#he's shitting on your gender norms btw

[ganemouchie]

I believe in Will showing off his scars supremacy.

This is self-indulgent. I, however, invite you to indulge with me.

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

ari i’m curious do u have kenny hcs

RIKO U HAVE NO IDEA THE MONSTER UVE UNLEASHED.....

i do have some kenny hcs <333 take a seat here's a snack we’re gonna be here for a while 🧁🧃 (THANK YOU FOR INDULGING ME <3 this man genuinely makes me feel ill im sooo delusional abt him)

okok so first of all; general hcs !!

he likes art!! loves art!! this one is canon to me i just think he is so interested in any and all of humanity’s creative outlets and ofc art is the most prominent one. he loves all different forms of art — from sculptures to paintings to writing to video games (HEAVY on the latter btw i think he's so entranced by new technology) and so on.

and on that note!! i think he paints and writes himself :3 hes been alive for so long, learned so many languages, there's no way he didn't have time to pick up a paint brush. i think he paints to release stress!! and his styles vary but there's something mildly macabre abt all of his pieces. tends to gravitate towards expressionism above all else, especially the abstract kind.

i also feel like he sincerely enjoys ”bad” art like low budget movies and modern romance fiction and goofy video games…… he just thinks they're fun. def gets a good laugh out of them (this man canonically had a whole comedy phase he just wants to have fun!!)

and and and!! this is self indulgent as hell but i also think he cooks. there's just so much to learn when it comes to different cultures and their cuisine and i think they all interest him. but i hesitate to say that he's a good cook bc i feel like he’d make really weird fucked up food combinations just for the hell of it…. he's a freak. 100% the type to mix orange juice w black coffee just to see how it tastes.

i also hc that he has a soft spot for children, seeing as he literally carried and birthed one of his own LMAO... i just think he admires the innocence of childhood !! that childish and simple hope that adults tend to lose. he's very good w them too!! gentle and patient. and in geto’s body he has the softest nicest voice so i feel like kids gravitate towards him (i'm just thinking abt that One scene where he blows bubbles at a playground and all the kids chase them… they love him i just know he's a regular at that park)

OH AND……. idk if i’d call this a hc exactly but i just wanna see kenny in more feminine clothing. he literally has All the genders i don't think for a second that he cares abt gender norms. one moment he's in that tacky middle aged divorced father core hawaiian tshirt (he's so Me), the next he's wearing a purple floral dress or a puffy turtleneck <33 i just think he could pull anything off.

NOW FOR THE GOOD STUFF……. relationship hcs <33333 hes a whole red flag but hes also my silly pookie bear just trust me on this

FIRST OF ALL he's huge on quality time. if he's in a relationship w u then that means he sincerely enjoys ur company and therefore has a tendency to just bring u with him wherever he goes. otherwise he gets bored and starts whining abt it (silly silly man) hes a lonely guy ok </3 i feel like he gets very sudden urges to explore new places / do new things and he’ll make sure you’re right there w him !! you’ll wake up in his arms only to find you're in a snowy forest or some shit and he just WILL not tell u where he's taken u bc its ”a surprise ^_^” LMAOO

he also takes on a teaching role in the relationship and i think that's where hes happiest !! gets a kick out of it but it's also kind of special to him. especially if you haven't seen much of the world, or if you're just a naturally curious person — preferably both. he just enjoys teaching you new things, leading you towards new sights, drinking in your expressions and reactions. it's precious to him. something to cherish.

ON THAT NOTE i think he has this unquenchable curiosity that gets temporarily sated when he tries to like . Dissect you. see inside your mind. it's like hes solving a puzzle that never runs out of pieces. hear me out riko but i see him as somewhat similar to makima, he's detached and has trouble connecting w people and handles you almost like a math equation….. but since he unlike makima is a human being, i think he still has the capacity to grow to care for you and treat you like an equal (or something close to an equal). he genuinely does love you, but he's rusty. kenjaku just wants to know all there is to know about you — every single thing. he’d dig into your brain if he could, but he’ll settle on just brewing you tea, listening to you speak about your fears, hoping it’ll give him the same insight.

he's a little possessive . kind of a Lot. idk i just think he feels a pang of jealousy when he sees u laugh and have fun w someone else (he's like a preschooler getting pouty bc his bestie is playing w someone else LOL) and that makes him Uncomfortable so he just waltzes in and steals u away w a smooth smile and a hand on ur waist. pretends like it doesn't bother him in the slightest but if u tease him too much he drops the smile and gives u a Look (it's scary as hell so u immediately shut up LMAOO) and god forbid someone else is like… teaching u something… a subject they're knowledgeable abt while u sit there listening happily to their rambling……..... ohhh he gets so jealous it's funny. researches that particular subject in frightening detail JUST so he can correct your little friend and teach u abt it himself <33 weirdo. freak.

also (this is extremely important to understanding kenny's character) he's both mother coded and father coded but in the worst possible ways.

he's mother coded in the sense that he's a smidge controlling, good at coaxing you into doing things outside your comfort zone, an expert at making you feel guilty by acting especially sweet and gentle, has the ability to make you cry w one disappointed look etc etc

and he's father coded in the sense that he's easily offended but pretends not to be, wants to see you succeed so bad that it's almost more for him than you, forces you to have really deep onesided philosophical talks at 2am when you just want to sleep, sucks at voicing his love for you out loud so he just buys a bag of your favorite fruit, cuts them into slices and calls it a day. etc etc. he's awful actually. i need him

but !!! as for more soft hcs i think he's honestly an affectionate guy deep down… like deep deep down but it's there. he just likes having u close. preferably touching him. not constantly bc that’ll annoy him but he wants you to stay near so he can pull u into his lap whenever. loves reading to u while u rest ur head on his thigh, playing w ur hair and lulling u softly to sleep <3333 (it's the geto kinnie in him) AND idk why this came into my mind but i think he likes nose kisses. just bc ur face scrunches up and he thinks it's cute. he can be sweet !! probably.

OHHH AND he loves playing board games w u <33 everything from chess to monopoly. he thinks it's fun + a good bonding activity but it's only fun in the beginning. he's condescending if u lose and petty if u win but he’ll still ask u to stay up w him all night just so u can finish the game (he's insufferable actually) if u decline he’ll huff and play by himself while shooting u petty glares until u feel bad and join him. then he's back to being all suave and calm and mature ohhhh i hate him

he wants to be the mature stoic indulgent person in the relationship sooooo fucking bad but he’s plagued by silly impulses day and night. he’s just good at hiding it. but deep down he is and always will be a silly nerd <33

and finally; i think that in a no curses au he's significantly less of a freak but still weird and obsessive and a lil mean. bullies u just a tinyyy bit and acts condescendingly sweet but he cares for u a whole bunch. probably struggles w showing it in a way that isn't too overbearing or mildly alarming… maybe through writing. poems and paintings of u… sculptures…. just wants to portray the beauty he sees in u (can u tell artist!kenny makes me go a little crazy)

overall hes a weirdo hes a freak (def wants u to kiss his brain just to see how it feels) and he may or may not be a bundle of red flags but i love him dearly <333 hes a silly goose. i want to study him in a lab

[pipipyuni]

Hiii💗 are you able to write a oneshot/scenario of human!Jake x FEM! Scientist! reader?( Their already dating btw) you can ignore this if you'd like,there's just barley any human Jake on here😭 Thank you!

All Mine, Forever and Always

wc: 830

gender: fem

cw(s): decent amount of cursing, mentions of (unintentionally) not eating

pairing: human!jake sully x human!reader

an: i hope you enjoy this short little thing! i definitely had fun writing it, that's for sure!!

content can be read below the cut!

