#dedeker

[pinchan]

this is how the sashisu character sheets look like to me

[milesmoerales]

Gokil kurobas sama ginatama beneran kolab dong anjingggggg mayuaka gintaka double date when

[konyvboritok]

[bantennewscoid-blog]

Tim Arung Jeram Banten Targetkan 4 Emas di PON XXI

ACEH – Tim arung jeram Provinsi Banten terus mempersiapkan diri menghadapi Pekan Olahraga Nasional (PON) XXI yang digelar di sungai Alas dan sungai Mamas Kutacane, Aceh Tenggara pada 9 hingga 19 September 2024. Kontingen yang saat ini sudah berada di venue arung jeram, berangkat lebih awal sejak 29 Agustus 2024 untuk beradaptasi dan melakukan uji coba di Sungai Alas dan Sungai Mamas,Aceh…

[stuff-i-watched]

Dedek gre na jug / 2022 — IMDb, TMDb

[papayamodapk]

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[topoin]

Membuat Pakan Ikan Nila Dari Dedak

Pakan Dedak Ikan Nila Untuk pemberian pakan yang berupa ampas kelapa ke ikan nila, Bapak/Ibu cukup menebarkannya ke kolam. Dedak mampu mempercepat pertumbuhan karena mengandung 18% protein, 66% karbohidrat, dan 7% lemak. Dengan teksturnya yang halus, dedak cocok diberikan untuk ikan nila yang berukuran kecil. Salah satu faktor penting untuk membudidayakan ikan nila adalah terletak pada…

[nishiyudai]

Kek Harijadi Dedek

[rosetta-j-stone]

Buckle up guys, gals and non-binary pals, it's BoJere Tour Bus Renuion time <3

"...Bojan was tentatively asking me if I would join him on the tour bus" - Kris arches an eyebrow as he reads this part of the latest interview with Jere on his phone screen.

Tentatively? Seriously? Since when has Bojan done ANYTHING tentatively? Bojan is about as tentative as a- as a puppy. Which is why Kris has to watch him and "Nine Lives" Jure like a hawk.

Not for the first time, Kris is glad he doesn't have pets.

Turtles might be OK, he supposes.

Nace seems to think so.

Anyway, he's clearly going to have to talk to Bojan about this.

****

"Hey, Bojan, remind me: what are the rules of this tour?"

Bojan rolls his eyes. Like Kris doesn't know. Like Kris didn't write them. Like Kris didn't give him two copies (just in case). He shrugs.

"Let's see...what happens on the tour bus stays on the tour bus?"

Kris chucks a pillow at him. He ducks.

"That is the exact opposite of Rule 5 and you know it"

Ugh, he's in one of those moods. Bojan briefly considers throwing the pillow back, but decides against it.

"Rule 5? What were the other 4?" He grins. "Wait, don't tell me. They're all the same rule, just with different names."

Kris refuses to take this bait, unfortunately.

"Rule 5 is - as you very well know - No Sex On The Tour Bus"

How is he capitalising every letter of that stupid rule just saying it, Bojan wonders.

"Right, and why are you bringing up that rule with me? Shouldn't you be reminding...ooh, I don't know...your fellow guitarists of that one?"

Kris folds his arms and Bojan knows he shouldn't push it but he can't help himself.

"Or does it not apply if both parties are band members? Kinda discriminatory Krisko. Does this mean I have to start sleeping with Jure again?" He grins, gives Kris a suggestive look. "Or-"

Kris gives him a don't-even-think-about-it look in response - spoilsport - and thrusts his phone at him.

Ooh, it's an interview with Jere...

Ah.

OK, Jere has obviously said something.

Yep. Kris has highlighted it. Of course he has.

He reads the offending sentence, rereads it, laughs, looks up.

"Oh come on Kris, this is just Jerč-Jere messing around. He probably said it because he knew it would get attention. Although" he feels obliged to point out, because joke or no joke this slander will not stand: "it was actually HIM asking ME if he could-"

Kris sighs the deep sigh of the terminally exasperated.

"Look, I don't care who asked who, your boyfriend-"

"-NOT my boyfriend actually but do carry on"

Kris doesn't even bat an eyelid.

"Whatever he is, he's NOT coming on the bus. In EITHER sense. There's barely enough room for the five of us as it is"

He gestures to the admittedly cramped living quarters they've somehow got used to sharing. Bojan can see his point, even if he is making it in the most insufferable way possible. He sighs.

"FINE. No Sex On The Tour Bus"

Kris looks at him.

"Promise?"

He's such a Boy Scout sometimes. Bojan can't resist saluting as he replies.

