#femistism

[i-looove-dillydallying]

Yeah yeah it’s cool that men are allowed to wear make-up now, but can we finally allow women to stop wearing make-up? Or is that side of the coin not profitable enough

[separatismus]

Boys become men to escape being victims by definition. Girls would become men if girls could, because it would mean freedom from: freedom from rape most of the time; freedom from continuous petty insult and violent devaluation of self; freedom from debilitating economic and emotional dependence on someone else; freedom from the male aggression channeled against women in intimacy and throughout the culture.

Pornography: Men Possessing Women by Andrea Dworkin.

[ghost-avian]

reaction is the tendency of ideologies to create more and more weird cops in the believer's heads. i think im onto something

[brasskingfisher]

Feminism is not for equality it’s for women and you seem like you don’t know anything if you don’t even know that the man who created the term trans and cis was a pedophile go fucking kill yourself creep

You and the rest of the world obviously have a VERY different definition of feminism. From Wikipedia:

Feminism is a range of socio-political movements and ideologies that aim to define and establish the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes.

From encyclopedia Britainica:

feminism, the belief in social, economic, and political equality of the sexes.

From the OED:

Advocacy of equality of the sexes

As for your claim that the creator of the terms cis and trans is a paedophile, the only source I seem able to find is a TERF/openly transphobic "news" website that makes that claim on the basis that the psychologist who coined the terms "Cisgender" and "Transgender" ("Cissexual" and "Transsexual" are actually much older terms) also wrote a paper proposing the idea that paedophilia is a form of paraphilia. Which although controversial is somewhat accepted by psychologists in efforts to explore methods of preventing sexual abuse.

That also completely ignores the etymology of the prefixes 'cis' and 'trans'. So I'd suggest actually researching what you're claiming before you start suibaiting strangers on the Internet.

[theboyonthehighcastle]

YES. IF YOU WANT TO FIGHT FOR SOMETHING MAKE SURE ALL BENEFIT FROM IT. THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU.

I'm sorry to see that some (feminist) people still believe that Amber was sexually assaulted by Johnny. If feminism wants gender equality, why are there people who do not want to support men's rights? It's bewildering.

Emma Watson once said: “For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes”. We need more people who support women and men's rights because both can be victims.

[zvtara-was-never-canon]

Noticed something about zutarians: for people who claim to be "THE femist ship" they spend too much time praising Zuko for doing chores, being empathetic, supporting women and other stuff he didn't really do in canon all that much.

Like, feminists would consider these a basic level that any normal person, man or woman, should do for their own's sake without any praise. Oohing and aahing "look, he spends time with his own child!", "oh, you washed the dishes, my hero!", "where would I have been if you didn't do the laundry, my knight in shining armor, you really are a savior!" is... very sexist, actually! And zutarians do just that. It’s not enough for them to write him doing chores, they have to emphasize this, compare him to Aang/Sokka/anyone else who of course doesn’t do chores (because no one except Katara and Zuko ever does anything chorelike in these fics it seems), or just outright praise him for that.

Of course, zutara never was a feminist ship, so my observation doesn't add anything new. I understand that zutara kinda fits "female gaze" or whatever, though, it's a women's dream about a perfect partner, which is totally fine by itself – it just has nothing to do with Zuko (and, dare I say, Katara – I doubt she would be so ecstatic about a guy doing "women's chores", she is used to dividing the work around camp and takes it for granted). And that's why I cannot read even relatively harmless zutara fluff – it very often is very focused on this exact subject. I like Zuko for who he is and the truth is 1) he's flawed even after his redemption and 2) a huge part of how he sees himself is his prince title. Nothing of it matches zutara fantasy of a male housewife, so they have a whole other character named Zuko to fit into their imagination land, and I just have no interest in that.

I'm still impressed by that one fic (not in English) where Fantara was 100% sure that Fanfic-Firelord-Zuko will never ever "force any hapless woman" to take care of his newborn daughter (as opposed to her awful, awful husband, Fanfic-Aang who can't even feed his son, who's still eating only breast milk, for several days while Fantara decided to be away). Sure, girl, he's a fucking ruler, he has a whole country to think about, tons of very important shit to do every single day, a full palace of servants, of course he will always personally change diapers, no doubt. I bet he'll even do all the breastfeeding by himself, since his wife died at childbirth and forcing other women is out of the question.