There’s an evident pout on your lips as you slump against the lab table. “I just don’t get it!” You sigh dramatically, picking your head up when Norm scolds you for nearly knocking down some test tubes containing some local fauna.

You hold up three fingers to his face, “Three years! It took me three years in college to learn a language! And it only took you, what, a month?!”

Jake snorts, rolling over to your side of the table to place a kiss on your temple while his hand rubs soothing circles into your back, “Two months, actually.” You let out a groan at his obvious displays of faux sympathy.

“Don’t pity me, Sully!” You scowl at him, but lay your head on his shoulder regardless. He’s gotten thinner, you note offhandedly, gaze drifting to his unshaven jaw. His cheeks are sunken and his eyebags have grown darker since you’d last checked.

Before you can comment on his appearance, he barks out a laugh, “Guess I’m just better at learning languages than you.” Now it’s your turn to laugh, playfully shoving at his shoulder as you stand to stretch your tight muscles.

“Nah, maybe you’re just a shit teacher. If I had a teacher like Neytiri, I’m sure I’d learn Na’vi twice as fast as you.” 

“I’m pretty sure you’d just complain to me about her like you did back in college.”

“No, I wouldn’t–”

“It would go something like: ‘How was I supposed to know that door and shit had the same spelling?!’” He flailed his hands dramatically, unironically imitating the exact reaction you had just a few years prior.

“...Do they though?”

He gives you an odd look in response.

Sticking your tongue out at him, you make your way over to the fridge. It’s painfully empty and the only thing worthwhile is a half-eaten tube of food with Norm’s name scrawled messily on a crumpled yellow sticky note on top.

“Hey Norm,” you call out, eyes never leaving the tube in search of any signs of mold or decay. The man in question hums in response. “It alright if I take this?” He looks up with a raised brow, lips parted in silent protest when he sees the food held haphazardly in your palm. He can only sigh once he sees your worried gaze focused on none other than Jake.

He swallows the complaints bubbling within his throat, “Yeah, it’s fine.” He could survive a day or two without food. 

Would it be painful?

Yes, absolutely, but he can’t bear to see you hunched over Jake’s link pod, checking his breathing, his vitals–everything, really, when he goes for hours on end in his avatar body, only to return for a brief moment before being off again.

He can’t help but watch the two of you fondly, though his nose wrinkles when you place an audible kiss on Jake’s forehead. 

Jake merely rolls his eyes at Norm’s aversion to your affection, turning his gaze back to you in a silent plea. You comply happily with a chaste kiss to his admittedly chapped lips. Their still his though, and that’s all that matters.

You find it funny that his nose still crinkles when he takes a bite from the tube. He nearly spits it out, but one stern glare from you has him reluctantly swallowing the tasteless substance.

“The hell is this anyway?” He mumbles when the tube is finally empty after what feels like an eternity (it had really only been about two minutes). You offer a shrug, managing to snag the packaging back from his clenched fist.

“Says it's…Peach flavor?” You lick your lips as your brows furrow in a mix of amusement and confusion, “Didn’t know these things came with flavors.”

“No wonder it tastes like ass.” You stare at him for a moment. He stares back knowingly. Small giggles fall past your lips at first, followed swiftly by peels of hearty laughter.

As you laugh at his elementary-level remark, Jake takes a moment to admire your features. He watches your shoulders shake, and how the curve of your smile is so wide he’s almost worried it’ll split your face in two. He watches the way your chest heaves for gasps of air, even though he knows his joke wasn’t funny enough to warrant this kind of reaction. But, most of all, he watches as the hand-crafted ring glints beneath the early Pandoran sun when you lift your hand up to quell your fit of laughter.

How could someone like him ever manage to land someone as brilliant and beautiful as you?

“Maybe Neytiri is right, you really are a skxawng, you know that?” 

Jake rolls his eyes playfully, smiling proudly at your pronunciation before pulling you by the shoulder into his side and mumbling lowly into the crown of your head, “But I’m you’re skxawng, right?”

Nuzzled comfortably against him, you can’t help the small, breathless laugh that falls from your lips, “Mhm…All mine.”

©pyuni 2022 — do not copy, steal, repost, or translate any of my works on tumblr or any other site

[masterlist]

[j3st3r-13]

Do you take platonic requests? If so I would love a Rick Sanchez reacting to his grandson coming out as trans (ftm) if not totally cool:D

rick sanchez with a platonic! ftm grandson

thank you sm for the request and btw im more then happy to do platonic requests

ricks your grandpa so you are under his complete protection and he will toss anyone who purposefully misgenders you into he razor dimension without thinking twice about it

rick will walk into the school, drag principal vagina into the office, and make sure that your name and pronouns are used. the school records are changed immediately and the principal becomes wong's newest client

struggling to find a haircut? not any more ricks teleported you to a barbershop that specializes in everything. you will find a haircut you want

ricks rich as hell. Do you need a new wardrobe? its there and all as baggy as you want and all your style. dont ask about how he knows what to buy; he won't tell you.

if beth and jerry are being stupid he have a very passive-aggressive chat and everything will be sorted as soon as. (they are supportive they're just a little confused as beths not around as much and jerrys just a fool)

summer and morty are 100% your guard dogs at school, and on the street i said in some other hcs that i hc them as popular and they will use it in your favor, no one messes with one in order to escape thier wrath

rick will steal you a binder that doubles up as chest armor so nothing happens to you, laser bullets bounce right off.

rick will teach you the alien equivalent of sign language so you can chat shit at the table, morty figuring it out so you need to either bribe him or learn a new language 

rick and morty will never slip up on your pronouns/ name in space gender isn’t common, so pronouns are nothing new to either. Summer pretty good to but that’s just she spends time with so many people it’s easy.

feeling like no one gets your struggles? you will be taken to another planet where transness? is the norm. there will be thousands who all get it. rick will also if need be take you to other trans ricks mortys and (Y/N) to just kinda vibe 

anyway rick is your biggest silent hype man and anyone who gives you the slightest amount of bs is getting incinerated 

sorry these are kinda short i struggled with these for sm reason, but i hope you like em :)

[bigmack2go]

I havent posted abt atwow in much too long so…

Aonunete

Aqachno/rotxorro!!!

Lesbian or aro-ace kiri

Non-binary kiri👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Tuk went from the most feminine female to the genderlessed baddass in the history of gerless badasses

^human au Tuk🤷🏼‍♀️^

Gender confused Rotxo [male or non binary] (in the end he just decides they doesn’t need a lable)

Tsireya and neteyam are besties!

Just found out it isnt canon that koko loro and rotxo r triplets LIKE BRO THE LOOK T H E S. A. M. E.

Ao'nung and rotxo both would be one of those guys to wear a purple hoodie with a black daun-jacket all fall and winter as their only outfit but it somehow always stays clean. Any way aonung would have that style in a very straight way (this man is everything but straight 💀😭)

Double eyebrowpircing human rotxo

Kiri has freckles and she would 100% be on wich-tok, tumblr, and collect christals if she were human

And tsirey pulls of e. V. E. R. Y. Eyeliner look, style and color

I just wanna say i believe in sully-brothers-wearing-toothnecklaces supremacy

Rotxo-> purple hoodie with goofy pictures

Kiri is one if those remus-lupin-cardigans girls to cry to lana del ray in the bathroom (me)

And she showed tsireya lana-del-ray

and kiri hhas a septum and an eybrowpricing maybe even a lip or toungeonr

And loak is a basketballer i just know it

And he would be one of those people who could just where whatever combined with what ever and call it style and it would work.

