#going through divorce islam

[suhyla]

Is it okay if I pray for someone to go through the exact thing that they put me through? I’m not a vengeful person by any means but the depth of the pain and betrayal that this person put me through and after pretending to be on my side all along for 4 years absolutely shatters me and I can’t help but ask Allah to make them suffer the way they made me suffer. What’s worse is that I told them over and over how their behaviour was hurting me to the point where they almost risked my life and left me to die. I sometimes feel guilty about praying against them after praying for them for so long but I can’t bring myself to stop. I’m hoping one day I’ll be able to let go and make peace with the pain but for now, I’m not sure if I can

Salam, I’m really sorry you’re going through this.

The duaa of the oppressed is answered, which is why people are warned against oppressing others, as those they harm may pray against them and their duaas are always accepted.

And knowing Allah is the most Just means that even if you don’t make duaa against them, if someone hurts you intentionally, Allah will bring you justice. Was Yusuf making duaa against his brothers after they left him to die in the well? I doubt it. Yet decades passed and Allah gave him power and brought his brothers to him in weakness. And they were completely at Yusuf’s mercy.

But you’ll notice that Yusuf was given the ability to get revenge and he didn’t. The Prophet ﷺ was also given the ability to get revenge on his oppressors, and he chose not to.

I don’t know what you went through. If someone was deliberately hurting you and abusing you, I can’t tell you you aren’t allowed to pray against them — because you are.

All I will say is saying hasbi Allah wa nimal wakeel (Allah is enough for me and He is the best disposer of affairs) instead will help release the anger and bitterness that comes with wanting revenge, and leaves them to Allah instead. And Allah being the most Just, He will never leave you without receiving your justice— whether it’s in this life or the next. It will be lighter on your heart and mind to know that you left your case with Allah and trust Him to deal with them in the way that is necessary. As opposed to praying against them day and night and waiting to see them be dealt with.

[lover-girl-estxx]

Lipstick and Mascara

моя любовь means my love

Based on this asked:

"Islam and the reader are married, but Islam cheats on the reader and the reader finds out and leaves Islam. Islam regrets it very much and loses most of their matches. In the end, the reader forgives himself and they make peace"

*not my gif*

"is this okay?" I asked coming out in a long tight dress with long sleeves, I don't have the same religious view as Islam but I try to dress a little more modest for him "it's great" I smiled "okay! I just have to put lipstick on" he nodded and went back on his phone I grabbed my brown lipstick putting it on then put it in my purse. "k ready!" he grabbed my hand as we walked to the car, he opened the door for me "thanks baby" I kissed his cheek "of course моя любовь" he smiled making me do the same.

We pulled up to the restaurant 30 minutes later I pulled the mirror down to check my makeup "I have to do lipstick again" I giggled "oh my gosh" he laughed I reached down for my purse but my fingers touched a lipstick, I grabbed it and opened it seeing the color was a bright red lipstick a color I only wore maybe on Halloween but never anytime other. "Islam?" I looked over to him "mmm" he looked at me not out the window anymore "whos is this?" he looked like he saw a ghost "um yours I guess..Not mine" he laughed "i'm not joking Islam this isn't mine" he cleared his throat "this isn't mine so who's is it" I added "listen моя любовь-" "don't! fucking tell me" "don't us-" he hated when I cursed "I don't care tell me who's it is" " it...it was a um one time thing," my eyes started to water "I regret it so I didn't tell you" "w-when?" tears now going all down my face "3 weeks ago" I let out a shaky breath "why would you do that! we just got married a ago. you took me to Moscow for a trip before we start trying for kids" "y/n it has nothing to do with us" "it has everything to do with us" I put my head into my lap "I regret it" "I don't care.....please take me back to the hotel" "hey i-m" he rubbed my back "don't touch me I hate you right now" I sat up quickly and threw his hand away.

we've been married a year, I thought all the doubt, his family not really liking me and thoughts I had in the start of our relationship. The different beliefs, different culture and many other things. "your going somewhere else your not coming in with me" "no come on we go back dagestan tomorrow I stay with you tonight" "no your not and your going back to Dagestan i'm going back to Y/H/T" he sighed "y/n" "no your just pissing me off more" I got out of the car he did the same "Islam" "i'll get other room".

He was getting all his stuff out of the room and I sat on the bed "who was she?" "she was um fan" I nodded "we're like done i'm not working through this" "I was one time thing" "no I don't care" "Y/n-" "нет, мне все равно (no, I don't care) can you understand? Take this with you too" I handed him my ring he sighed I wiped my eyes mascara getting on my fingers.

| 3 Months Later |

Islam sent me money for an apartment of my own and all my stuff, so to break in the new apartment I invited my sister over to watch Makhachev vs Tsarukyan. "your about to divorce him and your still gonna watch his fights?" she asked "yeah I mean i'm not the one who made the choice for him to cheat I still love him I just don't like him" I shrugged. "Islam has said in interviews leaning up to this fight that he has had some personal issues leading up to his training camp an through the camp" Jon anik said as Islam walked out I rolled my eyes "you going for tsarukyan?" she asked "no i'm going for Islam" I chuckled "he cheated on you you have to do a little revenge even if its just with us" "no i'm not doing that," I lightly chuckled "never lost a fight he's good".

"Islam's striking is very underrated he's wre-" Joe started before Jon cut him off "and Arman Tsarukyan has knocked down Islam Makhachev and the ref has called it" "oh my God" I stood up my hands went over my mouth "is he okay?" my sister asked "yeah yeah he's okay" I sighed as he stood up.

"I tired my hardest it did not work," he shrugged "I will try again get my mind okay" he nodded and wiped his nose "Islam makhachev everyone". he didn't look as good as he should being in the cage "okay um i'm going to bed i'm not feeling well" "okay" she nodded.

Y: you okay hon?

my thumb went over the send button but didn't I just set my phone on my nightstand and rolled over closing my eyes.

I got up and fixed my tank top "gosh I need coffee" I groaned walking out into the living room expecting to see my sister but I saw Islam "w-what are you doing?" my sister came out of the kitchen with two cups of coffee "I think you two need to talk" "no Y/s/n why'd you call him? How'd you get here so fast?" "plane fight not far" "i'll be in the other room".

"I'm sorry" he said "thanks" I pulled my legs to my chest and grabbed my cup of coffee "I didn't think about how it would affect you" "how could you not Islam? When you were hooking up with a girl you didn't think about your wife?" "I did I..I stopped half way if that helps" "I can't Right now" "there's nothing else I can say I regret it and I'm sorry and I love you I want you back" he looked over at me tear weny down his cheek i wiped it and set my cup of coffee down. I wrapped my arms around his neck and my waist "we'll work on it, no kids right now" I said pulling away looking at him he nodded I kissed his cheek and laid on head on his shoulder "I'm sorry" "shh dont talk about it anymore okay?" He nodded.

[orphaned-in-storyville]

I’m a musician who played on Bourbon street on New Year’s Eve. Here’s what I have to say about the republican politicians trying to score points at the expense of all the people around me that night.

Every act of terrorism is inherently political. And since the right wing power structure in charge of this country is rushing in to speak on behalf of me and my friends and coworkers—the folks who work on bourbon street and have to deal with the aftermath of this attack—I’m going to speak out too. If you feel it’s crass to “politicize” this, remember, the terrorists and the politicians already have, so why not hear from an actual musician who was actually working that night on bourbon street.

When the people in power impose their moral code on the populace using violence. Weather it’s the cops attacking random black men during traffic stops, or the military of an apartheid state bombing civilians, or the oligarchs in control of a private prison system filling their jails to capacity. It’s called state-violence, and it’s legal. When people who are not in power use violence against random civilians to impose their own morals it’s called terrorism.

