#healthier mindset

[fitforestfairy]

After holiday weight and fitness update 📝

Numbers will be mentioned

TL;DR - Enjoy the tasty interesting food! And find ways to stay active in any form you enjoy

I'm very pleased to announce that my weight gain after my trip to France was one of 600g! That's just a little over half a kilo, and according to Goggle, about 1.3 pounds.

Yes, that's all! And you might have seen the way I ate there. I did give myself permission to neat all the deliciousness that I cannot so easily find here or not in the same quality. All the amazing croissants, baguette, a big array of interesting cheeses, crisps/chips in flavors I can't find here, French wine, pasta, etc.

I also stayed fairly active there and I'm active now back again. I noticed today that I finished my walk route (which is fairly hilly/steep) faster and I wasn't nearly as out of breath as I was when I started doing it about six months ago. So that's another NSV right there.

The moral of the story is, go on those holidays, staycation, a weekend with friends, a date on your own, whatever that might be, and enjoy the food! Especially if it's food that you love and it's not readily available where you live.

Give permission to fully enjoy and experience new things. Being serious about your fitness goals doesn't mean that you can't enjoy foods that you don't usually include in your regular eating plan.

On the contrary, a healthy and sustainable fitness/weight loss journey takes into consideration that life (hopefully) isn't always the same, there are special occasions, exciting things to do and try. And find ways to stay active in a way that you enjoy.

[shredderwest]

*I wish to lay down in the snow and hear the quiet sound of snowflakes melting on my skin.

I long to see my breath leaving me in the cold evening air so I can be reminded that I am alive.

I want to throw open the curtains in the morning and be dazzled by the tiny beauty of ice crystals mixing with old fingerprints on the windows.

Some may never love the winter but I will always cherish these tiny moments because younger me might never have given myself the chance.*

Original poem by me (Shredder) while I wait for snow to come in Minnesota. There’s something about this year that has really made me look forward to the snow and cold. Maybe it’s being in a new city away from my abusive family, maybe it’s realizing I’m bigger than my trauma, or maybe it’s that I don’t think about wanting to die anymore. I’m not sure but I can’t wait to heal my inner child with the beautiful cold!

[mindfulldsliving]

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[moonlight-n-moondust]

i need to change my mindset towards studying as well, as someone who is a chronic procrastinator because i have this irrational fear if i try my best and put in my all and still screw up, i'm not worth anything. i'd rather protect my fragile ego by not trying as hard, so i can tell myself i would have done well if i'd tried harder. so now, i'm focusing on the number of hours i study without distractions and my understanding of concepts instead.

tldr: don't be like me guys!!!

Fear of failure

There are times where I fear that even if I do my best I might fail. This usually happens when I’m preparing exams where there are a lot of things that I can’t control, for example if I don’t have the time to cover all the things that the professor added the last minute.

And I find myself wasting time when I feel like this. A huge reason is because I get anxious and I can’t focus.

But I think that deep down it’s because if I fail because I didn’t work hard enough, I don’t feel like I really failed. I feel like I just didn’t put in the effort. I think this is the excuse I use to feel like I completely controlled the result so no one took any value away from me.

And I find this rather stupid because it means I’m only interested in protecting my ego, as if failing an exam when you actually worked for it destroys your value.

But this is just so stupid. I’d rather put in the effort and still feel proud of the work I’ve done rather than being like “yeah I failed ‘cause I didn’t do as much as I could”.

But apparently I have a huge ego on this topic because clearly I place my value on my ability to pass exams (and usually pretty well). This is just sad. I shouldn’t place all my value there.

I’m so much more than my grades.

So I’m gonna try and do the best I can without expectations. I’m so sick of not enjoying studying because of exams. At the end, exams are made to show you how well you know that subject, not to tell you how much you value. And studying is so amazing, you learn so many interesting things. And I love learning. And I love feeling like I did my best.

So I’m gonna remove my expectations from my performance because now I see that if I expect something from myself, than the whole process becomes a huge suffering and it become so stressing instead of a stimulating challenge.

I’m gonna try to remind myself that if I want to live well I need to enjoy the process by doing the best I can without expectations and that I matter no matter what.

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[stillgotscars]

you know what makes me so queasy? the progression from “i once was poison ivy, but now i’m your daisy” → “pick your poison, babe, i’m poison either way” and “i’m the death you chose, you’re in terrible danger”

[mystoryfortheaudienceoftheworld]

Welcome To My 1 Year Goal In The Life Of Me!

