#consent is necessary

[dumbdomb]

DNI = Do NOT Interact = NO CONSENT

if a blog has something you love or are interested in listed on their DNI, that means you do not have their consent.

choosing to interact anyway is abuse.

abusive behavior is not kink.

🔞 must be over 18 or 21 to like, reblog, reply, comment, or follow. thank you.

[the-jellyfish-graves]

I was thinking about how obscene politeness during a consent check-in can make it sound even dirtier - especially when you're already falling apart for someone.

You're whimpering and whining - aching for more. Every little reaction makes it obvious that you want them to keep going, and they have the nerve to pause for second and hold your gaze, somehow both serious and sensual. It would be so easy to tell you those little noises are so pretty or that you look so fucking desperate, and I love it. It would be just as easy to keep going or to throw out a quick and eager "how's it feel? Do you want more?"

But, now isn't the time for that. Instead, they drop their voice, speaking slow and sweet, "May I, sweetheart?"

Perhaps a thoughtfully placed kiss, gentle and almost innocent, on your bare skin - maybe your inner thigh - will push you to answer quickly in a needy voice. Or perhaps a more gallant gesture - like taking your hand and placing a kiss over your knuckles or on your wrist - will melt you. It's the only touch you receive as they await your response.

Of course. Obviously. You practically crave it now. How could they even ask - let alone in such a courteous manner? It must make you look even more out of control in comparison - all the more at their mercy. And yet, they still asked as if you weren't panting and squirming for them just seconds ago - as if you might actually have said no. You wouldn't think of it. Not when they make you feel this good.

[jennydolfen]

The two absolute sweetest. <3 Happy Pride!

[freddycartr]

samantha shannon really wrote “lie with me” and followed by wulf saying “let it be me. make this one choice for yourself.” and not to fucking mention “you made my circumstances easier to bear, and i'd like to return the favour, if you'll let me.”

[respectthepetty]

I truly thought Jane would be Peak's sister, so now that I know she is his fiancée, as much as I want to believe that Almond did not record that video, I can't ignore what was shown to us.

He used Vaseline, which isn't great as an alternative to lube, but it's a decent start, so I have faith that some of the information from the sex education club is penetrating entering helping him.

But he keeps trying to see Latte's 6 am lumber (aka morning wood), so I'm unsure how much he heard from the lecture about consent.

Like don't try to see Latte's dragon without asking him and don't record people! Be like Peak because he apologized for kissing Thawna and didn't touch him when they were in the bed together.

Almond, you better have not!

[scribefindegil]

the trials and tribulations of being an ekurei enjoyer who never wants to see that damn security guard again in my life :/

[spice-ghouls]

Said this in the tags of another post a while back, but my #1 piece of advice for people trying to start HRT is that you should seriously consider lying to your doctor about the nature of your identity in any way necessary to adhere to the DSM-5's criteria for gender dysphoria, especially if your insurance requires a formal dysphoria diagnosis to cover hormones. Gender dysphoria evaluations are a means of selectively restricting access to care based on your capability to say the right things to check the right boxes to convince a doctor to write you a prescription. Fortunately, the trans community has developed a time-honored tradition to help you elide this barrier, and it's called Fucking Lying <3

[bitchesgate3]

Anon should hit up my inbox if they want to talk to me so bad. 😘

Mizora tag has 3 regulars and they're angels except me. Fandom wants to kill or turn Mizora to stone, so let's be real who you're talking about.

But this submission makes me realize that people are mixing up female manipulators ™, with actual gr*omers. Which is mindboggling.

A female manipulator makes you think its a good idea to give her everything just because she wants it. This is the behavior of wrapping you around her finger. And on the flip side, you can get wrapped around her finger without her even trying. At that point, its up to her to put up boundaries, but that's another story.

In Mizora's case, yes, she deceived Wyll and took his soul. She maintains control over him through the sending stone. She turned his dad against him, and arguably uses his ties to the Duke for jockeying for power under Zariel. It's a business decision and to stroke her fragile ego. Wyll fell prey to her manipulations and got tethered to her larger machinations.

But at no point is she doing all this to make Wyll s*xually available to her at all times. In launch version, they were never intimate. And in EA, she was clearly using s*x as a tool to seduce - not because she wanted that from him.

[dumbdomb]

i don't think gay and trans people in kinky spaces should be forced into misgendering, detrans, corrective, and breaking kinks just because they're in gay and trans kinky spaces. use other tags, be specific, stay in your bubble. there's nothing wrong with liking those kinks, but tagging it in the general space and interacting with people's posts or sending them messages about any of these very specific kinks to be opting-in to is not consensual (not kink, abusive), triggering, and is literal hate against anyone who is gay, bi, etc, intersex, nonbinary, agender, etc. YES, EVEN IF YOU ARE ALSO LGBTQIA PLUS! learn how to tag and filter and stop forcing other people to participate and be exposed to kinks they don't consent to.

this is not kink at pride fodder, btw. this is someone specifically stating their boundaries and GROUPS OF PEOPLE constantly interacting, sending their kink to someone who has NOT given consent, and is literally the most basic part of any kinky interest. raCk. ssC.

