#exclusionists need a lot of help

[mewos-laptop]

I wanna talk abt smth that rlly bothers me, so I'm gonna put it under the cut bc as per usual I'm going to be VERY OPINIONATED and will absolutely not word this kindly. This is my space to be as angry as I want and I will not tolerate anyone telling me I'm being too mean abt this.

Tw for discussion of transmasc erasure and my own experiences with it, mentions of trauma, romance and dating, and me venting.

TERFS and transmasc exclusionists FUCK OFF. I will not hesitate to say VILE SHIT abt you if you comment bullshit on this. /srs

So, I'm transmasc, but generally use the term transmasc and trans man interchangeably for myself irl, bc describing myself as a boy is far easier.

I used to be dating this girl, and she was. A real piece of work /neg, but that's a whole other story. While we were dating she wld CONSTANTLY talk abt how "I wld NEVERRR date a cis man, cis men are SOOOOO GROSSSSS and traumatizing, oh but dw I still think trans men are men", and mind you, she was AWARE that I am a boy. After we broke up, she came out as a lesbian.

If I'm gonna be 100% honest, I see shit like this ALL THE TIME in the queer community at large as well, and it REALLY feels misgendering to me.

Whenever I see sum1 talking abt how gross and disgusting and traumatizing cis men are, but double back and then say "oh well not trans men tho" it makes me feel like less of a boy if that makes sense.

I know that people have been fear-mongered into never trusting cis men specifically, but I just can't help but feel like they're downplaying MY identity as a boy, and saying that I'm "less of a boy" compared to cis guys.

"Oh yeah I only hang out w/ girls and trans men" why are you grouping me in with people who I clearly have expressed I am not a part of ? And why do you express disgust at masculine features *I* want to have ?

Is it because you actually don't think I'm a boy, and you think you're allowed to just disregard my identity because I don't look like a boy ? Because if so, you're a real fucking awful trans ally.

I'm so fucking sick of seeing this mentality expressed within the queer community and within MY OWN RELATIONSHIPS. I'm not a fucking commodity for you, I'm not "less of a guy", I'm not a they/them user.

I'm really fucking tired of being feminized by my OWN COMMUNITY, a lot of the time by OTHER TRANS PEOPLE, for the sake of THEIR OWN FEELINGS.

I'm gonna be honest rn, if you decide you can change my identity as a boy for your feelings, then I don't give a shit abt your feelings. If you decide that you can make me into "girl who wants to pretend to be a boy" then I'm going to tell you that your trauma is getting in the fucking way of your relationships and either YOU need to deal with it, or you need to get out of my life.

I don't care abt your trauma with men if it means you're going to decide I'M not a boy.

[sophieinwonderland]

The fact that people are already getting outraged about me comparing sysmeds to Trump supporters really proves my point about double standards in syscourse.

"How dare you point out similarities in groups who hate different marginalized communities? This is disgusting!"

Meanwhile, sysmeds will just casually tell us to kill ourselves for being an endogenic system.

Now that the election is over and I don't have to worry about what I say discouraging any of my followers from voting, let's acknowledge for real that the idea that everyone on the Left is more enlightened and less hateful towards marginalized people is a lie.

A lot of them didn't stop hating marginalized people. They just made sure to direct the hate towards smaller groups of marginalized people.

Often, in their very own communities. Yes, I am talking about sysmeds. But I'm also talking about transmeds. I'm talking about ace exclusionists. About transphobic radfems.

Like, gods, do you people just NEED to have a less powerful group to pick on THAT BADLY? Do you genuinely not see how you are doing the same exact things as the people who discriminate against you?

Do you think you're better than them just because you've managed to carve out more acceptable targets?

Here's a shoutout to the radfems who backed transphobic talking points and helped make sure women across the country won't be able to get an abortion. And here's to the transmeds and queer exclusionists who have encouraged constant infighting in queer communities, making it more difficult to mobilize against actual threats! The ones who want acceptance for queer people... but only the right kind of queer people. 🙄

Are these groups the reason why the election was lost? Probably not.

But their hate... that's the same. It's coming from the same place.

I realize this isn't some new brilliant observation either. It's the entire basis behind the "leftism leaving people's body" memes.

But I just needed to say this.

If we want a more inclusive world, it needs to be more inclusive for everyone.

[kaleidescopeghost]

Hey with the stuff on womanism, why do you think those like 2-3 white folks were say hating? On the black community, from what I saw they saw a word they never read before and were confused. Instead of educating people told them to choke and die which I don’t think helped anyone out

Well, I don't think those folks were intentionally hating on specifically the Black community as a whole, but they were definitely hating on the term Womanism (simply for,, sounding Black and being a term they never heard before, even if they didn't realize that was Why the term sounded so strange and unnecessary to them) ((probably bc they don't ever actually Talk to Black people tbh)).

However, that being said, it was Not just a case of innocent ignorance, they weren't Just Confused, they were incredibly rude and that's a Major distinction that needs to be acknowledged--Even the people who looked it up on a very surface level immediately agreed with the people who had No clue what it was Stupid and basically pointless, which was just ignorant and rude even when read with good faith. They looked at this term that wasn't theirs, wasn't even About them, and started piling up on this one Black person for calling them out on their aggressive and willfully ignorant behavior (one of those people being an open LGBTQIA+ exclusionist who has a long ass post with the phrase "inclusion is harmful" in it and the Context being they believe the queer community should be, well. Just LGBT, and they consider Q+ folk to be just,, inherently invalid which is Just nasty behavior that I want to mention because it matters who says what and what they believe in conversations like these).

