#he says that he doesn't hate trans people but thats not the point

[idkwhatthisisbutheresdcandstuff]

Another emotion drawing

(Vent in tags)

[catgirlwizard]

.

[royalberryriku]

You save shit for arguments?? Get a life lmao who does that...

Basic sources still would take a while to read through unless you want a need abstract summary of all my points compiled into one.

I really find that hard to believe since, again, you think sources can just be read in five seconds as if they're half a page and you'd know. Sure I can skim, maybe find a few for you but really? Again? Online arguments don't educate, they just throw weight around and doing that regularly is... so crazy to me??

Anyway yeah, I don't really believe you. At the very least, it makes me wonder about bias in the university, which I guess isn't unheard of with the privatisation of them these days and if it's in certain places I know there is suppression of certain content but??

Look, I'm currently studying so sure I'll admit I'm not a PHD professor in everything we're talking about but the idea of "oh just show me the saved sources you have on this" is so crazy. I'm on my damn phone and just here to say maybe grouping all Jews as Zionists is bad, but hey since you and the person commenting agree on that point, what is there to correct? You both are polar ends of the "all Jews are Zionists" idea and agree. Congrats, you're both equally antisemetic.

dear jumblr: STOP LOOKING DOWN ON AND CONDESCENDING TO CONVERTS.

this includes saying “ofc converts don’t notice antisemitism.” or “they’re a convert, they don’t know any better.”

i really don’t think a lot of you realize how many converts don’t reveal they are converts because of this kind of behavior. my own patrilineal convert parent refuses to publicly, not because they are excluded, but because of the condescension. the way converts are basically patted on the head even if they have ancestry, are patrilineal, were raised in a jewish environment, etc. or have none of these at all.

if converts are equals to you, treat them that way. most gerim learned more during their process than many of us learn in hebrew school, let alone what most secular “born” jews learn throughout their lives. so yes, converts DO spot antisemitism. they DO know things. and there isn’t an excuse for them to be bigoted, to spread lies about our people, or to side with our enemies or to otherwise harm their community. just like there isn’t an excuse for any other jew to do so.

you are not being open minded or accepting thinking and talking this way. you are actually engaging in exclusion and separation. you’re looking down on converts instead of treating them like they have equal standing.

if a convert doesnt know something or does display bad behavior? call them in instead of making excuses for them. treat them like equals, because that is what they are.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Look, This is gonna be one of those things that sounds bad until you read the whole story. Please don't read the title and go to 'yta' without reading.

AITA for yelling at our friend that my brother isn't trans?

Look, My brother ISNT trans. He likes to wear kilts and sew, Which is what kind of started all of this. My brother is NOT trans, He loves being a boy (trust me, I can hear him enjoying being a boy in his room all the time. Theres no way he'd wanna chop it off(I mean this as a joke I don't actually know how the surgery works), He's told me multiple times that being told by others what he likes is 'feminine' and 'girly' upsets him because he's proud of being a boy and doesn't like being called a girl. Its not because he hates girls or thinks less of them, He just does not like being called the wrong gender which I'm sure you want to be called the correct gender too.)

Anyways lets begin. I (16F) am my little brothers (15M) best friend, Basically. We grew up together and do everything together, Including sewing. I liked it when I was younger, And eventually convinced him to try it as well. He loved it, And we love just sitting together and making random crap we usually end up selling at our yearly garage sale. (Our mom makes us sell all our unneeded crap every year, But we aren't complaining when we make like $100 for it, Mom and dad even help us figure out what we actually wanna keep (we sometimes see old things and go 'Oh I could never get rid of this' and then throw it away))

Sorry for the rambling, But you'll see why some of this is important to know.

Basically, We were getting our shit together for the garage sale, And invited over a mutual friend of ours, Who I'll call uhhh Ley (16F). Shes kind of obsessed with the LGBTQ and loves to help people 'realize' they're gay or trans or non-binary. By this I mean she'll literally bully people she 'knows' is gay or trans by always telling them they are and spreading rumors about them saying they are. The way she 'knows' these things are from gut feelings. I thought maybe she needed friends who would be honest with her and tell her gently that it needed to stop. She stopped being so bad with it and we even convinced her to admit to the rumors she started being fake. We've known her for around 3 years now, And she's stopped doing it as aggressively for 2 of those years. She still makes jabs and 'jokes' saying things like "Oh thats so girly, Are you sure you're not trans?" and "Oh thats such a boy thing to do, Are you a lesbian?", Both quotes she's said to me and my brother less than a week ago. I am straight and cis, So is my brother. We have nothing against the lgbt, We just aren't apart of it. We support the lgbtq as much as possible (with my part time job I like to donate some of my paycheck towards point of pride so people who need the surgeries or binders can get them), And are very open about supporting them.

While we were cleaning out my brothers room and finding stuff to throw into the 'sell' box (we like to do precleaning before our parents help us, It makes everything faster and less work on the people trying to help), And Ley found my brothers kilt. She did a long exaggerated gasp, Looking at my brother.

"So, How long have you been trans? Why didn't you tell me?? I knew it the whole time!"