"Yes, Mr-If-I-Can't-Get-Laid-Neither-Can-Anyone-Else, I promise"

And he runs off before Kris can find anything else to throw at him.

****

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: Hey

BikBik: Hey

BikBik: What happen?

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: Kris read your interview. I had to promise him I wouldn't smuggle you onto the tour bus.

BikBik: : (

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: I know, it sucks. No reenacting this for us

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: <video file: UKTourChaChaCha">

BikBik: <gif: "SadDavidTennant">

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: <gif: "SadDavidTennant">

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: ...

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: Anyway, I think we're both off Krisko's Christmas card list this year.

BikBik: ...

BikBik: OK but still on Christmas present list, yesyes?

BikBik: Still on track for visit from...Grandfather Walrus?

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: ...Grandfather Walrus?

BikBik: Is not correct? I put "Dedek Mrož" into Google Translate and-

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: OH

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: OMB

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: X D

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: DEDEK MRAZ

CarpeEveryDiemSlideIntoEveryDM: BRB DYING OF LAUGHTER

BikBik: ...

BikBik: ...

BikBik: F**k you Bojan X D

****

Jere is laughing as he puts his phone down, he can't help laughing whenever he interacts with Bojan, but he's soon serious again.

Yes, he ABSOLUTELY said that to that reporter because he knew they'd eat it up.

But...

He was hoping that he and Bojan would-

Well.

You know.

But Bojan has made a promise, and his Bojan doesn't break promises.

So Jere is going to have to...get creative.

He grins.

He's always enjoyed a challenge.

[asrisgratitudejournal]

Takut

Seru banget deh kemarin lihat instastorynya Judith, dia dan rekan-rekannya di Kompas.id lagi nge-run investigasi series gitu berkaitan dengan angka pernikahan yang turun di Indonesia recently (as are in all other parts of the world). Terus ada satu tulisan yang judulnya “Mencari Jawaban dari “Kapan Nikah?”(4)” https://www.kompas.id/baca/investigasi/2024/10/21/mencari-jawaban-dari-kapan-nikah?open_from=Investigasi_Page (semoga nggak kena paywall ya, soalnya aku subscribe Kompas.id jadi bisa baca dengan mudah), dan ada part yang intriguing banget di salah satu quote interviewee-nya. Eh ternyata gak direct quote deng, udah di-intisari sama penulis artikel, tapi bunyi kalimatnya gini:

“Antonius pun sudah menempuh studi S-3. Menurut dia, perempuan yang dapat menjadi pasangannya dinilai dari segi wawasan, ketertarikan untuk mengobservasi sesuatu, selera seni, kemauan untuk belajar hal-hal baru, pengenalan diri, kemampuan memahami orang lain, serta kemampuan berpendapat dan mengartikulasikannya dengan baik. Dia melanjutkan, pasangan yang berwawasan, berpendidikan, dan mau untuk belajar membuat relasinya tidak membosankan. Ada beragam hal yang bisa dieksplorasi dan diobrolkan dengan pasangan.”

I choked when I read “selera seni” karena iyasih emang gakpenting-penting banget kayanya bagi beberapa orang, tapi buat aku itu tuh penting banget buat dicari di pasangan! Begitu selesai baca artikel Kompas ini, otakku langsung wandering around ngalor ngidul: “Iya yah, kalau nanti suamiku gak suka dengerin musik gimana… nggak ngerasa musik itu penting in life… Kalau belum pernah denger Stray Kids gapapa deh, bisa ku-perkenalkan, tapi kalau nggak sampai dengerin MCR… matilah aku.

Terus juga kalau dia gak bisa melukis atau gakpernah megang brush seumur dia hidup juga gapapa deh masih bisa kutoleransi, tapi minimal tahu van Gogh itu siapa dan bisa menikmati painting/sculpture the way I do…

Kalau dia gakpernah nonton musical theatre aku bisa introduce juga, gapapa. Duh tapi kalau bisa, suamiku minimal pernah nonton konser YaAllah dan semoga dia juga senang ngeliatin minute details on stage engineering dan manajemen performance. Semoga dia pernah getting involved in any kind of art production deh: be it in a band, or plays, dance group, atau bahkan jadi sound engineernya aja pun gapapa.”

Udah tuh kan kekhawatiran tentang “selera seni”-nya… Apakah berhenti di situ sodara-sodara? Tentu saja tidak.

