#friendship studies

[a-study-in-bullshit]

"I love you , I'm glad we're friends"

[m0cktails]

leather studies 💀

[plantsonplutoart]

Moonflower study dates! Because it’s possible to be both academic rivals and the best of friends 🌙🪷😌

James and Sirius are definitely sitting across the table drooling over them

[13thpythagoras]

it's an interesting question, kind of hard like, my two close friends both forgot my birthday so hmm maybe it's me at zero not even aware lol ... going through the kind of trauma I did at a young age leaves me with less in common with my peers, men definitely have fewer friends than women, there's more competitive vibes between guys than ladies. It's always been my understanding this is why men live shorter lives, since widows have social networks to fall back on but widowers become the poster -men for the lonely-man movement and it's why they die off sooner. I always resolved myself to try and be immune to this pattern, from a young age, so maybe that's why I could say I have no close friends, and we guys have a soldier drive to be stoic, we don't talk about mental health problems until it's too late. It's absolutely like the smiling dog in the burning house, how I feel at times on this, thinking back to wishing I had put bros before hoes...fortunately I stay young at heart and have made a ton of casual friends this year so hopefully that can continue and mature...

I actually haven't seen data on this, it seems like an important question to ask, but I would bet "no friends" is a deeply sticky category. If you are 15 or whatever, doesn't mean that much yet, but if someone has no close friends at age 30, I would bet at age 40 their odds of still having no close friends is ~80%? It is a combination of "if you haven't made them yet it probably isn't your skillset and people don't change that much" and "overwhelmingly the way people make new friends is via connections with existing friends".

It does seem relevant to the data, because if the correlation is low, then "everyone goes through more lonely patches" is a bit of a different conclusion than above.

[squidflavoredsoup]

pony homelander

also this doodle i did of him n my sona

[notfocks]

I just watched that one episode where they all try help Rainbow Dash study for her Wonderbolts exam

[lalypipi]

Fluttershy !!!! 💛

[treef-greef]

university izuku my love

[nenelonomh]

making friends is still worth it

as an extroverted individual, i have many friends. a diverse collection of people, offline and online, who support me - in many different ways. lately it's been difficult for me to put myself out there and talk to people, and hence, this post.

making new friends and meeting new people will always be 'worth it'.

worth the time. the troubles. the slight worries. this post is going to walk through the barriers i've been struggling with in meeting new people, and if you relate, should be able to help. firstly - that friendship can be seen as transactional, and secondly - that some (most) friendships are short lived.

transactional friendships

friendship can sometimes be seen as transactional, especially if individuals focus on the benefits they receive from the relationship. however, true friendship goes beyond mere transactions. it's built on mutual respect, trust, and a genuine desire to support one another.

in transactional relationships, interactions are often driven by a specific exchange of goods, services, or favors. while this can be a part of friendships, it's not the defining characteristic. authentic friendships involve emotional connections, shared experiences, and a commitment to each other's well-being without expecting something in return.

consider the difference between helping a friend move because you know they'll help you in the future (transactional) and helping them because you care about their happiness and want to support them (genuine friendship). both actions might look similar, but the underlying motivations are different.

and this is not to say that transactional friendships are bad - they simply are a different type of friendship. if you're engaging in a transactional friendship (for whatever reason), both parties typically know what to expect from each other, which can lead to more straightforward interactions.

these relationships can be practical and mutually beneficial, especially in professional or networking contexts. however, support in transactional friendships might be dependent on reciprocation, which can lead to feelings of obligation rather than genuine care.

my focus in this post is cultivating deeper, more meaningful relationships.

short-lived friendships

making friends and building a support system is essential - even if these friendships do not last forever. here's why:

every friendship brings a unique set of shared experiences that enrich our lives. these can be anything from late-night conversations, shared hobbies, travel adventures, or even just watching a movie together. these moments create lasting memories that contribute to our personal narrative. even short-term friendships leave an indelible mark, helping to shape our identity.

imagine you've moved to a new city and meet a friend at a local coffee shop. you bond over your love for art and decide to visit art galleries together. these shared experiences create lasting memories and enrich your understanding of the city's art scene. even if you eventually move away, the experiences and insights gained during that time remain with you.

during challenging times, having someone to confide in can make a significant difference. friends provide a sounding board for our thoughts and feelings, offering empathy and support that can help us navigate difficulties. the comfort and reassurance that comes from knowing someone is there for you, even temporarily, can enhance your emotional resilience and well-being.

friendships expose us to different perspectives and ideas. each friend brings their own experiences, knowledge, and worldview, which can broaden our understanding and spark new interests. these interactions foster intellectual growth and encourage us to think critically and empathetically about the world around us.

being part of a social network, even if it's not long-lasting, gives us a sense of community and belonging. this connection is vital for our mental and emotional health, as it reduces feelings of isolation and provides a sense of purpose. engaging with different groups and individuals helps us feel connected to the broader social fabric.

why don't people go out of their way to make friends? is it just me?

this is an incredible fear i get whenever i am met with no response whilst trying to build community and reach out to new people. there are several reasons why many people may not go out of their way to make new friends, including:

modern life can be incredibly busy, with work, family, and personal commitments taking up a lot of time. people often prioritize these responsibilities over socializing.

some individuals experience anxiety or discomfort in social situations, which can make it difficult for them to initiate and maintain friendships.

negative experiences in past friendships, such as betrayal or conflict, can make people wary of forming new relationships.

people tend to stick to familiar routines and environments where they feel safe and comfortable, making it less likely for them to seek out new social connections.

the rise of digital entertainment, social media, and online interactions can lead to a preference for virtual connections over face-to-face interactions.

the nature of a digital society certainly plays a role in changing how we form and maintain friendships. while technology offers convenient ways to stay connected, it can also create barriers to deeper, more meaningful interactions. online communication sometimes lacks the emotional richness and nuances of in-person conversations, which can affect the quality of friendships.

however, there are ways to build and maintain community online, including:

joining interest-based groups on platforms like tumblr, reddit, or discord can help you connect with like-minded individuals and foster a sense of community. instagram and youtube also have creator communities now!

participating in virtual events, webinars, and online meetups related to your hobbies or professional interests can help you connect with others.

using platforms like zoom, skype, or whatsapp for regular video calls and chats can help maintain and strengthen friendships, even at a distance.

working on collaborative projects or joining online clubs, such as book clubs or gaming communities, can provide opportunities to bond with others over shared activities.

while online interactions can complement face-to-face friendships, it's important to balance both to create a well-rounded social life. making an effort to connect with people, whether online or in-person, will lead to meaningful relationships and a strong support system. once again, it is very much worth it.

i hope this was helpful! ❤️nene

further resources:

tips to make friends with people you find cool

be social (a list)

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[bookshelf-crier]

okay so pandora and reggie’s friendship is very special to me but BARTY and pandora is precious.

hear me out:

pandora encouraging barty to ask evan out because she knows that they both like each other.

pandora being there to comfort barty when his dad is being shit (all evan can feel is anger towards barty’s dad and he is raging somewhere plotting his murder) while pandora is holding him in her arms and singing to him.

evan cutting off contact with pandora when he becomes a death eater to keep her safe and barty continues to meet her in secret to keep her updated on everyone’s whereabouts because he knows she would do something stupid like become a death eater to keep them all safe.

barty telling pandora that reggie is dead and they both sit there to grieve together, just holding onto each other and sobbing. he brings evan with him next time and it’s they first time they’ve seen each other since to start of the war (only barty could’ve convinced him that she wouldn’t be in any more danger by seeing them)

pandora feels evan die in her soul and she just knows it’s happened. the next day when barty shows up, he doesn’t have to say anything before she is pulling him into a bone crushing hug.

barty stays at her house to lay low for a while after the war ends because she would die before she lets him go. she names him luna’s godfather.

both of them can find evan in each other. barty sees the love of his life in her blue eyes and she sees her brother in barty’s maddening grin.

when barty is free, the first thing he does is go to pandora’s house. luna answers the door and xen tell him pandora died years ago. that is what sends him fully over the edge.

[orthodoxchristianity]

“Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord:”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭14‬, NKJV‬

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[tragicvampireromanceisland]

they are SILLY!!! and CUTE!!! and UNDERRATED!!! that is all!!! 💛💚

[ae-cha08]

When you truly Love Jesus and spend time in Prayer and the Word, the way you Love people changes. You'll become patient and compassionate towards them and you'll start seeing them through the eyes of God.

Only then, it is possible to Love a person unconditionally.

[proverbs31girly]

Send this to your non-blood family 💘

[evesedenramblings]

I want to talk about the Greek Myth of Damon and Pythias and how I think it could tie into Project: Eden’s Garden. For those unfamiliar, the story of Damon and Pythias basically goes like this:

A man named Pythias is to be given the death penalty for his crimes of protesting tyrannical authority against a man named Dionysus (not the God, just named after him). However, Damon volunteers to take his place so Pythias can tend to his affairs (basically say final goodbyes). If Pythias does not return by a certain time, Damon shall be executed in his place. Pythias arrives in time and neither character dies, and Dionysus praises the two for their friendship and loyalty, and even asks to join the two in their friendship but is rejected.

It’s important to look at the framework of the story rather than the details. If we do that, I think there’s a lot to work with.

The story ties very neatly into the idea that Tozu’s Killing Game “continues until there’s only two people”, those two people in this context being Damon and Pythias, especially considering Tozu has the ongoing theme of lying! The Killing Game would end, but then maybe only one person gets to leave, and then begins the free-for-all seen in the Prologue. But then if Damon is Damon, who is Pythias supposed to be? Who is Damon willing to go against his entire ideology for with the belief they won’t kill each other? Honestly it’s too early to say. But that’s not all we can take from the story.

I think Tozu is our Dionysus. Dionysus is a tyrannical ruler named after, but not actually, a God, which is interesting in terms of a power complex. His role in the story is to pit Damon and Pythias against each other, making them doubt and question their trust for each other. The key difference is obviously Tozu will be relying on them to kill each other- however, should the story follow beat-by-beat, they won’t kill each other, and Tozu will be so impressed, he may let the two of them go. Frankly, I have another theory pertaining to Tozu that I haven’t created it into a proper post yet, but I think Tozu may try to bring them into his organization, and the two reject.

It’s an interesting story that makes for a fascinating theory. Considering how often the myth comes up in the origin of the name Damon, I imagine it has to have some form of relevancy. Not to mention the story is just a little bit too perfect of a character arc for Damon and a kick in the nuts for Tozu.

Brief aside: thanks to @panomiels-box for inspiring this analysis! They reminded me my “Damon and Pythias” draft exists and did their own analysis on Damon and Pythias. Our theories are pretty different which is why I’m not reblogging off their post, I’d hate to take away from their theory. Make sure to read theirs too, they make a lot of interesting points!

[ludoka]

I'm reading posts that talk about a rewrite of G3 to make it look like G1? Honestly... Why? Let the newcomers have fun with G3. Let children and adolescents feel identified with characters that adapt to new generations.

Instead: why don't they demand a continuation of G1? What do I care about the life of a teenager between 14 and 17 years old? GIVE ME EXISTENTIAL CRISIS OF YOUNG ADULTS BETWEEN 20 AND 30!!!!

Give me a Deuce who feels stuck because he doesn't know what to do with his life!!! Give me a Gil who is looking to move out of his parents' house because he can't stand them anymore!! GIVE ME FRANKIE GOING INTO CRISIS BECAUSE SHE KNOWS HOW TO BE AN ADULT!! IT COST HORRORS FOR HER TO BE A TEENAGER, BEING A FUNCTIONAL ADULT IS KILLING HER!!!

Show how Clawdeen strives to be a dressmaker! What the world of modeling is like!! IT'S NOT AS EASY AS IT LOOKED WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER! Show how Jackson and Holt try to balance their lives so that each one fulfills what they dream of! Show how you organize yourself so that Holt has rehearsals and goes to concerts!! While Jackson manages his college study schedule!! Show Cleo struggling to grow up. This girl was a princess from ancient Egypt and probably had a pre-written life. Now that is not possible. She is grateful but horrified in equal parts because she no longer knows how to continue. Damn, show Toralei trying to achieve a better future but with a background that complicates her life!! OH MY GOD!!! SHE WAS IN A JUVENILE PRISON!!! THAT FILE IS BITTING HIS BUTT IN THE WORST WAY!!

I want characters I can identify with too. But I am no longer a child or teenager, I am an adult. I want adult characters that I can empathize with, identify with, and want to hug because I know how hard it is to try to be a functional adult.

Please leave G3 alone and give me a big sequel to G1.