My brother tried to explain that it was a kilt for men, And he wasn't trans, But she kept interrupting him saying crap like 'you don't have to lie I know now' and 'Its nothing to be embarrassed about, I knew ever since you started to sew'. The last straw for me was when she continued not listening to him and started to ask about how he was gonna come out as school. I yelled at her to get out, That neither of us were gay, Neither of us are trans, And neither of us are apart of any of the lgbtq. We are allies and nothing more. She tried to argue that he had a 'skirt' which OBVIOUSLY meant he was trans, I basically screamed at her that she was a stupid know it all who made everyone who wasn't apart of the lgbtq's life hell because she made sure everyone knew them as someone they arent (I know, I shouldn't of brought up 2 years in the past) and that I was tired of her trying to force everyone to be in the LGBTQ when its just not realistic. Not everyone is gay or trans, Some people are cis and straight. She started crying and left, We haven't spoken in a few days but I think I'm justified. I'm tired of living my life being told I'm something I'm not, I'm tired of seeing it happen to my brother too.

My brother later thanked me for standing up for him, Telling me it made him really upset when she said those things. To cheer him up we watched his favorite movies and I made him his favorite dinner (mom and dad both work day jobs so we both make lunch and dinner)

And for those who are gonna say that allies are apart of the LGBTQ I strongly believe the A is for aro/ace. Being an ally isn't a gender or sexuality

(unless people identify using ally/allyself of course or whatever it is, I'm not quite sure how neos work or whatever but I love to see how creative people get with it and am happy it gives people who don't identify with any of the normalized(? Idk the correct term but yknow the man woman and nb) genders a chance to be who they actually are)

Extra info on why I think I could be the asshole: I feel like we might've been able to explain it if we got her to shut up for a minute, But she kept talking over us. I feel like I went too far by insulting her, And I feel like I might be TA because she's also autistic (so is my brother though, And I have ADHD).

Why I think I'm NTA: My brother is really quiet and doesn't really defend himself often. He doesn't really know how to stand up for himself and is 'easy' to talk over (soft spoken, Quiet talking voice and nonconfrontational) which is why I believe I had to step in in his place, And I don't believe I did anything wrong defending my brother and making her stop calling him what hes not.

Anyways. AITA for yelling at our friend that my brother isn't trans?

To see later: PINK PANTHER

What are these acronyms?

[bluntloyalist]

didn't want to come across as passive aggressive putting this in the reblogs so here's a separate post about my thinky thoughts on she/her tsubaki. mainly because i do what i want forever but if canon happens to make a convincing argument for it thats nice too since i am incapable of shutting the hell up

1. KIRYU EXISTS

people love tsubaki's whole thing of accepting herself for who she is regardless of what others think. this is something i've seen repeated a lot in comments re: the official translation's he/him pronouns, and when fighting through the generally hypermasculine trenches of shounen anime/manga it's understandable want more male characters who stay true to themselves by rejecting social norms and openly embracing their femininity...however i fear we are forgetting our history 😔 the femboy diversity hire has been here all along yall our quota is full !! really tho kiryu was MADE for the girls and the gays even without getting into his personality just look at him. the pink hair. the piercings. the accessories. the off the shoulder drip. like come on COME ONNNN give him his genderqueer props

2. THE RAWS

i don't know japanese so i can't actually get too deep into how she speaks and is referred to BUT what little i can say is this. she used to use the personal pronoun ボ��� (boku) [katakana] as a child, and this is a common way for young boys to address themselves, but at some point she switches to ワタシ / あたし / 私 (atashi) [katakana/hiragana/kanji] in order to present and be percieved as female/feminine. this is a form of gender expression unavailable in english due to our limited number of first person pronouns and it's extremely important to her character due to how deliberate and intentional of a decision it is (though for the sake of interpretive fairness i feel like i have to say i'm not culturally knowledgeable enough to discern if it's used in a 女性語 vs オネえ言葉 context or how/if her speech patterns fit into those categories). shizuka also specifically thinks of her as an older sister 姉 (ane) [kanji]

3. DEPTH OF INTERNAL CONFLICT

tsubaki's childhood feelings of alienation, displacement, and deception are way too extreme to come from someone who only wears women's clothes because he likes the fashion (imo). this doesn't read as a young boy who's into girly hobbies and is scared people will make fun of him for it; this reads as a young trans girl who is tormented by the act of constantly lying about who she is, but who knows that living truthfully will get her utterly rejected by the majority of the people she knows. she just doesn't have the language to explain herself beyond liking pretty things and not being like "other" boys. tumblr won't let me add another photo but the shot of her looking at her reflection in the window and calling herself a liar at the beginning of the chapter...there is something so incredibly and incommunicably transgender about those few panels

IN CONCLUSION: i don't necessarily hate the official he/him decision because it will be very very cool if nii satoru actually is playing 4d gender chess with tsubaki like that but i simply do not know or trust the editorial team enough to take their word on her english pronouns (<- is hypervigilant about microaggressions against trans women)

[steifel]

HERE TO ASK YOU ABOUT UR TRANS JOHNNY AND SODA HEADCANONS 🫡

I may have gone a little over bord with these

TW: self harm, suicidal thoughts, transphobia, gender dysphoria, talks of body parts. Everything is very minor but please protect your peace

Sodapop

-first off She cam out to Johnny first on accident Darry had taken Pony to the doctors so nobody was home Soda wanted to test a theory. She was dancing around the house in a mini skirt and a stuffed bra Johnny walked into the house and was like "you wanna talk about this? You don't have to"

-soda literally broke down telling Johnny everything

-poor Johnny has no idea how to comfort people but he just sat there listening and understanding

-she told Pony next they were laying in bed one night and the conversation went like this

S: hay Pone? You know how Johnny was born a girl but hes really a boy?

