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I've briefly talked about it before (it's somewhere in my bipolar Ivan Karamazov agenda tag) but I genuinely love how Ivan's situation is treated through the story and I really relate to it because it's so realistic and well done.
I mean, Ivan himself openly and casually admits that yeah I might kill myself in less than ten years but it's not a big deal or anything mid conversation with his brother who he hasn't seen in almost a decade like it's a completely normal thing to say and think about (because to him it is) and the narrator is like oh Ivan sees dead people sometimes but it's alright and everyone else is just cool with it.
Yes, Ivan is struggling with his mental health, but it's not treated as an epic descent into madness for the drama or for shock value or a Jekyll and Hyde or extreme situation out of ignorance or, worse, mockery. He's just a mentally ill young man being treated like a person who needs help (I wish the people around me had been as concerned and caring as Alyosha and Katya were, to be honest) and even if it's a story written and set in the 19th century, no one's ever disrespectful towards him: no demeaning language (for the time period), no mockery, everyone takes him seriously and it's even highlighted that he's still capable of rationality (his defining character trait; he has not lost himself!); even after the whole trial fiasco, no one's angry at him, they just acknowledge that he's unwell. There is something particularly delicate about how his character is handled, a particular kind of sensitivity and softness paired with a lack of exaggeration and spectacularization that really positively surprised me when I first read the book because I wasn't expecting Ivan's condition to be an accurate portrayal of what I have been through and live with every day.
Even when Ivan is distressed by it, the story never gets too dramatic with that and it never drags it on for too long and that's what I love about his talk with the devil and the trial: it's all very neutral in the most respectful way possible given the context. I don't really know how to explain this, but (at this point everyone and their mother knows) I have bipolar disorder and that's exactly what living with it (or any mental health condition I guess) is like: it's casual, it's normal, it's not a big deal; that's just your life and you gotta live it. There is a lot of nuance that I didn't think I would find so accurately portrayed in a novel from almost two-hundred years ago.
Ivan is more or less neutral towards and comfortable in his own chaos because what else can he do, really?
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okay I viewed an apartment today and the landlord is a private person and she was really nice and she really liked me and I liked her and the apartment is AWESOME AND CHEAP and I’m supposed to call her tomorrow to give her a definite yes or no BUT I AM SO EXCITED I WANNA SKIP THE NIGHT AND JUST HAVE IT BE TOMORROW AND AAAAHHHH NEW APARTMENT!!!!
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I got terribly depressed today. Spent a couple hours thinking that my life is utterly hopeless and there's no chance to get better, and that nobody ever really loved me and never will. Suicide seems to be the best solution, but I'll continue living and that will be so agonising that I'll be sure that death would have been a better alternative. In other words, today I felt worse than usual. Maybe that's because I've been sleeping too little lately. 3-4 hours a night. It's very unusual too. I was too agitated to sleep. Maybe I'll sleep tonight and the next day will be a little better. Some day the loudest thought is "You have to start planning your suicide if you don't want the unnecessary pain to become more unbearable with every year"
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interview was a bust (for more reasons than one) but as good as it is to be reminded of the things we want, it's also good to be reminded of the things we don't want
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Was someone telling you their life story or something? 😂😂
Pieces of it really 😭 just some very odd statements and stories that I didn't even really know how to respond to?? Like...making me sit there wondering how this pertains to me at all much less what I'd say in response. Very much diary thoughts that probably shouldn't be sent to a random stranger's inbox.
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Who Should You Meet Before the Second Time Around?
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my thought process lately has been like
i want to make an animation meme! maybe i'll do caramelldansen :) well wait if i did caramelldansen itd be a really big project with lots of characters so maybe i'll hold off on that until i have more energy and motivation. what about caipirinha? i can do one character for that! well do i want to do that one though...? i do have that wip i need to finish still. but i dont have the motivation to do that one yet either. i could always do what is logical with some new ocs! ive been wanting to do that :) but oh what about the baby boy meme, it seems really fun... actually i super need to do paffendorf again, i have the desire so bad! but agh what characters would i use for it?? maybe i can find another meme *proceeds to watch animation memes for the entire day and then not do anything at all*
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