board governance to bring DFW professionals access to capital unlike never before.
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Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Investment & Financial Consulting
#4 Larry Yarrell
“Sometimes it's as simple as changing or challenging the lens with which we use to focus and shape our perspective.” - Larry Yarrell
Larry is an experienced chief operating officer with a demonstrated history of achievement in the marketing and advertising industry. He is a gifted executive coach, public speaker, and project manager who’s built a legacy out of giving young creatives professional experience that gone on to define their careers.
Connect For
Business Opportunities
Community & Professional Development
Mentorship & Program Counseling, Media & Sales Consulting
#3 Taylor Toynes
“Looking at my ancestors and elders with my young boys behind me. We the greatest story ever told.” - Taylor Toynes
Taylor is a philanthropist, executive director and civic organizer with a huge heart for humanity. He’s also a certified educator and humanitarian who’s made it his mission to bring resources, knowledge, and tailored support to urban communities. His servanthood has touched touched thousands of lives and inspired many more.
Connect For
Philanthropic Opportunities
Community, Education, & Youth Development
Non-Profit Consulting

#2 S. Lee Merritt
“Look within yourself and ask what’s your purpose. Plan out your impact. We need you.” - S. Lee Merritt
Lee is one of the most recognized civil attorneys not only in Texas but in the nation as he tackles some of the most high profile cases involving victims of police brutality, hate crimes and corporate discrimination. As an activist, he has championed police reform and community empowerment, by galvanizing conversations surrounding justice, race, and equality.
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Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Culture Development
Legal Consulting

#1 James Armstrong III
“Everything I am God made me; Everything I have God gave me; All that I know God taught me; Where I am God brought me.” - James Armstrong III
James is a disciple of Christ, man of eminence, seeker of justice, pursuer of excellence, and economic bridge builder. His work in community development is unparalleled as he spearheads initiatives, policies and programs committed to improving the housing, finances, and quality of life of the common wealth of DFW.
Connect For
Advocacy Opportunities
Community & Housing Development
Political & Legislative Consulting
Spiritual Leadership & Development
“To those who facilitate the programs, finances, and environments for dreamers to dream and warriors to fight this is an emphatic thank you. Your efforts are not only noticed, but they are needed to progress our increasingly complex and growing culture. Not much in this life is promised, but you’ve established a personal brand of quality that has transformed from trusted to expected. I can’t speak for those who take it for granted, but it’s a beautiful thing to witness excellence. I hope you’re not getting tired because we are sending many more your way to learn from your example and to follow your footsteps. Cheers to you.”
- David Pailin Jr. - President, TPC
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Questions to ask yourself before dating someone
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  by John Bedwany
Many B2B companies that use Business Development Managers (BDM) or Sales Development Representatives (SDR) to generate leads for senior sales people are pouring wads of cash down a bottomless hole. Put simply, the current approach just isn’t working.
Companies are having fewer and fewer first sales conversations. Even when a BDM gets to speak to someone the results often go nowhere. Decent leads are becoming an endangered species.
Let’s look at the numbers.
The numbers
According to Forrester Research if a BDM/SDR makes 100 calls this will generate between 2 and 4 initial sales meetings with a prospect – and only 10% to 20% of those initial sales meetings result in a second meeting (much less a sale).
This is why the cost per lead for most B2B companies is high and getting higher. At the same time, the value of deals is decreasing thanks to increased competition and the move towards subscription based services and away from high-cost capital products and services.
Something has to give.
The reasons
To quote Professor Julius Sumner Miller, “Why is it so?” Why are SDRs (I’m going to use SDRs from now on – assume BDMs are also included) finding it harder and harder to talk to prospects?
There are several reasons:
People are more and more busy as companies strive for more productivity
There are more and more SDRs chasing business
The amount of “white noise” – phone calls, ads, emails, web sites, social media links – is drowning everything out
The processes and methods most companies use for their SDRs are broken.
There’s a not a whole lot we can do about the first three reasons but there’s a lot we can do about the fourth. But when confronted with the numbers and the problems discussed above, what’s the usual response?
The usual response
The common response to these issues goes along the lines of:
We need more leads so we need to make more calls
If we make more calls it costs more money – so we need to reduce the cost of SDRs
That means we need more junior (therefore less well paid) SDRs or we need to outsource them to lower paying economies
Let’s use technology like autodiallers so we can make more calls
Not only are these responses flawed, they are counterproductive. If everyone else makes more calls it just exacerbates the problem. It becomes an arms race to see who can make the most calls.
What do you think your prospects, who are already overwhelmed with work and with constant interruptions, think of that idea?
This approach either doesn’t work or it results in more bad leads. It creates the common scenario where Sales complains that Marketing sends them useless leads that waste their time when they follow them up. Meanwhile, Marketing complains that Sales doesn’t follow their leads up quickly enough, if at all.
Often both are right.
A broken strategy
The traditional approach is broken. There are a number of reasons I’ve listed below. The most important by far is this – the SDR process is focused on the seller, not the prospect.
A quick Google search of multiple SDR job descriptions consistently throws up a standard view of the role’s requirement. This is confirmed in many articles, blogs and opinion pieces by sales and prospecting specialists.
Most people agree that the key requirement of an SDR’s role is to “Present our products and services to prospects“.
And that’s the problem.
Because – and I hate to break this to you – your prospects couldn’t care less about your products and services.
They don’t care about what you do, why you do it, how technologically advanced you are, how many case studies you have, what awards you’ve won, where your new offices are, your white papers, your brochures and where you sit in a Gartner magic quadrant.
They don’t care about your company. If you’re small they’ve probably never heard of you and they don’t want to. If you’re big and well known they probably have a misconceived preconception of what you do.
They care about one thing and one thing only (at least in a work environment).
Themselves. Their company, their customers, their KPIs, their colleagues, their responsibilities, their superiors and employees, their products and services.
Just like you do.
A New Hope
Once you understand this fact you can help your SDRs dramatically improve their performance and numbers by looking at your strategy through the eyes of your prospects.
Because while your prospects don’t give a damn about you and what you do, they might care very much about what you can do for them.
So your strategy needs to focus on that, not on yourself.
Let’s look at the traditional approach and compare it to the prospect oriented approach. This has the effect of turning everything you’ve ever thought upside down – so hang on to your hats. Some of the problems are:
Many SDRs are wet behind the ears
Who do you want your SDRs to call?
Decision makers. People with Authority. People who put the “A” into BANT. By definition, these are senior business people who have significant business and/or technical problems. People who know their company, their problems and their business inside out.
People like you.
So tell me, do you want a 25-year-old SDR earning $60,000 a year with little or no real life business experience, someone you’ve never met and who you don’t care about, to interrupt your busy day and try to talk to you about your business issues?
If you’re serious about improving your SDR team’s results by focusing on your prospect, not yourself, you need SDRs who have the skills and experience to talk to prospects about their business issues on their level. People who can provide insight, hold an intelligent conversation and demonstrate they know what they’re talking about.
Everything you know about qualifying is wrong
When you speak to a prospect you need to know he or she has sufficient authority to make a decision, you need to know if they have a budget, a need and ideally a time frame? Otherwise, you’re wasting your time. Right?
Right – maybe! Or to put it another way, not.
Look at it from the perspective of a prospect. If the primary focus of a call is to determine if they are important enough to talk to and rich enough to buy stuff from you, it isn’t exactly the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
Qualification is done entirely for your own purposes, not for the prospect’s, and he or she is already disinterested enough when you interrupt his/her busy day without you weighing him up like a fish to see if you should throw him/her back or not.
