#dean behavior

[hufflepuffheaven]

crazy that in the same episode that we got the lines “blow me cas” and “you know cas, not for nothing but the last time someone looked at me like that, I got laid” is the same episode that dean is wanting to give up and say yes to michael. he doesn’t care anymore about what he says or what people think, so he’s just saying what he wants and acting like he doesn’t care about anything. crazy how when he thinks he’s going to die soon that he starts saying what he actually thinks because he thinks it won’t matter soon. crazy we got TWO flirty comments when he thinks he’ll never see cas again!!!

[drulalovescas]

Society if these two could walk like normal people ...

Talk like normal people ...

Stand like normal people ...

Sit like normal people ...

THEY WOULD IF THEY COULD BUT THEY DON'T WANT TO

[daddysboydean]

[lambmotifz]

he’s the only person in the world allowed to sit on the hood of the impala, and he knows it <3

[gentlemancowboy]

Gayest Dean Moment Not Involving Cas Number 4 ➼ Aaron Bass

Bonus:

[samwinchesterstan]

sorry but what show are these people watching .

[soft-pine]

when i think about this scene from 15.15 it makes me want to chew glass and tear up the walls in rage.

AMARA: I wanted two things for you, Dean. I wanted you to see that your mother was just a person, that the myth you'd held onto for so long of a better life, a life where she lived, was just that, a myth. I wanted you to see that the real, complicated Mary was better than your childhood dream because she was real. That now is always better than then. That you could finally start to accept your life.

for the record i want to say i am a known amara-hater. don't like the non-con shit. don't like that she's doing what so many beings in spn do and narrativizing dean's life back at him while judging him because she drew the wrong conclusions. but i think fandom does have a tendency to take those claims at face value because that is easier than combing back through to check if it's correct or not. (see for example, rachel saying dean only calls cas when he needs him in 6.18. narrativizing, incorrectly. but i digress)

so let's talk about mary. because, through the seething rage, i think two main things about this claim. 1. dean does not have this mythos around mary and 2. mary has arguably more of that mythos around dean.

first off, we'll tackle the claim that it's a myth that if mary hadn't died, dean wouldn't have a better life. because that is absolute, utter, dogshit. OF COURSE HE'D HAVE A BETTER LIFE. while i will always maintain that clearly mary and john were far from stable before she died, her death was what speared john forward into hunting, into turning his kids into soldiers, into neglect and parentifying, and every other god forsaken thing he did. "a better life, a life where she lived, was just that, a myth" - girl, i DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE DIVINE, SHUT THE FUCK UP.

like please don't come here acting like dean grieving the future he could have had that didn't include him taking care of his younger brother alone in motel rooms for days while maybe actually being left as bait for the Kid-Eater is a character flaw on his part that he needs to learn better from.

next, amara claims dean needs to see the "real, complicated Mary."

but hasn't he? dean goes back in time and meets his mom in 4.03 and 5.13. and both times he treats her both as a competent hunter and a colleague. like to be clear, before that, i dont think he was wrong to be relying on a four-year-old's memory of what his mom was like because that's literally all he had access to. but dean actually did meet and interact with the whole, complex woman who was his mother long before amara decided to teach him a lesson with her as the homework. in both 4.03 and 5.13, dean tries to give mary advice to save her life but he doesn't belittle her experience hunting or her desire to leave and life a normal life. i don't know what more you want from him in terms of interacting with his mom as a whole, real, complex person?

this also applies wholly and completely to his interactions with her when she returns in s12. he apologizes for being nervous for her safety (AFTER SHE WAS JUST RESSURECTED) at first. mary says she wants to hunt, dean gets on board. mary says she needs space, dean asks clarifying questions to best support her request. he gets mad at her not for being who she is or needing what she needs but for lying to him for months and working with people who tortured him and sam.

in fact, s12 is what i would point to to indicate how well dean articulates and navigates the nuance of being hurt by someone's actions while still understanding and empathizing with why they did it and forgiving them. for example, he says this in 12.04

DEAN: This whole mom thing, it's... I mean, we get her back, and then she leaves. I hate it, but I get it. I do. I guess I'm just...still working through some of that crap. I'll try to be less of a dick about it.

[you're not a dick, dean, ilu]

in fact, dean's much maligned "how 'bout for once, you just try to be a mom?" isn't even about dean wanting anything particularly maternal from mary. it's about him not wanting her to ditch them to hunt alone and/or with the aforementioned torturers.

so circling back to amara's speech about expectations and myths. cause while her words do not apply to dean. amara's speech does remind me of something that happens upon mary's return in s12. these lines from 12.03:

DEAN: Mom, it's okay. All right? You're home now. MARY: No. I'm not. I miss John. I miss my boys. SAM: We're right here, mom. MARY: I know. In my head. But I'm still mourning them as I knew them. My baby Sam. My little boy Dean. Just feels like yesterday, we were together in heaven, and now...I'm her, and John is gone, and they're gone. And every moment I spend with you reminds me every moment I lost with them.

of course she has every right to grieve the time she lost with her kids. but someone in this room is having trouble really looking at the people in front of them because of their idealized memory of who they were compared to are and It Is Not Dean.

and i just think about dean's speech in 12.22. cause it wasn't dean that needed to see the real mary. it was mary, tucked away in her dream world where sam is a baby and dean is a little elementary schooler who likes pie and has never held a gun, who needed to see the real dean.

