#for my moots really bc these people are gross!

[pistachi0art]

moots in hlvrai who are out of the loop rn and don’t check ppl’s profiles i just want to inform that this person is reaaally gross and to advise to block and move on.

Also the absolute hypocrisy from this particular person is really funny bc how can you claim not to be a zoo/pedo when your writing shit like this

there’s art too. Yeah. NASTY.

And not to mention they’re buddies with this fellow (who is ALSO on tumblr- can’t find their user tho, probably blocked me but if you see some really nasty sh*ta art pop up in the tag, it’s them!)

Like I said tho, don’t interact, don’t comment, don’t bother sending any sort of meaningful response/hate their way bc they’re absolutely addicted to any and all attention bc they’ve never had an ounce of it in their- oh yeah 20+! Years of existence on this earth! ☺️ just block and move on please.

(Also Mx. “My power grows with every hate comment” talks about drawing more gross shit with every bit of criticism they receive so really. Just. Don’t even bother.)

UPDATE! the other weirdo’s tumblr account for your blocking pleasures:

[sam-moss]

Heads up, if you presaved the new album on Spotify it *might* add LMB to your Liked Songs. Make sure to Hide it and all of the versions to both prevent that from happening AND to prevent you from streaming it on accident!

please I want to buy the album without supporting the zionists😭😭

(i fear this because the accordian ver has lose my breath concept pics)

[thehollowwriter]

Another of my moots mentioned fans seeing a gender neutral mc as a girl, and now I'm thinking about it.

This sort of thing is especially common in twst, and while yes, you're free to interpret the mc however you want, it's really frustrating to see "aw look what they're saying to mc, they're obvious flirting with her!" and usually the entire reason people think certain lines as flirty or romantic at all is because they view mc as a girl.

And also, sometines mc is viewed as a girl bc "why else would the boys have all these flirty lines for her?" And then I die a little. But it's not just that, it's also that mc is viewed like a protagonist of those bad romance novels, so a thin, white, cishet girl.

Newer fans wouldn't really know, but a few years ago racism and other forms of bigotry was a huge problem in the fandom since people (mostly cishet girl twst fans) would attack other fans with black yuus or ocs, and harass male yuu blogs and call them "misogynistic" and "gross" and accuse them of "stealing" the boys from them.

Idk I just think it's not good to assume every mc of games like these is a girl.

[shaunashipman]

You move pretty similarly to some crazy buddie shippers. Like hating on a mustache so badly and getting pissed bc you see it because there's no bts of Lou yet is crazyyyy. "disgusting dead caterpillar decaying on his top lip" like are you okay? Like the crew loves the mustache & so does the cast. Let them have fun. Why are you so upset when the cast all look happy and having fun on set with it. I feel like if it was any other cast with the mustache for example Bobby or Kenny, you'd enjoy it. But since it's RG and it makes buddies happy, you're being a buzzkill bc you hate that buddies so much. It just doesn't feel like you're actually a fan of the show but just a fan of Lou & bucktommy. Lou will eventually be spotted on set unless they give them an offscreen breakup which I can't see them doing twice in a row for Buck.

babe are you okay? why are you so pressed about what I'm doing?

show me where, in any of my mustache hating posts, I mention lou. if you go through my blog, you'll find very little posts about lou being/not being on set (no shade to those that are posting, I know y'all are having fun 😘). I'm not worried about lou not being seen on set. it's very unlikely tommy isn't coming back, at least for a little bit, so I'm not stressed. and if he isn't, I'll complain about how it's bad writing for a day or two, then move on.

my hatred of the mustache, is because I fucking hate mustaches. kenny or peter or anyone could have one and I'd still fucking hate it. because I hate mustaches. the only person I even slightly tolerate it on is tom selleck, and even on him it's gross, it's just that he's always had one so he looks weirder without it. you hear that? I hate the mustache on thee mustache man. I stand by "disgusting dead caterpillar decaying on his top lip". it's true. just like it's also true that other people really like the mustache, and find it attractive, and I don't like to unnecessarily rain on other people's parades, so I didn't put my mustache loathing posts in the tags.

and I'm not upset about the videos of the mustache, I'm bored. the cast and crew is having fun, great, glad they are, I'm not. and I'm not commenting on their videos about it, I'm not tagging the cast in my posts, I'm just stating, on my own blog, to my followers and mutuals, that I don't like the mustache and I'm bored of seeing it in the bts. people are welcome to unfollow, and even block if they want. but several of my moots really like the mustache, and post about it, and I don't unfollow them, so I think they'll also be fine with seeing posts about how I don't like it. because we're adults who understand you don't have to agree with every single opinion someone has to be friends with them.

funny how a handful of posts about me disliking the mustache = me not even liking the show. quick question, are you part of eddieblr who thinks the show revolves around him? cause newsflash, I could in fact hate the character of eddie, and RG, and it wouldn't mean I don't love the rest of the show. yeah, I post a lot about bucktommy, they're my shiny new blorbos, fresh out of the package and hardly damaged yet. but I very much love the rest of the show and characters.

so, how about you stop worrying about what other people like or don't like, curate your space, and leave me to be a hater in peace

[sparklykat-hideoutenthusiast]

I've seen people doing an intro post so I suppose I should do the same right? I have no idea how to do this, I'm just winging it :3

INTRO POST TIME WOOO!!