Do you need to know if they have authority? Of course – but shouldn’t you know that before you call?
Do you need to know if they have a need? Absolutely – but shouldn’t you only be calling organizations where there’s a good chance they will have a need?
Do you need to know if they have a budget? Maybe – but if they have, someone has helped them set that budget. If they’ve got as far as setting a budget they have almost certainly already talked to other vendors and those vendors have the inside running, not you.
But if you catch them before they have a budget – and you know how to help them along until they set one – you can get the inside run.
Do you need to know if they have a timeframe? Yes – if they know themselves, but what if that timeframe is next year? Do you toss them aside and forget them, focused on making this year’s numbers or do you have a program to nurture and educate them so that when they are ready you have a trusted relationship in place?
For far too many B2B companies the answer to that last question is NO.
The primary purpose of any call shouldn’t be qualification, it should be to begin a relationship and talk about the prospect’s business issues in their terms. Qualification should be a side effect, not the reason for the call.
What do you talk about?
Many SDRs’ strategy goes something like this.
“I’d like to talk to you about how we can help you fix this problem. Do you have a moment?
“Great. We have this wonderful product that fixes that problem, but rather than talk about the problem (or perish the thought, ask you intelligent questions to help me understand your perspective) I’m going to bore you rigid with references, product specifications, lists of people who use it and case studies that blend with every other case study everyone else does.”
That isn’t the fault of the SDRs, by the way, it’s the strategy they are taught.
By doing some simple things – talking about the business issues, asking perceptive questions, taking the time to understand the prospect’s perspective, discussing the impact on the prospect and NOT talking about the solution until you fully understand their viewpoint – you can dramatically increase the number of first sales conversations AND subsequent second conversations.
Timing
If you could make contact with every single prospect in your total addressable market right now and have a meaningful conversation about their business issues, understand their priorities and agree they have a need – how many current sales opportunities would you uncover?
More than you have now, for sure.
But you would probably find that less than 5% of these prospects are actively looking for a solution to the problem you help solve right now.
Why? Because they have lots and lots of other problems and there’s a limit to how many they can focus on at any one time. They may have a need but they also have many other needs – many with a higher priority.
So what do you do?
The ideal answer is to provide them with some valuable information, to keep sending them relevant materials and insights and to start them on a nurturing and education program. One that ensures that when they are ready to focus on the problem they have a relationship with you, you know lots about them, they understand how you can help them and you’re on the way to developing a trusted relationship.
But the more usual answer is “no opportunity here, move on, next call“. And the longer term opportunity is lost.
Burning your brand
We’ve seen that 100 calls usually lead to between 2 and 4 first consultative meetings.
But what about the 98 to 96 calls that didn’t result in a first meeting? What impression did that leave on them? What will those people do the next time you call them, then the time after?
If your approach is more calls, more campaigns, faster qualification there’s a real danger you’re leaving a trail of annoyed people and creating lasting damage to your brand.
If you have an infinite market and you can afford to churn through prospects in order to find a few lumps of gold among the dross you might get away with this approach. But if, like most B2B companies selling high-value solutions, you have a finite market you really can’t afford to burn your brand by bothering prospects with multiple unrelated sales calls.
More leads, more calls
That’s the normal thought process. We need more leads. In order to get more leads, we need to make more calls. In order to make more calls within our budget, we need to increase call targets, hire cheaper people, do more of the same only faster.
It doesn’t work.
You don’t need more leads. More bad leads waste your sales executives’ time following up and it poisons the relationship between sales and marketing.
What you need is more high quality leads with trusted relationships in place. Leads where you already know what the prospect needs, what they believe, what they value and what their priorities are.
Leads where the prospect knows you understand their business issues, where they trust you to help them, not just try to flog them stuff. Where they know the information you send them will be useful and relevant, not standardized marketing stuff.
Leads where the sales executive can walk into a warm relationship and build upon it to help the prospect, shorten the sales cycle and increase your leads to sales ratio.
Leads that help the sales executive to succeed. Leads that make the sales executives’ eyes gleam with anticipation, not sigh with exasperation.
You don’t need more calls. You need more business conversations
You don’t need more leads. You need more high quality leads with trusted relationships in place.
And right now the vast majority of SDRs aren’t generating that kind of lead.
Digital Marketing
Digital marketing – emails, social media, etc. – is a critical component of any prospecting approach and can be enormously effective – but as a component, not by itself.
I wrote an extensive article on the subject titled “Why Digital Marketing is failing in Enterprise Accounts” and I’m not going to repeat that here except to say that digital is great but taken alone it isn’t enough.
The Solution
This isn’t meant to be a commercial article but as I’ve clearly defined the problem it’s incumbent on me to define the solution. And as the CEO of a company that has delivered high-quality pipeline with trusted relationships in place to major organizations including Adobe, Amazon Web Services, Commvault, Fujitsu, Google, IBM, HPE, HPI, Microsoft, Nissan, Optus, SAP, Telstra, and VMWare I can only talk from my own experience.
So here’s the solution.
Data Strategy
Everything begins with data. Every call made to a company that is too small, that doesn’t have the need for the solution we’re promoting or that can’t afford to buy it is a waste of our Clients’ time and money.
Before every campaign, we put in a lot of effort with our Clients to make sure we’re targeting the right companies and the right people in those companies. We use sophisticated Predictive Analysis to identify the right targets. We provide detailed Contact Discovery that uses social media, the Internet, our Clients’ data and the telephone to make sure the data is as accurate as possible.
We aggregate all existing data on target companies and individuals from multiple sources – our Clients’ CRM, lists of event attendees, email lists, marketing campaigns, ERP systems and so on – into our in-house Integrated Marketing Database to give us a 360-degree view of the prospects.
We update the centralized data on a regular basis depending on the source and we use it to record insights, create notes and record all communications with the prospects via many different channels (conversations, emails, etc.).
When we communicate with a prospect we know who has said what to them, when, how and what was said so we can build on that every time we talk.
Messaging Strategy
Before we begin any campaign we develop a structured, persona based messaging strategy that focuses on the business problems our Clients can solve and the various perspectives of different kinds of prospects.
This allows us to define industry based and role based messaging – because the perspective of a CEO and a CFO on the impact and priorities of a particular problem can be quite different. And all messaging is initially based on the needs of the prospect and their business issues.
(Obviously, we also make sure we have an intimate understanding of the product/service, what it does, how it works and how it helps solve the problem – but we always start with the problem).
ARM Consultants
We don’t call our people SDRs, we call them ARM Consultants. ARM stands for Authentic Relationship Management – because their role isn’t to sell, it’s to consult, to learn, to educate and to build trusted relationships with prospects on behalf of our clients.
Because they are calling senior business people they need to be able to converse with them on their level. So we only hire people for this role with at least 10 years business experience. The average age of our ARM Consultants is 50 (our most senior is 70 and is an ex-CEO and ex-partner at PWC).
Whether they’re talking to a CEO, a CIO, a Head of Infrastructure or a SME owner they can talk intelligently about their problems and their issues in their terms.
Training and Methodologies
Just because you’re intelligent, mature, experienced and capable doesn’t mean you know what to do. We follow a proprietary structured methodology called Authentic Relationship Management.
We don’t let our ARM Consultants loose on our Clients’ prospects – no matter how experienced they are – until they have studied and are certified on our 16 module ARM Business Platform training program that covers our methodologies, our tools and the way we approach prospects and Clients.
