#dealingwithloss

[mysticalunknownflower]

Book Review : Three-Penny Memories by Barbara Harris Leonhard

I know the poet as the editor of Masticadores USA, an online poetry magazine and as a Pushcart nominee. But, it was her eloquent and compelling review of my book, Coming Home, and Michella Ayon Navajas’s book, ‘After Rain Skies’ that made me want to read more of the poet’s writing. This led me to ‘Three-Penny Memories- a Poetic memoir’ and it left me in awe of her poetry. Barbara Leonhard ‘s…

[thecpdiary]

Losing Someone Close

You lose someone and your whole life changes. If you can, try to remember to tap into how you feel, so you're aware of your mental and emotional feelings.

While it may seem like a mammoth task, when losing someone close, there are ways to look at that situation, that may be worth considering. While you're trying to fill a void, it may be that looking at your loved one's life, gives rise to missed opportunities for yourself. Allowing yourself to think about and work through your relationship with your loved one, can begin to help you see life in a whole new way.

Creating a positive life perspective

Through time, the loss of a loved one, can allow us to see our lives differently. Seeing and learning things from losing a loved, if your mind is open, can inspire you to begin your life differently.

Choosing to live differently

When it comes to a death and we're able to look at our loved one's life, we may choose to do a complete 360-degree turn-around on how we live our lives, on our mental and physical health. Around a sibling or family loss, we may also use the opportunity to concentrate on our own life and health, by taking time to eat healthily, and investing more in our health.

And while you may feel the urge to change everything at once, it is important to take time to think about whether that is in fact a good idea. Grieving is a process, it's not something that works well rushed. Changes are long-lasting, take your time.

These can also be applied to other situations and other circumstances, including temporary or permanent splits.

For more inspirational, life-changing blogs, please check out my site https://www.thecpdiary.com

[nickadiguburke]

I die a thousand times a day, but nobody knows, and nobody comes to the funeral, except the images that conspired to kill me. ~ Nick Adigu Burke ~ Image Credit: kalhh (Pixabay) Words: Nick Adigu Burke #depression #depressionquotes #thoughts #feelings #observations #hauntedmind #writing #writer #poetic #anxiety #mourning #loss #dealingwithloss #meditation #cathartic #mindpurification #mindfulness #NickAdiguBurke #writtenthoughts #musings #darkmind #darkthoughts #creative #creativemind #writersofinstagram (at Manchester, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm7k-ZnqU7F/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[theformulaforsuccess]

In this captivating video, Douglas Vandergraph embarks on his mission to inspire and guide individuals in achieving their dreams and aspirations. He poses a thought-provoking question, urging viewers to ponder what truly brings them happiness. Not the fleeting joy of something like winning the lottery, but the simple pleasures found in everyday life. Douglas states, "Recently, a close friend of mine posed this very question to me during a time of immense hardship and adversity. Normally, I would keep such struggles to myself, but on this occasion, I decided to open up and share the raw truth of my experiences. Instead of putting on a facade of happiness, I chose to be vulnerable and honest. It is important to acknowledge and embrace our negative emotions, but equally crucial to not dwell in them. We must recognize our feelings, allow ourselves to experience them, and then make a conscious decision to let them go." Undoubtedly, this is easier said than done, but the power to choose lies within us. Let us shift our focus towards the positive aspects of life and cultivate gratitude. After pouring my heart out and shedding tears, my friend uttered four simple words - "What makes you happy?" Douglas serves as an exemplary figure, demonstrating how anyone can take risks, grow daily, and make a meaningful impact on the lives of others. What is it that you desire in your own life? Douglas can guide you on the path to attaining it! This video series is Douglas' heartfelt endeavor to assist even just one person. As Dr. Seuss once beautifully stated, "To the world, you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world."

Follow Douglas on YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/@douglasvandergraph

Relevant Keywords:

#dealingwithloss #happy #happiness #goodvibes #mindset #mindsetmatters #success #truestory #inspiration

[marzhsposts]

Dealing with Loss

Dealing with loss is not easy. At times, you can’t even articulate or express your emotions. Your mind just goes blank in the blink of an eye. Scenarios could happen so suddenly - what’s worse is you may not be prepared for it. You can only hold on to what you have now because you know your family can’t lose you; you can’t just fall apart. I hope this COVID/pandemic goes away soon. There’s so much fatalities already.

