#he treats me like im 10. im not allowed to go anywhere. hang out with anyone. just sit on my laptop and write

[hanatagami]

bnha boys monsterverse headcannons part 2

Synopsis: The reader is a human who helps around at a monster university and has unknowingly made all the monsters in 1-A smitten with them. They go to visit 1-A  during spring break but isn’t being let inside because apparently it’s mating season? Accidentally causing a ruckus inside!~ Boys Part 2! Unedited

uuuh the reason this took so long is because it was supposed to have ojiro and that big fat didn’t happen. I just couldn’t think of anything for him so maybe next time. im thinking up ideas for the ladies now, and maybe the adults and teachers.

Minors DNI!

Part 1

Monster! 1-A x GN! Reader

Kaminari - Zombie

now zombies lose a lot of things that make them human when they become zombies

warmth, the need to procreate, a pulse

but one thing they’ve gained 10-fold in death, is hunger

so this time of year isn’t really considered a “mating season” per say, but rather...

a feast of their carnal desires

their hunger shifts to a different kind

so in this moment, the best way to describe what kaminari is feeling

is ravenous

and when his attention is brought to the one standing a ways outside, he really begins to feel it

god you look so delicious

he doesn’t want to eat you

well he does

just not in a zombie way

he wants to feel you in his mouth

he wants to drag his tongue over every inch of skin

his tongue was cold and wet, but it wouldn’t be unpleasant

he wants to give attention to every finger, relishing in the taste each one provides, each one being treated like an appetizer before the main course

of course he’s not just gonna leave you hanging while he does so

his hands and fingers are providing attention to areas for later, making sure their especially tender and sensitive

it’s hard to notice how he nibbles softly on your soft skin with how he worked his fingers

that is until he finds an extra sensitive spot

the way he would work on it, its like its called a sweet spot for more then one reason

you’d think he found his favorite piece of candy with how he was using his tongue

which brings me to the next point

you will be riddled with hickies

he’d chew and nibble and suck on any inch of skin he can get his mouth on

which will be all of it

so there is no hiding the marks he’d leave because he’d leave them all over

you’d be groaning in frustration on how close he was as he leaves his marks on your thigh, without touching where you really want to be touched

then he’d softly kiss his way to your chest

already ripe and for the taking from how much care his hands were providing them

the sweat that was forming on your body made for the best seasoning

the sounds of pure pleasure you released could be compared to the finest entertainment at an expensive restaurant

as he switched from one side to the other at random, he would be working on the main course down below

you would cum before he gravitated to that area

he would make sure of it

because whats the main course without your favorite drink to wash it down with

as soon as you came, your moans might as well have meant “your dinner is served”

he couldn’t have gotten down there faster

the second his face was close enough he was already lapping up every fluid that laid on your skin

the way you would moan and wrap your hands in his hair as your thighs wrapped around his neck

the dulled pain he felt as you tugged only added to the experience

once he finished licking everything up, it was time for the best part

he would start to eat you out like he hadn’t just been tasting every inch of your body seconds prior

there was not a single thing that could tear him away from you in this moment

the hums and moans of satisfaction he gave from just the taste of you vibrated through your body

there is no reasonable excuse as to why his tongue would need to be anywhere then where it was

he doesn’t need air, so if allowed he will spend hours down there

the only reason he might break away from it is when you cum again, which will be happening a lot

though it’ll only take him a couple seconds to take it all down, he isn’t gonna let any drip off you

it’s wasteful

when he’s had his full, he’d go for dessert 

he’d make out with you like no tomorrow

he’s licking the drool that falls out of your mouth

he’s sucking on your tongue

he’s nibbling on your lips

but even then your not done

your body is soaked in sweat, and he wanted every last drop

so the cycle begins again

Sero - Arachnid

sero could feel the virations form bakugous room coming through his nest

the way his webs shook around his room and against his body told him what he needed to know

he’d try to look at you through his window, but he sadly covered it up with silk just hours prior

thankfully it didn’t stop him from thinking of having you anyways

he didn’t have the big spider body his father had, so you weren’t scared of him at all

he had multiple eyes, sharper claw-like fingers, and spider legs springing from his back but you never seemed grossed out by them at all

and you were so fascinated by the sticky silk that came from his arms

you were so sweet, and it’s because of that he was so eager to spend this season with you

you wouldn’t be scared of the way he made his nest in his room for you both

how it would darken the room from blocking the natural light

you had complete and utter trust in him and his instincts, that others would shudder at the thought of

oh god the things you’d let him do gave him chills, his hand grazing his body at all the things that ran through his head

he’d take his time in cutting off each article of clothing you had with his claws, relishing in the way your body grew warm against him at the strange sensation of claws softly grazing skin

you’d put complete faith in him as he would begin to wrap you up with his webs, allowing him to hoist you in the air

not a cocoon like normal spiders, but soft ties that would keep you in the positions he wanted to see you in

he’d tie you in all kinds of compromising positions

his eyes, used to the dark, could watch clearly at how the tightness accentuated the plumpness of your body

the grip the webs had on your body would show off the soft plushness that graced human bodies

the way your body would shift in shades as the blood flow changed from the tightness of it all

the look of self-consciousness you had would be so cute, unable to sense from which direction he would be watching you from as watched licking his lips

unable to see the festering feelings of want in his sets of eyes

he would chuckle at your instincts of hiding your private parts as you remembered the nudity of them, but seeing the attempts proven fruitless thanks to the soft but tight wrap of his webs

how you bit your lip in the realization of how embarrassing the situation in really was

he could watch your arousal manifest as you basked in the attention you were given, despite the feeling of humiliation you so clearly had

he would begin to stroke himself as he tied you in a position that blessed him with the sight of your open legs, presenting yourself oh so delectably

he finally allowed himself to take action, engraining the memory of your squeak at the sudden feeling of a tongue prodding at your most sensitive areas

his claws would leave soft cuts along the surface of your skin, enough to draw blood for him to lick off, but not enough to hurt you too much

he takes pleasure in seeing you react to the different sensations his body provided, enhanced in sensitivity by the lack of any light in the room

he would step away, and watch as you grew impatient and excited to see where he’ll touch you next

he never grew tired of the yelp you emit when he seemingly appeared again out of nowhere to touch you

his fangs would leave marks on your skin, the taste of your blood sending him into overdrive

he would lower you enough to be at waist length, but keeping you elevated off the ground

he would take your head in his hands from behind and begin fucking your throat, the vibration of your shocked moan around his dick and against the webs made his balls tight

the look of your head back, gagging on his cock as his balls slapped your nose made him groan in pure delight