Targets
Obviously, we have very specific targets but they aren’t all based on sales accepted opportunities. The number of sales accepted opportunities is just one of our ARM Consultants’ KPIs and they occur as a by-product of the many other things we do. But when they do occur they are true leads with a trusted relationship in place, measured by the sales reps enthusiastically accepting the opportunity as a genuine one.
But our main focus is much more on holding meaningful conversations, building trusted relationships, measuring the strength of the relationship, sharing relevant collateral at the right time, understanding and sharing insights into their industry and their issues, identifying their time frames and building a view of a future pipeline.
As a result we gather valuable market information (that can be used for Challenger Selling), share insights and provide value to the prospects, identify which collateral is seen as valuable and relevant – and as a result, generate rich sales accepted pipeline with strong relationships in place.
Calls
Our focus is on quality conversations rather than calls.
You can’t make 100 calls a day and have lots of meaningful business conversations. Our ARM Consultants aim to close 15 calls per day but the number of meaningful conversations we have is very high and the ratio of first to second conversations is over 60%.
Summary – Achieving More by Doing Less
Our motto is “Achieving More by Doing Less“.
The current trend of work faster, work harder, more calls, more leads has failed. It’s become a case of more hamsters running on more treadmills producing more noise to little effect.
We work hard, we work fast but above all, we work respectfully and intelligently. We follow a structured methodology that’s considered, consistent and that works – because our focus is on the prospect and their perspective.
And that’s our advice when people ask us how they can help their SDRs (and BDMs) to deliver the results their companies are demanding.
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sunshineweb · 7 years ago
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Inverting the Money Problem
In the controversial movie, The Social Network, which supposedly portrayed Mark Zuckerberg’s Facebook journey, Sean Parker’s character famously quipped –
“A million dollars isn’t cool. You know what’s cool? A billion dollars.”
It’s probably the most favourite problem that majority of the individuals in the world are trying to figure out i.e., how to get rich?
So let’s investigate this problem by using Charlie Munger’s most cherished mental model i.e., inverting the problems to solve them.
One of the ways to invert the question of “How to Get Rich?” is to ask, “Is getting rich worth it?”
Before you decide to skip this article thinking that it’s another one of those “money can’t buy happiness” rant, just stick with me for few more minutes and I promise that you won’t regret it.
In fact, this is a good opportunity to wear our curiosity hats and look at the hardships that tag along with large sums of money. Now given the fact that the author, yours truly, isn’t super rich (money wise at least) and likely never will be, is it justified for him to comment on the problems of the rich?
In my defence, all I have to say is that I never let my lack of first-hand experience with a topic stop me from speculating on it.
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Maybe, like the proverbial fox and his sour grapes, I am deluding myself with a story that I never wanted what I will never be able to get. Or maybe I belong to the camp of those cash-poor intellectual types who want to prove to the world that rich people secretly live a miserable life.
I am not ruling out any of these possibilities where my subconscious is playing a game.
Yet, it’s plausible that I am trying to squint your eyes a bit to help you discover a different perspective – a view from the other side of the fence where the grass seems to be greener and wealthier.
This article is inspired by a very interesting discussion thread on Quora. The participants in this thread include some well known, successful and rich people including folks like Paul Buchheit, the creator of Gmail. So it’s safe to assume that it’s not a pure thought experiment imagined by an armchair philosopher.
Although the Quora thread had a lot of abstract and philosophical arguments, I have distilled out the ones which appealed the most to the rational side of my brain.
Put simply, the question to explore here is this – How does an incremental money above a certain amount can actually subtract from your happiness through the additional hassle it creates?
Not every item that I am going to list here is a problem for every rich person, but some, even many, of these are possibilities. And let me remind you again that these are not my personal beliefs and I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, but they made me smile while thinking about them. Consider them my musings on the topic of unintended consequences of extreme wealth.
On a serious note, if you ever plan to amass wealth and fame, you should at least know what’s in store for you.
The first category of challenge of being rich is related to the social interactions i.e., your equation with people around you.
Your Right to Crib is Revoked
Now that you’re rich (and people know that you’re rich), you are not allowed to complain about anything. Ever.
Since you’ve just achieved the financial nirvana, you’re no longer allowed to have any human needs or frustrations in the public eye.
Yet, you are still a human being. Aren’t you? But most people aren’t going to treat you like one.
This may not really be that big a problem because, when you’re rich, you probably won’t care much as to what people think about you.
But here’s the catch.
When you find yourself struggling with a nasty problem, which obviously can’t be solved by throwing money at (remember you’re rich), and you’re desperately seeking help from your family and friends – your folks won’t believe that you’re helpless.
You’re pretty much on your own.
Unrealistic Expectations
Your relationship with your friends and family will change. It may not necessarily turn sour but it will surely get harder to deal with. Not because of money but because of change in expectations.
Since you’re the superman now and have large resources at your disposal, it’s expected out of you to rescue everyone.
You may be expected, not by all but by some family and friends, to dole out interest-free – give it and forget it – loans. And it doesn’t stop there. You aren’t allowed to get away by giving modest gifts on special occasions.
“C’mon man! You’re a millionaire. Don’t be cheap. Shell out some moolah for an expensive gift.”
Hidden Intentions
Wealth makes you more discoverable unless you put a lot of efforts to lay low. Which means it attracts attention from all sorts of people – genuine and not so genuine.
Genuine people may want to learn from your wisdom, experience and skill but there would be many whose sole interest would be to shake loose some money from your pockets.
Point is that most people now want something out of you, and it can be harder to figure out whether someone is being nice to you because they like you, or they are being nice to you because of your money. This is especially true of strangers who know more about your wealth than about you as a human being.
A typical solution for this problem is to create a screen to ensure that only genuine people get access to you. But this screen will invariably filter out some good people also. Which means you’ll still be interacting with a mix of people, it’s just that the scale of this problem will be bigger because you’re rich.
A side effect of this strategy is that it can often cause wealthy people to cut themselves off from the larger society, out of fear that they will be exploited by selfish motives. As a result, the richness and variety in your social circle may become very limited.
Whoever said, “It’s lonely at the top,” probably was referring to this effect.
The next category of challenge of being super rich is related to your relationship with yourself i.e., the psychological effects of getting rich.
Amplification Effect
Wealth removes constraints, which means becoming wealthy has the potential to mess with you. But it depends on what type of person you are. In general, it makes people more of whatever they already were.
For example, if someone has a serious alcohol or other drug addiction, wealth could be fatal for him. On the other hand, if a person is generous, polite, and resourceful, money will amplify those qualities in his or her behaviour.
David Foster Wallace said, “Happy people are often still happy when they become millionaires. Unhappy people are often still unhappy when they become millionaires.”
Freedom Brings Dilemma
Money can give you the freedom to focus on the things that truly matter to you. But that comes with the assumption that you already know what truly matters to you.
Most people work hard and money keeps them focused on earning more, doing the career-ladder thing and working towards their goals, but when they finally attain that money-goal, it gives birth to weird issues.
The void created by financial freedom could be a difficult one to fill. Which is why many supposedly rich people continue to work hard at earning more money because it keeps them busy.
The most profound effect that becoming financially successful can have on someone is the task of answering the question – “I wonder what am I supposed to do next?”
Ironically, the ability to pursue activities that you find meaningful and bring you happiness does not depend on getting rich. Albeit insufficiency of funds calls for some resourcefulness on your part to continue pursuing your passion.
