#esp trans people.

[starstrike]

Showering/bathing and having accessible bathing facilities should also be a human right

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

[discountprophet]

when you say “transandrophobia isnt real” you’re actively contributing the the silencing and oppression of trans men and mascs by trying to erase and minimize our lived experiences: our abuse, our struggles, our erasure by society AND the trans community, our denial of medial care, our much higher rates of corrective rape and sexual assault, our denial of resources for the higher sa we experience, and much much more

you arent trans men/mascs. you DONT get to decide if our oppression/experiences are real. you dont get to walk all over us and silence us. we will not be the quiet subservient girls you want us to be

[mars-ipan]

y’know i was talking about genderfluidity and trying to find a way to make my body as satisfying as possible for me with my mom and i mentioned not wanting top surgery but instead wanting to get tattoos of the scars and she worried about it coming off as offensive to other trans folks or people who’ve had mastectomies. SO i figured i’d ask the people of these communities myself!

*a realistic tattoo would be designed to look as accurate to actual scars as possible, whereas a stylized tattoo would be more cartoony- think the “eyelash/starburst” scars you see in a lot of transmasc art

reblogging for sample size would help me out a ton with gauging community opinions and such but obvi there’s no pressure :] just looking to know how ppl feel! thanks in advance folks

[solradguy]

The "I thought that was a butch lesbian but it's just Sol Badguy" meme has me convinced that a significant portion of GG fans don't know that Guilty Gear even has women in it

[transmaverique]

amab and afab, if they were used as shorthand for the actual full phrases that they signify, with emphasis on the "assigned" part, and an understanding that they are enforcements of normative (ie, dyadic and cisgender and binary) sex, would be like. really useful. but people took the terms and started using them as shorthand FOR normative sex instead of the ENFORCEMENT OF normative sex. so when other trans people (almost always dyadic trans people) ask for your agab they are almost always asking for your Original Genital Situation. your starting point, so to say. and the reason FOR asking is also almost always bc they are trying to also enforce a certain kind of normativity within queer spaces (which is stupid bc being queer is inherently non-normative but here we are). like, you cant be a lesbian if you're ftm, bc you ARE m, so if you ARE a lesbian, then that means you're lying about some aspect of your identity. does that make sense?

it is always always always incredibly.... i do not trust dyadic trans people that use cagab terms, even moreso than i do not trust dyadic trans people that just use agab terms. agab is also coopted intersex language, but the "coercive" part of cagab SPECIFICALLY refers to medical "intervention" of intersex characteristics, such as "corrective" surgeries and hrt. i am deeply fucking suspicious of any dyadic trans person that uses those terms exactly the same as described above, even moreso if they do so bc "all gender is coercive".

like. yeah. that's true. but you use these terms to erase and overtake intersex discussions on the medical abuse of intersex infants. and i cant help but wonder why you would feel the need to do that.

[griem]

ijbol idk man releasing screenshots of very polarizing things said in a private discord server between friends in a public "callout" post is #the most #tumblrific thing ive ever seen LOL.

#opinion 😱 in tags

[sirpseudonymphoapish]

We need to stop sanitizing spaces that are meant to be weird. this goes out mostly to the queer community. the word queer literally means strange or unusual. we are SUPPOSED to be different. you do not have the right to claim that you are "queer" and then shit on the people in your own community because they're weird and different. sometimes people's labels overlap and dont make sense. sometimes people dress weird. sometimes people have weird interests. sometimes people have weird kinks. sometimes people have relationships that go against traditional standards (hence the whole idea of being queer in the first place.) sometimes people are ugly. sometimes people are old. sometimes people are just fucking weirdo freaks and thats the whole beauty of it!!!!! if you, as a gay person, have the audacity to make fun of the "cringe" gays, whether that be because they use xenogenders, they dress in bright colors, they like stupid things, they're furries or attracted to objects or whatever the fuck, they're simply having fun and being themselves and NOT HURTING ANYONE,,,,,,,, then you do not belong in queer spaces. because queer spaces are safe spaces. the people that faught for your right to be here today were sick freaks and that will continue on for every generation of queer people. if you want the right to let queerness exist, then you need to get over yourself and let ALL queerness exist. case closed.

anyway this was a very dumbed down version of a rant thats been stuck in my head for months now. enjoy

[tethrras]

everyone complaining about taash referring to themselves as nonbinary like okay guys the game is coming out in 3 days they're not going to have the VA re-record the line just because it breaks your immersion for 10 seconds. grow up

[secret-tacos]

i've been seeing a lot of transmasc headcanons in art + fic lately, and that's great! but, as a trans man, i'm noticing that most scenarios involving these characters boils down to 1 of 3 scenarios:

coming out

suffering transphobic abuse

vaginal sex

and i'm not saying these things don't happen, or that there's never a case to be made for them, but i also find it kind of reductive? there's so much more to our experiences.

i want to see ftm characters who cant get or dont want top surgery, or who have bottom surgery. ftm characters training their voices, and learning from their cis friends how to shave and cut their hair and correct their body language. ftm characters who are embarrassed by their childhood pictures and hide them at all costs - or, alternatively, point and laugh at their old selves and go, can you BELIEVE i looked like that? ftm characters still getting a grasp on their own gender identity and presentation, who experience dysphoria and/or euphoria. ftm characters who have an identity beyond being created, being abused, and being fucked.

that's all i'm asking for.

