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The Caraval universe would be better if it was more gay. Thank you for your time
#caraval#caraval scarlett#caraval series#caraval tella#ouabh#ouabh series#jacks of the hollow#scarlett and julian#julian santos#donatella dragna#scarlett dragna#evajacks#scarlett x julian#tella dragna#tellalegend#tella x legend#Everytime I reread and Legend says “good thing he doesn't like girls that way” about Caspar I scream#I like to think he's maybe aroace?#But 100% gay confirmed I love it#He is seen flirting with a guy at one point but honestly Caraval goes hard it's hard to tell if it's for the game or real#personal headcanon#Jacks gives huge bi energy#You're telling me he's lived for hundreds(?) of years as an immortal and hasn't experimented a bit??#Also Tella#Come on#Look at her#Shes bi and I will not be convinced otherwise#Please give me more suggestions#Make it gayer
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i hate a “i’m gayer than you” bitch
especially if you’re also bisexual. and especially if we’re both dating men. you don’t have to put me down just because you feel insecure that you’re marrying a man.
“i was basically a lesbian before i met my male partner”
cool and i had never been with anyone, male or female, perpetually single, but i was looking for a girlfriend because i had only recently figured out my own sexuality before i met my partner. maybe you’ve slept with more women than i have but 1. i doubt it (considering what you’ve told me and how much younger you are than me/how long you and your partner have been together) and 2. we are still both bisexual and currently dating men???? don’t talk about how you’re gayer than me bitch you’re not even currently dating a woman i don’t care if you’re 90/10 percentage wise. also, your man is straight, versus mine who is bisexual. so technically, my relationship is gayer than yours.
but like, why are we comparing in the first place?? because you feel insecure??
i recognize that i’m fat AND femme but that’s my own gender expression that makes me feel good about myself. what i wear or look like doesn’t determine whether or not i’m gay. just like you bitch.
#also i dress maximalist which i DO think makes me look gayer but whatever.#she also talks about how she doesn’t show any affection to her male partner in public so people assume they aren’t dating which is…a choice#idk i feel weird about this new friend right now#she is putting on a show soon and she was talking about how she only wanted lesbians to be in her show (which i get)#but then said she wanted to get this one girl who is also bisexual to be in it#and i was just like ???? but not me??? i guess???#she has never expressed any interest in me being in the show.#(but she did express interest in my partner being in the show. idk i feel weird. maybe not me because i’m fat but idk)#idk if it’s because she thinks i’m secretly straight or what but jesus christ i am tired of people acting like i’m Not Gay Enough#my bisexuality is just as valid as yours#even if she was dating a woman my bisexuality would be valid#just don’t act like you’re better than me when you’re also dating a man lmao#idk it’s giving I Hate Myself And I Hate Men But I Am Marrying A Man So Let Me Act Like You’re Not As Gay As Me Even Though We’re The Same#sorry that i actually express my love for my partner like a normal person???? that doesn’t make me Straight#my post
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Let's say chocolate is a metaphor for traditional relationships that happen to appear good but are too sickly sweet for Sanji to handle and after WCI he ends up not liking chocolate. At least for a while. He needs to move on from what happened first. But he wants to force himself to like it because he should like chocolate. It is one of the most basic ingredients when making sweets and it is also everywhere.
So what if it makes him want to throw up? What if his stomach betrays him when cooking? What if he needs to stop every two seconds to breathe because his lungs don't work properly when he smells chocolate? He will keep trying and trying to make it work. Everybody loves chocolate, after all, he should too.
But then, one day, Usopp sees everything he has around the kitchen. Like. That's an awful lot of sweets and a disgusting amount of chocolate and he doesn't seem like he has slept in a week. So of course he is concerned. "Why- What's all of this about, Sanji?" He tries to hide his nervousness with a laugh.
Sanji grips the counter tighter. So much his knuckles turn white. "I- I don't know. I guess I was just. In the mood for chocolate." But he doesn't sound sure at all. In fact, he looks like he's about to cry.
"Well." He looks around the room without wanting to touch anything but approaching Sanji a bit to check on him. "Luffy can have all of my portions because I kind of... Not like chocolate?"
"You don't- You don't like chocolate?"
"No? Too sweet. I actually pretty much hate it? The smell already makes me ill."
