#cw transphobic violence

[figayda-rights]

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This happened in my state, a "trans refuge" state. Because Savannah Williams was a trans woman of color, this man killed her. No other reason. We ARE living in a time of increased, fatal violence towards trans women. EVERYWHERE. in blue states. In states with protective laws. In every single country on earth.

The hypervisibility and hyperviolence trans women receive is not a coincidence. Moving away from the "masculine centric" is punished. Being a woman is punished. Being queer is punished. Trans women exist in a very specific intersection of these issues, that not many other queer people can experience.

Besides the specific avenues of oppression trans women face, more and more transphobes are feeling emboldened to hate action. Powerful "talking heads" spew transphobic rhetoric on social media with no repercussions. People with audiences inoculate their viewers to casual transmisogyny. Trans women's existence specifically is being branded as dangerous, violent, something that can't be tolerated in public.

We MUST believe our sisters when they tell us what they experience. We MUST fight and strive to do everything we can to make the world safe for trans women. WE MUST ENSURE QUEER SPACES ARE FREE FROM TRANSMISOGYNY. Anything less is unacceptable.

[genderfluid-library]

For the oc pride ask: Viv and Nova 3, 9, 16, and 19?

9. Nova likes to call himself a Vejigante.

3. They played opposite gender roles in a play once, and it helped crack their egg.

16. They were aromantic and bisexual when first drafted and now they are abroromantic and abrosexual.

19. "Look Closer" the overall title for the story of Viv and Nova is that they were murdered for being trans. They decided to become demons because they wanted to punish those who stood by and let it happen. This story has it baked into the characters' background. my other stories. I try not to let my other stories have the same experiences or transhood. I'm genderfluid and I love depicting joy more than anything, but I love the healing portion to said joy. The trauma of being murdered and being forcibly separated is the main reason why Nova and Viv have problems within their relationship. They can't move on because they are alive thanks to their rage. They are alive because they want to use every ounce of anger they have and hurt those who harmed them. However, it sometimes leads them to want to hurt themselves. They got revenge, but what do they do with the pain.

It causes them to lash out and get frustrated with each other because they both have the idea that they should know what the other is feeling. It's a story about communicating and learning to let others help you. It's a story of once childhood friends ripped apart and meeting each other again. It's a story of realizing you don't know this person anymore, but you can know them again.

[this-is-not-a-slow-burn]

CW violence

Big shocker that LoTT had a role in this. Not even so indirectly. Absolute waste of brain matter that one is.

[b33viemm]

WE ARE NOT FOUND DEAD, WE DO NOT PASS AWAY UNEXPECTEDLY, WE ARE NOT JUST BULLIED. WE ARE ATTACKED AND MURDERED IN COLD BLOOD BY HATEFUL BIGOTS THAT ARE ENABLED BY THE TERRORIST RUN LEGISLATION.

edit: ID in alt

[finleyforevermore]

Do not forget.

[scarlet-bee]

[ID: Tweets by user Euan Yours, reading:

"We didn't want this."

Well what the fuck did you want, you didn't want her to be referred to by her name or pronouns, you didn't want her to use the girls' toilet, you didn't want her school to teach that bullying her was wrong, and you didn't want an "F" on her death certificate.

You didn't want her to live as herself, and you expect us to believe you when you say you're sad she died.

You can donate to Brianna Ghey's family here - (link)

You can donate to organizations which offer support to young trans people here:

STA - (link)

Gallop - (link)

GI - (link)

Mermaids -

(Link, with an image of a young person. They are smiling and holding their arms out to the sides.)

User Phil Nichols:

Maybe wait until the full circumstances are known before trying to make a political point of a child's death, Euan.

User Euan Yours:

People like you politicised every aspect of her short life, so maybe you should just shut the fuck up about her death.

User Charlie Kobold:

(In quotes) "No, you don't understand - we didn't want her to get *murdered,* that makes us ("us" in all caps) look bad. We just wanted her to commit suicide, quietly and out of the way, so as not to inconvenience us."

User (ghost emoji) the british press (ghost emoji):

(In quotes) "Every one of those people is basically, you know, a huge problem to a sane world."

User Luna ad Caelum (crescent moon emoji):

They need to own the blood that's on their hands. They need to be made aware that they allowed this to happen. There's no stepping back and saying they didn't intend this. Yes they did. This cannot continue.