Follow my other blog where I reblog a bunch of stuff and things for the full experience of my personality and interests! @eckos-reblogs ! :3

I will continue to edit this, probably for the rest of time to get it right since I'm a slight perfectionist lol

My name is Ecko and it's my preferred name but you can refer to me as Melleona (my OC) or by a nickname as well if you'd like! (just please ask me first if you want to use a nickname as I'm bad with setting boundaries and if I don't like you calling me a certain thing, I probably won't tell you ⊙⁠﹏⁠⊙)

My pronouns are She/Her but feel free to refer to me as "it" or "that thing" :3 (when I was a bit younger i was often referred to as "it," as a joke, I found it incredibly funny and don't mind being referred to as "it" now)

I'm a minor! Mind your words, don't send me gross/weird asks or messages. (I've already had a few people message me asking for my age, a picture of me, and my sexuality. No, I will not be sharing my real appearance on here. my age? Minor, that's all you need to know. My sexuality? I don't know and you don't need to know either, respectfully ^^❤️)

IDC if I post something slightly suggestive or that says I know about 18+ themes. I posted it, not someone saying something to me of those themes. Sure, I understand the stuff but It really doesn't matter now does it? It just means I understand enough to know you shouldn't be saying that stuff to me. (Boundaries ✨)

I support the lgbtq+ community! And I don't discriminate against race. I really shouldn't have to say this. (˘⁠･⁠_⁠･⁠˘)

I will respond to money asks with "!!" And that's it. I don't have money and even if I did I don't got any money to spare. I'm broke and struggling too. Not to mention, I'm a minor and can't just go out and get the stuff. I hope you understand and I wish you all the best!❤️❤️❤️

Some games and shows and stuff I like:

Shows and stuff: Rick and Morty, adventure time, lost in space, bsd (never watched it but I've seen enough of it on the Internet to know a bit about it. Very interesting :3), and more!

Games/fandoms: Yonder(Yonder Cloud Catcher Chronicles.), Minecraft, the Stanley parable, tiny bit of South Park, cotl, MLP(childish I know but I don't care. I love them), creepypasta, SCPs, Trevor Henderson's creatures (mostly cartoon cat), and more!

Stuff and things: Art, apparently I make rhymes now too?? and more!

General facts about me! Yippee!

I live in a bus (not decked out like you see on social media though. We just live in a bus lol), I live with my ma (my dad is my step dad and he and my mom just broke up recently sooo ye), I blank out a lot and just stare at people for no reason (which freaks them out), I have greyish blue eyes (a long with some, I'm pretty sure permanent, eye bags lol), I get energy right before nighttime mostly (and then it disappears as soon as it reaches around 11 pm to 12 am), My favorite color is maroon (and any type of blue along with orange and yellow and forest green..mostly just comfy vibe colors tbh but maroon is a fixed piece), my favorite animal is a cat (although I have a dog. Muffin doesn't count as a dog, she's practically human. Apart of the family.), and more!

(I'll update this as I go)

Do not interact with my blog if: You're racist, you only or mostly have sexual themes on your own blog (I apologize but it makes me uncomfortable. Have some other interests and it might make me less uncomfortable ^^), if you in general just enjoy hating on people for no reason (I like to make my area a safe space for people) (more will be added later when I think of what to add)

(Added a specific part of that bc a moot felt they were making me uncomfortable by having such themes on their blog. I didn't really realize at first but yes that does make slightly uncomfortable but I don't really care as long as you have other interests. If s3x is your only interest, it weirds me out to have those types of people interact with me. Just know you're all good moot, you're not the type of person I was aiming it at. There are other people that just don't think about anything else but $ex and relationships that creep me out and you are not one of them. ^^❤️)

I appreciate any and all constructive criticism. IDC if it sounds rude and might hurt my feelings, TELL ME so I can help better myself and my blog! I'm dum and will most likely not notice I'm doing something weird or anything :P <3

•Send me asks! Want to hug one of my OCs? Send an ask!- Want to slap the sh1t out of one of em? Send an ask!- Want to introduce me to a new (or old) fandom I don't know of but you think I might be interested in? Send an ask!- Want to say hi? Send an ask!- Want to- ok- I'm sure you get the point now lol Send an ask!! I love interaction :3 (I'm friendly I promise 😭)

•Moots: @theachskid @voidsweirdthoughts @burningbutter @rafrfr @rateater2000 @footlongdingledong @ender-the-insomniac @thistlebriar @rspoetry @virtualcroissantflapcolor @jawdoesstuff @storythesilly @yourfavoritecuntist @chamber-of-voices +any future moots/one's I might have forgotten (I hope I wouldn't forget anyone 🥲)

I'll update this whole thing as I go, any questions, just send an ask and I'll update this with the answer as well as you know- replying in general lol :3

[iwaasfairy]

hey sorry this seems so dumb of me but i really enjoy writing dark content. i just dont know how to post it because i worry about what my moots may think. sorry for bothering you with this its just that you were the first dc writer who introduced me to it and i didnt know who to askkkk...love your work so much always looking forward to more !!!!

no thats ok! thank you for the sweet words bby!

truth is dark content isn’t for everyone, it’s never gonna be. some people just don’t like it. some of your moots aren’t gonna like it if you post it, and they might want to distance themselves,,, other people don’t care either way and some others like dc,, that’s just kinda the reality of some of the topics I write about yk?