it was a shame you couldn’t see how hot you fucking looked like this

your entire body rocked in the air as he gripped your jaw and thrusted mercilessly into your mouth

he could see you struggle to move your hands to offer yourself any sort of relief to the arousal that was slowly driving you mad

though with the way he tightened the webs, you must’ve known he wasn’t gonna let you come by anything other than him and his dick

he let out a moan that he could tell gave you chills when he felt you shudder through his webs, before releasing a load into your mouth

he would then begin his venture to your own pleasure, pleased by the low groan you emitted when you felt his warm breath hit your achingly sensitive areas

he took delight in another shocked squeak when a thick bunch of webs gagged your mouth, the force of which rubbed your body softly against his nose and mouth

he would begin to tease the areas you were trying to hide just a little earlier, teasingly tracing a singular claw around your entrance

he would stick two fingers in slowly as to not cut you internally, though he would gladly provide that the tongue treatment too if it happened

watch as you hummed violently around the makeshift gag he provided, poking, prodding, and scissoring his fingers

as you began to moan louder and he could feel you begin to tense for release, he would stop and offer his attention elsewhere

nipples, neck, any other body part that he could tease you with

he would watch as you shifted against his ties in frustration at the rejection of orgasm, but the experience of pleasure elsewhere

after providing enough attention for long enough for you to come back down from the almost orgasm, he would go back to teasing your hole all over again only adding another finger this time

though once he could feel your orgasm coming again he would stop once more, to provide attention to areas he hadn’t before

it wasn’t until you were crying tears of frustration he would give the main course

without warning he would bottom out completely, filling you to the absolute brim 

he would watch your face scrunch in pure delight at the sudden but welcome intrusion

he’d watch as the combined feelings of the tightness of his webs, the weightlessness of your body from his webs making a makeshift sex swing, and the way his dick prodded you deeper than his fingers ever could be made you clench your teeth around his gag in pleasure

he wished he could show you just how sexy you looked like this, but there was no way he was stopping now to do that

his claws grasping at your hips as he roughly brought your body back onto him, brought a sting that combined so incredibly with everything else that if it wasn’t for the gag he was sure you’d be revealing to the whole dorms just how well he was treating you

as you clenched around his dick tighter, and how you began to squirm against his hold he could tell it was about time to give you what you wanted

as the heights of pleasure began to take you both over, he could see your eyes rolling at the relief of finally being able to cum

but it was the sudden widening of your eyes at the string around your neck that made you squeeze so much harder, the sudden lack of air making you see white when combined with the harsh orgasm that over took your body, that made him cum

he would cum deep inside, eyes trained on the way your body convulsed and twitched at the way the orgasm attacked you

he was so caught up in watching you, he had forgotten about the egg sack he wanted to implant in you

‘but it’s okay’ he thought as he watched you gasp as the web left your throat, he still had an entire night planned out for that

Shoji - Giant - Hecatoncheires  

now this guy is a sub-species of giant, specifically a multi-armed giant

giants have to be picky about who they mate with, cause if their too small it can be very dangerous

so even in normal life shoji treats you very gently

and normally in a heat, this gentleness would be thrown out the window

but as he gazed longingly at you from afar, his instincts told him that isn’t how things would go down

if he had you with him right now, he’d treat you like the finest china

soft grips and grazing

his large fingers would work on your body like he’s been doing this his whole life

the whole thing is like blissful torture to him

he was so close to you, he was so ready, so desperate to let you feel all of him, but he had to take his time

but honestly he would get off just by looking at you at this point

he would watch your reactions closely as his multiple hands prepped you for what was to come

it was so incredible seeing how large his hands were compared to your small body, cause lets face it, any human body is a small body when compared to him

it only takes one hand to wrap around your entire thigh

just the softest grip would bruise it

he would cradle your head softly with one of his hands, rubbing your cheek with his thumb as you bask in its warmth

the way he would gently stretch you out over one of his fingers, our barely able to take him up to his knuckle

you could feel his finger rubbing gently along the entirety of your lower body

it was unsure if you'd even to be able take a second finger without injury

but the way you gasped and whined as he twitched his finger, it would be worth a try

he had on hand cradling your face, watching the way you drooled as he put his thumb in your mouth drove him crazy

he had one gripping your hip, keeping you firmly in place so you don’t wiggle and hurt yourself on his large finger

he had two hands dedicated to lifting your legs up, gripping hard enough to leave marks, but softly enough to not seriously injure you

this gave him access to watch his hand stretch you out, now testing the waters with a second finger

he had his last hand on his giant dick, stroking it at the sight of you going crazy on his fingers alone

the size of his dick was ridiculous, and he knew it

the way you looked at it in fear but desire made him so hard it’d rip through his boxers if he had any on

deeming it okay as he watched you safely stretched out two of his impressive fingers, that at just the slightest twitch of them had you squealing in insane amounts of pleasure

he softly pulled his fingers, watching as the bulge of them slowly retreated from your visible body

he could hear moaning in displeasure at the sudden emptiness

but his husky voice reassured you wouldn’t be empty for long

no, your gonna be a lot fuller than you ever were before

the feel of the head at your entrance filled you with an indescribable fearful pleasure

it was gonna hurt, but it was gonna hurt so good

inch after inch was being pushed inside at such a dreadfully slow pace, but you almost didn’t notice

you were already breathless and moaning at just the tip, you couldn’t think about the upcoming inches because you could hardly think at all

just him putting it in had you cumming again and again, it was inhuman

just by observing he could tell he wouldn’t be able to completely bottom out with you

the agonizing pace at which he was going drove him about as crazy as it drove you, but he had to be slow for you

he had to stop about maybe quarter to halfway in, as he wouldn’t be able to go any farther without hurting you

but the way your stomach looked all stretched out around it made up for the lack of it

putting on his hands on your stomach, he could feel his cock pulse and twitch inside of you

every shuffle, nudge, or shiver made you both gasp in pleasure

the veins that ran alongside his dick you could feel in vivid detail

you were sure they were leaving imprints along your walls

the large source of heat left your back arching but arching your back just sends you into another fit of pleasure as feel your body conforming around him

he dreamed of one day completely filling you up

he was almost afraid of cumming because you already seemed to be at max capacity

but as seed flooded your insides and your stomach seemed to stretch out even more, he was sure he made the right decision

the fact he came with so little insertion on his part shows how much pleasure he obtained just by watching the way his body impacted your fragile form

it was so sexy knowing that your body would never be able to be pleased by any of his friends like it was from his after this

that you were so small he could pick you up and use you as his own personal fleshlight

the thought almost made him cum inside you again

but deciding that was too dangerous, he shot his cum right onto your entrance instead

watching as it all leaked out and and form a puddle underneath you made him want to go again

but as he looked at you on the verge of passing out, he decided against it

but rubbing against you to jerk off could work

[iluvromance]

my dad as soon as i wake up: “go eat”

me: “i can’t”

my dad: repeats “go eat” many times until he grows angry

me: “homie i can’t”

my dad: yelling me at me to go eat

me: angry, goes to make food

my dad: comes back half an hour after to untouched food

my dad:

[starrywinters]

missing — an ong seongwoo fic

requested by @sweetpoisonousmilkshake 

genre: slight horror??? idk, mystery? thrill? yo holY this is just a mess & a flop

based off of this post by @tokyo-coffee 

a/n: happy 300 to me :0 honestly, thanks guys!😫🎉💕 i don’t think i deserve these 300 followers but ((((’: and MERRY EARLY CHRISTMAS!🎄

also, legit hope you guys enjoy???? because i don’t like this,,,, no matter how many times i’ve edited this to make it sound better, it just doesnt????

