#dvvictim

[yunglungs]

Men base most romantic relationships off sex. To think about it, every relationship I’ve had with men, started with sex, and had a very emphasised outlook on the sexual part of the relationship. Sex was ruined for me, when the very man who caressed my body and told me he loved me, while indulging in my physique, was the same man who physically abused me. The same hands that held my cheek while kissing me were the same hands used to push me to the ground. My body quickly started to reject sex. When we broke up. I tried so hard to “get back into the game”. I indulged in casual hook up culture. My body rejected it time after time. I have no interest in sex. Sex is a football field. A man's game, each party is trying to score their own goal. Pleasure and satisfaction. Except, I was never really trying to gain pleasure from sex, rather looking for validation in fulfilling a man's needs. I wasn't born like that, I wasn't born with the innate nature to appease men. I was brainwashed, from a very young age, through culture and media. “We live in a man's world, so you have to cooperate and flatter the male gaze”. The duality of men; from violence to love, from anger to lust. I don't think I'll ever entirely understand. Now that I can no longer participate in the twisted game men like to call sex, purely because it is futile, I no longer see myself as a valued participant of male connection. After all, I can no longer offer them what they all seek. It's quite sad because women are such beautifully complicated humans underneath the sex appeal. However, I don't think they have the capacity to comprehend that.

[spit-out-the-dust]

I guess we both got out of the toxicity. Hate that yours ended up being with the angels.

I seriously fucking hate men.

[freedom4ewa]

We’ve already donated $65! Thank you! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 In addition to donating 5% to Domestic Violence shelters from every purchase, I will be donating an additional 5% to Jessica’s account until the goal for the GoFundMe account is reached. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 We have already donated $30! Together we will be able to help Jessica’s loved ones reach their goal! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Jessica Edwards has lost her life to Domestic Violence at the hands of her husband. She leaves behind her loved ones including her 7 month old baby. She is another victim of Domestic Violence. She is not just another statistic, she is a sister who has fallen. She is another woman who has lost the ability to: Wake up and look out her window Drink her morning coffee See her son taking his first steps Feel the embrace of her friends and family Listen to her favorite song She has lost her life, she did not deserve that. We are a community and I know that with your support, we can help Jessica's family with the financial burden of their tragic loss. Not only are you helping to raise funds for Domestic Violence shelters but you are also helping to provide funds for Jessica’s family who is grieving a tremendous loss 💕 https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice-for-jessica-edwards?fbclid=IwAR3AbqSESDETm5AjjpKCcbBXjjWZ6ZDLQqefTiCiHRdcb3k_mgFXBa8Oa44&utm_campaign=p_cp_url&utm_medium=os&utm_source=customer #jessicaedwards #restinpower #domesticviolencevictim #fallensister #communitysupport #donate #domesticviolenceawreness #purpleheart #dvvictim #shareyourstory #helpishere #justiceforjessica #behervoice https://www.instagram.com/p/CRbdxLMMGI9/?utm_medium=tumblr

[melaniricks]

Helping Domestic Violence Victim

Help a Friend or Family Member

Are you concerned that someone you care about is experiencing abuse? Maybe you’ve noticed some warning signs, including:

Their partner puts them down in front of other people

They are constantly worried about making their partner angry

They make excuses for their partner’s behavior

Their partner is extremely jealous or possessive

They have unexplained marks or injuries

They’ve stopped spending time with friends and family

They are depressed or anxious, or you notice changes in their personality

If someone you love is being abused, it can be so difficult to know what to do. Your instinct may be to “save” them from the relationship, but it’s not that easy. After all, there are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships, and leaving can be a very dangerous time for a victim.

Abuse is about power and control, so one of the most important ways you can help a person in an abusive relationship is to consider how you might empower them to make their own decisions. Additionally, you can offer support in various ways:

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THEY ARE IN A VERY DIFFICULT AND SCARY SITUATION, BE SUPPORTIVE AND LISTEN.

Let them know that the abuse is not their fault. Reassure them that they are not alone and that there is help and support out there. It may be difficult for them to talk about the abuse. Let them know that you are available to help whenever they may need it. What they need most is someone who will believe and listen.

BE NON-JUDGMENTAL.

Respect your friend or family member’s decisions. There are many reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships. They may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize their decisions or try to guilt them. They will need your support even more during those times.

IF THEY END THE RELATIONSHIP, CONTINUE TO BE SUPPORTIVE OF THEM.

