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By feels.wav.e

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We can't all be activists. We can't all be fighters. We can't all be healers. We can't all be eloquent. We can't all have the bandwidth. We can't all be unbiased. We can't all be blind to the stories or the feelings.

We can't all be exactly the same and feel exactly the same having grown up in such different environments.

I'm so sad when I read these people. I'm so sad when I read all of this determination for things they barely understand. So sad to see how they get caught up in movements, temporary movements, while these and similar injustices happen, have been happening, and will continue to happen on the daily everywhere around the world.

If you so easily understand there's a spectrum for sexuality, why can't you understand there's a spectrum for humanity too. For what's moral and ethical. For what's close to your heart and what isn't. For what you can handle and what you cannot. There's a reason some people are firefighters, medical professionals, soldiers. And others aren't.

We can't all be the same. And you can be what you need to be right now. And not what they want you to or need you to be. Only you know what that is.

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I am very tired of how separatist discourse makes people create this whole evil entity out of thousands of individual, separate statements, it takes groups and mobs and homogenizes them, dehumanizes them and encourages more of it by giving shelter and validating anyone feeling attacked by the "opposite group of opinions".

So tired of hearing "they say and do this and that" when no they don't. One person says this, another person does that. One thing is not as offensive as the next. One belief is maybe not held as strongly as the next. They're not a huge mob of people that behave in the same way, but separate statements coming from separate contexts all responding to the same sentiment: hate, sorrow, fear, disgust, frustration.

This is so important, this distinction. Before you think all is lost and before getting ready to spew more of that sentiment in all directions, know that you're immediately generalizing. Know that generalizing kills the truth and acknowledge you're being careless with your words. You are allowed to do so, in fact you are still human and prone to trying to make sense of chaos, but do acknowledge this for your own mental health.

If you choose to identify and participate with any sort of group may it be based on encouraging the types of attitudes that spread compassion and not on dumping your frustrations on the attitudes you hate.

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“I don’t try to shut things out, because I don’t think that works very well. I prefer to let things come on in and do whatever its going to do and then leave. If a big wave is coming at you, you’re gonna get wet. You can either withdraw into a little shell and pretend that you’re not getting wet, or you can just get wet and dry off. That’s a corny metaphor, I guess, but that’s how I deal with things I don’t like. I outlive them.”

- Elliott Smith

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A part of me dies

to make room for

a new part of me

that will be cut off me.

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“I’m the worst”

People out there be telling you to put up with their negative behavior, for no reason at all, other than the fact that you’re supposedly “friends”.

I’m sure you’ve heard it before: “I’m the worst friend”, “That’s just how I am”, “You have to love me the way I am”, “I do this to everyone, not just you”

• If I was your friend, I would make space for you in the relationship.

• I would make sure your friend-needs are being met, and step down when I can’t fulfill them. I wouldn’t over-promise what I can’t do.

• I would push you to do better.

• I would try and figure out if I’m making you feel uncomfortable.

• I would check my own behavior so that you don’t have to check it for me.

What kind of friendship treats you as a wall, a therapist, a journal, a personal assistant, or even a parent? A toxic one. None of those things are your friends’ responsibility. They’re your own. And guilting them into fulfilling any of these for you is irresponsable and disrespectful.

It will hurt, but that’s the truth. That’s the reason you say you “can’t trust anyone”, or that “you don’t have any friends left”. It’s because you don’t take care of them, because you can’t even take care of yourself.

Start there. Start with yourself. All other relationships follow after that.

Everyone is carrying a burden they want to make lighter, not just you. Hoping the rest of the world will somehow put up with your mindless behavior is just asking to be let down and dumped, over and over again. You have to show up and take responsibility for who you are, instead of making or hoping others will do it for you. No one wants to do that willingly. They do it out of the goodness of their hearts, or out of guilt. There’s no love in guilt or pity.

Seek better relationships. Be a better friend yourself. And if you ask for help, be damned ready to listen.

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by feels.wav.e

@feelswave on IG + TW

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Have you missed me? Ha! I’m back with a podcast, let me know what you think. It’s a bit like a manifesto of what’s to come. I don’t even know what’s to come, so join me on this inconsistent journey!

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The darkness is vast and the feelings tender

To the touch.

I get lost in dizzy spells

And my sheets swallow me whole

Don't have them. If you don't want them, don't have them, definitely.

The weight of expectation is not as heavy as the weight of carrying it alone

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I think it's adorable how many people are taking classic sayings and phrases absolutely LITERALLY and trying to prove them wrong or rewrite them in some way, as if the previous meaning (that they personally interpreted) was wrong and detrimental to begin with.

Then someone has to step in and explain it to them... Explain how the wisdom found in these phrases is IMPLIED, how a short saying isn't meant to tell you literally what and how to do something or what's right and what's wrong.

Wisdom finds you eventually. You hear one of these phrases and you keep it with you for years, until you figure out what they really mean. Until you figure out why it was shortened in the first place, summarized in a simple way that will get you to think. To think and remember. That's what they're about. They're bits of wisdom to take with you until they make sense. They're not meant to hurt you. They can't hurt you. They're meant to make you think. And if some of them make you think more than others, to the extent of making you angry at them... then maybe that's something you're personally struggling with. Not really the fault of the saying itself... More like, the saying got you thinking.

That's what it's about anyway.

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Si hay algo que nadie me puede quitar

Es que siempre fui honesta

Con lo que sentí

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The night opens up once more

And finds me laying between twists and turns

What I do not hold while awake

Haunts me as I sleep

And finds me in this cycle

Where colors get mixed

And interpretation muddled

As I try to muster a pinch of strength

To help me front tomorrow

Or find some rest tonight

But seldom both

Seldom both