Many people subscribe to the belief along the lines of Charlie Sheen’s in the movie Wall Street, when he’s asked what he’s going to do when he makes his millions and he says, “I’m going to get a motorcycle and ride across China.” Rolf Potts,  author of Vagabonding, points out that you could clean toilets in the US and save enough money to ride a motorcycle across China. 
Today, you don’t need a million dollars to travel the world.
The Paradox of Desire
Now, this could appear as an entirely unanticipated downside of getting rich.
Being rich is better than not being rich, but it’s not nearly as good as you imagine it is.
All of the things you want to buy one day, are only valuable to you because you cannot afford them yet (or have to work really hard to acquire them). Maybe you have your eyes set on the new Ferrari but once you know you can easily afford it, it just doesn’t mean as much to you anymore.
It’s basic human nature that the things which are just out of reach seem desirable. The moment an object of desire becomes easily available to you, its charm loses grip on you. This is especially true for things which are your wants, not needs.
Realising that your dreams aren’t always what they were cracked up to be can bring in severe disappointment. Following which a boredom could quickly set in.
Diminishing Marginal Utility
Human mind is not good at evaluating things in absolute. It needs a benchmark or something to compare with to assess the value of something. Using this insight let’s see what The Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility says –
For each additional unit of a good the added satisfaction, you receive from consuming the good, decreases.
Yes, the first month you drive the Audi or eat in an expensive restaurant, you really enjoy it. But then you quickly get used to it. And then you are looking towards the next thing, the next level up. The problem is that you have bumped up your expectations, and everything below that level doesn’t entice you anymore.
Calvin and The Law of Diminishing Returns: Source: Bill Watterson Ben Cosnocha, in his deeply thoughtful article The Goldilocks Theory of Being Rich, writes –
[As super rich] You’ll fly private jets, yes. You’ll eat nice food all the time, you’ll have aides and servants who will save you time. Problem is, we quickly adapt to these material comforts—what psychologists call the “hedonic treadmill.” The private jet doesn’t feel so special the 20th time you’re on it.
A research was done on two sets of people. First group consisted of those who experienced a personal tragedy like losing a loved one or even becoming physically handicapped (losing one or more limbs) which diminished their ability to function normally. The second group of people consisted of those who suddenly became rich.
The research revealed that in both the groups, people returned to their base level of happiness, one year after the fortunate/unfortunate events.
Jason Zweig, in his wonderful book Your Money and Your Brain, summarized all the above points brilliantly. He writes –
Becoming a lottery winner takes only an instant; being one lasts the rest of your life. People who actually win the lottery are often shocked by the aftermath of their lucky draw. There are plenty of thrills from suddenly making a fortune, just as the winners expected. But there are less obvious and less predictable consequences, too. The phone rings off the hook with calls from crooks and desperately friendly acquaintances. Ensconced in your new mansion, you no longer see your old neighbors as often; instead, you are besieged by long-lost relatives who should have stayed lost. Everyone you ever rubbed the wrong way files a lawsuit against you. Quit your job, and you miss your friends and go crazy with boredom; keep it, and your co-workers all seem to hate you or hit you up for money. It becomes hard to tell who your real friends are, so you spend more time alone. At home, you bicker constantly with your spouse over what to do with the money.
Conclusion
I read somewhere, “Money doesn’t necessarily wipe out all your troubles. It just changes the kind of problems that life presents you. The only people who are completely trouble free are buried in the cemetery.”
If one is not happy now, chances are that he won’t be happy even when he is rich. I am sure there are many super rich people who are happy and maintain a healthy inner peace.
I suspect that it’s nice to be super rich but maybe not for the reasons many of us think.
Kevin Kelly, who is known as the most interesting man in the world, in his interview with Tim Ferriss, reminded –
Great wealth, extreme wealth, is definitely overrated. There’s nothing that you can really do with it that you can’t do with a lot of less money. The things that you want to do, the things that will make you content, the things that will satisfy you, the things that will bring you meaning … is usually better than having money.
…if you have a lot of time or a lot of money, it’s always better to have a lot of time to do something. If you have a choice between having a lot of friends or a lot of money, you definitely want to have a lot of friends.
…the technological progress that we’re having is actually diminishing the role of money. And I want to be clear that I’m talking about money beyond the amount that you need to survive. So in a certain sense, most people see money as a means to get these other things, but there are other routes to these other things that are deeper and more constant and more durable and more powerful. Money is a very small, one-dimensional thing, that if you focus on that, it kind of comes and goes. And if you … whatever it is that you’re trying to attain, you go to it more directly through other means, you’ll probably wind up with a more powerful experience or whatever it is that you’re after. And it’ll be deeper, more renewable, than coming at it with money.
Let me repeat, the intention in this post is not to pass judgement but to look at a situation from a different vantage point. And my goal for compiling these thoughts was more with an intention of exploration than preaching.
If you have any interesting dimensions to add to this line of thought, feel free to leave your thought in the Comments section of this post.
Also Read – Is getting rich worth it?
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Inverting the Money Problem
In the controversial movie, The Social Network, which supposedly portrayed Mark Zuckerberg’s Facebook journey, Sean Parker’s character famously quipped –
“A million dollars isn’t cool. You know what’s cool? A billion dollars.”
It’s probably the most favourite problem that majority of the individuals in the world are trying figure out i.e., how to get rich?
So let’s investigate this problem by using Charlie Munger’s most cherished mental model i.e., inverting the problems to solve them.
One of the ways to invert the question of “How to Get Rich?” is to ask, “Is getting rich worth it?”
Before you decide to skip this article thinking that it’s another one of those “money can’t buy happiness” rant, just stick with me for few more minutes and I promise that you won’t regret it.
In fact, this is a good opportunity to wear our curiosity hats and look at the hardships that tag along with large sums of money. Now given the fact that the author, yours truly, isn’t super rich (money wise at least) and likely never will be, is it justified for him to comment on the problems of the rich?
In my defence, all I have to say is that I never let my lack of first-hand experience with a topic stop me from speculating on it.
Maybe, like the proverbial fox and his sour grapes, I am deluding myself with a story that I never wanted what I will never be able to get. Or maybe I belong to the camp of those cash-poor intellectual types who want to prove to the world that rich people secretly live a miserable life.
I am not ruling out any of these possibilities where my subconscious is playing a game.
Yet, it’s plausible that I am trying to squint your eyes a bit to help you discover a different perspective – a view from the other side of the fence where the grass seems to be greener and wealthier.
This article is inspired by a very interesting discussion thread on Quora. The participants in this thread include some well known, successful and rich people including folks like Paul Buchheit, the creator of Gmail. So it’s safe to assume that it’s not a pure thought experiment imagined by an armchair philosopher.
Although the Quora thread had a lot of abstract and philosophical arguments, I have distilled out the ones which appealed the most to the rational side of my brain.
Put simply, the question to explore here is this – How does an incremental money above a certain amount can actually subtract from your happiness through the additional hassle it creates?
Not every item that I am going to list here is a problem for every rich person, but some, even many, of these are possibilities. And let me remind you again that these are not my personal beliefs and I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, but they made me smile while thinking about them. Consider them my musings on the topic of unintended consequences of extreme wealth.
On a serious note, if you ever plan to amass wealth and fame, you should at least know what’s in store for you.
The first category of challenge of being rich is related to the social interactions i.e., your equation with people around you.
Your Right to Crib is Revoked
Now that you’re rich (and people know that you’re rich), you are not allowed to complain about anything. Ever.