P: mhm

S: well sometimes i feel like i might be your sister even though ive always kind of been your brother

P: *pulling Soda into a big hug* ok

S: thats it just ok

P: um okay.... I love you?

S: love you too pony

-she told Darry next and he required a lot more information than ponyboy did.

-how long have you known

- she/her?

-who all knows

-is your name still Sodapop

-how do you feel

-do you want me to help you tell anyone

-is there anything i can do to help you?

-after Darry got all the information he needed he just hugged his sister and said "i always wanted a little sister"

-she told Steve next

-he was actually kind of excited

-after she told Steve she started living as a girl 100% of the time

-Twobit and Dally were super confused but they eventually figured it out

-Soda is a woman of extremes she is ether so eurphoric shes ontop of the world or so dysphoric that she can barely get out of bed

-her bad dysphoria days just about kill Steve

-he knows that she's the most beautiful girl in the world and it hurts him that she doesn't know that

-when she's dysphoric he always gives her one of his long shirts to wear and then holds her in bed as long as she needs just telling her shes beautiful and playing with her hair.

-when she's super euphoric you bet your ass Steve is gonna take her out and show her off (if anyone says anything bad they get jumped)

-if/when she goes on E she wears push up bras every day and that makes Steve go crazy

-if you think Soda was hot as a guy than you'll think shes a goddess as a girl

-Steve feels so lucky

-its not all fun and games though

-she gets jumped a lot

-the socs can be very vilont with her

-she tends to silently cry herself to sleep a lot

-her and Johnny get really close

-they actually trade pre transition cloths

-johnny teaches her all of the "girl" stuff he learned in childhood and she teaches him the "guy" stuff

-believe me when i tell you that Soda is a MASTER at tucking

-she wears super tight pants and skirts

-Soda is suuuuper fem

-she loves doing her hair and makeup

-this pisses pony off because she takes forever to get ready in the mornings

-the one bathroom thing starts to become a problem now that Soda takes an hour to get ready

Johnny

-was absolutely terrified to come out to the gang

- he put it off for a long time

-came out to Dall first

-and he only came out at this point because Dally could tell something was bothering his little buddy

"So you gonna tell me whats wrong or am i gonna have to guess?"

-dall was genuinely so mad. Not because he's trans but because Johnny had the gaul to ask if Dally hated him now

-when he told Pony he had a shit ton of questions

-this is mostly the reason Pony didn't have a lot of questions when Soda came out

-johnny is one of those lucky bastards that naturally looks masculine so he passes almost immediately

-he never gets out of his baggy clothes and flanels phase (me projecting)

-every single member of the gang makes him take his binder off after 8 hours

"Comon Dall just a little while longer? Please"

"Jonnycakes we can do this the easy way or the hard way now it dont matter to me but i gotta fealing you're not gonna like the hard way"

-eventually Johnny starts to feel more comfortable around the gang without it

-if he's in public though he doesn't give a fuck what dallys "hard way" is he will be wearing that binder

-while Soda usually experiences her transness through euphoria Johnny usually experiences his through disphoria

Another TW for SH and Suicidal thoughts ill let you know when it ends

-he has a tendency towards SH

-one time dally found him attempting to give himself top surgery and he had actually gotten pretty far

-Dally was horrified he's no stranger to blood and violence but it was really bad

-Johnnys gotten a lot better but there was one point where they hid all the knives and did there best to have somebody with him at all times

-Darry has had to grab his hands and hold him super tight before

-Dally had a really hard time sleeping during this time he made Johnny stay with him and he just watches Johnny sleep.

-Dally was just terrified he was gonna lose Johnny over something as stupid as how the world sees him

Major TW over

-on major dysphoria days he really just wants to be left alone.

-he mainly just sleeps on those days

-the whole gang tries to help but sometimes you just have to feel your feels you know

-he cries because of it sometimes and that just makes the dysphoria worse which makes him cry more (me too me too)

-Johnny absolutely loves it when the boys roughhouse with him cause it makes him feel like they really see him as a guy

Ok i feel like if i keep talking about Johnny im ether gonna start crying or just spill every bit of information about my transness. anyway i hope you enjoyed

[gettinontopic]

Transandrophobia is real and it isn't about Trans Women opressing Trasn Men its about how the patriarchy attacks all masculinity that isnt the Cishetallo peri-sex able-bodied white man style that's been cultivated since this land was stolen!!!

It covers anyone who's felt like their identity was dictated by them not being allowed to be a man, or being forced to be a man due to factors they couldn't control. It covers anyone who's masculinity was punished because they aren't a man or weren't a man at one point.

It covers how the patriarchy treats masculinity like a prison and anyone who fights that is treated like an escaped prisoner.

[More under cut bc this got way longer than I originally meant]

Patriarcy hates you if you aren't cis no matter how well you preform, designed to try and make you feel like to relax you have to pass as their idea of man, even if thats not anywhere near who you are as a person.

God forbid you be assigned male and the go through and different puberty then they want. Or god forbid you have a physical traigh that the Patriarchy doesn't thing adds up to man. And go fuck yourself if they assign you male and then find something that makes them sneak off, change shit (possibly without parental consent either) and say "haha we were wrong its a healthy baby girl actually!" Only for your classmates to mock you as you start to have seemingly a "wrong" puberty for girld your age.