Makin parah sekarang spiralnya pindah ke keilmuan… (palm face). “Kalau dia gak se-fascinated itu ngelihat fossil gimana…? Atau meteorite? Atau just plain burung making sound in the park??? Aku harus sama orang yang appreciating nature juga Ya Allah, kayanya biologist wouldn’t be a bad option… atau orang yang belajar space engineering/aviation juga gapapa deh minimal dia bisa appreciate betapa kerennya burung bisa terbang dengan segala aerodinamisitasnya (is that even a word?)”

Setelah profesi/keilmuan, pindah ke lifestyle/hobby… “Terus harus suka baca juga ni orang, jangan sampe amit-amit gak suka baca. Kalau bisa tapi jangan yang bacanya self-help book gitu Ya Allah karena cringe banget gabisa banget akutuh sama abang-abang/dedek-dedek yang paling iye ngerasa paling ngerti gimana dunia bekerja cuma gara-gara selesai baca “The Psychology of Money” (I have no beef on this book whatsoever and I also haven’t read it, but you know what I mean, you guys know this very specific group of people and how annoying they can be). Selain suka baca, I would be really grateful YaAllah kalau ni orang well-traveled, minimal pernah nyusun itinerary travel sendiri, knows how to book flights, hotels, making visa. Intinya amit-amit banget kalau sampai harus deal sama cowok yang gak bisa ngapa-ngapain sendiri atau cuma bisa nyuruh-nyuruh orang doang. I don’t mind sih kalau dia emang belum banyak visited places, tapi minimal banget mau belajar dan adaptasi aja udah cukup kok YaAllah. Sama I would really appreciate kalo orang ini juga suka belajar new languages, how fun the house will be kalau kita keep switching languages dan baca buku berbagai macam bahasa sambil travelling ke banyak tempat buat practice ngomong bahasa itu??! (Ok udah agak a stretch, sekarang jadi kayak imajinasi tingkat tinggi).”

Tau gak beres dari mikir ini apa yang kepikiran di otakku? “Buset Non lu mau cari suami atau cari mahasiswa bimbingan skripsi???” Tapi WAJAR KAN??! Orang ini adalah orang yang aku akan spend the rest of my life with?! Tentu aja aku bakal harus compromise for certain things and he will do, too. But it never hurts to be specific on who you want to share your life with???

Ujung-ujungnya tapi melihat track record aku, most of the time, kalau aku sudah SUKA banget sama orang, sampe head over heels, udah kek kena santet, biasanya ya don’t matter juga mau ni orang dengerinnya ST12 juga (don’t at me, I love ST12, and RADJA too, I think they are geniuses). Tapi being single over 30 now dan setelah mengakumulasi cukup lumayan pengalaman hidup berrelasi dengan orang-orang, at least aku tahu kualitas apa yang aku GAK MAU ada di calon pasanganku kelak. And it’s a really good filter.

Pada akhirnya, pas dipikir-pikir lagi, teman-temanku pun nggak dengerin Stray Kids tapi aku bisa-bisa aja berteman sama mereka, teman-temanku sekarang nggak semuanya bisa appreciating fossil the way I do but I have no problem. Mereka juga nggak nonton konser, makanya ku selalu nonton konser sendirian. Beberapa ada yang suka baca, tapi mayoritas nonton tiktok dan aku masih mau temenan sama mereka. Beberapa ada yang learning 3rd, 4th language, tapi mostly ya cuma bisa Bahasa Indonesia dan English and I am fine with that. Mungkin emang kayanya standarku tinggi banget tapi pas dilihat-lihat lagi, rasa toleransiku sepertinya jauh lebih tinggi/besar daripada “ick”-ku sama orang. Pada akhirnya aku tetap sayang sama teman-temanku ini, kalimat andalanku: “Well, if they are happy, so am I.”.

Seperti yang baru aja ku-post di instastory kemarin, sebetulnya ku cuma butuh suami yang hobi masak dan bersih-bersih rumah karena jujur capek banget kerja seharian nulis tesis tuh, apalagi kalau ngelab YaAllahhhh. Pulang-pulang masih harus mikir masak apa, motongin onions, berdiri depan kompor… Marilah kita berdoa dan wujudkan suami yang punya “selera seni” yang sama denganku dan jago memasak itu. Aamiin. (Kata orang kalau doa di-spell out baik out loud verbally atau dalam bentuk tulisan, biasanya akan jadi lebih mudah termanifestasi, karena otak kita sudah tahu apa yang kita mau).

30.18 31/10/2024 15:07

(I really should be writing my thesis but here I am, writing what I want in my future husband).

[southeastasianists]

There was a time when Prabowo Subianto's name would have spooked most Indonesians.

But now young voters appear to be charmed by the defence minister's slick makeover. The fiery ex-special forces commander dogged by allegations of human rights abuses and disappearances has become a cute grandfather made for memes.