Even though the relationship was abusive, your friend or family member may still feel sad and lonely once it is over. They will need time to mourn the loss of the relationship and will especially need your support at that time.

ENCOURAGE THEM TO PARTICIPATE IN ACTIVITIES OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY.

Support is critical and the more they feel supported by people who care for them, the easier it will be for them to take the steps necessary to get and stay safe away from their abusive partner. Remember that you can call the hotline to find local support groups and information on staying safe.

HELP THEM DEVELOP A SAFETY PLAN.

Check out our information on creating a safety plan for wherever they are in their relationship — whether they're choosing to stay, preparing to leave, or have already left.

ENCOURAGE THEM TO TALK TO PEOPLE WHO CAN PROVIDE HELP AND GUIDANCE.

Find a local domestic violence agency that provides counseling or support groups. Call us at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) to get a referral to one of these programs near you. Offer to go with them. If they have to go to the police, court or lawyer’s office, offer to go along for moral support.

REMEMBER THAT YOU CANNOT “RESCUE” THEM.

Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately they are the one who has to make the decisions about what they want to do. It’s important for you to support them no matter what they decide, and help them find a way to safety and peace.

[mischief-made-california]

Lady Lipstick Tees are available now💕 $5 of the sale of each This Lady Lipstick @ladylipstick_pinup × Mischief Made collaboration tee will be donated to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. We hope to raise support for others who are experiencing Domestic Violence and help save more lives. 🙏🏻❤️ Lady Lipstick @ladylipstick_pinup × Mischief Made コラボTシャツ販売額の5ドルは、国内暴力に対する国家連合NCADVに寄付されます。 私たちは家庭内暴力を経験している人たちのために、より多くの人生を救うための支援をしていきたいと考えています。 #domesticviolence #enddomesticviolence #ncadv #dvawareness #dvawarenessmonth #dvsurvivor #dvvictim #lindamitchell #ladylipstick #mischiefmade #pinup (at Los Angeles, California)

[0eg0]

He knowingly and blatantly violates the restraining order, which I capture on video and pictures, and all I get is this stupid card, a panic attack that resulted in me throwing up blood several times, and yet another legal entanglement. I'll add it to the stack. #Sadbuttrue #domesticviolence #restrainingorder #protectionorder #dvvictim #dvvictimsmatter (at Seattle, Washington)

[yunglungs]

I wish I never met you.

Because you showed me how unfair love is.

How it isn’t a pure, worthwhile emotion.

How it’s more of a cunning, unjust game.

How you will still crave and adore someone, even though they treat you so poorly.

How those feelings never really fade.

You made me choose myself.

In a loosing game.

I had to leave you, because you couldn’t love me properly.

But I never stopped loving you.

Now everyday, it’s just me & this hole in my heart.

Because your no longer here.

But I made that choice & I resent myself for it.

Love is complicated.

Love is a loosing game.

[freedom4ewa]

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜In addition to donating 5% to Domestic Violence shelters from every purchase, I will be donating an additional 5% to Jessica’s account until the goal for the GoFundMe account is reached. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 We have already donated $30! Together we will be able to help Jessica’s loved ones reach their goal! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Jessica Edwards has lost her life to Domestic Violence at the hands of her husband. She leaves behind her loved ones including her 7 month old baby. She is another victim of Domestic Violence. She is not just another statistic, she is a sister who has fallen. She is another woman who has lost the ability to: Wake up and look out her window Drink her morning coffee See her son taking his first steps Feel the embrace of her friends and family Listen to her favorite song She has lost her life, she did not deserve that. We are a community and I know that with your support, we can help Jessica's family with the financial burden of their tragic loss. Not only are you helping to raise funds for Domestic Violence shelters but you are also helping to provide funds for Jessica’s family who is grieving a tremendous loss 💕 https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice-for-jessica-edwards?fbclid=IwAR3AbqSESDETm5AjjpKCcbBXjjWZ6ZDLQqefTiCiHRdcb3k_mgFXBa8Oa44&utm_campaign=p_cp_url&utm_medium=os&utm_source=customer #jessicaedwards #restinpower #domesticviolencevictim #fallensister #communitysupport #donate #domesticviolenceawreness #purpleheart #dvvictim #shareyourstory #helpishere #justiceforjessica #behervoice https://www.instagram.com/p/CQTeaMGD2T_/?utm_medium=tumblr

[freedom4ewa]