"Me too."
"You what?"
"I think I don't- I don't think I like chocolate anymore. Is that- I don't know if I ever did. Is that alright?"
"Why wouldn't it be alright, Sanji? It's just chocolate. Nobody can force you to eat it. Or cook it if you really don't want to."
And Sanji realizes that maybe... Maybe it is alright for him to not want chocolate, and a wave of relief takes over him for a solid second.
#sometimes i think about sanji and his internalized homophobia#he's a bit too much like me it's scary-- anyway#i don't like chocolate that much either like. talking literally here#so maybe sanji looks a little gayer and less bi in this post but have you considered that i needed to make it like this bc i'm projecting#i have no idea where i wanted to go with this. chocolate in theory are like. just the concept of traditional m/f relationships#but it ended up looking more like girls in general and look. look. maybe. maybe it's okay for sanji to be a little gay in this one#usopp has absolutely no idea what's going on but he just knows sanji is very very fucked up and needs help rn#also something something usopp doesn't like chocolate and sanji forces himself to like it until he realizes he doesn't have to#idk i don't think he hates chocolate in this one maybe he just needs a little more time to like. eat chocolate#what the fuck am i saying this doesn't make any sense i just woke up i am so sorry#black leg sanji#usopp#sanuso#one piece#whole cake island
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i made a bly manor reference today while volunteering for the local park garden and the girl who had her hands in the dirt with me all morning not only laughed but spent the rest of our time there in close proximity. gay girls, we're truly everywhere.
#i was Getting the signs throughout our chit chat but still unsure#until at some point she flirted by asking me if i was going to volunteer again anytime soon yet neither of us exchanged contacts#what's gayer than not doing anything#that was just a nice silly encounter but it's funny how i'm always running into girls (online as well) who are just like me in this aspect#(too shy to make the first move)
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Hi!!! should I watch Lost since it’s on Netflix or is it like your SPN show? thanks!
MY show? 😭😭😭😭😭 pls girl don’t start with me
okay so i enjoyed and had a great time watching lost. lost gave me characters like desmond hume and juliet burke. hello… here is what i would say:
lost = good show sometimes plagued with bad writing with an audience too fucking stupid to understand it…ugh
spn = bad show where there was *sometimes* some *completely fucking accidental* good writing with an audience simultaneously too smart and way too fucking stupid for it. usually too stupid. it’s fucking bad okay!
#like they literally had to make castiel as in love with dean because they actually wrote him that way and had NO other fucking possible arc#for his character after a certain point#like they never fucking intended that! at all! they just kept accidentally writing him gayer and gayer#and then because they had no choice but to commit#they killed him 2 seconds after he confessed his feelings. LMAO#honestly. it’s incredible#anyway imo lost is good and makes me wish we were back in the era where#1) tv was good#2) we got weekly episodes#3) shows had surprises! suspense! writers who took risks!#4) writing that relies on the intelligence of the audience (like brba and bcs) lol - lost writers assumed ppl were a lil smarter than they#actually are but it’s ok#like. they TRIED.#5) complex and morally grey characters#6) it has desmond hume. my crazy manic pixie dream girl…what more could u want#lost
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truly nothing like the girl i had a crush on in college (and in two separate conversations i suspected it might be mutual) posting from the beaches concert that leandra is an icon and also i found out s few days ago she and her bf just broke up
#what do i DO#in case it's not clear talking about leandra means she is in fact bi this is akin to drunk girl from party posting about chappell#(gayer actually bc everyone's loving chappel now)#the answer is that i like the leandra post and do nothing else and i wait longer than i did w my ex after her breakup#(though i was still waiting she's the one who started things) but regardless. going insane here !!!!!!#shes a tattoo artist now and she did one of mine and i had some completely unfounded hopes for that day until i found out about the bf#but now that it's over...............#vie#fuck it her name is dani her tattoo account is dose.of.dot#wait i actually am coincidentally about to make the slightest move bc my next ig post of my scrapbooking style photo dump catch up includes#the day i got the tattoo and i'll be tagging her#open to ideas to makey caption the slightest bit flirty somehow?? probably wont do it#it was going to be 'november 2022: new tattoo by @dose.of.dot 🖤 and uoft engineering tour with matt (he starts this fall!'#i was deciding between the heart and 🌿 bc the tattoo is literally that but the black heart is kind of her thing#wait. i just went on her ig again and we have the same favourite emoji it seems bc she has her name as Dani✨ and i changed mine bc i was#annoyed that john associated it w me but mine used to be sierra✨#........i think im gonna change it back it's not obvious enough that she'd think it's weird right? it literally used to be that for ages#im doing it#ok i did it and i'll make the post tomorrow and that's all
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FAI ITS SOUP
I know u don't do shipping and don't really have headcanons for Donnie's love life (aside from him being a bottm lmao which is just canon) BUT I just wanted to task if u have any ideas for a Timatello version I'm doing? :')
U can have none too, that's ok, i just enjoy screaming at u
Things both soup and Angel enjoy doing:
-screaming at me
Uhhh besides them both being bottoms I can't think of much? I can see Timothy trying to top and being extremely cringe about it. They probably take turns.