“where are you guys?”

“i’m so lost

.

.

what is happening”

saturday - december 23rd

“breaking news, following after the missing cases of 9 other boys, 22 year old kang daniel has been reported missing after a 24 hour waiting period of no response.”

-zip- closing the tv, seongwoo cannot believe it.

what is happening, the missing 10 people are all his friends

who is behind this and what is their purpose.

for the past two weeks, one of his friends would be reported missing every day of the week, weekends aren’t touched,

guess every criminal needs their breaks too.

-

day 1 - ha sungwoon

december 11th

a group of 11 boys met up at the center of a mall. the best of friends, enjoying themselves around the mall, until…

“hey, guys, i’m going to the restroom, i’ll meet up with you guys in a bit”

“meet up at the food court when you’re done, sungwoon hyung”

“don’t clog the toilet in there HAHAH”

the day goes by and the clock hits 6pm, sungwoon still a no-show

he doesn’t pick up his phone, the boys split up to look in every restroom in the mall

still no sign of sungwoon,

-ding- seongwoo looks at his phone, it’s a message from sungwoon

“1 down, 10 more to go.”

frantically, he dials sungwoon’s number, the person on the other end picks up

“HEY WHERE’S SUNGWOON HYUNG, WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT DO YOU WANT”

and the person hangs up.

day 2 - bae jinyoung

december 12th

“okay everyone, you guys need to stay safe. be on the lookout for anything suspicious,” mother yoon jisung orders

“especially you maknaes, don’t go anywhere without an adult. or walk in crowded places.”

bae jinyoung, a child of mischief, does not listen. he feels like he can protect himself as he’s taking boxing lessons from jihoon,

he leaves his house at the usual time of 4AM, an early head start to school, his only source of light are the street lamps

a white van driving at, probably, 5mph was following him closely from behind,

creeped out he starts walking faster, the van starts driving faster, at this point he’s sprinting to school,

the van zooms by and stops a yard in front of jinyoung. the door slides open and three people steps out, taking bae jinyoung with them.

-ding- “9 more”

day 3 - hwang minhyun

december 13th

“ultra fast delivery? hm” the thing that has caught hwang minhyun’s eyes is an iRobot Roomba 880. issa a vacuum cleaner

the option of it being delivered right away caught his attention as well, placing his order, he expects the vacuum to arrive in 30 mins max, but

a minute later his doorbell rings, “wow i didn’t expect ultra fast delivery to be this quick,”

opening the door, he comes face to face with a masked man, his eyes look somewhat familiar, or am i picturing things

minhyun didn’t even get a word out before the guy places a cloth over his mouth, gasping which is not a good idea minhyun pls, chloroform.

“8”

day 4 - yoon jisung

december 14th

walking home from work, enjoying the fresh air of the night, he doesn’t notice someone suspicious following him.

even though he was the one who told his friends to stay cautious

going on his phone to check up on the news of his missing friends, no luck

no one can find them, the criminals didn’t leave any clues, what smart people.

“i just want my friends back, i want life to be normal again.”

the suspicious person took this opportunity to strike and attacks jisung,

hitting him at the back of his neck i’m sorry jisung ;-; he drops to the ground, unconscious.

dragging jisung away, all that’s left is his phone with a message sent to seongwoo

“7 more”

day 5 - lai guanlin

december 15th

the stress of not being able to communicate well with others as he’s a foreigner has finally hit him.

he feels left out and wants to collect his cool before he bursts out at his friends, thinking going to the beach will satisfy him, he did just that

spending an hour max at the beach swimming and screaming to his heart’s content, has allowed him to calm down

he feels more motivated to learn korean better, to be able to have fun with his friends too.

swimming back to shore, he didn’t notice how far he swam out, stranded in the middle of the ocean he didn’t know where to go

an incoming big wave crashes into him and he drowns, but a boat passes by and saves him

however,

he never makes it home.

“6”

day 6 - park woojin

december 18th

he went to the park where he heard there was a hurdle tournament going on,

saw some online ad and wanted to participate.

he didn’t bother considering it to be a scam since all that was in his head was winning the grand prize of $1000

the event takes place at the time of 6PM and ends at 8

woojin ends up going and upon his arrival, doesn’t see anything set up for a hurdle race

“scam? i was really looking forward to this too,” kicking some nearby rocks, he pouted.

he saw an ice cream truck parked by the park and thinks why not treat himself and make his day better with ice cream?

after getting his ice cream, he turns around, takes a few steps and bumps into someone, “ah sorry”

his ice cream fell in the process, “hey it’s ok why don’t i get you another ice cream?” dragging him to some place unknown, woojin is confused as he’s walking in the opposite direction of the ice cream truck

“i know a really good ice cream place, let’s go”

woojin never gets back home and worries his dorm mates

“5, halfway there.”

day 7 - kim jaehwan

december 19th

jaehwan started out busking as his hobby which soon became his way of living.

the many years of his field of work has never had anything serious happen, sure some delinquents would try to steal his money but he’d find a way to get it back

never in his life has he ever dealt with what’s about to happen to him

a person who self-claims as a manager from a big music entertainment walks up to jaehwan, hands him a card and tells him to go audition,

looking at the information presented on the card, “YMC huh, this sounds a bit sketchy sir,” when he looks up the man had already left

“guess i’ll give it a shot” and shrugs.

after busking, he makes it a mission to go home and rest early to go audition tomorrow, but as he walks home, some guy walks up to him and knocks him out

his guitar falls to the ground and he is taken away to someplace where his other friends are presumably taken to as well.