(Wich is the worst part of these people istg)(IM LOOKING AT YOU JIMMY I HOPE YOU FEEL MY GLARE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WHEN YOU WANNA SLEEP BUT THAT TNGLE IN YOUR VACK KEEPS YOU AWAKE what—)

While neteyam on the other hand would have the best and most homosexual (-/j) style that exists in this universe like bri he be so fine

And allthough he almost never does he could ahundret percend pull of indiekid (he usually pulls of normal indie but ykyk)

PLUS neteyem eventually beat some actual style into him

Also if this isnt human loak i dont want it

Neteyam also would have the best music taste and you K N O W it

Neitiri would obviously be of faith and Neteyam too. Neteyam would be one of those guys thats friends woth the cool kids but solehow hea the only one in that friendgroup that has morals.

Aonung our beach boy surfer boy he's so QuiRcy Ahhh 🤪🤪 (i just cringed at my self) Tangtop and bathshorts summerjob at some random pool am i wrong??

and tuk did karate

TELL ME IM WRONG

I DARE U

And aonung almost cried when he got his tatoos. For. every. Single. One.

Now that would be totally fine if he didn’t go around telling everyone how tough he was and how it didnt even hurt, just tickled. (Nete was there for some of them. He bust raises his eyebrows and silently judges him when he says shit like that)

Rotxos tail curls when hes rly happy or exited

If rotxo was to cook smt he would 100% burn it and when i say burn it i dont mean Oh No ITs AIL bLaCk AnD cRuSTy NO I MEAN

FIRE

There

LOOK ME IN THE EYES AND TELL ME NORM SPELLMAN WOULDNT HAVE PLAYED 'BORN THIS WAY' TO SPIDER FUCJING SOCCORO WHEN HE CAME OUT AS TRANS

Oh and also i just know he loved golf back on earth

Jake showed them all human stuff like lana del ray and shit and spider is in LOVE woth spiderman like broooooo uts just a little too accurate

And they're all Beyoncé obsessed bc jake showed them

Some of these are from my friend btw but she doesn’t have tumblr. ALSO i made none of the incredible artworks! The TikTok of the artist is in each photo!

[disaster-vampire]

Umm, transmascs who pass do have male privilege. It’s our job to recognize that and make sure that we don’t enforce toxic masculinity.

bestie that post was specifically about me and my situation, not about every single transmasc that ever existed. and being transmasc does not automatically mean that you're going to transition into cis-passing male, nor is that everyone's goal. being stealth, i might add, is its own form of oppression, because i should not have to hide who i am to be accepted as a person worthy of basic fucking dignity and respect.

that said, i live in a rural island in the middle of the mediterranean, and i'm non-binary, but i will be forced to pretend to be binary trans possibly my entire life because no one fucking knows what being non-binary is here. we don't even have neutral pronouns. i've been advised to move either to a bigger town or straight up out of the island for my own safety. everyone and their nan is gonna know i'm trans, and there will be people who will forcefully misgender me and be misogynistic towards me specifically because i'm trans and i was assigned female at birth. by the logic that "passing=everyone accepts you as your gender" we'd have no fucking transphobia. i know a trans girl who is mid-transitioning and who lives where she lived, worked, went to school pre-transition, and this is a place that is considered a city by local standards, and many people still consider her male, and by that stupid fucking logic she'd also have "male privilege" despite passing perfectly. what she has is people threatening to set her on fire and trying to run her over while she's crossing the street because they know she's trans.

so here's the very first paragraph on the wikipedia page of male privilege:

Male privilege is the system of advantages or rights that are available to men solely on the basis of their sex. A man's access to these benefits may vary depending on how closely they match their society's ideal masculine norm.

mh? advantages or rights in the context of male privilege usually refers to legal shit. i am lumping job contracts under legal shit here btw. legally, i will be considered female for a while still, and i'm not even sure what exactly is needed for me to have the marker changed on my id. i know i need to go to court and a judge and jury has to approve and that is after i go through at least one year of gender therapy and take hormones for at least another year. i'm not sure whether or not surgeries are needed, i know they were in the past but i think that may have changed. and even then, i do not consider myself male, though i'd like to transition to the opposite sex, i'm still non-binary, and i'd rather have an X on my documents.

on top of that read this passage very closely again please:

A man's access to these benefits may vary depending on how closely they match their society's ideal masculine norm.

see that? i dress fruity as hell and i'm not about to change my personality to fit some ideal made up male. i saw a dude contemplate to beat the shit out of me in a clothing store once because i was walking back and forth between the male and female clothing sections and picked a pair of shorts from each side. i half-passed as male as long as i didn't speak but was wearing a glasses chain with one of my tamest outfits. it was like a basic ass tee and knee-length shorts and some sandals. i usually wear high wasited pants and 5 patterns all at once with a color palette to boot. and plenty of dainty jewelry. i don't know exactly why he was looking at me that way, probably a combinantion of not being able to tell if i was male or female and the way i was dressed and me picking clothes from both sections, but i can assure you i was infinitely glad that neither of us was alone and that we were inside a store rather than out on the street.

also fucking toxic masculinity? wikipedia help me again

Toxic masculinity refers to certain male behaviors that are associated with harm to society and men themselves. Traditional stereotypes of men as socially dominant, along with related traits such as misogyny and homophobia, can be considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. The violent socialization of boys often normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" about bullying and aggression.

bestie??? do i even have to add anything here?

tl;dr: the "umm, actually, feminism 101!" was not the gotcha you thought it was because passing is not all there is to being trans nor is it all there is to how other people percieve you. i have no idea what kinda privilege y'all think i'm getting from being visibly genderfucky other than death stares and some kids telling me i dress cool. fuck off.

[noa-nightingale]

Queer Watcher 2020

I am looking back on this weird, not-so-wonderful year - and on the ways @wearewatcher made my 2020 so much more wonderful. Originally, I wanted to list all the highlights I could think of, but one of the things I am most grateful for is Watcher’s inclusion and support of LGBTQ+ folks. I am just one queer person but I know there are many more in this fandom.

So, this ended up being a list of things I, as a queer person, appreciate and enjoy, and I am so so happy that I can write this. Buckle up, I have Things to say, and it is going to be emotional.

Ryan’s Pride shoes. I sometimes wonder how many sales Converse owes him. I love my own pair btw.

“Look, all I’m sayin’ is, y’know, hey, uh, love everybody.” - Shane Madej, Gangly Puppet Freak. A PSA from the Weird/Wonderful Shakespeare Theatre vid, regarding bisexuality - he is so awkward with it lmao. Whole video has really great vibes too.

Steve/Stephanos.

Various tweets, including wishing us a happy Non-Binary People’s Day and a happy Trans Awareness week.

Ryan and Shane including their pronouns in their twitter bio. (Little things like this don’t go unnoticed, and they are very appreciated.)

Gay Oars! Ugh, my heart. Their first appearance totally caught me off guard, and I haven’t recovered since. (I also causes me no small amount of joy that the most romantic and tragic song of all time is called “Gore on the Shore”.) I could yell about my love for these guys all day. It is a beautiful thing that these characters exist.

Gay Oars, again - I knew they would show up and I still was not prepared. The song made me cry. I haven’t recovered from that one either. I love the progression from the first, tragic song to the second, joyful and loving song. I have so many emotions about these oars, I probably could make an entire list just for them. (Little fun fact: Even though the song made me cry, my first reaction to that episode was to go on tumblr and yell about it excitedly. Like, I was emotional but in an enthusiastic kind of way. The more difficult emotions hit me about four days later, for some reason. And then I sat in my room and cried my eyes out. Like, as much as I like being queer, sometimes it is just damn hard and the pain seems too much and you have been hurt over and over and don’t know if you can ever recover from it. And it is just really good to know that someone cares about your wellbeing as a queer person. Even if you have never spoken to that someone and he does not even know of your existence. And to be honest, I don’t always know how to deal with that. The kindness? The genuine allyship? I have no idea how to handle that, and it simultaneously heals and breaks my heart.)