But considering how a lot of Timothys are also pretty smart, and with Donnie being a theater kid he'd sing this-
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Complete with belting out "I AM FILLED WITH CALCU-LUST."
#if i think of anything else i'll let you know!#coincidentally this song made me realize i was much gayer than i thought in high school#me: who would ever think sweaty guys are hot? god they're so gross and stinky#me now: oh#also donnie and leo are both obsessed with the mean girls musical i don't make the rules#donnie usually sings regina's parts but this song was practically made for him#see gay ships work for donnie because usually you need a red gay and a blue gay#but donnie is both so he can go for whoever
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Mean Girls 2023 I love you I may be the only one on the internet that does but I love you wholeheartedly
#the best cinema experience i ever had#auli'i cravalho as janis is the best thing that happened to me in march i love her sm#everybody else was also so so so so good but i'd rather be me makes me cry every time i think about it#i'd rather be me and revenge party scenes looked so good i wished i was there like that defined musical theatre (on the big screen) for me#mean girls#i am also strategically ignoring the costumes bc they're a mess but once i move past them this is easily one of my favorite movies of 2024#BUT THEY MADE IT GAYER SO IT EVENS OUT#they also kept Aaron (AND HE DIDN'T EVEN SING) so maybe it doesn't even out#sorry i keep forgetting about him and then remembering THAT HE DIDN'T EVEN SING and i cant lol#like this is horrible but also genuinely funny and kinda iconic of his actor. but i cant say that or pinterest will flood me with#pictures of him. again#.
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Got my nose pierced today and I was a little bitch about it. Went through with it though.
#pierced#girls with piercings#that shit hurted#does that make me a brave boi :)#personal#lol#I think I look even gayer now >:]
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Here is bunch of pictures of Shusei Iizuka from Chibi Vampire… i kid u not only 2 pictures of him come up on google even if u click around. idk if this will change that but… trust.. or something….
oh also i couldve included more but i wanted most of them to be him being gay with this other loser detective… they had something going on .
#this guy sucks SOOO BAD UTS SO FUNNY#this is from some rando manga site so the translation is umm!! kinda wack#he is NOT a plumber!!! u sick liars!#also idk if the single translation is right. but if it is. its an even gayer statement for this detective to make#because um! he’s NOT single#he was with his new girl 2 seconds before this!!! this detective just saying he’s single cuz he wwants to get with himmm#chibi vampire is my spin and it drives me cray how theres like nothinv abt this loser of an absent dad anywhere…..#chibi vampire#shusei iizuka#kenta usui
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i said i’d leave her on opened …. i lied 🤡🤡🤡
#personal posting#don’t worry guys i left her on delivered for almost two weeks 😻 and i’m sure she’ll leave me on delivered for another 2 weeks too dont fret#i’ve moved on to greener and gayer pastures!!! i’m talking to a girl who actually gives a fuck about me!!!!#but yes i’m still lowkey obsessed with her but in the i think about her thinking aboht me sense. i want her to be obsessed with me so i can#ignore her 😻😻 i hope she saw me making out with ****** that one night at the bar. i hope she thinks about it a lot
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Op i see your vision. Op you're extremely correct actually. Spiritually 20/20 vision actually
Goodnight I think an extremely underutilized trope in the svsss fan base is Luo Binghe’s ability to shape shift/disguise himself.