The only things that differentiates a Jihadist attacking bourbon street, from a military drone bombing civilians or a policeman beating a handcuffed man to death is the flag they waive. Whether the flag has an isis insignia, a Star of David or a thin blue line makes no difference to the victims. To kill civilians at random is an act of terror. To collectively punish the people is a war crime. These people are all the same. The terrorist, the conservative senator and the billionaire all believe you should be forced to do as they say and if you resist you should be punished with violence.

That’s why the gauntlet of conservative politicians using this attack to their own ends makes my blood boil. The beliefs of an average Republican senator today are barely different from the Islamic fundamentalists commuting mass murder. The state government that bans pornography for religious reasons, that forces their own religious iconography in schools, that makes divorce illegal, that arrests women for the way they dress, that arrests women for having an abortion when the pregnancy will kill them, or when the mother is 12 years old—has more in common with ISIS than they do with you or me.

The conservative politician’s psychopathic need to force their particular interpretation of their particular religion on us is exactly the same need as Isis. Which sect of which religion they impose hardly maters. The only functional difference is that the conservative power brokers that run our country have the law and the police on their side.

So to Trump and Landry and the slew of right wing demagogs trying to profit from the death and suffering on New Years, I’m telling you from the bottom of my heart, you are the same as the terrorists. Your psychotic need to impose your beliefs, and your willingness to use violence on innocent people to do so, puts you squarely in the company of all the other terrorists. Your views on women’s rights and religious freedom are barely different than ISIS. Through the policies you’ve imposed you’re already responsible for more deaths than the shooter. You are bad people to the core not just for using these deaths to your own advantage but because your beliefs and desires are barely different than the terrorist that committed them.

New Orleans is the freeist city I’ve ever lived in, in the least free state. The Louisiana government is controlled by religious extremists imposing their religious doctrines by force. These people are not like us. Senator Mike Johnson has an app on his phone designed for evangelical fundamentalists that alerts him if his son masturbates. JD Vance is an avowed Christian Nationalist who’s stated goal of making America a Christian Nation means forcing the country’s laws to abide by HIS interpretation of HIS sect of HIS religion, which means everything from no drinking on Sunday to making porn illegal to re-criminalizing marijuanna to forcing doctors to let woman die rather than perform abortions.

The same reason the Isis inspired terrorist chose the French quarter of New Orleans as a target—the debauchery, the decadence, the partying and music and joie de vivre that the city is known for, is exactly what the conservative terrorists that control our legislature hate about the city. The only point of contention the Republican dominated government and the Isis inspired terrorist have with one another is which sect of which religion gets to impose its totalitarian ideals on the rest of us. Jihadism is already here, it’s just called Christian Nationalism. Sharia law is already here it’s just called Project 2025.

[farisjax]

I came across the video where a man said I left Islam because Allah curses Abu Lahab in Surah Masad. He being weird and senseless further said Allah is saying as if He is scared of Abu Lahab.

The Qur'an was revealed to the Messenger of Allah (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) and Allah used to communicate with Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) through the Qur'an. During the early days of Prophet's ﷺ‌ mission to spread tawhid and remind people to worship none but Allah. So allah revealed a verse ordering Muhammad ﷺ‌ to invite his relatives to Islam ( Quran 26:214-216).The Prophet (ﷺ) then stood up and answered his Lord’s command. Ibn ʿAbbās (رضي الله عنه) reported that, when : ( “And warn your tribe (O Muhammad ﷺ) of near kindred” ) was revealed, the Prophet (ﷺ) ascended Mount As-Safā and began to call out, “O children of Faihr, O children of ʿAdee,” these being the various sub-tribes of the Quraish. They all gathered together before the Prophet (ﷺ), and if a man was not able to go himself, he sent a messenger on his behalf to find out what was happening. The Quraish, Abu Lahab included, came, and the Prophet (ﷺ) said, (“Suppose I informed you that horses (i.e., an army riding on horses) were in the valley (i.e., behind this mountain), intending to attack you - would you believe me?” “Yes,” they said, “We have experienced nothing from you but truthfulness.” “Then I am a warner to you,” said the Prophet (ﷺ). (The Prophet (ﷺ) then went on to say: “Verily! I’m a warner before the time of a severe punishment.”) “Woe to you for the rest of this day!” exclaimed Abu Lahab. “Is it only for this that you have gathered us together?” Then Allāh (ﷻ) revealed the following verses, making it clear who it was that was headed for destruction:

"Perish the two hands of Abu Lahab (an uncle of the Prophet ﷺ) and perish he! His wealth and his children (etc.) will not benefit him!” (Qurʾān 111:1,2)

In brief Allah is not scared of abu lahab. Allah revealed this verse to remind Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) that abh lahab can do nothing to you. Allah is with you O Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) and his hands will be perished. Also abu lahab was the worst enemy of Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ). He even made his sons to divorce the daughters of Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) which caused immense sadness and pain to Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ). Later on Uthman ibn affan رضى الله عنه got married to them and thats is why Uthman is known as Dhul Noor-ayn (possessor of two lights). The wives were ( Ruqqaya and Umme Kulthum رضى الله عنهما). Abu lahab and his wife used to place thorns on his way to hurt him. They wanted to assassinate the Messenger of Allah (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ). The first years of Prophethood were so hard and painful for Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) but he held the rope of Allah and didn't stop with the likes of Khadija, Abu bakr, Ali,(may Allah be pleased with them all) with the Messenger of Allah (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ). The power actually came when Hamzah رضى الله عنه accepted Islam although his acceptance wasn't due to the message of Allah to accept islam. Hamza رضى الله عنه accept islam out of love for Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) when abu jahl hit the head of the Prophet ﷺ‌ with stone. So out of pain and love for Muhammad ﷺ‌ he went to abu jahl and hit him back and abu jahal knew about hamza رضى الله عنه and his bravery so he couldn't move an inch towards him. Furthermore Allah mentions Prophets and their enemies in the Qur'an so as said Allah mentioned abu lahab as the worst enemy of Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) in the Qur'an.

[inspofromancientworld]

By the Rivers of Babylon We Sat down and Wept and its Ancient Origins

By Henry Pierce Bone/ After William Edward West - Christie's, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=12105640

George Gordon Byron, 6th Baron Byron, more commonly known as Lord Byron or simply Byron, was a British poet who lived from 1788-1824. He is regarded as being one of the greatest British poets of all time. He was good friends with Percy Bysshe Shelley and the father of Ada Lovelace.

By Thomas Stewardson - Unknown source, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=792792

Byron's family can be traced back to the Doomsday Book and Ralph du Buran, who came to England with William the Conqueror. His paternal grandfather set a speed record for circumnavigating the globe as well as a 'tempestuous voyage' during the American War of Independence, earning him the name 'Foul-Weather Jack' in the papers. His father married a woman he'd been having an affair with after her divorce while she was eight months pregnant. When marrying Byron's mother, his father took her last name to prove that he wasn't just marrying her for her landholdings and fortune. She ended up having to sell her land to pay his debts, though, burning through nearly all her money. They ran away to France to avoid creditors, though returning to England just before Byron was born. Byron was named after her father, who was descended from James I of Scotland, despite his father wanting him to be named William because he wasn't in the country. Byron took the title when he was 10 and his great-uncle died. Byron didn't have a good relationship with his mother, often mocking her for being short, 'corpulent', and for drinking. Weather she was indulgent or stern without follow through is unknown, though one of his biographers leaned toward indulgent. His mother-in-law required that he take on her surname to inherit and he did so, which gained him half of her estate.

Byron started school in Aberdeen before his family moved back to England when he was 10. His mother also often took him out of school at a whim, leading him to be a poor student. When he was 15, he fell in love with Mary Chaworth and refused to return to school for the semester because he was intemperate in all things and was too distracted to focus on schooling, when he gained a bit more control and was able to form friendships with his fellow students.