“4”

day 8 - lee daehwi

december 20th

worried about woojin’s disappearance he went to look for him at the same park that woojin went to,

he unknowingly meets the same guy who took woojin and asks if he’s seen a boy about “yay tall and sounds like a dolphin when he screams”

the guy doesn’t respond and keeps staring at him, wth this guy is so creepy????

“ah i’m guessing you haven’t i’ll take my leave now, thank you for your time.” turning around to leave, he feels a hand take hold of his wrist

“i know where he is,”

“AH REALLY? CAN YOU TAKE ME TO HIM, PLEASE MISTER”

the guy smiles mysteriously, leads daehwi to where woojin is supposedly at and daehwi never ever came back either

“3”

day 9 - park jihoon

december 21st

tired after his boxing competition in london, he packs his bags and waits for his manager to finish whatever he’s doing.

knowing how long this manager usually takes, he finds a place to sit in the lobby of the hotel he resided in, and closes his eyes for a small little nap

a black figure slowly creeps up to him and is about two seats away, reaching out

“hey jihoon-ssi, hey, wake up.” waking up to someone tapping his shoulders, he sees his manager in front of him, “let’s go we’re almost late for our flight”

the black figure has hid behind a newspaper so he wouldn’t get caught,

heading out and arriving at the airport, the manager leaves to go check in for them first, letting jihoon take his time walking

lost in the crowd of people, the same black figure was following jihoon, feeling something was suspicious he walks faster and looks for a restroom to wash his face and clear his mind, thinking he was imagining the feeling

walking into the restroom he unexpectedly gets jumped and gets knocked out by a chloroform cloth, the same black figure getting up and cleaning the ‘dust’ off his hands and pants,

“2”

day 10 - kang daniel

december 24th

coming back from his b-boy practices, he feels a little hungry, going to the convenience store down the street from his house, he buys a few snacks and drinks

walking out of the store with his phone in hand dialing seongwoo’s number, to check in on him and to just chat, he almost crashes into a guy

taking the faster way home, he walks by an alleyway right as seongwoo picks up, and gets dragged inside,

struggling to be set free, he turns and sees the face of his kidnapper,

and finds out who it is as his eyes widens, dropping his phone and his bag of snacks,  

“You- mmph”

“hello? daniel? are you there?”

and he hears a muffled voice speak into the phone,

“1”

-

seongwoo feels frantic, all his friends have gone missing

what will he do now, what if something happens to them, is this all a dream?

is this a christmas prank? this is a cruel prank then

seongwoo, not knowing what to do, wants to cry. not being able to sleep two nights in a row in worry of his friends’ safety.

day 11 - ong seongwoo

december 25th, christmas day

getting up out of his bed, he heads to his living room,

his house looking like a caveman ransacked his place in search for food, he grieves over his friends’ disappearance,

he receives a letter from an unknown person; inside it, in cutout letters from magazines, was spelled out

“0, you are next.”

thanks for reading!♡ omg plus, winter break is almost here, bless. im ready to watch the downfall of my grades throughout this week, ugh finals week im ready to fail every test given to me ((’:

[yournewapartment]

Hello, I’m currently studying at a community college in Arizona. I was suppose to finish the second year of my AA in Washington but my dad said that he would not support me what-so-ever if I didn’t move with my family to AZ. Im going to transfer to ASU next year and I want to be independent from my dad because I don’t want to be controlled. Do you have any advice on how to live independently and how to save up? Just any advice will help. Thank you

I am so proud of you for sticking up for yourself and following your dreams. That’s so unfair of your father to use finances as way to try to control you, and I love that you’re fighting for your independence. Stay strong! Keep us updated. 💖

Living On Your Own (For the First Time)

1. PKW. Phone, keys, wallet. Every time you go anywhere. Check twice. The worst part of living on your own is having to rely on yourself to never forget to lock yourself out or leave your wallet at a sandwich shop in a mall. Make absolutely sure you have duplicates of your keys (I would get a couple made) and give one to a friend who lives nearby who you can count on. I also like to keep an extra set inside the apartment itself in a secure place, just in case. Your landlord can let you in during office hours, but giving a key to a trustworthy friend helps you 24/7.

2. Cleaning routine. You don’t have to sit down at a writing desk and draft this out, but spend a few minutes coming up with a basic cleaning regime for you to follow. It’s definitely easier to do a little each day, but if that doesn’t work for your schedule set aside at least an hour and a half during your time off to get your apartment spotless. I don’t know about you, but whenever I deep clean my apartment I feel like I’m living in a hotel for a day, and I absolutely love it.

3. Make a “moving” shopping list.This is everything you will need (minus food) for your first week at your new place. First aid kit, cleaning supplies, tape, cat food, etc. Your first week moving into your new place will be stressful enough, you don’t want to be halfway through setting up your living room and realize that you forgot to buy trash bags.

4. Secure yourself. I’m not the most agile or fast person in the world, and I do live in a mid-sized city that has a good deal of crime. The apartment complex I live in is very safe, but I still like to double lock my front door at night. It might be smart to keep some pepper spray or a baseball bat somewhere in your apartment, just in case.

5. Stay social. Even the most anti-social person gets lonely. Make sure to hang out with your friends, not just your co-workers, your actual friends. Get out off your apartment every few days and go see a movie, get a cup of coffee, go people watching at the park, etc. It’s easy to get depressed if you’re living alone and doing the same things the same way every day- allow yourself to mix it up.

6. Meal prep. It can be stressful and seem useless to cook complicated or “fancy” meals when you’re living on your own. Plan your meals for the week and make a list before going shopping. Get yourself enough food to make a variety of dinners that will only take you fifteen minutes. If you do want to go crazy and make steak and mashed potatoes for yourself, make enough for two meals. Also, nobody is going to think poorly of you for stocking your fridge with a couple frozen dinners.

7. Customer service. Living alone means that you are going to be doing a lot of talking to customer service representatives. Get comfortable talking to people over the phone. Tell the rep what you need as quickly as you can, and try to be polite because customer service at a phone center is a garbage job that doesn’t pay well. On the flip side, don’t be afraid to ask for a manager if you’re upset or unhappy with your service. Take their survey at the end of your phone call, tell them how unhappy you are. It’s someone’s shitty job to look at all those surveys, no complaint goes unheard. Companies with great phone service: Verizon, Apple, Amazon. Companies with awful phone service: USPS (literally the worst), electric companies, health insurance companies.

8. Guest space. This is not required, but it’s a good idea to have some sort of space for a friend to stay the night. A friend of mine had a bad breakup, showed up at my apartment with ten minute’s notice, and then fell asleep on my couch after an hour of crying. It as 7:30! Whatever, she needed it. Keep an extra blanket and pillow in your closet, I like to keep travel sized shampoos and conditioners in my bathroom cabinet on the off chance a guest wants to use my shower. I got these at a hotel for free, but they’re available at CVS and other pharmacies.