It’s been a minute since I truly “tumbled”, but I think it’s time to start again. I want to use this platform once again to help motivate me with my weight loss.

I am not sure where to start with this entrance of me back into the weight loss world.

Back in the day (ugh, that makes me sound so old- but it really was 14 years ago) I was overweight and I lost almost 300lbs (which was 9 years ago) . Currently, I find myself back to where I used to be with all my weight gained back. I used to play it off to the fact that I found the love of my life and got married – and everyone gains weight when they get married. Well, its been 5 years of being married and I can’t play that card anymore.

I am tired of feeling heavy and that feeling of standing out from the others, but not in the good way. I am a very happy person, but I just need to be healthier. I will never hate myself for how much I weigh or how I look –I  just realistically know I need to work on my eating and movement.

I want to get back to being able to walk around without getting out of breath - #BIG-GOAL-HERE!

So, I have decided starting today, November 11, 2024, I am going to start a 1 Year Goal on working on my health and fitness.

365 days of posting the good and the not so good as I work on me again!

In the past I mostly stuck to weight watchers – and while it did work – I am not a fan of the direction weight watchers has taken in the past years. Their mindset of losing weight isn’t what it used to be about, and it throws my motivation off. So, for right now I am going to stick with my own personal plan of healthy intuitive eating.

Currently I don’t know how much I weigh – I just know it’s too much and my scale says #ERROR – meaning tooooo heavy. Yikes!

So, I welcome you to my 1 Year Goal and appreciate any feedback, all the positivity, and happiness along the way.

Some #’s I plan to use with my blog if you so wish to keep up are:

#1yeargoal #myeating #whaticooked

[blujaymi]

so...it seems like ruby wants to ascend to be like summer.

but given that it's been said that the tree and ascension are about "acceptance", i don't think ruby is really going to ascend in the traditional sense.

ruby's goal for herself and her identity has always been to "be like the heroes in the books".

and now we've seen how jaune has handled that mindset (hint: it wasn't a great way of thinking. ouch).

part of that identity has been centered around summer. she inherited her emblem. she inherited her silver eyes. she's always being compared to her, and she's been living in her mother's shadow—"super mom", the perfect hero.

Qrow: You're special the same way your mom was.

rather, that's the version of summer that ruby has held onto. she's trying to live up to an expectation that was never really set in the first place, because summer wasn't perfect.

Yang: Mom took a risk the day she left. And I don't think it went the way she wanted it to, but she's still my hero.

which—side tangent—i feel like is part of the reason yang didn't seem to notice just how far ruby was falling, so to speak.

yang doesn't see summer as such complete perfection, but she's still her hero.

Yang: It's not like we were asking her to be perfect.

and of course, she (and everyone but ruby herself, really) doesn't expect perfection from ruby either.

and don't get me wrong, yang still definitely idolizes summer—just in a different way from ruby. ruby's idolization of summer is much more...unhealthy. she feels like ruby rose is not enough, but that summer rose is.

Ruby: And it never, ever goes away. The feeling of not being...enough. The Blacksmith: And how would you measure...enough?

that being said, i'm getting the feeling that we may be getting some insight into summer, whether that be through some flashbacks of her failures, or maybe even how she died (i can only dream).

through that, i think ruby might be able to finally accept herself, because summer wasn't perfect either. ruby is not her, she's her own person.

and she's enough.

[shalom-iamcominghome]

... We must realize how the behavior that we are attempting to throw away once helped to sustain us, and how it might help to sustain others somewhere down the line. In moving beyond what we recognize as a harmful behavior, we need to ask: "What did I learn? How did this behavior serve me?"

Each quality, even those that seem bad, contributed somehow to our self-preservation. It had good life-affirming purpose at one point, even if that is no longer true. In order to let go of such a habit, I need to give it a "testimonial," to send it away with my thanks. "I needed you, and there you were, and I thank you for it. And now, with full appreciation, I know that I no longer need you and I can send you away." This is different from trying to stamp it out. We no longer say, "I'm sorry I did this. I'm throwing this behavior away." We say, "Thank you, God, for this gift. I needed it then; I no longer need it now. I am returning it to the universe in the hope that it can help generate life elsewhere as it did for me."

-Jewish with Feeling, Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi. 2005, p. 173-174

[jaybirdscoffee]

i love how my transition goals have shifted from skinny white twink with fluffy hair to big indigenous grill dad bear. truly a win for gender

[glassymoonstone]

Charcters who appear to have sharp/downturned eyes because they’re either 1. Evil or 2. Angsty

But as the story progresses their eyes naturally soften into their actual eyeshape (which ever one that is), as a sign of trust and love for whomever they give that softer look to (either a party or otherwise)

Characters who gain more noticeable smile lines in epilogues

Characters who’s voices are just a bit Different as you get closer with them

Characters who heal and who’s physical traits reflect that.

