#highschooldances

[parentingroundabout]

It's prom season, and the youngest of our kids is attending two events this year (which came as something of a surprise to his mother).

[hollachrdnc]

📣#HOLLA'! to YOU at this weekend's UCA National High School Cheerleading action @ucaupdates #highschoolcheer and @udadance #highschooldance #nationals 📷: @sports_action_photo ••• Always 🎊🥳🎉 YOUR #blackexcellence 👍🏾 in #cheer and #dance #hollacheeranddancemagazine. Visit bit.ly/HOLLA4U for more info! https://www.instagram.com/p/Com_opWu956/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[skyl3r-chan]

[micaathogwarts]

the words Aromantic and Asexual seems to get scrarier with time for me

TW: I'll discuss my fear of not being accepted for my identity, not finding a place in society because of it. +long post

For context: I'm 21, closeted ace and on the aro spectrum, never had a relationship or a crush before. This is obviously just my experience, i think that maybe also other people feel similarly in some way. I don't have many chances to talk to other aro/ace people so I'd love to hear from you! If you agree or not with my little rant, If you feel in somewhat similar or if you have different experience! obvs asexuality and aromanticism are spectrums and everyone have unique experiences so I'd love to hear yours!

(P.S. english is not my first language so I hope this is overlall understandable! plus I hope it does not sound as some kind internalised aphobia or discrimination: I am really proud and happy in my identity yet I am afraid that is will not be positively percived or understood)

I distintively remember being 15 and seing these words for the first time. I remember the confusion and the weird sense of understanding and belonging. But also I remember thinking "it is kinda ok if i am ace, my family would never know, ask or get mad because I don't have sex". (this may sound like a weird thing to think but understanding that you are queer, that others feels things differently than you, in a traditional, conservative enviroment may be scary and i though this would be easier).

I mean obviously i understood a lot about me and others in that moment, and I'd be lying if i say that my identity never made my feel distant or isolated from friends and other teens. (classmates talk about their crushes, relationship, experience all the time. Adult and professor akwardly talking about attraction and "active sexuality" as something normal, scientifical, biological that will eventually happen to everyone). But I have always been kinda shy and I was a good student in highschoold, adults and friends never questioned about me too much. True, maybe romantic relationship are kinda expected during your teenage years but everyone around me seemed to think that I was just "shy and focused". Ace and Aro label seemed much easy to hide and, most importantly I feelt like if others would ever come to know of it, it would not be a big deal.

But few years can make a great difference in what society expects from you. Once highschool was over it seems like being "shy and focused" was not worth of any praise anymore, quite the contrary actually: relatives started asking if I had a "boyfriend", closer family members started wondering if I liked girls, closer friends, who usually did not discuss relationship before, started looking for partners, dating and sharing their experiences and often it felt like I was just left out of the conversation. I started realising how I misjudged the situation before: being aroace is not as invisible as I though and it is actually a big deal!

It is a big deal and I didn't realise cause i greatly understimated how much of a big deal romance and sex were to everyone else in "adult" life. I realised that Hetero/Amatonormative Relationship are seen like a compulsory step to take in life, necessary to grow up, necessary for a stable adult life: I realised it by seeing that 75% of instagram posts written by students on university page are about realationships, sex, love, finding other attractive (it is almost like I forgot about a fundamental side quest: get a partner, for the main quests: get a deegree) I realised it by hearing my friend asking each other about their dates and encouraging eachother to join dating apps. I realised it by seeing online how people talk about celebrities love life, from the young woman who broke up with her boyfriend and in now a "different" person to the way people comment when they hear a boy in his 20s saying he had never kissed anyone. Love is compulsory, everyone my age is either in love or should be looking for love....

And I feel like it will only get worst: soon the people I grew up with will all be in relationship or looking for love and my closet will get more and more see-through with time and as much as I am proud of my identity I am deeply afraid of others reaction to it. And then they will get marryed and maybe I will not, and this society is weirdly couple-shaped, I almost cannot imagine living fully alone for the rest of my life.

(obv I know that aroace people can have relationship, I am aware I may even fall deeply and desperatly in love tomorrow morning but what I was trying to say is that if I still be as I am in this moment the way my closeted identity will suface always more and I am afraid of how others will treat me then.)

(I know this all posts sound dramatic, i hope it is not too unreliable tho!)

[soulfullionbunny]

(Apr 12) To live with consequences

aku ada jumpa this tiktok post. islamic one. it says that Allah SWT forgave Adam and Hawa, tapi mereka tetap tinggal di bumi as a consequence. x ingt the detail after 2 months but i think dia also ada mention how when we have do something badm we can ask for forgiveness, but kita x boleh expect to live without any consequences. and i felt it very related to me...

aku bnayk buat silap and i try to fix it by taking responsibilties over it. tapi my naive ass rasa yg as long as aku mintak maaf and bertanggungjawab dgn apa yg aku buat salah, everything will be the same. well no.. bcs in this life ada this concept yg dipanggil consequences. thought of this when i see my 2nd ex. i cheated on her for my 3rd ex (idk aku dah cerita ke belum, maybe someday). she used to be my bestfriend, the heart of my friend group. she confessed to me first and i dated her sbb she gets my humour, i fw her and also she got nice ass. besides im not talking to anyone but alas dont get into a relationship if your heart still x move on. i cheated on her to be with my 3rd ex, my highschool crush, yg i used my 2nd ex to move on from. fuck me that was so stupid. i wasted 10 months of her time, just bcs aku takut nak putus tiba2. suspicious i said lol dasar budak nerd x reti buat jahat. then my nerd ass confessed to my exes what i had done. of course they are consequences lol. i expect they will move on sbb dah lepas. my godd how fucking childishhhh. the thing is aku mmng plan nak breakup on Jan'20, 3 months (ig? x ingt dh, but i knew its aftermy college badmnton tournament) after we first started dating, but aku rasa mcm kesian and x nak lukakan hati dia. fast forward to Mar'20, my highschoold crush (then, now 3rd ex) confessed kat aku. instead of breaking up with 2nd, i just proceed with 3rd.

now the consequences are i lost my best friend and friends, and i also lost my high school crush trust, love, affection, future, and her family and friends. i lost my future life. i lost everything. and its the consequences im willing to live with. they forgave me (i think, thats what they said), but the consequences will always be there.

