#eventually i found my person

[sheena-is-a-punk-rocker]

Aroace here who didn't figure it out until I was like 27, almost 28 and spent 2 and 1/2 years being absolutely miserable in a relationship where I felt broken, I just wanna repeat that you are NOT broken. My ex made me feel like everything that was wrong about the relationship was because I was bad at sex and didn't want to have it often enough, and it absolutely crushed me. I've only recently started crawling out of the hole with my current QPP

Please don't EVER feel like you need to have sex with someone or be in a relationship to be whole or "normal" or "accepted"

And on top of that, there are a shit ton of microlabels under the ace and aro umbrellas because there's so many different ways to be ace and/or aro! I thought I had no right to claim the asexual label because I masturbated and read smutty fanfiction. Turns out my microlabel is aegosexual!

There IS a place for you in this community, I promise. If you feel like the ace and/or aro label fits you, you belong!

Oh, and also, traditional romantic and/or sexual relationships aren't the only valid kinds of relationships. Queerplatonic relationships can be just as fulfilling and important and intense as any "traditional" relationship. Even just strictly platonic relationships can be just as fulfilling and important and intense as any "traditional" relationship

Okay, so ace discourse is going on. People are doubting themselves. In wake of that, I want to put here a list of things I wish I’d known when I first figured out I was asexual. Because when I first found out I was asexual and again when I figured out I was arospec I was terrified. So if you just recently figured out you’re aspec, ace, aro, arospec, or if you’ve known for a long time but the ace/aro discourse is making you doubt yourself, here are some things I wish someone had told me before I became confident in that part of my identity.

It is a real orientation.

Your hormones are most likely not out of whack, and even if they are that doesn’t make you any less asexual or aromantic.

You don’t have to have sex or be in a romantic relationship to be “normal”

You don’t have to abstain from sexual or romantic relationships to be ace or aro.

If you have split attraction and one of your attractions is solely to people of the other binary gender you still have a place in the queer community if you want it.

It’s okay to be confused and not even know what attraction is.

You are not heartless.

You are not broken.

You can’t be “fixed”

You don’t need to be “fixed”

Because like I said, you’re not broken.

Don’t force yourself into sexual or romantic situations you’re uncomfortable with in an attempt to seem “normal”. Just don’t do it.

Don’t put up with “you’ll find the right person” comments

Correctional rape is a thing and although it’s typically associated with lesbians and gays it happens with ace people too. Be careful.

If you’re twelve you’re not too young to be thinking about that, and if you’re eighty you’re not too old to be figuring it out.

If you want to be in a romantic relationship without sex then don’t stay with a partner that tells you that you’d have sex if you loved them.

When explaining things, be calm. I’ve found the majority of people will find it makes sense and are willing to learn. If they’re being a douchebag that’s when you get snappy. Not when people are just genuinely curious.

Don’t waste your time on aphobes on the internet or people that keep insisting that asexuality is just an orientation for people who don’t want sex or demisexuality just means you want to take it slow. They are wrong. Attraction or lack thereof is something out of your control and there are allosexual people that don’t like sex.

If you want to be really loud about your orientation that’s great.

If you want to keep your orientation on the down low that’s also great.

I know sometimes dealing with a world that constantly throws sex and romance at you is hard. You can do it.

It’s okay to be confused.

You’re not a freak.

You have a place in the LGBTQIA+ community. There’s a reason the long version has an A there.

Yes, people actually do feel attraction. They’re not all pretending or exaggerating, as much as it might seem like that.

You don’t have to be good at puns, but there will be a lot. Fair warning.

Being asexual or aspec is a beautiful thing.

Being aromantic or arospec is a beautiful thing.

The love you feel for your family and friends is not somehow inferior to romantic or sexual love.

You can be happy. Anyone that tells you that you can’t be happy without sex and/or romance is lying.

Embrace your pride flag. They’re all pretty cool. And there are a lot on the spectrums.

Your aro/ace headcanons are just as valid as the gay/lesbian/bi/pan headcanons.

Be aware of the alliance with the bi and pan people. They may seem like our complete opposites at first but they understand the erasure thing and are equally bad at puns.

