#esp since that’s the opposite of most men

[cto10121]

Book Twilight vs. Movie Twilight: First Conversation in Biology Class

You wouldn’t think Bella and Edward’s first conversation would be easy to fuck up in a film adaptation. But alas, it was, because this film’s many incompetencies à la Rosenberg/Hardwicke/Pattinson/Stewart are legendary by now. I will also be taking a glance at the original script. But first, the receipts.

Book Twilight

To save time, I’ll be starting at their actual conversation, where Edward finally begins his attempts at getting to know Bella. For context, this is after Edward has introduced himself to Bella formally, Bella instantly notices he addressed her Bella, the first person ever to do, and the tense lab assignment.

“It’s too bad about the snow, isn’t it?” Edward asked. I had the feeling that he was forcing himself to make small talk with me. Paranoia swept over me again. It was like he had heard my conversation with Jessica at lunch and was trying to prove me wrong. “Not really,” I answered honestly, instead of pretending to be normal like everyone else. I was still trying to dislodge the stupid feeling of suspicion, and I couldn’t concentrate. “You don’t like the cold.” It wasn’t a question. “Or the wet.” “Forks must be a difficult place for you to live,” he mused. “You have no idea,” I muttered darkly. He looked fascinated by what I said, for some reason I couldn’t imagine. His face was such a distraction that I tried not to look at it any more than courtesy absolutely demanded. (p. 47-48)

This little exchange accomplishes a few things. First, we see Bella behaving differently towards Edward than she does towards her friends—she is more honest, for one thing, about her aversion to the snow. Secondly, we get hints that Edward knows more than he absolutely should know—sure enough, we learn later that he can read minds. Thirdly, Bella is clearly attracted to him.

On Edward’s part, we see his little test on Bella get a little curveball when Bella defeats his own ideas of her personality and attitudes. He rallies quickly, however, and notices correctly that Bella doesn’t like the cold or the wet, which implies he has been noticing her closely as well.

This leads to Bella finally explaining why she came to Forks:

“My mother got remarried,” I said. “That doesn’t sound so complex,” he disagreed, but he was suddenly sympathetic. “When did that happen?” “Last September.” My voice sounded sad, even to me. “And you don’t like him,” Edward surmised, his tone still kind. “No, Phil’s fine. Too young, maybe, but nice enough.” “Why didn’t you stay with them?” I couldn’t fathom his interest, but he continued to stare at me with penetrating eyes, as if my dull life’s story was somehow vitally important. (p. 48).

Notice how Edward is the only one to ask Bella why she came to Forks, showing sympathy when she talks about her mother’s divorce. Apart from showing Edward’s difference, it also shows Bella’s self-abnegating tendencies (constantly wondering why Edward would be interested) and her parentification (calling her mother’s husband “too young”).

“And your mother sent you here so that she could travel with him.” He said it as an assumption again, not a question. My chin raised a fraction. “No, she did not send me here. I sent myself.” His eyebrows knit together. “I don’t understand,” he admitted, and he seemed unnecessarily frustrated by that fact. I sighed. Why was I explaining this to him? He continued to stare at me with obvious curiosity. “She stayed with me at first, but she missed him. It made her unhappy...so I decided it was time to spend some quality time with Charlie.” My voice was glum by the time I finished. “But now you’re unhappy,” he pointed out. “And?” I challenged. “That doesn’t seem fair.” He shrugged, but his eyes were still intense.

Bella sees nothing wrong with sacrificing her own happiness to ensure her mother’s. Edward’s instant recognition of that inverted dynamic and his concern for Bella is not only a direct challenge to her Cinderbella mentality, but also establishes Edward’s worthiness as a love interest.

His gaze became appraising. “You put on a good show” he said slowly. “But I’d be willing to bet that you’re suffering more than you let anyone see.” I grimaced at him, resisting the urge to stick out my tongue like a five-year-old, and looked away. “Am I wrong?” I tried to ignore him. “I didn’t think so,” he murmured smugly. “Why does it matter to you?” I asked, irritated. I kept my eyes away, watching the teacher make his rounds. “That’s a very good question,” he muttered, so quietly that I wondered if he was talking to himself. (p. 49-50)

Again, Bella shows her dislike of receiving any kind of attention...because no one in her life pays her that level of attention to begin with (ouch, ouch). This also hints at Edward’s own romantic attraction to her.

[...] “Am I annoying you?” he asked. He sounded amused. I glanced at him without thinking...and told the truth again. “Not exactly. I’m more annoyed at myself. My face is so easy to read—my mother always calls me her open book.” I frowned. “On the contrary, I find you very difficult to read.” Despite everything that I’d said and he’d guessed, he sounded like he meant it. “You must be a good reader, then,” I replied. “Usually.” He smiled widely, flashing a set of perfect, ultrawhite teeth. (p. 50).

I like how in Midnight Sun Edward feels like he struggles so hard to read Bella, whereas in Twilight, Bella feels Edward reads her too easily. 🤣 Birds of a feather, flocking together...

So this is a good first (official) meeting scene, rife with tension, both romantic and otherwise. It’s no wonder their attraction toward each other goes from subtext to actual text very quickly. So this pithy exchange should be easy to translate into movie dialogue, right? Right?

Movie Twilight

Lol, no. Here is the exchange in the movie:

Edward: So you’re enjoying the rain? Bella: *scoffs* Edward: What? Bella: You’re asking me about the weather?

Already get Bullshit #1. Instead of Book Bella’s honest and simple “Not really,” Movie Bella reacts defensively and rudely for no good reason. Granted, Movie Edward has been acting weird and rude to her so far, but Book Bella is not the type to confront people. She tends to give people chances. Movie Bella, not so much.

(The original script was actually worse by having Bella call him out on his absence: “You’ve been gone.” This makes no sense, as they haven’t even met properly before. Bella has no claim to knowing how Edward spends his time yet. Nor would it have been in her character to claim it.)

Edward: I...I guess I am.

Movie Edward is as ~suave as ever, I see. 😑 Kind reminder that Book Edward is almost never at a loss for words. He is flawlessly polite even when he is in literal agony.

Bella: I don’t really like the rain. Any cold, wet thing, I don’t really...

So now we have massive inefficiencies in this screenplay. The book had a very pithy “Too-bad-about-the-snow-not-really-you-don't-like-the-cold-or-the-wet” exchange that for some reason the movie completely eschews for this protracted bit of nonsense.

(The original script was even worse. “No. I don't like the cold. Or the wet. Or the gray. Or parkas. Or turtle necks.” Wtf, Rosenberg?)

Edward: *laughs* Bella: What? Edward: Nothing...*checks microscope* It’s, uh, anaphase. Bella: Do you mind if I check?

In the book, the biology assignment takes place before their weather conversation, not during. This makes sense, and it’s realistic of high school dynamics. For the movies’ purposes, though, interrupting the dialogue for the microscope exchange could have been nicely done if well-timed. As it is, it...isn’t.

Bella: Anaphase. Edward: Like I said. *puts in the slide* If you hate the cold and wet so much, why did you move to the coldest place in the continental U.S.? Bella: It’s complicated. Edward: I’m sure I can keep up. Bella: My mom remarried and, um... Edward: You don’t like the guy? Bella: No, that’s not, um...Phil’s really nice. Edward: *checks microscope* It’s metaphase. Do you want to check it? Bella: I believe you.

In the book, Bella and Edward taking turns with the microscope was an unspoken power play. What’s more, Book Bella doesn’t take Edward’s word and checks all his work, just as he checks hers.

Movie Bella allowing Edward to complete the assignment makes little sense, given that all he has done so far is ask questions. They aren’t far along in their conversation to get at the real meat of the matter, i.e. why Bella moved to Forks.