User John Urquhart:

They wanted this.

User Nils:

I think this is too charitable towards many in the GC movement, tbh. They'll accuse us of "weaponizing" her death. I'm sure many don't even regret her death, given they think all trans women are sub human predators, even 16 year olds who get murdered.

End ID.]

All the links to the above charities here.

Brianna Ghey's family:

STA:

Gallop:

Mermaids:

GI:

[dropoutfailure]

ok, enough wholesome dadson. time to sexualize terrible fathers. (cw for: dadson incest + FtM son POV + transphobia / misgendering / fetishizing / forcemasc)

transphobic dad: doesn't approve of you transitioning or taking T, but isn't stopping you and doesn't seem turned off by the changes, even after you pass consistently as a man. doesn't know how T even works, always lowkey curious about the changes. he does like that you're so much hornier on T and don't even have periods anymore. tugs at your facial hair (ow? wtf :/) and goes "huh? it's real? I thought you drew it on every morning!" with a hearty laugh. dad joke? he might have actually thought so. backhanded praise, mean jokes at your expense, and moments where he genders you correctly, by accident.

thought you would eventually change your mind and give up transitioning "when you realise that being a man is hard," as if he's not the one making it hard. he might actually think of you as a son at some point, but he was never taught to apologize, he's "always right," he's stubborn, so he will keep calling you a daughter because a father can't show weakness. wants to call you homophobic slurs sooo bad, but that would be admitting defeat.

gets angry when you bring up surgery bc he likes to squeeze your tits and fuck your pussy. won't do any anal because it's gay. and clearly, he's isn't, he says. definitely closeted.

trans boy chaser dad: for better or for worse, only took an interest in your life when he found out you're a trans guy, fixed his relationship with you by treating you more like a date than as his son.

excited, touchy-feely, even creepy. eager to please. just pathetically horny for the way your body's changing from T - he won't misgender you. you get aggressively reaffirmed to the point of it getting annoyingly patronizing actually. regardless, he fucks you hard, encouraging you to moan with your cracking voice, and is too horny to feel bad about the incest. it's a welcome change from the previous emotional distance, but you feel used, like he's taking advantage of your newly high libido.

fixated on your body and everything "clockable," would rather you didn't get any surgery... says you're already perfect as is, from just testosterone... it does feel nice that he takes some sort of pride in having a son now, fully embracing you, the way he finds even all the awkward changes (sparse facial hair, voice cracks etc) not just endearing, not just attractive, but really fucking hot. and it's a relief for your body which craves that release. but. dad might just completely lose interest a few years into T, if you pass consistently.

bisexual, he says. but of course not into cis men.

transmed dad: thinks he knows what's best for your body, forcemascs you in his own ideals, pushing you to work hard to speed up your transition, to become a "real" man. you were so happy that dad accepted you being a trans guy so wholeheartedly and proudly, but the acceptance seems to have turned into overbearing surveillance...

dad insists on doing your T injections himself, because he doesn't trust that you'll actually do them. "no son of mine will be a fucking embarrassing softboy pansy who never transitions for real, have some dignity, god damn it! either you transition fully or you don't transition at all!" ...he pushes you to consider top and bottom surgery asap, to become a "real man," regardless of what you might want. he very excitedly looks forward to the day you can top him with your real cock, like a son should. :)

he makes you like anal because that's how real men do it. you're absolutely not allowed to derive any pleasure from anywhere but your ass and T-dick, and the phantom sensation of a strapon. he's good at working your T-dick though, it's all almost worth it just for that...

love, validation, and praise only when you've "earned it." if you fail to live up to his strict expectations, the things he says fucking hurt. misgenders you as punishment and threatens to withhold your testosterone "since you want to stay a girl so bad."

......

so, all of these options leave you feeling unsatisfied and degraded in one way or another!! yippee! no, there's no option for a Normal About Trans Men And Masculinity Dad, this is the Terrible Fathers dadson poll. you must choose.

[aliceundrground]

Semi related to my posts earlier but kind of a tangent. This is messy but its something that's been eating at me and I don't really know how to move forward.

Yesterday was Transgender Day of Remembrance. There are many names we know and mourn, but there are many more that are never seen. Many names are missing because they could not be acknowledged as their true selves after, or before, their deaths.