[peasant-player]

Elrond with dramborleg

"His hair was dark as the shadows of twilight, and upon it was set a circlet of silver; his eyes were grey as a clear evening, and in them was a light like the light of stars."

This drawing was for @armenelols and @polutrope post about elrond using a family heirloom "dramborleg".

Oh boy I had so much fun.

My main thought while painting this was " what would be different about elrond?"

And the answer is alot but a the same time nothing.

Elrond is in a way a sad character he kind of lost everything and the only constance in his life is the heralded past of his ancestors/family and friends.

He almost can't remember his parents but he can read about them even maglor is ,despite being a kindslayer, described as strong imposing and a mighty warrior.

His own brother,who chooses mortality,is a revered king!

This elrond that I depicted here is not the lord of Riverdale. Not married yet.

This is a elrond who will stand between evil and his folk.

Just like his ancestors did.

He is holding a legacy of strong unrelenting men who did change the tides of war who done the impossible no one else did before them!.

This is also elrond who found out that his brothers legacy Numenor is at the bottom of the sea - because of sauron.

This is a elrond who becomes a lord for many different kind of elves because he is a different kind of elve.

[oneluckydragon]

"What do you remember of being human, Echo?" The question is out of the blue and unexpected. But Sora offers a patient smile and tilts her head in curiosity, just enough that one of her ears flops over. It's endearing, if anything.

But Echo wishes she hadn't asked.

"Not much. Distinct memories are cloudy." A tired tone says softly, a pained recollection in her eyes and an acrid haze in her soul that endures, endures, and endures, "But I remember the discomfort more than anything. My body always did feel wrong back then. Misshapen. Condensed. Like it was too small for everything buried underneath, and that ache went so deeply some days that it would make my skin crawl. I hated that part the most."

At that, Sora's expression falls. She looks inexplicably sad, as if she'd hoped for a different response, a gentler one despite knowing the harsh truth about the dark future and the struggles Echo must have suffered. "But you had Grovyle, right? I'm sure he took care of you."

"He did, Sora, of course he did." A sigh, a flick of an ear and claws clenched tightly into the churned earth pressed under her paws. "I doubt I deserved his attention, though. I was too busy being angry at the world to give any care back."

In my lore, Echo does not look fully human during their time in the dark future. Since they were Darkrai before becoming human, and as a result of Palkia's reckless shattering of the Dimensional Portal which distorted both time and space, Echo's transformation was broken and accidental. They ended up looking pretty messed up and definitely (not) human. A lot of their characteristics as Darkrai carried over but rather morphed into something else.

And Grovyle, growing up in a world where humans have been extinct for longer than any living pokémon has been alive, has no concept of what a "true" human looks like. The only thing he knows is descriptions of humans from glyphs and texts in old ruins. Thus, he mistakes Echo for an actual human. And Echo, not knowing what a human looks like themselves due to amnesia, accepts this identification with nothing better to use.

[ablazenqueen]

The most upsetting part of this scene (and probably the whole ep) are these two looks:

Because the look on Jeff’s face? It’s hopeful and trusting. He has just the slightest ghost of a smile when he looks at Alan, he looks like he has full confidence that Alan is going to back him up, continue backing him up like he does at the start of this confrontation.

But the look on Alan’s face? It’s doubt. He looks at Jeff and he thinks maybe and he breaks eye contact, looks away just slightly, drops his gaze, because he wants to trust Jeff and he can see the hope in those eyes, but he’s unsure. And even if he chooses to trust Jeff, he’s team leader, how can he not side with his boys? How can he not support the majority, the boys he’s known the longest, the boys who’ve proven their loyalty to him and each other over years, and offer the resolution that most benefits the most amount of people?

How can he not choose the rational resolution, even if it requires squashing that hard-earned trust?

[mochindayo]

I found old art from last year! Why I didn’t post this, idk?

But I’m throwing more OC’s out there into the snzblr void.