9. Toilet paper. Don’t let yourself run out of toilet paper! I like to buy more when I notice I only have one roll left. The same deal goes for paper towels.

10. Enjoy. Living on your own is simoltaneously exciting and exhausting, but an all around must-have experience. Enjoy the freedom to forget to make the bed, to decorate your bathroom however you want, to have ice cream for dinner, to watch reruns of Friends and cry when Rachel decides to move to France. Make sure to give yourself lots of space to move at your own pace, but please remember to eat three meals a day and to go to the doctor’s for a checkup at least once a year!

Saving Money

1. Cut unnecessary purchases out of your life. Pretty straightforward, but effective. Think about the products in your life that you consider to be “luxury” items. Maybe that’s a cup of Starbucks coffee every morning, maybe that’s getting a manicure or pedicure every two weeks, maybe that’s subscribing to Apple Music every month. If it’s not essential to your well-being, get rid of it.

2. Downgrade the luxury. If you can’t give up your morning cup of Joe because it’ll decrease your performance at school/work, start finding it from a cheaper source. For example- choose Dunkin instead of Starbucks. If you want pretty nails, buy nail polis and do it yourself. The same goes for everything else.

3. Go grocery shopping on a limited basis. Can you make it a month without buying any additional groceries/toiletries? Make a master list of everything you need and stick to it. Buy necessities like toilet paper and paper towels in bulk so you won’t run out. Buy bulk meat, rice, pasta, what have you. Divide them into meal sized portions, and freeze what you won’t eat immediately. 

4. Plan your meals. Plan all of your meals out for the next week, and stick to it. Type it up on a calendar with sparkles or whatever and stick it on your fridge. If you have a meal already planned, you won’t be tempted to go out to Panera. Meal Prep! If you have no energy after work/school to make yourself a meal, meal prep when you have the energy to save yourself the trouble later. I recommend meal prep is one of the first things you should do on your day off, so that you don’t get discourage and “forget” to later in the day. Treat it as a chore.

5. Choose store brands. When shopping, save money by choosing store brands over name brands every time. This is my number one tip for saving money while shopping!

6. Tell your friends. Tell your friends that you’re trying to save money! Tell them that you’re having difficultly and to help prevent you from spending money when you go out. That doesn’t mean that you can’t go shopping and provide moral support, but if they know you’re trying to save money they can help remind you during your weakest moments. No you don’t need those shoes.

7. Budget. Decide on your budget and figure out how much money you can save on a monthly basis. Saving even $25 is still saving money! Start moving any money you haven’t budgeted for living expenses immediately into your savings account so that you’re not tempted to touch it. Use it only for emergency purposes.

Good luck!! 💕

[killiantaylorua]

Jaeger Recruits

I wandered in a circle, around City E’s Fountain. Being the 0 point target means i have to wait 30 minutes into the 60 minutes allotted to the wannabe heroes combat test. 29 minutes passed. Then 56 seconds, 55, 54… Oh this is so boring. My nice, silky brown suit keeps my attention. How it grips to my body and keeps me cool in any weather, oh it is lovely. The yellow button up is a little rough, but I don't mind. To be honest im surprised no heroes made it to the center fountain. Are the sidekicks too much? Disappointing, I would have thought my fellow Jaegers made it tOH, 30 minutes!

I took in a huge breath, then yelled! “HELLO PARTY PEOPLE, I'M COMING OUT TO PLAY!” Perfect Mics voice is so much fun. And his quirk. I have the quirk sound replay. Any sound I hear, I can repeat at anytime. This quirk also copies direct vocal quirks. For example, Present Mics Voice quirk allows him to turn up his voice to pitches and volumes unbearable to the human ear. Others i have picked up include the singer Gloria Darius’s dance quirk. Her quirk causes anyone that hears her singing to dance uncontrollably. Anywhere she goes a rave soon starts. Oh, I also borrowed a UA Main’s Class 1 A voice. Koji Koda’s Anivoice. That reminds me, “Wolves, to Me.” 

Two wolves came out of neighboring buildings. Gray with white speckling, brown eyes, black pads on the bottom of their paws, truly powerful, and beautiful creatures. The wolves suddenly froze, then bent, growling, ready to pounce. I wondered why, a feeling of uneasiness falling on me. Then I saw him. A long, clawed hand reached out from behind a building, gracefully touching the ground, not making a sound. Soon the rest of him came forward, he was almost werewolf like in form, except for the lack of hair and significantly longer form.. The top half of his head, covered in that dark mirrored glass. Corvus had changed dramatically.

I smiled to myself. This quirk, bestial transformation, was taken from a criminal who had hunted civilian in state parks. Corvus had said, he tasted like a honeyed ham, sweet, salty, and delicious. Well I lost. He has 10 quirks, 8 of them are from villains I know that he ate. All known killers, his form of justice. I agreed with this system, and was inspired to form the Jaegers, murderer killers. We capture criminals who have not killed, and treat them normally, go through all the regular channels. However at those moments, we go with my hero agency, The Soundwave agency. Those who have killed however... we incapacitate and feed them to Corvus. It is... unique to watch.

Quirks he has gained, Bestial transformation, plasma sweat, animal: bulldog bat, electrical discharge, bladed extensions, alterable horns, piercing gaze, time dilation. Slight flaw, he can only use one at a time, and it takes him a couple minutes to switch between them. “Wolves, attack the beast.” One of the wolves burst into flames, and the other dissolved into water, moving towards Corvus. The water wolf reformed behind Corvus and leapt toward his back.

Corvus’s back leg kicked out and sent the wolf flying backwards into a building. A loud “YIP” was heard as the wolf hit the building and fell to the ground. “SMACK,” and the wolf was knocked out. Corvus swung his arms wildly, quickly, removing the flames from the other wolf. The fire wolf froze, before Corvus grabbed it, and threw it at me. I dodged out of the way but when the wolf hit the ground, it was out. I looked at Corvus but it was too late, he had leapt on top of me before I could react.

“So boss,” he snarled, drool, spraying all over my face, “Mind surrendering.” He cackled, more drool seeping from his mouth.

“Well, you forgot something pal, GET OFF ME!” Perfect mics quirk is nice, but using others vocal quirks damages my vocal chords. I have to be careful with how long I use them. Corvus tried to maintain his grip, but the noise caused him to recoil and release me. I scrambled away, ready to release another blast. Corvus stumbled and returned to his original form, his clothes ripped, and hanging on by mere strands. He has five minutes before he can switch quirks, meaning I have to work quickly. If he becomes his bulldog bat, i won't be able to defeat him. 

