#crabs in a bucket

[pencilbrony]

Wisdom

[rhetthammersmithhorror]

Dai Sentai Goggle V | 1982-83 ep. 23 | The Great Soap Bubble Plan

[irrealisms]

the post going around abt seeking an autism diagnosis being something to seriously consider if youre trans is good but it doesn’t go far enough imo. be wary of seeking ANY officially documented diagnosis unless you have a specific thing you need that’s diagnosis-gated (medication being the most common, and why autism is a good example of things it’s often not worth seeking a diagnosis for if you don’t already have one, since there’s no standard diagnosis-gated medication) and even then be aware of the ways that the diagnosis you’re seeking can be used against you—whether that’s denying you an organ transplant or a visa or whether it might have more subtle effects (making doctors less likely to listen to you about other conditions/symptoms, making them more likely to call the cops on you, etc)

and of course b aware that like. not everyone Can avoid diagnosis. even if they’re actively denying it and trying to avoid it, even if they’re harmed by it. esp with something like autism that lots lots lots of ppl are diagnosed with as toddlers. and it is also very very common for diagnosis to hurt people in some ways and still be worth it bc they need supports that are harder or impossible without it. in fact this is the default for most things bc we live in an ableist society. “don’t get diagnosed” not a feasible solution for everyone having ableism problems just like “move to a different state/country” not a feasible solution for everyone having problems with their government. yes staying has downsides, but ppl have reasons to stay too, and there are lots of minors who are legally Not Allowed to choose for themselves either way.

(and on the flip side there IS problems w medical neglect also, ppl not getting diagnosed & being cut off from medical care who need it badly, eg poor and/or rural areas, certain cults and abusive living situations, etc. lack of diagnosis not pure privilege either. but this is not solved by pretending diagnosis has no downsides. & in a social environment where there is a lot of that it is a breath of fresh air to see posts going “if you get a dx you will face a lot of medical ableism, are you sure it’s worth it”)

[rdlain]

The time has come where I may need to leave the state and move either across or out of the country

[fight-me-for-an-appl3]

despite all my ruckus i am still just a crab in a bucket

[brick3621]

That Time I Got Reincarnated as a Crab

When I die I wanna be resurrected as the crab in the bucket of crabs that pulls the other crabs back into the bucket. And I'll love doing it

[opabiniasarecool]

Found my mom's Pinterest. Gonna send her pictures of crabs everyday, I'll update if by the end of the week I haven't been killed.

[rhetthammersmithhorror]

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[saydams]

yes. this is such an insidious concept, and it infects all kinds of spaces. the idea of being deserving of basic rights because you are one of the "good" ones. and someone else needs their rights taken away because they are "bad". this idea never leads to anything helpful or safe. it always ends in disaster.

and guys, this is where the "purity" shit leads us. this is where the "pedo" stuff ends up. this is where we find ourselves if we get sucked into the "anti-kink" and "anti-sex" stuff.

being "good" will not save you.

standing strong with your community and fighting for each other's protections and rights and safety are the only thing that will save us. this has always been true.

This made me bust out laughing

[vulpine111]

Some girl I haven't talked to in years is mad I am receiving so much funding for college, apparently. It was brought to my attention she even wrote a tweet about how it's hard to be happy for me. She also got salty when I was able to be in the little fashion show one winter.

I met her at the Life Healing Center in Santa Fe. (Speaking of that place, I am glad they shut down. Haha.)

I don't know why she can't stand to see me have anything. It's like my mere existence triggers her. I don't even know how to feel about it. I'll probably show her tweets to my new therapist and we can laugh, I guess.

Yes, I already got connected with new help. My intake is Wednesday afternoon. I hope my flu goes away so I can walk there. Otherwise, I may have to request Telehealth.

[canadianbakinblr]

The "crabs in a bucket" mentality in the comments section. Good lord.

You guys want rich? Cool. As according to a quick Google search, a Yahoo Finance article from July 2024 that I found says that the IRS sets that bar at $540,009 per year. The Economic Policy Institute says it's $335,891 for the top 5%, $819,324 for the top 1%. Again, this is per year.

That $65,000 per year in the poll? You'd need to be bringing that home *per month*. And even then you still wouldn't be hitting the EPI's top 1%. They're taking home $68,277 a month.

Median household income in the US is $75,000/year give or take a little bit. And that doesn't even land those households in the top 20% or earners. They'd still need to be taking home double that.

So... yeah. To quote user biglawbear:

"Your enemy isn't the person makes $65,000, or even some doctor or lawyer making $165,000. It's the people making billions off of everyone else's labor.

You can't eat the rich if you think every single person making more money than you is rich."

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[saydams]

i really want all us marginalized groups to stop acting like crabs in a bucket or some sort of rat king. cant we act some sort of ant colony ecosystem instead? termite mound field? that sounds nice.

or we could become some sort of giant mecha and crush all billionaires. if you want.

i am so tired of all the "friendly" fire.

[kadampalife]

Overcoming the obstacles to rejoicing

Compassion and rejoicing can cover every variety of human experience. There is always something we can be doing. If others are suffering, we can develop compassion. If they’re doing well, we can rejoice, or feel joy, for them. Continuing on the subject of rejoicing. Practicing rejoicing is simple (if not always easy) — it’s learning to feel happy when things go well for others or we see them…

[idealog]

Your joy front is falsity & mimicry, false peace where there is no justice - cowardice, not Godly Strength.

Quit pretending to give a shit about others.

Evil turds.

You're selfish and you're getting a Timeout.

Dhdi

[cuckerfailson]

you cunts will see a happy trans woman and write a callout post about it