"He is much older, but he is able to embrace my generation," says a 25-year-old supporter of his, Albert Joshua.

Now 72, Mr Prabowo is running to succeed the popular Joko Widodo when the world's third-largest democracy votes on 14 February. He is promising more of the stability and economic development Mr Widodo, or Jokowi as he is better known, pushed during his decade in power.

So far the polls put Mr Prabowo ahead of his younger rivals, Ganjar Pranowo and Anies Baswedan. Both men are in their 50s and have experience running key Indonesian provinces as governors. Job security, infrastructure and a bigger diplomatic role for Indonesia dominate their campaigns.

Mr Prabowo's running mate is Mr Widodo's eldest son, Gibran Rakabuming Raka. It's a choice that many see as a tacit blessing by the president, who is yet to endorse anyone, including his own party's candidate, Mr Pranowo.

But a Prabowo presidency is also alarming to many, who say he has never been held accountable for the alleged abduction and killing of pro-democracy student activists decades ago.

A young voter, who did not wish to be named, says she is "terrified" he will win: "If he could be an accomplice of silencing voices then he will be silencing those voices now if he gets elected."

"Cuteness" hardly makes an eligible leader, she says. "If that's how you think a leader should be, then you should elect kittens."

Indonesia's cat-loving 'gemoy squad'

Cats are also a part of Mr Prabowo's social media campaign. His brown and white stray, Bobby, has his own well-curated Instagram account that describes him as a "patriot".

Then there are the TikTok videos of Mr Prabowo doing his signature move - an awkward shuffle across the stage - or shooting hearts at the audience. The gushing response has dubbed him "gemoy", a moniker for all things cuddly and adorable. His young supporters call themselves the "gemoy squad".

Social media has been the cornerstone of his outreach. Millennials and Gen Z make up more than half of Indonesia's 205 million eligible voters - they also account for many of the 167 million Indonesians who use social media.

Mr Prabowo's official Facebook and affiliated accounts spent $144,000 in advertising over the past three months, according to Meta's data. That's almost double Mr Pranowo's spend, and triple that of Mr Baswedan.

"I rarely see Prabowo's real picture anymore," said Yoes C Kenawas, a research fellow at Atma Jaya University.

Instead the internet, drawing rooms and streets are filled with posters of Mr Prabowo as a chubby cartoon character. This new "avatar... is all over Indonesia", Mr Kenawas says. "That's how they're softening his image. And so far, it's pretty successful."

A spokesperson for Mr Prabowo's campaign said they were just trying to attract young people through a "fun" campaign: "Politics can be conveyed through different methods... that's not a bad thing," Dedek Prayudi told the BBC.

Gen Z voter Rahayu Sartika Dewi says she is drawn to Mr Prabowo's plans to develop the renewable energy and farming sectors. She calls the campaign "very cute, fun and approachable... not too heavy like in previous years".

Mr Prabowo ran for president, and lost, in 2014 and 2019. But this campaign has been remarkably different.

"The logic is that Prabowo's losses were, at least in part, because his strongman image and firebrand style alienated parts of the electorate," says Dr Eve Warburton, director of the Australia National University's Indonesia Institute.

Mr Prabowo is also targeting a generation that has no memory of the time when he rose to the peak of his power. That happened during the dictatorship of General Suharto, who was forced from office in 1998. His 32-year reign, which many Indonesians credit with modernising the country, was also a time of brutal repression and bloodshed.

Twenty-five years on, young voters say they would rather judge Mr Prabowo on how he tackles unemployment and cost of living. He has promised to create 19 million new jobs over the next five years.

"I know activists are still speaking out... but we have to move on," Mr Joshua says.

Mr Prabowo's campaign has denied the allegations, although he was dismissed from the military for his alleged role in the activists' disappearance. In 2014 he told Al Jazeera that he had ordered their kidnapping but had only done so on the orders of superiors.

In recent months videos have been showing up of people in tears, expressing their sympathy for him, claiming he had been "victimised by his opponents". They often feature young people, and some election watchers doubt if these are genuine supporters.

Ms Dewi says his presidential nomination is "proof" that he has shaken off the allegations.

An extraordinary comeback

Mr Prabowo was born into a wealthy political family, the son of a renowned economist who served in the Indonesian cabinet.

He followed his father who left the country in 1957 under a cloud of controversy, and spent a decade of his childhood in exile in Europe.

After returning home, he joined the army and quickly moved up the ranks to become the captain of Indonesia's elite special forces, the Kopassus.

By then he had already been accused of human rights violations in restive East Timor, where he had served as a member of the unit. His exact role in the military operations in East Timor that claimed hundreds of lives has never been proven and he denies the allegations. But the murky blot on his career has stayed.