(Also, the movie omits Bella’s “Too young” descriptor of Phil, which speaks volumes as to her relationship with her mother. This is present in the original script as “Young for her,” however, so it’s not Rosenberg’s fault for once.)

[CUT TO: Hallway] Edward: Why didn’t you stay with your mother and Phil? Bella: Well, Phil’s a minor league baseball player, and he travels a lot. My mom stayed home with me, but I know it made her unhappy, so...I figured I’d stay with my dad for a while. Edward: And now you’re unhappy. Bella: No. Edward: I’m sorry, I’m just trying to figure you out. You’re very difficult for me to read.

This is the worst change yet. Book Bella answered Edward’s “But now you’re unhappy” with a dismissive “And?” Book Bella doesn’t deny her dissatisfaction with Forks, which makes sense given how honest she was with Edward thus far. Also, it shows Bella’s self-abnegating tendencies—she did this so that her mother would be happy, and that’s all that matters to Bella. This is attractive to Edward, who values selflessness.

Movie Bella’s instinctive denial raises some questions: Why lie to Edward? Why would she deny this truth to herself? Denial may have been understandable as a knee-jerk reaction, but then she should have followed up with, “It doesn’t matter.” That way, Edward could have seen her self-abnegating tendencies and relate to them.

Bella: Hey, did you get contacts? Edward: No. Bella: Your eyes were black the last time I saw you...now they’re like golden brown— Edward: No, I know, it’s the fluorescents, um...*leaves*

There is no transition between Edward’s “You’re very difficult for me to read” and Bella’s contacts question, making the exchange awkward and jarring. In the book, Bella noticing Edward’s eyes happens in the beginning of Biology class, not the end, so Edward had the perfect excuse not to respond (i.e., class starting).

And then there is Movie Edward just leaving the conversation midway for no good reason. Fuck you too, movie.

In Conclusion

The movie very neatly eschews almost everything of consequence in this scene. Removing Bella’s parentification removes a key component of her character. It also removes Bella’s honesty and emotional transparency with Edward, something she doesn’t do with anyone else in Forks. Thus the script weakens their chemistry and makes their exchange sound insignificant, a bit of social nicety.

The film also makes Edward look awkward, gauche, and creepier compared to Book Edward’s careful and polite human mask and his shows of genuine interest and sympathy. And because Movie Bella is no longer parentified, Movie Edward can’t even express compassion for her plight.

Once again, and I can’t say this enough, fuck you too, movie.

[bestlilithian]

The lilithian experience (lilith dominant chart)

Personal experiences w having heavy lilith influence

- Older people being creepy subtly or overtly, but usually subtly with certain looks or touches or comments, especially strangers in public or distant family friends

- Being told Im scary or intimidating, or that I look mean (a girl once told me she thought I wouldnt want to hang out w her and her friends because I looked 'too pretty and kinda mean') [this is esp w lilith/asc harsh aspects]

- Lilith square asc culture is walking into a room a little pissed or in a hurry and everyone shutting up (also works for mars/pluto)

- Now Ive never heard anyone else talking about this but as a lilithian woman Ive always been disgusted by the idea of having sex with a man because in our culture a woman who has sex w a man is seen as having been dominated and degraded by him ("I fucked her" "I hit that" "I scored") also the act itself is very power struggle-ish like no *I* want to bend over a man and make him suck *my* dick

- Being hyperaware of people looking at you (even if youre dressed extremely modestly or without makeup)

- Lilith/moon aspects 🤝 your mom making inappropriate comments about you and your body

- Lilith/sun aspects 🤝 your father insulting you or making weird comments (more subtle w soft aspects so you might brush it off but its still not okay girl)

- People thinking youre flirting with them or others (esp men) but youre just hot and talking, and you cant help that ppl have strong reactions to anything you say really

- Loving eye contact <3 (w the right people)

- Lilith square saturn culture is not being afraid to stand up to authority <3 and having to quite often because they have a pick on you and try to tear you down

- also w lilith square/opposite saturn grown ass adults will have beef w you when youre a kid, esp those w authority over you like teachers, coaches etc

- Lilith/asc harsh aspects and overthinking whether a fit is too revealing or not (because you dont want to get harassed and looked at again) (but then youll grt harassed even if you go out in a priests suit so 🤩)

- People (esp men) trying to use you for sex

- Always being the one guys want to be friends w benefits with while theyre crushing on another girl

- "I dont like what you do to me" - most men Ive interacted with for a while

- A guy told me he liked me for who I am but he couldnt stand "the effect I have on him"

- lilith in 4th house culture is attracting men w mommy issues and being looked at by guys in relationships

- lilith/mercury and needing to know all your friends bdsm test results

- People liking when youre mean 2 them

- People who hate you often want to have sex w you

- Ive had so many guys in my class literally have to gather up courage to talk 2 me, even for basic things like asking me to help w something, they approach me looking all tense and worked up like Ill slice their head off for asking me to help them with their math lmao

- A classmate (and friend, apparently) of my friend once didnt want to come out and meet me when I went to my friends school to give her something because she thought Id beat her up (for context I found out she said some nasty things to my friend and was not happy about it)

- Being told by ppl (esp men) that I remind them of characters who are villains

- People esp girls not liking me for no reason or being rude

- Guys in relationships being extremely cold and rude to me or even shittalking me to their gfs (you can guess why)

- People trying to 'put you in your place'

- Recognizing other lilithians immediately

- Being insecure about your private parts, your body in general and your appearance

- Sex obsession since a young age

- Sexual harassment unfortunately

[angelkiyo]

modern au high school hcs for my fav haikyuu boys based on my high school experiences + romance hcs <3

[miya osamu, sakusa kiyoomi, oikawa torū, iwaizumi haijime]

a/n- part one + my asks are open bc i do not know what to write but im down for mostly anything tbh so ASK AWAY PLS

miya osamu

he has a similar gpa to his brother [gpa at a 2.5 😔]

is in culinary club and the president

since atsumu is a drake glazer, osamu makes sure to bring up kendrick everytime he hears a drake song

he had a field day when “not like us” mv dropped

even though his brother and him are opposites in a way, that hasn’t stopped osamu from being submitted on ‘inarizaki.bops’

he was most likely talking to a teacher

private insta with 300 followers

doesn’t give a fuck abt p.e and would be enjoying basketball if they weren’t able to play volleyball

osamu would probably also have a very casual way of dressing — stussy and abrocrombie fiend

steals from his brother’s nike collection while owning several pairs adidas gazelles and new balances himself

as for with his s/o, he would be more of a soft launch guy and would post stories of you two holding hands or the two of you in a mirror pic

he would def be holding your hand in the halls and having his arm around you

imagine peter k lara jean moment

your friends would find him to be a green flag

the two of you would use study hall to not study at all but use his little crock pot thing he got from tiktok shop and make food

would try to be nara smith one day and fail miserably

very much would wear ‘aqua de gio’ bc i said so (n would find atsumu’s cologne to be too strong)

dates would include: cooking at his place and eating your masterpieces while watching movies (esp spider-man bc he seems the type)

artists he would listen to: kendrick lamar, joey bada$$, childish gambino, doja cat

sakusa kiyoomi

annoyingly smart (3.6 gpa) and would probably get a 4/5 avg on his ap tests

if he wasn’t on volleyball, he seems the type to be in academic decathlon or science olympiad

would be keeping to himself but if he were to play a sport, it would be smt like lacrosse or tennis

he’s rich. like RICH RICH. (he goes to itachiyama with three siblings or smt)

so he’d wear like club monaco, j. crew, or like ralph lauren

would have a specific rotation of shoes that would be asics or new balance in white

insta would be like 700 followers and 32 following

for him and his s/o, he’d be like osamu and would be very much soft launch you

even though he hates crowds, he would very much like to go out with you shopping (in a shopping center that has nobody/barely anyone)

kiyoomi may be presenting himself as a cold and calculating and he can be, but he’s a soft to ppl he’s close with

him and komori would use brain rot language ironically (I just see that lemme elaborate) after komori would use brain rot language unironically

he would use it with you once “by accident”

he kept hearing komori say it and said it subconsciously

and then never again after the second hand embarrassment he got

“on skibidi…?”