Every time the words “his boyfriend” were uttered; I am especially thinking of Are You Scared here.

All the fan art Watcher inspired and continues to encourage and to support. There are many great artists in the fandom! And Watcher’s content inspires me to draw and create more myself! How wonderful!

Toxic masculinity who? It is nowhere to be found.

This... special kind of gentle and kind weirdness? It honestly had such a positive impact on me and the way I interact with other people and let them interact with me.

All of the wonderful people Watcher brought in. I am sure they will work with more amazing folks and I am really looking forward to that. Personally, I am hoping to see Eugene Lee Yang at some point. (Would be really happy to see Thomas Sanders too.)

Here’s What You Do. Just the whole podcast. It was such a delight.

I was hesitant to include this because I believe many of us have negative memories attached to it, and it was not a fun time for anyone (including the lovely people at Watcher themselves). But, yes, I am mentioning it: That one HWYD episode and the follow-up. I can only speak for myself, but the follow-up has an incredibly special place in my heart. To me, it is one of the most important videos Watcher has created. I watched it several times, I journaled about it extensively and it made me a better ally. Hell, I even showed it to my mother and one of my siblings (like, the entire video). I know it was a difficult thing to talk about but at this point: A HUGE thank you to Steven, Ryan, Katie and Shane for handling this in an absolutely fantastic way. I feel welcome and seen and appreciated, and in the end all I want is this: For people to genuinely give a shit about me as a queer person.

On a more lighthearted note, I enjoy it way too much that Ryan is able to say “LGBTQ” without stumbling over the letters. It seems like such a tiny thing but it brings me an unholy amount of joy.

The Professor. I don’t want to call him LGBTQ+ because that has not been confirmed as canon but he IS comfortable wearing clothes that are typically seen as “women’s clothing”, and as a trans/non-binary person I am kind of obligated to mention it.

I think I had an out of body experience when Ryan said “Oh thank you baby” to Steven in Too Many Spirits. Then I had to pause the episode to finish laughing. And then they brought it back in the next episode. Bless them.

Every time they/them pronouns were said.

The entire Hatshepsut PH episode. What can I say, I like it when gender norms/expectations/roles are broken. And even if we can’t call Hatshepsut trans by today’s standards, declaring yourself another gender has such power.

Without giving too many details: I had my struggles and problems in the past with Christianity and ~certain~ Christian people, and it is really good (and I mean REALLY good) to see someone whose faith and integrity are so interwoven and who is inspired by his faith to do good things and to do right by people. I obviously only know the things about his belief that Steven decides to put on the internet but what I’ve seen is almost healing to me, in a way. I am very grateful and happy that he is willing to educate others and to keep working on himself. Warms my heart.

The certainty with which these beautiful people call themselves allies.

Just... the general kindness and compassion, and the willingness to listen and to grow. I promise you, we notice and we love you for it.

I could have expanded on all of these points but I tried to keep this short.

And look. I don’t want to put anyone on a pedestal; that would not be fair. I am just immensely grateful for kind people who genuinely care and who genuinely try to do right by others and to bring joy to others.

And I know we like to have fun here but Watcher’s content is just a lot more than entertaining, meme-able fun (although it is that too, of course).

I had a blast with it this year and I am very much looking forward to the next year. I feel like I can’t adequately put into words the myriad of little (and not so little) ways these people have made my life better this year. Thank you from the bottom of my aroace, non-binary heart.

[eastern-lights]

Regarding the 'cis people using other pronouns' thing - I can totally see your side, but also I think if a gnc cis person feels more validated in their gender by having other pronouns used for them, then honestly? Good for them. In reality, all asking for certain pronouns to be used is, is to feel affirmed in one's gender identity (or in some people's cases feel affirmed in their gender presentation) - so if it feels right to them, then who am I or anyone else to tell them they can't or shouldn't do that? Said as a trans person with dreadful dysphoria; if a cis person presents as gnc and feels more affirmed by having pronouns other than the 'norm' for their assigned gender at birth being used for them, then they're still using pronouns exactly as they're meant to be used and there's nothing wrong with that.

I do personally think it would get a little dicey if a strictly highly femme presenting afab person would be like "pls use he/him for me" but even then, we can't know just because they present as femme what is actually going on in their life. For all we know they could be a closeted trans person, or maybe they want to dress/present more gnc but can't because of their family or can't because it would be dangerous in some other way for them to do so. So like we just can't know if it's being done for shits and giggles or if the person is actually being genuine about it.

(The thing about safety is especially true for amab people btw - any that want to present more femme are at a huge risk of excommunication, disownment, assault, and even murder. That makes it extremely difficult for them to actually safely present as they want to present, whether they be gnc cis or not. Of course, that also makes it dangerous to refer to them with pronouns other than he/him regardless of how they present, but it's possible they may be more willing to take the risk of using certain pronouns but may not be willing to take the risk of actually presenting as such.)

I think if someone is actively snickering or generally seeming like they are taking it as a joke to use pronouns that otherwise seem like wouldn't fit their identity or presentation, that's an instance where it's a genuine problem - but I think in that instance it's usually a transphobic person trying to get a transphobic point across and shouldn't be given any merit to begin with.

Bottom line over all is, as you've already said you'll do, just use the pronouns someone asks you to use, and don't ask questions unless they actively seem to be taking it as a joke. It's not our place to ask or judge or argue with someone over something that's so personal, especially when we cannot possibly know everything that's going on inside a person's head - even if they tell us they identify as cis.

Thank you for taking the time to write this. I gained an interesting and valuable new perspective.

I hope you're doing well.

[hailmaryfullofgrace55675]

blocked for THAT? damn, they hated jesus because he told them the truth :shrimpteresting: (the thinking emoji face on the tempura shrimp emoji) also i just realized i started that reblog in a confusing way, i meant “preface: this isnt even an endorsement of gender abolition” but i constructed a really weird sentence that probably reads differently if you’re not like, speaking it aloud in my voice. in my defense i wrote that to procrastinate studying for a stats test. i got a 97 btw.

anyway, i think it’s very funny to start with “i wish our community educational activism would move away from merely presenting the existence of additional gender identities and toward an understanding of the social construct of gender” and then go to “so we could formulate and observe and affirm more permutations of the social construct of gender” like. what is the future you are imagining? is this a pragmatic move - gender abolition is impossible and/or would involve ideological imperialism because it’s an idea from the liberal imperial core (traditional people with traditional cultures are too traditional and cultural to come up with it, of course, because they love their traditions and cultures, which are good) so it’s better to set aim on having all these culturally constituted systems of gender BUT they’re noncoercive and fully acknowledged as arbitrary constructs? that’s your pragmatic alternative?

try to imagine a system of gender without coercion. seriously, try. obviously you start by delinking biology-assignment and social role, that’s like, deconstructing cisnormativity step one. and gender roles are, uh, bad, we figured the out from like, you know, feminism - and they’re bad even when they’re non-normative and nonbinary, like, people chafe endlessly against “butches don’t cry”, “agender people love frogs” shit, because linking together “gendered” behaviors creates dissonance and dysphoria wherever the rubber of human idiosyncrasy meets the road of supposed-to-be. like, does this keysmash make me look like a bottom? too annoying to countenance. so you get rid of the assignment, and you get rid of the roles, and you’re left with... well, i’m waiting, what are you left with? feel free to reply, dm, anon, reblog, i would love to hear about it. don’t say the Divine Feminine, that’s a mac miller album.