Jessica Edwards has lost her life to Domestic Violence at the hands of her husband. She leaves behind her loved ones including her 7 month old baby. She is another victim of Domestic Violence. She is not just another statistic, she is a sister who has fallen. She is another woman who has lost the ability to: Wake up and look out her window Drink her morning coffee See her son taking his first steps Feel the embrace of her friends and family Listen to her favorite song She has lost her life, she did not deserve that. Freedom4Ewa - Art & Activism donates 5% of every purchase to both Prudence Crandall Center, Inc. and Safe Futures. For the next two weeks (05/25 - 06/08) I will be donating an additional 10% from each purchase to the #justiceforjessica GoFundMe account. We are a community and I know that with your support, we can help Jessica's family with the financial burden of their tragic loss. https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice-for-jessica-edwards?fbclid=IwAR3AbqSESDETm5AjjpKCcbBXjjWZ6ZDLQqefTiCiHRdcb3k_mgFXBa8Oa44&utm_campaign=p_cp_url&utm_medium=os&utm_source=customer #jessicaedwards #restinpower #domesticviolencevictim #fallensister #communitysupport #donate #domesticviolenceawreness #purpleheart #dvvictim #shareyourstory #helpishere https://www.instagram.com/p/CPT2tgLDVvM/?utm_medium=tumblr

[spit-out-the-dust]

I had this crazy dream where we brought you back to life. Your sister and I.

And it was such a great adventure and such a vivid dream that a piece of me wants to believe it could happen.

God I wish there were more magic in the world besides a sunset sometimes. Most times.

But it’s not the reality. The reality is I fucking hate domestic violence and I will always speak up and speak out against it —to the point where if you come to me I will not only help you get away but I will go ahead and whoop his ass for you.

I’m over this being a man’s fucking world. I don’t care if you have daddy issues. I don’t care what your trauma is. You will not put your hands on someone or put your words on someone to try and fill voids that you choose not to work on— you don’t get to hurt someone to feel tough.

I’ll show you who to fuck with.

[freedom4ewa]

@Freedom4Ewa made a donation to Jessica Edwards GoFundMe account! Thank you to my beautiful supporters 💕 @Freedom4Ewa donates 5% of every purchase to both Prudence Crandall Center, Inc. and Safe Futures. Between (05/25 - 06/08) I donated an additional 10% from each purchase to the #justiceforjessica GoFundMe account for a total of a $20 donation. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Moving forward, in addition to donating 5% to Domestic Violence shelters, I will be donating 5% to Jessica’s account until the goal for the GoFundMe account is reached. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Jessica Edwards has lost her life to Domestic Violence at the hands of her husband. She leaves behind her loved ones including her 7 month old baby. She is another victim of Domestic Violence. She is not just another statistic, she is a sister who has fallen. She is another woman who has lost the ability to: Wake up and look out her window Drink her morning coffee See her son taking his first steps Feel the embrace of her friends and family Listen to her favorite song She has lost her life, she did not deserve that. We are a community and I know that with your support, we can help Jessica's family with the financial burden of their tragic loss. Not only are you helping to raise funds for Domestic Violence shelters but you are also helping to provide funds for Jessica’s family who is grieving a tremendous loss 💕 https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice-for-jessica-edwards?fbclid=IwAR3AbqSESDETm5AjjpKCcbBXjjWZ6ZDLQqefTiCiHRdcb3k_mgFXBa8Oa44&utm_campaign=p_cp_url&utm_medium=os&utm_source=customer #jessicaedwards #restinpower #domesticviolencevictim #fallensister #communitysupport #donate #domesticviolenceawreness #purpleheart #dvvictim #shareyourstory #helpishere #justicforjessica https://www.instagram.com/p/CP8fFzzjcNE/?utm_medium=tumblr

[mischief-made-california]

Lady Lipstick Tees💓 $5 of the sale of each This Lady Lipstick @ladylipstick_pinup × Mischief Made collaboration tee will be donated to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. We hope to raise support for others who are experiencing Domestic Violence and help save more lives. 🙏🏻❤️ Lady Lipstick @ladylipstick_pinup × Mischief Made コラボTシャツ販売額の5ドルは、国内暴力に対する国家連合NCADVに寄付されます。 私たちは家庭内暴力を経験している人たちのために、より多くの人生を救うための支援をしていきたいと考えています。 Photo by @mr.mukatsuku 🤝 @sachiroca #domesticviolence #enddomesticviolence #ncadv #dvawareness #dvawarenessmonth #dvsurvivor #dvvictim #lindamitchell #ladylipstick #mischiefmade #pinup (at Upland, California)