By Thomas Phillips - Government Art Collection, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=45367891

He went to Trinity College, Cambridge, when he was 17, where he met John Edleston, who would be his 'protégé'. Whether their relationship was 'pure' or not is up for debate, especially given the growing intolerance in England at the time, but there are reasons to believe that Byron did engage in homosexual affairs through his school life, at least. When he was 21, he went on a Grand Tour, which was normal for noble sons at the time, even though he had racked up a lot of gambling debts through his schooling, leaving his mother hiding from his creditors. The on-going Napoleonic Wars pushed his Tour to the Near East, around Mediterranean and the Levant, exposing him to Islam, especially the Sufi mystics. He spent much of his life abroad, only in England from 1811-1816 in his adult life.

By Eduard Bendemann - cropped version from http://www.buddenbrookhaus.de/index.php?getfile=flyer-babylon-v2.indd.pdf, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=8470026

By the Rivers of Babylon We Sat down and Wept is a paraphrasing of the 137th Psalm, which references the Fall of Jerusalem in 597 BCE, with the rivers being the Tigris and Euphrates, which bounded the land of Babylon. Where the Psalm references 'Zion', the poem references 'Salem'. The Psalm and poem are a communal and personal lament, a pain of the group being taken from their homelands as well as the personal fear of forgetting where one came from. It is also a calling for justice against those who take those away from their homes and destroy those homes, even if they are apparently victorious in the moment.

You can read the poem here. You can read the psalm here.

[apostateoverrubies]

Okay so I recently became aware of a tactic that queerphobic people tend to use when debating on LGBTQ+ rights thanks to a Muslim I've been debating with.

They'll ask for our stance on pedophilia since if we're advocating for the rights of queer identities, we have to accept pedophiles as well.

They want to back you into a corner and make you think that queerness and pedophilia are intertwined when that isn't the case.

If that were the case, then only queer people would be attracted to kids but there are also plenty of heterosexual people like that too.

Just because they want to weasel their way into our community doesn't mean we accept them.

Now, it's time for me to go into why a Muslim has no place to criticize LGBTQ+ community for pedophilia acceptance.

I'm doing this because the whole reason this debate is happening is because of one of my earlier posts where I called out certain religious folks for supposedly being against pedophilia while being part of groups that supported it.

I will say I should've worded that post better and be clear about which specific religious groups are guilty of this. But otherwise, my point still stands.

Anyways, back to Islam.

I think many ex Muslims and hopefully other ex religious people out there know about Aisha.

For those of you who don't, Aisha is Muhammad's child bride. They married when she was only six and their relationship was consummated when she was 9.

She was his favorite wife.

So already this is a bad look. How can you say we're the ones promoting pedophilia when your own prophet married a little girl?

But that's not the only case of it, though it is definitely a very infamous one.

What I want to focus on though is verse 65:4. The general focus of the 65 is divorce, thus the title "Surah At-Talaq".

In 65:4, it goes into the waiting period women and girls have until they are either "honorably retained" or "honorably separated." For those going through menopause and even those who have not menstruated, their period is three months.

Sure, one could argue that it could apply to women who are simply unable to menstruate. But if that were the case, we wouldn't be seeing child marriage in the Quran at all.

And like I said, it wasn't just Muhammad who married an underaged girl.

Umar would go on to marry Umm Kuthum while she had supposedly had not yet reached puberty. (But from what I've heard, not every Muslim acknowledges this marriage.)

Urwah ibn Zubayr had also apparently married off his daughter while she was still very young.

Not to mention, child marriage was widespread in Muslim countries. It's only becoming less common place because of "westernization and man-made laws", though this is according to an Islamis source.

And even with all that aside, AFAB Muslims even before puberty are sexualized through strict dress codes to supposedly protect their purity. Though what really is going on here is that young girls are seen as inherently sexual in their eyes, and instead of protecting them from creeps, it's on the girls to "remain pure."

So yeah, next time you think about calling out queer people for pedophilia acceptance, check your own religion first.

[scobbe]

Something I wish feminists would keep in mind when criticizing religion, especially the Abrahamic faiths, is that before and outside of Judaism/Christianity/Islam, things were Very Very Bad for women. The divorce codes in the Torah are in response to men going through wives without a care in the world and there is a constant stress for the care of widows and orphans - and this all comes from God’s own mouth. Patriarchal society has constantly been pushing against female equality for eons and yes, does rear its unholy head in scripture. But the revelation itself is that we are all in the image of God and equal under God - no slave or free, no male and female.

How we have dealt with that information is where the messiness comes from, not God’s intent for humanity.

[i-cant-sing]

just wanted to say Kashmir has always belonged to India

And you were saying why people of India is always about Pakistan is because Pakistan is always sending terrorist in India and we are not going to forget about the death of our indian army

And you were talking about BJP, BJP is the first political partie in India that has guy to ban the three times saying divorce means divorce many of female muslim in India support BJP for this

By your logic, Pakistan and Bangladesh also belong to India? Should they all just reverse their independence???

Personally, as someone with Kashmiri ancestors, I think yall should have Kashmir vote whether they wanna stay in India, join Pakistan or be independent altogether.

As far as the whole "announce divorce 3 times" goes, that's an Islamic thing okay? There's a way things are done in each religion, they don't have to provide u or the state reasons for that. I'm sure, whoever passed the ban probably thought he was helping Muslim women out or something but it wasnt BJPs problem to deal with. Besides... why... why are they banning hijab?? What good is that bringing to the world? Is it fair for the Indian Muslims to not be able to practice their religion freely, while Indian Hindus get to do it??? What about Muslims slaughtering animals on eid? Should we ban that too because the BJP, a majorly Hindu party, feels its uncomfortable, if not outright disrespectful because they worship cows??? Then, should Muslims be allowed to bash all the idols because they consider it disrespectful to have so many gods????

And look, Im mot saying Pakistan is completely innocent. I'm sure they've done terrible things too when minoritiesare considered (like blasphemyaccusations end up costing u your life there), but to consider the actions of few bad people and assume everyone of association is a terrorist is just downright stupid. Not even sad, pathetic, its stupid.

Should you be afraid of me because I'm a Muslim? Huh? Do you hate me now?

Thing is u are probably wondering why I'm being all Pro Muslims rn when every other community in the world is also suffering/had suffered through something bad... why I'm soooo "insensitive" to the Hindus pain?

Because you/whoever that anon was decided that the time to bring up the Hindu suffering is when I'm talking about Palestine. The fucking nerve. What you/that anon was trying to do was overshadow the Palestinian suffering, by bringing up Hindus. Not to mention, how they mentioned being afraid of Muslims now?? Idc how old u are, its not okay to be racist and its not my job to teach you right from wrong.

Now, you could say whatever you want about me- I give two shits. If you really care about Hindus suffering and what not, post about it on your blog. Raise awareness. But you can't guilt me into sympathising for your cause by making me stop talking about Palestine. I'm not forcing u to raise awareness about Palestine, am I?

[lifeofresulullah]

The Life of The Prophet Muhammad(pbuh): The Battle of Uhud and Afterwards

The Prophet Marries Hazrat Zaynab Bint Jahsh

(The month of Dhulqada in the 5th Year of the Migration)

Hazrat Zaynab bint Jahsh was the daughter of Umayma bint Ab­dul­mut­talib, the aunt of the Prophet. She had married Hazrat Zayd b. Haritha, the adopted child of the Prophet. The Messenger of God himself wanted her to marry Zayd.

Zaynab and her family did not want that marriage but they gave consent to it when the Prophet insisted.