[misterbitches]

hi @yeedak thank you so m uch for replying with what you did. YAY ADHD!!!!! ur partner sounds like she rocks >:)  as do u

i found it really illuminating and i agree with all of it. and god as much as i understand reticence when black people are interracially dating (it is so hard) i also hate it when people dictate it and also to a degree that it makes it extremely uncomfortable for the person themselves. to me it really is about a sense of control particularly if you are a woman. constantly trying to pick someone’s life partner for them instead of letting them find out if it’s a) something they want or even want to do b) something they can handle and c) their experience. it can purely cultural as well. my mom is a black american but my father is nigerian and that was basically a sin. however my father’s siblings? the women who had to marry extremely quickly and had to be with nigerian men or at the very least african? divorced. because they had to clamor for love for approval, pop out babies, and look what that got them. i totally understand you and  your mother. and you’re right about all of it.

the idea of a man whore is so funny to me too because it’s not about sexual liberation it’s literally about them wanting to use people as disposable which is why sexual liberation for women as well can be confusing. but all of this isn’t so we can develop our own imaginations and find out our own inhibitions. like you said in all of it and i found this part very very interesting and true, “youth is for sex and no mention of asexuality.” when you get older you are not sexual, when you are a child you are unsure about it, but there’s a time in our lives where we shouldn’t waste it, where it’s only acceptable in that window, where it’s dictated. tangentially i think it’s very funny that the people we sleep with also become a point of pride. let’s say if he is a man (as a bisexual~**~ gorl) but he’s ugly, i should be ashamed, too?

so much boxing in and pushing and dictating. they really are here to spread a message. and i know things ar ehard. i can believe people ask you that but it’s still so.....weird? i remember saying something about my sexuality once and it’s not like i knew the people but then they started asking me questions and i honestly felt embarrassed and like an outsider. i dunno.

and your analogy of a mirror was perfect woaaaaaaah that’s what im gonna say now thank you so much credit to you. gENIUS!!! as real life changes, what we see changes. but media doesnt come first.

also totally agree about watching what people consume and not falling into those patterns. and when “bad” things are shown i do not understand why shows are so scared to show them as they are or not romanticize. a real issue to introduce when it comes to age gaps would be why it is frequent in the lgbtq+ community. that is a real thing because when you have to hide yourself of course you can be stuck in a state of arrested development and trying to re-establish times you may never have. that’s a geniuine fear and concern, it’s understandable even if i don’t particularly care for it, but it’s like for these writeres there’s no reason to look deeply or put that into their story. so why are they doing it? and what is the message here? uGH. and what ur mother said makes so much sense we are just constantly absorbing all these messages and culture absolutely aids to it and you’re right about the generations. and sometimes things stop and start but i genuinely think (and know) that for us to continue forward and not have the constant backwards taht means we have to push to get there and demand and that also means we have to make an effort to end the harm we then see on screen. rape culture dictates these shows. it relies on it. it is disgusting but rape culture is the norm, the norm is the oppression so we have to attack it otherwise it sticks and htat’s exactly why we see what we see.

and the unacceptability of gender fluidity is what keeps the genre SO INFLEXIBLE sincerely. it honestly just pulls so heavily from patriarchy and the roles in which we have to follow to uphold that structure. 

it’s really just not enough to show us things any more wihtout taking it into consideration. and like ive mentioned there’s soooooooooo much media that has a lot to say that embeds itself. there’s this thing my friend linked me to on re-examining queerness in korean cinema (much like my dad’s country; patriarchal, more “conservative, anti lgbtq+, reliant on capital. africa is different because of the blackness component but the structures aided by colonialism absolutely remain and continue and that’s how we see such similarities. thse countries are more “overt” in this output but still you know. america. sucks) because we are trying to re-evaluate what it means to be heard and seen. the different ways and sort of the message that a lot of us as lgbtq+ can feel. you know, how we can get a feeling on if a person has our same experience, how we kind of have to learn to identify that. not sure if this makes sense...

your mom sounds really cool. and i’m fucking sorry. so many men do that. i live with both my parents but even then i see this power imbalance i can’t stand and you know i would have believed it was normal if i wasnt able to learn aand had to build up thinking skills. there was one day that it hit me that there are parts of my parents relationship i abhor, that are imbalanced, that make me find my father disgusting and make me ashamed of my mother. i don’t want that to happen to me or my potential children. if i have a male partner for life, which i am sure i will because offffffff heteronormativity and homophobia and being half black american half nigerian, he cannot recreate that. i am optimistic on what people can do without needing such grand structures or the support of the elite etc you know? that’s how we know there’s good work that exists and people we can find that arent with the status quou!!! 

and who want a better world. we have to know we can rally that together. i think part of that is constant demanding of things to do better. there’s a rage against the machine song called settle for nothing and it’s about 0 compromise. there’s a famous quote i dont remember by who that’s basically like there’s an idea that there’s a limit to asking for dignity and what you deserve because when people realize they can live better lives they want to cultivate that more and more but that means a loss of control and a sharing of power from the top. nothing is ever enough if it can be better and we are allowed to demand it (or take it.) we deserve the world, we are being told that we’re asking fo rtoo much. are we? really? 

i was thinking about the children thing as well bc...lmao i was so tightly contorlled as a child and it really messed me up but at the same time, like you, i honestly do not want my children watching drivel. like even with youtube. a friend of mine said that what she thinks she will do is try and hammer home how fantastical these things are, they do not reflect reality, and to get them to understand the spectacle. at the same time i’m like does a child really need to watch these dumb tiktok stars or jake paul? but then im like i really dont want to control them. but like what if ur kid asks u to go to some like fucking BL concert or some shit like what do you say to that?!??! I DONT WANNA SAY NO BUT AT THE SAME TIME UHHHHlmao but at the same time we have to give them tools to analyze and do the right things and follow their hearts

however,

as you know

LOL

tysm for responding, lovely talking to you and hearing your thoughts!!!

oh btw so u r from kashmar? that is very cool......VERY COOL

[sob-dylan]

Hey! Maybe a stupid thing to ask, but you reblogged a post saying how “Kylie Ren is x coded”. What does the coded part mean? Like I get what they’re trying to say with the x coded thing but when did I it start/is it an academic term/how do you understand it?

i may not be the best person to answer this because i’m a 21 year old dumbass who hasn’t taken any kind of english or lit crit class since high school, but . . .

as i understand it, when a person says a character is “x-coded” they’re either A) referring to subtext they think that they have inferred or B) they’re arguing that the character is broadly symbolic of some human condition, such as the female experience, the gay experience, the trans experience, etc., even when the character themselves is not female, gay, trans, etc. this may be evidenced by the character exhibiting certain mannerisms or possessing certain attributes commonly associated with that demographic.

A would be most commonly used to describe works in which the author, for whatever reason, felt they couldn’t or shouldn’t make certain aspects of the character explicit, (am i just . . . defining subtext? perhaps). a good example would be the talented mr. ripley (at least the book is— i haven’t seen the movie). they never explicitly define ripley’s sexuality, but he’s pretty heavily queer-coded. and i’m not just pulling this out of my ass. the book was published in 1955, (by the same woman who wrote strangers on a train and the book that carol’s based btw), so it would have been difficult to if the “hero” was explicitly gay. nonetheless, it is widely, widely accepted that ripley’s behavior was largely motivated by repressed homosexual urges. like, it’s so widely accepted that this is what the story’s about that matt damon turned down a lead role in brokeback mountain because he didn’t want to do two “gay” movies back-to-back, even though i don’t think the movie made it much more explicit than the book. so, in summation, if the term “coded” is used as a way to describe subtext then, yeah, sure, that’s a perfectly appropriate tool in the literary/artistic analysis toolbox. (apropos of nothing: i recommend this book! it’s a fun, quick, easy beach read. but i would not read it at the beach if you plan on taking a boat ride alone with a friend).

