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DNI = Do NOT Interact = NO CONSENT
if a blog has something you love or are interested in listed on their DNI, that means you do not have their consent.
choosing to interact anyway is abuse.
abusive behavior is not kink.
🔞 must be over 18 or 21 to like, reblog, reply, comment, or follow. thank you.
#this is the only post i'll allow people in my usual DNI to reblog ONLY to inform other people who need to have conversations in their own-#sub group communities here#hold each other accountable and make this a safer space where everyone can enjoy being here#consent is necessary#bddssm#ftm nsft#trans nsft#wlw nsft#nonbinary nsft#domb brain
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The two absolute sweetest. <3 Happy Pride!
#critical role#critical role fanart#jenny dolfen#bells hells#procreate art#orym of the air ashari#digital watercolor#big moon little moon#just in case it's necessary - two consenting adults#jeez#halflinglove
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I was thinking about how obscene politeness during a consent check-in can make it sound even dirtier - especially when you're already falling apart for someone.
You're whimpering and whining - aching for more. Every little reaction makes it obvious that you want them to keep going, and they have the nerve to pause for second and hold your gaze, somehow both serious and sensual. It would be so easy to tell you those little noises are so pretty or that you look so fucking desperate, and I love it. It would be just as easy to keep going or to throw out a quick and eager "how's it feel? Do you want more?"
But, now isn't the time for that. Instead, they drop their voice, speaking slow and sweet, "May I, sweetheart?"
Perhaps a thoughtfully placed kiss, gentle and almost innocent, on your bare skin - maybe your inner thigh - will push you to answer quickly in a needy voice. Or perhaps a more gallant gesture - like taking your hand and placing a kiss over your knuckles or on your wrist - will melt you. It's the only touch you receive as they await your response.
Of course. Obviously. You practically crave it now. How could they even ask - let alone in such a courteous manner? It must make you look even more out of control in comparison - all the more at their mercy. And yet, they still asked as if you weren't panting and squirming for them just seconds ago - as if you might actually have said no. You wouldn't think of it. Not when they make you feel this good.
#I got a little indulgent there gonna be honest#all consent check-ins are good and necessary but this particular type. Please tell me someone understands#a thought#bd/sm concept#nsft concept#nsft writing#gentle dom#gentle domination#gentle fdom#soft dom#dom/sub#thirst thoughts#fem dom#subby men#subby girls#subby boys#service sub#service top#bd/sm dom#I think it works whether it's a sub or dom doing this or without a d/s dynamic but did have a dom (giving) in mind as I wrote
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samantha shannon really wrote “lie with me” and followed by wulf saying “let it be me. make this one choice for yourself.” and not to fucking mention “you made my circumstances easier to bear, and i'd like to return the favour, if you'll let me.”
#and expected me to be okay??#holy hell consent is fucking sexy and necessary#adofn#only samantha shannon could have such a beautiful friendship between an asexual queen and a chaotic bisexual warrior#samantha shannon proving that women are king of consent#samantha shannon#wulfert glenn#glorian berethnet#glorian shieldheart#a day of fallen night
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I truly thought Jane would be Peak's sister, so now that I know she is his fiancée, as much as I want to believe that Almond did not record that video, I can't ignore what was shown to us.
He used Vaseline, which isn't great as an alternative to lube, but it's a decent start, so I have faith that some of the information from the sex education club is penetrating entering helping him.
But he keeps trying to see Latte's 6 am lumber (aka morning wood), so I'm unsure how much he heard from the lecture about consent.
Like don't try to see Latte's dragon without asking him and don't record people! Be like Peak because he apologized for kissing Thawna and didn't touch him when they were in the bed together.
Almond, you better have not!