Zayd Divorces Zaynab

Zayd did not regard his wife Zaynab, who was dignified, equal to him spiritually. This caused lack of harmony in their marriage. As a matter of fact, Zayd went to the Prophet at the end of the first year of their marriage and said to him “O Messenger of God! I want to divorce my wife.”

The Messenger of God said to him, “Live with your wife; do not divorce her! Fear God!”

However, Zayd felt through his foresight that Zaynab had a high ethics and that she had a nature that could be a wife of the Prophet. He did not regard himself equal to her in nature to be her husband; therefore, he divorced her.

The Prophet Marries Zaynab upon the Command of God

The Prophet became very sad due to the end of the marriage between Zayd and Zaynab because of “spiritual lack of harmony”. For he had wanted this marriage to take place. It was necessary to do something and to soften Zaynab’s relatives, who got sad due to this divorce.  

The iddah (the period a woman has to wait after divorce) of Zaynab ended. She was 35 years old.

One day, the Messenger of God was sitting together with Aisha and talking to her. Meanwhile, he received some revelation. God Almighty stated the following in the verses He sent down:

“Then when Zaid had dissolved (his marriage) with her, with the necessary (formality), We joined her in marriage to thee: in order that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the Believers in (the matter of) marriage with the wives of their adopted sons, when the latter have dissolved with the necessary (formality) (their marriage) with them: and God’s command must be fulfilled.

There can be no difficulty to the Prophet in what God has indicated to him as a duty. It was the practice (approved) of God amongst those of old that have passed away, and the command of God is a decree determined.”

When the revelation ended, the Prophet smiled and said, “Who will go and give Zaynab the glad tidings that God married her off to me in the sky?”

As it is clearly understood from the verses, God Almighty ordered the Prophet to marry Zaynab. The Prophet married Zaynab as a result of this order. The statement, “We joined her in marriage to thee” in the verse indicates clearly that it was a heavenly marriage. That is, this marriage took place beyond the traditional and apparent acts and as a result of the decree of qadar; the Messenger of God obeyed the decree of qadar. It has nothing to do with bodily desires.

An Important Reason of This Marriage

The marriage established between the Prophet and Zaynab contains an important aspect of Islamic law and an aspect that interests all believers and is beneficial for them. It is stated in the following part of the verse: “in order that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the Believers in (the matter of) marriage with the wives of their adopted sons”. When a person adopted a child during the Era of Jahiliyya, people called him/her as if he was the real child of that person; and that child had the right to be an inheritor to that person. Naturally, that person could not marry a woman that his child divorced; it was forbidden.

Thus, the Prophet married Zaynab based on the command of God, showing that this belief and custom of the Era of Jahiliyya was wrong. It is stated by the verse that it would not be a sin for believers to do so.

The Gossips of the Munafiqs

When the Prophet married Zaynab, the munafiqs, who were eagerly waiting for opportunities to plot mischief and cause sedition among Muslims, started to talk against it a lot. According to the belief of Jahiliyya, it was haram for a man to marry a woman that his adopted son divorced; thus, they used it as means of gossiping against the Messenger of God, saying, “Muhammad rendered it haram fo a person to marry his son’s wife but he himself married the woman that his son Zayd divorced.” The verse that was sent down settled the issue: “Muhammad is not the father of any of your men, but (he is) the Messenger of God, and the Seal of the Prophets: and God has full knowledge of all things.”

Prophets look at and address their ummah like a father due to their duty of prophethood not due to their human personalities. Therefore, it cannot be mentioned that it is inappropriate for them to marry their daughters. The Quran spiritually states the following in order to eliminate the questions that could come to the mind:

“On account of Divine mercy the Prophet has compassion for you, he deals with you in fatherly fashion, and in the name of prophethood you are like his children. But in regard to his human personality he is not your father so that it should be inappropriate for him to take a wife from among you! And if he calls you “Son,” in respect of the rulings of the Shari’a, you cannot be his children!”

The believers who have foresight and prudence will definitely notice, through our explanation, that the people who want to blame this pure and decent marriage, which has many wisdoms and lead to good things, in order to cast a shadow upon the high personality of the Messenger of God, act with bad intentions and deliberately.

Wedding Feast and a Miracle

It was a custom of the Messenger of God to give a feast to his Companions when he married. This custom has been going on as sunnah among Muslims.

When the Messenger of God married Zaynab, Umm Sulaym, the mother of Anas b. Malik, sent him some fried Madinah dates. The dates she sent were in a small bowl and they were barely sufficient for the Prophet and Hazrat Zaynab.  

Anas b. Malik, who is well-known as “Khadim an-Nabawi” (the Servant of the Prophet) narrates the incident as follows:

“The Prophet (pbuh) accepted what I brought and said, ‘Call Abu Bakr, Umar, Uthman and Ali (may God be pleased with them)’; he also mentioned the names of several people. I was surprised because the Messenger of God ordered me to call many people for a small amount of food. However, I could not act contrary to the command of the Prophet. I called all of them.

Then, he said to me, ‘Go to the mosque and invite all of the people in the mosque.’ I did so. I said to the people praying in the mosque, ‘the Messenger of God invites you to his wedding feast.’ They all came.

Eventually, the hall was full.

The Prophet said to me, ‘Is there anybody left in the mosque?’

I said, ‘No.’

He said, ‘Go outside and invite whomever you see.’

I called them. The rooms were full, too.

He asked, ‘Is there anybody left?’

I said, ‘No, O Messenger of God!’

He said, ‘Bring me the bowl.’

I brought the bowl to him.

He put his hand on the bowl and prayed for abundance. Then, he said, ‘Let everybody sit in circles of tens and eat what is in front of them.’

The guests sat and ate as they were ordered. Thus, all of the guests came in groups, ate and left.

I was looking at the oil and dates in the bowl. The people in the hall and the rooms ate from the bowl until they were full. What was left in the bowl was as much as I had brought.

The Messenger of God said to me, ‘O Anas! Put it away.’

I took the bowl and went to my mother. I told him all about the incident.

My mother said to me, ‘No need to wonder! If God had wished all of the people of Madinah to eat from it, all of them would have eaten and been full’.”

Since the religion, call and prophethood of Hazrat Muhammad was universal, he was given all kinds of miracles. He showed many miracles regarding the increase of food. We quoted this miracle here due to its relevance to the issue. We pray as follows:

“O Lord! Give abundance to the material and spiritual sustenance that you grant us for the sake of the Messenger of God (pbuh)!”

The Verse of Hijab is Sent Down

The guests that had joined the wedding feast of Hazrat  Zaynab had all left; only three people had remained. They kept talking. The Prophet was not pleased with the situation. He left and went to Hazrat Aisha’s room. Then, he visited the rooms of his other wives one by one. He returned hoping that those three people had left. However, when he returned, they were still talking.  The Messenger of God could not say anything to them. He walked toward the room of Hazrat Aisha again. This time, they stood up and left. When, the Prophet was informed about it, he returned. He entered his room.

Hazrat Umar had once said, “O Messenger of God! Would it not be better if you kept your wives behind a screen? All kinds of people come to visit you.” However, the Messenger of God did not say anything to Umar because there was not a command from God Almighty about it. Once, he saw Hazrat Sawda, one of the wives of the Prophet outside, and said to her, “O Sawda! We recognized you!” He said so because he desired a divine command to be sent regarding tasattur.

When the incident we have mentioned above took place in the wedding feast of Hazrat Zaynab, the verse about tasattur was sent down:

“O ye who believe! enter not the Prophet’s houses― until leave is given― you for a meal (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation: but when ye are invited, enter; and when ye have taken your meal, disperse, without seeking familiar talk. Such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet: he is ashamed to dismiss you, but God is not ashamed (to tell you) the truth. And when ye ask (his ladies) for anything ye want, ask them from before a screen: that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs. Nor is it right for you that ye should annoy God’s Messenger, or that ye should marry his widows after him at any time. Truly such a thing is in God’s sight an enormity.”

