#enddomesticviolence

[diaryofawifeinchaos]

Being the Problem

Because I don’t make as much money as him, he has concluded that my time outside of work is less valuable than his and I need to make up the difference in physical labor. As someone who works full time, is trying to build a business, and has to play chauffeur while he is unlicensed, I simply don’t have the time or energy to take care of everything else. He goes golfing, talks on the phone with friends and family for hours, and typically spends four hours each evening watching tv. If it’s a weekend, he’ll spend the whole day because “he earned it,” but I somehow didn’t.

Currently, I don’t have a college degree. I intend on starting school next week for a business degree, but until then I have to listen to his patronizing comments. He often feels the need to remind me that he has two Masters degrees in business, including an MBA. Early on, I attempted to use his “expertise” to write a business plan. However, he didn’t listen to me and created a plan for the exact business I don’t want. His plan was service based, whereas my idea was for a product. The last thing I want is to be at the mercy of clients.

He has stated multiple times that “we” will not invest money into my business - as if I have a choice. But, when he was away on a business trip, he nearly dropped a grand on a group of strangers for a dinner. Not even a legitimate investment. I confronted him about this when he got home. The project management program I need costs the same amount of money he boasted about potentially spending.

Last, but not least, this evening I stood up for myself. The evening started going downhill when he stepped on my foot. Instead of apologizing, he said I should be wearing slippers, indicating it was my fault. He then pointed out that there were dirty dishes in the sink from when the dishwasher was running. One evening this week, I didn’t clean up after dinner because I had too much to drink and figured I’d get it in the morning. Wouldn’t you know it, he woke up before me and took care of the easy to clean dishes. I was left with the ones that had food burned onto them. He held this over me as a reason why I had to move the dishes from the sink to the dishwasher. Maybe it’s because I never lived a day in my life with servants, but I thought you were supposed to put the dirty dishes in the dishwasher once the clean ones are put away. I hate that he leaves extra work for me to do.

This week, his friends are coming and they need a place to stay. The guest room has served as a storage room for me since we have a small apartment. I have a lot of stuff. Though I’ve been going through it, there’s a lot. The previous incident with the dishes was a reminder of how little he values my time. The guest room is 90% complete. There’s a few odds and ends, but it will otherwise it’s okay. Without looking into the room, he comes into our bedroom and starts going on about how his friends are coming tomorrow and how the room is unlivable. This sparked an argument, which has ended with me sleeping in the guest room to prove it’s livable. He made a half-assed attempt to get me to come back to bed. This is the second night in a row we had an argument. Yesterday, it was because he kept pulling on my hand while I was holding my phone. Today, it was about nagging me to complete things I’m already working on. According to him, both incidents are my fault and his actions did not contribute to the arguments and he is taking zero responsibility.

The guest bed used to be my bed. Honestly, I’ve missed the lush pillow top that conforms to all the right places. Not surprisingly, he has a terribly uncomfortable foam mattress.

What I’ve realized from all of this is that I fucking miss being alone.

Keep Shining,

D

[dogcareym]

🚀🌹Help Fernanda and Her Mother Rebuild Their Lives Hello everyone, my name is Fernanda Maria. This is my first time reaching out for help, and I’m doing this with the assistance of a friend, as I couldn’t manage it alone. Since I live outside the USA, I kindly ask that if you decide to support us, please make your donation through my Ko-fi: [ht tps://ko-fi.com/fernandamaria19564]

[tahiyaym]

🚀🌹Help Fernanda and Her Mother Rebuild Their Lives Hello everyone, my name is Fernanda Maria. This is my first time reaching out for help, and I’m doing this with the assistance of a friend, as I couldn’t manage it alone. Since I live outside the USA, I kindly ask that if you decide to support us, please make your donation through my Ko-fi: [ht tps://ko-fi.com/fernandamaria19564]

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🚀🌹Help Fernanda and Her Mother Rebuild Their Lives Hello everyone, my name is Fernanda Maria. This is my first time reaching out for help, and I’m doing this with the assistance of a friend, as I couldn’t manage it alone. Since I live outside the USA, I kindly ask that if you decide to support us, please make your donation through my Ko-fi: [ht tps://ko-fi.com/fernandamaria19564]

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🚀🌹Help Fernanda and Her Mother Rebuild Their Lives

Hello everyone, my name is Fernanda Maria. This is my first time reaching out for help, and I’m doing this with the assistance of a friend, as I couldn’t manage it alone. Since I live outside the USA, I kindly ask that if you decide to support us, please make your donation through my Ko-fi: [https://ko-fi.com/fernandamaria19564] Three years ago, our lives were upended by domestic violence inflicted by my mother’s partner. The abuse we endured was not only physical and emotional but also financial, leading us to lose many things, including our car, which was destroyed in an accident caused by this turmoil. In mid-2022, while we were at our most vulnerable, everything we owned was stolen from us, including my laptop, which I used for studying, and other essential items. Our savings were wiped out, leaving us without transportation, basic necessities, and any means of rebuilding.