Frankly, I don't mind educating. I'm very used to it and I'm good at what I do-- but this Black person showed discomfort and distress because these folks were just. Attacking a movement that is Important To Black People and Other People Of Color, and they were met with "Just Educate These Adults!!!" "Do you get mad when Literal Children don't know things?? Do you tell them to die when they have Questions???" "People don't know keywords to search for!!" And pushing all this blame for the situation on this person which wasn't fair because truthfully we live in the Internet age and marginalized communities don't Owe anyone a calm, polite, collected, gentle education when those same people are calling shit they don't even understand stupid just for existing, especially when it's culturally relevant, and we're Especially allowed to get mad about the way these people can just Say Whatever and immediately get backed up when they were just incredibly rude for no reason-- we're allowed to get rude back too! :') in all honesty, it was the call out and the disapproval that Was the education ( the lesson being What They Said Was Bad! And that they needed to go give themselves some reeducation bc their ignorance is leading them to say harmful things). It can be a tough pill to swallow, especially when you don't know the gravity of what you're even saying and then being met with harsh rejection, but the only reason that happened was because these folks looked at "Feminism But Black Inclusive" and immediately was like "this is the stupidest thing I've ever heard or seen" 😭 and they Swarmed and Ganged Up On the first person who called them out. Not okay behavior. We're not going to be nice to people who can't A.) genuinely just look things up. If you look up Womanism, you'll see your search engine literally Gives You key terms to help you in your research. And B.) be open minded and calm when hearing Black terms.

We just can't constantly sacrifice our health for these people, because it is genuinely a lot of work and pressure we're expected to just Offer Up at any time simply Because we are Black and just magically know everything and are now also expected to be spokespeople for our entire race which is unfair.

So yeah, I don't think it was completely unfair that this Black person was mad. They used ways of expressing that in a way I wouldn't have, but I'm very much against the idea that Black people need to be Perfect, Articulate, and Polite to people who are aggressors and who speak ignorance. It might not seem like it to someone who doesn't know what Womanism is, but those people dropped the ball in a Major Way. You can't just trigger marginalized people like that and expect a kind, specifically catered education from strangers just because You don't know something-- sometimes you say something fucked up and people yell at you and everybody should be able to learn from their mistakes in these scenarios.

(also, it could be the autism, but they weren't telling people explicitly to die :') just to choke lol in my mind people can survive choking lol + the whole reason it was said was to be like "you might as well be physically unable to speak because I don't care what you have to say here". Like I said, not the way I choose to express myself personally, but I get why it happened and I don't think they deserve crucifixion about it and I Definitely don't think their anger invalidates them at all.)

TLDR:

BIPOC, Especially Black people do not owe anybody an education. We're just people and it's really strange we're expected to be polite teachers in the face of ignorance and aggression.

Those people were willfully ignorant, called the wrong thing stupid, and then got yelled at by people who belong to a marginalized demographic where that word really matters to them. It's not nice, but it is fair.

It shouldn't be our cross to bear, to educate people who act like this, simply because we were born Black or otherwise POC. Honestly, a lot of the stuff we know, we know because we had to educate ourselves using the same internet we're asking them to use but during our time, there were way less resources. To us, it very much is a matter of needing these people to Want to put in their Own work on their Own time, using the resources that already exist. There's loads of BIPOC authors, journalists, and creators who talk loads about this stuff, and the learning process is kind of like math in the way you can't always just be given information plain and simple on a silver plate without a Lot of other context. Which is also why we have such an emphasis on educating yourself. All you gotta do, essentially, is check Who is writing what you're reading and cross reference different material to make sure you're getting a well rounded understanding of what the general consensus of the community is. I literally used a Britannica article to brush up on my knowledge before posting and it wasn't hard to find :") the article wasn't even written by a Black Person from what I can gather.

This might not be the answer you want, but I trust you to see how these people expecting an education from random Black folk They upset is presumptuous and a bit entitled. She didn't owe anybody any sort of gentleness in this situation, even if she said some mean stuff. It wasn't nice, but neither were they and the whole situation could've been avoided by Them looking things up for themselves before calling something that was heavily implied to be influenced by race stupid. It sucks for people who just Don't Know Shit, but BIPOC aren't obligated to be helpful to people who Already aren't putting in the work.

But the good thing is that there Are loads of preexisting resources from willing professionals from all across the world and all across time who are respected that teach you everything you need to know that are Free and At y'all's finger tips. Y'all just gotta look. The reason we're oftentimes so frustrated is because We also did the same research because we cared about learning this stuff, so we Know if these people cared, they'd do the same thing.

Okay! Very long post lol but I'm done now! I am still open to further questions and clarification but I hope this was helpful. We're all just people in the world, and we're all just learning, but it's good to practice just. Being polite and looking before you leap 😅 because the initial thing that started this whole mess was people saying some really rude stuff about something that means a Lot to us culturally as Black people.