Since you’ve just achieved the financial nirvana, you’re no longer allowed to have any human needs or frustrations in the public eye.
Yet, you are still a human being. Aren’t you? But most people aren’t going to treat you like one.
This may not really be that big a problem because, when you’re rich, you probably won’t care much as to what people think about you.
But here’s the catch.
When you find yourself struggling with a nasty problem, which obviously can’t be solved by throwing money at (remember you’re rich), and you’re desperately seeking help from your family and friends – your folks won’t believe that you’re helpless.
You’re pretty much on your own.
Unrealistic Expectations
Your relationship with your friends and family will change. It may not necessarily turn sour but it will surely get harder to deal with. Not because of money but because of change in expectations.
Since you’re the superman now and have large resources at your disposal, it’s expected out of you to rescue everyone.
You may be expected, not by all but by some family and friends, to dole out interest-free – give it and forget it – loans. And it doesn’t stop there. You aren’t allowed to get away by giving modest gifts on special occasions.
“C’mon man! You’re a millionaire. Don’t be cheap. Shell out some moolah for an expensive gift.”
Hidden Intentions
Wealth makes you more discoverable unless you put a lot of efforts to lay low. Which means it attracts attention from all sorts of people – genuine and not so genuine.
Genuine people may want to learn from your wisdom, experience and skill but there would be many whose sole interest would be to shake loose some money from your pockets.
Point is that most people now want something out of you, and it can be harder to figure out whether someone is being nice to you because they like you, or they are being nice to you because of your money. This is especially true of strangers who know more about your wealth than about you as a human being.
A typical solution for this problem is to create a screen to ensure that only genuine people get access to you. But this screen will invariably filter out some good people also. Which means you’ll still be interacting with a mix of people, it’s just that the scale of this problem will be bigger because you’re rich.
A side effect of this strategy is that it can often cause wealthy people to cut themselves off from the larger society, out of fear that they will be exploited by selfish motives. As a result, the richness and variety in your social circle may become very limited.
Whoever said, “It’s lonely at the top,” probably was referring to this effect.
The next category of challenge of being super rich is related to your relationship with yourself i.e., the psychological effects of getting rich.
Amplification Effect
Wealth removes constraints, which means becoming wealthy has the potential to mess with you. But it depends on what type of person you are. In general, it makes people more of whatever they already were.
For example, if someone has a serious alcohol or other drug addiction, wealth could be fatal for him. On the other hand, if a person is generous, polite, and resourceful, money will amplify those qualities in his or her behaviour.
David Foster Wallace said, “Happy people are often still happy when they become millionaires. Unhappy people are often still unhappy when they become millionaires.”
Freedom Brings Dilemma
Money can give you the freedom to focus on the things that truly matter to you. But that comes with the assumption that you already know what truly matters to you.
Most people work hard and money keeps them focused on earning more, doing the career-ladder thing and working towards their goals, but when they finally attain that money-goal, it gives birth to weird issues.
The void created by financial freedom could be a difficult one to fill. Which is why many supposedly rich people continue to work hard at earning more money because it keeps them busy.
The most profound effect that becoming financially successful can have on someone is the task of answering the question – “I wonder what am I supposed to do next?”
Ironically, the ability to pursue activities that you find meaningful and bring you happiness does not depend on getting rich. Albeit insufficiency of funds calls for some resourcefulness on your part to continue pursuing your passion.
Many people subscribe to the belief along the lines of Charlie Sheen’s in the movie Wall Street, when he’s asked what he’s going to do when he makes his millions and he says, “I’m going to get a motorcycle and ride across China.” Rolf Potts,  author of Vagabonding, points out that you could clean toilets in the US and save enough money to ride a motorcycle across China. 
Today, you don’t need a million dollars to travel the world.
The Paradox of Desire
Now, this could appear as an entirely unanticipated downside of getting rich.
Being rich is better than not being rich, but it’s not nearly as good as you imagine it is.
All of the things you want to buy one day, are only valuable to you because you cannot afford them yet (or have to work really hard to acquire them). Maybe you have your eyes set on the new Ferrari but once you know you can easily afford it, it just doesn’t mean as much to you anymore.
It’s basic human nature that the things which are just out of reach seem desirable. The moment an object of desire becomes easily available to you, its charm loses grip on you. This is especially true for things which are your wants, not needs.
Realising that your dreams aren’t always what they were cracked up to be can bring in severe disappointment. Following which a boredom could quickly set in.
Diminishing Marginal Utility
Human mind is not good at evaluating things in absolute. It needs a benchmark or something to compare with to assess the value of something. Using this insight let’s see what The Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility says –
For each additional unit of a good the added satisfaction, you receive from consuming the good, decreases.
Yes, the first month you drive the Audi or eat in an expensive restaurant, you really enjoy it. But then you quickly get used to it. And then you are looking towards the next thing, the next level up. The problem is that you have bumped up your expectations, and everything below that level doesn’t entice you anymore.
Calvin and The Law of Diminishing Returns: Source: Bill Watterson Ben Cosnocha, in his deeply thoughtful article The Goldilocks Theory of Being Rich, writes –
[As super rich] You’ll fly private jets, yes. You’ll eat nice food all the time, you’ll have aides and servants who will save you time. Problem is, we quickly adapt to these material comforts—what psychologists call the “hedonic treadmill.” The private jet doesn’t feel so special the 20th time you’re on it.
A research was done on two sets of people. First group consisted of those who experienced a personal tragedy like losing a loved one or even becoming physically handicapped (losing one or more limbs) which diminished their ability to function normally. The second group of people consisted of those who suddenly became rich.
The research revealed that in both the groups, people returned to their base level of happiness, one year after the fortunate/unfortunate events.
Jason Zweig, in his wonderful book Your Money and Your Brain, summarized all the above points brilliantly. He writes –
Becoming a lottery winner takes only an instant; being one lasts the rest of your life. People who actually win the lottery are often shocked by the aftermath of their lucky draw. There are plenty of thrills from suddenly making a fortune, just as the winners expected. But there are less obvious and less predictable consequences, too. The phone rings off the hook with calls from crooks and desperately friendly acquaintances. Ensconced in your new mansion, you no longer see your old neighbors as often; instead, you are besieged by long-lost relatives who should have stayed lost. Everyone you ever rubbed the wrong way files a lawsuit against you. Quit your job, and you miss your friends and go crazy with boredom; keep it, and your co-workers all seem to hate you or hit you up for money. It becomes hard to tell who your real friends are, so you spend more time alone. At home, you bicker constantly with your spouse over what to do with the money.
Conclusion
I read somewhere, “Money doesn’t necessarily wipe out all your troubles. It just changes the kind of problems that life presents you. The only people who are completely trouble free are buried in the cemetery.”
If one is not happy now, chances are that he won’t be happy even when he is rich. I am sure there are many super rich people who are happy and maintain a healthy inner peace.
I suspect that it’s nice to be super rich but maybe not for the reasons many of us think.
Kevin Kelly, who is known as the most interesting man in the world, in his interview with Tim Ferriss, reminded –
Great wealth, extreme wealth, is definitely overrated. There’s nothing that you can really do with it that you can’t do with a lot of less money. The things that you want to do, the things that will make you content, the things that will satisfy you, the things that will bring you meaning … is usually better than having money.
…if you have a lot of time or a lot of money, it’s always better to have a lot of time to do something. If you have a choice between having a lot of friends or a lot of money, you definitely want to have a lot of friends.
