#demisexual pride day

[emiliasilverova]

So I've heard that June 8th is Demisexual Pride Day... I mean, I'm not 100% sure, but even if I'm wrong it's still Pride Month, so the art still counts lol.

It's been less than a year since I've become certain I'm demi—not having been in any relationship before didn't make it easy to distinguish demi from plain ace. This particular label means a lot to me, to be fair, and you wouldn't believe how much angst it has put to rest. Finally I know what I am, and no, I'm in no way defective.

Finding out I'm demi didn't come too long after my ASD diagnosis, so the notion of being "defective", or at least not quite right, was still very much ingrained in me at that time. Don't get me wrong though, I would have been just as relieved if I turned out to be ace. The most important part of this isn't the label itself, but the fact I can confidently apply it on myself—if that makes sense.

To me, personally, the label is immensely liberating. It means that I can love, and more important still, that I can be loved... even though, I know, this is not what orientation is supposed to mean. Everyone should be loved, no matter what they are—but well, I used to suffer from chronic loneliness and still have to battle low self-confidence, so the association makes sense to me.

It might be worth to note that I'm also demiromantic, although romantic attraction is a lot less significant to me. After all, for the longest time I couldn't for the life of me understand what romance was... and friendship is criminally underrated, imo. My current relationship might still be friendship with benefits, for all I know. Who cares, I love my partner to the moon and back anyway. I'm not even ashamed of the cliché 😛

So yeah, drawing is me. Barefoot because I always am, and because I was too lazy to draw shoes. Colors by the amazing @3nigm4art, couldn't have dreamt of a more gorgeous rendition. What song am I dancing to, hmmm... How Can Expect to Be Taken Seriously by Pet Shop Boys or Down Under by Men at Work would be strong contenders (those are my jam rn).

Oh and, the demi flag is cool, you know what I mean?

[justdavina]

Amazing skirt and top combo worn by a sexy transgender lady!

[orionchildofhades]

for pride month I'd like to reinforce the following idea

demi sexual Neil Josten 🤝 demi romantic Andrew Minyard

[msbrightsides]

H-O-T-T-O-G-O,

I-Am-Going-To-Die-Alone!

[troylougferdaday]

Day 98. Pride flags! (Third part)

Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4

[dailydoseofdragon]

I would Ike to request a demi sexual flag dragon. Please and thank you

Day 171- Demisexual

[zebracorn-chan]

Happy Ace Awareness Month from our queen! 🖤🩶🤍💜

[owlarchimedes]

Happy pride here's my aftg queer headcanons as well as canon stuff for the foxes and friends!

- Neil: demiromantic demisexual, I also love transmasc Neil Josten

- Andrew: a gay man, is on the aromantic spectrum but doesn't look into it too hard

- Kevin: bi bi bisexual boy, aromantic but moreso than Andrew

- Renee: pansexual but with a preference for women, hypersexual due to ✨️trauma✨️

- Allison: a lesbian with severe comphet (I do think she loved Seth tho)

- Aaron: polyamorous, bi-curious that turns bisexual

- Nicky: gay gay homosexual, has never once thought about his gender, probably never will, lives solely off vibes

- Matt: bi wife energy, bisexual (his bromance with Neil is heavy on the romance)

- Dan: bi, usually has a preference for women or enbies but would date anyone who's competent, has she/they pronouns in her bio

- Jean: bisexual usually with a preference for men but that's mostly because of his options his whole life, I don't think he knows what transgender is so that's totally not on his radar (sheltered, raised in an abusive cult)

- Jeremy: gay, transmasc, usually t4t

- Cat: a lesbian, uses she/they pronouns

- Laila: pansexual (Jeremy bought her one of those 'I ❤️ dishware' t shirts and she hates ((loves)) it)

A little bonus!