He married one of Suharto's daughters and remained in the dictator's inner circle. As Suharto's reign crumbled in the late 1990s, the Kopassus was accused of kidnapping more than 20 student activists who opposed the regime. At least a dozen of them are still missing and feared dead. Those who survived have alleged torture.

Mr Prabowo was discharged from the military, went into self-imposed exile in Jordan, made it onto a blacklist in Australia and was banned from travelling to the United States.

But he made a comeback in 2019, when Mr Widodo appointed him as his defence minister, turning the rivals into allies. The surprise move followed a bitter election win - Mr Prabowo blamed his loss on cheating - and violent protests that left eight people dead.

"How can we expect justice if the perpetrator becomes the president?" asks Suciwati, the widow of a prominent human rights lawyer. Munir Said Thalib spent much of his life investigating the 1998 disappearances. He was assassinated in 2004 on a flight. The pilot was found guilty, but Suciwati does not believe that is the full story.

Prabowo's presidency "would be an extraordinary defeat for us, the families of victims, and human rights activists", she says.

Mr Widodo's support has helped restore Mr Prabowo's image, some say. Social media is "not enough", Mr Kenawas adds, and "how the state machineries have supported his campaign... should not be underestimated".

Many point to his running mate and Mr Widodo's son, Mr Gibran. A constitutional court, where Mr Widodo's brother-in-law serves as chief justice, controversially cleared the way for the 36-year-old to run for vice-president - Indonesian law requires him to be older.

What also worries many is a return of the "old Prabowo", known for his hot temper and volatile personality.

Dr Warburton says some of his recent public appearances had hints of that.

"No-one knows how Prabowo will govern," she says. "He may be a very hands-off president most interested in the prestige and pomp of office; but most who know him well emphasise his unpredictable personality. And that's never good for governance."

[polyamzeal]

My husband and I are new to polyamory, do you have any good resources you recommend to newbies?

My personal favorite book is The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory by Dedeker Winston. It is a highly underrated book.

But the real answer is a bit of everything. That book and more books are great. There a few polyamory podcasts that really helpful, I personally love Multiamory. I always recommend their episode on R.A.D.A.R. and The Triforce Of Communication. https://www.morethantwo.com/ is a website (along with a book) made by someone who isn't very liked or popular anymore by the community but many still find the website to be very helpful and useful. Joining the polyamory-orientated social media groups is really good. Especially the local ones! Finally those social media site along with Meetup.com there are often in-person polyamory meetups if in a big enough city.

All of these resources are great and everybody learns differently so some are more useful to some than others. Getting different viewpoints from different people is great. Even on my blog I express some opinions that other polyam people don't share so it is great to diversify.

[nissarj20]

Wahhhh senangnya udah mulai gerak. Udah memulai.

Semangat dedek.

Semoga Allah selalu meridhai segala jalan bisnis adek.

[ceritasiolaa]

Assalamu'alaikum Aqsha!

Rabu, 17 Juli 2024M | 12 Muharram 1446H

اَلْحَمْدُ للَّهِ رَبِّ الْعالَمِينَ

Telah lahirnya putera pertama kami tepat di pukul 19.39 WIB di Rumah Sakit Hermina Medan.

Bismillah, aku ingin menuliskan kisah persalinan dan proses bagaimana seorang sosok penerus peradaban lahir dari rahimku kemarin.

Berawal dari merasakan kontraksi di tanggal 14 Juli. Malam hari tidurku sudah mulai tidak nyenyak, hampir setiap 10-20 menit sekali aku merasakan kontraksi. Saat aku cek juga sudah mulai ada flek dan cairan bening yang keluar.

Paginya aku dan suami langsung bergegas ke rumah sakit untuk mengecek, karena sebenernya kami punya agenda untuk mengikuti event sudut pandang dan ittiba' dari komunitas Yuk Ngaji Medan, kebetulan juga aku salah satu panitianya dan suami sudah membeli tiket kedua event tersebut.

Setelah cek di Rumah Sakit, hasilnya belum ada bukaan. Dokter langsung menyarankan aku untuk pulang, beraktivitas seperti biasa, dan lebih banyak lagi bergerak untuk jalan lahir si bayi.

Dengan memantapkan hati, aku dan suami memilih untuk pergi ke event yuk ngaji. Sembari mengikuti event, menjadi panitia, aku merasakan gelombang cinta per 10-20 menit sekali. MasyaAllah.