The Prophet went out and recited the verse that was sent down to the people. Thereupon, his wives went behind a screen.

After that, the wives of the Prophet talked to the people except the ones that were their close relatives, servants and slaves behind a screen when it was necessary to talk.

Once, the Prophet was near Umm Salama and Maymuna. Meanwhile, Abdullah Ibn Umm Maktum, who was blind, entered the room. The Prophet said to his wives, “Go behind the screen.”

They said, “O Messenger of God! Is he not blind? He does not see or recognize us.”

The Prophet said, “Are you blind? Do you not see him?”

Muslim Women are Ordered to Cover Their Bodies

Some ill-mannered munafiqs harassed female slaves. They sometimes disturbed other women thinking that they were slaves.

They sometimes disturbed Muslim women, too. When they were asked why they behaved like that, they said, “We thought they were slaves.”

Thereupon, the following verse that ordered Muslim women to cover their bodies was sent down:

“O prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested.”

[cadybear420]

Meet My MC: Evie Ayana (OG HSS)

Trivia and Extended Details under the cut!

Note: All details are subject to changes and additions.

Evie is bit of a wildcard, honestly. Fun-loving but also no-nonsense. Tough but also sweet. Will lift up Aiden but also snuggle into his chest. Horny on main but knows her boundaries. Sometimes level-headed, other times impulsive. Loves having companionship, but also values her personal space. Unfamiliar situations make her anxious, but in the end, she wants to do her best to stabalize and adapt to her situation and help the people she cares about.

Family and Background

🇮🇳 Evie is a mix of South Asian (Indian) and European (English/Scottish) descent. Her mom Rani is Indian, and her Dad Scott is a mix of South Asian and European. However, Scott suspects he may have some Turkish roots/ancestry somewhere along the line.

💔 After Scott and Julia (Emma's Mom) ended up going their separate ways in college, Scott would meet Rani. The two fell in love and eventually were married and pregnant, but divorced on amicable terms because Rani realized during the pregnancy that she was not up to being a parent. It was tough on the two of them because they were an otherwise perfect match.

🌉 Evie was born in San Francisco, California, and has lived there all her life up until her and Scott's move to Cedar Cove when he got a new job offer.

👶 Scott chose the name "Evelyn" partly because he liked the way it sounded and partly because some of its meanings include "desired", "desired child", and "wanted", as Scott had always wanted to be a father. But it was quickly shortened to "Evie" as he began using "Evie-bear" as a name of endearment for her.

👨‍👧 Rani would sometimes come to visit Scott and Evie, being more of an Auntie figure to her. They get along pretty well, but it could be a bit awkward since Rani and Scott still had some feelings for each other and neither of them had really had any new partners. Evie never resented Rani for leaving, but would often feel like she missed out on having a great mother figure.

☪️ Both Evie and her dad are cultural semi-practicing Muslims. Scott has Islamic ancestry, but grew up in a household that wasn't strictly religious. Most of his and Evie's practicing of the religion involves fasting on Ramadan, celebrating Eid-ul-fitr and Eid-al-adha, not eating pork or drinking alcohol, and the occasional prayer.

🐱 Scott and Evie adopted Daisy just after Evie graduated middle school. Scott had always wanted a cat as a kid, but his father was deathly allergic. This made Scott afraid to get a furry pet for years, even after he'd moved out. But with Evie loving cats just as much as he does, he eventually decided "enough" and adopted a month-old white-and-orange rescue kitten. Daisy is quiet and calm, but at the same time, her Orange Cat side shows through quite often and she also gets freaked out by large groups of people.

🐹 Scott and Evie adopted Cheese Nugget (sometimes called "Cheesy") in the Fall of Evie's first year at Berry because Scott loves hamsters just as much as he does cats. Don't worry, they make sure to keep Daisy and Cheesy far away from each other. Daisy doesn't know that Cheesy even exists and they intend to keep it that way.

Evie's HSS Story

🚚 Evie hates drastic changes, and hopes to live a life that is stable and secure. At the very least, she wants to be able to know how to mitigate drastic changes. Evie was not a fan of having to move up North. She was leaving behind the home she'd lived in since childhood and the few friends she had made. But she did also hope to end up in a better high school environment.

🫢 Evie started out as very cautious, nervous, and impulsive before coming to Berry. She was bullied fairly often in early elementary school and sometimes had trouble making a lot of friends. When she came to Berry, she was very unsure of it at first and did still have some difficulty, but she was eventually able to take the opportunity of a fresh start and begin pushing herself to be a more confident, outspoken, and actively helpful person. She's been able to make friends and stand up to bullies and assholes much more easily at Berry, though it could still be a bit difficult sometimes.

🤵‍♀️ Evie is a very GNC cis girl and has been for as far back as she can remember. She tends to prefer masc clothing and hair styles, she's very proud of her masc form and likes to work on maintaining her muscular build, she almost exclusively likes role-reversed romances and behaves accordingly with Aiden, and she struggles majorly with genital dysphoria. Seeing Evie being so open with her GNC appearance and behaviors eventually inspires him to step out of his comfort zone and start trying out some GNC styles himself, such as crop tops, short shorts, and dresses.

🏈 Evie has done basketball ever since she was 4, and football ever since late middle school. Berry High was her first time getting into baseball. Though even for basketball, she'd never been on an official team for any of those sports until Berry. But she also greatly enjoys running and has done track-and-field in her freshman year. She had wanted to join football back then, but was a lot more unsure about it. Even in Berry she was a bit unsure, but seeing how welcoming Julian and Caleb were and encouraging her to join made her feel more confident about it.

🫂 Of the people she's met during her time at Berry, she's closest to Emma Hawkins, Jade Ali, Caleb Michell, Michael Harrison, Maria Flores, Caleb Mitchell, Cher Lee (my HSS:CA f!MC) and Bear Lee (her twin), Sakura Watanabe, Julian Castillo, Cameron Levy, Kieran Hale, Frank Walter, Koh Sunya, Myra Khandaar, Ajay Bhandari, Skye Crandall, and Payton Saunders. And Aiden Zhou, of course, but that goes without saying.

🎹 Evie was drawn to Aiden right when she first saw him. She didn't crush on him just yet, but she was captivated by his distinguished appearance and she would try to get to know him better at Brian's party. It wasn't until after he invited her to listen to him play piano that she officially started crushing on him and began actively pursuing him.

👫 Evie was drawn to Aiden for a couple of reasons. There's the fact that he was kind and she found him attractive as all hell, of course. But the big one for her is that she could see a lot of herself in him. He was reserved, shy, insecure, and socially awkward, and she could relate to that. But he was also passionate and dedicated to his craft, and seeing that inspired her to do better at her own interests and passions.

😬 Knowing the story of her parents' backstory has made Evie a little bit cautious about her own relationships; she'd always want to make sure that her partner was 100% comfortable with her and that she wasn't forcing them into doing anything they didn't want to do. This especially shows as she gets into a relationship with Aiden, a normally reserved guy who starts to step out of his comfort zone more often while dating her. She always kept it mostly friendly with him, but would start to express more romantic gestures and feelings when she learned for sure that he liked her. Her insecurity would be a point of contention between them later on in their relationship, but eventually they'd be able to work it out together.

🏀 Evie was very infuriated by Band and Cheer siding against Basketball. Although she sympathized with them on how Isa was treating them unfairly, she despised that they were primarily going after the team over it. It pissed her off even more when Aiden seemed to defend it and even agreed with Mia that the team was "like a second Isa". For a while she'd contemplated whether or not to bring it up, but seeing how everyone did seem to acknowledge they were caught up in their stress, she figured it'd be okay to let it go. Though she and Aiden would eventually discuss it later.