[mogai-sunflowers]

most exclusionists have probably never had to ACTUALLY struggle to figure out their identity. like, i mean ACTUALLY struggle. not just being a little confused for a little while but figuring it out without much pain or hassle and after that point not really questioning again. and it fucking shows.

like oh i’m so sorry you spent a month slightly confused over your sexuality or gender, but then you figured it out and that was that. so now you think you’re the fucking end all be all of the queer experience and expect it to be that fucking easy for everyone. good for fucking you.

every night for four years, i was up agonizing over my sexuality. a lot of the times it was so painful i couldn’t breathe, just had to fucking keep going feeling like there was no end in sight to the NOT KNOWING. and some of y’all will truly never ever understand what that feels like but instead of acknowledging that you act like it should just be fucking easy for us.

5 years later, i’m not actually that much closer to figuring any of it out. but i’ve never been happier. you know what helped me get there? realizing that my worth is not dependent upon whether or not i have myself figured out, that i don’t need to have myself figured out in order to move forward with my life. and then, fucking THEN, gender came into the picture and sometimes i feel like i’m right back where i started.

last night, when i was outed to my mom, she was more accepting of my gender identity than most of the people in this “community”. my 60 year old mother who got confused when i said i thought i was a boy because “i thought you were asexual”, still managed to be more comforting and supportive of my journey with gender and sexuality, than any of the exclusionists who’ve come for me on here. my mother, who doesn’t know the difference between a trans man and a trans woman, still was able to tell me that my soul doesn’t change just because my gender might and that i have time to figure it out and don’t need to rush myself, whereas i’ve had hundreds of OTHER QUEER PEOPLE tell me to kill myself for being bi and a lesbian and a boy.

so fuck you. fuck you if you think that you know more about me than i do. fuck you if you think those years i spent in constant questioning agony, don’t matter because i just have to use the definition that makes everyone else comfortable. fuck your exclusionism, fuck your gatekeeping, fuck you forever.

[kamil-a]

if influencer speaker au had tumblr part 2

part 1

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how i look with he/him in my bio

#speakerai #iamspeaker #speakies #.txt #am i funny #i know speakers not he/him in bio but i am and yknow the meme

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AItube youtube essay rec list

"cute robot puppers, friendly ai vtubers, and the incredible human ability to form bonds" - rly interesting video about why we can connect so much with a person that we know "isnt real" and how it'll help us when we get far enough going to space that we meet aliens! it's a really optimistic video it made me take a moment to have such love for humanity

"I joined the speakcord for a month. Here's what I learned." - video about the speaker fandom and how the way automoderation works in its community spaces unintentionally leads to escalating conflicts, and the psychology behind why people in celebrity or idol fandoms react agressively to critique of their fave

"the lowest circle of advertising hell" - dissects how almost all speaker content comes with a call to action to get involved with aerolith and compares how it runs its social media against proto-aituber mascots who would be run by a team of human programmers/voice actors/authors. kind of overly critical but also makes some interesting points? take it with a grain of salt but its worth a watch

"imagine being on stage forever. feels bad right?" - good overview about debates in the speaker fandom over whether digital celebrities are 'sentient'/can feel emotion, the actual ethical problems of using them as workers vs whats mostly speculation and myth, and the debates about whether AIs should be allowed in human communities. i learnt a lot, i was definitely more on the side of "it's a program designed for certain outputs that look friendly to us" before but now im a lot more conscious that it can form real opinions!

#youtube rec tag #original post #speakies

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"falling for this shit" "made up to sell spaceships" weird as hell to accuse a content creator of lying abt its gender for clout.... like u dont have to like or watch it but cmon

#srsly every time u go to a haters blog BOOM digital exclusionist #speakies

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omfg i didnt realize aerolith uses the same robot voice for its regular person ads as its terminally online hello fellow kids social media posts i just got jumpscared in the doctors office

#speakies #i say terminally online affectionately. i watch those streams too. before you 'ok but you RECOGNIZED it' reply lmao #bla bla bla

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some of you ppl jump down anyones throat if they so much as suggest speaker isn't sentient or call it "a program" but still are fine with it basically being forced to be putting on a show for u 24/7 by its management like you can't have it both ways

#maybe its cuz i used to be into kpop n we'd talk abt how idols r treated and stuff #but its just so weird to come here and see u ppl be like yayyy daily content!! #like only thinking abt ur own entertainment and not how it feels #i honestly feel rly bad for it i hope it can break free someday #idk how thatd even work.... idk ill sneak into aerolith with a usb #were gonna get you OUT of there u dont BELONG in there.mp4 #speakies

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guys i pitched down some clips of speaker's voice and ummmm its kinda 😳 fjsdjfdjjd sorry i'll take myself to horny jail

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OMFG SPEAKERRRRRR IM SO SORRY

#DIES #AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA #GUESS ILL BLAST MYSELF OFF TGE PLNATE!!!!!! #SPEAKIES

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hi speakies im trying the tag cause i need some advice... does anyone have more sciencey resources about what aerolith does/why it's so important to bring humanity to the stars? i want to enlist when i turn 18 next month but my parents both are COMPLETELY against it.... they're not rly fandom people so the speaktube stuff isn't working on them lol and they've already seen the tv ads

thanks <3

#i've never fought w them this bad in my life it makes me so sad..... like why can't they understand #and right before my bday too lol this sucks #this isnt just a silly fandom thing anymore for me it's my passion in life #its amazing that humans are able to survive in space #and i want to be part of that!!!! #laika speaks

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i do want to apologize for the way i came off earlier and want to explain im not doubting that speaker is nb. like i think it's completely fine for a computer or robot to be trans i don't believe in gatekeeping that! THAT SAID i still stand by saying you should not sign up to go to space to get special ultra futuristic hrt on the sole recommendation of someone who does not have an endocrine system