Tetapi pelan-pelan kontraksi itu berkurang, saat malam hari bisa 30 menit sekali mungkin kontraksi itu muncul dan hanya sebentar saja. Setelah event tersebut, malam itu aku bisa tertidur lelap. Mungkin karena kelelahan juga ya pikirku saat itu.

Besoknya tanggal 15 Juli, kontraksi juga sering muncul per 30 menit. Flek juga semakin banyak.

Malam harinya, aku tidak bisa tidur lagi. Kontraksi semakin kencang, bisa 5-10 menit sekali. Semakin sakit dan nyeri rasanya.

Suami sudah membujuk aku untuk pergi ke Rumah Sakit sejak jam 2 pagi, tapi aku masih mengurungkan niat dan menunggu, berharap kontraksi semakin cepat lagi.

Namun ternyata, pukul 4 lewat aku sudah tidak tahan. Dicoba untuk tidur pun tak bisa, kontraksi nya sangat membuatku tidak nyaman.

Aku dan suami pun langsung bergegas ke Rumah Sakit sebelum shubuh (aku tidak ingat waktu pastinya).

Tanggal 16 Juli, kembali lagi ke Rumah Sakit. Setelah di cek oleh bidan disana, aku sudah bukaan 1. Alhamdulillah pikirku. Si dedek bayi sudah ingin keluar.

Sembari menunggu bertambahnya bukaan, aku berusaha untuk jalan di sekitar rumah sakit ditemani suami, melakukan pergerakan agar si dede bayi semakin semangat untuk keluar juga.

Qadarullah, bukaannya tidak bertambah banyak. Sejak siang hari sampai besok paginya tanggal 17 Juli, bukaannya tetap di 3-4. Belum bertambah.

Kekhawatiran itu muncul dari dalam hati. Kenapa? Apakah aku masih kurang gerak? Batinku.

Karena tidak bertambahnya bukaan, dokter pun menyarankan agar aku di induksi. Aku diberikan perangsang kontraksi agar bukaan bertambah.

Alhamdulillah atas izin Allah:

- Pukul 12 siang aku sudah bukaan 5-6

- Pukul 2 siang bukaan bertambah menjadi 7-8

- Pukul 4 sore menjadi bukaan 9

- Pukul setengah 6, sudah bukaan 10.

Saat bukaan 10, aku memperhatikan sekitar ruangan bersalin, semua bidan sudah bergerak mempersiapkan persalinanku.

Tidak ada lagi jeda kontraksi. Perut, vagina, bokong, semua terasa nyeri dan aku seperti ingin mengeluarkan sesuatu sesegera mungkin.

Alhamdulillah Allah bantu, Allah mampukan. Pukul 19.39, buah hati kami lahir ke dunia ini.

Semuanya atas izin Allah.

Alhamdulillah bini'matihi tatimmush sholihaat.

Mohon do'a nya untuk teman-teman yang membaca.

Semoga anak kami menjadi anak yang shalih, qurrota a'yun, faqih fiddin. Aamiin allahumma aamiin

Yang berbahagia,

Ola & Farhan ( @farauzanotes )

| Medan, 29 Juli 2024

[fahmarosyada]

Bismillah..

Niat nulis ini buat healing diri sendiri sih sebenernya, udah sekitar semingguan ini off gak bikin story instagram dan itu disengaja karena emang lagi pengen menghilang, selain karena bentuk usahaku dalam menjaga self control supaya gak over sharing terkait fase apa yang ku jalani sekarang. Lebih takutnya, takut banget dikira sambat aka ngeluh wkwkw.. Karena semenjak jadi ibu tuh, yang ku rasakan ya, ngeluh dikit aja tuh udah salah, jadi ya agak gimana gitu akunya. Padahal sebenernya tuh adakalanya itu tuh semacam isyarat atau apa ya istilahnya, aku kasih tanda kalau aku tuh butuh bantuan, tapi ya gitu, entahlah ada aja omongan yang kadang agak nyelekit di hati. Niat cerita tuh buat healing aja sebenernya, tapi ya masih aja takut. Gatau sih ya apakah ibu-ibu yang lain juga merasakan hal yang sama, tapi itu yang ku rasakan.

Jadi, kalau kalian yang baca ini merasa tulisan ini tidak penting untuk kalian, lebih baik tidak usah dibaca ya. Terima kasih..

Hmm, lebih ke doa sih kayaknya ya.. Lagi-lagi, mau agak sambat tapi agak gimana gitu wkwk.. Cuma bisa berharap semoga fase nursing strike ini segera berlalu, dedek mimiknya mulai normal lagi (banyak mimik dan gak banyak drama), gak sering rewel, dan dimudahkan Allah dalam segala urusan termasuk juga ketika mengurus urusan domestik rumah tangga.