“Need a little help there,” a voice called from behind me. I turned, but before I could react, a palm slammed under my ribs, another to my throat, and another to my skull.  I froze instantly, paralyzed by some unseen force. A shirtless kid with baggy jeans, wild blonde hair, and observant gray eyes that looked over his work. “Paralyzed, and can't move an inch, God I love my power. You good over there?”

“I’m Fine,“ he said, frustrated. The corner of his mouth twitched, and I could feel his eyes on me. This was not how he intended it to end.

“Hah that's good! Thanks to you ill be getting some rescue points, see you round!” He bolted off looking for more heroes to take out and civilians that needed rescuing.. Corvus turned looking up at one of the cameras that covered the city. He knew the judges were watching, and he wanted them to know he had more, could have even beat me. However, thanks to this paralyzer, his chance at showing he was better than a pro was lost. Me and my blindsides, shouldn't have let my guard down so easily. When it comes to physical battles, I admit I’m not very adept. That is why I specialize in stealth rescues and… other missions.

Corvus walked back towards the direction of the entrance. After he passed by several buildings, i couldn't see him anymore. The test finished, and the paralyzation eventually wore off. Doctors took care of the injured sidekicks and hero wannabees. My injuries were only moderate and i refused treatment. The others who were uninjured or as stubborn as me had already returned home. I have some paperwork to deal with, so many wannabes, so many evenings spent getting our new students.

“Perspective Change. 2 weeks later.” “Corvus, got a new batch.” MockingBird Looked at me in his regular brown attire. I smiled. We were standing in his office in UA. It was rather plain, with most of the more basic features. Computer, pencils, file cabinets, paperwork, nothing personal. However he had a really nice pair of headphones. I guess if he adapts different noises to his voice, a good pair of headphones would make the sounds clearer.

“Come in recruits.” This year's UA hero wannabees had some rather, zealous heroes.” 5 people walked in, One a giant Wasp Woman, her many lenses staring at everything in the room, her expression unreadable, her 4 arms crossed in front of her. She had a primarily black and yellow color to her body, 4 massive colorful wings, a  heavy exoskeleton, and a massive stinger. Two more walked in, identical outfits: all black leather suits, black jeans, long black boots with black motorcycle helmets, and black gloves. Thermite walked in, a bored expression on his face, followed by the kid with the metal vomit quirk. 

“Welcome to UA heroes, or should i say Jaegers. Justice moves slowly, and is enacted incorrectly when it comes to murderers, so we must… move things along. A life for a life, and as we are the one who collects the payment we are never indebted.”

I spoke up, continuing the description. “We kill only when the enemy has, we will never kill when one hasn't killed, or has yet to kill. And we never kill while with other heroes, only as a pack do we hunt, reduces opportunity for our prey to escape, and for our pack to get captured/identified. We will only request your at night, once we have found some prey. Do you understand?” They nodded.

The wasp chirped from its mandibles, “We are ready to serve the ideal Stain has prepared for the world. Stain wouldn't just want the heroes to suffer, but also the villains that killed, and in doing this heroic work none shall reward us, the gift of a true hero.”

I turned to Mockingbird with a wide smile. “See, zealous.” He met my smile with an even larger one. “Let's remodel this world, and take justice into our own hands. Let us be the true heroes.”

Mockingbird turned from me and faced everyone. Then he spoke in the voice of All Might, “Let us hunt, true heroes. We must go beyond what society believes is good, and go Plus Ultra.”

“PLUS ULTRA!” Whenever he does that voices it slightly scares me. All might is intimidating, even if he is a hero, no wonder he was able to keep the villains back for so long. But with Corvus, i think it's time someone takes his place. I will eat any villain, take their powers, and become the new Symbol Of Peace! No… the Symbol of True Justice, Judge, Jury, Executioner. Ha! If you asked me last year if i would eat people for powers i would have said no. But as a form of Stains justice, and a new symbol is needed… you gotta do what you gotta do. And who knows, my quirk might grow in ways I haven't seen. I am getting hungry.

[sey2017-blog]

// August 29 2017

To describe the past week and a half? I would say... bipolar. 

I finally finished my first week of work. I met some really good people. David, the 29 year old artist/white guy, Jinny 22, Henny 23, Stella 23, JiHun 23, Jung Hyun 25 were all my mains this week. I had dinner with a girl named JunMin, which was fun and sometimes I walk to work with Mina when I run into her. People in Korea are really kind in terms of helping you out. Stella treats me like her own sister already and I’ve known her a week and a half. If I spill something on my shirt or have wrinkles on my shirt she would help me straighten it out, she introduced me to people that would be good to network with, put in a good word for me at work so I can work in my desired section, and gave me a lot of advice for work- opportunities that I need to take and how to do better than the other interns that are going to come. I JUST met her and she was bending her back doing things I wouldn’t even have thought to do for my acquaintances. She even showed me the best bathroom in the building to poop (without me even asking). She... is the definition of the real MVP. She also called me randomly and we chatted this weekend til 2AM. Jung Hyun Oppa also lent me his portable charger when I was going to fix my phone, tried to trouble shoot my phone, walks me to the station, gives me directions everywhere, etc. I slept over at Jinny’s house and she let me sleep in her bed alone, shower, and even made me breakfast after knowing me for a week. People are just really kind and feel like family fast in Korea as opposed to America where people need some time to become close. 

They are leaving this week and it will just be me and JiHun left for the interns....  I met SO many people! Last thursday I went to an event where all the interns of all offices gathered and talked to the ambassador. More people than I’d meet in a year in Eugene! I also saw this really handsome man that I saw last month but it turns out he works at the US embassy too. I realized I definitely like the dark hair dark eyes tan skin look. It makes me feel good that I met all these nice people and am excited for the interns that will be coming into our office. I also realized that I had been only hanging with people my own age for a long time, andd now that Im with a lot more people in their 20s, age is more negligible than  at other ages. Like how I can have good convos with the guy that’s 29 even though he’s 8 years older, as opposed to if I was 11 and he was 19. I’m going to take it as a true sign of being an adult. 