Right: Oliver - he’s honestly a rework of my OC Arata if uhh any of you were following me 4 years ago lol -

Left: Nolan - not really rework of Matsuoka (another old OC) but like, somewhat is? -

[crownedinmarigolds]

More dumb BG3 comics from mine and my husband's take on the story. Khloe is not my Tav but is a camp character (that we have occasionally walk around with the party) who serves as the camp cook and potions master. Former long-time tavern worker who became an owner when her stepmother retired, she's mechanically an artificer! She's twice widowed, once left at the altar, without children, and just crested into her forties... and now has been abducted and carrying a mind worm. Life's tough.

Here she is getting extremely excited to have made an emotional connection with a bear only to find out that it was in fact a giant elf druid instead... BUMMER!!! What a disappointment. (Halsin ofc because it's my BG3 indulgence becomes smitten at her priceless "ugh it's just a hot guy not a cool bear" expression.)

(full rundown as always in the picture descriptions if you're interested!)

[snowangeldotmp3]

what was i made for?

part one: i used to know, but i'm not sure now (what i was made for)

summary:

Nancy Wheeler dies on a cold November night in the gym of Hawkins Middle. She dies with three simple words. Gone. Gone. Gone.

[quirkle2]

how would u guys feels about me selling stuff on inprnt? it likely wouldn't be fanart, it'd be original works—prolly mostly october eighteenth stuff. there might be fanart but i'm still deciding. any interest

[omnomnb]

anyway what i've learnt is that raphael has the potential to be even more sad tortured sopping wet puppy than lucifer and i hope the writers capitalise on this

[girlivealwaysbean]

it's not sinking in that today might be the last day in my house and town for many months to come

[st4rstudent]

For any toontown tierlist fans out there. I made a tierlist for toons (mainly from ttcc, some rewritten is included) since I couldn't find any. I'll attach and image below of all the ones I included, but if anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears.

Link if you want it

[ociels]

his brother died and one of his first thoughts were that it should’ve been him instead because now people are going to be disappointed…

[faunandfloraas]

Every time I have a movie I'd actually want to see in cinemas it's in some random theatre that's underneath a Chinese supermarket in an otherwise abandoned building that's an hour train ride away

[which-qsmp-egg-would]

Poll's Origin Story (kind of)

Stardust wanders. That's their whole thing. They are a spirit, or more accurately an... entity? Minor deity? It's a little complicated, but what is important is that they wander, and they wander wherever they want. One day, they ended up in just the right place at the right time.

That little egg that Stardust found ended up being Poll, Of course.

It's a little hard to glean how long Poll was in the Federation labs and why they were made. Like many of the other eggs, Poll doesn't talk about what happened (if they remember at all) and generally pretends like it never happened. As far as they could figure out though, Poll had gone through all the testing and was in storage until the right set of islanders arrived.

Having spent their entire life surrounded by Federation employees, Poll's dragon form was *very* different from what it is today, to say the least.

After spending a little while around Stardust, their form changed to the one we know and love! Although since their papa is a shapeshifter too, their form resembles the dragons their genetics are from instead of their papa.

[solidcarbon]

small hc about drifter being unable to feel certain emotion which occupies the duviri spiral they're in (in that present moment). or, maybe, forcefully feeling the opposite one before accepting the current (giving an orowyrm a friendly pat = giving yourself a friendly pat) and being free in emotional terms for the rest of the spiral

[wonder-worker]

"Any assessment of the emotional component of the reconciliation of [Empress Matilda and Geoffrey of Anjou] remains speculation: the chroniclers are silent on the issue of whether [they] grew to love, hate, or like each other. We do know, from their movements and actions, that Matilda and Geoffrey eventually arrived at a businesslike arrangement with a united viewpoint toward the dynastic, geopolitical goals that had dictated their marriage in the first place."

"Matilda and Geoffrey effectively transitioned from a Divide and Rule model to a Collaborative Union from 1144 onwards, in which they worked together throughout their marriage to ensure rulership over their territories and gained their rightful lands, as well as ensuring the inheritance for their children. Matilda and Geoffrey’s political partnership can effectively be argued as the most successful through applying different models of rulership. Ultimately the Plantagenets regained Matilda’s inheritance through Henry, conquered Normandy, and produced several male heirs."

Charles Beem, The Lioness Roared: The Problems of Female Rule in English History / Gabrielle Storey, Co-Rulership, Co-operation and Competition: Queenship in the Angevin Domains, 1135-1230