B is a little trickier. i can’t think of any good examples related to specific characters off the top of my head, but for a class i took last semester i read this paper by queer theorist jack halberstam about “trans interpretations” of the work of avant-garde artist gordon matta-clark. matta-clark is best known for his idea of “anarchitecture.” he would perform large scale operations on existing buildings in order to subvert architectural norms/challenge how we interact with the built environment. some examples: 

i first learned about matta-clark in a freshman “intro to environmental design” course. zero mention of any non strictly architectural interpretations. then, a couple years later, i read this paper for another class, and i suddenly had a whole new lens through which i could view his work. matta-clark wasn’t trans, he certainly didn’t set out to embody the trans experience in his work, but halberstam was able to find myriad similarities between the ethos of anarchitecture and his own experience as a trans individual. just as matta-clark subverted architectural norms, halberstam argued, the trans experience subverts normative ideas about gender. just as matta-clark challenged how we inhabit the built environment, the trans experience challenges how one inhabits their body. (there’s also something about surgery in there, but it’s nearly 5 am and i haven’t slept, so i’m not gonna bother re-reading the article). in this way, matta-clark’s work is trans-coded. (i won’t spend a lot of time breaking it down, but if you’re interested in this stuff you can check out this lecture i attended a few months back. this guy talked about the place of genderqueer individuals in architecture and architectural criticism, and how alienating it is when critics use heavily gendered and queer-coded language to dismiss postmodernist architecture. like “voluptuous” to describe a zaha hadid building or “flamboyant” to describe a frank gehry building. it was a pretty decent lecture, so watch it if you have the time and interest, but i would definitely recommend the halberstam article over this).

i’m not sure when this kind of use of the word “coded” became popular, nor am i aware of how frequently it’s used in serious academia. obviously, it’s proliferated widely across the internet, and often with little thought or nuance. e.g. in that post i reblogged: the assertion that loki is “jewish-coded.” of course he isn’t fucking “jewish-coded.” first of all, he’s a marvel villian. it’s not that deep.  didn’t he try to commit genocide in the first avengers movie? i doubt anyone could make a strong argument for loki being “jewish-coded.” but people keep on saying shit like that and “kylo ren is femme-coded.” no! what?! that’s so dumb! as you can see in the halberstam article, it’s totally possible to make a strong argument supporting an interpretation of a work that clearly doesn’t mirror the creator’s intentions, and it can be a perfectly legitimate interpretation because art is a two-way street! art doesn’t stop with the creator! it demands engagement with an audience, and an audience can never truly divorce their interpretations of a work from their own lived experiences! but imo, for it to be “legitimate” or “valid” or whatever, it’s gotta be a sort of marriage between creator and audience. you can’t just completely ignore a creator’s intentions and rewrite your own story over their work. i find that when the term “coded” gets used out here on the great, wide internet, it often means someone has found a character that they like and has decided to projected onto them and/or sanitize them by forcing them into relatable, “non-problematic” categories. people just see what they wanna see.

P.S. i’m not really all that plugged into stars wars, so i spent a long time staring at this ask, just trying to figure out who the hell “kylie ren” was. for a minute there i legit thought it might be a nickname for kylie jenner. i was fully getting ready to talk about her exploitation of black femininity. 

[cantquitu]

I'm the masculine and feminine ask person. I read the comment someone wrote and said that what I said is offensive. Why? Why is it offensive? Is it not true that sex differences are part of make human relationships exciting? This is not only from a straight perspective, if that person is insinuating I meant that. Also, I never said that people can't be free to express themselves how they want. Obviously not everyone is going to express themselves according to gender norms.

I don’t have time to answer you properly now as I gotta get back to work, so this is brief, sorry.

You said ‘people want to destroy gender differences’. No they don’t. They want to expand the expression of what it means to be masculine and what it means to be feminine, not focus on the differentiation.  Nobody wants to “erase” anything.

Your ask said “the differences are part of what makes the sexual tension between men and women exciting” - that to me seems a close-minded approach even as it relates to a cis straight couple, let alone the fact that it doesn’t take into account gay or queer relationships. Do men and women have to stay in their stereotypically gendered roles in order to enjoy those exciting differences? No, they don’t.

To answer your question “is it not true sex differences are part of what makes human relationships exciting?” - yes, PART OF what makes SOME human relationships exciting. But expanding limits on gender expression has absolutely no impact on that at all. It allows MORE exploration.

[btw, I’m saying all this as someone who couldn’t give a shit about Harry’s role as Gucci spokesperson, and who rolled her eyes involuntarily at most of the twaddle he and Harris Reed spouted when doing advertising for Gucci Memoire. The thinking behind it is completely sound, it’s just that we don’t need to buy bad-smelling perfume or outrageously overpriced clothing to access it. And it goes without saying that most of the world still labours under strictly enforced gendered roles]

[secretbranch]

LRR OF THE SPARK

Okay, so in a recent live TCC, LRR was asked what planeswalkers they associate with “everyone in LoadingReadyRun”, and they gave some great answers, so I wanted to compile them as well as add my own opinions, so without further ado....

(also note that race/gender don’t factor here) Graham (Garruk)

Graham has cosplayed as Garruk for videos before, and you can totally see it. They also threw around the idea of Angrath, which I will admit I like better, but I also know that, for better or for worse, due to recent developments, Graham has cemented himself into the mono green man of the wild. (Plus, I wanted to use the stained glass art versions of all the walkers, and then I realized Graham was Garruk rip #whereareyougarruk) Paul (Karn)

You could argue that Paul is some sort of blue mage because of his endless experimentation in Friday Nights, but while Karn may not approve of some of Paul’s designs, he would appreciate the effort. Also, I mean, Paul’s card in Friday Nights is colorless for a reason, right? James (Angrath)

Alright, so a bunch of names were thrown around for James (Nicol Bolas, Gideon, Ajani [because he’s so supportive {sarcasm}]), and I personally didn’t think any of them fit. I then remembered a conversation I heard on stream (can’t remember exactly when, otherwise I’d link it), but someone referred to James as “Kind of a dick, but still has a heart of gold”, and that made me think of Angrath’s story from Ixalan, and I realized he was the perfect fit. Also, if I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard someone in chat say that James would make a great dad, I wouldn’t be yet another broke millennial, hahah. Ha.

Kathleen (Sorin)

This is one where you may have a different opinion than the LRR friends. Whether or not you consider it low-hanging fruit, you may have thought of Liliana first. While I do admit there is some merit to Kathleen being our goth queen, wielding her horde of Brave New Faves listeners against the forces of evil, a helpful, totally extra edgelord is not far off either.

Alex (Saheeli)

Alex was the first of a couple people whom I almost gave Tibalt. Early Friday Nights had him pinned as some sort of Rakdos Madman obsessed with explosives, sort of like if a goblin was a person. But, frankly, I don’t think the Demon Prince fits Alex very well. Alex is super creative, which you know if you’ve seen his art or his comics. He’s also been referred to as a “meme nexus”, and has a lot of information stored in his brain (which paved the way for the discussion of “Alex-isms”). His ability to create and appreciation of the world around him s very reminiscent to me at least of Saheeli. Plus, Alex doesn’t give a shit about your gender norms anyway. Fuck ‘em.

Cameron (Tamiyo)

Books? Notes? Yep, that’s Cam. Also, without a doubt, some of the deepest cuts and references you will ever hear on LoadingReadyRun have been from Cameron. He is the longest running co-host of a show where they analyze video games as art. Come on, the similarities keep coming. Also, Cam would totally be down to say “fuck your gender norms”. He is beauty, he is grace, and yet he will trip and fall and somehow find a way to land directly on his funny bone.