[batangisla]

I feel alone. Betrayed. Lost. Whatever you call it.

I was torn between resigning or staying. I am now decided it is time to go. I am not growing in the same frequency with my workmates anymore. I think the question now is when. When is it time for me to face a new world. To create a new me?

I feel betrayed. I trusted my workmates to be the people i will enjoy working with. But now the signs are so obvious that they are outcasting me. Purposely having group chats, hangouts, even conversations that i am not involved in. Maybe its me? Im also distancing myself. Or they think i think im better than them. Idk, it feels like that highschoold kid eating lunch in the bathroom to avoid the bullies.

I also feel betrayed by my family. Today i found out my sister thinks im a failure. After opening up and making myself vulnerable to her, looking for advice about career. Now she’s comparing me to her other sister in law. Because i dont have ditection in life. That i just party and dont know what job i want. I am way far from that. I know. It just hurts that the person i trust is making fun of what im being vulnerable for.

But shes right tho. Im dependent on my boyfriend. I mean my boyfriend already said that when we fought last week. That im a user. I need him. He owns me. He said he was just talking shit then but we both know its true. I mean my whole life is based on him. I moved to Makati. I live in his place. I cook the food he pays. My day to day tasks is aligned with his. What else is there left of me that is all me? None.

I hope my next post is greatness and positivity. This is not a good start to open an account lol

[estrangedandwayward]

black cat & cauldron🎃

Black cat: favorite urben legend

Hmmm theres an abandoned train tunnel in my town with all this graffiti that people say is haunted. Theres a bunch of stories about what happened there, and I dont know if any of them are true. I tend to be skeptical about anything like that, but they can be fun to read or talk about. But I also just love how crazy bigfoot people are

Cauldron: weirdest/ scariest dream you've ever had

Once I dreamed that I was going down the stairway at my elementary school, which irl is a massive confusing building, and I couldn't find the exist no matter how many flights I went down. And then once i finally found the door I spent what felt like hours going in the same direction and somehow ending up in a differently colored hallway ever time. I remember feeling the entire time that I was trying to escape from something but can't actually see what.

[simon-newman]

Because I’m heavily in my DxD nostalgia phase.

[wilfredogarrigo]

@advancedartscps Look at our students go!! Thankful to serve on staff- @per4mers4change dance director• • • • • • Advanced Arts at Gallery 37 Our #Dancers has been hard at work, meeting for daily remote dance sessions with our dedicated instructors. Thank you dance instructors for keeping the energy up! Start your weekend right with this inspiring video and dance away the #stayathome #blues with the #aapg37 #danceclass! . . . #dancelife #dancelove #weloveourstudents #weloveourteachers #danceschool #highschooldance #highschooldancers #artschool #highschoolartists #highschoolart #dancelikenooneiswatching #danceislife #cps #cparts #thebestarewithcps https://www.instagram.com/p/B_X-TpRlxAK/?igshid=rbt1ko991uqx

[angryfilmmaker]

I believe this is from the early 90’s outside the Dockside Saloon. This is from “Love the One You’re With” my short film on my disastrous high school dating career. The Dockside has appeared in almost all of my films. #goodtimes #angryfilmmaker #indiefilm #independentfilmmaking #indieauthor #highschooldating #whatwasithinking #notmyfavorite https://www.instagram.com/p/ByHIXCkhjV2/?igshid=1umt2j6gdh3wv

[hollachrdnc]

📣#HOLLA'! to YOU at this weekend's UCA National High School Cheerleading action @ucaupdates #highschoolcheer and @udadance #highschooldance #nationals 📷: @sports_action_photo ••• Always 🎊🥳🎉 YOUR #blackexcellence 👍🏾 in #cheer and #dance #hollacheeranddancemagazine. Visit bit.ly/HOLLA4U for more info! https://www.instagram.com/p/Com_dlxOlEA/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[growingwithgirls]

Episode 203 - School Dances

[drrocksphotography]

Rockwall HS Stingerettes and band during halftime! See the rest of my images here http://drrocksphotography.com/gallery/10-29-2011-rockwall-at-mesquite-horn/ #drrocksphotography #rockwallhs #highschooldance #highschooldanceline #texashighschoolfootball #texasdancers #actionphotography #actionphotographer #halftimeshow #stingerettes (at E H Hanby stadium) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVxtOIbLaHw/?utm_medium=tumblr

[benzlyhype]

A dis you Call #ThrowBackThursdays Who can guess how old I was here ? ... . #highschooldance #benzlyhype #Mirror Now Available on All Digital Platforms.. go get it #theAnthology #losttapes out soon plusssss #STAR #StarTheAlbumCometh #CalabarHighschool https://www.instagram.com/p/CQgcBkADe7T/?utm_medium=tumblr

[avirvine]

Missing our Winter Formal season right now!

[pennproud]

A student at the Northern High School Homecoming on Saturday, September 30, 2017. Photo by Kalim A. Bhatti  #homecoming #northernyork #northernyorkhighschool #highschool #highschooldance #dance #fun #homecoming2017 #pennsylvania⠀