🎤 Evie has mixed feelings on her singing skills. She's not amazing, but she can carry a tune well enough. Sometimes she sings karaoke with no one else and likes how it sounds, other times she isn't so confident about it. But she does seem to be a little less nervous about it when singing with a partner, as discovered by her karaoke with Aiden at Brian's party. Eventually her singing skills will improve as Evie-Aiden duets almost certainly become a regular thing.

👑 Evie ended up winning Homecoming Queen, Payton's Guest of Honor, and Prom Queen. Hoco and Prom titles were never something she really cared about, but she still felt honored to win them.

🎭 Evie has always loved imaginary play-pretend games as a kid and thus does take a little bit of interest in theatre, and would feel ready to try it out by the start of HSS:CA. She was cast as the princess for one part of auditions, but her role of preference was the Knight. However, Danielle's sabotage causing her to break her leg would leave her very distraught, as she was missing out on both football and on theatre that quarter.

Miscellaneous Personality Trivia

💜 Evie's favorite colors include purples, powder pinks, and mint greens.

🎵 Evie can't play an instrument to save her life. She'd taken a few lessons as a kid once, but it did not work out. Aiden does think she might have a secret talent for percussion, though.

💞 Besides Aiden, Evie has also felt attraction for Michael Harrison, Maria Flores, Julian Castillo, and Kieran Hale. None nearly as strongly as Aiden, though. But later on in life, Aiden and Evie may agree to an open marriage and occasionally swing with Michael and Maria.

🏳️‍🌈 Evie is bi with a huge preference for guys. She first realized she wasn't straight around the end of 7th grade and knew for sure she was bi in 9th grade. However there was a lot of confusion for her in figuring this out because of her heavy preference for men, and stigmas that bi women with a male preference "aren't queer enough" or "just looking for attention". In fact, she didn't even have her first actual girl-crush until she met Maria. But soon enough, she was able to come to terms with the fact that her preference for men doesn't make her any less bi.

📝 Evie loves creative writing and has done it since she was a kid. This is in part motivated by the fact that she dislikes most of the romance/erotic stories genre. While she has nothing against those who do like them, and there are some movies that she can still enjoy even with a normative main romance, she still has a bit of contempt for the genre because of how pretty much none of them cater to more role-reversed romance fantasies. So she’s always felt pretty alienated in the genre, and has considered a career as an author so she can publish stories with GNC romance.

✈️ Evie has a bit of an attachment to vehicles like trains and airplanes and gets a bit excited about going on them. A lot of the time, Scott would let her help him out with his model train displays.

⭐ Evie loves cute and pretty stuff. Heart shapes, star shapes, flowers and flower shapes, butterflies, smiley faces, cats, glittery/shiny/sparkly/shimmery things, squeaky things, etc. You can rip that stuff from her cold, dead hands.

🌸 Evie adores scented products and has a huge collection of lotions, gel bead freshners, soaps, and other bath/home/care products that have scents she loves. Her favorite scents include eucalyptus, lavender, mint, cherry, and powder.

🎶 Even though Evie can't play a musical instrument for shit and a lot of the musical terminology Aiden uses is utter nonsense to her, she's quite the enthusiast for good songs and soundtracks. The Incredibles, The Matrix, Super Mario Galaxy, James Bond, and many more. She excitedly raves to Aiden about her favorite soundtracks from movies, video games, TV shows, etc. Often she'll even recommend a show or movie to him partly on the basis of it having a bomb-ass soundtrack, and almost 100% of the time he will enjoy it and they'll rave about the best parts of the soundtrack together.

📸 Evie puts great value on having hard physical records of memories, much unlike her boyfriend who prefers to remember things through music. Sometimes she does like to maintain memories through associations, but out of the fear of the possibility that she could forget certain good or important memories, she always tries to keep photos, notes/journal entries, or any other form of direct record.

☕ Evie does not like coffee. It smells nice, but the taste is awful to her. She much prefers tea (especially Earl Grey and mint teas), hot cocoa, and warm apple cider.

🌶️ Evie loathes spicy food. Hot peppers, spicy-flavored chips, heck, even a lot of South Asian/Indian dishes. She hates the taste and doesn't understand the appeal at all.

Other Profile Pieces

Original Intro Profile from OCtober 2023

CFWC's MC of the Month, March 2024

Bubble Chart Profile

More in-depth on Evie's parental backstory

MC Wardrobes

OG HSS Book 1 (Part 1)

OG HSS Book 1 (Part 2)

OG HSS Book 2

OG HSS Book 3

HSS:CA

Bonus Round 1: OG HSS Accessories and Bonus Outfits (Part 1)

[More Bonus Rounds coming soon]

Bonus Meta Fun Facts:

In my first HSS playthrough, I named my MC "Cady Heron" after the character from "Mean Girls", which I personally consider to be one of my most favorite high school movies of all time. By my second playthrough, I changed it to "Evie Ayana" to make the character more personalized.

My username "cadybear420" comes from hearing Scott call my MC "Cady-bear" all the time in that first playthrough. Plus 420 added on because weed number funny.

Evie, "Cady" at the time, originally started out having the wavy blonde hairstyle. But when I got to Book 2, I changed it to the short brown hairstyle. But I do like to headcanon she did have long bleached hair at the start of her freshman year in high school.

Prior to making this profile, 3 out of my total of 7 playthroughs took Evie on some greatly alternative routes. Two where Evie romanced Michael; one where Evie did band and was good at it; and one where Evie sucked at raising school spirit, was a jerk to the Hearst kids, and led on Emma so she could ask Aiden to homecoming.

My headcanons for her story during the HSS:CA timeline are currently tentative. Not only because it's been a while since I last played the trilogy, but also because I might change up a lot of the canon for my headcanons. We'll see.

[dwellordream]

“…Francesco’s account reveals that he had some understanding of Islam, but what he says is also at times incorrect and insulting. Towards the end of this work, he includes a section called The Contrasts, where he sets out to explain what made Muslims different from European Christians. This really is only one person’s views, one that is shaped by his own religious faith and that he was an outsider living in the Middle East. Here is what he writes:

When they pray they turn to the South towards the Tomb of Mohammed while we turn to the East and the Jews to the West.

In reality, Muslims pray toward Mecca, while Jewish people would have prayed in the direction of Jerusalem.

The men do housework and carry water and weave, and the women do the trading.

The women carry burdens on their shoulders and the men on their heads.

The men eat seated, the women standing.

Fathers are bound to feed their daughters but not their sons; and more the bastard than the legitimate.

These four points, and others further on, reveal much about what Francesco really thinks is different and wrong with Arabic people – to him they are too feminine, and women are given roles and rights that should only be reserved for men.

The barbers when at work sit and the clients stand.

They drink all day except when they eat.

They continually wash their hands, and their hands are always dirty.

This seems to be a reference to the Islamic practice of washing one’s face, hands, arms, and feet before prayers.

The women wear only one dress, the men wear three or four.

We take off our headgear in sign of respect, they take off their shoes.

The women wear trousers, and the men go without them.

In Lent we eat during the day and they fast during the day and eat like beasts all night.

This refers to Ramadan, a month-long celebration for Muslims where they fast during the day and will have feasts after sunset.

We address a letter when it is written, they begin with the address.

We urinate standing, they squatting as females.

We like dogs, they cats.

Having pets was common in the medieval world, and while the reputation of dogs and cats vary in different parts of the world, in neither culture it was universally so.

We drink wine, they water.

We are guided by the sun, they by the moon.

This is probably a reference to how the European calendar was solar-based, but the Islamic one is lunar-based.

We eat from on high, they from the ground.

We sleep undressed, they, men and women, dressed.

We value horses, they mares.

We girdle ourselves over the clothes, they under.