[justyouraverageonwardenthusiast]

so i tried to rewatch Onward last night, and i only made it about fifteen minutes in before i had to turn it off. 

i adore this movie. i do. i wanted to watch it so bad and i felt terrible turning it off. 

but the part where ian is getting breakfast, and the guy in the restaurant recognizes his college hoodie? the one that was his dad’s? 

that part hurt. 

my dad was the same way. he was big, and bold, and didn’t care what anyone thought of him. he was confident and strong and well known. and people remember him for that. 

he also knew everyone, and i do mean everyone, in the area where i grew up. he moved here for college and stayed here until he passed away almost two months ago. 

i have one of his hoodies, his college one that’s 20+ years old and isn’t soft anymore because of how much it’s been worn. it’s my favorite hoodie. he gave it to me forever ago when i decided i want to go to the same college he did, where he and my mom met. 

people around town recognize me as his kid, and they ask me a lot about my school. and i tell them that even though i haven’t started there yet, my parents went there. my dad went there. 

i, unlike ian, got to know my dad for 18 years of my life. i knew what he was like. but i still get excited when someone wants to tell me about him, especially someone who knew him back before i can remember him. people i don’t even know will come up to me because they knew my dad and they see him in me. especially when i wear his old hoodie. 

so that’s why i had to turn it off. i couldn’t handle it, seeing ian in the same position i’ve been in. hearing the man talk about Wilden and only being able to see my own dad in his words. it hurt too much. 

i love this movie because it accurately portrays what it’s like to lose a parent. it shows ian’s excitement in hearing about his dad even as he’s saddened by the thought of what he never got to experience. 

it’s hard for me to watch, but that’s what makes it so important. 

[drdeeknight]

Some days I’ve not wanted to show up at all, and I’ve given myself room to do just that. To not show up, to call in, to be present with my own pain. Other days I show up, and I’m present with others in their grieving. Over and over again, presence is the common denominator. Showing up for you when you need it most. Showing up for others just the same. Healing our community. Healing in community. ✨ [image text: It’s such hard work, mourning and still showing up daily. But our grief wants the same thing we want...To be seen, to be heard, and to be acknowledged, even if not fully understood. Our grief requires our presence and transforms in the presence of caring community. End image text] ✨ #grief #grieving #mourning #showingup #beingpresent #presence #healing #whole #dealingwithloss #loving #lovingyourself #healingincommunity #healingyourself #grieftherapy #traumatherapy #traumatherapist #traumarecovery #traumacare #traumainformed #therapistsofinstagram #journaling #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveal #journalingcommunity #showingupformyself #iamhealing #iamwhole #youarehealing #youarewhole #bepresent https://www.instagram.com/p/CSJxQFDH36u/?utm_medium=tumblr

[thetruthaboutlyingshortfilm]

Meet Clare and Thea! The main characters in the short film The Truth About Lying.

Clare is sweet and responsible but often struggles with only seeing the world in black and white. She does not avoid the truth and likes to face problems head-on. Because of this, she and Thea have very different approaches to dealing with challenges, causing an estrangement in a once-strong friendship after the death of Thea’s mother. Clare is loyal, straightforward, and shy. This means that though Clare is very caring, she finds making friends difficult.

Still grieving from the loss of her mother and jaded by her father’s ability to move on so easily, Thea has discovered that it’s best to keep one’s feelings to oneself and fly below the radar. Hence, when Thea discovers in her first semester of college that she has cancer, she decides that it is best to keep this information to herself. Over the course of the film, a somewhat reluctant relationship with an old friend makes Thea question whether she is making the right choice. Thea is smart and observant but does not like showing emotion; she prefers to mask her feelings and sidestep the truth.

Artwork by @courtniesalvati

[wonderinthoseeyes]

Aadyaa’s Birthday Celebrations

Loss of a parent is something that leaves a forever void regardless of what stage and age of one’s life it happens...you can NEVER be prepared for it! 2014 had been such a year of sudden loss...it was like being caught off guard in the worst way possible with my mom’s aggravated illness and death! And the only one person who saw us all through it was Aadyaa! 