[good-health-life]

Amazing how public health advocates are advocating for the Olympics to reconsider their sponsorship deal with Coca-Cola

The recent incident where Cristiano Ronaldo opted for water instead of Coke at a press conference is sending a powerful message. 🌿💧 #PublicHealth #Olympics #CocaCola #HealthierChoices

https://readr.me/rcfg9k Market volatility can spark concerns about the U.Seconomy's endurance. The recent sharp drop in the stock market has caused many to question the economy's stability. What factors led to this decline? #MarketVolatility #USEconomy #StockMarketCrash

https://readr.me/vdj37q Such sad news about David Lynch's health strugglesWishing him a speedy recovery and sending positive thoughts his way. 🙏 #DavidLynch #HealthIssues #GetWellSoon

https://readr.me/dnr57t Wow, the spread of this hypervirulent superbug is truly concerning! Thanks for raising awareness about this important issue. #HealthAlert #Superbug #WHOConcern

https://readr.me/7yzqtv

Such a tragic story

The loss of Lola James, only two years old, due to the heinous actions of her mother's boyfriend Kyle Bevan is heart-wrenching. The fact that there were "missed opportunities" to prevent this devastating outcome is truly unforgivable. #JusticeForLola #ChildSafety #EndDomesticViolence

https://readr.me/mwznsp RFK Jr.'s idea of sending people on antidepressants to 'Wellness Farms' for 'Reparenting' is quite interesting. It's crucial to explore novel approaches to mental health support. #RFKJr #MentalHealth #WellnessFarms

https://readr.me/jfpmvs Eating the right foods is crucial for maintaining good vision health as you age. Check out this list of the 12 best foods that should be part of your diet! #VisionHealth #EyeCare #HealthyEating

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[grapesfortheartist]

A study by psychiatric fellow Dr. Waller reveals disparaging rates of homicide between African-American women and White, no surprise but 51% of violence from both is at the hands of an intimate partner.

[amymaleneart]

Update: The room I was going to stay in at my sister's house just got flooded. Which means major repairs need to be done.

Talk about "when it rains, it pours."

So, there's a reason why I'm in hiatus.

The link explains it, but just know I'm safe and with loved ones.

I had been encouraged to create this and share where I feel comfortable with.

Don't feel obligated to donate, but sharing would be helpful and appreciated.

Thank you to everyone and to anyone. And hopefully I can start creating again soon.

[straatstatts]

Join me in the fight against domestic violence. Inspired by Frank Carter and the Rattlesnakes, I'm auctioning off this artwork I made to raise funds for domestic violence victims. DM me your bid and let's make a difference. Let's spread love and kindness, not violence. - #EndDomesticViolence #CharityAuction #LoveNotViolence @frankcarter23 @andtherattlesnakes @royalbluetattoo - #cairns #cairnsartist #artistcairns #cairnstattoo #tattoocairns #qld #qldtattoo #oldschool #boldwillhold #traditional #traditionaltattoo #classic #classictattoo #classictattooing #radtrad #taxidermy #taxidermybutterfly #butterfly #tattoostencil #art #artwork #artistic #artist #qld #qldtattoo #australia #australiantattooing #australiatattoos #boldwillhold (at Royal Blue Tattoo) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp4sXWtLxk3/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[ninelivesofemilee]

"🚫 No excuses for abuse. Slamming doors and furniture is a dangerous signal. Let's unite to stop domestic violence and protect those affected. It's about ending harm, not just how an abuser feels. 💪❤️ #EndDomesticViolence #BreakTheCycle"

[diaryofawifeinchaos]

A Wall of Silence

We haven't really spoken since Tuesday. I don't even know why. His boss is in town, so we went to dinner with him and his coworker. I thought it went well, overall. I didn't bring up anything too personal. My husband tapped my leg under the table once to signal I stop talking about something, but that was it. We drove his boss and coworker back to the hotel, and once they got out, he was silent. With the exception of telling me to do something, he has been since. I tried to break the silence. Multiple times I asked him to tell me why he was upset. Nothing.  We came home and he went to bed without me.  

He's working at the office this week, instead of home as usual. Tuesday morning, I helped him get ready - filled his water bottle, made breakfast, packed snacks. Everything was fine. He wanted to be there around 8am, so I made sure I was sure to be ready to drop him off. He got a DUI before our wedding a few months ago, and I've been his chauffeur while he doesn't have a license. We texted a few times through the day. I was excited because I got accepted into a freelance writing program and told him about it. Not surprisingly, he found ways to rain on my parade then criticized me for adding it to my LinkedIn profile. Before I picked him up at the end of the day, I had to stop at his doctor's office to pick up some documents. This made me about 10 minutes late to pick him up. He also got on me for the path I drove him to work in the morning, so I had to show him how complicated the path he chose was to drive home. His car might as well be a boat and it's too big for city streets. I nearly damaged it proving my point.