I'm bitter now, and maybe taking it too far but what if – just "what if" – there are very few people who actually ship Katara and Zuko? Because it seems that most content creators in zutara fandom actually ship their two OCs who are very loosely based on these two characters (but don't I dare tell it to their faces, haha, they are under impression that their image of Zuko and Katara is somehow the only correct one).

Just one little disagreement: Zutara doesn't fit the Female Gaze because there's no such thing in the first place. There's not a single trope, way to direct a scene, or romance formula that universally appeals to women, and the same thing can appeal to different women for radically different reasons.

"Male Gaze" and "Female Gaze" were supposed to be a way to point out sexism (and sometimes straight up abuse) in film-making, but it honest God became some bullshit gender-essentialism nonsense REALLY fast. We gotta let that "That is for boys, this is for girls" mentality die.

Aang does chores with Katara. That is completely irrelevant to me shipping Kataang. Aang is not sexist. That doesn't even reach my top 50 reasons to love him as a character. Aang does a lot of things that don't match the idea I was raised to have of a "manly man" and I could not give less of fuck about it. It doesn't bother me, but doesn't particularly appeal to me either.

But for lots of people that is HUGE and some of the main reasons why they love his character and his romance with Katara. And notice I said people, not women.

I like plenty of enemies-to-lovers ships - I don't relate to a single meta/analysis I've ever seen of "Why women like bad boys/enemies to lovers/redeemed villains so much." It all rang hollow to me. But to plenty of women it hits the nail right on the head.

Hell, 50 Shades of Grey is a "romance/erotica" full of accidental misogyny, abuse-apologism, and slut-shaming yet the fanbase is 90% women from all kinds of demographics, and the main thing they praise about these goddamn books/movies is that it did NOT make them feel like they should be ashamed of wanting to have kinky sex with a hot guy.

The Female Gaze isn't real.

[theblueprincess590]

Femist icon

[bupsafr3ak]

Transfemism

[trans-femism]

It is a term, or individual who thinks they should be / identifies themselves as someone femist, someone who follows the ideology that preaches the superiority of the female gender over the male. coined by me

(femism its NOT feminism)

[ichhabdichvermisst]

lmfao femist king (oder so)

[lostryu]

You can tell when someone has never spoken to a lesbian ever. Like for starters, Sappho was not “the first lesbian” we existed before Sappho. Sappho just happened to be preserved in history via her famous poetry.

Second off, if she was actually bisexual, she was not a lesbian. Lesbians and Bisexuals are not the same. Our experiences can have some overlap, so thus wlw/nblw have an coined an umbrella term of (get this) Sapphic.

Like for real you guys genuinely hate lesbians and bisexuals. You mix us together cause it’s more ‘convenient’ for you to not have to actually learn the difference. You rewrite our history to suit your need to stroke your ego. You have clearly never read the lesbian or bisexual manifesto, or any femist book ever. You guys are a joke becuase your ignorance is so palpable.

[slugpatient]

i want to make sure you know that radfem is based in transphobia against trans women and trans people in general in case you didn’t know that. if you do know that please block me as i’m a trans man and i don’t want transphobes following me :)

In a few words, it is possible to refute this misinformation spread in the Radfem environment.

With small topics we can start with:

What is radfem or what it means? Radical feminism is a perspective within feminism that proposes a radical reordering of society in which male supremacy is eliminated in all social and economic contexts.

This current emerged between the 60s and 70s and argues that the root — where the word radical comes from — of all oppression is patriarchy.

Radfem ITSELF is not transphobic and DOES NOT HAVE transphobic roots, but the women within it have distorted its meaning so much that we ended up being mistaken for femists.

As proof we have the radical lesbofeminist movement itself, Lavender Menace.

In 1970, Lavender Menace, later Radicalesbians, organized the Lavender Menace zap of the Second Congress to Unite Women. Martha Shelley played an instrumental role in the zap itself, and some have claimed she assisted in the writing of the Radicalesbians manifesto, "The Woman-Identified Woman", which introduced "women-identified" and "male-identified" terminology to the lesbian feminist discourse community.