[the-dormant-ocean]

I can't believe that in s15 Dean literally said to Sam that he did not call him for help because he was with on a date with Eileen and "I figured you were practicing your sign language 😏" "And that's more important than coming to save you???" "Well, it's been a while for you 😌".

So you decided to take the risk to wait for yours and Jack's death, locked up in the dungeon??? Because you wanted to wait for your brother to be done having sex??? Dean, what is wrong with you, you weirdo??? He gets crazy weird the moment something is about Sam's sex life 💀💀💀.

[lilacpaperbird]

[disinhume]

Woah, you're so strong dude, do you think you could pick me up? Like, do you think you're strong enough? I bet you can't. You can try if you want to, but I don't think you can.

[fluffypotatey]

hear me out, hear me out

Sharpwolf modern au except it’s practically just “Stacy’s mom”

you genius

and like, Antinous isn’t even friends with Telemachus either. just one of the neighbors, who also commutes to uni

AND!!!! AND!!!! Penelope is the dean of their department :0

which just adds to all of it

[reallyunluckyrunaway]

BROOOO—THIS IS SOME NEXT LEVEL LOSER SHIT!!!! 💀💀💀💀💀

Like.... y'all wrote a whole damn "article" just to tear apart some actor whose probably more successful and rich than you'll ever be... it's just...sad. and obviously this kind of shit is total garbage and annoying and blah, blah,blah... but I couldn't help but cry laughing at just how delusional and insane this kind of behavior is. LIKE, I'M CACKLING.

Look, whether you ship any of the characters or not, (and whether I do or not)... I would never spend so much time and ENERGY, harassing and going out of my way to shame an actor/actress "for getting in the way" of said ship.

It's truly the greatest display of loserdom I've seen in awhile...

(and sidenote, are we talking about the same Cas because....????)

[quietwingsinthesky]

thinking about how dean’s character gets simplified in fandom, or more specifically, the very black and white lens that gets applied to him. because integral to dean, from my point of view, is that he is both a victim of abuse and a perpetrator of it. that these two things do not cancel each other out or outweigh each other to the point that only one matters. he’s both, you cannot separate him from the fact that he’s both.

but very often, people do. dean is either a victim. or he’s an abuser. it’s like it’s hard for people to hold both those facts in their heads at once. dean went through incredible amount of trauma as a child and an adult, is routinely faced with violence, has resorted to alcohol abuse to cope with it. he’s also a violent person, someone who retreats into tactics of emotional abuse and control when he feels threatened, who hurts the people around him constantly and the people who are closest to him (ie Sam, Cas, later Jack) get the brunt of that abuse. these are just facts. they’re things that happened on the screen and cannot be denied.

and it’s. idk it’s weird to me (not unexpected, because he’s hardly the only character to ever get this treatment) that dean of all people is the one portrayed in such an either/or way when one of the defining moments of the show for him is that during his stint in Hell, he was tortured and then became a torturer to escape that, to feel like he had some control again, and he relished in it. it’s baked into who he is.

[thefandomchaos]

The hand on his back, Jensen that ain’t normal brother behavior-

(Also credits to https://youtu.be/TL5IsC_vGhU?si=DN8x8uATVq_MyhjT for the video)

[lambmotifz]

the fact that dean locked him up in the panic room (which almost killed sam) and then called him a monster….and sam justifies it. they are so unhealthy and fucked up and i love it

[bardicious]

What I largely find unsympathetic of Dean in s4 is that not once did he even acknowledge that Sam was saving people with his powers. Like, I get the perspective of him thinking Sam is being manipulated (Sam was), and maybe even being a bit frustrated at the situation.

But he loses all my sympathy when he doesn't try to have an actual conversation with Sam. Just completely refuses to see it from Sam's perspective. Dean is seemingly absolutely fine with murdering innocent people when they kill demons. Doesn't even acknowledge the good Sam does with those powers. Maybe if he was less self centered about it, actually came to Sam to speak with him like an equal, Sam's response wouldn't be to go behind his back. But he doesn't do that.

And the final nail on the coffin is how he treats Sam starting s5. Sam who just got off the addiction, who ultimately did what he did to save people, who couldn't have known that killing Lilith was the final seal (since of course Dean didn't know either), and when Sam finds out he's Lucifer's vessel, what does he do? He calls his brother, reaching out for help, that Dean simply refuses and doesn't appear to give a shit that his baby brother is being pursued by Satan himself.

Only by angel intervention does Dean change his mind, not because he loves Sam but because he can't trust him to say no. And the whole damn season, it's Dean who's on the verge of saying yes, who can't be trusted to keep fighting. And you know what? Sam singlehandedly saves them with his love for his brother.

And just UGH. Yeah, Dean really pisses me off sometimes.