#knock knock boys#he better have not#consent in all forms is necessary#latte will take that personally#which he should because of him always being questioned about his sex life#I like this show a lot#and I love each episode#but these ending each week with no previews are stressing me out
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the trials and tribulations of being an ekurei enjoyer who never wants to see that damn security guard again in my life :/
#i simply like reigen and dimple and their funky little dynamic#would love it if the content did not come bundled with either major consent violations#(ooc *even for dimple* if you're looking at any point after mid-S2)#or else shoehorning a third unrelated character we know nothing about into the dynamic#i don't caaaaaare#he's not necessary!#it's so weird and baffling to me#dimple doesn't need a body#literally what purpose does he serve?#like it's fine it's whatever i just wish i could find stuff for the dimple and reigen ship#that is actually about dimple and reigen#okay that should be enough rambling that this doesn't get maintagged#i hope#mp100#ekurei
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Said this in the tags of another post a while back, but my #1 piece of advice for people trying to start HRT is that you should seriously consider lying to your doctor about the nature of your identity in any way necessary to adhere to the DSM-5's criteria for gender dysphoria, especially if your insurance requires a formal dysphoria diagnosis to cover hormones. Gender dysphoria evaluations are a means of selectively restricting access to care based on your capability to say the right things to check the right boxes to convince a doctor to write you a prescription. Fortunately, the trans community has developed a time-honored tradition to help you elide this barrier, and it's called Fucking Lying <3
#They are also of course just means-testing. But that's another post for another day.#Also worth noting that this may be less strictly necessary depending on whether or not your clinic operates on informed consent.#Look it up before you go in for your first consult.#ghoul.txt
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Anon should hit up my inbox if they want to talk to me so bad. 😘
Mizora tag has 3 regulars and they're angels except me. Fandom wants to kill or turn Mizora to stone, so let's be real who you're talking about.
But this submission makes me realize that people are mixing up female manipulators ™, with actual gr*omers. Which is mindboggling.
A female manipulator makes you think its a good idea to give her everything just because she wants it. This is the behavior of wrapping you around her finger. And on the flip side, you can get wrapped around her finger without her even trying. At that point, its up to her to put up boundaries, but that's another story.
In Mizora's case, yes, she deceived Wyll and took his soul. She maintains control over him through the sending stone. She turned his dad against him, and arguably uses his ties to the Duke for jockeying for power under Zariel. It's a business decision and to stroke her fragile ego. Wyll fell prey to her manipulations and got tethered to her larger machinations.
But at no point is she doing all this to make Wyll s*xually available to her at all times. In launch version, they were never intimate. And in EA, she was clearly using s*x as a tool to seduce - not because she wanted that from him.
#mizora#mizora is a scumbag and a terrible woman and i love her for that#but shes not a gr*omer#theres a special place in hell for gr*omers#as for wyll being 17#i dont put it past belgians to think 17 is “as good as” 18 for consent#thats a writers flub#for my headcanon - wyll was duped and deceived but not naive#there was more to this post but it got way too serious about cartoon characters than was necessary
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i don't think gay and trans people in kinky spaces should be forced into misgendering, detrans, corrective, and breaking kinks just because they're in gay and trans kinky spaces. use other tags, be specific, stay in your bubble. there's nothing wrong with liking those kinks, but tagging it in the general space and interacting with people's posts or sending them messages about any of these very specific kinks to be opting-in to is not consensual (not kink, abusive), triggering, and is literal hate against anyone who is gay, bi, etc, intersex, nonbinary, agender, etc. YES, EVEN IF YOU ARE ALSO LGBTQIA PLUS! learn how to tag and filter and stop forcing other people to participate and be exposed to kinks they don't consent to.
this is not kink at pride fodder, btw. this is someone specifically stating their boundaries and GROUPS OF PEOPLE constantly interacting, sending their kink to someone who has NOT given consent, and is literally the most basic part of any kinky interest. raCk. ssC.
ℹ CONSENT MATTERS OR IT ISN'T KINK! ⚠️
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I'm taking a survey--I'd love to talk about thoughts for Shutterbug Series and the magic Tim series on here, but I also don't want to spoil the story or future events for people.
Do you feel okay with me just talking about whatever I want even if it's spoilers or even if I don't end up writing it?
Or would it really make it hard for you if I was on here posting potential spoilers at random?
Would you be okay with it IF I had a separate tag for just-thoughts-and-ramblings like "shutterbug braindump" that you could blacklist?