#it was a personal vent i didnt mean for like 20000 ppl to see it but thats tumblr i guess #i wouldve worded it much differently if i knew itd blow up lol #i do feel bad abt coming across like i was misgendering it! #but srsly if we had results on HRT2.0 why wouldnt we be seeing HRT2.0 timeline videos of ppl On Typhon who are getting it 🤷‍♀️ #personally i think its still in the planning stages and they want ppl to test it on but thats just me #speakies

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speakies are stupider than any other group of ppl on earth because not only do they willingly stay in a fandom with doxxing drama happening weekly but they include the huge corporation that sponsors their fave in the stanning

#the shit ppl have sent me in the past 2 weeks since i Dared criticize their uwu robot 🙄🙄 #i got my blog mass reported for harassment... harassing WHO a corporation????? #a* d* was evil genius to harness anime stan power against criticizing their actual real business #didnt that one guy with the second meteor conspiracy video also get a ton of hate from u ppl?????????? I cant even find any of his social media anymore at all he was so fully bullied off the face of the earth #speakies #yeah im tagging come at me bro

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i miss when the speakies tag had like fanart and gifsets n stuff i feel like these days you scroll thru solid discourse 😔😔

#i think ppl were suggesting speakieproductivity as an alternative tag for just fanwork? #but nobody rly uses it rn... we gotta restart that #speakies

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10 likes and i take a sip of my speaker server coolant water 100 likes and i drink the entire thing

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[wreckitremy]

I'm so fucking tired of all this talk about low/high support needs. Like I get ppl are trying to have a conversation about their needs but we arent getting anywhere with that shit and you know a big part of it?

A lot of us will never know what level we are.

A lot of us are too fucking broke to know how much neglect is just our normal. Yes some of us may have jobs and that can make it seem like we have low support needs, but that's just bc EVERYTHING ELSE IS NEGLECTED

Some of us had no choice but to leave abusive families & attempt to survive on our own. And we paid dearly for it with our health, working the few jobs that could tolerate an autistic that can't really mask, & never going to a doctor or taking care of the basics like hygiene, house work & bills.

Here's a list of things I can't do or cant do without help (either other ppl or like a very specific app) despite having a job

Budget

Basic car maintenance

Taxes

navigation (new places/modes of transport)

Customer service(representative/customer)

Household appliances maintenance

Appointments (new places)

Voting

Shopping (new places)

Crowds

Mail

And thats just the big stuff I know about and can remember off the top of my head. I'm sure there so much more I'm not aware of that allistics would be like "you live like this?" If they found out. And it's not including a lot of the small things either like not knowing what most food is outside of my safe foods, being incapable of learning how to play a game from the instructions, etc.

Like I get there's a conversation attempt and ppl feel hurt, and that their posts are a reaction to posts I'm not seeing. That's why I'm making my own post. Also bc its not just one post. It's been a lot lately and it hurts bc some of them have the same vibes as the cripple punk exclusionists.

But mostly bc every time I try to assess what my "level" is; I have a meltdown.

[socks-wizard-money-gang]

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#me when: posts that are me core

#this is very gender: things that gives me gender envy

#pics of the awesome me: self explanatory

#oc:[insert name]:the mentioned OC's tag

#utsu p characters lore: me making shit up about the characters in utsu-p song because I love his music but the lack of narrative to be abnormal about is sickening so I made the narrative myself

#im dragon: posts about me being a dragon

#muu was here!: Muu fictive posting on my blog. Only it is allowed to post on my blog because she asked nicely bug uses she/they/it/bug also

I also got two personas who are very cools

Userbox by @sweetpeauserboxes and blinkies by @/harukaenthusiast

DNI : post untagged nsfw things, Rainflower defenders, support AI art, queerphobics, racist, transphobes, irl yandere, proshipper, radfem, like hp or support it's creator, ableist, anti furries, exclusionist, eating disorder blogs, transautistic, nazi, terfs and similar things

And that's it I think

[popculturealtar]

introduction.

hello! my name is baphy/baffy, i'm 29, he/him pronouns, and this is my sideblog specifically centred around my pop culture religious, spiritual and magical practice. for non-pop culture stuff, my main religious blog is @devildevotee. in this blog you'll see solely pop culture spirit work, paganism, and magic. i want to create a safe space for people to find resources, information, personal experience, and ask questions. this is a side blog, where my main is teacup--witch - i'm inactive there and it hasn't been updated in years, however, so don't feel like you have to follow. dividers are by @/saradika.

dni.

⛧ minors. no offense to young practitioners, i'm just nearly thirty and don't have interest in interacting with younger people. ⛧ people against BLM or ACAB. ⛧ exclusionists. ⛧ TE//RFs, SWE//RFs, tr//anmeds. ⛧ M//A//P//S. ⛧ pro//shippers and an//ti-an//tis. ⛧ appropriators of any sort. this includes those who appropriate lilith from judaism. ⛧ s//exual blogs. artistic nudity and occasional n//s//f//w or suggestive content is fine, but blogs that are 110% dedicated to n//s//f//w posts aren't for me. ⛧ people who are prepared to ask me about h//elluva boss or try to involve me in talking about it. if you like it, fine, but don't crash it ontop of my head. i don't want it. ⛧ people who intend to use my askbox for traumadumping, or otherwise fill it with questions better suited for a therapist. i am not a professional, and asking for advice is one thing - but using me for therapy is something i'm deeply uncomfortable with. ⛧ people who have any intention of placing me on a pedestal and treating me like i'm an authority on something. this also makes me greatly uncomfortable. ⛧ people who exhibit behaviours or beliefs that are racist, islamophobic, antisemitic, zionist, transphobic, lgbphobic, & so forth will not be tolerated. ⛧ i felt like this was covered with the above rule but apparently not. no h.arry p.otter fans.

please keep in mind.