It hates you if you aren't white, and sees your masculinity as Femininity (in a derogatory way) or as a funny mimicry of its own. It laughs at you or marks you as more violent no matter how many of the acceptable White Words you use. It kills you if you inspire too many people to like you and agree with you. Your're treated stange and forgein no matter how many of you there are in the world around them.

It hates you if you aren't the ideal allo. If you look at romance as anything as Husband and Wife in a Nice White House and with at least Two White Kids and behind your White Picket Fence. If you look at friendship as anything other than secondhand to romance. It teaches you to see critisisms of centralizing romance and sex everywhere, as personal attacks to lash back on.

It hates you if you are a Women who likes masculinity. Because the Patriarchy doesn't see Women as somone who should have masculinity. Women bring new ways to look at masculinity and new ways to present it. Thats is a threat to the Patriarchies need to keep tight fitting boxes.

Butches, cis or trans, are treated like ticking time bombs who should be carefully wire cut so they don't explode and leave their self crafted masculinity where the Patriarchy has to see it.

It hates you if you aren't able bodied. It looks at you as something to be fixed to fufill a role that it assigned, not nature. It looks at you as a failure for not being able to preform the song and dance it choreographed. It mocks you and abandons you because it knows you can't keep up, the goalpost always moving past what you prove you can do.

No man has a mobility aid until he's old. No man has sickness in his body until he earns it (by being old) Men can always lift heavy things (and must hurt themslves being a proud old man). Men always work the Jobs. Men always have working bodies and big muscles (but not fat haha. Never fat thats gross).

The Patriarchy hates fat. Fat makes you a failure. Fat means you aren't a worker. Fat means you're probably greedy with food. Fat is something to be bred out of us or forced off of us and god forbid someone know they're loveable while fat. Patriarchy find fat people who love themselves and it tries to convince them with every breath that they should take it back. It's made to humiliate bodies that don't fit an imagined porn outline.

The Patriarchy hates you if you're a child. Boy or Girl it sets you up to assume distrust in each other. It eagerly shoves away children who don't fit a future beauty and behavior mold and even children who can pretend they fit, are left empty because it's not what they want to grow into. It's what the Patriarchy told them they had no choice but to grow into, as it covers their eyes and ears to better things.

...

Are there other words too? Yeah. There is. There's so many words that overlap and explain lots of these. And this is one of them.

It's for the demonization of masculinity in a society that recognizes only 1 as correct. It's about the Patriarchy and it being a glutton for giving punishment. It's about the System and how it intsects with us as people.

Please find it in you to understand that we are all fighting this together, and that Patriarchy whats you to hate a word more than you hate the system that made that word real.

[maeinthekinning]

Honestly. As someone that did traditional art for 2 years before burnout then bouncing around for various digital art programs and back and fourth with traditional for years before finally recently landing on a digital art program (layers and stuff) that works like watercolour digital hybrid so experimenting with that

...i see the average anti ai art arguement as hypocritical and ableist.

"Ai art draws off concepts meshed together while real artists see beautiful things then put it down" i have aphantasia, i work off concepts and maths, i don't see these beautiful things you do, i draw things i cant even see.

"Ai doesn't have heart/doesn't make with love" as someone with aspd, people called me heartless, incapable of loving. Where they focused so much on emotions and intent over actions to the point they did the most cruel things while hating me for doing good things for "wrong" reason. I also started drawing cause boredom, frustration, and stress based hallucinations. Not "love". Im missing various emotions and affective empathy. That doesn't make my art less art.

"Its about drawing whats not their for true art" just say you don't view photography, landscape and real life people drawn as art. Shoot say the mona lisa isn't real art cause thats what you believe.

"Its about the struggle" you are the type of person that tries to shame things like schizophrenic artists that want to take meds from taking them. Van gogh made the starry night and majority of his paintings after he got help in a mental hospital and was struggleing less. You on the other hand are an abuser.

"Not human/authentic" as someone with aspd i was treated as a monster. My experiences were too different and so viewed as lesser. A monsters art is not less real then a humans art.

"It feels too samey" as i was bouncing around digital art programs, i realized they were so limiting in similiar ways, making the artists feel that way. And when someone tried being very unique with it, they were shamed. And many types of art were shamed. To try to put people in a cookie cutter of "true artist"

"Dilution of culture" the amount of artists i saw shamed for making bodies that resembled them (trans, intersex, poc) or shamed for talking about unique cultural experiences (e.g. part of a tribe that did consensual funerary cannibalism to respect the dead)

There is legitimate concerns on ai art but you don't care about non ai art, you just care about molding people to your image. Atleast admit it.

[the-chorus-of-voices-collective]

I just saw a post that was something along the lines of-

This line of dialog "being gay/trans is unnatural!" And then the post saying in response 'you traumatized your child so regularly and severely that their identity fractured into 49 different parts'

The post ends with this 'no animal could ever come close to hurting a child like that'

This really. Really stuck with me. Cause their right. Animals run primarily on instinct and learned behaviors. However that instinct will never be to hurt their offspring the way humans hurt theirs. Animals do not have the urge to inflict unnecessary pain. Do some kill/eat their children from time to time? Yes I won't deny that. But it's not for their pleasure. They simply do it because it's the circle of life.

What I'm trying to say is that-i believe. Or I would hope because humans have already failed me.

