#hatred is not

[thecircularsystem]

I directly responded to this post so that those who saw it in the tags would be able to check the notes and see that there are people out there who don’t shun them for what is, usually, a trauma thing.

But since OP blocked me, I’ll make a post here instead.

Anti-endos are welcome on my blog, and no, you aren’t stupid. You are worthy of love, and caring, and compassion — same as anyone else. Same as pro-endos, and endogenic systems. Same as bigots and racists and any other living, breathing being on this earth.

Everyone deserves that.

I can understand being anti-endo. I was there, once upon a time. And even if that individual wants to show us all that they are so much superior because of their opinion while they push down on other people, you don’t have to be that way in return.

You don’t have to fight back with vitriol and hate. You can be kind too.

Can we please all just work together for once? Can we all just be nice?

I don’t need to agree with someone to give them basic respect.

[itsjustkp007]

Stuff on my Mind: Opinions and How To Handle Differences

I’m not an expert on the subject, but I do have thoughts, and since they have been on my mind for months now, I figured I would make one somewhat thought-out/somewhat of a rant post talking about it. Ever since the election officially started, opinions on the Internet are everywhere. Not saying that they weren’t to begin with, but it definitely increased. When the nominations came down to Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump, I think that’s when people started being more vocal about their opinions. On my Facebook, I have a mixture of conservative and liberal friends of various levels: some extreme, some moderate, and some just…silent. For some of my friends, they weren’t necessarily apathetic, but they were just like “we’re doomed either way” or didn’t really want to talk about it because they didn’t want to offend anyone, they felt their opinion didn’t matter, or they didn’t want hate for having an opinion. As for the latter, I don’t blame them. Not in the slightest. I mean, all of the above reasons are valid, but more and more, I have noticed that some people are starting to take offense to a difference of opinion and that’s something that has never been okay with me, and it never will be. Everyone has their own opinions, and whether or not I agree with them, I will stand up for them to have the right to that opinion. Having an opinion is not offensive; shutting out their opinion and opposing them for having one is offensive.

As far as I go, I don’t have a stance on a lot of issues, either due to ignorance or feeling uncomfortable with even having an opinion. For example, I feel that marriage is a decision that every couple should make for themselves. As long as there is no abuse or harm in the relationship, it’s not my place to say whether I agree or disagree with their getting married. It has no effect on me whatsoever, so why have an opinion on it? Granted, if it was an abusive relationship, I would probably speak up and say something, but if no one is in harm’s way, it’s not my right to say something. People have the right to marry who they love. My opinion on their relationship doesn’t matter, again, as long as there is no abuse involved. With that said, take what I say as an opinion. If you disagree, please be constructive. If you agree, then…cool. :)

When I used to read someone’s opinion online, I would vent about the ones that I felt were wrong, and when I agreed, I would be like “THANK YOU” and feel happy that someone finally said something. However, this isn’t necessarily the right way to react to opinions. I’m learning this now, and I’m not perfect. I’m still learning, but I still think it’s important to establish some rules for myself to check myself before I respond to something, like doing my research to fact check and make sure I don’t take something out of context. Let me just mention this: I don’t agree with Donald Trump on a lot of things. I don’t think he should have been President, for more reasons other than those disagreements. However, I do feel that overall, people focus more on the bad than the good. Granted, there should be a balance and you should acknowledge the good and the bad, but I feel that the media, in general, depicts him as the worst person on Earth more often than not. You could argue that he brings some of it on himself, but honestly, I know it’s a slow news day when all the media post about are his vacations and how often he plays golf. This is a problem for US citizens since we’re basically paying for them, but pay attention to why this is bad news. On the conservative side, they’re complaining about this hypocrisy to potentially hide what bills are being passed by the predominantly Republican Congress, which makes their audience less informed of what’s happening. On the liberal side, this is basically bashing the President because they’re mad about Hillary not winning. There’s this back and forth between these biased media, and it’s a distraction from the news that’s vastly more important. What’s even worse is that it’s working.

Hate is never going to be a good way to combat hate. If you fight fire with fire, all you get is a bigger fire and more stuff gets burnt in the process. But the reason I bring this up is not for there to be hate towards the media; it’s more to make people aware of their tactics and to be cautious. Do research. Try to learn more. Don’t believe every headline you see and every story you hear. Come up with your own opinions, and don’t rely on media alone. If you have a different opinion from me, fine, and if you don’t want to listen to media who have a difference of opinion from you, fine, but please realize that others’ opinions are not an attack on you. There are people out there that have an opinion about what I should and should not do with my body. That’s not my problem; that’s on them. Should the government have a say with what I do with my life and what I do with my body? No. My morality and my decisions are my own. I don’t make decisions to spite people; I make my own decisions based on what I feel is right or based on my own thoughts. I represent me and myself alone. I don’t represent my parents, I don’t represent my religion, and I don’t represent every woman. The only thing I represent is myself. I have my own thoughts and my own beliefs, and I answer on behalf of myself alone.

Now here’s the main thing that I want to get across: there are opinions that do hurt, but it’s not necessarily malicious. There’s a difference between someone saying “I don’t support gay marriage” and someone saying “God hates f***.” (Note: I censored the word because I feel that word is offensive, and I don’t want it on my blog. Notice how this is MY decision.) I’m sure that it is hurtful for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community to hear someone say they don’t support gay marriage, but it’s not an attack on you. Maybe that’s just what they grew up with, and they’ve never met someone within the LGBTQ+ community (or if they even know that they know someone within that community). Maybe they feel that way, but don’t feel that it’s any of their business to say anything. Are you really going to be offended by someone who has an opinion apart from yours? It’s one thing if they come to the wedding and shout at the top of their lungs that your marriage is wrong, but if they simply just don’t agree with gay marriage yet they still think that it’s your choice to marry who you love, I don’t think there’s a problem with that.

Basically, I think we all just need to be able to differentiate between being upset and being offended. If your feelings are hurt by someone’s opinion, that is fine, but that doesn’t give you the right to bash them. Having a disagreement is not offensive; someone handling that disagreement in a negative way is offensive. I am offended when someone is called a “baby killer” for being pro-choice, and I am offended when someone is told they’re going to Hell for being a part of the LGBTQ+ community or for even being an ally. Having an opinion is not offensive; showing disrespect or hatred because of that opinion is offensive. If you want to have a discussion about this, feel free to message me or ask me questions. However, as a warning, if you post hate towards me about my opinion (please notice that I said hate and not a difference of opinion), I will not respond. I’ve dealt with hate IRL and online, and trust me when I say that you don’t want to play that game with me. This isn’t a threat or anything mean; this is an up-front and blunt warning.

[thealbinoprince]

I’m starting to unfollow anyone who posts too much Supergirl negativity, not because I disagree but because all the negativity is ruining the show for me more than the show itself I just want to enjoy it 

[musicalbadgers]

ahhh I just looked down the moffat hate tag

that was a mistake?