Working at an embassy is interesting. There is a lot of exclusivity. I can go into areas other people can’t because I have a badge, and I get to escort guests because they can’t go anywhere without an escort. But also, there are a lot of places I don’t have access too, like the Base. The base is where the american diplomats and their families live. I got to go to a party in the base two nights ago and it was interesting because when I mentioned going in the base, my fam/friends were shook and excited because not just anyone is allowed to go. I don’t know how I feel about this exclusivity thing. People are definitely NOT treated as equals, and I think that kind of bugs me. Also, it bothers me that kids of diplomats can just get jobs and get paid for it in the embassy just because they are the kids of the diplomats, while we are out here working for free. Jinny was complaining to me about having to go to work (she lives 10mins away and has a shuttle that takes her which would make it 4 minutes) and she gets paid and does less work, and I just told her to stop complaining. Also her sister was telling me how she works in the embassy and just naps and nobody notices (and she gets paid for it). Jinny joked about her and i skipping work the next day and the other interns said if Sey does that she will get fired!!! and Jinny said oh... I can’t get fired... cuz the Americans view me as their own kid messing up.... because they are also diplomats like my dad. I understand people come from different backgrounds,  but that just didn’t sit quite well with me and just bugs me. It doesn’t make sense that something that’s supposed to be so professional like diplomacy can be run that unfairly (from my point of view). I’m realizing that maybe it isn’t what I thought it was.

When I went to the intern lunch, I saw grad students that were 23, who had passed the FSO exam and would be going to DC in the fall to start their careers as diplomats. At that young age! I was so impressed. Also, listening to the ambassador’s story of travels, diplomacy, and experiencing different cultures, I realized what an important and meaningful job being a diplomat was and it made me more interested in becoming one. Being around people who have accomplished a lot and are going places makes me set my sights even higher and be excited for my career. 

I’ve also been very discouraged as well. My family got annoyed with me and thought I was being rude cuz i was cranky when I napped and didnt eat dinner, and they were passive aggressive with me for a couple days. They aren’t that interested in what I have to say about work, and always seem to be stuck in their own bubbles, which is fine. One night I didnt want to go home because I was annoyed at my fam and I just sat on the swings outside my apartment and had my alone time. I feel like I have to watch my actions at home and at work and can never truly be myself or have alone time. I havent had time to watch TV or my hobbies and even writing this is such a treat for me. I’ve teared up multiple times because I’m so drained from dealing with family, not having enough alone time, being so tired, and I have to take care of myself. It was fine doing it in eugene but here it’s discouraging because they wanted me to stay in this city instead of moving so they could take care of me and they havent been doing that that well. Sometimes they try. yesterday i treated myself at Daiso, an asian dollar tree and I bought stuff that I like and a cute bulletin board to remind me of people who I can be myself around. I put up messages from nomuna, jessy and brenda from nomuna’s birthday gift last year. It was a friendly reminder. 

My family is going on a vacation without me because i cant get the days off. They didnt even talk to me about it they just said... “can u get 11th off?” and i said hesitantly “uhhh....” and then the other aunt said “whatever she cant it’s whatever” so i think im going to be home alone. I got mad at mom last week cuz she wrote me 10 pages on how I should act around my family. She said dont just do ur dishes, do EVERYONE’s dishes. Dont be picky with food, say this to gma, act like this to this aunt, like that to this aunt, blablabla. I got mad at her because I already feel so uncomfortable living with family here because... they seem to care less about my work or day than even my friends back home. It’s just so weird that they are family but are less family than my friends and that’s just so uncomfortable to me and awkward. I was very open at first sharing my day but i can tell they don’t listen attentively and brush things i say off. they DO have their way of showing love, such as calling me when it’s raining LOL (which is useless like wtf r u gonna do by calling). I just miss being myself, and I miss being heard. 

I went to a party on Sunday and it was SUCH a blast!!! Koreans know how to have a good time. We played TONS of games and I won at most of them. :) I also realized how quiet I was compared to other people and thought to myself, “ i am so awkward in group settings”. 

Last friday, I went to Han river with the childhood friend. it was an AMAZING time. We sat on the grass and ate pizza and joked around and took pictures of the city and walked across the bridge of life / suicide bridge and read the quotes. He is probably the only one I truly 100% feel myself around in Korea, and I really like hanging out with him. 

There are also so many couples here. Couples kissing, couples hugging, couples in couple shirts, couple shoes, couple pants, couple hairstyles.... Too many couples. It makes me feel single and I aint even single. I miss bryan a lot too. I just miss having someone there to experience everything with me and knowing all my problems and asking how my day was in person. After being here, I am even more appreciative that I have someone who I can really truly be myself without having to filter myself. It makes me miss home, but in all honesty, I just miss the people.  

Also, I get fat shamed a lot here. By my gma, by a kid in an elevator, basically by random people like aunts too. And i hear a lot of other crap too sometimes, about my personality, about my habits, but fat shaming is the most prominent. The fact that i can hear that stuff and not give a flying f/laugh about it really has shown me i don’t care about what people say and am really confident in who I am, which I think is something good I realized. I truly believe that if you want to go far, you should not be able to let people’s opinions or judgments deter your belief in who you are.

It took a while to write this. But the point is, I miss my friends, but I’m making new ones, staying busy, having fun, trying to treat myself and love myself once in a while, and even if I can’t be myself most of the time, I really am trying to find some alternatives. These past weeks have been so eventful, so busy, and I am so blessed to meet so many good people and to be learning so much. <3 

[viralhottopics]

Ive Had 3 Surgeries In 5 Months. My Mom Wants To Know Why I Dont Have A Job

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Sick And Tired

Laura Casely for LittleThings

Dear Becca,

Hopefully you have some insight for me. I’ve been very ill and I have no family in the area. I am struggling with the little things; even paying for food has become difficult.

My only support system is Facebook. My family gets upset that I share things on Facebook or ask for help when things are bad.

However, they do not attempt to help me and have flat out refused when I have asked. I don’t want to have a grudge against my family and I don’t want to upset them, but I also don’t want to lose my support through Facebook.

My mom’s concern is that future employers will see what I have been through and decide not to hire me because I’ve been sick in the past. (I’ve been in the hospital 10 times and have had three surgeries in five months. All hospital stays have been multi-day stays and the doctors have been unable to explain what is going on.)

I need help, but I’m unsure where to turn at this point.

-Confused and Alone

Dear C&A,

I’m so sorry that you’ve been going through the medical wringer. There’s nothing worse than feeling awful and having no idea what’s causing all the trouble.

I also agree that Facebook (and the internet in general) can be a lovely support system. That’s especially true when you’re stuck in a hospital bed and can’t socialize in person.

It also sounds like your family really isn’t there for you, which is a shame. Your mom should know better than to put so much pressure on you when you’re that ill.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with turning to online friends for help and emotional support in a time of need. However, I think it’s a good idea to be very careful about soliciting too much financial help from your friends online.

Asking for a ride to the hospital or company for dinneris totally fine, but if you frequently request money, you’re going to burn through a lot of goodwill quickly. In the end, if you abuse the kindness and generosity of your friends, you might find that your support system starts to fade away.