Ian (Daretti)

As discussed in the video, Ian is absolutely the tinkering goblin madman that turns into an evil genius in the sequel. Like, the show is LITERALLY called TINKER Tailor Solder Fry. Not to mention Daretti’s other quality: D E C A D E N C E. Some goblins will settle for any trash. Daretti only settles for the highest quality of trash. I feel like this statement highly resonates with Ian. Plus, there’s probably some “waifu is trash” joke that I’m missing since I don’t watch anime, but regardless: perfect fit.

Cori (Huatli)

They almost said Vivien, but then Cam pointed out (and I totally agree) that Cori would have red or blue in her color identity. So, here is Cori! She’s super helpful and friendly and wholesome, and she also reins Ian in when he goes a little too off the rails. That being said, Cori has been known to go off the rails a little herself, and is super creative, so Huatli seems like a nice match.

Beej (Sarkhan)

So this was what the LRR folks picked at the panel, and it catches a lot of people offguard. The universal first response I think is Tibalt, E̻̻͙̭̼̅́ͯ̒ͅX̸̠̫̟̙̣̮͔ͬͯ̈́ͤͤP͌ͨͫ̄́͏̠͉Eͦͨͨ͊͂̓҉̱R̷̠͔̮̲̥̘͚̄̈́̅ͧ̇̃I̲̙̗͇͌ͮ̃́̚E̢͇̝͆ͪ̑̌ͧͮ̎NC̓̒̐͆͐͂ͭ҉̥̺̞E̠͖̐͊ͬ̔̐͊̎̕ ̮̪͒ͣ́͗͆̆̏͠B̥͍̳̲̠̳̀̓̏ͥͮ̈́ͣE͇̳̫͙͕ͅͅE͈̱̜͈̱̱̲J̼̉̔ͅ and all that. But, after thinking about it, Sarkhan is a rambling madman who turned out to know more about the universe than almost anyone, and isn’t that in the spirit of E̻̻͙̭̼̅́ͯ̒ͅX̸̠̫̟̙̣̮͔ͬͯ̈́ͤͤP͌ͨͫ̄́͏̠͉Eͦͨͨ͊͂̓҉̱R̷̠͔̮̲̥̘͚̄̈́̅ͧ̇̃I̲̙̗͇͌ͮ̃́̚E̢͇̝͆ͪ̑̌ͧͮ̎NC̓̒̐͆͐͂ͭ҉̥̺̞E̠͖̐͊ͬ̔̐͊̎̕ ̮̪͒ͣ́͗͆̆̏͠B̥͍̳̲̠̳̀̓̏ͥͮ̈́ͣE͇̳̫͙͕ͅͅE͈̱̜͈̱̱̲J̼̉̔ͅ?

Heather (Jaya)

This was another personal pick of mine, and I really like it. Cute but fierce is something I can totally see describing Heather. Like, Heather definitely has this very loving, innocent mindset, but anyone who has seen enough Rhythm Cafe knows that that statement isn’t entirely true. She also seems like someone who will fiercely protect her friends, and that’s something Jaya can definitely get behind.

Serge (Yanggu)

You knew it was coming. How could you not see it coming; the adorable doggo-wielding cinnamon roll who can surely kill you with his boyish smile while simultaneously actually killing you? Everyone in chat always protects Serge when bullies like Adam or James show up, even when Serge was sassing them seconds before. Also, Yanggu is a green mage, and we all know how Serge feels about lands.

Ben (Chandra)

In the words of Kathleen: “THIS ONE IS MY FINEST HOUR!!!!” Think about it. Ben has always said he’s most closely aligned with Red and Green, and here’s this planeswalker that can be both a wild child and super wholesome. Also, canonically a member of the LGBT+ community. ALSO, you KNOW Chandra is super supportive of people when she’s not immolating them. I didn’t even think of the Zippotricks McEdgelord thing until I was halfway through this. His individuality, his creativity, he is Chandra in disguise.

Adam (Koth of the Hammer)

Beefcake of the Mountains? Adam Savidan??? Absolutely. I will admit, this is what LRR said, and I would have gone for someone a little more studious since I know that’s a lot of the Adam we don’t see on camera, but as for what we DO see, hell yeah. I also find it hilarious that the guy acting as the conductor for the WE’RE HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERE train wasn’t even in War of the Spark. Rip in pieces, Koth. Matt G (Ral)

I’ll be honest, at time of posting, Matt is still fairly new to streams, and I haven’t seen a lot of stuff he’s done, but I’ve seen his personality through his editing (which is always amazing btw), and his creativity and very open personality is expressed greatly in Ral. Plus, I mean, when there’s low-hanging fruit, sometimes you’ve just gotta give the gay boi the gay boi.

(Bonus Friday Nights A-LRR-mni)

(Note that this is mainly their Friday Nights Personalities) 

Jer P. (Teferi)

Super organized, methodical, intelligent. Who the heck is WILLING to sort their cards, let alone OTHER PEOPLE’S? Jer has had to since move on from LRR, which is sort of like Teferi retiring from planeswalking.  And I mean, come on.

Matt W. (Ob Nixilis)

Hear me out. I’m not saying Matt is a demon. I am saying he is absolutely Ob BEFORE he broke the contract. Throughout his episodes in Friday Nights, he is ob-sessed (don’t you love my puns?) with winning. Furthermore, like Ian, decadence is a word that comes to mind when you consider the way he talks. A very sinister villain is Wiggins who returns every time we go back to Zendikar (or have a Desert Bus, but you get it) And that’s it!!! This was a fun homage as well as a much needed trip down memory lane. Hope everyone enjoys, while I know folks will disagree with my picks. Don’t forget to check out all of the links I hid in here. Big thanks to LRR for existing and being so wholesome and good. You guys rock.

[noussommeslessquelettes]

hey hey i have a question abt adhd/autism if that's okay. I've been told by a therapist that i have adhd and I've looked at posts and online sources and so far it fits but there's something abt it that's missing/not enough. every time i look at sources and online posts for autism it fits me more (and explains my sensory sensitivities much better) should i look into this? or is that up to me? (thanks btw)

ADHD is highly comorbid with other NDs so it wouldn’t surprise me if you had both. My current therapist told me that it’s very common for people who have milder autism to either be misdiagnosed with ADHD, or for their ADHD diagnosis to be caught while their autism diagnosis is missed (I was a case of the latter, being diagnosed with ADHD for as long as I can remember but only being told I have autism at 20.) My autism only got caught by my third therapist, and even he said he was dubious at first because I can emulate neurotypical social behaviours fairly well according to him. I believe this occurs a lot more with DFAB aspies bc social norms are drilled into us a lot more diligently than to DMAB aspies, which I think there’s been studies on for ADHD that say this is the case and produces a lot more undiagnosed DFAB/female-read aspies. Not sure what ur gender/AGAB is, but if ur like me that might also be a factor.

The reason my therapist suggested autism for me was because of my anxieties surrounding change. When people think autism, they often look only for the social aspect, but we looked into the other aspects of ASD (difficulty with change, sensory issues, and the overlapping aspects with ADHD of course) and felt it was a good fit for me. In the end, he asked if I thought the ADHD was a misdiagnosis after all, but with my hyperactivity and how much my medication helps me I told him I think I have both.

Of course, what you do next is up to you; whether or not you want to go back to that therapist and discuss autism as a possibility is your choice. I would suggest, if you do that, to have a few supportive points in mind when you go to them (I was lucky that my therapist focuses on child psychology so he’s familiar with cases of autism, but ur therapist might not be so well-versed in it so it might not be a decision y’all can bang out in one session.) You can start it as “so I was looking into autism and I feel like some of it might apply to me. For example, I often have difficulties with certain textures of food, which is impacting my ability to enjoy or even eat my food...” etc. etc. In my experience, therapists can tend to be problem-solvers (like if you go to a physiotherapist, it’s because you have an injury that needs to heal, same sort of thing goes for a psychotherapist.) Presenting things as “I have this thing, and it causes me issues when x” helps them know what to do and how to help you. Don’t fabricate things, of course, but draw on real-life experience to let them know why this diagnosis will help u.