Feminism is a movement that fights for social equality and rights for women and seeks to combat the social model based on patriarchy and abuse and violence against women. At no point do movements revolve around social genders or biological sexes, this is not the objective of feminism (in general)!

Any ideology that seeks to superiorize female biological SEX is no longer feminism, we want equality and not superiority.

Radfem is not against trans people, the femists who hide here are.

- ♨️

[the-forest-library]

March 2023 Reads

The Neighbor Favor - Kristina Forest

The Love Wager - Lynn Painter

Witcha Gonna Do? - Avery Flynn

A Witch’s Guide to Fake Dating a Demon - Sarah Hawley

The Librarian of Crooked Lane - C.J. Archer

The Secret Lives of Country Gentlemen - K.J. Charles

Of Manners and Murder - Anastasia Hastings

To Say Nothing of the Dog - Connie Willis

The Lives of Christopher Chant - Diana Wynne Jones

Royal Blood - Aimee Carter

Missing Clarissa - Ripley Jones

Kill Joy - Holly Jackson

Home Field Advantage - Dahlia Adler

Begin Again - Emma Lord

Free Radicals - Lila Riesen

The Headmaster’s List - Melissa de la Cruz

The Magic Fish - Trung Le Nguyen

She-Hulk, Vol 1: Jen, Again: Rainbow Rowell

Enchantment - Katherine May

What Looks Like Bravery - Laurel Braitman

Forager - Michelle Dowd

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? - Julie Smith

Glow in the F*cking Dark - Tara Schuster

Dear Dolly - Dolly Alderton

We Should Not Be Friends - Will Schwalbe

It’s OK to Be Angry About Capitalism - Bernie Sanders

Con/Artist - Tony Tetro

The Polyvagal Theory - Stephen W. Porges

The Way Out - Alan Gordon, Alon Ziv

Financial Femist - Tori Dunlap

Peak Mind - Amish P. Jha

Sex Talks - Vanessa Marin

Come as You Are - Emily Nagasaki

What’s Eating Us - Cole Kazdin

Plant-Based on a Budget Quick & Easy - Toni Okamoto

Dinner in One - Melissa Clark 

Bold = Highly Recommend Italics = Worth It Crossed out = Nope

Thoughts:

A really solid month, especially for non-fiction reads. 

Goodreads Goal: 103/400

2017 Reads | 2018 Reads | 2019 Reads | 2020 Reads | 2021 Reads |

2022 Reads | 2023 Reads

[potatotalksculture]

Potato Tweet: Praise to Broey Deschanel for criticizing the “women monologue” from the Barbie movie. Yes, it is an important piece of the movie and yes, it has moved a lot of people to reflect upon women’s situation in a patriarchal society. BUT ALSO it is flat! It’s a distillate of a lot of pop femist slogans that create snaps. It’s good and it’s flat at the same time.

[brasskingfisher]

Terrible radfem takes..

As much as I'm getting used to the inability of people online to engage in any form of critical thinking, there's a noticable trend in the radfem posts the algorithm keeps suggesting as something I'd be interested in.

Honestly, 90%+ of these radfems (even the non-TERFy ones) just make it obvious they don't know what they're talking about, and when you stop to think about what they're saying, you realise how little they actually care for women's rights, or anything that could actually be considered feminism. These people aren't interested in gender equality, or even women's liberation, they're trying to enforce a hegemony of their own social philosophy wherein men are mindless violent sex pests and women are either faultless and virtuous crusaders or brainwashed idiots.

[sc0tters]

https://www.tumblr.com/sc0tters/746478581921857536/i-have-an-age-gap-fic-idea-that-i-usually-love

SID PLEASEEEEEEEEEE

I might give Matt the Hozier song one but you know the one olivia rodrigo unreleased song (where it is like I'm a femist obviously, but I wouldn't really mind him saving me?) maybe we give that age gap fic to Sid? Or maybe the other way around?

[dbssh]

What are your pet peeves about female characters?

none women can do no wrong #yuri #femist #pridemonth