#dykery and yearning

[anderperries]

golden retriever boyfriend? nah i’m an orange cat girlfriend.

[anderperries]

mind if i cry?

Listening to Taylor Swift together is a love language

[josies-not-suicidal-now]

there are times when I'm in heat and it's like really hot because I'm yearning so hard that it's giving me beautiful visions of all the dykery I could be getting up to and then other times it's like

I would like to put my peanits inside a woman now

[yikesola]

I’m hoping this comes across as a good faith question bc I mean it that way - what are you seeing in dan that to you screams dripping in gender? like what should I be perceiving? Bc I look at the pictures and just see dan- is there something I’m missing? between your post and cal’s post from earlier I’m just quite confused , like what is a gender ? I’ve done research but don’t really feel like I have an answer , thx

Thanks anon for being real thoughtful here, it made me 8000% more willing to engage!✨ I do wanna point out that my feelings on this are influenced by the fact that I am cis, that I find comfort and delight in my womanhood esp how it intersects with my lesbianism, and that someone who is not cis very well might feel differently than me about this but that doesn’t diminish their validity in any way!

I don’t think you’re missing anything by looking at the pics and just seeing dan, I think that’s lovely actually and definitely what i see too, like “there’s my boy🥰 there he is! Look at him go!” And I don’t know if it’s something you really have to worry too much about grasping what /I’m/ seeing bc what also matters is what /you/ see, y’know? Like gender is a social construct AND it’s also something that resonates very personally to people, both things are true, it’s just..... not something clear cut. We have to sit with the nuance and find comfort in the discomfort💞

I think part of the confusion between me and cal spiraling and you understanding said spiral is that a lot of it is difficult to put into words so we pick an aspect of a photo and say

as a form of like...... shorthand for what we Mean. There’s such a difference between gender presentation and gender identity even tho the two obviously interact with each other in a very necessary way. Regarding dan specifically I’ll look at things like his discussion of gender in BIG and how he says yes he’s comfortable with being a man even if the concept of whats “”””manly””” escapes him and he wouldn’t turn down a sickening pair of heels and feels fine viewing himself as a formless blob. Maybe what I mean is when I see dan embodying something outside of Manhood™️ even in the subtlest ways my brain goes “huh.... like me :) like me in my womanhood and dykery”

Like I will frequently tag on main in gifsets of Gilbert Blythe and Rick O’Connel and Jack Dawson and Luke Danes that “I love this lesbian” when the character is a presumably straight cis man played by a presumably straight cis man (and white men now that i list them out like that.... hmm is that a me problem or a casting problem? Maybe a little of both🤔) and those four specific men are written in their stories to be like Manly Men™️ — when I see them onscreen displaying tenderness, yearning, gentleness, hesitation, intentionality, my brain goes into a very old dusty file labeled “strict gender roles society taught you” and sees those filed under Girly Shit

Or just like ,, character traits I admire and vibe with. As a woman. As a dyke. Therefore.... “I love this lesbian🤪” she tags under this photo

Is it me leaning into those bad gender categorizations? Is it me finding freedom in inverting them? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ idk! I don’t think there’s a clean and clear answer. But I know it makes me feel better about my gender and sexuality to see a picture of dan with straightened fringe and shaved sides in a form-fitting black long sleeve looking approachable and tender, and thinking “oh yeah.... I’d date her :’))”

[into-control]

finished she ra s5 my catradora heart 🥺🥺🥺 no gay ship on a show has ever given me such content i’m in love i think

THE YEARNING THE PINING THE DYKERY

[anderperries]

okay. yeah.

[anderperries]

can’t stop thinking about little miss perfect x ordinary couples

[anderperries]

i’m gonna die of lesbianism❣️🥰🥺👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

[anderperries]

i’m just too soft for all of it

[anderperries]

i’m so in love that i might stop breathing 🥰👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩❣️

[anderperries]

Airjaodjaodnworne

[anderperries]

i love you, having a crush. i love you, getting to know you stage. i love you, honeymoon phase. i love you, finding out their favorite things. i love you, bonding over shared interests. i love you, that feeling when they text you. i love you, good morning and good night texts. i love you, the beginning of something new and wonderful.

[anderperries]

the way i can be on a three hour call with her and like it’s still not enough time. like i could still spend another six hours on the phone if she asked me to.

[anderperries]

i told everyone not to let me drunk text coenna about how much h i like her but hey never said i couldn’t drink tumblr post. i like her so much. she’s so nice and pretty and funny and she has great taste and she likes the same things as me and i think i’m gonna watch steven universe in 2023 because of her. i am so gay for her. i like her so much it hurts.

[anderperries]

i had a very pleasant evening hehe. good night, little gay people in my phone :,)

[anderperries]

genuinely didn’t think i could possibly fall any more in love with her but you learn something new every day