They write from right to left, we the reverse.

They wear linen, we wear wool.

Francesco does not take into account the differences in climate between Europe and the Middle East.

They sell chickens by measure, and fruits and vegetables they sell by weight on the balance.

They carry to market birds in a sack and figs in a cage.

We despise imbeciles and they revere them as saints.

Perhaps Francesco is referring to Sufi practitioners, who follow a more mystical path of Islam. Moreover, he seems to be oblivious to how his own Franciscan order was derided by many of his fellow Christians.

Slaves with us are servants, with them lords.

Later on Francesco has to make a detailed explanation of who the Mamluks were, and offers a less-than-accurate history of their rise to power in Egypt and Syria. Many enemies of the Mamluks often disparaged their origins as slaves.

Men give dowry to the wives, and we do the opposite.

Francesco also offers more details on this, finding this way more “just, reasonable and proper’ then the Italian practice where the parents of the bride had to offer a dowry to obtain a marriage. He explains why: “First, it would be a means whereby many poor girls could marry, who through poverty cannot marry, and so remain single in danger of sin and cause sin to others.”

We repudiate the wife, they the husband.

His sister also wanted to know about how wives can repudiate their husbands, by which he means they divorce their husbands, and Francesco responds by explaining this can happen in cases of abuse, neglect or abandonment. Divorce was actually fairly common in medieval Egypt, and both men and women could initiate it.

Men go barefooted, the women wear light shoes.

The men are beautiful; the women are most ugly and small.

The men wear clothes cut low, the women cut close to the neck.

The men wear a veil on the head, the women a cap.

The men never spit, the women do.

The men like cats, the women dogs.

Francesco sums it up by concluding “if they could they would walk backwards just to be different from us.”

Francesco’s list is very surprising – one would expect that this Franciscan friar would write about religious differences – instead, it is often just about daily life and trivial topics. However, there is often an underlying view that traditional gender roles were not being followed by medieval Muslims. More than a dozen of his contrasts involve women doing or wearing something that goes against what he thinks should be the proper way as found in Francesco’s homeland.

Not everything that Francesco finds to be different is to him a bad thing, and his view of Muslims isn’t always negative (at times he is far more critical of other Christian sects that lived in the region). But it is telling that he views the differences as somehow being in opposition to his own culture, as if it was somehow planned to be that way. One wonders how perplexed Francesco would have been if his travels took him to more distant lands and cultures.

This list is perhaps even more revealing in how much it shows the differences between medieval people and us. Francesco Suriano would see our modern-day lifestyles and habits as being very much ‘the other’, critiquing the way we dressed, ate, and slept. Who knows how upset he might become to learn that some people had pet fish!”

- Peter Konieczny, “The Differences between Christians and Muslims in the Middle Ages”

[starfire-s]

Hi I'm a long time follower it's not my first time writing to you and I'm not sure if I have the right but I just want to say that I am so proud of you and how far you've come. These past few years especially this last one has not been easy for you but you've persisted and you've made it through your education, you've had to deal with some unfortunate people in your personal and professional life and here you are. You've made it. Thank you for sharing a part of your life you are an amazing person and I feel lucky to be following along on this journey. I am not religious but it brings me a sort of peace to know you have reconnected with yours. Again I am probably not within my right to make comments about that but you've come so far and in spite of all you've suffered you've made it through and you are still here. ♡

Hopefully my words won't make you feel uncomfortable in continuing to share a bit of your life I would love to follow along as long as you allow.

hi anon!! thank you so much for this message and thank you for being proud of me. i am also grateful to have come so far… i honestly never thought i’d be able to start healing and moving forward.

i always say this to all my family and friends but reconnecting with Allah and islam was the best thing to happen to me. i never would’ve found Allah again if i didn’t go through what i did. in my worst time, i only had Allah and he is the reason i am still here and moving forward, despite the obstacles.

as for my life, idk if i have given everyone the update but i am still married due to some legal reasons. however, i have not seen my husband since november last year. i had to write to him as part of my divorce application and i told him that i hope he finds some peace too, and i truly hope he does. despite what he did to me, i don’t hate him but i do pity him sometimes that he can’t make his own choices for himself. i know usually in divorces you have to hate the other person which is very true for my husband because he hates me but i think me being able to say i dont hate him also shows that i am healing and i am neutral about him now.

i am now looking forward to seeing what life has in store for me… i always believe that after all this Allah has written something good for me and i will be at peace.

[questionsonislam]

How can a woman get "Khula" (divorcement)?

If a woman wants to divorce, it is necessary that her husband give her the right to divorce. If a married woman wants to divorce and her husband does not divorce her, the families can choose an arbitration committee and the divorce can be realized.

A woman is religiously the wife of the man whom she performed a marriage; therefore she cannot marry anybody else unless her husband divorces her.

The things that can be done in such a situation is to make the man divorce the woman or to divorce them through an arbitration committee.

In a situation like that, it is not right for the man not to insist on not divorcing the woman only in order to harm her. (al-Baqara, 2/231).

Therefore, in a situation like that, a respectable, wise, virtuous scholar should go and talk to the man as a mediator and tell him that he should end a marriage that does not benefit him at all, that the religious marriage cannot be used to satisfy oneself by harming the woman and that it is contrary to Islam; he should persuade the man to divorce the woman.

If the man insists on not divorcing, the families of the woman and man choose an arbiter each because they cannot apply to the court since there is not an official marriage. If one of the families does not agree to choose an arbiter, the other family can choose a just and impartial arbiter for them.

The arbiters try to arbitrate first. If there is a real necessity, they can decide to divorce the man and the woman even if the spouses do not consent.

After a divorce like that takes place and the waiting period for the woman ends, the woman can marry again.

In order to prevent such incidents from happening, it is necessary to perform official marriage contracts and have a legal assurance. The young people or their families who say that they are religious people may deny the contracts they have made among themselves when there is no official recording and one of the parties, usually the woman, faces a difficult situation.

Thus, let alone realizing the high aim that our religion assumes out of the marriage, people try to oppress one another using the religion.

[vaderatemydog]

I just feel like writing and venting a bit. Whoever reads it, gets a quick reflection of my brain at night as things have been building up for awhile. I’ll ask a question, but at the end of the day what matters? You can argue that the day is over and tomorrow will be redundant, a different but likely similar flavor; life goes on… Or you can argue that life has a very distinct purpose and actions, thoughts, words spoken, and prayers played a role in what transpired throughout the entirety of the day. So many people get into this momentum where they are feeding on progression in some area of their life and that is what brings them through life. Whether they are growing in many areas of their lives or whether they have plateaued and are bit stagnant, there needs to be an ultimate destination. It’s the central objective for success. “Being busy” or “Having a family/relationship” Isn’t the destination. That’s why there are broken families and an out of control divorce rate. There are people rushing through life, rushing through relationships, rushing to family life, rushing to college, rushing to a career but as they reach these checkpoints in life, they are fun, new, and exciting, but then the air becomes stale, people spiral back into their weirdness and discontent. You’re probably wondering to yourself, maybe speculating that I was going to bring up religion.. Yes I will, religion is a checkpoint, not the destination. Religion is a horrible word for one that I resent and detest. It’s just used by ignorant and unbelieving people. Ever “religion” has a very real spiritual background that is full of truth. Regardless of your personal religion that you’ve either grown up in or have chosen to follow, you’re likely left with questions unanswered. I would argue that you take a handful of the common religions and do a breakdown analysis of each of them. If you’re requiring some closure in leaving a specific religion or in need of some reasoning behind the religions, do the analysis. Even if you’re already participating in a religion, don’t expect that it has all the answers because none of them do. In fact they always have a hidden agenda and they always have missing destinations. I consider paganism, wicca, satanism, Catholism, Buddhism, Islam some of the more popular ones. They all have their own unique themes and guiding light. And they all have some truth. But if they aren’t instructing you about your destination, then they aren’t leading you in the best direction in your life. We need to consciously be guarded from the world, yet focused on our destination. There are tons of distractions and tons of misinformation out there. When we take all of the religions and bodies of education we are surrounded by, there are tons of false profits and bad teachers, shallow priests, teachers, and poor guides that will attempt to lead you and direct your attention. Question it all.