[louisianimal]

I’m going to attempt to take a break from socials (outside of business ventures), liquor, and cutting back on smoking this month. I have to discipline myself to go without while I’m trying to recover mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I really need to rediscover who I am now and what I can do to make me happy that isn’t rooted in the systematic evil which is capitalism.

[okitanoniisan]

i keep saying i need to make some zhaoryu shit but i'm back on my y5 kazusaeji bullshit again they are just so. m

[chloelouygo]

So apparently my queue kept going after I left, who knew my ghost would haunt my blog after I'd gone 😂 what better day to cone back than Halloween I guess, I queued those posts back in like... February? So seeing my own blog today is a lil treat adzfxfc no tricks here just my miraculous return 😅

It's been so sweet to see so many familiar names in my notes, I have the best mutuals ever I swear 😭💜💜 I genuinely missed my lil friends in my phone, I have gone away and touched some grass for like 4 months and I've come back and you're all still here being lovely and aaaa I look forward to seeing what stuff yall are hyperfixating on these days I can't wait to learn more than I ever expected about an anime I've never watched or a film from the early 00s that I've not heard of 😂 thank you all for being so wonderful I'm so happy to be back and to get to talk to you in the tags again💜💜

[actualaster]

Ah, OP is a wee little "brand new to being an adult" type who thinks blocking means you lose because they're still about as mature as they were a decade ago. That explains a lot.

I hope in 10-15 years time when they're accustomed to being an adult responsible for their own choices and actions that they come to give up those kinds of silly notions and embrace the freedom of blocking people they don't like without hesitation.

(Assuming we still have internet that functions like that in 10-15 years and that it hasn't collapsed or anything, of course)

[miraculous-ninjabird]

TLDR for my rant: it’s perfectly okay to admit you are bad at something, say something YOU made looks bad, and/or talk about the ways something you made didn’t live up to your expectations as long as someone does not internalize the message that because they are bad at something or did something bad doesn’t mean that they themselves are a bad person.

Desperately trying to explain to my therapist the difference between ‘I’m a terrible artists’ (self-derogatory and self-defeating) and ‘I’m a terrible artists (I fully acknowledge that I could be better at this skill given time and effort and that all art has value to someone. However. I am specifically choosing not to hone this skill due to a number of reasons and will never consider myself an ‘artist’. Thus, my art will never get better and I am okay with this)

And how I fall solidly into the latter category and how frustrating it is that it’s never seen that way. I say ‘I’m not an artist lol’ or ‘look at my terrible little drawing!” <-worst drawing you’ve ever seen but that’s okay. It’s always, always met by ‘don’t say that! Everybody is an artist!’ And ‘don’t talk bad about yourself and the things you create :(‘ like.

NO!

Some people do desperately need to hear and internalize those messages but I’m not one of them! My art is terrible! That’s the point! I’m never going to be good at it because I’ll never care to but damn if I’m not having the greatest time ever creating terrible art!

I don’t love the online implication (and real world implication when I tried to take art classes) that being okay with the fact I am bad at something is…a bad thing. A simple fact of life is that everyone is bad at something and it’s okay to both admit and be okay with that fact.

Tangentially related but it’s also okay to admit that when you are new at a skill…you’re probably gonna be bad at it. Like. Someone who’s still learning is gonna have some terrible first efforts and that’s the point. It gives you a growth point.

Example: I made a bag. I decided to add a zipper. It did not go as planned and the end result is in fact rather terrible. Simply a fact. However! I put a zipper! In a bag!! And maybe it does look horrible but that is something I’ve never done before and I did it all by myself and I can simultaneously admit it looks awful but be proud of the fact that I figured it out.

Like art I could be content with the success of finishing the project, but I can also use this as a launching point to get better. What I choose to do is up to me and I don’t appreciate people trying to tell me that I’m not allowed to call an objectively terrible finished project as such.

You cannot and will not ever get better at a skill if you are unwilling to accept that you will be bad at it. It makes that learning that acceptance all the harder when people are taught that they shouldn’t ever say bad things about what they make.

Rather than teaching the message ‘nothing anyone makes could possibly be bad in any way (skill wise)’ we would promote acceptance of ‘this is bad and that’s okay’

Thank you for coming to my TedTalk about ‘not every negative self-comment about something someone is self-deprecating’