If you choose not to go to a professional about this, though, know that’s totally okay. There’s nothing wrong with self-diagnosis, if you don’t feel like it’s causing you issues that need to be dealt with. If you’re on medication for ADHD, though, and you feel that ADHD isn’t what you have (or you feel that the medication doesn’t help/is actually making your symptoms worse,) I would suggest discussing it with a healthcare professional. ADHD meds can be some serious shit, and if they’re not helping your symptoms it’s best to get taken off of them and try a different avenue of treatment. (disclaimer: I am NOT a healthcare professional, and do NOT go off your medications based on the advice of someone online. That is a decision you and your prescribing healthcare professional must make together!!!!!!)

TL;DR, the major points have been bolded for you because this is a lot of typing and I don’t wanna hurt ur poor face orbs. It sounds to me like you might be autistic--whether instead of ADHD or in addition to it. I hope this helps, and I wish you the best of luck! Feel free to send me another ask if you have any updates!

[marvelouslyalwaysme]

Ok so something crazy happened tonight and it will only be crazy to me and me alone, and I'm just saying it cause it needs to be out in the world somehow someway, so continue reading of you want but it is nothing crazy unless you are me

So 3 of my cousins and my aunt came over tonight to visit cause my brother is visiting right now so they came to see him, now we don't see them as often as we used so the relationships are not as close as they once were (not important but just giving you the vibe ig) so we're sitting im sitting at the dining table while everyone else is sitting on the couches(well except for my older cousin who was on the ground with her kid, again doesn't matter but yk) so we're sitting there for a while my mom and my aunt are talking away and at some point my mom turns on miraculous tales of lady bug and cat noir, it was the movie I think where they go to Japan (I think it was a movie idk I don't watch the show) but I do know the like gay theories and stuff people have about it and the gay relationship between that both girl and pretty in pink girl because duh I'm on tumblr, so anyways it was a scene where marinette was riding on the back of this girls motorcycle and she hugs her and goes "thank you idk where I would have been without you" or something along the lines of that (also keep in mind this is a show ik they watch so they know the show) now when I saw that I thought "ok lesbian" but that's me a lesbian thinking that right not shocking I see lesbians everywhere but out the corner of my eye I see my youngest cousin (age 11) tap her sister (age 13 or 14) to get her attention and she does the limp wrist 'are you gay' thing to her to be like 'that was gay right' I didn't even see what the 13 year old did to that cause I was just in shock I had look away luckily I was wearing a mask cause my mouth fell open immediately

Now you might be thinking why is that crazy? Right well that side of the family is VERY religious and conservative not vote for Trump conservative but like condemn gay people conservative for sure and like really religious like only allowed to watch certain things and listen to certain music like constant policing of their clothes and like anti covid vaccine (and my aunt's a nurse btw) like barely wear masks outside, like my uncle doesn't think that the cops are apart of the a problem (he is a cop btw a black one) like very gender norm men do this and women do this mentality like very religious women here to serve men bullshit so the fact that they even know what that means let alone did it in response to marinette hugging a girl blows my mind but like the 14 year old has phone and they can't super control everything in that as much as they tried with their older sister (19 years old) (Who btw moved out cause of how religious strict and controlling they were) but like that shit was honestly the craziest shit ever. anyways if you not me reading this and read the whole thing I'm sorry for wasting your time but honestly I made solely for me cause it needed to go somewhere

[hikariobsessions]

Your problem is that you're a western weeb trying to be or look japanese, that's why you can't stand westernized MC. Let me tell you that you'll never be japanese or even asian lol Not even when you worship japanese people. Also as an asian woman, I'm tired of weebs pretending there isn't anything wrong with asian cultures holding their women down, We can't say it as open as westerners But that doesn't make it non-existent. Stop talking about cultures you aren't a part of smh

Oh lord, I’ve been hit!! OMIGOD 🤣 

I have never broken down idiocy before but here goes~

“Also as an Asian woman, I’m tired of weebs pretending there isn’t anything wrong with Asian cultures holding their women down”

I seriously hope you’re not trying to generalize Asian culture as the fucking Patriarchy. Making bold claims such as “holding their women down” without even considering the decent men and women of said cultures and backgrounds who have been more than respectful towards women and men alike from all walks of life. Take for example this lovable fellow:

Hayao Miyazaki

When I watched Miyazaki, something changed. For the first time, I saw representations of girls and women that seemed real and attainable, yet mythic all the same. Here were female characters who were vulnerable and independent, who defied gender norms in the way they looked and behaved. - Gabrielle Bellot, The Atlantic

I’ve never once stated that “Asian culture” is perfect. Each culture has their own problems within each society – to the point where it becomes relative to their environment, family, governments, and identity. 

Cultures all have negative and positive aspects of it. They are all rooted in history, good and bad, and are multi-faceted and complex in many ways. BUT I’ll save the bother of explaining it to you, hun. 

‘Cause I can’t even begin to imagine what you’ve been through, what exactly you’ve experienced, and why you feel so passionately.

But let’s not generalize these things yeah?

“Your problem is that you’re a western weeb trying to be or look Japanese, that’s why you can’t stand westernized MC”

Okay, you got me. Can anyone tell me, what in the actual fuck is a weeb? I’ve only been active on Tumblr for like 6 months now, and my lingo is seriously still sub par. 

As for the English MC, yes, I’ve been more than vocal about my distaste for her as a character as well as the writing. I can understand if people disagree and have their own reasons for liking her, and that’s fine. And there’s nothing wrong with that. 

I don’t expect everyone to agree with everything that I say. It’s just one opinion. And it’s honestly not so much her Westernization, but rather how rude and judgmental she can get. Again, that’s just me  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  

But to take your butthurt out of proportion and to suddenly accuse people of being completely against Western culture and idolizing Asian culture, is beyond me. 

Westerners, or rather people in America, people in Western Europe, people from all around the world, produce their own amazing works of art, stories, and writing; and I respond in kind based on my own opinions as someone who appreciates and consumes cultural products left and right. 

Dickheads are also a common thing all around the world, but I digress.

Seriously though, I pity any company that can’t take any critical feedback on their work, but also, I pity them for the equally ignorant and rude people defending the hard work that they do and getting shit for something they don’t have control of. 

And on the basis of what exactly? A misinformed observation of the person you’re attacking? How’s that going for you BTW?

“Let me tell you that you’ll never be Japanese or even Asian lol Not even when you worship Japanese people.”

Ouch. Reality has never been this cruel.

OH, SHIT…It was supposed to be a fucking peace sign ✌🏼  You’re right, I am sooo not worthy of being Japanese. MY BAD. GOMEN. LET ME TAKE ANOTHER.

You see, I showed this to a friend, and he told me “well a peace sign is technically two fingers”…so…  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  

See kids, this is why you don’t shy away from constructive feedback — Because more often than not, it leads to better results.

Asian enough for you, hun? Or are my eyes too big? Filipinos tend to be that way but I digress. Since you’re so smart, I probably don’t need to tell you where the Philippines is on the map

All-in-all, honey, let’s not forget that there is a big world outside of Tumblr and let’s certainly not forget how to act like decent human beings~

If you can’t be mature enough to be one of those people, you can always start by getting a life. That shouldn’t be too hard, right?

And yes, I can be “sassy” too.

And no. I seriously don’t have any goddamn chill when it comes to this. So, if my selfies don’t already tell you the entire story – it basically means