…the technological progress that we’re having is actually diminishing the role of money. And I want to be clear that I’m talking about money beyond the amount that you need to survive. So in a certain sense, most people see money as a means to get these other things, but there are other routes to these other things that are deeper and more constant and more durable and more powerful. Money is a very small, one-dimensional thing, that if you focus on that, it kind of comes and goes. And if you … whatever it is that you’re trying to attain, you go to it more directly through other means, you’ll probably wind up with a more powerful experience or whatever it is that you’re after. And it’ll be deeper, more renewable, than coming at it with money.
Let me repeat, the intention in this post is not to pass judgement but to look at a situation from a different vantage point. And my goal for compiling these thoughts was more with an intention of exploration than preaching.
If you have any interesting dimensions to add to this line of thought, feel free to leave your thought in the Comments section of this post.
Also Read – Is getting rich worth it?
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Inverting the Money Problem
In the controversial movie, The Social Network, which supposedly portrayed Mark Zuckerberg’s Facebook journey, Sean Parker’s character famously quipped –
“A million dollars isn’t cool. You know what’s cool? A billion dollars.”
It’s probably the most favourite problem that majority of the individuals in the world are trying figure out i.e., how to get rich?
So let’s investigate this problem by using Charlie Munger’s most cherished mental model i.e., inverting the problems to solve them.
One of the ways to invert the question of “How to Get Rich?” is to ask, “Is getting rich worth it?”
Before you decide to skip this article thinking that it’s another one of those “money can’t buy happiness” rant, just stick with me for few more minutes and I promise that you won’t regret it.
In fact, this is a good opportunity to wear our curiosity hats and look at the hardships that tag along with large sums of money. Now given the fact that the author, yours truly, isn’t super rich (money wise at least) and likely never will be, is it justified for him to comment on the problems of the rich?
In my defence, all I have to say is that I never let my lack of first-hand experience with a topic stop me from speculating on it.
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Maybe, like the proverbial fox and his sour grapes, I am deluding myself with a story that I never wanted what I will never be able to get. Or maybe I belong to the camp of those cash-poor intellectual types who want to prove to the world that rich people secretly live a miserable life.
I am not ruling out any of these possibilities where my subconscious is playing a game.
Yet, it’s plausible that I am trying to squint your eyes a bit to help you discover a different perspective – a view from the other side of the fence where the grass seems to be greener and wealthier.
This article is inspired by a very interesting discussion thread on Quora. The participants in this thread include some well known, successful and rich people including folks like Paul Buchheit, the creator of Gmail. So it’s safe to assume that it’s not a pure thought experiment imagined by an armchair philosopher.
Although the Quora thread had a lot of abstract and philosophical arguments, I have distilled out the ones which appealed the most to the rational side of my brain.
Put simply, the question to explore here is this – How does an incremental money above a certain amount can actually subtract from your happiness through the additional hassle it creates?
Not every item that I am going to list here is a problem for every rich person, but some, even many, of these are possibilities. And let me remind you again that these are not my personal beliefs and I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, but they made me smile while thinking about them. Consider them my musings on the topic of unintended consequences of extreme wealth.
On a serious note, if you ever plan to amass wealth and fame, you should at least know what’s in store for you.
The first category of challenge of being rich is related to the social interactions i.e., your equation with people around you.
Your Right to Crib is Revoked
Now that you’re rich (and people know that you’re rich), you are not allowed to complain about anything. Ever.
Since you’ve just achieved the financial nirvana, you’re no longer allowed to have any human needs or frustrations in the public eye.
Yet, you are still a human being. Aren’t you? But most people aren’t going to treat you like one.
This may not really be that big a problem because, when you’re rich, you probably won’t care much as to what people think about you.
But here’s the catch.
When you find yourself struggling with a nasty problem, which obviously can’t be solved by throwing money at (remember you’re rich), and you’re desperately seeking help from your family and friends – your folks won’t believe that you’re helpless.
You’re pretty much on your own.
Unrealistic Expectations
Your relationship with your friends and family will change. It may not necessarily turn sour but it will surely get harder to deal with. Not because of money but because of change in expectations.
Since you’re the superman now and have large resources at your disposal, it’s expected out of you to rescue everyone.
You may be expected, not by all but by some family and friends, to dole out interest-free – give it and forget it – loans. And it doesn’t stop there. You aren’t allowed to get away by giving modest gifts on special occasions.
“C’mon man! You’re a millionaire. Don’t be cheap. Shell out some moolah for an expensive gift.”
Hidden Intentions
Wealth makes you more discoverable unless you put a lot of efforts to lay low. Which means it attracts attention from all sorts of people – genuine and not so genuine.
Genuine people may want to learn from your wisdom, experience and skill but there would be many whose sole interest would be to shake loose some money from your pockets.
Point is that most people now want something out of you, and it can be harder to figure out whether someone is being nice to you because they like you, or they are being nice to you because of your money. This is especially true of strangers who know more about your wealth than about you as a human being.
A typical solution for this problem is to create a screen to ensure that only genuine people get access to you. But this screen will invariably filter out some good people also. Which means you’ll still be interacting with a mix of people, it’s just that the scale of this problem will be bigger because you’re rich.
A side effect of this strategy is that it can often cause wealthy people to cut themselves off from the larger society, out of fear that they will be exploited by selfish motives. As a result, the richness and variety in your social circle may become very limited.
Whoever said, “It’s lonely at the top,” probably was referring to this effect.
The next category of challenge of being super rich is related to your relationship with yourself i.e., the psychological effects of getting rich.
Amplification Effect
Wealth removes constraints, which means becoming wealthy has the potential to mess with you. But it depends on what type of person you are. In general, it makes people more of whatever they already were.
For example, if someone has a serious alcohol or other drug addiction, wealth could be fatal for him. On the other hand, if a person is generous, polite, and resourceful, money will amplify those qualities in his or her behaviour.
David Foster Wallace said, “Happy people are often still happy when they become millionaires. Unhappy people are often still unhappy when they become millionaires.”
Freedom Brings Dilemma
Money can give you the freedom to focus on the things that truly matter to you. But that comes with the assumption that you already know what truly matters to you.
Most people work hard and money keeps them focused on earning more, doing the career-ladder thing and working towards their goals, but when they finally attain that money-goal, it gives birth to weird issues.
The void created by financial freedom could be a difficult one to fill. Which is why many supposedly rich people continue to work hard at earning more money because it keeps them busy.
The most profound effect that becoming financially successful can have on someone is the task of answering the question – “I wonder what am I supposed to do next?”
Ironically, the ability to pursue activities that you find meaningful and bring you happiness does not depend on getting rich. Albeit insufficiency of funds calls for some resourcefulness on your part to continue pursuing your passion.
Many people subscribe to the belief along the lines of Charlie Sheen’s in the movie Wall Street, when he’s asked what he’s going to do when he makes his millions and he says, “I’m going to get a motorcycle and ride across China.” Rolf Potts,  author of Vagabonding, points out that you could clean toilets in the US and save enough money to ride a motorcycle across China. 
Today, you don’t need a million dollars to travel the world.
The Paradox of Desire
Now, this could appear as an entirely unanticipated downside of getting rich.
Being rich is better than not being rich, but it’s not nearly as good as you imagine it is.
All of the things you want to buy one day, are only valuable to you because you cannot afford them yet (or have to work really hard to acquire them). Maybe you have your eyes set on the new Ferrari but once you know you can easily afford it, it just doesn’t mean as much to you anymore.