#polls#shutterbug series#coraline au#i didn't have this concern back when i was writing latchkey because it was just so fast and not a lot of people had found and read it yet#and certainly not many followed me on here#but now I know a good number of people do and I don't want to just subject people to my brain dump writing vomits without consent haha#my audience has evolved from what it previously was#i want to make sure i evolve my habits/boundaries with that if necessary too#2024#gold thoughts#i'm going to try to create a new tag to see if i'm still capable of creating new tagging habits i won't forget forever#it's an experiment
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in justice, breq says seivarden never abused any of justice of toren’s ancillaries. in sword, breq knows seivarden has had sex with ancillaries before, despite knowing little of her post-justice service, and brings it up unprompted. she explains ancillaries do have a range of bodily needs, some of which are sexual, and each body is different and will take care of needs on their own or with others. though seivarden was a jerk, treated ancillaries like tools at the time, and didn’t consider their needs a priority, breq doesn’t consider anything seivarden did to her ancillaries abusive or cruel, so seivarden apparently received consent from those ancillaries she did sleep with.
so this. i believe means breq and seivarden have already had consensual sex with presumably justice of toren kneeling to its lieutenant two thousand years ago. now over breakfast in sword, and then again in mercy’s first scene, seivarden offering to kneel to breq means she wants to flip the script and fill the position breq once filled for her, in more ways than one. hmm
#imperial radch#it’s possible justice of toren wouldn’t consider it abusive to have sex w an ancillary without consent#eg ancillaries are tools and meant to fulfill roles as necessary and as a ship I will fill this role etc#but I think present day breq WOULD consider that abuse so#this was possibly really obvious but I’m new to the series ok#not sure if this needs to be tagged but#rape mention cw
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🔴 If you are saying "we should raise the age of consent to 25" but then say "but only for sex" how would you be able to enforce this without automatically getting queer people criminalized? If we recall correctly, raising the AOC is a right leaning talking point, because it means parents have more control for longer.
🔴 Queer people are already demonized just for existing, our sex lives already used for fear mongering, and raising the AOC would actually make that much, much worse for us, as well as other factors.
🔴 You do not have to consent to anything you do not want to, even past 16, 18 or 21. But not everyone feels like you do. Some people feel like they aren't ready to be adults at 18, others feel incredibly ready, depending on circumstance.
#profic!orbot#🔴 We realize this post may come off as unpopular but we felt it necessary#🔴 Rather than thinking 'why isn't it 25' instead look into 'why is it 18?'#age of consent laws
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Love it when someone makes a compelling argument for why labor under capitalism is coercive but only applies it to sex work.
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this whole post is so fucking gross and rapey
#tldr: dude is sad that his wife won't have sex with him to the point of wanting to die#op agrees that she's totally in the wrong and that anon deserves sex whenever he wants it#because “her body no longer belongs to just her” and “she gave all necessary consent at the altar and it can't be revoked” 🙄#(translation: she's not allowed to say no)#idk it's just gross that Catholicism has rules for marriage that include wives having to let their husbands fuck them just whenever
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Of the many many things I wonder how one can adapt Dune Messiah one does also wonder what one could possibly do with Irulan begging for Muad'Dib to put a baby in her
#duneposting#I also enjoy his resolute refusal mostly because of the idea of reproductive freedom#within the context of Dune there are a lot of fucky gender elements with this in mind#and the emperor who knocks up women willy nilly - the agency of women completely irrelevant - is as the kids say subverted#and his active consent is necessary
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It's windy and thundering here and I just got an idea that combines some other ideas.
So Reginald with super strength, Right with Bottled Time and Terrence with timeline powers right?
What if the three were possibly CCC experiments that escaped, joining up with the Toppats as they had probably nothing on them to join up with regular society and it was easy to just make up a past and new names as running around with letter and number identifiers was probably a bad idea. (maybe Reginald said he came from a rich controlling family that he hated being around, Terrence came up with running away so he wasn't forced into a family business he didn't want to do and Right just said he didn't want to talk about the past he ran away from)
Since the Toppats are already filled with misfits and such, they fit right in and quickly rose the ranks with their abilities that they used freely to help.
Until the three realized that their powers had side effects.
Reginald found after using his super strength so casually that touching anything was getting more and more sensitive, to the point of it sometimes hurting, with Right he found pieces of his memories missing the more he used Bottled Time and Terrence found himself with brief moments of losing touch with reality, sometimes seeing several timelines mashed up at once when he wasn't using his abilities.