On the way home he shared with me that one of his boss's referred to my sister as "creepy." For context, my husband invited his employers to our wedding as a way to show off. My sister has a mental disability and felt like she connected with this woman and her husband. From what I was told, they texted back and forth a few weeks before his boss ghosted my sister entirely. My sister had a lot going on, thought she had a new friend to talk to, and shared some intimate details about her life with this woman. I didn't know she had ghosted and he already told me to get my sister to stop talking to his boss four months ago. He's convinced anyone in my family speaking to people he works with will jeopardize his job. Turns out they haven't spoken in six months. This woman got in my husband's head about my sister being bad news and how getting caught up with her would just get him in trouble. This led to an argument where I got the classic "I told you so"... even though this happened before I asked my sister to find other friends.

Once we got through that argument and I was able to convince him that his boss was in the wrong (who holds on to stuff like that for six months?), he informed me we were going out. I changed my clothes and tried to style my hair. I liked what I did with my hair, but he made it clear he didn't. "What do you think of your hair right now," he asked with a shit-eating grin.

"I can't do much with it, but I think it's okay. Why?"

"Okay, sure. If you like it then... let's go?"

"What's wrong with my hair? You should let me know if it looks bad. I don't want to look stupid."

"No, baby. You said you don't like being told what to do, so I am keeping my opinion to myself."

"Dude, just fix whatever it is. Otherwise I'll be thinking about it all night."

He proceeded to comb over my hair in what I can only describe as a "classic Karen do". Then he kept asking about the jacket I was wearing. His implication was that I purchased it without his knowledge. I actually bought it years ago from a company that no longer makes anything other than swimsuits. I had to prove it to him by showing the tag and the company website.

When we were leaving, I asked him to confirm the address we were picking up his boss from more than once. He then decided we should stop and get his boss a gift on the way. There were no gift shops along the way, and the one he wanted was ten minutes in the wrong direction. After we determined there wasn't enough time, I asked why we didn't get something sooner when he knew his boss was coming for weeks. He just said, "Because I'm dumb," and I told him that wasn't an appropriate answer. Once we arrived at the hotel, his boss informs him that we are not at the correct place and gave us the address I had asked for. I have become more bold in my confrontations with him so he can see his own behavior. I pointed out to my husband that if this had been the other way around, him driving and me giving directions, he would have been livid. I was annoyed, but not mad. Even so, he opted to minimize my feelings. As we were driving, he started a bizarre conversation with me. He asked, "What is your greatest life accomplishment to date?" I know he was baiting me to say something along the lines of being married to him, but I was still annoyed, so I gave an honest answer. 

"My greatest accomplishment is failing to kill myself."

He used this as an opportunity to open an entirely inappropriate conversation about my suicidal history, which ended with him calling my trauma "garbage." It was another reminder of how out of touch with mental health wellness he is. 

Once his boss was in the car, the conversation pivoted, and now we're back to the beginning of this story. The next morning, we had a brief conversation. He was annoyed I didn't repeat what I did the morning before. "What? No breakfast?"

"You didn't ask. Besides, I thought we were leaving an hour ago."

"Didn't you hear them talking at the table? I don't need to be in until 9."

"Sure, I heard them say they were going at 9, but you didn't confirm that you were going at 9. Last we discussed, you said, 'same time tomorrow.'"

From there, he grabbed a granola bar, and I drove him to work in silence. The only other time he spoke to me was when he text me to let me know he got a ride home from his coworker, and decided to order food. I had an evening workshop anyway. For the rest of the evening he was on the phone with a friend, whom he had me talk to, and then watched tv in our bedroom while I tried to sleep. I have been working to get up earlier in the morning, but he does things to try and sabotage my routine.

Today is day three of stonewalling. The only words he spoke were to confirm I was taking him to work this morning. I specifically didn't play music in hopes it would prompt him to say something. I have plans with my mother this evening. I'm sure he will either be in bed or drunk by the time I get home. This round is sitting in second place as far as time unspoken goes. First place is still the time he told me my time is not as valuable as his, which is why I should take care of all the chores in addition to my forty hour work week. That's a story for another day.

Keep shining,

D 

[stingscustom]

In the wake of a heartbreaking tragedy in Minnesota, we are reminded of the importance of compassion and support within our communities. - Let's come together to honor those lost and talk about prevention. - Family violence is a complex issue that needs our attention and action. How can we better support each other to create safe environments? What steps can we take to raise awareness about mental health and domestic violence? Share your thoughts, experiences, and ideas below. Your voice matters. Let's empower each other to make a difference. #Minnesota #Tragedy #DomesticViolence #MentalHealth #WednesdayMotivation

[jhumadigitalmarketing]

Women's safety is a significant concern globally, with issues like rape, murder, and domestic violence and abuse persisting. Which makes difficult for women to feel safe in their own homes. Family members can be perpetrators of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, making home a dangerous place.