[identitty-dickruption]

the reason it's a bad thing to only talk about a certain group of people when it benefits your argument is that it shows that you don't actually care about us as people. you can bring us up in an argument if the argument calls for it. whatever. but using an entire community as a gotcha and then attacking that same community when they ask for rights and recognition is complete bullshit. you don't get to use us as an argument if you clearly only see us as a thought experiment and nothing more

[nolassolace]

✨Fiiine boy Friday ✨

Hey Nicky you're so fine, you're so fine you blow my mind hey Nicky hey hey Nicky🎶💕

Anywhore he's bbygrls design (of course I'm biased)

Here's your reminder that Nick was the star player in both timelines💕

[1000dactyls]

We see a lot of trans hiccup (rightfully so!!) But with your t4t hiccstrid post, I'm curious what your thoughts/headcanons on trans Astrid are? (Idk I just feel like we don't see transfem headcanons talked abt enough. I LOVE your art btw)

you are absolutely correct and I’ve been turning over specifically astrid’s coming of age arc in my head for this reason!!!

Something interesting to me is how Astrid lacks the goofy naming tradition of Berk. To me, in part that’s because when she came out as a girl she really wanted to leave her old identity behind including the silly nature of her name… but ‘Astrid’? Now that’s a name worth fearing, that’s a name that sounds powerful, and for people to respect her and her being-a-girl, she needs to have a name worth respecting. she needs to be The Perfect Girl, the perfect warrior, so she trains day and night to become the best shieldmaiden because that’s what her community needs. They need someone who can fight and kill dragons and protect their home

and then all of that gets upended

And now she’s left with… Astrid the girl who is the best shieldmaiden of her age. but what use is that strength now that there’s peace? how does she come to terms with this new identity? With this name and this image that she picked out for herself that no longer needs to exist the way it once needed to?

Something I’m particularly interested in is exploring Astrid’s trans feminine identity in the largely violent, strength-dominant culture that does not need to exist as it once did. this is why astrid cooking in gotnf and episodes like flight of passage are so interesting to me… we get to see astrid express interest in new ideas and struggle with peacetime, but despite that, she’s clearly someone who loves deeply. Astrid loves Berk, she is willing to kill and die for it — now she has to learn to live for it

[grecoromanyaoi]

the whole "dark fiction" discourse is just incredibly useless imo esp bc its always paraded by people who arent actually against it but are against of doing it ""wrong"". and by doing it ""wrong"" they mean art by people they dont like for one reason or another lmfao.

[soft-toyfriend]

[windwardstar]

I hate how fucking binary trans spaces are and that even when they're supposedly inclusive of nonbinary identities it's just creating more boxes and expectations on how to exist.

Like you'd think if any place would be able to get away from gender = genitals it'd be a trans space. But it's like.

You're trans which means obviously you have to be an afab trans or an amab trans and afab means vagina and amab means penis. But also that you have to be trans man who wants a dick (but doesn't actually get one because ewww phalloplasty is gross) and you have to be a trans woman who wants a vagina (but doesn't actually get one because ewww vaginoplasty is gross) and that regardless of if you're ftm or mtf you're not really trans if you don't want bottom surgery but also why would you want it because it's gross and doesn't actually work like The Real Thing TM it's just dead skin/gaping wound/mutilating yourself.

And of course phalloplasty (and metoidioplasty) is FtM and vaginoplasty is MtF because it's all super binary thinking because obviously you have to be either a man or a woman. That nonbinary people dont want bottom surgery because they're not really trans or are all happy with what they have.

And when there is talk of nonbinary people getting bottom surgery it's this assumption of either both (because nonbinary people have to like the parts they have and want the other because it's #best of both worlds) or neither (because no gender = no genitals but also it's the worst thing in the world).

And then this just. Assumption that all of this is for sex reasons only and that the only people who want gender nullification are asexual and that asexuals can't want any other type of bottom surgery because they won't be using it for sex.

And it's just. Stop equating genitals and gender. Stop treating one type of surgery as synonymous with one type of (trans) gender.

If you actually decoupled the idea of genitals and gender the idea that a cis man could want a vagina and a cis woman could want a dick wouldn't actually be that hard to accept. If you actually decoupled the idea of genitals and gender then nonbinary people could have surgery without being lumped into either boy or girl nonbinar. If you actually decoupled the idea of gender and genitals binary trans people wouldn't be getting shoved out of the binary for having genitals preserving bottom surgery or nullification surgery.

And all of this completely ignores the intersex bodies that were forced to conform to the binary via nonconsensual surgeries as infants. And sometimes the binary they're forced into changes from the one assigned at birth. Sometimes they have to get more surgeries as they grow up. And if they're trans those surgeries can affect what options they have for actual gender affirming surgeries.

Like. Just. Stop equating genitals with gender, stop assuming the genitals people have based on assigned gender at birth, stop assuming the genitals and type of surgery people want based on their gender identity, and stop assuming people's gender based on the genital they have, don't have, want, or don't want. And also stop seeing bottom surgery as only for sexual reasons.