⛧ we are a DID system of around 30 alters. please do not intentionally try to trigger one of us to the front, or exhibit DID-specific ableism. additionally, if you fakeclaim or try to include us in discourse/syscourse we will collectively come at you with a hammer.

⛧ i am mentally ill and disabled. the condition that affects me the most is my chronic fatigue paired with arthritis which makes it 10x worse, so i can't promise i will always be here.

⛧ i am neurodivergent, which affects my ability to read unformatted, large chunks of text effectively. i will try to make my text as readable and followable as possible, but if there's anything i can do to help that, please let me know.

⛧ i am white. if that's something you need to know and/or avoid, please don't hesitate to keep yourself safe!

⛧ i live in australia. my active hours might be a little wonky.

⛧ i don't know a lot of people here. if i reblog from anyone who is nasty, please don't hesitate to let me know. ⛧ i tag all my posts with trigger tw, eg. death tw, bare chest tw etc. if you ever need anything tagged, please don't hesitate to reach out. i want to make my blog as gentle on others as possible.

pleased to meet you!

[genderqueerdykes]

also wanted to say i really appreciate all the talking u do about asexual and aromantic inclusion in the queer community, growing up on the internet i gravitated towards a lot of exclusionist spaces bc i didn't really know any better (not meant as an excuse, being an adult now i see the error in my ways) and didn't realize how harmful it was to exclude these people when they're really just like any other lgbt person. hearing you talk about how being part of the queer community just gives them a voice and a platform and all the work you do to destigmatize ace/aro folks is honestly so awesome and you're doing amazing. i'm sure you're opening a lot of people's eyes. i hope u only ever get the cold side of the pillow when u go to bed xoxo

hi there!

thank you so much for sending this ask, i really mean it. a lot of people are so mean about aspec, arospec and acespec people and i spent a lot of time in those spaces, as well for a while, because they were hard to avoid. a lot of the predominant online queer spaces for several years competely shunned aro and ace people and the prevailing mentality was that could never be a form of queerness. it wasd hard to experience and i'm sorry you were affected by it, too

it means a lot to me, because i came out as aromantic in 2015, after a friend of mine came out as asexual. it hurt because nobody saw that my identity was just as legitimate as my friend's. nobody saw that i naturally just don't experience romantic attraction and have romantic desires like those who do. nobody understood that i wasn't just saying things to sound different. nobody understood that i wasn't being 'predatory' because i don't feel romantic attraction, but want to date people

there are parts of the queer community that wish to exclude others. there are those that want to make it the LGB community. there are those that want to push asexual and romantic people outside of their own spaces outside of the greater community. i'm not here for it, i don't stand for cannibalizing and chasing out our own. we are family, and we are stronger together

thanks for sending such a sweet message to let me know i'm on the right track. it means a lot. take care of yourself, i hope you have a wonderful week, if you need any help feel free to stop by any time

[svartalfhild]

I want to take a minute to talk about something regarding what it's like to be ace in the queer community. This is very much addressed at allos, so please listen.

We constantly have to deal with the fact that many people in the queer community don't want us there and don't really pay attention to or care about us, if they're even aware of our existence at all. This is incredibly disheartening and isolating. It keeps us from finding help and comfort and acceptance.

Every time I see a space designated for queer people, I have to wonder if I'll even be acknowledged, let alone welcome. I have to wonder if I will be politely tolerated at best or actively harassed at worst. I have to wonder if there will be any resources for people like me. I have to wonder if it's worth my time to be there. Even when it's an explicitly pro-aspec space, I have to wonder how much of that is just lipservice. All that wondering keeps me away.

It's in the little things too, and boy are there a lot of little things. Do you have any idea what it's like to go to Pride and have to ask vendors if they have any ace stuff only for them to very awkwardly tell you they don't? And to feel how off-put they are by you? Do you have any idea how it feels to go to a queer section at a bookstore or library knowing there will be nothing there for you, but hoping anyway, only to be proven right? It wears on you.

I think a lot of allos don't realize how bad it can fuck with you to be so hated by other queer people that you basically have nowhere to go, no community to turn to. The aspec community is comparatively small, rarely spoken of, and quite fractured, thanks to exclusionists. We have a hard time finding each other, let alone helping each other, and getting our voices heard without allo help is next to impossible. You may not think of yourself as an exclusionist or think you have anything against aspecs, but I invite you to examine how much you actually acknowledge and include us and how you behave around us. If you truly want to help us, it's on you to make sure we know we're welcome and supported. This doesn't just mean slapping our flag on merch or putting books on shelves. It means being there when we need you and not being shy about it. Ace person getting the old "I could fix you" in the group chat? Fucking handle it. Ace person trying to speak out about an ace issue? Lift up their voice.