you still bring it up to this day (he blames komori)

dates would include movie nights and making pillow forts

artists he would listen to: sza, 21 savage, kanye west, playboi carti

oikawa torū

would be a note taking fiend and be an honors/ap student with a 3.4

he would be on a ‘bop’ page for volleyball in general

great king? nah great bop

instead of being a wyll warrior, he’d be one of the mfks on insta that would slide up with a 😍 then ghost you after dm-ing

another dior sauvage user and on some days, versace eros…

caught up in the central cee madz drama

also obsessed with watching nara smith (me too)

he’s team ice spice

would be very persistent in taking 0.5s

though because of this, he purposely fluffs up his bangs and hair for him to not fall victim to 0.5s

if he didn’t play volleyball, he would play badminton/tennis

would be a SLUTTTT for pinterest clean boy fits

very clean boy core with his lululemon mens shit and would be shopping at alo + urban outfitters

also ralph lauren teddy bear sweaters n golden gooses

his insta user would be smt like “theyenvy_.toruuu” or basic like his full name and he would have more than 3k followers

THOUGH HE WOULD BE MAKING THOSE SHARED POSTS W YOU.

his finsta would be very full of you and spams of volleyball

nle choppa slut me out 2 glazer

dates would include: self care day at either one of your places while watching baddies or real housewives +shopping

artists he would listen to: laufey, cigarettes after sex, olivia rodrigo, megan thee stallion, nle choppa

iwaizumi hajime

he went to uci so he has his shit tgt (nhs and 3.9 type shit w aps)

though, he would definitely be apart of debate club and a lacrosse person if he didn’t do volleyball

shops at psycho bunny or hollister. the occasional lululemon shirt bc oikawa put him on

would wear yeezys and supreme, i fear

i can see him being into watching the “who tf did I marry” series

massive gym bro

would have his finsta tracking his gains

his fyp would also probably be workouts and those “baby don’t hurt me” meme tiktoks (idk how to explain)

would be the winner of senior assassin

he would def shoot oikawa first

type of person to wear ‘obession’ by calvin klein mixed with axe body spray

as for insta, he would def have a good 1k

would post you to the cutest songs ever and collab on posts

HARD LAUNCH TYPA GUY

yall would have like a specific song that would make him be like “this is our songgg”

in his head

most likely a tyler song

aka ‘sweet/i thought you wanted to dance’

he’d be the okokok to your lalalala

dates would include: him just spoiling you and dinner dates

artists he would listen to: tyler the creator, metro boomin, 21 savage, kendrick lamar, j. cole

[self-loving-vampire]

i appreciate that you have such a normal perspective on discourse (in my opinion) i am a trans man with a very similar perspective on gender/transition to you (i.e. i dont really think gender is real per se and certainly says nothing of your moral character but i have aesthetic preferences wrt the way my body looks) so maybe thats part of why i appreciate the way you talk about things lol esp since a lot of the "transandrophobia" people are just as obsessive/overbearing as their opponents imho

Unfortunately I don't think I can call my own views on this "normal" in a world in which gender essentialism and oppositional sexism are the norm, even among progressive queers. The idea that there are no huge fundamental and non-overlapping differences between men and women is alien to most people.

I grew up autistic and naturally curious and skeptical in a country infamous for extreme sexism (reinforced by the catholic church) and anti-LGBT discrimination at such level that I had to become an international refugee. It's not a good place to be in generally.

Questioning those norms the way I questioned things like handshakes or school uniforms came naturally, and I was never satisfied by thoughtless answers like "because that's just how it is" or "because I said so".

The whole gender roles thing seemed incredibly artificial and detrimental to me. Just one of the many, many things society was doing wrong that I could do better (I was always kind of narcissistic like that, but at least I'm the type of person who easily resists normative influence).

If not for the fact that it's not a commonly-understood term (and so would complicate communications) I would describe myself primarily as autismgender but ultimately that part feels much less important compared to my bodily autonomy. I care more about being able to modify my body how I want than about how that gets labeled.

[klspacecadet]

aita in this ao3 comment thread

I don’t think it’s needed but for context this is a transmasc pwp that doesnt use afab language

Also if nobody tells me otherwise I’m gonna continue to think I absolutely ate them up at the end, so if you disagree I’d appreciate an explanation :)

comment exchange under the cut

me I’m so confused can someone please explain what keith’s anatomy actually looks like for context I missed the trans tags before reading this and spent the entirety of the fic violently confused as to what is going on (im trans) I appreciate the usage of gender neutral language but esp bc I didn’t realize he was trans here I just. don’t know whats going on??????? help me please I was like, “is this referencing foreskin….? does this person not know what a dick looks like? is keith intersex or something? uhhh” before I decided to go and check the tags and the comments and realized lol

them what about this made you feel like it was appropriate to comment?

me it was a genuine question?? Excuse me for being confused and wanting to be able to visualize the fic better, especially as a fellow trans person...

them your phrasing is really rude, intentional or not. I’m using language that describe mine and other trans men’s real life bodies. if you don’t get it, that’s fine, you’re not the target audience - but it’s not my job to explain it to you. leaving a comment about how it’s so confusing and weird is not the way to ask a genuine question, especially one about trans genitalia. yes, even if you’re also trans. I feel like that’s common sense. please gain some.

me I’m sorry if my phrasing came off as rude, I didn’t indend for it to be seen that way and I generally struggle with tone and phrasing. I commented my confusion over the vague phrasing and lack of description that might otherwise be inherent, and I merely wished to express my lack of understanding and willingness to learn more, which honestly isn’t that common on the internet. If this were about a real person’s body and a real person’s identity, I understand why more reservation and politeness would be necessary; however, since I’m commenting on something fictional that you wrote and posted for anyone to see, asking questions about your word usage and the body of a fictional character, I don’t think it’s justified to feel like I need to walk on eggshells when expressing this. Also, when I called it confusing, I felt it was implied that I was referring to your usage of vague descriptive terminology that nobody outside of your circle would be able to comprehend and picture, especially when they didn’t realize it was a trans fic at first. I also never said anything about it being weird, I actually said the opposite so idk where you got that from. I hope you have a good day and get off your high horse, I don’t see what reason you had to be so aggressive in response to someone asking a question, especially when most would probably jump to insults and hate. Hopefully from now on you no longer feel attacked when someone asks for clarification on your work, and you gain the ability to hold a respectful conversation without jumping to insults like “gain some common sense.” also idk why you responded in the first place instead of just deleting my comment and moving on if you felt it was so rude— I feel like that’s common sense nowadays, but perhaps you were looking for an argument. Good luck on your journey to kindness and hope you have a good rest of your day! :)

[chevelleneech]

See so i think jikook are close def that much i can say, but i dont think they are in a relationship or a serious one at that , i mean we are pretty sure that jk had teh thing with the women (which people for some reason dont agree with or say its a cosplayer , who has teh exact same hairstyle, floorplan, walls, dog, sofa and lights , mannerisms, apartment and very soon after that jk said that "saesangs are still here" , so i dont whats there to disprove over here for those relegious jikook people) and then jm has with the actress who posts his apartment pics, and all of this happened esp with jk at that period when they admitted they werent talking at all, and wouldnt have if they hadnt met, throughout ct it felt that jk was sort of anxious, bored, distracted more like it and felt was upset, all of this also points that maybe they had a fallout a major one perhaps, but now they are better bc hell they went to military together. But all of this factually also puts out that jk and jm are not dating, jk is having his fun, with prob diff people, relationships and same prob with jm. Tae was with jennie, and even rm had a long committed relationship until recently it seems from rpwp songs. so all of this people fighting over taekook vs jikook and how jk seems abusive is redundant , bc they arent in a relationship either of them. what are you thoughts about it.