Can you imagine the original Bingge pretending to be a human to gather intel or get close to a woman without calling attention to himself, and he's just chatting with townspeople, trying to be # relatable to earn their trust. Imagine Luo binghe in a bar saying "that Luo binghe guy, huh? He really made a mess of things, merging the realms like that-" and someone goes "UMMMM IN HIS DEFENCE-"
Imagine some random guy (transmigrated shen yuan) giving him an essay length yap session about how binghe is so inspirational and cool and actually he should have castrated shen qingqiu too!
Bingge pretending to be some cute didi and "bumping into" shen yuan all the time to hear more praise about himself without shen yuan knowing he's saying it all to him directly... oughhhhh do you guys see my vision
#svsss#luo binghe#shen yuan#scum villain au#scum villain#shen qingqiu#bingge#binggeyuan#bingyuan#the way i would giggle at these morons in a fic about this like a 10 yr old girl making bratz dolls kiss#im not speaking from personal experience i made hated my bratz dolls and treated them so badly but you understand what i mean#those poor women just need to be gayer and then i couldve made them kiss and we all wouldve been happy#listen the point is: bingge discovering his praise kink like this is wildly entertaining to me
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got to hear a trans girl laugh tonight. negative 15 casualties, and 60 people healed.
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i miss autumn SO MUCH !!!! the way the leaves turn n the air smells like fog and a slow piano song. i miss walking around in my favorite spots and watching the skies turn so orange that the trees blend into the horizon. i miss autumn:(
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Favour for a Friend (Sirius Black x Reader) - Part 1
This came to me in a dream and I had to write it down! I've never posted any of my own works anywhere, but figured it's a short little one-shot that I may as well put out there even if no one ever reads it! If I feel inspired I might turn this into a proper fic, but idk yet.
Pairing: Sirius Black x Female!Reader (No use of Y/N)
A/N: set at Hogwarts, fake dating trope
Warnings: Swearing, Sirius isn't gay (even though Wolfstar is obviously canon lol)
Word count: 1401
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Barely catching her breath enough to mutter the password, the Gryffindor girl rushed into the common room, all windswept hair, flushed cheeks and wide eyes. She spotted the Marauders all lounging by the fire (except Peter - he was always off snogging Dorcus in a closet these days) and made a beeline straight for them. Remus was squashed awkwardly in an armchair, a book open against his long legs where they were draped over one arm and his back resting against the other. James was sitting up on one end of the adjacent couch, his transfiguration homework in his lap, with Sirius sprawled at the other end, legs stretched out in front of him, head tipped back and eyes closed, listening to the music emanating from the record player nearby.
She felt a twinge of regret when the cosy atmosphere broke as she stormed over, her gaze flicking over each of them before settling on Sirius, who had cracked an eye open to look at her, now standing on the carpet in front of the fire.
“Black, I need you to be my boyfriend.”
James and Remus both snapped their heads up at that, and Sirius’ eyebrows rose. “Excuse me?”
“Lucas Davis just asked me out again!” The three boys in front of her seemed to let out a simultaneous groan. They were almost as sick as she was of Davis, the irritating Gryffindor two years above them who had been hellbent on wooing her for almost four months now. Unlike James, who had been smitten with Lily since they were eleven and asked her out at least once a week, Davis was aggressive - cornering her in half-empty hallways only to speak over her, invading her personal space whenever he got the chance, and making creepy sexual innuendos anytime a teacher was out of ear-shot. At this point it didn’t even seem to be about her. He just liked the chase and enjoyed making girls squirm. Even girls who hated his guts.
“Just tell him to piss off”, James suggested with a shrug
“Oh jeez, thanks James! Why didn’t I think of that?” She rolled her eyes, “I’ve told him to piss off a hundred times, in a hundred different ways! But he’s relentless- convinced I’m playing ‘hard to get’ or some bullshit like that. The only thing I think would actually get the misogynistic bastard to leave me alone is if he thinks I’m already seeing someone. So,” she said, turning again to Sirius, “can you just pretend to be my boyfriend, Black?”
“Why me? Ask Remus - you two already spend all your time together, surely dating isn’t that much of a stretch!” She shook her head impatiently, “He’s gayer than Bowie and everyone knows it!”. The boy in question huffed a laugh, “Cheers, love.” She ignored him.