No matter how helpless, stressed, and pained everyone at home felt in the days leading up to the loss and since, we had to be normal around her...she needed the love and the care...and she in turn, with her silly antics, blabbering, questions and just by being her wonderful self, restored some sense of ‘normalcy’..or at least, made it seem like that. 

As Aadyaa’s second birthday approached in May 2015, we knew it had to be special for her...on that day and when she would grow up and look back too! At the same time, there was an unsaid fatigue from dealing with everything over the past few months and absolutely no mindset for a big celebration. 

When we gave it a thought, it seemed like taking time off from work and spending so called ‘quality time’ with Aadyaa would be the best way to bring in her birthday! In any case, she was too young to enjoy her birthday party with no real friends of her own yet. Besides from the big first birthday bash, we knew that throwing a party would mean that we would be busy in the prep and playing host and would ironically spend very less relaxed time with her on her special day. This idea of taking off for her birthday then became the norm for every birthday...a decision that we are so proud of! 

Since her fifth birthday, we have thrown a small party at home too so she could celebrate with her friends. But that’s never been on her actual birthday...it’s usually a day or more prior. On her birthday, we have almost always been traveling somewhere, making memories and having fun at a different place each year...and it has never felt more right!  

The birthday travelogues will follow next....I can’t wait to share our wonderful experiences as we plan on the side for the big day coming up soon! :) 

[mapoflife]

Loss of my Mum

1 year ago today, I lost my Mum to COPD, she was 54 years old. It is such a hard time for me because I don't want to bring other people down around me but do feel I am missing a massive part of my heart today. She helped me grow and become the women I am today. I think it is important to think about it and take a moment to have a little cry and remember a person you have lost, it is so important to grieve.

Once the weather gets warmer I shall have a glass of wine outside by my Mums rose bush I planted for her but tonight I am going to hig my husband and just let him support me through this hard day.

I wonder if she did get to tell me something would she be proud of the person I have become because I am trying to make sure a bring a part of her with me through life.

[entrelecrepusculeetreves]

Yesterday my mom passed away peacefully in her sleep after years of battling cancer/other conditions.

There’s not enough words in the world to express how blessed I felt being a daughter to the strongest woman I know. In spite of my mom’s pain, she never complained; she was always asking about others while laying in the hospital bed for days, I loved putting that beautiful smile on your face and hearing your beautiful laughter, always messaging me the most random things that made me laugh or think about things more, coming to my concerts/performances whenever you could, always sacrificing for everyone around you...mom I’m so glad you’re not suffering anymore. Even though I’m still shocked, hurt, sad, emotional, and don’t understand, I’m still thankful for the time I got with you down on earth.

I will miss our movie nights, deciding what to eat or cook for dinner, you playing gospel music on Sundays, always believing in me, being both a mom and a dad, a healer...it feels like I will never be whole again.

I miss you so so so much mom...I will never let the memories of you fade away; I love you forever. ❤️

[mysticalunknownflower]

Book Review: Sorrowful Soul by Harmony Kent

I pre-ordered Harmony Kent’s book in November 2022. The image of a Calla Lilly, in the lightest shade of olive green on the cover against a greyish-white background, attracted me to it. But with life getting in the way, I forgot all about the book after it was released. It was Sally Cronin’s post that reminded me of the book, and I began reading it immediately. With simple, relatable poems, it is…

[mabgravesart]

Book share time! @flyingeyebooks just released their newest book by @sangmiao0307 - The Immortal Jellyfish is a beautiful, positive book about dealing with death and the loss of a loved one and how they can visit us through symbolism in our dreams. It’s told from through the story of a little boy who loses his grandfather. It could NOT be a more perfect book for our lives right now. I read it to Ransom and we talked for a long time about our dreams and all the animals in the forest and which ones we think might be my dad, coming to check on us or tell us he loves us. I recommend this book for anyone who has a child dealing with loss. It’s exquisitely illustrated, gentle, and uplifting. #mabrecommends #shelfie #kidsbooks #dealingwithloss #flyingeyebooks https://www.instagram.com/p/B1wTAYgnbJ7/?igshid=yh6fxy787zs5