I believe that an animal should they have been given our sentience and awareness they wouldn't inflict suffering on their young. I think they would cherish those little guys like children are meant to be. Those little guys wouldn't be subjected to anything close to what I or many others have been through. Because at their core I genuinely believe animals can only love.

Humans on the other hand. Are full of hatred and it sickens me.

Yknow my boyfriend texted me today. Half-dissociated and numb. Because his grandmother responded to a snarky comment by snatching, and ruining my boyfriends food. My boyfriend had to wrestle his food back. And feeling obvious frustration, he slammed the door of the microwave and subsequently got yelled at for it. He yelled back. He got hit for it. His aunt and his mother had to get between them because that grown ass woman was dead set on beating my boyfriend. Then proceeded to get bitchy and defensive when not given the fucking chance.

Why am I saying this? Why the fuck am I going on this long-winded rant. I may not even be making sense right now. None of you could have stopped and read this but that doesn't matter cause If one person hears me and processes what I'm trying to get across that's enough for me. If that person is myself? Well thats fine by me.

I hate the human race. I hate DID/OSDD and what had to happen for our community to have this disorder. Maybe not everyday is pain but I remember a time when it was.

20 headmates. 20 people living in our brain because mother couldn't stop fighting and screaming and couldn't ever seem to get to us when her now ex-husband got too angry and pushed me around like a rag doll. Said ex-husband being sure to employ graphic threats to my or my siblings safety when he felt he was being disrespected. Various fits of loud pointed cursing and throwing things around.

A child shouldn't fear being hit by someone who should love them. A child shouldn't expect someone who should love them to hit them.

Animals wouldn't hurt me like humans have. The worst my dog has ever done to me is hump my fucking leg before backing off with a bit of scolding.

The worst my parents have done to me is fracture my identity into 20 pieces because they were so hurt and broken they just couldn't help themselves to break me down to that state as well.

they didn't hear me when I screamed. When I screamed for help or just a scrap of love that wasn't imposing or codependent. They weren't there when I cried into the night wishing for death.

I was a scared little kid. And now I'm a traumatized and bitter teenager.

Who am I?

It depends.

But one thing is this. Animals? They wouldn't hurt me the way humans have. They wouldn't hurt you. They would take in or have children and love them because that's what you're supposed to do with children.

We didn't deserve what happened to us.

The animals know that.

(I was going to reblong the original post but unfortunately I had to refresh my screen and lost sight of it. Credit goes to the original poster)

[all-doggirls-go-to-heaven-2]

What really bothers me is just how useless and self serving the "go vote blue!" posts are. Like you realize that its not about number of votes, right? (Insert the Hillary had more votes than trump thing here)

America's election system is so fucking broken that telling people to go vote blue does more or less jack shit unless they're living in a very active swing state.

Also, tumblrs ENTIRE userbase is a fucking dent compared to the whole of elligible US voters, so even if every single american user active on this site were to see and react to your post, it would do NOTHING.

Effectively, constantly harassing random people online to vote for someone that MOST PEOPLE IN THE US agree looks mentally unprepared to rule (and thats being generous) is just posturing. Thats what it is.

Which makes you look like an asshole who doesn't know what they're talking about, but at same time wanting to suck all the attention to the room and make everyone believe you're really smart for going "no one can be worse than orange cheeto, right guys?"

And it hurts me to say it but these people only dislike trump because media painted him as a rube and a monster (which he is! But still!) and if pressed could not tell you three bad policy moves so catastrophic as trumps presidency was advertised.

Which is fine, im all for hating monsters, but if you don't understand enough to dislike the actual material changes happening its easy to fall into a trap of saying JOE FUCKING BIDEN is a good candidate against Trump.

Joe Biden was a bad candidate against trump 4 years ago. Kamala Harris was a bad vice-president 4 years ago. Both of these people commited truly horrific acts before even being allowed in the offices they are in. So after they send enough bombs to Gaza to burn the place to the ground, after they make a point of misnamaging covid, after they STILL hold onto the circular saw effect even though it would be the EASIEST pr move to undo trump's changes (and god they need pr moves), after they ban tiktok VERY PUBLICLY in an election where young voters are becoming more and more important (you know, an actual mass shift of opinion. Instead of Posting), AFTER ALL THAT, are we supposed to what? Pretend any of this is a good idea?

Makes sense why you all act like martyrs. You know you're doing something wrong. You know you are doing this only to comfort yourself that you're "saving people". Nevermind the dead bodies in Gaza and nevermind the complete pushover on trans youths issues and nevermind the immigrants being mistreated in exactly the same way, if not worse. You're "dirtying your hands" voting for someone you hate because you hate the other guy more, and if everyone saw what you see, they would thank you.

[elecballoon]

Being a new fan of Yu Yu Hakusho and going on the comments of YYH clips and videos is the most funny yet frustrating thing

You got people arguing whether or not Yusuke Vs. Toguro was meant to challenge toxic masculinity (personally i believe it was. If Toguro choosing to harm himself and others, including loved ones, instead of choosing to accept his pain and vulnerability, isnt toxic masculinity, then what is it?)

(Edit 3: and no, you don't have to live in a day & age where "wokism"/"wokeness" is a buzzword to write stories addressing human or societal tendencies. Just because a term like "toxic masculinity" gained popularity only recently doesn't mean that people weren't already aware of these social patterns and tackled them in their work back then. The lack of a coined term doesn't negate the existence or understanding of these issues, being conveyed in stories even earlier - or what, do you mean to tell me that the issues of racism only began once the term "racism" was coined? Sorry to go that route, but hopefully you get my point.)