ℹ CONSENT MATTERS OR IT ISN'T KINK! ⚠️

[meggannn]

in justice, breq says seivarden never abused any of justice of toren’s ancillaries. in sword, breq knows seivarden has had sex with ancillaries before, despite knowing little of her post-justice service, and brings it up unprompted. she explains ancillaries do have a range of bodily needs, some of which are sexual, and each body is different and will take care of needs on their own or with others. though seivarden was a jerk, treated ancillaries like tools at the time, and didn’t consider their needs a priority, breq doesn’t consider anything seivarden did to her ancillaries abusive or cruel, so seivarden apparently received consent from those ancillaries she did sleep with.

so this. i believe means breq and seivarden have already had consensual sex with presumably justice of toren kneeling to its lieutenant two thousand years ago. now over breakfast in sword, and then again in mercy’s first scene, seivarden offering to kneel to breq means she wants to flip the script and fill the position breq once filled for her, in more ways than one. hmm

[profic-orbot]

🔴    If you are saying "we should raise the age of consent to 25" but then say "but only for sex" how would you be able to enforce this without automatically getting queer people criminalized? If we recall correctly, raising the AOC is a right leaning talking point, because it means parents have more control for longer.

🔴    Queer people are already demonized just for existing, our sex lives already used for fear mongering, and raising the AOC would actually make that much, much worse for us, as well as other factors.

🔴    You do not have to consent to anything you do not want to, even past 16, 18 or 21. But not everyone feels like you do. Some people feel like they aren't ready to be adults at 18, others feel incredibly ready, depending on circumstance.

[trannydykepuppybot]

Love it when someone makes a compelling argument for why labor under capitalism is coercive but only applies it to sex work.

[not-your-average-prolifer]

this whole post is so fucking gross and rapey

[onewomancitadel]

Of the many many things I wonder how one can adapt Dune Messiah one does also wonder what one could possibly do with Irulan begging for Muad'Dib to put a baby in her

[flamingredanon]

It's windy and thundering here and I just got an idea that combines some other ideas.

So Reginald with super strength, Right with Bottled Time and Terrence with timeline powers right?

What if the three were possibly CCC experiments that escaped, joining up with the Toppats as they had probably nothing on them to join up with regular society and it was easy to just make up a past and new names as running around with letter and number identifiers was probably a bad idea. (maybe Reginald said he came from a rich controlling family that he hated being around, Terrence came up with running away so he wasn't forced into a family business he didn't want to do and Right just said he didn't want to talk about the past he ran away from)

Since the Toppats are already filled with misfits and such, they fit right in and quickly rose the ranks with their abilities that they used freely to help.

Until the three realized that their powers had side effects.

Reginald found after using his super strength so casually that touching anything was getting more and more sensitive, to the point of it sometimes hurting, with Right he found pieces of his memories missing the more he used Bottled Time and Terrence found himself with brief moments of losing touch with reality, sometimes seeing several timelines mashed up at once when he wasn't using his abilities.

After talking with each other about it, they decided to start limiting the use of their powers and gaining skills that they were good at so it would further prevent unnecessary use of their abilities.

Reginald found himself with a silver tongue and great planning skills, helping with negotiations and heist planning, as Terrence found himself at home with the spy division, making disguises and finding out information with his charm, with Right finding combat his forte, getting better at fighting and also keeping an eye out on his fellow Toppats.

And for awhile, things were great and the three men didn't suffer anymore side effects although the damage that had happened was already done.

But then the newest leader of the Toppats, Sir Wilford IV, approached the three men with an opportunity to be almost Elites in ranking, asking Terrence to be his right hand because of his quick thinking and approachable personality compared to his own brutish and sometimes overthinking nature, and asking Reginald and Right to basically be his strategist of sorts and Right to be Reg's right hand to make sure he didn't get overwhelmed and also provide protection.

The three had handled being experimented on and figuring out the world and their powers, they could easily handle this.

Until Reginald needed to use his strength once again to carry the loads of paperwork needed or help bring in weapons, and Right needed to use Bottled Time to prevent near disaster from assassins and opportunists who would love to kill Reginald because of his rank, all while Terrence needed to rely on his timeline powers more and more to not only ensure that Wilf's plans succeeded but to make sure the Toppat leader and his friends stayed safe.

But they were sure this would pass, that it was just a rough spot and maybe the occasional use of their powers would even help combat the side effects.

It didn't.

And in a raid gone wrong, Wilford was taken by unknown assailants before Terrence could react, before he could do anything to try to help. Thankfully he, Reginald and Right made it out and back thanks to their powers, but things would only get worse.

The Toppats proclaimed Terrence leader as he was Wilf's right hand, something he didn't really want but decided to take for the moment. After all, he just needed to find the right timeline after all, the one where Wilford was found so they could rescue him and things could get back to normal.

Meanwhile Reginald found everything to be so sensitive to the touch, certain fabrics almost became painful to him, and Right completely forgot about his time at the CCC, about his close memories back then of Reginald and Terrence. Sure he was close to the two now but the how they came to be was forever lost to him.

And Terrence had more and more moments of blacking out, of not remembering decisions or saying something to someone, all he cared about was making things right and finding Wilford, and he just needed to use his powers for just a little longer to do so.

Until one day, Terrence blacked out and never came back, basically leaving a man that saw everything at once at the wheel and making decisions that were going to lead the Toppat Clan to their destruction.

Reginald and Right knew what happened to Terrence, they knew that he needed to be stopped for everyone's sake, including his own and that after Reginald did what he needed to do, the two of them would only use their powers in a time of absolute emergency.

What was left of Terrence was dethroned, and after Reginald became leader, things went back to as normal as the Toppat life was, with him and Right being the only ones to really know that Terrence wasn't the one who was a bad leader, but not saying nothing as it would possibly reveal their powers and the CCC might find them after so long.

Though the two didn't know that chaos abilities had a strange way of attracting those with their own powers...

[dotcroissant]

seriously considering picking up the label of "transsexual woman" where it can't be touched by cis LARPers