“Get James to do it then!” Sirius exclaimed, and the messy-haired boy next to him opened his mouth, sitting up straighter. He probably would do it, she thought, because he would do just about anything for his friends. The noble idiot. “Oh please, you think anyone would believe that this lovesick fool has moved on from Lily?” She retorted, making a vague gesture towards James, who just grinned ruefully and relaxed back into his seat, nodding his head in agreement.
“And you think anyone would believe we are a couple?” She paused for a second, unsure of how to answer. Although she and Sirius had always been… sort of… friends, it was largely only because of her friendship with the other Marauders - mainly studying with Remus and playing quidditch with James. While they inevitably spent a lot of time together due to their mutual friends, it was true that they were at each other’s throats more often than not, she supposed. Remus was complaining just last week about their constant bickering and their incessant need to outcompete each other in every little thing.
She was saved from answering by James. “Actually, a Ravenclaw in our charms class - you know, Macmillan? - asked me if you two were dating a couple of weeks ago.”
They both turned to look at him, shocked, and he just shrugged, “he said he wanted to ask you to Hogsmeade but wanted to make sure nothing was going on between you and Sirius”. Before she could unscramble her thoughts enough to answer, Remus piped up from his armchair. “A girl in the year below asked me something similar recently. Thought she might have a shot with Sirius, but wasn’t sure. She said something about you two having ‘chemistry’ at that party after the last quidditch match.” She fought the blush that spread across her cheeks at the memory. They’d thrashed Slytherin last month and she’d gotten pretty drunk at the party in Gryffindor tower afterwards. She always got a bit flirty when she drank, and Sirius was a shameless flirt even when he was stone cold sober. They’d traded a few harmless remarks early in the night, and later, though she couldn’t really remember how it happened, she ended up dancing to some ABBA songs with her back pressed against Sirius' chest, his arms around her waist and his hot breath on her neck. It hadn’t led anywhere - in fact she had been pretending it never happened - but she still felt a burning pit in her stomach whenever she thought about the way he had felt pressed against her, or the way he had grinned and licked his lips when she turned around and they danced chest to chest.
She shook herself slightly and forced herself to look at Sirius, who was frowning at Remus. “Plus,” she said bitingly, “you’ve established a pretty solid reputation for fucking anything that moves”. Sirius scowled at her before roughly shoving himself up from the couch and strolling past her to the record player that was now sitting idle, the last track having finished. She watched his tense shoulders as he carefully selected a new record and switched them over. She softened her tone, “I’m sure Davis will move on and start pestering some other poor girl before long. I just need you to play the overprotective boyfriend role until he backs off.” She shared a glance with Remus and James when he still didn’t respond. “Please,” she finally relented. When Black still didn’t answer, now decidedly fiddling with the tuning knobs on the record player, she sighed. She’d have to find another way to deter Davis and it’d have to be soon - she didn’t know how many more times she could hear his sleazy “hiya sweetheart”, before she’d resort to hexing him. And that would probably just make him re-double his efforts.
She barely noted the sound of the gryffindor portrait opening to let someone into the common room, but then- “There ya are sweetheart! Bin lookin’ all over for ya!” She gritted her teeth, turning around to see Lucas Davis stalking towards her, that stupid fucking smirk on his face. “Can’t think why, given that you saw me an hour ago and I told you to ‘leave me the fuck alone’”, she snapped. She could see both Remus and James tense in her peripherals, probably preparing to tell Davis to ‘fuck off’ themselves, but Sirius remained silent behind her. Davis either didn’t notice the two boys glaring at him, or didn’t care, and he only smiled wider, “aw come on princess, don’ be like that!” He whined, “I think you just need-”
But she never found out what he thought she needed, as Sirius suddenly stepped up to her side, casually slung an arm around her shoulder and drawled, “You heard my girl, fuck off and leave her alone.” Davis visibly recoiled, and she might have laughed at his shocked expression had she not been entirely preoccupied by Sirius' comforting warmth as he leant against her. “Your girl?” He sputtered.
“My girl.” Sirius repeated, and she could hear the mocking smile in his voice, “Girlfriend, paramour, lover, whatever. The point is: fuck. off.” Even Remus seemed to be hiding a grin as Davis stood there, dumbstruck, his eyes darting between her and Sirius as though stupefied. She relaxed into Sirius embrace and intertwined her fingers with his where they hung over her shoulder. “Bye Davis”, she crooned, with a smug smile. He seemed to struggle for another moment before turning on his heel and striding out the door without another word.
