#daddy discourse
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this might be controversial, but man am i becoming increasingly convinced that buddie trutherism* is just not (and probably never has been) a very healthy way to engage with this show. *to be clear, by this i don't mean shipping buddie, or hoping it'll be canon, or thinking that it could be, i mean the completely unshakeable belief that it is absolutely going to happen (and to a lesser extent that it's always been the plan).
every single piece of evidence for buddie is evidence of a potential, often very compelling potential, but there is really nothing to suggest some big six season plan or any plan at all.
i'm sure a lot of these ppl (maybe even most) aren't bad, or doing anything out of malice. however, i do think having a large chunk of the fandom make post after post, week after week, season after season going "don't worry guys, buddie's definitely happening because of x, y or z," has helped create the current environment. where ppl have spent so long in a bubble where buddie's been presented as the only reasonable outcome, that they can't conceive of the idea they might've been wrong.
atp a lot of buddie meta isn't a queer reading of the show/relationship it's just straight up lies. no tommy isn't a miserable hater who never smiles at his bf, nor is he a predatory freak preying on sweet baby bi buck, and no eddie wasn't jealous at the wedding, no buck didn't realise he was in love with eddie when he came out to him. truly, after a decade in different fandoms, I don't think i've ever seen shipping goggles this bad.
again i don't think the ppl making meta/analysis about things that genuinely have some queer subtext to them are bad or doing anything wrong. but, when a narrative that you're contributing to is feeding into this much wider ecosystem that's influencing others to harass ppl and peddle homophobic dog whistles in an attempt to bridge the gap between their fanon and canon, at what point do you step back and go, "you know what, i don't think it's responsible for me to feed into this anymore."
and i worry that even the people who aren't hurting others with this kind of engagement, are gonna end up hurting themselves in the long run.
#ngl until s7 i sort of thought we were all just having fun#like when i'd see essay length metas about buck and eddie's shirt colours or w/e i thought that was just for the love of it#i didn't realise some of y'all thought the writers were actually leaving hidden messages in the fridge magnets#this was sitting in my drafts and i wasn't gonna post it but then the daddy issues discourse hit and my god has it worn my patience thin#ftr this is why y'all will never see another piece of gay eddie spec from me ever again. it feels like adding fuel to a fire atp#911 abc#911 discourse#anti buddie#antibuddie#bucktommy#911 spoilers#lmfao apparently this was my 3000th post
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I know every fandom has it's fair share of "incest"(not sure if thats the correct term) but it seems like the cod fandom has it so much more than the other popular ones
I mean maybe I'm not 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 enough and I know every person has their own turn ons and off but it can't be just me who thinks this is weird/cod fandom has like so much more of it (and I have been on the internet for a good 8+ years and have been deep in fandoms)
(idk maybe I'm just rambling out of my ass because I have ocd and intrusive thoughts place my own family members the moment I say words about a family)
Omg hi friend!
First of all I want to say that I'm glad you asked because I've actually been thinking about this!
I have a major(MAJOR) turn off for actual incest in fanfiction. Maybe because I lived through homestuck and people fucking love incest in that fandom, but I cannot read it without getting squicked out. Faux-cest though doesn't seem to give me the same problem and I think it's because there's always an undercurrent of "this is pretend" when done right, it feels porn-y, fake. I think it's because (in my mind) faux-cest falls under the "humiliation/degradation" kink, there's an overt power dynamic there that feels... different from actual incest fics.
Which also? The amount of people who have DDlg/MDlb kinks in this fandom is insane. Every day I see people calling Price "daddy" and I just... I'm gonna be so honest with y'all I hate seeing "daddy" in a fic, I don't mind caretaker doms but I just can't get into age play or the uwu cutesy way some of those fics go. But that's just me.
All that to give me some credibility in telling you: I don't think it's the cod fandom at large, but maybe just the writers who all follow each other and seem to get the same brain worms at the same time(I am guilty of this).