The best things in this life fade and the comfort we have can be stripped at any time. Be prepared to know who you are, present yourself to the world, guard yourself from evil, and surround yourself with what is right. I hyper focused on a lot of the “right things” but they hijacked my projection; they set me off on a hidden goose track. Find that center where you can align yourself with goodness and love and get as many careers and enjoyment through life, but don’t forget that you have a destination and that your life matters here on earth so treat others with respect, love your enemy, allow your soul to be sculpted, shifted, and melted to the highest degree, find the error in religion. Keep rocking!

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[living-for-jesus-and-telenovelas]

I normally don’t do this online. But I felt led to share this to you now.

I have a story to share. My story. My testimony of what God has done for me.

I was born at 24 weeks and 3-4 days and wasn’t given much chance to live. I only weighed a pound and 5 ounces then. I wasn’t supposed to live, but God, my God, said otherwise. He saved me so many times, from sickness and death while I was in the hospital for 90 days. He literally brought me back from the dead. He kept me from harm throughout every surgery, every setback even after I got home. And praise Him, I’m here today to tell you this story. I can’t take the credit for surviving or for anything because it wasn’t me. None of it was me. That’s how I know He exists. Because if God didn’t exist, I wouldn’t be here. It wasn’t me at all, it was Him.

Now my parents divorced when I was 3 months old or so. So I grew up in a split home. My mom had majority custody of me, and I saw my dad on every other weekend and on Wednesdays. You can say I grew up nominally Christian. My mom said we were Baptist, but I grew up going to a Methodist church with my dad, but half paid attention. My mom on the other hand, rarely ever talked about God, so it was never really enforced in the home. The only time she ever did was to tell me that God would “get me” if I acted up and “God doesn’t like ugly.”

So I guess you can say I grew up like a normal kid, but early on in my teenage years was when things started really going downhill. I didn’t know at that time about guarding my ears and my eyes, of really being intentional of what I read or watched or listened to. I grew up on country music, loved Harry Potter and witches and vampires and watched so many things I shouldn’t have. What I didn’t realize was that what I was doing was giving myself a free pass for the devil. And all of that slowly began to poison me and demons entered my life.

I started indulging in sexual sin, masturbation, pornography, both written and watched, and homosexuality. I thought I was gay for years. I know now that those are all very grievous evil sins, but I didn’t care at the time. And I went all through middle and high school thinking that way, suffering anxiety and so many other demonic things. Now on and off I would turn back to faith, any kind of faith really, I even considered Islam, but it never lasted long. I even had a “relationship” with a girl in middle school and another in high school.

It wasn’t until I graduated and started tutoring Spanish speakers to help them with their English that I felt God tugging me back to Him so gently and lovingly. One of the guys I tutored, Sam, who’s now my boyfriend- (and God willing,) my husband one day, gently started telling me things about God and the Bible again. Now by then I thought I was catholic, so I told him that, but he just gently kept telling me things about the Bible. What I didn’t know then was that my heart was being softened little by little. God Himself was using Sam to chip away those broken pieces of my stubborn heart, and as I like to call my sin, “my stupid.”

It was one night though that completely changed my life. One night I told Sam I wanted to be happy just like him, to experience the joy he had in Jesus. I asked Jesus into my heart that night, but that’s not the end of my story.

I still willfully practiced sin. I still had that sexual sin hanging over me, and I gave in to it. I gave into it for so long, and it was only in 2023 that I really started to get serious about my faith and turn away from the masturbation and porn. (Written by then.) I had panic attacks then, anxiety too, and I know that was the devil. Because God does not give us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind. He graciously got me through that, and held my hand through everything, and He still does.

I will admit this though. I’m not perfect, I still sin. I still mess up and fall short of God’s glory. I’ll be open and transparent here. I’ve lied, stolen, been prideful, blatantly disobedient, violent towards my parents, judgmental of others, hateful, unforgiving and unloving, I’ve broken almost every commandment there is except murder including idolatry. I’m deserving of hell, of eternal separation from God. But Jesus, just like He said when I was born, said “This isn’t the end of the story.”

He was nailed to a Cross for me. He died for me and wiped every sin I’ve ever had and will have . And He rose from the dead 3 days later for me, defeating death. And that’s for everyone, even you. And how do I know? Because He saved me when I didn’t deserve saving. And if He can save a wretch like me, a big sinner, and make me a part of His family and love me so much that He was willing to die for me, then he can absolutely do the same thing for you. So today, if you haven’t accepted Jesus as your personal Savior, or maybe you have, and you just haven’t been living for Him, know this.

We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). Sin separates us from God (Isaiah 59:2), and the wages of sin is death—eternal separation from Him (Romans 6:23). But God, in His incredible love, sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for our sins. Jesus, who was without sin, took our place on the cross, bearing the punishment we deserved. On the third day, He rose from the dead, proving His victory over sin and death (1 Corinthians 15:3-4).

Through Jesus, we can be forgiven, made new, and receive eternal life (John 3:16). But salvation doesn’t stop there. He also promised to send the Holy Spirit to empower us to live victorious, Spirit-filled lives (Acts 1:8). When we repent, turn from our sins, and put our faith in Jesus, we not only receive forgiveness but also the baptism of the Holy Spirit, giving us power to be witnesses, overcome sin, and live a life that glorifies God (Acts 2:38-39).

This is the good news:

1. Repent: Turn away from your sins and surrender fully to God (Acts 3:19).

2. Believe: Trust in Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord, believing in His death and resurrection (Romans 10:9-10).

3. Receive: Ask Jesus to fill you with the Holy Spirit, who will empower you to walk in holiness, operate in spiritual gifts, and fulfill His purpose for your life (Acts 2:4).

God desires to have a relationship with you and fill you with His presence. He loves you so much that He is not willing for anyone to perish but for everyone to come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). But the time to respond is now, because the day will come when the door of grace will close.

If you’re ready, pray and ask Jesus into your heart. Let Him forgive your sins, write your name in the Book of Life (Revelation 20:15), and fill you with the Holy Spirit. He’s waiting for you with open arms to lead you into a life of power, purpose, and eternal hope.

And if you’re ready and willing to let Jesus be the Lord of your life, please feel free to pray this prayer.

“Dear Lord Jesus, thank You for loving me. Thank You for dying on the Cross for my sins. Lord, I am a sinner, please forgive me. I invite You into my heart, and I invite You into my life. I give my life to You. Help me to read my Bible, to pray, and show up for church, and get baptized. I love You Jesus, teach me to love You more. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.”

If you sincerely believe, and you prayed that prayer, congratulations, you’re now a part of God’s family! But remember this, even though you’ve invited Jesus in to your heart, doesn’t mean it’s all going to be sunshine and rainbows, as much as we want it to be. We’ll still have problems and struggles. And if Jesus struggled in this life, then we will too. Jesus was a Man acquainted with grief and suffering. He understands our struggles and wants to help us with them. It’s why He did what He did for us!

And if you don’t have a physical Bible and want to learn more about Him, please follow this link! I encourage you to find a church too. We need that fellowship. Ask family, ask friends to help you find a church. But most importantly, ask God to help, He will do it. You need to trust in that and in Him, always.

I pray that this reaches whoever it needs to, and if you want to, we can start a testimony chain here. May God bless everyone who reads this! 🥰