Kurleb dua mingguan ini rasanya campur aduk banget, sampai rasanya tuh energi udah bener-bener habis bahkan sekedar untuk buka sosial media. Sebenernya masih bisa sih, curi-curi waktu banget buat buka IG misalnya, tapi itu juga gak lama. Bahkan sekedar buat balesin DM dan WA tuh rasanya energi udah bener-bener habis, ditambah emosi bener-bener berkecamuk banget, meledak-ledak pengen marah karena bingung banget ini kenapa kok anakku minumnya jadi lebih sedikit dari biasanya, aku takut dia dehidrasi dll segala macam. Sampai akhirnya aku bawa anakku ke dokter spesialis anak (DSA), eh lha sampai sana malahan diajari cara nyusuin dedek, strategi gitu sih ya istilahnya. Kalau posisi A gamau, bisa coba alternatif posisi B, C, D dsb. Atuh mah aturan aku ke konselor laktasi aja ya, pikirku gitu. Tapi di satu sisi ya lumayan lega juga karena anakku gapapa. Ya memang bisa dibilang sebetulnya dia dehidrasi ringan karena kurang minum, dan penyebabnya ternyata karena lagi di fase nursing strike ini. Huhu rasanya mau nangis banget kalau keinget kurleb semingguan kemarin sebelum ke DSA, karena momen menyusui jadi terasa horor, baik untukku sendiri dan juga dedek. Bahkan ada tuh fase di mana aku akhirnya gamau nyusuin dedek, karena takut ditolak. Padahal anaknya udah nangis kejer, tapi akunya sendiri takut juga mau nyusuin, bukan bermaksud tega tapi masih berasa banget horornya, dan aku gamau emosi lagi. Akhirnya aku kasih dedek ASIP dari freezer, qadarullah dia pas gamau minum banyak, huhu pengen nangis kalau inget ini lagi. Ngelihat faktanya gini, barulah aku luluh ku coba buat nyusuin lagi, alhamdulillah dia mau walaupun cuma dikit, tapi setidaknya ada yg masuk asi ku.

Hmm, apaa lagi ya.. Udah dulu deh, anakku nangis. Alhamdulillah lega juga bisa nulis ini..

09/10/24

[nhadiyati]

Cerita MPASI

Dari ketika aku merasakan bahwa menyusui bukan hal yang mudah, selalu coba ku sempatkan menyelipkan doa untuk Dea "Ya Allah semoga dea dilancarkan minum susunya, makan mpasi hingga menu keluarga, seluruh fase tumbuh kembangnya dea". Alhamdulillah sejauh ini selama 19 Hari Dea mulai makan sangat-amat-teramat dibantu oleh Allah dan makan dengan baik.

Dea seharusnya mpasi sesuai tanggal lahir tapi karena mamak gak mau kehilangan moment suapan pertama soalnya Dea akan masuk daycare saat itu, jadilah dipercepat beberapa hari. si @sitirizkyramdhana sebagai suhu dengan anak dua selalu wanti-wanti lower your expectations, anak mau makan syukur, kalau gak coba lagi. Aku sangat mencoba memahami itu, pasti sulit jadi Dea dari yang biasa minum cair menjadi semi padat, yang biasanya gleg gleg harus belajar menelan.

dan aku coba menerapakn feeding rules yang kisi-kisinya udah dikasih dari @indrisukmawati, feeding rulesnya si Indri kece banget menurutku (sekarang pokoknya semua ibuk yang punya anak terlihat sangat kece dan aku masih sangat-sangat tertatih) dan sepertinya rules ini banyak dianut ibu-ibu lain :

makan di kursi makan/dipangku. Tidak sambil digendong berdiri, tidak sambil jalan, dan tidak di depan TV yang sedang menyala

Tidak ada distraksi tontonan TV, gadget, atau mainan di atas kursi makan, supaya fokus ke makanan

Durasi makan maksimal 30 menit, boleh dikasih jeda 10-15 menit, nanti coba lagi. Tapi masih dalam rentang waktu 30 menit sejak awal makan

Suapan pertama sampai kelima dikasih setengah sendok saja, sambil dilihat reaksinya

Tidak me-lap sisa makanan di sekitar mulut saat makan, bersihkan di akhir sesi makan saja sebagai tanda makannya sudah selesai.