I think for some people there's an element of "I just figured out how to write this kink and I'm making it everyone's problem" and for others it's a "this seems popular at the moment let me throw my hat in the ring." Personally I had a faux-cest dream that I didn't particularly enjoy, honestly felt more like a nightmare, but I figured other people would see kink in the horrific so I popped it up on the blog.
Anyway I don't think you have to be "freaky enough" or even put yourself through reading a kink you don't enjoy, there's a reason I've been putting trigger tags on all the faux-cest stuff! I want people to be able to filter it out. Hell, a lot of it squicks me out, and I've written some of it. I don't really see it as any more prevalent in the cod fandom than others though. I mean every fandom has a decent portion that jump straight to incest stuff, you may have just managed to avoid it fairly well.
#ghoul speaks#does this need a discourse tag?#i appreciate that you came to me with this!#i hope this didnt sound rude or like i was discounting your feelings#actually i agree with you for the most part#i think a lot of it is from the prevalence of the daddy kink tbh
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'no kink at pride!' you're so annoying, they're literally hitting jesus with whips at the good friday parade, we can't lose to that.
#getting my pride discourse in early#but yeah i didnt know they did funky reenactions of christ walking with the cross#complete with roman hunks whipping him and all. huh. cool i guess.#and you dont want to see a leather daddy! boo!#according to jules
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i know absolutely nobody cares about my opinion but as a pwdid, yes, beth shouldn’t have said what she said. yes, it was unnecessary and tone deaf. yes, her APOLOGY was BAD. but calling beth ableist genuinely seems a bit far..?? she’s uneducated and dipped her toes where they shouldn’t have gone.
to me this read less like “i’m fake claiming you!” and more like “that’s so stupid that didn’t happen”. which tbh i feel is a normal way to respond. I’M not saying that, because i understand that CAN happen, but i don’t think beth anticipated the amount of weight behind saying someone w did was lying about something . she admitted she was uneducated and also that it wasn’t her intent in a bad apology, but i don’t think this super warrants a long ass apology from her
yes critique people for being uneducated ALWAYS and call out something harmful when you see it, but this will not change my opinion on dndads. if this is the worst thing you have to say about the pod i think that’s a good thing.
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god i’ve said before how much i hate Doing Discourse but i can’t seem to help myself especially because i just saw a bddie say “a lot of bucktommy stans are weirdly conservative about queerness”
and sure, maybe some bucktommy fans are. but that accusation is rich coming from a group that got allll up in arms about some implied daddy kink, a little age gap between two adult men, or just a man being a bit bitchy. not to mention that one time someone started calling me names because i didn’t see a problem with the number of explicit bucktommy fics, lmao. because the bddies were writing soft romance, which is Good, instead of nasty gay sex, which is Bad.
#their reasoning didn’t make a whole lot of sense either#of course it was on fucking twitter lol#y’all made a huge problem out of the daddy issues scene !! not us!#bucktommy#fandom discourse
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i dont even know why i open 911 tiktok anymore
#guess who just saw another ‘toMmy BroUghT uP HiS DAdDY KiNk WHEn BuCk WAs TryInG To bE EmoTiOnALLy vulNeRABLe’ again!!#begging these people to rewatch that scene without their tommy hate glasses on#oliver stark didnt look at lou ferrigno jr like he wanted to jump across that table and go ‘so you think *I* have daddy issues? ;)))))’ for#y’all to be like ‘actually tommy is dismissive of buck’s feelings :/‘#BESTIE. TOMMYS THE ONE WHO STARTED THE EMOTIONAL CONVERSATION IN THE FIRST PLACE#911 discourse#bucktommy#911 abc#911
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Another opinion from a gay man.
Some fans acting like the daddy issues line killed their grandma is insane but also the other side acting like it threw the first brick at stonewall and gave us gay rights is just as dumb.
I think a lot of the problem comes from the fact that the buck tommy relationship wasn't given the screen time it deserved and what little we get, we scrutinized too much.
