#consenting individuals

[f1-stuff]

Sorry to co-opt this anon message, but ‘consent to fantasies’? We gotta get consent for our fantasies now? 😭

[kasumingo]

"But this thing isn't for me and I want everything to be for me :((((" is literally toddler talk and yet here we are, on the internet, watching people with 21+ in their profile talk like that unironically

[acespacedweller]

Me whenever Stede and Ed have a fight and people blame one or the other instead of acknowledging that both of them were in the wrong

[boundinparchment]

Enough is enough. I’ll be locking all of my fics and will continue the trend of only posting to AO3 so nothing gets scraped into tumblr’s AI nonsense either.

Opt-outs means nothing when your data is the currency and you aren’t given a chance to not opt-in to begin with.

Read the Reddit thread here.

I have not spent the last several years on stories only for them to be fed to things without my consent.

No, I cannot control everything.

But I will be putting a disclaimer in every summary so if a PDF gets fed, the listener knows I do not agree.

This is how you drive people out of fandom, in case you were curious. I was already considering a long hiatus but now?

Maybe I should just fucking retire if this is how people are going to be looking at the free creative endeavors of community members. 🖕

[eirianerisdar]

We all knew Kym Illman had issues but he's just literally gone and posted pictures (unconsented) of terminally ill Dutch patients who had been wheeled around the paddock in transfer bed as part of a charitable foundation move to let them experience F1

What an utter piece of shit

[bloomingru]

Hey, guys! Guess who always forgets to update on tumblr...that's right, its me. But anyway. Participated in EkuSeriReiWeek2023 a while back. I uh...didn't finish...but I did 5 out of 7 days! Which is better than my usual, hahaha...:| So here's here's days 1, 3 and 5. Day One: Dress Up! Day Three: Domestic! Day Five: Closing Time! I wrote fanfics for days two and four. Day Two: Hobbies! https://archiveofourown.org/works/49772713 Summary:

The weather is nice and Reigen wants to go out. Serizawa suggests fishing. Dimple is agreeable to pretty much anything, even if he complains about it a little.

Day Four: Confessions! https://archiveofourown.org/works/49782517 Summary:

Reigen, in a burst of inspiration and courage, decides to confess his feelings for Serizawa and Dimple. He even comes up with a contingency plan to keep himself from backing out. But with no way to back out and the day getting closer to its end, his bravery takes a tailspin as well as his capacity to deal with his emotions and thoughts.

[stardusthuntress]

So I finally watched the 2D clone wars show, and I gotta say, it’s PHENOMENAL!!!

I now adore every second of it, in all of its sassy, oversimplified, primitively scripted, 2D glory!!!

I LOVE how Kenobi spends practically the whole time 100% done with everything, Anakin really is a disaster at heart, half the time the animators zoom in on something, just to start at a picture of a droids face while it talks - with zero motion whatsoever, Windu’s rocket punches, Yoda’s dramatic expressions, PADME and the marriage drama, the bazooka ARC (that guy had tired Rex energy, I LOVED it), a very different perspective of the moments right before Kenobi and Skywalker enter the battle of Coruscant, and it clearly was so inspirational for so many other SW shows!!! Not to mention how it flushes out so many things I’ve always wondered about!

And this is where the tradition of warning Anakin of his fate begins! And he still doesn’t get it! AND he’s 100% dramatic ALL THE TIME!!!

It’s amazing!!!

But it does bother me how many of the clones are truly treated as disposable! It’s like the only ones that make it out of the conflicts are the Jedi and the Sith! They just got mowed down left, right, and center!!! It was so cruel to them!!! And they mostly avoided giving ANY of them names!!! Cody was in it, and 1 other named guy but I couldn’t figure out what his name was. The Commander in red who led the ARCs! They were the only clones that (mostly) survived!!! It was so sad to watch them all just get disposed of so quickly and easily! They didn’t have to do that!!!

[necro-hamster]

ppl defending ai art by completely ignoring the genuine major issues that people have with it and pretending like ppl r just mad because they're Art Elitists and think that art should only be made through Suffering instead of being easy are some of the most embarrassing ppl tumblr has been recommending to me lately

[monkee-mobile]

At the beginning when the guys are just getting to know each other, Mike and Davy get into a fight (something silly and easily avoidable, but they don’t really know each other yet and they’re suddenly living in very close quarters, tensions are high). Mike loses his temper and starts yelling (he hasn’t learned to regulate his emotions yet and is used to yell or be yelled at). Davy (who’s the newest to the group and not used to being surrounded by this much testosterone (see: 3 sisters)) gets lowkey terrified since Mike is a lot bigger than him and is extremely scary when mad. Davy’s eyes start to water and he’s kinda frozen in fear and doesn’t know what to do (the others don’t step in because they’re also unsure and its the first big fight in the Pad) and begins to (unwantedly) regress. Mike notices this and is kinda like ‘oh shit’ and immediately calms down and is trying to apologise but it’s too late and Davy’s in tears. Mike has to comfort him and soothe him and from then on the rest is history.