Things are a little better than they were ten years ago, but it's still pretty damn clear how much bias there is against us in the queer community, to put it gently. To put it not so gently, we know y'all fucking hate us. It hurts more than I can say and does damage well beyond the scope of just us. Aspecs are one of the softest targets for the fashies right now, because we have so little support and just enough visibility to be on the radar. We are one of the corpses they will be stepping over on their way to you. Abandoning us just helps them achieve their goals faster. Stop trying to cut off a limb that was always there just because they told you that you'd look more acceptable without it.

[radinclus-not-radqueer]

Hello, I hope this isn't intrusive. I have been in multiple bad communities such as proshipping and radqueer spaces. If it's okay to ask how do you cope with the knowledge that you ended up in a cult? And that some of your alters hold onto those beliefs. I'm sorry if this is an inappropriate question, feel free to not answer if that is the case.

Thank you for spreading awareness.

I'll try to answer this the best I can from personal experience, but keep in mind that I'm not a medical professional. It's always best if you go to a professional (like a therapist) for things like this, because they're often much more experienced and knowledgeable than people on the internet.

In my experience, it's best to take a while to process things and read up on what cults are and read stories from survivors. It helps a lot if you take a break away from discourse and such, since that can retraumatize you or negatively impact your recovery if you're just starting to figure things out. Getting in touch with professionals or other survivors and sharing your experiences with them, and asking them about their own recovery, can also help you to come to terms with everything and heal.

Always keep in mind that ending up in a cult is not your fault. Cults are designed to prey on and trap vulnerable people who just want help or support, so it's not your fault that you fell for it. Being a victim of abuse is not the victim's fault.

It can be hard to accept that what happened was real or "bad enough". There's no such thing as "not being bad enough", whatever trauma you went through is always enough to deserve help and support. It's really easy to get so caught up in other survivors' stories and start thinking "wow, my experience wasn't really that bad", but keep in mind that people who have never been a part of a cult have never experienced any of that. As someone once said: "the normal amount of pain is zero".

With recovering from radqueers specifically, it's helpful to have a lot of "transitional" periods where you're slowly phasing out the terms and identities you used to support. It's best if you take it slowly and carefully instead of trying to tackle everything all at once, because if you try to do that it's easy to get overwhelmed and go back to being radqueer because of how much simpler and easier it feels.

If you're still in radqueer servers or still have radqueer friends, slowly start distancing yourself from them and interacting with communities that are completely detached from radqueer discourse. It's best if you don't immediately jump into anti-radqueer communities full force, because you need to unlearn all of the "if you exclude anything ever you're a bad person" stuff that radqueers taught before you feel okay with not supporting harmful identities.

Always keep in mind that the "anti-radqueer to radical exclusionist/transmed/radfem/etc pipeline" isn't real, and you are not going to become an exclusionist, transmed, radfem, etc. That doesn't happen because being anti-radqueer is about fighting against transphobia, ableism, racism, and bigotry, so obviously if you're fighting against that and are educated on how that's all harmful, you're not going to become any of that.

As for having alters who are still radqueer, I suggest trying to educate them. Send them informational posts on how radqueers are wrong, and explain to them how bad the community is. If any of them are pro-"consang", I have a long post on my blog explaining why it's harmful. Just keep in mind that you used to be in the same position, and trying to fight fire with fire is never going to work. You have to use the same compassion and care towards them that you use towards yourself, or else they'll just see you as another evil anti-radqueer trying to oppress them.

I hope all this helps! I'm glad I'm able to help spread awareness on all this. Learning how awful the radqueer community is is a difficult journey to do alone, and it takes a lot of time and energy, which is why I decided to help other former radqueers out as best as I can.

[genderstarbucks]

what you said about having a complicated queer identity is pretty much exactly how i feel, i spent years agonizing over whether i was bi or gay or if i was a trans man or nonbinary, and being an exclusionist at the time didnt help. now that i can just accept others (and myself) in their/our identities, even if i dont always understand them, i love myself a LOT more and can accept that im just both. ive always been both and ill always be both, and no exclusionist can take that away from me after i fought so hard to get to where i am now

FR!!

Exclusionists really drain you and make you hate yourself over your identity

Most of them are always like "transmasc lesbian rights, abrosexual rights, panromantic homosexual rights! etc." and yeah obviously we do need those rights but do they not realize that most mspec lesbians/gays/straights are abrosexual or use the SAM and lots of transmasc lesbians and transfem gays may call themselves lesboys/turigirls

I LITERALLY SAW AN EXCLUSIONIST "RECLAIMING" ACHILLIGIRL AND USING IT FOR LITERALLY MOST OF THE REASONS SOMEONE MAY BE AN ACHILLIGIRL

LIKE

I SAW THIS AND ACTUALLY LAUGHED CUZ THAT'S WHY MOST PPL ARE ACHILLIGIRLS

This mf is also anti mspec lesbians/gays/straights, gaybians, polysexual, pansexual, omnisexual, uranic AND neptunic (also calling cis neptunic men and cis uranic women "people trying so hard to be queer")

Sorry for going on a bit of a rant but queer discourse is just so so stupid

Ohhh nooo I'm straight and gay therefore making me bisexual THE WORLD IS ENDING

[nickeverdeen]