After talking with each other about it, they decided to start limiting the use of their powers and gaining skills that they were good at so it would further prevent unnecessary use of their abilities.
Reginald found himself with a silver tongue and great planning skills, helping with negotiations and heist planning, as Terrence found himself at home with the spy division, making disguises and finding out information with his charm, with Right finding combat his forte, getting better at fighting and also keeping an eye out on his fellow Toppats.
And for awhile, things were great and the three men didn't suffer anymore side effects although the damage that had happened was already done.
But then the newest leader of the Toppats, Sir Wilford IV, approached the three men with an opportunity to be almost Elites in ranking, asking Terrence to be his right hand because of his quick thinking and approachable personality compared to his own brutish and sometimes overthinking nature, and asking Reginald and Right to basically be his strategist of sorts and Right to be Reg's right hand to make sure he didn't get overwhelmed and also provide protection.
The three had handled being experimented on and figuring out the world and their powers, they could easily handle this.
Until Reginald needed to use his strength once again to carry the loads of paperwork needed or help bring in weapons, and Right needed to use Bottled Time to prevent near disaster from assassins and opportunists who would love to kill Reginald because of his rank, all while Terrence needed to rely on his timeline powers more and more to not only ensure that Wilf's plans succeeded but to make sure the Toppat leader and his friends stayed safe.
But they were sure this would pass, that it was just a rough spot and maybe the occasional use of their powers would even help combat the side effects.
It didn't.
And in a raid gone wrong, Wilford was taken by unknown assailants before Terrence could react, before he could do anything to try to help. Thankfully he, Reginald and Right made it out and back thanks to their powers, but things would only get worse.
The Toppats proclaimed Terrence leader as he was Wilf's right hand, something he didn't really want but decided to take for the moment. After all, he just needed to find the right timeline after all, the one where Wilford was found so they could rescue him and things could get back to normal.
Meanwhile Reginald found everything to be so sensitive to the touch, certain fabrics almost became painful to him, and Right completely forgot about his time at the CCC, about his close memories back then of Reginald and Terrence. Sure he was close to the two now but the how they came to be was forever lost to him.
And Terrence had more and more moments of blacking out, of not remembering decisions or saying something to someone, all he cared about was making things right and finding Wilford, and he just needed to use his powers for just a little longer to do so.
Until one day, Terrence blacked out and never came back, basically leaving a man that saw everything at once at the wheel and making decisions that were going to lead the Toppat Clan to their destruction.
Reginald and Right knew what happened to Terrence, they knew that he needed to be stopped for everyone's sake, including his own and that after Reginald did what he needed to do, the two of them would only use their powers in a time of absolute emergency.
What was left of Terrence was dethroned, and after Reginald became leader, things went back to as normal as the Toppat life was, with him and Right being the only ones to really know that Terrence wasn't the one who was a bad leader, but not saying nothing as it would possibly reveal their powers and the CCC might find them after so long.
Though the two didn't know that chaos abilities had a strange way of attracting those with their own powers...
#mod lizzy rambles#au idea maybe#right hand man#reginald copperbottom#terrence suave#experiments#the ccc#runaway experiments#reginald and right find out about henrys own timeline powers and instead of freaking out or asking why he didnt do something different#they both go protective mode and ask henry if he ever had side effects like blacking out or seeing other timelines#with maybe henry explaining that he has his own side effects like losing the strength of one of his five senses or something#and after reg and right give some of their story about their powers henry decides to focus on things he is good at#and not use his powers unless necessary as he doesn't want to deal with completely losing his senses or worse#though the silly thought of ellie already knowing that their powers come with side effects and to only use it in emergencies#while it never dawned on reg right and henry to just do that#though a sadder variant of this au is henry being possibly the only piece of terrence that survived#with henry occasionally seeing different timelines without his consent#but something pings inside him to not use those powers too much especially in timelines like t4l tk or tr#and reg and right figure things out once they get to space and get to relax#deciding to not take early retirement to make sure that henry is going to be ok atleast#knowing that terrence probably isnt coming back and leaving reginald with the only one that remembers everything#*rolls back into the still windy and thundering void that isnt raining at all despite all the other hoopla happening outside*#rambling in the tags#sorry
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