You including the “Jungkook was anxious and irritated and upset” line tells me you’re a Tkkr trying to hide your hands, lol.

Jungkook may have been nervous at the start of their trip to Connecticut, because Jimin was too, as they both mentioned it’s the first time they’re hanging out after a bit of not seeing each other. But this attempt at highlighting JK only, and saying he seemed uninterested in whatever ways, has been the one thing Tkkrs clung to since the first episode, and it is baseless.

Jungkook is allowed to feel however he felt, but we also all watched the damn show. He was smiling and happy during every single episode thus far, and reiterated his joy many times over. He also said during the first episode that he wanted to keep traveling and filming with Jimin after enlistment. He wants to do it until they’re 50. Was he exaggerating? Most probably, and him being tired at some points was a given due to him being in the middle of promoting his solo work. Outside of that though, he was happy and willing to do the show.

Jungkook and Jimin traveled together because they chose to, because they wanted to. So whatever was going on behind the scenes between them, is something we will never know the full picture of. So if you don’t think they’re together, okay, but I don’t think you ever did, because I’m pretty sure you are a Tkkr anyway.

Regardless of what you ship though, smoke and mirrors are not good indicators that people are dating. Jimin and Jungkook flirt and put their mouths on one another. They choose each other over and over, so no matter the fact that there is a woman claiming to be or trying to insinuate she is Jimin’s girlfriend. Without him ever confirming that, she’s just a weirdo.

Not to mention, why would any of their actual partners post the way she does? If Park Jimin was my man, I do not need to vague post and try to show off bits and pieces of our lives to convince his fans of it. Never mind the fact that it’s his private life. So if they are together, unless Jimin is okay with her stirring shit up in the fandom and posting his house on IG… that’s not something a grown woman, who is famous adjacent herself, dating an incredibly famous person would do.

In comparison, Namjoon and his potential boyfriend situation is the near exact opposite of what that woman is or was doing. We have no idea who the man (or men) is in the pictures Namjoon himself posted. Maybe some people do, idk, but the point is, there is no way to determine who they are nor what they mean to Joon outside of fandom speculation. Yet the speculation makes sense and is believable, because Namjoon himself played into it. He wasn’t deterred by people questioning his sexuality nor relationship status, he posted a heart over a man’s face, and was posting all types of loves songs as he traveled with his family and a man. Yet when he seemingly had his heartbroken, he deleted all photos of the emoji covered man (or men), started talking shit about relationships, and posting sad queer music.

That, imo, is how I believe a relationship between any BTS member would go. Not the heartbreak, but a “quiet launch”. Tae and Jennie were even along similar lines. They unfortunately didn’t post their pictures themselves, but even in the middle of the drama, they kept seeing each other in public spaces. They just didn’t publicize their whereabouts.

So if two members of the group can seemingly date both famous and presumably non famous people, and take pictures and be seen out and about with them, why can’t Jimin? Why is his relationship shrouded in mystery, and only fueled by the woman claiming to live with him all the while he makes no move to imply there’s truth to the rumor?

If he and JK have absolutely nothing going on, why is he out here letting his girlfriend look goofy, all the while biting hickies on a man? While flirting with a man on live and asking him to get naked? While traveling with the same man, getting his ass slapped by him in bed? Enlisting in the military with said man, using a program that keeps them together the entire time?

So again, you don’t have to ship Jikook nor think anything of them, but if you’re going to pull in Taennie and Namjoon’s possible situation to use as examples of the members dating, keep it steady across the board. Jimin and Jungkook’s speculated relationships with women do not match up with Taennie nor Joon’s situation, yet Jikook does.

They travel, sight see, share meals, stay up late, take cute selfies, and cuddle up. So what makes Jikook less likely, aside from them being in the same group for a decade? Which only adds reason to why they may have had some communication issues or whatever, and needed time apart.

[summerlinenss]

Re the previous post.

I get why someone might see people saying Taika's not straight cos he was at a Paris Hilton concert as perpetuating stereotypes (i personally saw it more as a joke though and maybe a light hearted pushback at those who are rabidly determined hes straight and queerbaiting and use it to delegitimise his work with queer themes).

But imo these people (mostly white queers) who are DETERMINED he's straight cos he's only been known to date women bother me more, and I feel like the first argument almost demands we all assume he's straight when he's never said one way or another (and is under no obligation to) and I don't like to assume people's sexualities.

Like, all that backlash he got for the 'everyone's queer' comment people comparing it to nt people saying 'everyone's a bit autistic' when it's not something I personally agree with but I've only heard queer friends/people say they reckon everyone is a bit queer, and others accusing him of 'queerbaiting' and he's even had think pieces written about him saying he shouldn't be seen as a queer icon cos they assume he's cishet, while David Tennant has never got the same treatment (he's not said his sexuality to the best of my knowledge either).

And like you said, he might not have said much more hinting at his sexuality after because of the backlash, and he grew up in a time people acted like bisexuality (esp in men, add on top of that dequeering of poc and assumptions all lgbtq people are white and all poc are cishet, one example is how people react to him making comments possibly maybe hinting at not being straight as an older guy with such vitriol in contrast to how Con was hero worshipped for coming out later in life, and you were seen as a monster for slightly critiquing him at that time) didn't exist.

Sorry I go off on tangents a lot lol and cram a lot of info in, I have a lot if feelings and things to say on the matter hehe

yeah and again, i can understand having a sort of trigger response to stereotyping and getting defensive about it, but i think there are people who go a bit too far with the whole “well he’s definitely obviously 100% straight and even suggesting he might not be is so unbelievably inappropriate.” like it almost feels as if the idea of him being queer personally offends them, which is really weird since he’s only ever had the exact opposite reaction.

i have a lot of thoughts about the whole “taika can’t be a queer icon unless he puts a label on himself” thing since many of the most prominent figures that are idolized by the lgbtq+ community and called “queer icons” have actually outright said they’re straight allies, but i’m not gonna get into that right now.

also without sounding too preachy i think people need to remember that the strict concepts of gender and sexuality are very much so a westernized construct. i don’t think it’s much of a secret that even people within the queer community still have very rigid views of sexuality. they understand things like bisexuality in theory, but they struggle to actually accept fluidity in practice and the fact that even finding an accurate label can be difficult for some people. it can be an extremely personal thing to even figure out and, at the end of the day, there’s no right or wrong way to present your identity.