AAAAH OH MY GOODNESS!!

[swyrlwyrxx]

every once and a while a gore centered blog (or any of those ppl who idolize murderers or romanticize torturing others NOT in a bdsm way) will interact with me and ill remember that there are actually awful things on the internet

[honouredsnakeprincess]

I'll be honest, I've never been comfortable with notions/rules of 'consent' (by which I mean in conversation, rather than intimacy or the like) in online communities that allow one person to unilaterally shut down an entire discussion. I have become less comfortable over the years, as people have weaponized them against me on occasion. "I'm going to go do something else/I'm not listening/I'm not reading this" are not equivalent statements to "Stop writing whatever it is you are writing immediately", especially if communication is occurring in a public forum with multiple potential participants in a discussion. It seems unfair to be able to unilaterally shut other people down, especially if what they are saying is fairly innocuous. It is also inappropriate to complain to a moderator if these statements are misinterpreted, force the person to stop talking, and then resume your argument to exploit the fact they can't respond to you.

It is also not bullying for someone to use those rules to ask you to stop abusing the rules. It is bullying to claim that it is while they slept, turn the moderators against them, and get them banned. Just saying.

[clhampir]

one of my least favorite themes about the internet lately is non-american people complaining that americans are talking about american-centric issues on the internet and being like "nOt EvErYtHiNg ReVoLvEs ArOuNd YoU iDiOtS" and it's like. yeah buddy. that's why we didn't apply it to anywhere else in the world. we're talking about the specific issues we are facing as americans living in the states. the reading comprehension is atrocious

[roughribo]

When your sub asks for permission, sometimes you need to make them beg. Regardless of what she's asking for or whether you are going to say yes or no, ask her to get on her knees and beg like a good girl (or boy or fae).

It's not about cruelly denying and making a show of telling them no or making them earn what they want. It's about taking an innocuous moment and showing your sub their place in that moment with affection.

Domination is a love language after all.

[oceanwithouthermoon]

tired of being called boring cuz i hate toxic ships </33 im sorry i get triggered easily by stuff like that brah, the most toxic my ships r allowed to get before i get triggered is a lil possessiveness and a hint of unhealthy codependency 🤭 beyond that, i literally get sick to my stomach lmao..

do what u want but anyone whose never been abused before does NOT get the right to call ME boring for not liking abusive ships..

[alukaforyou]

if u leave nice comments / tags on my art esp da madara ones i wuv u thanks :3 sry if i havent replied i dont check much after posting also i get shy / embarrassed if the comments are from several days ago ahaha

[kxllerblond]

Besties of the RPC, we have to have a serious sit down about self-negativity and what that does to you and the people around you and on your dash.

We've all got our rules (silent or otherwise) about not wanting to be around the people that vague constantly like 'Oh, nobody likes me. nobody wants to write with me. I'm so hated. I'm trash. I'm so dumb.' types because, more often than we'd like to see, they don't really believe that and are pity baiting.

BUT! Obviously, some do believe it. Some are legitimately struggling with those feelings and I cannot understate enough how important it is to ignore yourself when you have those thoughts and to distance yourself from those thoughts, how damaging it is to not only repeat them to yourself but post them publicly. It all but guarantees this repetitive and downward spiral of self-negativity.

I used to be extremely bad with it (and I still slip up sometimes). But I have found since I stopped so readily speaking poorly about myself, those negativity loops have lessened. I've seen several methods of counteracting it, some even going so far as to go the complete opposite in tone. From 'Oh, I suck.' to 'Oh, I'm literally the best.'

I personally will sit here and tell myself to 'stop being mean rn >:('. If I start to type something up, I make sure to draft it. 99% of the time, when I come back to it later I no longer feel that way because it was irrational from the start. There are ways to lessen the mean thoughts and I firmly believe it starts with how you talk about yourself to yourself and how you talk about yourself around others.

I love y'all parasocially and I want the best for you and it does pain me to see you beat yourself up and do so constantly. But I also need to protect my own peace so that I myself don't end up relapsing back into this mentality I've fought so hard to get out of and stay out of. If it persists on my dash without tags to block at the very least, I'm going to have to do what I need to do for myself and my well-being.

If you're struggling with mental health, pleeeeease see a professional and if one isn't available to you, please try and seek out resources to at least help you understand your irrational thoughts and potentially find more healthy coping mechanisms for. I promise, promise watching some informational videos from licensed psychologists on youtube is going to be better than sitting on tumblr and venting self-loathing into the void and spiraling.