#marauders#sirius black#harry potter#remus lupin#james potter#female!reader#gryffindor#gryffindor!reader#fake dating#sirius black x reader#one shot#drabble#xreader#marauders era
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I've seen a fair number of people interpret Rebecca Sugar's (and the Crew's) decision to put Ruby in a dress as subversive, and I want to discuss why that feels like a clear miss to me.
Every time--every single time--I've heard Rebecca Sugar talk about the queer relationships on this show, it comes with this expression of wholesomeness, and often glazed with a sheen of wistfulness, flavored something like "I needed this as a child and young person, and I didn't have it." Much of Rebecca Sugar's work to bring this wedding (and other unapologetic queer relationships) to the screen was framed as an emergency--as in, we HAVE to get this out there for those kids we used to be, because we know they're drowning.
Yes, it's funny sometimes when people make jokes about Sugar deliberately "adding more gay" or "making it gayer" as a big eff-you to the people who spoke against it, but that doesn't sit right from where I'm standing. It took so much strength (and resulted in so much battle damage) to fight that fight, yes. But from everything I can see from the interviews and conversations I've seen and read, this wasn't served up in a "ha-HA, take THAT!" kind of way. These characters having these kinds of relationships should have been a non-issue, and the fact that their very wholesome kids'-show wedding and very sweet kiss and very adorable love for each other was seen as Political when it should have been just two characters in love is so sad to me.
I've seen dozens of people suggest that Ruby is in a dress and Sapphire is in a suit "to fuck with the bigoted censors in other countries" or "to give the finger to gender roles," but again, I think it is simpler and sweeter than that. Rebecca's said that Ruby in a dress is how she feels in a dress. Celebration and exploration of feminine-coded stuff felt wrong to Rebecca for a long time, like it wasn't hers, because she wasn't really a woman and didn't want it forced on her. As a result she was robbed of all the beauty that should have been a non-issue, from what TV shows and toys she was supposed to enjoy as a kid to what kind of person she was supposed to marry and what she should wear as an adult.
Ruby never got a choice about how she looked really. Once she got to choose her presentation for a significant event, this is what she chose. It means so much more to see that than to construct it primarily as a reactionary measure, as if it would somehow foil the sinister censors in more homophobic countries (who, incidentally, are not therefore forced to show Ruby in a dress even though they tried to hide that Ruby was a "she" or that she was in a romantic relationship with another "she"; y'all, they just don't show the episode).

We see plenty of other examples of gender-role-related expectations being casually stepped on and squashed, like when they took the trouble to give traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine "clothes" to some watermelons to make the audience think there was a husband and wife watermelon only to have the wife be the warrior and the husband stay home with the child. With stuff like that, yeah, sure, maybe it's designed to make you think "oh isn't that very feminist of them!" Or maybe it's more "well why do I see this as a 'reversal' when it's just a thing that happened?" This show is full of ladyish beings who fight and have power. And as for Steven. . . .

Nobody has negative reactions onscreen (or even particularly confused reactions) when Steven wears traditionally feminine clothes, and it is (of course) also not presented as a "boy in a dress gag"--it's not supposed to be funny. When they go all in slathering Steven in literal princess tropes throughout the final act of Season 5, we understand that it's because the powerful Diamonds expect him to be Pink Diamond, not because the show is trying to girlify him or embarrass him or even make the audience think positive thoughts about boys in girls' clothes. It's more neutral than that in my interpretation: "these are literally just pieces of cloth, and while some of them have meaning, they don't inherently have a gender." I don't see this as transgressive. It's just in a world where putting on what you want to wear doesn't HAVE to be a political statement. (Though obviously it CAN be, and plenty of people wear a variety of clothes as a fuck-you to whoever they want to give the finger to. I just don't see that as happening here.)
Don't get me wrong; Rebecca Sugar certainly knew about the politics (intimately) and has lived at many of their intersections. She was not ignorant of how queer people are seen in this world. She was silenced as a bisexual person because her identity supposedly didn't matter if she was with a man and planned to be with that same man forever. She was shunted into "omg a woman did this!" categories over and over again, which she wore uneasily as a nonbinary person while accepting that part of who we are is how the world sees us. But what is it like if everything someone like her embraces is seen as a statement synonymous with "fuck you" to someone else?