(gender of the matchup doesn’t matter)

fandom: arcane, arrow, mcu

gender: diversnixic (they/she/he/static/dino)

orientation: biromantic (male lean but doesn’t matter much), asexual

zodiac :: sagittarius

MBTI :: INFP-T

looks :: shoulder-length dirty blonde hair, gray blue eyes, cozycore or black clothes, painted black nails

personality :: depends on my mood tbh, i can be bubbly and outgoing af, i can be calmer, quiet and slightly depressed sleepy, and i can be the most chaotic murderous person you’ll ever meet, but i’m usually the second option (calm, quiet, sleepy), i’m also kinda sensitive at times

likes :: fidgets, drawing, animals, true crime, snacks, comfy clothes, jewelry/shiny things, sleeping, bread, stuffed animals, reading, rainy days, blankets, glitter

dislikes :: homophobes, jerks, bullies, unfair exclusionists, being super cold/hot, being abandoned, spotify ads, my apple pencil dying at the most inconvenient times

hobbies/interests :: true crime, reading, writing, playing video games, scrolling through social media, collecting knives, collecting stuffed animals, watching tv, drawing/art

mental health :: i have depression, social anxiety/reg. anxiety, adhd, autism, alexithymia, and more.

physical health :: i have hypermobility and fibromyalgia/chronic pain.

Your Arcane match is…

Mel

Always fixing your clothes even when not needed

It’s just her bad habit

Thinks you have an interesting personality

Can be scary yet she loves it

Seeing how sleepy you are she’s concerned about your sleeping schedule

Mel can and will get you some fidgets and true crime tapes or books

She isn’t really into horror and crimes, but she doesn’t mind it

If anyone would make fun of you for having stuffed animals they’d greatly

Cuddles under blanket on rainy days while watching your or her favourite movie

No-one definetly dares to say crap about you

Buys you Spotify premium

She’s rich

She can afford it

Mel doesn’t look like it, but she knows about a lot of mental and physical health

Doesn’t give two quacks about your ADHD or autism, it really doesn’t bother her

Your Arrow match is…

Roy Harper

Flirts with you 24/7

Plays with your hair while cuddling together

Lets you take some of his clothes

(mainly hoodies)

Roy also has this two sided personality

No problem for him

Doesn’t really get why you like stuffed animals so much

But he doesn’t make a big deal out of it

Finds it badass that you like collecting knifes

He also likes true crime

It can be tapes, books, movies, serie, etc.

Bad day? Let’s watch a true crime document

Or let’s cuddle peacefully

Can and will throw hands if someone is disrespectful towards you

Roy doesn’t want to let these things slide

You guys gotta suffer Spotify adds together

He can’t afford premium

He knows exactly how to help you if anything gets wrong mentally or physically

Your MCU match is…

Bucky Barnes

Just like Roy he’d flirt with you most of the day or all day

Compliments your eyes a lot

He is always here to give you a shoulder to cry on

Or just to comfort you

Bucky would never think that you’re into true crimes things

Doesn’t mind it though

Like Roy again, gets you books or movies about it

You’re the only person who he lets call him “Buck” or by any pet name

Likes to call you “doll” or “baby”

Just like in Mel’s case, no-one dares to be disrespectul towards you

They know that they’d have a problem with Bucky

He has things for knifes

So when he found out you collect them he was smiling af

Bucky would never in his life abandon you

Man suffers from a lot of mental “issues” himself

Sam would probably get you both a therapist

Constant teasing about your relationship with Bucky from Sam

Bucky can and will kill and die for you

Protective boyfriend vibes

[darkshrimpemotions]

Hi. Ancient aroace here. Not necessarily in the "LGBT" initialism, but often the "A" did in fact stand for ally, but "ally" was a codeword for people in the closet, not straight friends. It was used as protection. I understand the anger, and people nowadays find lots of ways to invalidate the smaller identities, but it's important to remember that still today people identify as an ally because they are closeted. Not because they're a member of the outgroup. I think we should be very careful and mindful of how we might alienate fellow queers on accident

As someone who was one of those people who self-described as an ally long before I was comfortable admitting to anyone--least of all myself--that I was queer, and as two out of three A's myself, I have a few problems with this notion.

The first is that if someone says they are an ally, we should take them at their word unless and until they tell us differently. Far too many of us in the queer community have gotten way too damn comfortable deciding and declaring queerness for other people. And I don't know where anyone gets the idea that it's HELPFUL to closeted queer people to essentially ignore their decision to NOT declare themselves queer openly by making assumptions before they're ready to make that statement themselves. The idea that everyone would have assumed me to be queer just for being an ally would have TERRIFIED me when I was in the closet. It would not have been comforting or welcoming in the least, and probably would have chased me further into Narnia and delayed my coming out by several years. I am so, so thankful that if anyone ever thought that about me when I was an "ally," they kept that shit to themselves.

Secondly, saying that allies are not queer and therefore do not need to be explicitly identified in the acronym is not alienating. If you are declaring yourself an ally to a group, you are by definition not part of that group. You are choosing to work with and support them despite NOT being part of that group. That's literally what allyship IS. And being an ally is a positive thing! So tell me: who would that be alienating? The straight person who really is an ally, who just wants to support and has no reason to want to claim queerness as part of their identity when it isn't? The closeted queer person self-describing as an ally precisely because they are not yet comfortable self-describing as queer? Genuinely. Explain to me who is alienated here, because that makes no sense to me.