It’s basic human nature that the things which are just out of reach seem desirable. The moment an object of desire becomes easily available to you, its charm loses grip on you. This is especially true for things which are your wants, not needs.
Realising that your dreams aren’t always what they were cracked up to be can bring in severe disappointment. Following which a boredom could quickly set in.
Diminishing Marginal Utility
Human mind is not good at evaluating things in absolute. It needs a benchmark or something to compare with to assess the value of something. Using this insight let’s see what The Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility says –
For each additional unit of a good the added satisfaction, you receive from consuming the good, decreases.
Yes, the first month you drive the Audi or eat in an expensive restaurant, you really enjoy it. But then you quickly get used to it. And then you are looking towards the next thing, the next level up. The problem is that you have bumped up your expectations, and everything below that level doesn’t entice you anymore.
Calvin and The Law of Diminishing Returns: Source: Bill Watterson Ben Cosnocha, in his deeply thoughtful article The Goldilocks Theory of Being Rich, writes –
[As super rich] You’ll fly private jets, yes. You’ll eat nice food all the time, you’ll have aides and servants who will save you time. Problem is, we quickly adapt to these material comforts—what psychologists call the “hedonic treadmill.” The private jet doesn’t feel so special the 20th time you’re on it.
A research was done on two sets of people. First group consisted of those who experienced a personal tragedy like losing a loved one or even becoming physically handicapped (losing one or more limbs) which diminished their ability to function normally. The second group of people consisted of those who suddenly became rich.
The research revealed that in both the groups, people returned to their base level of happiness, one year after the fortunate/unfortunate events.
Jason Zweig, in his wonderful book Your Money and Your Brain, summarized all the above points brilliantly. He writes –
Becoming a lottery winner takes only an instant; being one lasts the rest of your life. People who actually win the lottery are often shocked by the aftermath of their lucky draw. There are plenty of thrills from suddenly making a fortune, just as the winners expected. But there are less obvious and less predictable consequences, too. The phone rings off the hook with calls from crooks and desperately friendly acquaintances. Ensconced in your new mansion, you no longer see your old neighbors as often; instead, you are besieged by long-lost relatives who should have stayed lost. Everyone you ever rubbed the wrong way files a lawsuit against you. Quit your job, and you miss your friends and go crazy with boredom; keep it, and your co-workers all seem to hate you or hit you up for money. It becomes hard to tell who your real friends are, so you spend more time alone. At home, you bicker constantly with your spouse over what to do with the money.
Conclusion
I read somewhere, “Money doesn’t necessarily wipe out all your troubles. It just changes the kind of problems that life presents you. The only people who are completely trouble free are buried in the cemetery.”
If one is not unhappy now, chances are that he won’t be happy even when he is rich. I am sure there are many super rich people who are happy and maintain a healthy inner peace.
I suspect that it’s nice to be super rich but maybe not for the reasons many of us think.
Kevin Kelly, who is known as the most interesting man in the world, in his interview with Tim Ferriss, reminded –
Great wealth, extreme wealth, is definitely overrated. There’s nothing that you can really do with it that you can’t do with a lot of less money. The things that you want to do, the things that will make you content, the things that will satisfy you, the things that will bring you meaning … is usually better than having money.
…if you have a lot of time or a lot of money, it’s always better to have a lot of time to do something. If you have a choice between having a lot of friends or a lot of money, you definitely want to have a lot of friends.
…the technological progress that we’re having is actually diminishing the role of money. And I want to be clear that I’m talking about money beyond the amount that you need to survive. So in a certain sense, most people see money as a means to get these other things, but there are other routes to these other things that are deeper and more constant and more durable and more powerful. Money is a very small, one-dimensional thing, that if you focus on that, it kind of comes and goes. And if you … whatever it is that you’re trying to attain, you go to it more directly through other means, you’ll probably wind up with a more powerful experience or whatever it is that you’re after. And it’ll be deeper, more renewable, than coming at it with money.
Let me repeat, the intention in this post is not to pass judgement but to look at a situation from a different vantage point. And my goal for compiling these thoughts was more with an intention of exploration than preaching.
If you have any interesting dimensions to add to this line of thought, feel free to leave your thought in the Comments section of this post.
Also Read – Is getting rich worth it?
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Inverting the Money Problem
In the controversial movie, The Social Network, which supposedly portrayed Mark Zuckerberg’s Facebook journey, Sean Parker’s character famously quipped –
“A million dollars isn’t cool. You know what’s cool? A billion dollars.”
It’s probably the most favourite problem that majority of the individuals in the world are trying figure out i.e., how to get rich?
So let’s investigate this problem by using Charlie Munger’s most cherished mental model i.e., inverting the problems to solve them.
One of the ways to invert the question of “How to Get Rich?” is to ask, “Is getting rich worth it?”
Before you decide to skip this article thinking that it’s another one of those “money can’t buy happiness” rant, just stick with me for few more minutes and I promise that you won’t regret it.
In fact, this is a good opportunity to wear our curiosity hats and look at the hardships that tag along with large sums of money. Now given the fact that the author, yours truly, isn’t super rich (money wise at least) and likely never will be, is it justified for him to comment on the problems of the rich?
In my defence, all I have to say is that I never let my lack of first-hand experience with a topic stop me from speculating on it.
Maybe, like the proverbial fox and his sour grapes, I am deluding myself with a story that I never wanted what I will never be able to get. Or maybe I belong to the camp of those cash-poor intellectual types who want to prove to the world that rich people secretly live a miserable life.
I am not ruling out any of these possibilities where my subconscious is playing a game.
Yet, it’s plausible that I am trying to squint your eyes a bit to help you discover a different perspective – a view from the other side of the fence where the grass seems to be greener and wealthier.
This article is inspired by a very interesting discussion thread on Quora. The participants in this thread include some well known, successful and rich people including folks like Paul Buchheit, the creator of Gmail. So it’s safe to assume that it’s not a pure thought experiment imagined by an armchair philosopher.
Although the Quora thread had a lot of abstract and philosophical arguments, I have distilled out the ones which appealed the most to the rational side of my brain.
Put simply, the question to explore here is this – How does an incremental money above a certain amount can actually subtract from your happiness through the additional hassle it creates?
Not every item that I am going to list here is a problem for every rich person, but some, even many, of these are possibilities. And let me remind you again that these are not my personal beliefs and I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, but they made me smile while thinking about them. Consider them my musings on the topic of unintended consequences of extreme wealth.
On a serious note, if you ever plan to amass wealth and fame, you should at least know what’s in store for you.
The first category of challenge of being rich is related to the social interactions i.e., your equation with people around you.
Your Right to Crib is Revoked
Now that you’re rich (and people know that you’re rich), you are not allowed to complain about anything. Ever.
Since you’ve just achieved the financial nirvana, you’re no longer allowed to have any human needs or frustrations in the public eye.
Yet, you are still a human being. Aren’t you? But most people aren’t going to treat you like one.
This may not really be that big a problem because, when you’re rich, you probably won’t care much as to what people think about you.
But here’s the catch.
When you find yourself struggling with a nasty problem, which obviously can’t be solved by throwing money at (remember you’re rich), and you’re desperately seeking help from your family and friends – your folks won’t believe that you’re helpless.
You’re pretty much on your own.
Unrealistic Expectations
Your relationship with your friends and family will change. It may not necessarily turn sour but it will surely get harder to deal with. Not because of money but because of change in expectations.