- Wymack: bi-curious, only had one true love his whole life and never truly moved on from her

- Coach Rhemann: gay homosexual gay 🏳️‍🌈

- Bee: on the aroace spectrum

- Abby: 100% ally lmao

[fuedalreesespieces]

Inuyasha & Demisexuality

i think halfway into writing this i thought about just cramming all my thoughts into a semi-coherent rant due to a combination of a.) lack of access to decent translations of the manga and b.) paranoia about over-analyzing scenes and coming off as delusional (i think by now it's probably too late to thwart that claim) buuut this headcanon in particular is near and dear to me so i want to try and get as in depth as possible.

what is demisexuality?

in simple terms, demisexuality is when an individual doesn't experience primary attraction - that is, the sort of attraction based on immediate observable (often physical) characteristics - and instead only experiences secondary attraction first: the type of attraction that forms after the development of a deep emotional bond.

inuyasha and kikyo

this aforementioned term perfectly describes inuyasha and his relationships with the only women he's ever loved romantically. you could make the claim that his inability to feel primary attraction first stems from his trust issues and not inherent sexual orientation. and to that, i would disagree - he and kikyo develop an emotional bond despite an unspoken lack of trust, which may have improved had naraku not meddled in their lives. still, both find solace in each other's similarities, loneliness, and "outlier" status (though the similarities are in isolation only, if i'm being completely honest) and establish a connection that persists post-revival.

inuyasha eventually did start to feel primary attraction to kikyo during their time together - in the second chapter of the manga, when he compares kagome to her, he states that kikyo "looked pretty."

[source - viz. i haven't been in this fandom long, but what i've gathered is that there are a lot of mis-translations of this manga, even from viz. since i have yet to buy physical copies of the manga and don't have an account for the site, i'm going to be using fan-scans for the rest of these, which hopefully won't really affect what i'm trying to convey since i'll be looking at character expressions rather than dialogue for most of them.]

i'd also note the order in which he lists those traits: kikyo looked intelligent and pretty. her intelligent appearance is the first part of her he remembers, which i think underscores his priorities in this regard. he values things like intelligence and companionship - facets that come to light when developing secondary attraction towards someone - more than aspects of primary attraction.

inuyasha and kagome

as mentioned before, demisexuals don't feel physical attraction before establishing a tight emotional bond. the most blatant examples i could think of this were any instances in which inuyasha sees kagome nude and his difference in reaction - in particular, during the yura of the hair and togenkyo arcs, which are roughly seventy-three chapters apart. there are two new moons in that time, and from that we can say at least two months have passed.

chapter six: yura of the hair

kagome's bathing below him, and i'm sorry, but this expression literally screams "zero fucks given." he does not care in the slightest. not a blush. not a spot of red on his cheeks. not a sweatdrop. not a tee-hee. if i were to describe what he's feeling in this moment i would say "extreme ire." when she uses the sit command on him, it's on the assumption that he's "peeking," but kaede understands that it's actually because inuyasha is trying to steal a shard of the shikon jewel.

"huh?" - he sounds genuinely confused that she reached that conclusion, even though he was quite literally peering over the cliff's edge in what obviously has very perverse connotations. it's almost like he doesn't understand why kagome would think his actions come from a place of sexual attraction because that sort of thing just isn't on his mind at all, and he doesn't get why it would be in the first place.

another extremely blatant example can be see in miroku's introductory chapter: chapter 51, the delinquent priest:

do i even have to say anything. this scene also further emphasizes my previous point - before, the only reason he was there was to try and steal kagome's jewel shard. if his true intentions had been driven by primary attraction, this would have been an opportune moment to "peep." in his words, however, he just isn't interested. note that he could have said something along the lines of "i wouldn't do something like that" (which, if he was attracted to her in that way from the start, wouldn't have done anyway) but specifically i'm not interested. the primary attraction is not there in the slightest. at least, not until:

chapter eighty two: fateful night in togenkyo

the scene i'm talking about needs no introduction, but for context: kagome's half-freaking out after having woken up in a sake bath. inuyasha breaks down the door to come and rescue her, accidentally seeing her naked in the process. well, i'm sure his reaction won't be that dif-