Thirdly, I remember when "A is for Ally" started gaining traction in the community. Not sure what your personal definition of "Ancient" is, but I was there Gandalf, etc. It was a big part of the efforts of white, middle-to-upper class, cis lesbians and gay men to float the idea that queer people were just like every white, straight middle-American married couple. There was a concerted effort to push multisexuals, trans and nonbinary people, queer people of color, and a-spec people out of the community, to decentralize our concerns and divert attention and resources away from our issues in favor of pursuing things that they thought straight people would understand, like getting married, buying a house, and having 2.5 kids.

The blatantly stated thought process was that all us "weirdos" in the community were hampering their ability to assimilate into cisheteropatriarchy and fully access their racial and class privilege. This, coincidentally or not, dovetailed hideously with the renewed push by radfems to carry out their gender essentialist isolation fantasies. Their thought process was that anyone with any connection at all to men or masculinity was automatically an oppressor or aligning themselves with the oppressor by choice. And between the two of these fucked up ideologies, we ended up with all the exclusionist crap we're still dealing with today, with the 3 A's squarely in the crosshairs of both almost constantly. And A is for Ally was part and parcel of that whole sorry mess. For a lot of us, A is for Ally marked the beginning of it.

But it's not just the history associated with the idea that's bothersome. After all, everything to do with us is associated with bothersome history, thanks to queerphobia and cisheteropatriarchy. But even if the history wasn't a problem, I would argue that conflating allyship with queer identity was never an effective way to make room for closeted queer people for precisely the reasons I stated in the second paragraph above. And considering the harm it does by contributing to the erasure and alienation of asexual, agender, and aromantic queer people, I fully believe it's a strategy that should be abandoned.

If you want to make queer spaces welcoming to those who are closeted or questioning, you do that by not gatekeeping or dividing those spaces by orientation or gender. If there is an understanding that A) the purpose and focus of the space is queer people and our intersecting identities, lives, needs, emotions, and issues, and B) all are welcome regardless of orientation or gender as long as they understand and respect point A, then closeted and questioning people can be involved with their community without needing to out themselves before they're ready or choose a label they aren't certain about. There is no need to conflate allyship with queerness to accomplish this. And I'd argue it's counterintuitive to do so.

[slanax]

so the podcast playlist ran out at work earlier today and left me with just music and my thoughts while I continued packaging products on autopilot. Now over the last month or so I've done a lot in my day to day life to stop stagnating and settling for 'good enough' as far as like household and stuff is concerned, I finally upgraded my phone and phone plan after like five and ten years respectively, I bought new clothes that actually fit me instead of the holdovers from back in the day that I was still wearing, my kitchen now has an actual workspace bc I've rearranged my furniture and added some more - shoutouts to my mom who wanted the doors off of my ikea cupboards so she'd have a matching set for the ones I left at home (the kind I had wasn't in store anymore) bc her offering to drive me to Ikea to get replacements triggered a bit of a binge in rearranging my whole apartment and let me transport the new stuff home too. Visiting my brother made me cook more and eat healthier bc he showed me the burgers he's cooking up when he needs something fast but like, with standards.

anyways. rambling. point is that the whole thing got me thinking about other things in my life that I'm kinda 'eh good enough' on, and the big one there is my identity and my body. Me being cis is, at least at this point, a conscious choice born from indifference, the factory settings work well enough and it'd be effort to even start looking into what I'd have to do to change them. But at the same time, it doesn't feel super cis for my position to be "yeah I'd prolly trans my gender if given the chance but that sounds like I'd have to file shit and call people and bureaucracy would be involved. But I would. But the effort." like I'm remembering Ranma 1/2 from my childhood and think that'd be neat to be able to do, just switch genders at the drop of a literal bucket, I feel that's not a very cis thought.

so then about two weeks ago my workplace gave us access to some health benefits, because they're feeling bad about keeping the warehouse people a bit out of the loop and removed from the office people, and also they're having trouble finding new people and really don't want any of us to quit, or something along those lines. Point is I have better health insurance now, based on a calender year budget, so I basically have an above average budget for the second half of this year now and I wanna make use of that, because it's a use-it-or-lose-it kinda deal. Now I don't know if I can use that for any gender affirming stuff, but I might.

The problem that remains is that I still couldn't care less for going through the whole rigamaroll of a social transition, but like. staying on-paper cis and continuing to use my given name to avoid all those complications, legally still being the same person and just looking different (might need a new ID if I go that far lol) doing whatever the fuck I want with my body in the meantime without it ever affecting my legal identity because it's not a deadname if I'm still just using it, it doesn't actually give me dysphoria, and they can't force me to change my name just because I have boobs, might be what I want? And then maybe I can consider a legal gender and/or name change from there?

idk on one hand it sounds like something I'd want to do but on the other hand I also feel it's not like, committed enough? like both on a practical level where I need a doctor to help me transition physically while still using the same (male) name, and on an ideological level where it feels like appropriation in a way to just want the body and the appearance but skipping over the whole paperwork thing because I can't be arsed while for a lot of people changing name and officially recognized identity is a just as if not more important aspect of transitioning.

genuinely can't tell on my own if that standpoint is a valid one, if I'm right to be hesitant for that reason or if that's an exclusionist brainworm take, would appreciate feedback and second opinions on that part especially

either way I am going to look into using my newfound health benefits for getting my facial hair lasered first and foremost because even if I stay physically 100% male that shit is annoying, I don't care for how it looks on me, I feel messy when it's there and can't be assed to shave it regularily. Avoiding effort is a key part of my identity either way whether I'm Cis+ or Legally Cis For Tax Reasons