Since you’re the superman now and have large resources at your disposal, it’s expected out of you to rescue everyone.
You may be expected, not by all but by some family and friends, to dole out interest-free – give it and forget it – loans. And it doesn’t stop there. You aren’t allowed to get away by giving modest gifts on special occasions.
“C’mon man! You’re a millionaire. Don’t be cheap. Shell out some moolah for an expensive gift.”
Hidden Intentions
Wealth makes you more discoverable unless you put a lot of efforts to lay low. Which means it attracts attention from all sorts of people – genuine and not so genuine.
Genuine people may want to learn from your wisdom, experience and skill but there would be many whose sole interest would be to shake loose some money from your pockets.
Point is that most people now want something out of you, and it can be harder to figure out whether someone is being nice to you because they like you, or they are being nice to you because of your money. This is especially true of strangers who know more about your wealth than about you as a human being.
A typical solution for this problem is to create a screen to ensure that only genuine people get access to you. But this screen will invariably filter out some good people also. Which means you’ll still be interacting with a mix of people, it’s just that the scale of this problem will be bigger because you’re rich.
A side effect of this strategy is that it can often cause wealthy people to cut themselves off from the larger society, out of fear that they will be exploited by selfish motives. As a result, the richness and variety in your social circle may become very limited.
Whoever said, “It’s lonely at the top,” probably was referring to this effect.
The next category of challenge of being super rich is related to your relationship with yourself i.e., the psychological effects of getting rich.
Amplification Effect
Wealth removes constraints, which means becoming wealthy has the potential to mess with you. But it depends on what type of person you are. In general, it makes people more of whatever they already were.
For example, if someone has a serious alcohol or other drug addiction, wealth could be fatal for him. On the other hand, if a person is generous, polite, and resourceful, money will amplify those qualities in his or her behaviour.
David Foster Wallace said, “Happy people are often still happy when they become millionaires. Unhappy people are often still unhappy when they become millionaires.”
Freedom Brings Dilemma
Money can give you the freedom to focus on the things that truly matter to you. But that comes with the assumption that you already know what truly matters to you.
Most people work hard and money keeps them focused on earning more, doing the career-ladder thing and working towards their goals, but when they finally attain that money-goal, it gives birth to weird issues.
The void created by financial freedom could be a difficult one to fill. Which is why many supposedly rich people continue to work hard at earning more money because it keeps them busy.
The most profound effect that becoming financially successful can have on someone is the task of answering the question – “I wonder what am I supposed to do next?”
Ironically, the ability to pursue activities that you find meaningful and bring you happiness does not depend on getting rich. Albeit insufficiency of funds calls for some resourcefulness on your part to continue pursuing your passion.
Many people subscribe to the belief along the lines of Charlie Sheen’s in the movie Wall Street, when he’s asked what he’s going to do when he makes his millions and he says, “I’m going to get a motorcycle and ride across China.” Rolf Potts,  author of Vagabonding, points out that you could clean toilets in the US and save enough money to ride a motorcycle across China. 
Today, you don’t need a million dollars to travel the world.
The Paradox of Desire
Now, this could appear as an entirely unanticipated downside of getting rich.
Being rich is better than not being rich, but it’s not nearly as good as you imagine it is.
All of the things you want to buy one day, are only valuable to you because you cannot afford them yet (or have to work really hard to acquire them). Maybe you have your eyes set on the new Ferrari but once you know you can easily afford it, it just doesn’t mean as much to you anymore.
It’s basic human nature that the things which are just out of reach seem desirable. The moment an object of desire becomes easily available to you, its charm loses grip on you. This is especially true for things which are your wants, not needs.
Realising that your dreams aren’t always what they were cracked up to be can bring in severe disappointment. Following which a boredom could quickly set in.
Diminishing Marginal Utility
Human mind is not good at evaluating things in absolute. It needs a benchmark or something to compare with to assess the value of something. Using this insight let’s see what The Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility says –
For each additional unit of a good the added satisfaction, you receive from consuming the good, decreases.
Yes, the first month you drive the Audi or eat in an expensive restaurant, you really enjoy it. But then you quickly get used to it. And then you are looking towards the next thing, the next level up. The problem is that you have bumped up your expectations, and everything below that level doesn’t entice you anymore.
Calvin and The Law of Diminishing Returns: Source: Bill Watterson Ben Cosnocha, in his deeply thoughtful article The Goldilocks Theory of Being Rich, writes –
[As super rich] You’ll fly private jets, yes. You’ll eat nice food all the time, you’ll have aides and servants who will save you time. Problem is, we quickly adapt to these material comforts—what psychologists call the “hedonic treadmill.” The private jet doesn’t feel so special the 20th time you’re on it.
A research was done on two sets of people. First group consisted of those who experienced a personal tragedy like losing a loved one or even becoming physically handicapped (losing one or more limbs) which diminished their ability to function normally. The second group of people consisted of those who suddenly became rich.
The research revealed that in both the groups, people returned to their base level of happiness, one year after the fortunate/unfortunate events.
Jason Zweig, in his wonderful book Your Money and Your Brain, summarized all the above points brilliantly. He writes –
Becoming a lottery winner takes only an instant; being one lasts the rest of your life. People who actually win the lottery are often shocked by the aftermath of their lucky draw. There are plenty of thrills from suddenly making a fortune, just as the winners expected. But there are less obvious and less predictable consequences, too. The phone rings off the hook with calls from crooks and desperately friendly acquaintances. Ensconced in your new mansion, you no longer see your old neighbors as often; instead, you are besieged by long-lost relatives who should have stayed lost. Everyone you ever rubbed the wrong way files a lawsuit against you. Quit your job, and you miss your friends and go crazy with boredom; keep it, and your co-workers all seem to hate you or hit you up for money. It becomes hard to tell who your real friends are, so you spend more time alone. At home, you bicker constantly with your spouse over what to do with the money.
Conclusion
I read somewhere, “Money doesn’t necessarily wipe out all your troubles. It just changes the kind of problems that life presents you. The only people who are completely trouble free are buried in the cemetery.”
If one is not unhappy now, chances are that he won’t be happy even when he is rich. I am sure there are many super rich people who are happy and maintain a healthy inner peace.
I suspect that it’s nice to be super rich but maybe not for the reasons many of us think.
Kevin Kelly, who is known as the most interesting man in the world, in his interview with Tim Ferriss, reminded –
Great wealth, extreme wealth, is definitely overrated. There’s nothing that you can really do with it that you can’t do with a lot of less money. The things that you want to do, the things that will make you content, the things that will satisfy you, the things that will bring you meaning … is usually better than having money.
…if you have a lot of time or a lot of money, it’s always better to have a lot of time to do something. If you have a choice between having a lot of friends or a lot of money, you definitely want to have a lot of friends.
…the technological progress that we’re having is actually diminishing the role of money. And I want to be clear that I’m talking about money beyond the amount that you need to survive. So in a certain sense, most people see money as a means to get these other things, but there are other routes to these other things that are deeper and more constant and more durable and more powerful. Money is a very small, one-dimensional thing, that if you focus on that, it kind of comes and goes. And if you … whatever it is that you’re trying to attain, you go to it more directly through other means, you’ll probably wind up with a more powerful experience or whatever it is that you’re after. And it’ll be deeper, more renewable, than coming at it with money.
Let me repeat, the intention in this post is not to pass judgement but to look at a situation from a different vantage point. And my goal for compiling these thoughts was more with an intention of exploration than preaching.
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