[nickadiguburke]

~The Sun Shall Rise Again ~ My heart is a flower, closed. Its beauty concealed behind clasped petals. "it is is dead!" Some have said. I say, "no! it's just waiting for the sun to rise, again. ~ Nick Adigu Burke ~ Image Credit: CDD20 (Pixabay) #poetry #dealingwithloss #trauma #dealingwithtrauma #mypoetry #grief #mypoems #brokenheart #brokenlove #shatteredlove #innerpeace #inspirational #inspirationalpoem #truelove #findinglove #newlove #manifestation #friendsquotes #anxiety #depression #quotesforlife #quotesforlovers #quotesforlovers #darkthoughts (at Manchester, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/Ck8gTAnKH3h/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[nohabasiouny]

سيمر الكثير من الوقت قبل أن تستحيل مطرقة الذكريات كفاً يربت على كتفك التعيس. #journalpage #journalentry #artjournal #artjournaling #journaling #documentation #journalcommunity #journalspread #journalinspiration #loss #timehealsallwounds #timeisahealer #dealingwithloss (at 6 October City) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bv_VO-rhjm7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=91drz93b76qt

[dicesha]

Lost & Floaty

What a mess.  Whirlwind of feelings, thoughts, and plans.  I have been a total and complete mess.  Depression sank me deeper into a couch slug, it was the only thing I could do without him that I didn’t feel bad about.  It wasn’t full proof, there’s plenty of shows we watched during our wings & movie nights (especially our hallmark Christmas movies and our reality shows) that make even watching tv a sad thing without him.  Lucky for me we always did our cuddle time at his house.  So my house isn’t ramped up with his memory.  Not to say that every moment my brain wasn’t fully linked to him, our texts, phone calls, making plans, crying, laughing, reminiscing, all the things best friends do.  Talking each other out of each low and celebrating each high.  He wasn’t just my best friend, according to him we were married and I was ok with that as long as it was clear it was an open marriage bc we never did make a monogamous commitment to each other, in fact with the exception of about a year I always had a significant other… and they always knew they would NEVER come before my best friend, my husband, my twin soul. We said “two bodies; one brain”. We were soooo much alike in so many ways.  Probably not ideal having two of us running around as we were reckless, always living in the moment, hardly any concern for consequences just out to have fun and live life… together!  We chased endorphins and we found them every time we were together.  We were usually found painting the town, or one of our many towns as we loved taking off and living it up for a weekend a few hours from home. But even the quiet moments became euphoria when we were johnlish. A text from him would make my day go from sad and gloomy to comfort and laughter.  Nothing was too big or too far away as long as I had my best friend.  I could go on and on about the significance of this man to my soul but moving forward, I lost him.  He didn’t leave me because he wanted to, but he was in pain, significant pain for a really long time and now he isn’t.  But now I am.  Learning to live without him is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.  I can face anything, I’m a strong person, as long as I have my best friend beside me… but I don’t.  He hasn’t responded to a single text in 6 months.  Literally every single part of my day was about him.  Getting dressed became hard, everything I wear we either bought while shopping together, or it was something he loved on me or even something he hated.  But everything I own I knew his opinion on and the memories were hard, getting dressed became hard.  The depression got worse and worse and motivation to do anything but be on the couch became less and less.  It was ugly. I didn’t feel the need to shower, I had no desire to do anything but sleep.  Living without him was bad enough but I LITERALLY lost the one thing that always makes me feel better, the only person who makes my soul happy.  So how do you fight off this agony without the one person who has made every past problem fizzle, every anxiety attack melt, and everything that was wrong to feel better.  How do you heal from losing your healer?  I didn’t know.  

During this really difficult loss I had other major problems that needed my attention and it was so hard facing them alone and already depressed.  My child spiraled with his drug addiction on a major level.  I will elaborate on this another time.  My boyfriend was dealing with some internal battles and didn’t have the energy to pick up my pieces so we amicably decided to separately take our own paths. The combination of everything I was dealing with and that every single plan that I had for myself and my future was suddenly gray and blurry.  There I was lost and floaty:

 To be continued...