#enbyphobia cw

[cisplus]

I searched "endometriosis" on tumblr, looking for some support and community, and instead kept finding radfems talking about how endometriosis is a women's issue. I cannot express how harmful it is to gatekeep health conditions that affect people of all genders.

Some trans men have endometriosis. Some non-binary and agender people have endometriosis. Endometriosis is an issue that affects all people with uteruses, and saying that it's an issue that only women face is going to make men and non-binary people who have endometriosis suffer.

It's already hard enough for trans and non-binary people to access gynecological care. Let's stand up for trans and non-binary people who have endometriosis, and similar conditions, so that they can access the healthcare they need.

Endometriosis is not solely a womens' issue.

[chelledoggo]

i remember seeing someone on reddit say Zooble "can't be nonbinary" because they "sound like a woman."

...and?

not every nonbinary person can have a perfectly androgynous-sounding voice.

most people have either a "male-sounding" or "female-sounding" voice. that's just how the range of human vocal cords tends to work for the most part.

heck, some cis people even have voices that sound like their opposite gender.

like, come on now.

[the-official-legacies-blog]

Alright fellas, I apparently have to say this:

CW for possible sexism, enbyphobia and boundary violation

Please do not send me asks like this. I have three reasons for this:

1) I am a minor

2) Asks like this one make me feel uncomfortable

3) Asks like this one aren't even relevant, and they feel mildly sexist, transphobic, and enbyphobic. Like why the hell do you want to know a nonbinary character's breast size?

Asks like this make me think that someone is gonna draw NSFW of my characters, and I am extremely uncomfortable with that thought, especially since I'm mildly sex-repulsed.

I have deleted this ask and blocked the anon, this post is a fair warning about what will happen if I get asks like this one.

[randomscropio]

Finding Out and Coming Out

A pre-cannon Inanimate Insanity fic I made from a writing prompt generator. Warnings: Humanized Object Shows (II), yelling, doctors, mild swear words (I think they're mild at least), anxiety (mentioned), gender dysmorphia (I don't think I wrote it very well, I'm sorry!), enbyphobia (in the sense that the character with it thinks that there are only two genders (male and female) and that other genders are unessassary and are just people who want to be labeled), she/her Paintbrush (only until they realize they're nonbinary, then they use they/them pronouns)

"What the hell is the condition of my child?" Paintbrush's father yelled, Paintbrush flinched and pulled the hood of her hoodie over her head.

"Look, sir. There is nothing wrong with your child, other than the fact that she may have anxiety." The doctor said in a voice that was calm but firm.

"This was a waste of time." Paintbrush's father muttered to himself.

"Whatever! I don't need a goddamn doctor!" He yelled.

Yeah, it's not like they spend years earning their degrees and know more about the human body than you do. Paintbrush thought sarcastically, rolling her eyes.

"Come on, Paintbrush." Paintbrush's father grabbed her wrist.

___

She looked in the mirror. "God, my body looks wrong. What's wrong with me?" She asked herself. She had been asking herself this for a while. She didn't feel like a girl or a guy. Was there a secret third option that she didn't know about?

"This is your fault, Paintbrush." She told herself. She blew a piece of blond hair out of her face, the purple that she died her tips was fading out.

Maybe she should die it again. That wasn't the point. She went into her room and pulled out her phone. "Why don't I feel like a girl or a guy?" She said slowly, typing the words into Google. As usual, there were many results. She looked at one of the terms ", "nonbinary, and copied and pasted it into the serch bar.

She clicked a drop-down on one of the "people also ask" things that read "What is the literal meaning of nonbinary?" genders that don't fit into two categories, male or female." She muttered. Her eyes widened.

Am I nonbinary? She asked herself. I don't feel like a girl or a guy, so I am nonbinary, right?

___

"Hey, Lightbulb?" "What's up?" Lightbulb asked. "I did some research last night and, well..."

"What is it?"

"So, you know how you were born a guy but feel like a girl? Not that you aren't a girl, you are it's just!-"

"Painty, I understand what you're saying. Continue on!"

"Well, I don't feel like a girl or a guy, and my body just looks... wrong. Again, I don't feel like a guy or a girl! It's just, ugh! It's so confusing!" She made a lot of big motions while speaking, which happened whenever she felt strong emotions.

"Ooooh! It's c isnt it!?" Lightbulb asked.

"...what?" She asked. Her voice was soft. She hated how her volume immediately lowered whenever she asked a question.

"It's another way to say nonbinary. Which, I'm pretty sure, is what you are!"

Paintbrush nodded. "Okay, thanks. I wasn't sure if I am or not..."