Here’s what I would suggest.

Cast out a wide net to all of your friends online with a new request: Ask if anyone knows of any part-time, low-impact jobs that are hiring, and ask if anyone knows of support groups and funds for people with chronic illnesses. Having a part-time job that you can do online and from home could help pay the bills, and help build up your rsum for future employment.

Meanwhile, having a support group that can help to fund medical expenses in a pinch is a great way to make sure that you have a well-informed safety net to turn to in an emergency.TheHealthWell Foundationmight be a good resource!

Who knows, you might even find a way to combine both goals. I bet there are a lot of chronic-illness support groups out there looking for part-time bloggers and social media specialists. That might be an ideal solution!

Best of luck, and here’s hoping that your health takes a turn for the better!

Becca

Stuck In The Middle

Laura Casely for LittleThings

Hi Becca,

My family is very divided when it comes to politics, especially my two sisters. One is very liberal, one is very conservative. We have a family reunion coming up where everyone will be there. Im dreading the arguments that might happen.

What can I do to diffuse any situations? Do I change the subject? I love everyone in my family and want the event to be enjoyable for everyone, regardless of politics.

How can I make sure everyone stays civil? What should I say if someone asks me a loaded question?

-Tug of War

Dear Tug of War,

Oh boy. I hear you. Political discussions of any kind are a doozy this year.

No matter which side of the aisle you fall on personally, it’s tough to deal with the bitterness and resentment left behind after a tough election year.

As someone who wants to stay neutral in political conflicts, you’re in a very tough position. Of course,anyone in your family who is stirring the pot probably feels very strongly about their beliefs, and it might be hard to guide them back onto neutral ground.

A certain amount of political conflict just isn’t avoidable. People in your family are going to have to talk out some of their disagreements, otherwise that tension isn’t going anywhere.

However, in the interest of keeping the event pleasant for everyone, maybe you just have to take it upon yourself to be the referee.

If you spot a heated debate beginning, it might be your moment to drift in, an angel of neutrality. Try to turn the conversation away from politics to something less divisive.

If that doesn’t work, try to find some common ground; even your most partisan relatives might be surprised to find that they share a few core political beliefs.

Of course, if the debaters are just spoiling for a fight and can’t be turned away from the conversation, kindly suggest that they take their conversation elsewhere. If they want to get into an intense argument, they can do so in private without ruining the whole event and pulling everyone else into the disagreement.

Good luck keeping the peace!

Becca

Still Struggling

Laura Casely for LittleThings

Dear Becca,

My ex-husband and I went through a very messy divorce, and even though it was a long time ago (10 years), I still struggle to get over what he put me through.

My whole life was torn upside down, financially and emotionally. I know its in the past, but I cant get over what he did to me and took from me.

But Im so sick of being bitter and angry. How can I forgive and move on? Im ready to be happy again, but I dont know how to let go.

Thanks, Divorce

Dear Divorce,

There’s really no expiration date on an emotional, grief-laden experience like a divorce. People might tell you to “get over it,” but you’ll recover at your own pace. Whether it takes six months or 10 years, there’s no wrong way to mourn a complicated and painful marriage.

You express the desire to move on. Honestly, justsayingthose words is the first step. Wanting to move on proves that now, you’re readyto go ahead and leave the pain of the past behind you.

You don’t necessarily need to dredge up all the pain of the bad old days to feel better. Maybe go through all your mementos and shared stuff, and get rid of anything that is full of bad memories. Hang on to any shared stuff you really can’t bear to part with, though we’ll get back to that in a minute.

Take one day to think through your whole relationship with him, from start to finish. Try not to fixate too much on any high or lowpart, just allow yourself to follow the timeline.

When you reach the end of the relationship, say, “Thank you, John, for the experience of our marriage, good and bad. I forgive you for the bad, I’ll remember you for the good, and now I’m letting you go.”

Call me a hippie if you want, but this kind of symbolic ending can really,reallyhelp you close the book on a messy part of your life.

Next, a little more hippie stuff. Find a way to cleanse your space and any shared stuff you hang onto. Do whatever it takes to make your spaceand your memory feel fresh and clean andyours. Scrub it with Lysol and bleach, or smudge everything with sage smoke whatever helps get to your idea of “cleansed.”

All that matters is that you do plenty of mental and literal spring cleaning and give yourself a fresh start.

With love and best wishes for a new beginning,

Becca

Ready To Retire

Laura Casely for LittleThings

Hi Becca,

My job is killing me and I want to start looking for a new one, but Im turning 62 this year. Who is going to hire me at this age? I have years of experience, but people only seem to hire twentysomethings.

I need to pay my bills and I cant retire, but I cant keep going like this.

Do you have any interview tips for an old lady like me? Please help!

Sincerely,

Burnt Out

Dear Burnt Out,

I’m sorry to hear that your job isn’t treating you well. The job market has never been very kind to older employees, and that has only become more complicated in recent years. The cost of living (and therefore the cost of retiring) has been rising and rising, but most companies aren’t upping their paychecks to match.

I think you have a few options here.

First and foremost, don’t count yourself out. There might be lots of companies that are only interested in hiring young whippersnappers, but there are still plenty of businesses that recognize the value of years of experience. You might actually be an ideal candidate for many companies, especially if you are keeping abreast of new developments in your field.

If your job involves new technology, new research, or anything else that didn’t exist when you first started out, get yourself up to speed. Make sure that you are just as much of an expert as any twentysomething who grew up on the computer.

It’s not easy, but it’s also far from impossible. If you can master those new trends, you can combine the expertise of a young person with the experience and maturity of an older employee. Believe it or not, that combo makes you theperfecthire for a new job.

As for interviewing, as long as you come in knowing your stuff about new developments in the field, you’ll blow the hiring manager away. As a mature adult woman with lots of professional experience, you are definitely going to make a better first impression than an unkempt 25-year-old in a too-big suit. Sorry kiddo, better luck next time.

Secondly, consider whether retiring is really as far-fetched as you think it is. You have three years before you hit “official” retirement age. What can you do in that time to help secure a comfortable future? Talk to a financial advisor about investing any savings you have, moving to a more affordable area, and cutting out unnecessary expenses.

With a few savvy financial choices, you might be surprised by how much a small nest egg can grow in just a few years.

You still might not be able to fully retire at 65, but you may be able to semi-retire if you play your cards right. You can take a step back from the working world, and put in maybe 20 hours a week, instead of forty. You’ll still have some income, and your stress will be lowered substantially. You may even find that work is a lot more fun (and more productive) when you’re only doing it 2o hours a week!

Show ‘em that you’ve still got it!

Becca

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