She is married to a person who happens to be a man and happens to be Black. Her relationship isn't a "statement" about either of those aspects of his existence; her love is simply something that is. She is Jewish working in a society that's largely Christian. Her cultural perspective to NOT center her cartoon around Christian holidays and Christian morals; her choices to make an alternate world in this specific way is simply something that is. Her queer perspective as a nonbinary bisexual person has helped inform the Gems' radical philosophy of "what if we learned to explore and define ourselves instead of doing the 'jobs' we're assigned and being told it's our nature?" Her decision to include queer people in a broadly queer cartoon isn't designed PRIMARILY as a battle against baddies, or to drown out all the relentless straightness, or to deliciously get our queer little paws all over their kids' TV. It's an act of love.

So this is just to say that though I DO understand that sometimes subversion and intentional transgression are very necessary, I do not think that's the HEART of what's going on at this Gem wedding. We got a wholesome marriage scene between two of the most lovely little flawed-but-still-somehow-perfect characters, and I very much want to see their choices as being about them. About how Ruby feels in a dress. About how Sapphire feels about not having to always wear a dress. About them incorporating a symbol of their union into their separate lives so they can have some independence in their togetherness. About them celebrating their love by letting Steven wipe his schmaltz all over them.
There are many choices in the show that ARE carefully constructed to counter existing narratives, you know, giving the Crystal Gems' only boy all the healing, pink, flower imagery; having a single-sex species that's ladyish with all the members going by "she"; featuring many nurturing male characters who cry and cook and raise kids without mothers; pairing multiple fighty ladies with gentler guys; and importantly, intentionally loading up the show with stories, characters, and imagery any gender will find appealing despite being tasked with expectations to pander to the preteen boy demographic.
But it's very important to me that the inclusion of queer characters and the featuring of their choices be seen primarily as a loving act, and way way less of a "lol screw the bigots." I want our stories to be about us. Yes, I know it's a necessary evil that sometimes our stories are also about fighting Them. But every time I see someone say they put Ruby in the dress to "piss off the homophobes" or "stump the censors" I feel a little gross. Like the time I picked out an outfit I loved and my mom said I only dressed in such an obnoxious way to upset her, and I was baffled because my aesthetic choices, my opinions, my choices had nothing to do with her. Yet they were framed like I chose these clothes primarily to cause some kind of petty harm to her, when not only was it not true but I was not even that kind of person who would gloat over intentionally irritating someone.
The queerness of this show isn't a sneaky, underhanded act trying above all to upset a bigot or celebrate someone's homophobic fury. It lives for itself. Its existence is about itself. It's so we can see ourselves in a show, and it's so people who aren't queer or don't have those experiences can see that we exist, we participate, we want very similar things, and definitely are focusing way more about celebrating our love at our own weddings rather than relishing the thought of bigots tearing their hair out and hating us.
It's dangerous to turn every act of our love into a deliberate movement in a battle strategy when their weddings just get to be weddings.
I think there’s this idea that that [queer characters] is something that applies or should be only discussed with adults that is completely wrong. And I think when you realize that talking to kids about heteronormativity is just like air that you breathe all the time, it’s kind of amazing that that is not true in any other capacity. I think if you wait to tell kids, to tell queer youth that it matters how they feel or that they are even a person, then it’s going to be too late! You have to talk about it—you have to let it be what it gets to be for everyone. I mean, like, I think about, a lot of times I think about sort of fairy tales and Disney movies and the way that love is something that is ALWAYS discussed with children. And I think also there’s this idea that’s like, oh, we should represent, you know, queer characters that are adults, because there are adults that are queer, and you should know that’s something that is happening in the adult world, but that’s not how those films or those stories are told to children. You’re told that YOU should dream about love, about this fulfilling love that YOU’RE going to have. […] The Prince and Snow White are not like someone’s PARENTS. They’re something you want to be, that you are sort of dreaming of a future where you will find happiness. Why shouldn’t everyone have that? It’s really absurd to think that everyone shouldn’t get to have that! --Rebecca Sugar
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