Sebelum mempercepat Mpasi saya sempat ikut beberapa webinar sebagai bekal, dan kemudian baca-baca juga ama rekap resep yang kira-kira dapat diterapkan. Akhirnya referensi yang saya gunakan adalah sebagai berikut :

Dr. Tan terus baca resep disini dan disini

Resep Mpasi dan aku juga pemakai bumboo

Resep Mpasi dari bunaryugaaa

saya juga telemedicine dengan Dr. Shane yang diberikan beberapa wejangan sebagai berikut :

menu lengkap lgsg, gaa menu tunggal lg skrg, krn ga kekejar nanti ketertinggalan nutrisinyaa

nanti pas nyuapin sendoknya biarin didlm mulut jd dedek kyk ngisep sendok gt utk meminimalisir nyembur ngelepeh

di chiller tahan 1-2 hari, jadi boleh buat stok seharian di malam sebelumnya dan bisa dihangatkan

anak boleh makan apa saja, perhatikan reaksi alergi kalau ada riwayat keluarga (kl ada riwayat bapak ibunya, makan boleh 3 hari jenisnya sama utk mantau gejala). Jangan dikasih mentah/setengah matang, msg, pengawet, pewarna, pemanis 

mau latihan oromotor pas makan bisa pakai jagung, paha ayam, iga…biji mangga, tebu dan bonggol nanas di waktu snack

untuk keju mpasi, keju yg komposisi nya hanya : susu sapi, enzim rennet, bakteri dan garam

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C1zBzGHpTx3/?igsh=enRiMTFtOHN2bTZi resep ini boleh diaplikasikan kalau mau traveling

fortifikasi atau instan boleh tapi kalau bisa tetap dengan realfood dulu untuk memperkenalkan lebih banyak varian makanan. Kalau utk snack biskuit2 gpp tp kl bs ditmabh lemak misal keju atau selai kacang soalnya kalori biscuit rendah

Menu mpasi deana adalah bubur daging, karena saat itu dirumah si Dhana lagi masak sop jadi minta disisihkan, Saat itu memberi porsi alakadar dari sekali masa 30gr nasi dibagi untuk 3x makan dan aku hanya memberikan 1 kali buah pisang sebagai cemilan dan 1 kali bubur daging sebagai makuta. Alhamdulillah Deana lahap dan lucunya bahkan ketika besok di daycare dia kelaperan jadi makan bubur temannya, jadilah Deana yang baru hari kedua Mpasi berhasil dengan porsi menjadi 3x makuta dan 1x cemilan. Perlu diketahui bersama....saya dan dapur itu bukan teman akrab, bisa dihitung jari selama 30 tahun hidup beberapa kali saya masak selain indomie dan olahan telur. Hari minggu dibela-belain abis suamik ke Pasar melakuan food prep ala-ala dengan memotong wortel, buncis, brokoli (yang ternyata harus direndam air garam dulu), sedangankan untuk protein hewani memasrahkan pengolahannya ke suamik. Hari itu juga buat kaldu ceker, tapi ya memang bukan pakar masak alhasil hanya untuk food preparation dan masak itu dari jam 10.00-15.00 haha rasanya lelah sekali, yang awalnya idealis "harus bisa masak sendiri buat anak" menjadi menerima bantuan suami dan kakak, kalau tidak mungkin bisa kelar besok 😂

Sampai hari ini mamak masih belajar masak, Suami dan Kakak menjadi orang yang paling sabar aku tanya "ini jahee bukaan?" atau "serehnya seberapa panjaang?" atau pertanyaan paling sering "ini nasiknyaa udah pecaah belum?", walau yah sampai hari ini skill mamak masih pakai bumtik ya 1 siung bawang merah dan putih aja, kalau pakai ghee 1,2 sdm, kaldu bubuk wajib haha. Tulisan ini untuk mengenang selain menu bayi pada umumnya, mama sudah berhasil dan dea lahap makan soto lele, opor tuna, uduk udang

Sampai hari ini mamak masih belajar mengenali respon dea dengan masakan mamak dan jangan cepat panik. Alhamdulilah sejauh ini belum ada penolakan, walau ada kejadian lucu makan malam Dea nangis, melenting duduknya, dan mulutnya segaris. Kirain makannya gak enak, ternyata dia ngantuk soalnya tiba-tiba ditengah suapan dia tertidur di kursi 😂 Terimakasih Ya ALLAH untuk pendampingan yang tak pernah henti diproses mengasuh Dea baik secara langsung atau melalui perpanjangan makhluknya seperti Papa Dea, Aunti Dhana, temen-temen mama dan orang sekitar dengan berbagai wejangan (bahkan dari bapak rujak penjual buah potong mama jadi tahu kalau mangga buat bayi itu bagusnya mangga arum manis yang lebih lembut), semoga tahap MPASI hingga menuju menu keluarga ini berjalan lancar. 😄