"No problem, Painty!" Lightbuld patted Paintbrush on the back. "Are you still comfortable with she/her or..?"

"Honesty? I don't know why but, whenever she/her is used on me it doesn't feel right, but it's the same thing with he/him, and I don't know if there are any other pronouns!"

"There are tons more! But how about they/them?"

"That sounds a lot better." Paintbrush nodded

"They/them it is then! Make sure to tell your parents."

"Thanks."

___

Paintbrush sighed.

"Come on, you can do this." They whispered to themself. "Mom? Dad?"

"Yeah?" The two parents said at the same time.

"Can we... talk?"

"Sure, Paintbrush." Their mom responded, for both herself and Paintbrush's dad.

"Okay, meet me upstairs, please." A few moments after Paintbrush sat down on the couch, their parents came in. "Okay, so I've been questioning what my gender is for a while and finally figured it out." They took a deep breath. "I'm nonbinary."

"...what the hell does that mean?"

Paintbrush's mom looked at their father, mouth agape. "Pallet!" She said.

"It means that I'm not a girl or a boy."

"Those are the only two genders, though!"

"No, they aren't! There are many more!"

"Ugh, whatever. They're all unnecessary."

"Well, please use they/them on me..."

"No." Their dad said simply. "Paintbrush, you are either a girl or a boy."

Paintbrush wanted to cry. "Forget this, forget I said anything." They said, walking down the stairs and to their room. They curled their knees up to their chest.

"Paintbrush? Are you okay in there?"

"Leave me alone, please." They said, just barely loud enough to hear through the door.

"Okay."

"What's going on with her?" One of Paintbrush's two younger brothers, Acrylic, asked.

"Them." Their mom corrected gently. "Your father said that they shouldn't be referred to as they/them, he thinks it's unnecessary."

"Oh. Are they going to be okay?"

"Hopefully."

"Yeah." Painrbrush muttered to themself, "hopefully"

[enbyhyena]

Shame on you Cal. Shame on you.

It's not a "world view". It's the objective existence of an entire classification of people. You can't just say that black people don't exist because you don't agree with "their views"; it's the same for trans people. We exist whether or not you "believe" in us. And hiding behind your religion is a weak excuse. Fuck outta here.

Instead of giving Cal engagement, feel free to spread this post around. It's also useful in case they try to dirty delete or backtrack their statement. Don't say anything to them, just unfollow and block.

[dyspunktional-leviathan]

I am tired of being nice about people pulling a trans version of “we’re still going to call it women’s issues”

You are not including all trans people (either as a whole or of given agab) when you’re saying transmasc/transfem

You are not even including all trans people (either as a whole or of given agab) when you’re saying stuff like transmasc/transfem and unaligned because someone can be exlusively aligned to their agab and still face the same fucking transphobia! And yes they are trans, if they themself define themself as such, and not a cis person receiving “misdirected” transphobia!

I am tired of seeing stuff and wanting to say hey this affects us too but thinking, I’m doing whataboutism, but I’m not fucking doing whataboutism I am being excluded, purposefully or not

[cartoonscientist]

I think a big issue people on twitter have when they debate border wars stuff as compared to tumblr users is that they can’t seem to understand that a person can be a man and a woman at the same time, or neither, because gender isn’t based on external values, it’s a mindset

honestly I see a lot of young queer people in general really struggling to fully understand that gender is not determined in any way by how other people perceive you or treat you, it is not determined by how your body looks or how you dress (although you can use these things to SIGNAL your gender or modify them to reduce dysphoria), gender is a fully internal concept separate from gender presentation

[aronarchy]

We’re at this level of transphobia now.

[crystalsandbubbletea]

Vent post

(CW: Negative thoughts, acephobia, arophobia, enbyphobia, polyamphobia, swearing)

There are sometimes where I hate that I'm Demisexual and Demiromantic, sometimes it makes me feel alone, and sometimes it feels like I may die alone.

I came out as Demiromantic and Demisexual to some people, and they refused to try to understand.

I didn't ask to be part of the aromantic spectrum, I didn't ask to be part of the asexual spectrum. I was born this way.

I don't want a romantic relationship until I form a close emotional bond with people.

I hate that I'm polyamorous. I get called a 'cheater' because of it.

I have never been in a relationship in my life, how the fuck am I a cheater?

My mom also refuses to hear me out about it.

I hate that I'm nonbinary. I feel like I don't belong anywhere. I live in the Southeastern US and I never feel included, I only feel included whenever I'm around my friends who are also LGBTQIA+. Other than that, I never feel seen.

I hate that I'm Trixic. I'm sorry that 'lesbian' didn't feel like the correct term for me..? I'm sorry that I saw what Trixic was and thought 'Huh, this sounds like me?'