The thing that's been bothering me is that the lists most groups will consult, these missing names include those lost to suicide. Known cases of trans people, often young people, are being left out of these lists. Their deaths are not considered part of "the losses we face due to anti-transgender bigotry and violence".

Every trans suicide is a murder.

Its not a coincidence that minorities have higher rates of suicide. Its the way we are treated, our quality of life, that most influences these statistics. I have seen news of at least one case, a trans man in Alberta, who committed suicide explicitly because of the anti-trans policies his province was set to enact.

Ive seen dozens of articles. I've seen a trans masc's instagram, where the most recent comments are from their friends. On a post where they were celebrating starting hrt, the most recent comment is mourning their loss, that they didn't live to complete their first year on T. I've looked at their posts, I've read their words, I've seen their smile. And they're gone.

Their name was Bekett Noble. They deserve to be remembered.

There's dozens of people each year who share thier experiences and go unnamed. The young man in Alberta, for example, was not named publicly in the article where his death was mentioned. Due to a family connection, I know of at least one instance of a murder of a trans man in western Canada that I have not seen any news of publicly at all. His body was found with his genitals mutilated.

There's many half formed things I could say about these lists when it comes to trans men and mascs specifically but I don't feel my thoughts are solidified enough and it's not what I want to focus on here.

I believe trans suicides should be part of these Remembrance lists. Its a disservice to our community that they aren't.

If you can, please use the site below. They have a database going back decades with a well implemented filtering system.

These are the known deaths of trans people in Canada since last year's TDoR. Each name links to a page of information about them and links to where the information was sourced.

As for many things, these lists are a community effort. If you see that a death you know of is missing from the list, please contact them with whatever information you have. The second entry, whose name is still unknown, was added after I contacted them and provided the article in which I'd learned of his death. Since then, the folks running the site have done additional research and added what they could to his info page, including an extensive statement from his aunt, whom he was close to.

This past September, The Trevor Project published a report:

From 2018 to 2022, 48 anti-transgender laws were enacted in the U.S. across 19 different state governments. The study examined the causal relationship between these laws and suicide risk over this five-year time period, using national survey data collected from more than 61,000 transgender and nonbinary youth. Results concluded that, during this time period, anti-transgender laws significantly increased incidents of past-year suicide attempts among transgender and nonbinary youth by as much as 72%.

[...] Across the full sample of transgender and nonbinary young people ages 13-24, an increase in suicide attempt rates of 38% to 44% was observed.

- The Trevor Project

Every trans suicide is a murder.

There will always be missing names on these lists. I don't believe that known instances of trans suicides should be excluded from them. They deserve to be remembered.

[onbearfeet]

Just got my first random terf attack since starting this blog a couple years ago. Honestly, that seems like someone was falling down on the job.

Anyway, friendly reminder that, around these parts, terfs get eaten by bears.

[atomicraft]

[cw mentions of transphobia + violence]

wrote a poem for tdov 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[an-albino-pinetree]

Putting this here, as a reminder to myself, to stop going on Twitter

Tree, please stop doomscrolling Twitter, watching Trump supporters celebrate and say awful things is making you terribly upset-

[scarlet-bee]

[ID 1: Brianna Ghey, a thin white girl, with glasses, and strawberry blonde hair. Her hair is pulled up in a bun, and she wears a brown striped sweater. Brianna is outside, grinning at the camera as she holds a partially eaten candy bar.

ID 2: Brianna standing in front of a forest. Her long, straight hair is down, and she has bangs. She wears a white jacket. She is looking offscreen with a grin. End ID.]

[Plain text:

"In a statement, the family said: “Brianna was a much loved daughter, granddaughter, and baby sister. She was a larger-than-life character who would leave a lasting impression on all that met her. Brianna was beautiful, witty and hilarious. Brianna was strong, fearless and one of a kind.

“The loss of her young life has left a massive hole in our family, and we know that the teachers and her friends who were involved in her life will feel the same.”"

Brianna, like all of our trans siblings who have tragically passed, will be remembered by many. A fundraiser has been set up for her family here: (gofundme link)

Trans UK/EU Charities:

(Gendered Intelligence link)

(Stonewall link)

(Mermaids link)

(TransgenderNI link)

Take care & stay safe (two hearts emoji).

End plain text.]