A recent incident at RG Kar Medical College has sparked outrage, leading to protests and boycotts. However, it's essential to question the effectiveness of these actions in driving meaningful change. The root cause of these problems lies in the mentality of individuals, particularly those who perpetuate patriarchal beliefs.

A woman's attire or appearance is never the cause of rape or sexual assault. The root cause of such heinous crimes is the perpetrator's mental attitude, mindset, and lack of respect for boundaries and consent. It's essential to shift the focus from victim-blaming to holding perpetrators accountable for their actions.

We've been taught since our childhood that society is male-dominated, and this mindset is often reinforced by some female family members (Kakimaa, Masimaa, Pisimaa, Mamimaa, Jethimaa, Thakumaa, Didimaa, SASURI Maa), passing down harmful gender stereotypes to future generations.

In 2024, such thinking is unacceptable and contradicts the pursuit of justice. It's crucial to recognize and challenge these double standards and narcissistic behaviors to create a more equitable society.

#WomenSafetyMatters

#GenderEqualityNow

#BreakTheSilence

#ChallengePatriarchy

#EmpowerWomen

#EndDomesticViolence

#RiseAgainstRapeCulture

#JusticeForWomen

#FeminismInAction

#EqualityForAll

#Patriarchynorms

#WomenEmpowerment

#SayNoToGenderBias

#socialawareness

[charklisares]

‼️ JANE GOES ALERT‼️

******Prayer Warriors needed*******

This Jane Goe was arrested after an argument with her husband. Police were called & he claimed she gave him a bloody nose. She spent the night in jail and was charged with domestic abuse and a criminal no-contact order was put in place - meaning she can NOT go home. (This is standard MO).

Unbeknown to anyone at the time - her husband had severely beaten HER and called the police as punishment for standing up to him.

Over the next several days - the bruises from the beating started showing up and the baby she was pregnant with - DIED.

Instead of being able to mourn the loss and start to heal - she’s navigating the SLOW moving wheels of the justice system and ALL the chaos this situation has created. Hiring attorneys, paying retainers, navigating a divorce, child custody, defending criminal charges, visitations, no-contact orders, and rebuilding her business - while learning how to be a single mother to 3 lil ones AND keeping up with school, sports and holidays schedules.

I’ve been here since the beginning - It’s been personally frustrating to watch an innocent person continually get gas-lite by a system that’s suppose to protect HER. (Flashbacks to my own journey).

While the abuser enjoys watching her struggle and knows he will never be held accountable to the true crime.

I WILL NEVER understand why it’s takes so long for truth to be heard and the justice system to self-correct (Arghhh!).

THIS IS AN ACTUAL TRUE STORY happening right now - this could be your daughter, sister, best friend or loved one. If you can help - in any way - reach out to me.

This Jane Goe is on Day 93 of her walk. She’s anchored in faith and surrounded by a tribe of disciples and she trust God is working in mysterious ways.

Please pray for her! She’s got a few upcoming court dates - the sooner we can get her OUT of the justice system - the sooner she can start healing.

❤️‍🩹 Please share - bringing awareness for the need of change is the first steps of change. CKRET Foundation is happy to help.

#ckretfoundation #BeTheChange #ChangeMakers #MakingADifference #ChangeforGood #StandUpForChange #ChangeTheWorld #CreatingChange #ChangeStartsWithYou #InspireChange #TogetherWeCanChange #EndDomesticViolence #BreakTheCycle #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SpeakOutAgainstAbuse #NoMoreSilence #DVSurvivor #SafeAtHome #LoveShouldntHurt #StopTheViolence #HealthyRelationships #janegoe #johngoe

[magek-blessings]

This is so disturbing to read... DV needs to STOP and it's not going to stop if the world keeps devaluing human life. A life is a life worth living no matter the age, sex, race, or religion. From conception to a person's dying day, a life is worth living and NO ONE has the right to take it away. #StopDV #enddomesticviolence #RightToLife

Rebecca Cheptegei: Ugandan Olympian dies after being set on fire by boyfriend | CNN

Rebecca Cheptegei, a Ugandan marathon runner who competed in the Paris Olympics last month, has died days after she was burned by her boyfriend, the country’s athletics federation confirmed on X, formerly known as Twitter, Thursday.

“We are deeply saddened to announce the passing of our athlete, Rebecca Cheptegei early this morning who tragically fell victim to domestic violence,” the Uganda Athletics Federation posted. “As a federation, we condemn such acts and call for justice. May her soul rest In Peace.”