You got some people saying that the transfem demon proves that trans people are demons (like bro it's a piece of fiction there aren't corporeal demons irl let alone trans ones. Edit: using a piece of fiction as a basis for your argument about real life is wild Edit 2: should clarify, using fictional material portraying certain themes to make certain arguments about life is fine, it's when you disregard any nuance entirely just to fuel your hate towards certain people, thats when it becomes wild)

(Togashi's choice of placing representation where he placed it is something that I want to talk about some time, but not now)

Then you have the out of nowhere comments like "Sensui foresaw feminism rising in the west... he was trying to save us"

Seriously, did we even watch the same anime

And also people giving some names and addresses (are people trying to doxx others??)

Like I get it that YYH is a 90s anime and therefore people more or less have their nostalgia goggles when talking about YYH

But like damn who hurt you

[transboysokka]

mako headcanons?

HELLO are you ready for me to just dump everything inside my brain at you?? I've made like his entire backstory at this point...

this one

this one

gay. obvs. (and with wu. obvs)

trans!!!!

the gloves are very much a page from elsa's book. conceal don't feel. he kind of hates being a firebender because he can't separate his identity from like the evil that killed his parent etc etc

click here for angst

and here

he didn't learn how to read until super late but now he loves reading and is a little bookworm. i wonder if he has lil bookclubs with jinora. he's so booksmart now???

he has a triad tattoo somewhere under his shirt and like it was NOT his choice to get it so he sees it more as a brand anyway thats the REAL reason he doesn't take his shirt off to swim or go in the sauna not that it's period appropriate or whatever. also yeah he's wearing a binder always.

daddy issues w zolt

no concept of self care bc hes always given everything he's ever earned to bolin. yikes. big parentification stuff to deconstruct here

ok are you ready for MAXIMUM ANGST bc these ones are HOT off the presses aka my brain!!!!

mako will always have issues with eating because he went so long surviving on SO little. it's super hard for him to recognize when he's hungry because there was a point when he just stopped feeling it

mako would give his coat to bolin to wear in the winter. this is how he got real good at his bending real quick. if he didn't find a way to heat himself up he wasn't gonna make it out on the streets

one time when they were younger bolin found mako beat to shit in an alley. bolin freaked out and nursed mako back to health. mako didn't say anything at all to bolin for a long time and after he got better he became way more protective of bolin. this was the time mako tried to get out of the triad on his own. bolin never finds out.

one of the big reasons mako becomes a cop is because he's killed people under zolt and he can't get their faces out of his head. he needs to repent

when he started probending he was WAY to violent about it because that was all he knew how to be anymore. it took a long time for him to get used to NOT hurting people.....

he never feels Earth Kingdom enough because he looks so different from his relatives

so actually mako is REALLY bad at some things, like grocery shopping and finding good prices, budgeting, cooking actual meals that are also healthy, these kinds of things he never got the chance to do.......

ok so i have this half-formed idea that mako has seen and confronted his parents' killer before!!!! but bolin doesn't know!!!! and i can't decide why like did mako kill them or just freak out and not want to deal with it i dont know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[definitelynotnia]

sorry i have to rant or i will cry i hate when im so angry that the anger comes out as tears

tw: random guy being a general asshole abt lgbtq and trans ppl so if you dont wanna deal with that today, cz ik there's already enough hate literally everywhere online, then please save yourself from this burden and move along, i hope u have a nice day bcz if i cant then someone should

i just spent my whole afternoon arguing with this guy- it was such a waste of my time i haven't slept properly last night and i wanted to take a nap but my nap time is GONE i hate this i told him im done with this conversation and that i dont give a shit about him enough to want to educate him on things and have him change his opinion i TOLD HIM IM DONE i told him that he can keep his opinion shoved up his ass and as long as he doesn't bully people i dont give a shit i was READY TO GO TAKE MY NAP but nooo this bitch is like "just say you've run out of valid points" like BITCH NO.

i can't have valid points to counter you with because all the points ur giving me are utter bullshit like how the fuck am i supposed to reply to "ppl assigned male at birth wearing skirts and make up is worse than war" like WHAT???? DO YOU HEAR YOURSELF??? ARE YOU INSANE? what the fuck am i supposed to respond to that with? except that trans people aren't hurting anyone and war is, and he's like "at least war can be contained, these people are spoiling the mentality of the youth" like YOU ARE THE SPOILED YOUTH not the other way around, im like listen if you were really pressed about children and how trans inclusivity impacts children then you would have at least read more about that but if your first point is only "they're doing surgery on children" then clearly you have not even done as much as a simple google search so we both know that you just heard that in some random reel and went with it and you dont give two shits about the supposed 'children being made to undergo surgery', which they're not, and all you actually care about is looking cool and edgy by hating on the lgbtq community because thats whats in trend right now in india. he's like these people are too privileged why cant they just shut up and enjoy life they are rich like first of all rich people can have problems too??? also being able to afford therapy and gender affirming care does not equal to rich thats like saying if someone in ur family has any chronic illness ur automatically rich like ??? also poor people are trans too? and im so sick of these ppl thinking being trans is just an american thing or a first world problem like brother no? you are literally living in india trans people are mentioned in the FUCKING SCRIPTURES are u KIDDING ME? being trans is not a new sudden occurence its been there for longer than you have. like literally after 2 hours of conversation the only points he could think of to hate on lgbtq for no reason is

they are rich and privileged so they shouldnt have problems

if they have a problem with their gender they should keep it to themself and not fight it (??????)