"In a statement, the family said: “Brianna was a much loved daughter, granddaughter, and baby sister. She was a larger-than-life character who would leave a lasting impression on all that met her. Brianna was beautiful, witty and hilarious. Brianna was strong, fearless and one of a kind. “The loss of her young life has left a massive hole in our family, and we know that the teachers and her friends who were involved in her life will feel the same.""

Brianna, like all of our trans siblings who have tragically passed, will be remembered by many. A fundraiser has been set up for her family here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/brianna-ghey Trans UK/EU Charities: https://genderedintelligence.co.uk/ https://www.stonewall.org.uk/ https://mermaidsuk.org.uk/ https://transgenderni.org.uk/ Take care & stay safe 💕

[bubonickitten]

Another thing I think is worth discussing:

Transphobic and other anti-LGBTQ+ violence perpetuated by, against, and among youth isn't just a matter of punishing the aggressors for their actions.

Adults throughout the U.S. -- school administrators, school boards, lawmakers, etc. -- have actively and willfully created an environment where LGBTQ+ (particularly trans and nonbinary) youth are dehumanized by not only institutions and the adults that run them, but by their peers.

They effectively deny kids the right to do something as basic as use the bathroom. They ban teachers from using the names and pronouns of trans/nb youth. They create policies requiring schools to notify parents when kids express LGBTQ+ identity (which puts those kids at risk of isolation, abuse, and "conversion" attempts if their families are transphobic or homophobic). They challenge and ban books by and/or about LGBTQ+ people (again: especially trans/nonbinary people), invoking "parents' rights." This not only infringes on (most importantly imo) kids' basic right to read, but also infringes on other parents' rights, dictating how they raise their children by removing anything they deem "inappropriate" from school libraries and curricula.

They have sent a message to LGBTQ+ youth themselves through these actions -- "you are unwanted; you are unwelcome; we do not see you as children worthy of an education and basic human decency, but as boogeymen and the embodiment of the types of people we hate." This erodes the mental health of and contributes to the already disproportionately high rates of self-harm and suicide among LGBTQ+ youth.

But these adults have also sent a corresponding message to straight, cisgender youth that their LGBTQ+ peers are to be silenced, denied humanity, and eliminated from any space they occupy at any cost (whether that means bullying them into the closet and locking the door, or using violence or ostracism to silence the ones who cannot or do not hide their identities).

There's also a broader discussion to be had about how the criminal justice system deals with violence perpetrated by minors: punitive vs. rehabilitative approaches; accounting for the developmental stage of the minor(s) in question while still centering and ensuring justice for the victim(s); discriminatory practices in conviction and sentencing (as well as whether someone is tried as a juvenile or an adult), particularly with regards to race and class.

But, point is, I don't think we can stop anti-LGBTQ+ and other hate-based violence and bullying by focusing on the individual perpetrators involved in each instance, or addressing it on a case-by-case basis. The adults in charge are (whether implicitly or explicitly) sending the message that all LGBTQ+ people, including LGBTQ+ kids, are -- in the words of Oklahoma State Senator Tom Woods referring to Nex Benedict -- "filth". At the end of the day, these are grown adults bullying and abusing literal children. They can't absolve themselves of responsibility when those kids' peers mirror that hate.

[seasquire]

paraphrasing from a post ages ago that has stuck in my mind ever since but perennially exhausted by meme jokes taking trans men who pass and look very 'male' and saying "oh so this is who you're calling a girl" like this shit doesn't just reinforce transphobia. actually it's also bad to misgender trans men when they look just like women. it's bad to misgender trans women when they look just like men. it's bad to condition acceptance of trans people on 'but what about the ones who pass? what then, you'll feel real silly!' like no they won't, they'll do more violence about it, while you're too busy implying those of us who don't pass deserve it

[boatcats]

Didn't want to derail this post about going through TSA while trans with my own anecdote but. One time I went through their stupid machine and it alerted regarding some part of my anatomy and the TSA guy asked me "Did I push the wrong button?"

Well. I didn't know what button he pushed (there was no way for me to see). And I'm usually kind of nervous and extra polite/friendly in these sorts of situations as a defense mechanism. But I'm also not great at coddling stupid questions. So I said "I don't know. Did you?"

And he stared at me for a moment. He asked "May I?" Then he gently put a hand against my tits as though giving them a benediction and let me go through.

[mrshelldweller]

Hello! I'd like some critique for this lyrical piece I made recently, figured the Tumblr community would enjoy it. Thank you in advance!