[mithliya]

Can you explain how the split model is harmful?

i can try my best, i’m a little rusty bc i haven’t really touched this topic in quite some time.

speaking as a lesbian who once was closeted, and knows many lesbians who faced similar— the split attraction model simply does not work, is illogical, keeps us closeted + confused longer, and encourages denialism.

the split attraction model separates “sexual attraction” from “romantic attraction”. it argues that people can have sexual attraction in one way and romantic attraction in another. the most common examples are heteroromantic asexuals, aromantic asexuals, aromantic bisexuals, and the like. basically ace/aro on one axis and then a sexual orientation on another (and if it’s a “romantic attraction” then just remove the -sexual and replace it with -romantic, even though the -sexual just refers to the sex ur attracted to and doesn’t mean u necessarily want to have sex or have a libido). the logical conclusions of this is that sometimes someone may be homosexual but biromantic, meaning they’re “romantically attracted” to both sexes but only sexually desire the same sex. in normal speak, that’s either just being homosexual (& telling urself u could totally be able to tolerate a relationship that makes u unhappy bc at least ur with the opposite sex) or bisexual with strong preferences.

firstly, it’s homophobic— under the split attraction model, lesbians can be attracted to men if they’re “biromantic” or if they’re “homoromantic bisexuals” (ie bisexual with a strong preference). gay men can be into women for similar reasons. somehow, you could be gay AND straight at the same time (heterosexual homoromantic / homosexual heteroromantic).

secondly, it literally just confuses you further and keeps you from figuring yourself out. if you’re a lesbian and can’t figure out why men’s bodies repulse you and you feel nothing for men but you toooootally want a boyfriend (ie u want social acceptance and approval) then you can just tell urself ur heteroromantic homosexual or biromantic homosexual! and then u don’t have to accept that ur just a lesbian and can keep forcing urself to fake interest in men. this overwhelmingly will harm gay ppl, namely lesbians, especially since we are raised to revolve our futures around having a husband and kids & male approval the way all women are.

speaking anecdotally here, but i was literally just not into men but was able to tolerate being close to them (neutral on stuff like holding hands or hugging etc) and told myself that meant i’m “biromantic homosexual”, which was a step up from my previous belief that i was “heteroromantic homosexual”. before then i was just thinking i must be demisexual or asexual or aromantic or acespec etc because i simply did not consider the obvious possibility that maybe i’m just not interested in men. this is not a unique experience— many lesbians i know have spent years confused and closeted because they were telling themselves that not liking men must mean being asexual or aroace or whatever else. it keeps us in denial and ignoring our obvious feelings because simply finding a label that fits your current confused state & validating it as an Identity is much easier (& also somewhat fun esp when ur a teen struggling to know ur place in this world)

also a lot of it hinges on the assumption that the average gay person is like hypersexual as hell and it’s just generally not good to pretend like there’s these “separate forms of attraction” the way the SAM does.

i honestly don’t see an actual upside to it, it encourages heterosexuals to delude themselves into thinking they’re “””””queer””””””” because they have commitment issues or don’t want to be in a relationship or because they have a low libido, it convinces others that you can somehow be gay and not gay at the same time, it’s illogical, it encourages gay ppl to remain in denial and be closeted, it just. isn’t good

[tirfpikachu]

"someone whose masculinity becomes gender conforming"

??? explain how trans men are gender conforming

fun fact: if transmasc people transition their female-passing lovers can start existing in the world being perceived as having a straight relationship. this can be a very weird experience for lesbians who start off in a gay-passing relationship and suddenly get assumed to be het whenever they hold hands, kiss, etc their partner or generally in interpersonal relationships!! it's more complex than it may seem.

for me even tho my relationship itself was obviously homosexual and i was only shielded from homophobia conditionally based on my partner's trans status not being known, i still felt like i was kind of back in the closet in a sense in my daily life. if someone passes as male consistently and is generally masc, them not conforming to their sex might still end up being gender conforming in their day-to-day life aka they would only weird out normie gc people if they wore feminine things. it can at times feel isolating as the gf bc you go from being brave enough to live as gay and suddenly you're seen as every other average het girl. it can be especially weird if you're masc4masc or gnc4gnc in a gay way and suddenly you're seen as just a quirky het girl with a boyfriend, and if you talk about being gay it has to be a whole thing where you explain your bf is trans etc which can make the bf in question feel uncomfortable at being outed too, depending on the guy. overall it can be a very complex situation. many couples with a cis lesbian & a transitioned transmasc person can be super happy and content with it all, but for me it led to very complicated feelings. especially since i started dating them assuming i must be transmasc too and that i would transition, but then detransed.

gender can refer to (at least) two things imo, though i'm sick rn so i might go back on these details of it in the future or elaborate further: gender roles/norms, and then how you're treated in society based on your sex characteristics, ones you were born with or gained thru hrt/surgery or just lucking out genetically as a trans person and passing as the opposite sex. this can have an incredibly drastic impact on the person, since you can go from facing misogyny daily to not at all interpersonally most days when others around you don't know you're trans (esp in larger cities). you can still 100% face medical misogyny, and your privilege from no longer facing misogyny is usually very conditional. but either way, someone can go from their masculinity being treated as rebellious and counterculture vs being seen as fitting the mold by society, so long as others don't know or there's enough opposite sex characteristics gained that it affects how misogynists treat the person. transitioned people who live as the opposite sex will obviously always be counterculture in a sense, but their specific expression might be seen as more or less conforming based on how much they go against the sex characteristics they have. it's why you often hear about transmasc people facing gncphobic harassment or assault for being feminine, or some well-passing transfem people facing lesbophobia and being sexualized for dating women, and not just by people who are into both sexes; which can make it stressful in a pretty unique way, since misogynists are often both hateful towards women and hateful towards gnc people so trans people break their brains and they can be unpredictable - not inherently worse than what female/ofab people face, ofc, just a different struggle and it can get extra dangerous with cis/bio men.

someone can be not conforming to their sex's standards yet be conforming to their social gender's standards if they pass. it makes relationships really complicated. trans people often need to learn how to navigate the world from a totally different pov and their partners may be deeply affected and not feel right about the new space they now live in as a couple in their day-to-day lives. for many it still works, for me it did not. even now i'll see a super hot trans guy and be like oh my god if i didn't know it was doomed from the start i'd [censored] but i just know that i would get super weirded out at how others treat us and it just wouldn't feel right. i also feel immense joy at dating gnc women, female/ofab people who identify and live as women. being able to say "yeah she's my wife" someday is important to me. i'm masc/andro4masc but i know i'd be wasting both of our time if i srsly asked out a butch or stud who didn't find pride in masc womanhood.

[darianias]

My view/TED Talk on Tengen Uzui and a platonic relationship with wives (not canon lol)

⚠️CW:⚠️ adult topics are addressed but nothing explicit is mentioned what so ever, probable typos everywhere, this is composes of half-awake ADHD tangents that wouldn't leave my mind so I'm writing it down so my brainw will chill and I can sleep lol. Meaning this isn't planned out in the slightest. No professionalism here. 😅 Also due to the tangental nature of this, don't take this as an attack on anyone or thing. Please. 🙏 That is the opposite reasons why I am posting this.

⚠️DISCLAIMER:⚠️ This talks about Tengen and his wives not being in love; despite me shipping it otherwise. (this isn't hate it's more so to help people be more comfortable and have access to more fics comfortably lol. I will not tolerate bigotry towards: polysexuals, polyromantics OR anyone LGBTQIA+. You will be blocked and reported.

Explanatory tangent about why I'm making this and QPPs:

feel free to skip the intro if you already understand lol the entire tangental for the most part anyay.

Into & brief? Personal QPP explanation

I'm writing this in the wee hours of the morning because I was trying to get settled to sleep reading fics... when I remembered that alot of people can't read a lot of Tengen fics as they're not into poly or aren't into women one way or another. It... somewhat bothers me that people get upset, but I also understand where people come from at least, as I just have a different mindset, and I think it could help some people's destress with this???

I am among those not really into women and am picky about polyships in general but esp with y/n. However, I am also aspec, specifically demisexual and demiromantic are the labels I'm most comfortable with in these cases. Why do I mention this? Well...

Among the #Asexual & #Aroromantic community we can feel and have relationships that can be labeled as Queer Platonic. (I imagine it can happen with any sexuality but that's not the point here.)

A Queer Platonic Relationship is a kind of strong platonic love that's stronger than just friendships but without the romantic or sexual feelings of a romantic or sexual relationship. It doesn't have to be between two people of the same sex or gender, it can be oppsites.

