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I've seen a lot of suicidal posts on my dash following the election. And I just want to say that suicide isn't your only option.

If you want to, you will leave this country (if not now, in the future). You will change your name and access whatever hormones, surgery, or other gender-affirming care you need. You will become the self you've always dreamed of.

There are so many people in this country who will never stop fighting for trans rights, no matter what.

As an aside, you might want to know what happens in this country to many people who attempt suicide. You'll be forcibly institutionalized for at least three days, probably more. Doctors will pathologize you. A police officer may be assigned to do a "wellness check" on you up to once a week once you leave the hospital.

I know because this all happened to me, and it wasn't fun.

You have other options.

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I still go by the name I used when I was trans, which is not my birth name. I notice that medical professionals keep calling me my birth name (my preferred name is on my chart!) even when they haven't met me to see that I present as a girl.

I don't care which name people call me. But I have this feeling that they're doing it out of transphobia, to try to hurt me. I feel like they misgender trans people as easily as they call me my birth name. And knowing that doesn't feel good at all and doesn't inspire trust.

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I feel like I'm going through every stage of grief over this cancer scare. First I was panicking every day, and then I was strongly advocating for myself.

And now I'm just quietly accepting that things are happening to my body that I don't understand, and that something is wrong. I almost passed out yesterday and I just felt calm.

It's not even radical acceptance. It's a kind of acceptance that isn't helping me. You know?

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Had to unfollow someone for saying that the coquette aesthetic is misogynistic.

Listen. I am all about the coquette aesthetic -- for myself. If I started forcing or expecting all women and girls to dress the way I do, *that* would be misogynistic. But nobody is doing that.

Just like women who choose to be stay at home moms aren't misogynistic, women who choose to express themselves through the coquette aesthetic aren't misogynistic either.

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I'm not saying that coquette is demonized. I'm saying that it's not feminist to attack it.

Coquette fashion is not restrictive at all. I made a post earlier about my coquette outfit yesterday: sweatpants and a comfy sweater.

And you'll find that I agree with you that GNC women are hurt in our society, as someone who's been a GNC woman myself.

Men aren't "made" to dress coquette, but they can if they want to. You know, just like women.

Had to unfollow someone for saying that the coquette aesthetic is misogynistic.

Listen. I am all about the coquette aesthetic -- for myself. If I started forcing or expecting all women and girls to dress the way I do, *that* would be misogynistic. But nobody is doing that.

Just like women who choose to be stay at home moms aren't misogynistic, women who choose to express themselves through the coquette aesthetic aren't misogynistic either.

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I'm not a liberal and I'm not crying, and the only hilarious thing I see here is how radfems really think they're the ones helping women while they're actively putting other women down.

Intersectional feminism is so much more valid than any feminism that seeks to control and limit the choices of other women. How do they not see their own misogyny?

Had to unfollow someone for saying that the coquette aesthetic is misogynistic.

Listen. I am all about the coquette aesthetic -- for myself. If I started forcing or expecting all women and girls to dress the way I do, *that* would be misogynistic. But nobody is doing that.

Just like women who choose to be stay at home moms aren't misogynistic, women who choose to express themselves through the coquette aesthetic aren't misogynistic either.

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Also, clothes from literally any subculture or aesthetic can be comfortable.

I'm wearing really comfortable sweatpants right now that just happen to also have little bows on them. I'm wearing a comfortable sweater that also happens to have a bow on it. It's the perfect outfit for lounging around today.

Coquette clothes are not the antithesis of comfortable clothes, and if women who wear comfortable clothes are demonized, then I'm also demonized for dressing coquette.

The assumptions some people make are so bizarre to me.

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I'm having thoughts about girls who "aren't like other girls" right now. Because prior to tonight, I've thought that it's not okay to say that girls need to be "like other girls." It should always be okay for girls to be masculine (or just different).

And it should be okay for people afab to be trans and/or non-binary, which is a big part of this.

But I'm seeing this clear pattern of radfems shitting on femininity right now, which isn't okay either.

Our society teaches people afab that we should be feminine, and when we're not, we're punished. But join certain feminist communities and suddenly everything is reversed, and femininity is punished.

I hate it and I wish everyone would just let girls (and people seen as girls) be however the fuck we are.

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Can you elaborate on that and how it applies to the situation of women who choose the coquette aesthetic?

Because, sure, my fashion choices aren't made in a vacuum. I saw pictures of the coquette aesthetic and fell in love, and maybe I would've made a different choice if I had seen other pictures instead.

But I don't see how that proves that women who wear comfortable clothes are demonized and women who choose to be stay at home moms aren't, or... whatever you're all trying to say.

Had to unfollow someone for saying that the coquette aesthetic is misogynistic.

Listen. I am all about the coquette aesthetic -- for myself. If I started forcing or expecting all women and girls to dress the way I do, *that* would be misogynistic. But nobody is doing that.

Just like women who choose to be stay at home moms aren't misogynistic, women who choose to express themselves through the coquette aesthetic aren't misogynistic either.

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Y'all. I think this speaks for itself.

We've been saying it all along, and here's proof: radfems are fascists.

So called "radfems" who supports Trump are not real radfems btw!

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lmao

I'm not just a part of feminist discussions, but I lead feminist discussions. I have a degree in women's studies.

I can't believe you are living under a rock where you have never heard of athleisure or ever seen the women around you wearing t-shirts and jeans, or sweatpants and hoodies. This is what I see 99% of the women around me wearing -- I'm the only girl I know who's into the coquette aesthetic.

Women choosing to be stay at home mothers are absolutely demonized in some circles, by the way. It all depends on what kind of communities you're in and what kind of people you surround yourself with.

Nuance exists, and if you can't accept that, it's you who isn't ready for feminist discussions, thanks.

Had to unfollow someone for saying that the coquette aesthetic is misogynistic.

Listen. I am all about the coquette aesthetic -- for myself. If I started forcing or expecting all women and girls to dress the way I do, *that* would be misogynistic. But nobody is doing that.

Just like women who choose to be stay at home moms aren't misogynistic, women who choose to express themselves through the coquette aesthetic aren't misogynistic either.

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I'm really frustrated with people who say that men are controlling women's votes, and that's why the election turned out the way it did.

Yes, this does happen. I voted for a certain candidate once who I didn't want to vote for, but who I was hugely pressured by my abusive mom to vote for.

But not all women are in abusive relationships, and not all men pressure their wives into voting. Furthermore, weeks ago I kept seeing ads for Trump that were targeted at women, saying that their husbands wouldn't know who they voted for.

Basically, sure, some people (of all genders) in abusive relationships vote a certain way because they were pressured into it. But saying that women are uniquely susceptible to this pressure is misogynistic.

Most women who voted for Trump did so because they wanted to, not because their husband forced them to.

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Where's that tweet about people still living long fulfilling lives even through the fall of the roman empire because I think about it constantly

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I just found this quiz and it’s, phenomenal

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Tapping the sign.

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Does anyone else have specifically political-related delusions?

Elections are really hard for me for this reason. For example, this election, I had the thought that I *knew* Trump was going to win (in a psychic way). It was such a certainty in my mind.

So I felt like I was manifesting it by thinking this way. I felt like I, personally, was controlling the results of the election with my thoughts, and that by thinking the "wrong" thoughts, I was responsible for the results of the election.

I guess I'm looking for solidarity and/or advice here. Does this resonate with anyone?