they are running from their problems (they are literally solving the problem thats the part which everyone is mad abt its when trans people try to solve the problem by being okay with expressing themselves freely and to counter i said that even alcoholics are running from their problems ive never seen any of u andrew tate cocksuckers ever make a "joke" bullying alcoholics he's like thats different like literally all his "points" are him just saying whatever and then if u try to explain it with logic he'll be like no but thats ok bcz i said so and this is wrong bcz i said so like fuck you dude)

they shouldnt have rallies and stuff because there's more important things like war that the government should focus on (he was the one who said "war is a beacon of peace there cannot be peace without war" when i had first mentioned that its ironic that out of all the bad things happening in the world rn LIKE war the biggest thing he's worried about is a "man" wearing a skirt but ok sure now all of a sudden war is a big boo boo and we should all be focusing on that, so basically when he wants to hate on ppl war is irrelevant but when a marginalised group wants to fight for their rights that time war is the most important point and no one elses suffering is valid bcz there is war)

it is spoiling today's youth (im not even gonna talk about this because i do not see how people living their lives and just existing is considered "spoiled" and "corrupt" but people regularly hating on, bullying and degrading a whole ass community just because they are uneducated swines lacking critical thinking skills and a spine that saw some 'famous' youtuber or influencer or wtv or maybe a reel with 'dark humor' dissing on lgbtq and pronouns and 'blue haired girls' and now they thing they're oh so cool and edgy and dIfFeReNt and "not like those woke snowflakes" just cz they degrade and bully a whole community of people every chance they get)

im so done im SO DONE with this bullshit its EVERYWHERE its a trend now to be hateful and mean and an asshole to anyone who isnt "normal" according to heteronormative standards. i understand not having an opinion, to some extent ok i get it you're young you don't need to be involved in this yet but no, they want to have an opinion but they will do no research they physically shudder at the thought of reading a book and god forbid they actually google up a trustworthy article to confirm some of the bullshit they believe they will do none of this but they will scream and shout about how lgbtq is the problem and magically that is the only "social issue" they care about and they care soo vehemently apparently that they have to post about it and make dArK jOkEs about it and use slurs and degrade them every chance they get because THEY are harmful yes sure you who are actively spreading hate are the angelic saviours of society and a community of people JUST EXISTING are the ones that are harmful, right.

[manie-sans-delire-x]

Oh boy. Why would anyone want to say they are women when they're not (biologically).

Also, transwomen competing in women's sports doesn't make sense either.

Regarding hate against trans people. Nope. I don't hate them. In fact, people should be free to love and live whoever they want without any fear.

But hmm I would say, transitioning children is bad. If they are over 18, then it's okay but if not then nope.

And what do you think about teaching children about adult stuff in school?

I don't like it. And even before 2018-19 I think, they weren't teaching children all this.

Because they have a different definition of "woman" I guess, whatever that may be. Honestly at this point its all so convoluted and no one seems to agree on anything. Leaders cannot answer the question "What is a woman?" Its insane.

Agreed. There is a significant strength difference between bodies that underwent female puberty and bodies that underwent male puberty, even with hrt, and I think people often underestimate that, or take the mention of it to be some form of misogyny. But its not, its just unfortunately true and important to acknowledge for fairness and safety in sports.

Well good, no one should hate someone just for being trans, obviously. Definitely agree, everyone should just do pm whatever tf they want as long as theyre not harming another.

Mm depends on what it means to transition I guess- names, pronouns, clothing VS surgery, medical. Pretty significant difference. But one thing is certain- children should not have anything physically done to their bodies that has significant, permanent effects, period. I personally include circumcision and even piercings in that but I know everyone has their own views and thats fine. I think as a parent you kinda "look after their body" until they become their own full person as an adult. Then they are free to do whatever tf they want lol.

I recently hung out with a 19 yr old boy, and my god. Thats what he was- a boy. I think of when I was 19/18, and yep, I was a kid. But even younger than that? Hell no.

Depends on what it means by "adult stuff". I think educating even young children about abuse is very important and increases abuse being reported, and studies have supported this. But the crucial thing is that it has to be done in an age appropriate manner. And it doesnt have to be anymore than that, only what they strictly need to know- the concept of consent, what is ok touch and not ok touch, personal boundaries.

I think a lot of people reject the idea because it feels gross, its icky, people dont want their young kids learning this kind of stuff. I get that, but the dark reality is that many of them are already living it. And we need to acknowledge that reality and take steps to address it.

[sunny6677]

So i made an oc for Spooky Month yet again.

(I originally just made him to ship with Kevin, but something about Kevin and Streber not being together felt wrong somehow, so I decided to make him poly with Keivn and Streber instead. This is why Kevin is the only other one in the pic below.)

So his name is Noah, he's 21 years old, he's trans FTM(he/him) and gay. He was just a customer at first, but after seeing how stressed out Kevin was during his first visit, he felt bad for him so he decided to help out by applying for a job there. Kevin was thankful for that, and the two started a small friendship since then. But over time, that friendship began to grow, and slowly started to blossom into romantic feelings for the other, but then Streber came along and they started to develop feelings for him too. But in the end, the three of them eventually formed a polyamorous relationship.