Also I'm not expert so do you research, a this is from a personal pov here to try and give an example.

I am in a Queer Platonic relationship of around 10 years now. The love I feel is just as real as others but it's different. In a way it's like how some animals become a bonded pair or set. I would do anything for her, but I would never feel comfortable or desire to kiss her, date her, or "sleep" with her. 🤢 Cuddles are the furthest I'd go and since we don't live alone we'd never do it around my dad, as most people don't seem to understand and I'd rather people not think we are in either of those kinds of relationships, but that's me. Other people in these relationships may feel differently and have different levels of comfort and confidence lol. My QPP and we each have our own wants and desires for other people... specifically fictional men for the most part. So sharing a bed is a nono and while we can share a room as we had to before- we respect each other's need for "alone time." Also snuggles and the like are human and mammalian nature, but society likes to just group it into two small boxes: young child/baby familial or romantic in nature. Which is weird when you think of our needs as a social animal or social mammal, it's not really healthy.

Anyway if you want to learn more, I suggest starting here:

Onto Tengen & His Wives

Anyway the POINT IS, in my head in tengen x y/n situations, tengen x sonas or tengen x other character but not in a poly way, I apply these types of feelings to. Hell I kind of do in canon as well, as for me the love and care he has for his wives is real, but I feel it more in a QPP way as I don't.... have any real vibes that tell me otherwise, regardless of them being canon. It's just how I vibe. I'm not against the relationship by any means as in aus not dealing with him as a main focus (these are private aus and my QPP and I are literally both Tengen simps and also ship him with Kyojuro), Tengen and his wives are very much are all in love with each other. So I'm not really against the actual ship or relationship. I do wish it was more fleshed out tho, I am overally more comfortable with the idea that everyone in the polycule love each other romantically and sexually in this case as otherwise it's uncomfortable for me. 😅 That's just how I like my Polyships.

With that in mind, I am comfortable with the idea of plantonic cuddle puddles, caring for each other, taking care of each other as long as it doesn't become romantic or sexual with the other women or between the trio and Tengen.

So... how do we begin to tackle this? Well look at some of the facts:

They were in an arranged marriage with prior relationships not being detailed whatsoever. Tengen didn't want to have 3 wives to use as tools as his ninja clan ruled. He wanted to save them from that fate as well.

While in canon they all did fall in love with Tengen there's many ways to take this relationship. They have some base level of care for each other be it friends, familial, QPP, romantically or so on.

Example 1:

One thing I like to do is ship the wives in their own polycule, but this is back in the day in Japan 🗾 so I sometimes apply the fact that with a divorce they all would be legally separated due to this, and Tengen whose relationship to them are more platonic, wouldn't do that to those dear to him. Meanwhile adding another wife is still more socially acceptable seemingly in this world albeit much isn't specified so we really just need to guess.

That is an idea I more so apply when reading fics rather than my own story creation.

Example 2:

A similar idea is that they all are in a way "trauma bonded", they went through hell and back together as ninja, and escaped from their clan, that isnt a simple or safe task when dealing with shinobi, ao them all joining the slayer corps makes sense. While they may not love each other romantically/sexually, they all love each other and are loyal to each other. You can take this ship the wives together or only two of them or find them partners outside of the group. Wanna ship Suma and Mitsuri or Makio and Giyu??? Go for it. They can join the family.

In the end...

I can kinda go on and on with tons of different examples, my point is, if possible, open your mind to these ideas, you can enjoy so much more of the fandom this way. Yeah there's no wives of wifeless fics and the like, but most people here are fine with being the 4th wife or an additional Husband or 4th significant other to Tengen. There's nothing wrong with that. But I see people get tense with that or annoyed and I can't help but feel this want to kind of bridge things if at all possible. There's ways you can enjoy many of these these fics, headcanons, scenarios, etc. without having to feel as though you have to be in an actual polycule if that's not your taste or thing.

End Statment

I am a NOBODY on this site, half of my small pool of followers are bots and the others mostly just followed be back/are moots??? I mostly like and reblog other people's things. My creations are mostly between my QPP and I and in our heads and random discord messages as just, we don't have the spoons to write or draw that stuff more often than not. 99% of it is entirely self indulgent lol. BUT there's a tiny chance this could help someone, y'know? Maybe it won't. Maybe it'll cause more problems. 😰😬 I'm not deep enough in any fandom to see drama and ship hate and the like. 😅 I'm more or less a fandom hermit in my own little corner or bubble. I am passionate about this series. I've been hyperfixating on it almost non stop for about a year now. 😅😂 I just want others to enjoy it as much as possible. As long as you're not being a bigot to others. 😌 So please don't think I'm trying to start crap, as long as what you ship is *legal* hint hint, nudge nudge. idgaf what you're into as long as you're not harming or harassing others lol.

Also getting these tangents out of my head makes it so my brain can settle down more lol ADHD is a pain in the ass at times.

[wainwrightjakobshammerlock]

GODDD YOUR BRAIN. a lot of what you said is stuff ive been thinking about for literal years and esp now with my most recent playthrough of 1 and 2. the video was great and i also found a pdf for orientalism that i will be picking through as i have the time for it. ive had a post in my drafts ive been working on for a few days. specifically about how the crimson raider leadership (excluding moxxi and including the vault hunters) is comprised entirely of corporate settlers and how that still absolutely fuels their ideology when it comes to the bandit clans. tannis, zed, and pierce are all dahl, marcus has been both siding every conflict since the beginning of mankind, and roland and the ENTIRE military force of the crimson raiders (excluding the vhs) are atlas leftovers. and ofc its seen as necessary because there needs to be bodies between them and hyperion so every injustice against the planet is forgiven. its hardly even mentioned. even moxxi, who is pandoran born, profits in just. outright massacring the population with her fighting rings. (the underdome was sponsored by every corporation, including the shield manufacturers.) the desire that the raiders have to protect pandora just feel like protecting the. thirty or so people who live with them because everyone else is seen as not worthy to the point where mass execution and displacement is encouraged. im not going to talk about bl3 because im a bit rustier on it at this point but in FFS thats an issue brought up at the very start of the dlc: the crimson raiders are losing power and arent needed anymore because jack is gone. like they arent doing any great help to the planet. theyre not even wanted by the end of 2. side tangent but the two things that stand out to me the most on first thoughts are: destroying the eridium mine supplying sledges men in one (after already killing him and half the settlement) and doing straight up environmental warfare in 2 when freezing out the bloodshots. its just unnecessary cruelty. im sorry for taking so long to type this out i have. untreated adhd 😔

No no no it's okay speak your mind!!!

Also some additional things I didn't have the place to say in my answer:

One, you could very easily interpret bl1 and particularly bl2 as an extended metaphor for American destabilization and subsequent media treatment of the Middle East. Except Gearbox themselves is parroting the in-universe perception of Pandora as a "barren wasteland where nobody lives", i.e. the myth of terra nullius. Despite all evidence to the contrary.

Two, 2 specifically has an anti-colonialist narrative. Handsome Jack is a colonizer and you oppose him. But within this opposition is a DISTINCT subtext of "yeah he wants to kill off the bandits of Pandora but he also considers the Normal People, like Salvador and your friends to be bandits!", not "bandits are also humans with dignity". I'm not sure if the former is the conclusion the writers want you to arrive at, but it kind of feels like it.

Three, if I remember correctly the first time a tink (xenohuman/mutant) was not presented as part of the subhuman orientalized faction was fucking New Tales. And I think there was one in Debt or Alive as well (including a tongue in cheek joke about how calling your enemies slurs is kinda bad actually). Yet again, either the writers can't comprehend someone disabled in a not-"cool scifi" way being human, or the Borderlands universe has ridiculous amounts of ableism and baseliner supremacist (can you tell I love Rimworld's terminology for this sort of stuff) sentiment. But homophobia isn't real so that's funny haha right guys??????

As for 3... yeah there isn't much there. Ellie tells us that Pandora has been drained of all resources, Tyreen tells us what I already addressed, fucking Vaughn man. I'm sure I could say smth more coherent on all that but I can't rn, brain fried.

Then there's the Looters and Frostbiters and Devil Riders, who for gameplay purposes are reskinned bandits for the DLCs, but they aren't stated to be bandits for... what reason exactly, aside from geographic isolation (all the other bandits across the galaxy are universally homogenized so...)? I mean, frostbiters even associate into clans like bandits do...

And I do highly suggest you read Orientalism, it's a foundational text in post-colonial studies for a reason, but I find that it also applies incredibly well to media analysis :)

[gyunglitter]

more profiles

- just you dicking around with txt college!au besties

warnings: i think one curse word lol

tags: txtxreader (platonic), non-idol!au, college!au, txt, lag, tomorrowxtogether, lesserafim, hansohee, drabble fics!, bulletpoint fics!

notes: just some additional profiles for the rest of the cast that i made, these are the people who will make appearances throughout the series

+more profiles might be added as this progresses :)

PLEASE feel free to send in asks/requests about this series to give me more ideas/feedback/reactions to it! i very much appreciate them!

⚤masterlist

girlies🥴

sohee:

HFJSLAHM

your older sister

literally the prettiest person to walk the planet

besides you🤭

but fr she is

she’s a model and artist

her career is kinda what inspired you to be a photographer actually!

you’d go to her photoshoots as a kid with your parents and instead of being focused on your sister

you were intrigued by the cameras and work system!

that’s how your parents knew you were a little weird, but everything works for a reason yknow

despite being so different, yall are so close

she adores you but won’t act like it

but you know she does since she offered a room in her apartment when you moved out for college

your friends CONSTANTLY try to find ways to come over

but you know your friends best and only let them come over when sohee okays it lol

yeonjun and beomgyu are her #1 fans, but RESPECTFULLY

girlie has no ops, BUT THEY WOULD FIGHT THEM FOR HER🗣️

she acts like she doesn’t, but she adores your friends too

esp kai—they’re like polar opposites in aesthetic, but she just finds him so adorable

kim chaewon:

junior

majors in music, studying performance

it's how she met her besties yunjin and sakura

the other local lesbians lmao

jk

yunjin's bi <3 !!

chaewon's a very sweet girl

the epitome of kuromi in human form

she's so cute, but you literally can't stand her :/

after soobin blamed her for you flunking out, you can't trust her lmao

you never confront her tho since you know it was technically your fault

but the side eyes are CONSTANT

and you never fail to curse her name whenever things don't go your way

poor girl is the sweetest thing on earth and has no clue as to why you hate her so much

really wishes you didn't though :(

huh yunjin:

sophomore

majors in music, studies music theory

main slayer on campus everyone

people on campus are lowkey intimidated by her, until she cracks the unfunniest joke and everyone realizes she's attainable as well

she's literally so cool tho

most likable person on the planet

she's practically sisters with chaewon, but everyone thinks they're together

she's just a girl's girl you guys!!

and maybe likes to kiss a few of em

knows you and beomgyu since yall are the same year and share a few classes

but is mega confused as to the random hate against chaewon

that's her homegirl? she thought you were all homegirls??

guess not

but she likes your guys' friend group, thinks yall are super funny and is on good terms with all of em

miyawaki sakura:

senior, her second time around!!

had already graduated as a business major when she was younger, but came back to school to be a music major and study music therapy!

she really is THAT girl!

she practically adopted chaewon after she met her in the music program

and yunjin was an obvious addition the following year

mother fr

all three live together and are a force to be reckoned with on campus

wisest among them

also their comfort person

chaewon and yunjin can be unloading the wildest debrief with her and she'll just be giving the best advice with a side of fresh cinnamon rolls

also

the most fearless among them?

she's afraid of loud sounds, heights, ghosts, and goblins

but she will take no shit from the world, let alone men

she's the shortest in the bunch, but everyone WILL get behind her when shit goes down

yall honestly don't overlap at all

tho you do think she has an eery resemblance to taehyun

theories in the gc about them being third cousins twice removed or something

add. notes: whether the girls follow you/you follow them is ON PURPOSE—yall i put in so much detail into everyone’s profiles so if you see something, it’s very intentional lol

this was supposed to be a fun, silly lil fic i update whenever i have the time in between fics, but it’s slowly consuming me and becoming my hyperfixation atm😭

[bulldyke-rider]

RE the whole thing abt bi women: an impression i get is that lesbians are generally more likely to have questioned more things related to the way women are expected to be with men and center men in so many ways. At some point we realize that that's not something we will ever have and something we don't want, which can feel alienating and lonely, but most of us are gonna have to come to terms with it sooner or later. While i sometimes get the impression that a smaller proportion of bi women actually question that stuff and break it down because they're not basically forced to do so by their own sexual orientation to the same degree, esp those who have never actually been with women in a serious way. There are bi women who do question those things and break them down in their heads (and there are even some lesbians who kinda don't), but it feels like the proportion is smaller, the likelihood is smaller, if that makes sense. Doesn't help that there are straight girls out there who think they're bi bc they can recognize when a girl is good-looking and sexualize women as a result of living in a patriarchy that treats women as sexual objects all the time and focuses on men's views and experiences. But also, in my experience, there's also a considerable amount of bi women who everyone assumes are lesbians bc they have thought abt all the stuff (in my experience, many of them have some level of preference for women) and prefer to be around other women (esp SSA women), and they just don't say they're bi unless someone asks, and, since they're often assumed to be lesbians, nobody asks. And they stay quiet about it. On top of what i just said, also in part because unfortunately there are lesbians who are super shitty to bi women. So yeah, tl;dr: being a lesbian often kinda forces you to go through certain realizations about relationships and womanhood that can affect how you see yourself in relation to other people, especially in the context of sex and relationships, and how you interact with them, many bi women experience that too, but there are many who kinda don't bc they're not "forced" to do so to the same degree.

Plus, bisexuality is a spectrum, in the sense that there's a ton of variety in what bi people's basic sexuality is in the first place. Someone with a big preference for the same sex, someone with no preference and someone with a big preference for the opposite sex are all bisexual, which means bi people are super varied in their basic orientation, which can make things messy. Meanwhile, the basic orientation of, say, lesbians does not vary as much. In my experience, bi people who've been experiencing SSA their whole lives, having same-sex crushes and having gay sex and all that, are pretty different from someone who mainly feels attracted to the opposite sex and only occasionally to someone of the same sex.

No, exactly. You're less likely to disect the idea that your purpose is to be with a man if you don't have to.

[cherryheairt]

I was so used to seeing that Last Kingdom actor as Cregan in the fanfiction world that when I thought of anyone else playing him, in my head, it just wouldn't do it justice. I liked Tom from the beginning, but I still imagined Arnas as Cregan. Recently there has been a change. I still love the image of Arnas being Cregan, but I have to say that Tom has infiltrated my mind and heart. And Tom is super blonde! Seeing him as Cregan with super dark hair and then seeing him have such blonde hair irl was a mindfuck. It really changes him but he looks great both ways

Arnas is the fancast from Vikings right? He's a baddie but I've never been able to imagine him as Cregan lol we're opposites in that department

I think the shaved hair kind of ruined the immersion for me since GOT/HOTD men have medium length hair most of the time and when its short its always just shaggy unstyled and no shaved sides. Other than that he is so Stark

I usually HATE blonde men for some reason but Tom? He's like honorary brunette in my mind esp with that wig and him dying his hair for so long

He feels so American like Texan yknow? He kind of has that attitude where I think thats his goal lol with his style and pictures he posts. such a cutie

[venuscnjunctpluto]

Astro pt. 8

Credits: @venuscnjunctpluto

* libra placement rappers have very high profiled relationships (ex: nba youngboy, lil durk, nle choppa)

*ginnifer goodwin killed her role as Snow White/Mary Margaret and I found out she has mercury conjunct chiron like me. She has a very soft caring voice and her character was also a teacher who helped cared deeply for her students (and one of them turned out to be her grandson lol)

*this placements does well on podcasts because we once we learn to understand our pain and develop the ability to speak freely about it which a lot of people can’t do (Miley Cyrus also has mercury-Chiron and hearing her talk about her divorce was therapeutic)

* Taurus placements take their time in love and can turn people off by moving so slowwww. Kanye West (taurus Venus and mars conjunct) was friends w Kim for years before they began dating. And in his song “Stronger” he repeatedly says “you know how long I’ve been on you since prince was on Apollonia.” They’re also very persistent lol

*rihanna and beyoncé have a lot of opposites. Their risings, suns, and venuses. They are good examples at the differences between libra and Aries. Beyoncé has a more polished and controlled image for the masses while rihanna has had a “bad girl” who does what she wants persona. Both work hard and are respected big cardinal energy

*my sister has mars in 3rd and I’m a Aries rising. My cousin has Saturn in 3rd and his brother is a Capricorn rising. Your third house placements could signal what your siblings placements are. I also have cancer on 3rd and my sister is a cancer rising. She has libra in 3rd and im a libra moon.

*mars in 3rd is the worst person to argue with because they say the most terrible things in a heartbeat.

*leo risings babies either have alot of thick hair or their hair took longer to grow.

* Taurus risings are noticeable w their thick brows and prominent noses (plus some sort of jewelry) , Aries risings have huge heads and usually look somewhat fit, Virgo risings have the most doll like eyes that make them look soft, Gemini risings are very talkative and like bold bright colors esp nail polish, Sagittarius rising come across as wise but also smile a lot (they have slender faces as well), cancer rising have a shy aura and round cheeks (plus dimples), Leo risings usually have chubby cheeks and cute smiles w buttonish noses.

*also I notice Aries risings tend to like neutral colors. Our complexions can be so reddish or vibrant that sometimes bold colors are too much.

*i instantly know when I have Venus in 1st synastry w someone. The Venus person will try to get your attention at some point and want to talk to you. When they do, they’ll stand very close with you and mirror your posture. And they look at you like “😍”

*the ppl who bully their crushes are sag risings (Aries in 5th), Aries venuses, Scorpio venuses, Venus/Mars in 8th. It has to be the Martian energy. They can be hostile but I think it’s because they’re have such strong feelings so when their crush does anything they view as a slight…they’re in a bad mood.

*cancer + taurus placements might have an issues with alcohol

*Jhene Aiko is a perfect example of sag + Pisces placements. These people can be deeply spiritual or religious. They take their belief systems very seriously and it’s shown in their appearance. (Cross necklaces, tattoos, crystal bracelets, etc…)

*Big sean has moon-pluto and i notice straight men are attracted to women w aspects similar to their moon aspects. Jhene and Ariana (who he also dated) both have Venus opposition pluto so they’re behavior towards him probably reminds him of his relationship with his mom. I talked to a guy w moon square pluto and his mom was completely overbearing and I have Venus conjunct pluto. Or a straight guy with moon-square Uranus would be attracted to a woman w Uranus/ Aquarius energy.

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Astrology observations Pt. 7

I noticed that men with prominent cancer and Gemini placements or cancer/Gemini sun, Gemini-cancer cusp men are usually always gamers and are really into anime/marvel and always play different video games are interested in that type of nerdy stuff

Many talented or successful athletes have their moon in aries (ex. Lebron James, Tom Brady)

Moon in 6th house people stress over the slightest problems in their health or even minor injuries. People in my family have this placement and if they so much as break their pinky toe and have to wear a boot they complain about it for centuries

Cancer + aries placements in the big 6 = mentally unstable

Why are so many Aquarius men always attracted to pisces women💀 I swear they could be completely different people but there’s just something that draws the 2 of them to each other and it’s usually the aqua male chasing after the pisces. Maybe it’s their caring and sensitive nature they find interesting

Saturn in cancer individuals always have karma on their side when they least expect it. They may feel challenged and unlucky in life but they will always get the upper hand at the most unexpected moment

Men with their sun squaring/opposite their ascendant or men with mars in pisces/cancer tend to act overly cocky and are the type to shit on women when they feel rejected due to their big ego mostly bc of the fact that the masculine planets are influenced by more feminine energy and placements so they’re insecure and uncomfortable since they have defects in their masculinity ( for example, Andrew Tate has his mars in Pisces)

also men with prominent Pisces or libra placements in the big 6 also tend to have a sensitive ego and can’t handle rejection (esp moon)

for example:

*libra stellium or moon male asks you out*

*you reject them in the nicest way possible*

them: “okay fuck you ur ugly asf bitch”

Like? 😭😭

People with many 8th house placements in their chart are usually just interested in hookups and only save their commitment when they truly think they’ve found the right person

Sagittarius, Scorpios, and Capricorn’s always attract each other. I always see sag people being close friends with either other sag or Scorpio or Capricorn people

Pisces are more secretive and private than Scorpios imo it’s they live a secret life sometimes

Chiron/Saturn in 2nd house people may have grown up jealous of or resenting families or people who seemed to have it all or the “perfect life” in terms of money/wealth and they may have grown up in poverty/poor conditions which caused them to feel embarrassed of their background and financial situation

Why are cancer placements esp risings so passive aggressive? Like you can’t expect me to understand your inner thoughts if you don’t EXPRESS YOURSELF💀

Virgo moons always have some sort of IBS or stomach issues atleast one point in their life

Gemini/Sag suns and risings can’t sit still. like they always have to get up to move around after a few minutes or if they’re forced to stay put they fidget, bounce their leg, etc

Leo Venus secretly love when their partner is a little clingy cause they want that attention every now and then (unless influenced by more detached placements in the chart)

Scorpio Venus flirting style = staring at you every few seconds but not approaching

Ik so many Pisces moons who have alcohol addictions or did drugs/smoke a lot. Makes sense tho since the 12th house is also about addictions

Everyone says libra moons are the ones who are more likely to be fruity but imo it’s taurus and cancer moons 👀

Leo moons are the most loyal friends you will ever have. Speaking as Leo moon myself lol but tbh we really are the hype man of our friend group

Having Lilith in your 8th house could mean that you’ve also wanted to express your sexual desires and energy but felt restricted in some way. You’ve always been interested in discussing taboos others might’ve been uncomfortable with but maybe the environment you were in didn’t allow you to experiment with them.

Mutable mercuries tend to laugh in the wrong situations or at awkward/serious times. These people never take anything seriously and they love to make a joke out of everything. They could also have a dirty mind and and space out when anyone is talking to them (Virgo mercuries less than the others tho)

Sagittarius mercuries are so BLUNT it hurts. They won’t even think before saying what they want to say and confront you even if your feelings are gonna get hurt. These people have an attachment to telling the truth

Eating disorders are common in Taurus mars people

If you have Lilith or Medusa harshly aspecting your ascendant, it could mean that people (especially women) hated you for no reason. You enhance a lot of sexual appeal and raw beauty and that would make others jealous and envious of you. People probably also tried to include you in drama you had nothing to do with and gossip/make rumors bc so many people are obsessed with you and your life.