Daddy issues doesn't mean you have a daddy kink, but fandom won't admit that that's exactly what Buck is gonna be reduced to from now on. He never escapes the hypersexualization even in a new ship. Which is ironic since Tommy is the one who keeps mentioning how bad his dad was and how Gerard was just as bad and that he's jealous of Buck's relationship with Bobby. The one with the daddy issues is Tommy.
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Izzy doesn't even have a coming to terms with his sexuality arc in season 2 it's much closer to gender, and I've seen a similar gender expression journey to Izzy in season 2 on the middle aged straight dads of queer children. I'm gonna gear my description of what happens towards a father and son example because Izzy's hang ups are very much about toxic masculinity, but I'm a transgender man and I'm on the journey I'm about to describe with my formerly borderline terf mom, so it can apply to other genders.
Anyway: At first the dad who I'm positing is like Izzy punishes his son for putting on a skirt or holding hands with a boy, then he realizes how badly trying to suppress his kid's sexuality is hurting his kid, who he loves in spite of the way he's treating him, so he does his best to change his mind and learn about the queer community and then eventually he goes to a pride event in an I love my gay son shirt and then the son feels like he can finally bring his boyfriend over for dinner and maybe someday the dad apologizes even though its awkward or maybe they let it go unspoken. I've even had a friend who put his reformed homophobic dad in drag makeup for TikTok content.
I'm not saying that's exactly what happened to Izzy, I suppose if we mapped this onto Izzy's journey Ed would be the son but a big part of Izzy getting better was him having a bunch of gay coworkers do something nice for him in a way that had nothing to do with Ed, which doesnt usually happen with the reformed parents, or maybe it does idk I've only experienced it as the queer child or as friend of the queer child so I wouldn't know. Also they usually don't perform in drag shows. But I would also say that they aren't usually pirates on boats where every single other person is queer in some way. The places where Izzy diverges off this path have nothing to do with Izzy coming to terms with any lust for men he may or may not have and everything to do with the setting he's in.
Also to be clear I'm not saying Izzy is straight, I'm just saying the jury is still out. He could have been out the whole time or he could have come out in 2.02 when he said "I have love for you" or he could have meant that platonically and died in the closet or he could have meant that completely platonically and been straight or aro/ace, but whatever way you slice that his season 2 arc is way less about coming out and coming to terms with his own sexuality and way more about learning to accept Ed for who he is and every other queer person around him by proxy.
#straight Izzy discourse round four lets fucking GOOOOOOO#daddy izzy#iggy toes#ofmd meta#izzy hands#our flag means death#ed teach#david jenkins youre so real for saying Izzy is daddy it allows me to have brain waves you wouldnt fucking believe
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@baddybaddyadardaddy and @eowyn7023 saw this on Threads and it made me think of you two 😘😂
#he makes me feel things#he makes me unhinged#more unhinged adar content#adar#adar rings of power#adaration#uruk daddy#baddydaddy#baddydaddy discourse
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gang i feel crazy because what do some people THINK tommy saying "your father is alive" means????? i keep seeing it being interpreted as a dismissal or that tommy is saying that buck should be grateful for that ? but i took it as a light-hearted if not blunt way of pointing out that saying 'father i never had' is a testament to phillips shitty parenting because even though he is alive buck still might as well have not had a father, and tommy is sort of acknowledging or testing those waters and levelling his expression and tone. then buck responds "exactly" to confirm that while Laughing, the energy is not one-sided and he isn't put off by his bluntness.
framing tommy's response in bad faith is taking it out of context to what buck actually Said, surely?? if he just generally opened up about bobby's importance in his life as a father figure without using those exact words, then yeah that response would be questionable but that's not how this went. also brother in christ have you never had a bit of a laff while bringing up something vulnerable with someone close to you, i did not see it as a super serious scene from the get go - it's casual but it shows they're meant to be comfortable with each other
if you wanted to interpret it further it could even be a double meaning to reassure that hey your father (bobby) is alive, he didn't die today... idk i never post like this but wow i feel like i genuinely am watching a different show reading some of these posts
#tommy kinard#evan buckley#bucktommy#911 spoilers#ignoring the fucking. daddy kink thing because that was neever that deep oh my god#i burst out laughing when he said that sorry if you cant have fun#man i never make anything close to a 'discourse' fandom post but i just hadnt seen much about this line that wasnt in bad faith#incredible how much negativity one can gleam from a minute long scene from a 42 minute finale???? i for one loved it#you guys win worst fandom discourse ive seen in five years /lh
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‘F**K THAT GUY’ - RICCIARDO FURIOUS WITH STROLL’S CRASH REACTION
#ok maybe stern repressed anger Daniel IS sexy???#if he wants to lecture me I’ll get down on my knees and say sorry daddy 😌#but on a more serious note if I see the discourse on the internet going against Daniel for this incident#when he’s simply asking for the other driver to take accountability for ruining both their races it’s on sight 🔪🔪🔪🔪#because daniel has always taken all his mistakes on the chin#has always apologised for ruining someone else’s race whether it was his mistake or the circumstances#this man went to the Ferrari motor home to apologise to sainz in imola 2022#and immediately apologised to Lance in Hungary 2022 right after the race when it was mostly mcl’s shit strategy to blame for#(not to forget him getting sacked later on after that race <3)#the least he deserves is a reciprocation of the sportsmanship he’s always shown!!!#daniel ricciardo#China24
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“ppl have a right to be upset about a show sexualising their traumas”
oh grow up. fr as someone who has enough family bs and childhood trauma to last several lifetimes, if you’re so unable to separate out your own shit that you feel genuinely hurt by a pretty tame daddy joke then that is frankly a you problem you need to deal with on your own time.
“this thing made me personally uncomfy because i, personally, have issues.” =/= “this thing is immoral and shouldn’t have been allowed.”
#I got the 2 for 1 mommy daddy issues special so don’t @ me#pls stop projecting onto your blorbos for five minutes#some ppl with daddy issues do in fact wanna be fucked by that old man 🤷♀️#and we all have to live with that#911 abc#911 spoilers#911 discourse#bucktommy#evan buckley#tommy kinard#tevan#kinley
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like you waited 7 years and it took two months for the shine of this insane fucking moment of representation to wear off for you guys I don't understand you people bro
#sincerely i UNDERSTAND that you like buddie more than bucktommy. me fucking too. that changes NOTHING. how are you not still GIDDY over this#EVAN BUCKLEY JUST CALLED A MAN DADDY ON YOUR SCREEN OPEN YOUR EYES BRO#911 spoilers#weewoo brainrot#fandom discourse
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Hold up is Blake Lively the same Blake mentioned in Matt's Peachy fact in ep 8? 🤯🤔 am I late to the party on that theory?
#the peachyville horror#dndads#ive been so unplugged from The Discourse lately i have no idea if this has been floated#dungeons and daddies
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If spy x family is purposeful child acquisition and buddy daddies is accidental child acquisition then yuri on ice is forceful child acquisition (as in the child forced them to adopt him)
#yurio showed up with a gun and told victor if he didn’t sign the adoption papers he’d kill his wife (yuri)#yurio said well no way victor is gonna have a husband but not a child#from yurio’s pov yuri on ice is about the evil step dad who stole his father away except the evil step dad is like nice or whatever#anyway#wanted to add them to the found family discourse lmao#yuri on ice#buddy daddies#spy x family
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I will say, I need some of y'all to have some introspection on why you think daddy kink confirms bottom!buck. Like I get that everyone's not gonna know every single facet of queer sexuality but some daddies like to get slutted out! Have some imagination, sometimes daddy want his big strong boy to make him sore and satisfied for hours cause good boys don't cum until they're told to.
#like i'm outing myself here but for real#also the whole daddy kink discourse is kinda funny cause it's giving kink at pride discourse just in time for june#evan buckley#bucktommy#tommy kinard
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