...it's only one panel-

okay, two-

i think at this point it's fairly obvious that primary attraction has developed. besides the fact that he's spent three panels trying not to look like he's having a quasi allergic reaction, it's been approximately two months since they've met, and by now they've definitely formed the deep emotional bond required for him to begin feeling any primary attraction at all. in fact, the chapter where he tells kagome "there's no replacement for you" - that chapter, where he's vulnerable and honest and opening up to her, strengthening their bond further, (ch. 78, a tender smell) is directly before the togenkyo arc begins, and, thus, just before these scenes occur. these chapters have all been building up secondary attraction, and now that primary attraction is just starting to show up.

several chapters later we have this iconic panel from 173:

this is such a look of awe, as though he's gazing up at a goddess. jaw dropped, eyes-wide, words trailing off awe. he's entranced. fully head-over-heels in love, feeling both primary and secondary attraction in regards to kagome, and this trend only continues throughout the entirety of the manga.

conclusion + extra thoughts

my belief in this headcanon comes from not just the evidence depicted above, but because i just related a ton reading those scenes. i found myself just nodding along (as someone who's demisexual themselves!) plus, since ace-spectrum representation is so rare, it's nice to see it reflected in a character whose story and relationships i love dearly.

tags: @nightshade-lullaby

[spadedarmor]

HAPPY FATHERS DAYYYYYYY !!!!!!!!!!!!!! WE LOVE THE GAYSSSS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 💙❤️🪄‼️‼️

WATCH THIS VIDEO ITS WHERE I FOUND THIS SONG AND I LOVE IT

[novamayhem]

Happy International Asexuality Day! You're all valid and I love ya!

[auggietheautisticvampire]

Happy International Asexuality day my guys/gals/non-binary pals 🖤🩶🤍💜

[justdavina]

Pretty Gurl!

[poll-boy]

- if you want to submit a poll, you can on my blog! any and all suggestions are appreciated :)

especially if you have pride related suggestions for pride month!

[fandomaddict505]

Happy Pride Month!

My personal headcanons for the thieves are under the cut for anyone curious

From Left to Right

Sumire- Pansexual

Ruuji- Bisexual

Ann- Lesbian

Akechi- Gay and Transgender

Makoto- Bisexual

Haru- Pansexual

Yusuke- Demisexual, I also hc him as Homoromantic

Morgana- Straight Ally, he just got the general pride flag

Joker- Genderfluid, I also hc them as Bisexual

Futaba- Aroace

[eddiestightywhities]

When there's now this thing in your life, a new thing between you and another person, a thing you can't quite put your finger on to be able to try and describe it.

When you start to become so comfortable with this person that they start to become your person, and before you're really aware that anything has changed between you, you've just suddenly become one hundred percent theirs.

When you then get so close to that person that you don't really realise that things have shifted so significantly between you, because it's so infinitesimally and yet so dramatically all at once, and because everything just feels so damn right all the time and exactly the way you feel things are supposed to feel, so why would you ever think about changing it?

When it dawns on both you and that person—maybe one of you gets there before the other, maybe both at the same time?—that the two of you have moved on from being just friends and are morphing into something else, so seamlessly and with such ease that you don't have to question it, because it is just a thing that sort of is now.

When your touches become lighter, lingering things, softer and warmer and more frequent than before, and occurring much, much more and in a very different way than with anybody else in your life.

When you and your person and this thing that you now share become more wanting and more needy, and yet somehow so unerringly steady, and also so wonderfully and assuredly grounding and immovable, all as one, all at the very same time.

When together, you become more.

When you find you have found your way to your person, and to this thing, the thing that you now mold and nurture and that molds and nurtures you, slowly; unwaveringly; absolutely; discovering that it's helps you to move in new ways and to unfold as a person, to breathe, to settle into yourself.

When you have this thing (all of these things) in your life and realise that this is it, this is the thing they've been writing about throughout the ages.

When you realise that this thing—your thing—is a thing called love.