I hate being a polyamorous, Trixic, Demisexual, Demiromantic, Nonbinary... I feel like I'm alone sometimes, and I feel like I'm going to die alone...

[touch-starved-lurker]

lowkey transphobic moment from a classmate living rent free in my head rn (she tried to explain that singular they/them is grammatically incorrect in writing)(i didnt say anything back at the time)(but here i am lowkey crying about it)

[cisplus]

Imagine thinking that this is a gotcha.

Of course trans men and non-binary people experience misogyny too. And you know what? Being a misogynist is always a shitty thing to do, including if you're being misogynistic to trans men and/or non-binary people.

But you're a radfem, and I know from experience that radfems are some of the biggest misogynists out there, so I don't think you're going to be convinced that easily.

Wish I could tag this person, but they're untaggable.

[chelledoggo]

the weird enbyphobia on TADC!reddit lately is making me just a little bit petty 👀

[cobwebbed-crow]

A transmasc nonbinary person could:

-Cut off all their hair

-Change their name and pronouns

-Go exclusively by masculine terms

-Wear only men's clothing

but people will still say: "You can't complain about being misgendered. You're AFAB and FEMME presenting. Of course you get misgendered."

Just because that person can't/doesn't bind and/or medically transition.

[thorne1435]

Reblog if you're a loser themlet. <3

[redley-of-many-noodles]

Content Warning: Transphobia, Radical Feminism, etc.

Please do not interact with any of the tags mentioned here, or their sibling tags that fall within the same community. Just add them to your filter. It’ll be better for your mental health.

So, I just fell down an unfortunate rabbit hole.

Found a blog using Sylveon (the Pokémon) to represent anti-LGBTQ ideals. (Because the “For You” page thought I needed variety, I guess.) The logic was so fucked that I didn’t even understand it was meant as hate at first. I looked at their blog to try and understand, and quickly did. Started blocking them and the people who had interacted with them. A lot of pro-Israel stuff in their orbit too, unsurprisingly.

Then I noticed some of the tags. “Terfblr.” “Proud radfem.”

A TERF is a Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist, for anyone who doesn’t know what the acronym means.

It confused me that people used these tags. Why would someone want to make exclusion a part of their identity? Why would anyone call themselves a radical feminist? Definitions 2-4 on Dictionary.com explicitly describe the word as being used in regards to extreme beliefs:

Not “extreme” like LGBTQIA+ people wanting to have basic human rights and self-determination, but “extreme” like Trump’s views on the place of blacks and immigrants in society. “Extreme” like toxic masculine views on where women belong. “Extreme” like the feminists who indiscriminately hate men. “Extreme” like Nazi Germany’s views on the place of the ‘lesser races’ in society.

Those are the kind of “extreme” views that the word ‘radical’ describes. Not the “extreme” of Palestinians wanting Israel to stop committing genocide against them. Not the “extreme” of black Americans that took measures to defend themselves from police brutality like the Black Panther Party. Not the “extreme” of the USSR’s satellite states wanting their autonomy.

It makes me think they’re of the mindset that they’re being called “extremists” as an attack on feminism and not that they’re being called extremists because the beliefs they propagate are actively harmful and inherently hateful in nature.

There were tons of posts like this I found. Where transgender people were being demonized as men seeking to prey on women — largely ignoring that transmascs even existed (probably seen as “traitors” or some other bs logic). Demonizing them as people trying to use self identification as a means to invade safe spaces. And they always referred to us exclusively as “transsexual” from what I saw. Because ‘my gender is not your costume,’ and everybody seemed to be firmly rooted in a gender-binary mindset. That our identity was irrevocably determined by the circumstances of our birth. I even saw one post saying how disgusted they were by drag, because it was “a man’s mockery of a woman’s image.”

They called us monsters. For existing. For trying to be happy. For occasionally finding happiness.

They made it out as though transgenders could only be happy at the expense of the safety of women and children.

I don’t have a “point” to make with this. I just… wanted to express this.

This hate.

Because I have discovered what it feels like to truly hate someone, having seen what these disgusting humans consider “progressive.”

I hate it.

I hate you.

I hate that I understand this feeling now.

TERFs, for teaching me hate, I will never forgive you.

I will never forgive how I have been warped by you.

How you have twisted me.

I HATE YOU.

And I’m getting off this hellsite for the day, for my own good.

Goodbye.

[dyspunktional-leviathan]

Some of you don't even fucking try to hide that you see afab nonbinary people as slightly spicy cis women

Also by the way because I know how some will see this post: I am pretty fucking sure that those people see amab nonbinary people as either slightly spicy trans women or Predatory Cis Men Invaders.