I started off as a dc blog and have always been one bc I knew what I wanted to write was dark and a bit gross and so for me it was really easy to avoid the trap of making friends and then having to open up the convo about dc. they either fucked w me from the start or didn’t

but I do really get the concern. it’s your choice at the end of the day. but I guess I just wanna say, if that’s something you really enjoy writing, truly, deeply— do you really want to hold off on posting something you’re passionate about because some moots might not like it? that’s a question you gotta ask yourself and either answer is correct ♡ I wish you all the luck bby! I hope you figure out what’s best for you

[ideasarestuckinmyhead]

I really really really wanna write things about Lucien, but Everytime I start writing I fear that I'm writing something "fetish-y" and I don't MEAN or WANT to, I just wanna write about a cute lil slice of life, romance with a cool demon guy 🥲🥲🥲🥲

[example? I wanted to write about how, my listener was actually a really good cook and likes to feed Luci cuz that's just something they do to show their love with everyone, but when I try expanding on that idea it always ends up sounding like "They like to feed him and he gets fat cuz of it dur dur food kink bullshit blah blah" BUT I DON'T WANT TO SOUND LIKE THAT, MY LISTENER JUST LIKES TO COOK AND LUCIEN JUST LIKES TO EAT WHY AM SO BAD AT WRITING😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭(I do like big guys{and I loved when yuuri said Luci would be a bit more chubby in a Twitter post I can't find but swear exists</3}but I just can't seem to write about without it sounding gross and like a fetish post)]

I'm so sorry for yapping, I just really needed to get this out somewhere, feel free to ignore it<3

Yeah it's a slippery slope that you need to be careful for when your thristing after plus size characters. LIKE LET ME FUCK HIM DAMMIT??? I JUST WANNA TREAT MY MAN FUCK.

Also yes he'd 100% have a food kink. Honestly I think Lucien would consider marring your listener bc they feed him good.

I think you should just write what you want then wait for feed back (lol) for what you wrote! Or even ask like a moot or a friend to read over it for u! I honestly just write and not think about it, but I always if it's like ex Autistic reader I wrote in tags and on the ask that if I ever write something that isn't true to correct me and I'll change it.

Writing things you want to takes trial and error. Just try and how others your writing and if it is fetishy someone will tell you. That's why lots of fanfic writers like when people comment and tell them what they liked or think need to be changed.

[causenessus]

✯¸.•´¨*•✿ about me / guidelines ✿•*¨`•.¸✯

❧ ness!

❧ she/her

❧ 18

❧ cancer + isfj <3

❧ sideblog: @takecarelove

❧ big big music and book enthusiast!!

❧ favs <3: nakahara chuuya, SAKUSA KIYOOMI, miya atsumu, SUNA RINTARO, and oikawa tooru ♡♡

❧ but ofc i'll do my best to write about others >ᴗ<✮⋆˙ these are just my favs

❧ my works are pretty soft bc i cannot handle angst 😭 and i tend to default to fem readers because it's easier for me to write but request something and lmk if you want it gn!

❧ regarding writing, i do not write dark content, nsfw (bc personally, sex is gross to me lol), male readers, and what i consider hardcore angst such as cheating or self harm. i also don't really write ships bc i just think i'm bad writing chemistry between two set characters if that makes sense so i stick to x readers :)

❧ tag guide: ness' brainvomit - anything not related to my works, just random thoughts tbh | ness' favorites - favorite works by other people!! (some of my favorite authors also have special divisions within my favorites dedicated to them!) | ness' pantry staples - MY TOP FAVORITE FICS EVER | i heart ___ <3 - moot tags <3

[iloveyoualtair]

intro bc I probably should do that :3

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♥︎ I'm a minor

♥︎ I don't give my name out a lot so just call me cupid (only my close moots know my name :3)

♥︎ my birthday is August, 24

♥︎ I go by any pronouns

♥︎ I identify as bigender and omnisexual

♥︎ I'm Wasian (Filipino and Welsh)

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icebreakers/fun facts about me :3

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ʚTwo truths and a lieɞ

♥I almost got expelled from school for chasing down and biting a kid

♥I broke my classmates skull in elementary by banging his head on a tetherball pole

♥I was at a theme park in the sky and me and my mother were attacked by a black bear

guess in the comments >3<

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I love jellyfish :3

My favorite movie is Coraline(it has been for about 8 years now)

I like Reverie Audios and Redacted

I made this account for Altair(reverie audios) so I knew he wasn't dead while he went through surgery

My favorite color is lavender(NOT LILAC) despite popular belief

My style changes all the time

Right now my aesthetic is cutecore but I still wear other styles when I feel like it(mainly earthy stuff, Streetwear, and gothic styles)

I'm bilingual (english and ASL)

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DNI!!

✿ Proshippers

✿ 13-

✿ Israel supporters

✿ Family/if you know me irl

✿ Judgemental people that don't have a valid reason

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DO NOT MOOT!!

♡ Creeps ♡ If you're 18+ and be inappropriate with minor(this is EXTREMELY targeted)

♡ mean people ♡ not part of any of my fandoms other than these pllleeeeeaaassseee talk to me :3 .・。.・゜✭・.・゜・。.・。.・゜✭・.・。.

THIN ICE

♡ 18+ ♡ If you act like you're the main character...(SORRY BUT THIS IS ALSO TARGETED) ♡ Welcome Home, Homestuck, MLP, Danganronpa, Qsmp/Dsmp, TADC fans (a concerning amount of y'all are really gross in like a "im gonna put a figure in a jar and fill it with semen" kinda way) NOT ALL OF YOU.

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PLEASE INTERACT :3!!

♡ Redacted fans

♡ Reverie fans

♡ GBA fans

♡ silly people

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what you should expect from me posting wise<3

I don't post on here a lot I normally just see what Reverie has posted. However, I plan on maybe doing a few lore posts and mayybbeee some moodboards or whatever I feel like posting :3

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instagram: strawberry_pound_c4ke

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I'm not allowed to have discord ☹️☹️

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[xythlia]

ngl some tswift songs are good, but I just don't really like her & I think it has more to do with this insane parasocial image she has plus it left a bad taste in my mouth when an old moot back on my lurker blog was being racially attacked by other swifties (when she was a swiftie herself so I saw all this go down on my dash before she deleted bc of all this) & tons of other black fans of hers were like begging on here for her to say literally anything about the 2020 blm protests or just condemn the ppl throwing racist insults at fellow fans & she just.... didn't. just straight up checked out & left them to deal with it & whined about being pressured, which led to those black fans getting even more racist shit hurled at them by white fans & them getting blamed for her leaving tumblr. That really really left a bad taste in my mouth like how are u folding like a lawn chair against even the slightest pressure to take a firm stance on something? especially after the whole scene in her documentary crying about wanting to be more politically active & "on the right side of history" ok when are u gonna do that then? bc she didn't do it during tour stops in tennessee this year either, where the anti drag bills are the worst, despite parading drag queens around like show dogs in her rainbow capitalism music video a few years ago. that would've been a great time for some of that political activism to show up but instead it only shows up when it's about her & when it's convenient for her. she's nothing but a fence rider bc she doesn't want to isolate portions of her face base (which is gross considering how many of them are literal neo nazis). Plus she's not even a milquetoast feminist & her song the man isn't some feminist anthem because it's not about getting rid of the so called "man on top" or creating equity it's about wanting that place on top for herself without necessarily changing any of the bad things that man gets away with bc she wants to get away with it too. That's not feminism in the slightest. Not to mention it's impossible to ethically become a billionaire, which she's projected to be soon. Who makes all the million different cash grab vinyls & merch? what do they get paid? certainly not a fair amount if she's contractually ending up with the lions share of profit to be on track to become a billionaire. how much fucking pollution does she create by flying private from tour stop cities back to new york every single day to have dinner? the reason a lot of people dislike her is literally because of all that shit, it's not about internalized misogyny it's the fact that pretending to be some activist while being the most spineless person alive yet constantly being praised for it is fucking insane & people are allowed to point that out without constantly being accused of only disliking her because she's a woman. That's irrelevant to the conversation tbh & really infantilizes & undercuts the people trying to hold serious conversations about why nobody should look to celebrities as a cornerstone of their activism when celebrity activism usually looks exactly like that, whishy washy bullshit

[fraugremlinreads]

"Love on the Brain" by Ali Hazelwood

✰✰✰/5

-I would say that there are some semi-graphic sex scenes in this novel and i think they are skippable and dont really provide a lot to the story. They are very typical of what you expect in sex content with unrealistic expectations and whatnot. -Aside from that, I think that if you are in the 15-21 age range, you would probably enjoy this book and its writing style. I personally found it childish and cringey with a lot of wholesome bits. It covers topics that any growing young lady might need to hear and feel validated or seen by someone. -Another point to make is that the relationship is not toxic despite having an enemies to lover-ish troupe. They are just two people whe feel safe together, or learn to, and i think that wholesome non-toxic relationship dynamics are VERY hard to come by in the Romance genre.

For my More detailed Bias and Subjective thoughts ↓↓

While I give this book a 3/5, I would say that, subjectively, this book was not really for me, but i appreciate the authors intentions and some subjects. I feel that if you are, perhaps, 15-21, you may appreciate this book a lot more, the messages in it, and feel validated and seen. I also Am //really// happy to see very wholesome and not very toxic relationships, even for an enemies to lovers-ish troupe story. The characters make mistakes, like anyone else, but nothing toxic is played off for drama or teehee so cute and romantic. its just two people feeling safe together, or learning to, and for that, I think Ali Hazewood gives a very very important thing to the Romance genre that is always missing.

As for my personal opinions, I dont find the cast very relatable or enjoyable. Bee behaves like and dresses like how I wanted to dress when i was 12. I personally dont find the personalities relatable, and realizing she is 28 made me uncomfortable because im 25 and now i feel 40. Important subjects are addressed, but the cringe approach to them and childish writing made me laugh at Bee more than with her. I also do not enjoy hypersexualization (or normalization of open sex) and this is another me thing that turned me off from enjoyment. I think that normalizing casual sex is gross, and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. The idea of "sexual frustration" and so on is not for me, but i understand that women have, for a very long time in writing especially, been exclusively written as virgin planks with a blonde wig, and that this is just a common approach to protesting that. Perhaps it is my more ace views of sex and romance that makes it hard for me to stomach these ideas.

I will also note that there are some lewd sex scenes that are kinda detail-ish. I dont have an issue with them per-say, i tend to enjoy reading these scenes in a "window to their feelings, vulnerabilites etc" kinda way, but i have my own gripes about Hazelwoods approach to sex scenes (or just in general, media bc ig we have to lie about sex to make it more hot and create delusional ideas about what sex is like) but it REALLY DOESNT MATTER THAT MUCH and is just me griping about a moot point. idk.

[inheritedthrowaway]

hi it's op. some more info, since we now know A LITTLE BIT more and I'm not as completely out of it as I was when I submitted this:

-to all of the people saying to get a lawyer: I promise I wasn't trying to come here for legal advice lol. tbh I kinda figured that that would be something we would have to do. I've returned home, but Phineas told me before that his close friend offered to set him up with a lawyer for this situation, so I'll let him know to get on that when he's able. unfortunately, the stress of everything + his job has been keeping him somewhat unavailable, but if what some people in the notes is saying is true, I guess this was always gonna be a long process anyway. its been less than 3 weeks since it happened, tbh looking back I'm surprised we've done as much as we have.

-but on that note I was less worried about the legal side than the moral side. truly Phineas and I are down for whatever she is ok with us doing that we are legally able to do--except paying our dad's portion of the debt, bc we definitely can't afford to do that. it turns out they still owe like, more than half of what the house is worth, and it's a house in a major city on the West Coast so that's A LOT. so the point is kinda moot anyway bc it wouldn't really make much difference if we gave her anything bc we could not afford to come close to covering that anyway. so the actual question of if we'd be assholes, I guess, is No, bc we can't anyway.

-the more concrete monetary situation is this: myself, Phineas and Aaron were the 3 beneficiaries of his life insurance, splitting it even 3 ways (I was told I get 34%, so I assume they each get 33%). I won't share the exact amount here, I'll just say: it's less than a quarter million, but it's got 6 digits. which like. when I heard the number I almost threw up. I saw some in the notes saying "uh 5 figures isn't exactly life-changing." y'all, my partner and I each make under $20k a year. we live paycheck-to-paycheck. any amount that is more than a years salary (or hell, even HALF that) is gonna be life changing in some way for us, even if that change is "we can now afford to move to a different apartment if we need to".

-(since Aaron is underage and can't legally enter a financial contract, his mom will probably be in charge of what happens to his share. not sure there's much we can do about that but hopefully she does the right thing and puts it in a CD or whatever till he's of age)

-we still never did find a will, but other than the money in his bank account (probably not a lot, considering his bills), the trailer and the half of a house, my dad didn't really own anything that would be worth fighting over (his vehicle was completely destroyed in the wreck). its mostly all things like clothes, the furniture in the trailer, multimedia stuff, etc, nothing else with like deeds or official ownership or whatever. Phineas and I have been pretty much on the same page regarding everything to do with his estate so far in abstract, so idk how much a lawyer needs to be involved in figuring out who gets his Big Bang Theory DVDs. but we probably will add it to the list anyway, cuz the dude was kinda a hoarder and has 2 storage units and a shed we need to go through so who KNOWS what he's got put away.

-to the one person in the notes shaming me for "writing his cheating off as polyamory" or whatever: as I said in the post I am literally polyamorous myself and I'm not excusing his actions, but I am calling it like I see it. he was absolutely a cheater about it I just don't want people getting the impression that he was some gross womanizing asshole, cuz he wasn't. my dad may have been stupid but he wasn't like, a piece of shit for fun.

anyway the whole situation has been incredibly exhausting and I get the feeling the paperwork has only just begun. in my defense I've never had to deal with the legal side of somebody dying before, so I'll fully admit I don't know what I'm doing lol. thanks for the feedback, I'll probably leave this account up for like a month or something if anybody has further questions and/or advice.

@am-i-the-asshole-official

here's a wild one for y'all. cw for parental death. names have been changed, it is a kinda specific situation but I think only 1 of my family members is on Tumblr so whatever. sorry it got so long, it's a complicated situation and still VERY fresh so my brain is kinda fried lol.

tldr my dad passed away without a will and we want to give his long-distance "side" gf the house he helped her buy. I'm worried she won't be able to afford the mortgage, but don't really want to give her any of the monetary payouts. WIBTA if my brothers and I kept all of the cash?

so late last week (it's Dec 19 as of submitting) my father (60s M) passed away in a sudden car accident on his way to work. I'm (late 20s ftM) his oldest child, I also have a younger brother (mid 20s M) who we'll call Phineas and an even younger half-brother (almost tween, M) who we'll call Aaron.

so I'd describe my dad as a kind and loving but stubborn and stupid man. I would also guess, based on what I know of his love life, that he was polyamorous but didn't realize it due to his conservative Christian upbringing and didn't know it was an option so instead ended up being...well, kinda an adulterer tbh. this isn't to excuse his actual actions bc they were obviously wrong, but is the way the situation reads to me, a polyamorous person.

Dad had a long distance girlfriend (50s??? maybe??? F) on the West Coast (we live near the East Coast), we'll call her Melody. I met her a few years back when he flew Phineas and I with him to visit her. she's a sweet woman from what I know of her. when I got the news of his passing, I was the one who called her to let her know what happened. (which sucked.)

well, what I Didn't know until I was trying to scrape together travel arrangements (I live 5 hours away from Phineas and my dad) was that he also had a Wife (60sF), who we'll call Patricia. (it wasn't a legal marriage, it was "in the eyes of the Lord" as they said, due to legal complications to do with her social security benefits or something. which is why the arrangements for his death fell onto Phineas and I as his adult children. but if he called her his wife then as far as I'm concerned that's what she is.) he didn't really tell me or Phineas about the full nature of their relationship. Phineas found out bc our dad was spending so much time with her that he'd practically moved in w her, put two and two together and asked her to confirm. I never even knew she existed till all this happened. he had told his parents and siblings about her, and they approved of her. we can only speculate why he kept it so quiet to us, she thinks bc of his history with Real Duds that we'd be upset somehow. idk.

so anyway Patricia knew about Melody. my dad was already seeing Melody when he started seeing Patricia. I don't know what he was thinking when he got with Patricia tbh, can't ask him now anyway, but she knew about Melody the whole time. wasn't thrilled about it, constantly told him he needed to tell her the truth and end things, but doesn't truly hold that against Melody herself bc she didn't know.

Melody, however, did not know about Patricia. he was planning to tell her at some point. kept meaning to. still loved her, didn't wanna hurt her, but was also trying to be monogamously committed to Patricia too. he never got around to actually ending things with Melody before he passed, and as far as she knew he was still planning to move out there and get married to her. he even took out a loan to help her pay for her late mother's house, both their names are on the mortgage and deed.

which brings me to my question. my dad didn't seem to have a will (not that we can find anyway), so Phineas and I are the ones in charge of distributing his various belongings and payouts and such. we both agree that we don't have any use for some house across the country, and Melody is already living in it anyway. imo she should just Have It. however, she is also Pretty Poor. I don't know the specifics of her situation (or, really, much about the complications of home ownership?) but I do worry about her ability to continue to pay the mortgage, assuming that's a thing. we're still waiting to hear about all the details and numbers and have somebody who actually knows about that stuff translate it into layman's terms for us non-homeowners (or in Phineas's case, Brand New Homeowner) so we can get a full picture of how all that is going to work legally speaking.

Dad also had life insurance thru his employer. we are still working thru the red tape at his company to figure out who the beneficiary is, the most likely candidate being me as the eldest child. Phineas and I are agreed that we'll at least be splitting most, if not all, the money evenly between us and Aaron. Patricia is INSISTENT that she doesn't want any of it, she wants us kids to keep it bc unlike some of his exes she never cared about his money (he made GOOD money, but still ended up kinda poor due to both being generous to, and having been taken advantage of by, multiple women since my bio mom died. including having to shell out an insane amount of child support for Aaron despite already having a very active role in his life. like he paid more child support than either I or my fiancee even make at our jobs, while also frequently just straight up directly providing for him where he could). because of his income it's looking like a pretty hefty payout.

however, my brother and I are both pretty poor as well. while we don't know the exact amount we're getting, some are speculating a number that, even split 3 ways, would be Life-Changing for us. we're talking 5 figure amounts, more than I or my fiancee make in a year. like we'll still need to work for a living but, for example, it could be a down-payment on a house or a massive safety net for when I'm out of work (I have a steady job but with seasonal unpaid breaks). it could help Phineas afford expensive repairs for the trailer he now owns, which my dad was supposed to help pay for. in the right account with a decent interest rate, it could be tuition for when Aaron goes to college.

I feel like I Should probably toss some of that money Melody's way, esp since I feel so bad that she's getting the one-two punch of finding out her bf died AND also he had a wife she wasn't aware of. but my brothers and I could really use that money as well. I don't know that Phineas wants to send her any, we're saving that conversation for when we know more of the exact numbers. I don't even know how much Dad was paying towards it, or if he even was anymore. plus--and this is kinda a minor detail--but there's kind of a general vibe I'm getting from the Family (ALL 4 of my dad's siblings AND both his parents are somehow still alive) that Melody is kinda...unliked. they love Patricia and were CONSTANTLY frustrated that he was still visiting Melody and frequently sending her money; I get the feeling they viewed her the same as some of his other gold-digging exes so i think maybe sending her Even More Money would look a little weird? like she's already getting full ownership of a house out of the deal. most of them are in agreement that Phineas and I are the ones who get the final say on the bulk of these decisions but they're...a little pushy anyway.

like I said, we don't know what any of the actual numbers look like AT ALL yet, so it might actually be fine. but WIBTA if we just left her the sole homeowner when she couldn't really afford it, and not send her any money? the consensus will probably show up too late to affect our decision but hey, figured the situation would make for a wild ride anyway (or maybe I just feel like that bc it has been for me LOL).

What are these acronyms?

[vesselofthebook]

everyone humor me and let me rave abt my pathology talk today

[cozycryptidcorner]

AhhHHHHHHHHHHHH so while I’m finishing one of my finals I had an epiphany (maybe not an entirely original one but the point is moot) about why GoT is a spectacular failure in my taste. My honors seminar is on medieval history and how GoT succeeded (and didn’t) in the historical sense and I was wracking my brain for something besides history to compare it to and I thought of the Witcher. Literally every single issue I have with GoT is handled so much more gracefully in the Witcher it’s fucking unbelievable.

There is rape, violence, and incest all in the Witcher, just like GoT, but the manner in which it is represented is far much more respectful and less for an exploitative show. Bc that’s what a lot of the later seasons (but not restrictively so) of GoT really hinge on: shock value. They show the gratuities rape and incest as some kind of spectacle to be ogled at in a voyeuristic sense rather than the despicable acts they are. The Witcher doesn’t show the rape and incest in the same open, pornographic displays as GoT does. And the main characters in the Witcher certainly do not partake in it, either (looking at Jaime from GoT here specifically). In fact, when Geralt is confronted with a victim, he’s disgusted on her behalf.

Idk the whole handling of GoT has always made me uncomfortable but the fact that another medieval fantasy show that also has opulent sex scenes and unhinged violence handled it all better proves it can be done, some people are just gross and lazy.

[c0rpseductor]

this is nothing bad its just me being a little bitchy? rude i guess? idk. im not trying to say anything bad about anyone im just trying to sort through some complicated feelings that have very little to do with this person and are not super charitable

anyway on my selfship account i am following someone who likes the moon knight guy(s) as, like, friends or something im not sure. recently a lot of people have been talking about episode 5 and they were like, upset about that episode and were just vaguely like “fuck you marvel for ep5″ so i decided to look up what exactly happened in it, and like

im not sure which part was most upsetting for them, but in regards to the abuse, i very much kind of felt like...”well, it’s a television show about someone with DID; the fact this character was horribly abused as a child ought to have been obvious from the jump.” 

which i get is kind of cruel of me, bc it’s still got to be a bummer for people who are attached to the character(s), and obviously watching it on tv instead of reading it as a recap it’s probably kind of upsetting and could activate PTSD symptoms if youve been treated that way. i also realize in some ways i’m very sensitive about child abuse but in others i’m incredibly desensitized, so my emotional perspective is usually not normal. but i really kind of feel like, why be mad? that’s obviously going to have been the case.

i guess given the context of everything they mightve been upset about steven (?) dying (??) but not marc (???) which. is more comprehensible to me. i don’t know why that was a writing choice though. it’s so utterly bizarre, especially for a show that otherwise seems fairly concerned with accuracy. but i would get being upset by that. actually i bet that’s why they were upset and not the fact that he was abused as a child. that’s just a given. i just never know sometimes, like i feel sometimes like people react with a lot more shock and surprise to child abuse than i’m used to bc as fucked up as it is i just like...idk it does upset me but usually it doesn’t shock me unless it’s really really far beyond egregious. like they said in the recap he was beaten by his mother and i just was like ok. (but i guess thats normal bc he’s not real and that’s barely anything to go on.)

i feel like kind of a jerk about being a little confused and conflicted about this and their love of the show. there’s a part of me that feels like having a big emotional reaction like shock to something like this or to my own abuse is, like, “soft” or otherwise kind of weak and embarrassing, but part of me feels kind of like, uncomfortably vulnerable at like, wondering what this acquaintance might think of me based on this tv show. i feel intensely uncomfortable when people express really effusive sympathy or like shock and horror when i relate any part of my abuse, which is more like gross and socially unacceptable to talk about, so it kind of concerns me even if i’ll never tell this person, like just hoping they wouldn’t also react to me with shock and horror.

once again, probably a moot point bc it makes WAY more sense to me to be upset a fictional character died than to be upset they were abused as a child, but with how popular moon knight is right now i feel kind of like nervous about the increased attention on DID. i don’t have an issue with the show or think it’s bad but the last thing i want is to feel like my life is somehow indirectly being exposed to marvel fans, and the fandomization of DID kind of terrifies me (i’ve seen people posting fanfic for “DID AUs” in the DID tag who don’t even have it, which made me so sick i had to go take a shower). i know the answer is to just ignore the show and not go digging around in the tags when there’s usually nothing of value to begin with but like. it’s rough out there lol

[jasperwhitcock]

the rules: tag five or more people that you are thankful for in your 2020, that you're thankful exists in a world that's hard to live in. whether that be through random reblogs on your posts, or people you have had full blown conversations with. whether it's just seeing them in your dash, or interacting with them.

here to be gross again & catch up on another tag game *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

tagged by the angel that is kate @leahclearwaterdefensesquad

i love talking to u all everyday hehehe y’all saved my 2020

@inthemiddleofmymidnight i love u sm kimmie. my first friend on here. 🥺 i am giggling thinking of how shy we were... can u believe we’ve been bffs for like ten months... how is that possible?? i’ve literally already poured my heart out to u like 5 times this month so imma just keep it as ilysm. u literally bring me joy

@bellaskhakis neighana 🐎 ilysm!! i love having u in my life. it’s like we’ve been friends forever. i’m lucky to have u to always keep me humble 😩 hehe i’m kidding but also to give me advice or just to listen or be there. ur wonderful & i can’t imagine this year without u

@the-golden-onion mads... ew i’m laughing at myself... the way literally every speech i’m making sounds like the most basic speech made at a wedding... i’m being SINCERE here it’s not my fault i love all of u 😭 ok but mads i ADORE u. u keep saying how we’re a light in ur life but ur for real a light in our lives. i love having someone i have so much in common w that i can freak out abt acnh or pll or harry potter or twilight or mythical creatures or cute animals or writing fanfics or WHATEVER. my life is sooo much better w u in it. i’m obsessed w u

@howlonghaveyoubeenseventeen emma EWWW not me TEARING up ew make it STOP! emma thank u sm for the absolutely like relentless positivity and love and support u give all of us. the way u choose kindness and optimism is literally inspiring. ur the most caring, sincere, sweetest person in the world & all of our lives are severely improved having u around. ur like our sister

@bellasredchevy kae i admire u SO much. i eat up anything u post or anything u say... ik i’ve said it before and i think it sounds like mega cheesy but i think u just carry urself w such grace & wisdom (im embarrassed to say this when like our relationship is founded on a mutual love of TWILIGHT like tf sdhfdjfhfj) but i rlly just think ur so smart and compassionate and so u have the BEST takes & it really reflects on how u view the world and i just appreciate the expectations u have for how people treat each other (again this sounds SOO weird LMAO) i love u ur literally a part of the reason i joined the renaissance

@teamjacobthot dij i love the energy u bring into my life. ur always honest and blunt and hilarious and understanding and i feel like u just see things for what they are which is refreshing considering i’m someone who overcomplicates things. ur so beautiful & talented & just the coolest. i just thought abt u saying “is this let it go” like 2 minutes into frozen and i’m dead 😭 ilysm and also keep forgetting to tell u but jesy leaving has plunged me right back into another little mix lewis and i am sooooo sad

@cullen-collective ok i just had a moment of panic bc thinking abt u singing reminded me that the ratatouille musical is STREAMING RN LIVE AND I FORGOT but anyways. kaity i keep saying it but ur voice has BLESSED our lives. grateful for all the beautiful singing snaps & also the snaps where ur just telling stories bc i love listening to u talk hehehe. ur the sweetest and so funny & i love ur passion

@paulxlahotee i LOOOOVE u i’m so obsessed w ur TALENT & i admire u soooo much. ur literal JOY and i am so happy that the four l*ko did not make u d word... at least i hope so... has anybody heard from michele today??? she still w us? 😩 ur beautiful and hilarious i’m so lucky to know u!!!

@kaquiche taryn ILYSM ur literally the first person i remember interacting w my blog... it’s been u & me from the beginning baby 😩 u make me laugh so much and i love that ur always down to clown. ur just so supportive and silly and cute and i love u ok all of my messages are sounding like i am dr*nk i just love y’all ok leave me alone. also i didn't even see ur message abt zoom last night and now i feel sad that we all abandoned u. i spent my near year w u in spirit

@phil-dwyer-stan-account addison my dream in life is literally to hang out w u and go to the hello kitty cafe and disneyland and to skip in a big field of wildflowers in cute dresses. i love u!!! ur a cute sweet hardworking angel who deserves soooo much!!

@volturialice g once again... i am truly ur FAN i’m a volturialice STAN. ur one of my absolute FAVE blogs. i think ur genius & feel ~honored~ to be friends hehehe

@anagonyeet / @sethrights ama i love u so much i’m truly so grateful we became friends!! i’m so happy we’ve kept contact bc ur the sweetest, most supportive, and caring friend. i can’t believe u show up to support all my endeavors sdfhdghjkf. my fave follower on my animal crossing ig account hehehe

@leahclearwaterdefensesquad kate thank u for the tag!! ur so wonderful & i so appreciate all the leah content & that u think of me so often for tag games!! ily

and a thank u & i love u to all the blogs that are sweet friends of mine or post content i love & admire – @kellythepitiablefangirl (ur so talented... i adore ur art) @iknowyouloveme-thanks (u consistently make me laugh w ur posts) @renegadepack (thank u for the wolf pack content & also ur resource post... i’ve linked it a million times) @edwardsvirginity (another blog that made me join the renaissance bc i loved their posts) @edytheelizabethcullen (the SWEETEST angel ilysm) @rosaalee (ur moodboards are everything) @bellas-dumptruck-ass (funny & lovely & the best url) @emmettmc-heart-y (the KINDEST soul) @carllisle (happy every time i see ur url in my noties) @notquitetwilight (current god of the renaissance) @panlight (the funniest... thankful for keeping up w the cullens every day) @cockmcstuffins (the most iconic) @influenzabella (an absolute cutie) @witchyangela (elle is also an angel who provides the wolfpack content that we need) @angelasglasses (a sweetheart)

& all my moots!! i wish u all the happiest 2021 ♡♡♡