Noah is.. interesting. He's a lot taller than Kevin, so he towers over most people. He's pretty laid-back and chill most of the time, and barely ever raises his voice. He's pretty sleepy sometimes, but is also very helpful and will do his best to help if someone needs it. He's usually always lazily grinning, and nearly falls asleep basically everywhere sometimes.

He gets along with basically everyone, but unfortunately, he can be easily manipulated sometimes. Noah had toxic friends during the beginning of his friendship with Kevin, and they made him think that he'd never amount to anything and the one use of his existence that he could make was to do whatever they asked. He even said he didn't mind dying since he was worthless anyway.

But Kevin, upon finding this out after he helped out Noah after he nearly got killed due to Skid and Pumps adventures, told him this wasn't normal and comforted him the best he could. And with Kevin's help, Noah eventually managed to get away from those toxic friends. Oh yeah, and when Streber showed up, even though Noah's toxic friends were long gone by that point, Streber despised them with every fiber of his being and upon seeing one of them in public, he proceeded to yell at them.

Noahs catch-phrase is "Thats alright.", and he usually says it after getting into a dangerous situation or if someone apologizes for something. But he can say it in other situations too. One time, Noah was saying something along the lines of; "Eh, I nearly died, but that's alright—" to which Kevin responded; "No, it's NOT alright!"

Noah is also easily flustered for being usually so calm, and while his boyfriends won't provoke him on purpose, they do find it cute. But Noah will get his own "revenge" by unexpectedly flirting with them.

And while Noah doesn't really hate anyone, the one person he hates most is Bob, and if he were to ever cross paths with him, no matter how much danger he would be in, he would go absolutely feral and would yell at him like there was no tomorrow. And he will help Streber the best he can anytime he gets traumatic flashbacks or panic attacks from his trauma.

Here are some gay drawings, and yeah, I'll probably add more later on if I feel like it

Bonus; Streber, Kevin and Noah also happen to have this one song in particular they like to sing together all the time. Originally, Kevin and Noah would sing it together all of the time, but then Streber showed up and decided to join the party. And even after they formed a relationship, they would still always sing it together.

[wolves0nmars]

performativity theory thoughts

I hate the whole "gender performance thing" so much but also its such a hard mindset to escape. Like a couple weeks ago I had a mullet and my grandma kept misgendering me, and I felt like it was because I had longer hair. So I cut it shorter. And I still don't pass, but at least I'm doing everything in my ability to pass the best I can. But like. She still kept misgendering me. I've corrected her again and again and she misgenders me again and again. But now it doesn't feel as bad. Before I felt like it was my fault but now I feel like it's hers. I feel like I have deniability

I feel like I have this instinct to perform my gender as best as possible so if any cissy looks at me and says "how do these trnansgednerds expect people to respect their silly little pronouns" I can point to all ways I'm actually trying really, really hard to pass. Don't worry, I'm ashamed enough by this that I don't think I'll ever externalize it onto other trans people, but I still feel this way about myself.

This whole mindset is pretty easy to disprove. with FACTS and LGOIC. Because you can point to a cis man doing whatever he wants. Wearing dresses, doing drag, constantly crying, screaming, and generally being very weak and submissive like a little bitch and its like. That's still a man. He's such man. And the same could be said about a cis woman. She could cut her hair, stomp around in her combat boots and be constantly enraged with carnal desire and she is still very much a woman. And I mean obviously this same logic does not work in their favor if you consider sometimes cis people are actually. not. But it's just generally true that when you're cis you'll typically pass as your AGAB even if you aren't. Optimally porferming thine gneder.

And what's even worse is that when a man wears a dress, cis liberals are like "wow this is so brave and provocative" but if a transmasc did it... it's like... "are you even trying?" And it's the same if a cis woman got an undercut and wore combat boots versus if a transfemme did that.

But if someone says something like "are you even really trans" you can say well if I were a cis man and dressed like this would you say I'm a trans woman? And like. That's true. But also. Is it?

Cause there's a difference between identity and expression. If you're androgynous nobody will instantly tell you go transitioN!!!!! Because being trans is a lot of work. And if you're already trans and you're already putting the work in to get people to use different pronouns, sitting on 19 year waiting lists for healthcare, people will be quicker to convince you that's not necessary and you're not really trans ur just gay or something.

Part of me is reading all this shit im writing and thinking. fuck those cissies. Who cares if you aren't palatable enough to the centrists. It doesn't matter if some random person on the internet talks shit about something they know nothing about. Just do your own thing, who cares.

But the other part of me thinks, real life exists, too. And sometimes you just really really want to perform your gender the best you can to your relatives, and your coworkers, and your classmates, and your boss and that little bitch boy at the store that ma'ams you everytime you come in. or sirs you if thats more relatable to your situation.

I guess that's why the internet is just so great. Cause it's easier to find niche little spaces where everyone thinks the way you do and you don't have to explain anything to anyone. Even if occasionally you run into somebody you disagree with, it just doesn't really matter. You don't have to engage with them. But in real life, it's harder to find like-minded people who get it. And it's easier to stumble upon a confused centrist.

And I think that's part of the reason medical transition can be so good. Because your body actually looks like what you want. So it's kind of like being a cis person and having that same reassurance. When you don't pass "anatomically" you have to compensate by perfformsaijngagender whatever. But when you do, there's less to "compensate" for.

if only i could actually get it haha ha. ha.

Conclusion:

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh