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What happened to "clothes don't have a gender" and why do you need to project all of this bullshit onto your infant baby? Suddenly pink equals girl and blue equals boy again and you call yourself progressive.
#radblr#radical feminism#radical feminists do interact#feminism#radical feminists please touch#radical feminist community#radical feminist safe#radical feminists do touch#gender critical#gender abolition#terfsafe#terfblr#terfism#clothes don't have a gender#gender = personality
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It's fine for your transition goals to be a man who wears dresses or a woman who wears tuxes or a person of indeterminate or queer gender wearing literally any combination thereof (or lack of combination, for that matter)
The point of transition is not to fit yourself into the cookie-cutter boxes. The point is for you to be able to exist as you. There is nothing wrong with being a "stereotype" or looking "queer". You are radiant and amazing <3
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#kind of weird to see this odd gnc-phobia from people like... it's fine to be trans and not be 'neatly' your gender#i've just seen some weird things from others that presenting your gender in a nonconforming way is problematique and wrong and ?????#although not everybody expressing their gender in a way society sees as nonconforming will be gnc#gnc is something you claim for youself - if you're just a person wearing clothes then that's accurate to say yknow?#like for me personally i don't always see myself as gnc. i just see myself as a man who Does Things Sometimes
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Can you talk about trans!Curly a little bit more? I'm curios if you have any headcanons and the like
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It's just such a thing in my mind because it adds a truthful sadness and differing aspect to mouthwashing.
If Curly was trans it adds the horror of the horribly selfish thought he could have easily been in Anya's situation. It could've been him but it wasn't and he so conflicted on the pit it put in his stomach that brings and the shameful relief it wasn't. In this scenario he is friends with Jimmy for a long time still. Jimmy likely knew him pretransition. Maybe he gave Curly weird looks then, maybe they never stopped after, maybe they seemed meaner. They are guys now, bros, both of them are. He doesn't really have to worry what those looks mean anymore, Jimmy just has that face with him sometimes. It's recontextualizing a lot of things for him that he was in denial about or too ashamed to admit. How naive he was being and how he let that get another person hurt.
Specifically with Anya, it's he knows the dread and fear she's feeling. He can understand it because he had to live with it for a good portion of his life, he knows it cause he still does, just in a slightly different way. It makes him think of all the times he's been alone with Jimmy, all the times he's been way more drunk off his ass and not remember the night, Jimmy was always with him the next day. Makes him think of the comments he would laugh off both because that's what guys do but because that part of being a girl says to laugh so Jimmy doesn't do something. It's the selfish realization that he was never safe and he's uncertain now too. Mad at himself for forgeting that feeling, espcially since for a long time he would've been considered the only woman on a crew (with all that implies) for a long time.
He should've taken those blinders off, step back into that position for just a moment and it's so much more painful that Anya likely came to him because he should've gotten it. Those thoughts don't leave his mind after the crash when he's in an even more vulnerable position than she was...
#this is less headcanons and more my thoughts of the intersectional horror this brings to mouthwashing which is also a thing it#already has but more directly in the mix vs just the class gender and positional struggle. like the idea he waited to confront Jimmy becaus#he could conceptualize the crime better because of experience with womanhood and also how it would've destroyed him in terms of being trans#like its weird to word as a comparison but thats kinda how empathy works as in an understanding and ability to project through aspects#like you found out your friend who has always had weird feelings about and relating to you is a rapist and got one of your other friend#pregnant and is now being openly hostile and aggressive towards you. You have only a few days to really think on all of this all the years#with him and how many oppurtunites he had that you blame yourself for giving him both in life and to do to you. You are starting to#realize that he may have done what he did to Anya because it was no longer viable with him or because of weird transphobia/homophobia#from Jimmy and god its so much and he should've know better and what did Jimmy do then - c r a s h#he is at such a small amount of mercy to Jimmy now and he can't protect Anya and it's terrifying because i know and you know that Jimmy is#giving him those weird looks again...#like it adds another layer of horror to things and while I don't think Jimmy would do anything to Curly it's heavily implied he targeted he#because of relatively more important position and getting Curly to have doubts about him as a power play and Curly knows Jimmy well enough#that him immediately exerting his authority and power would set him off after already having been mad about it and even when doing#damage control it still set him off. like its the horror of accidenlty siding with your oppresser and hurting other like you only to then b#stabbed in the back again by the person who took advantage of your nature like its so complext but my actual trans curly headcanons#are just a little bit happier like i imagine he was the first on the boys soccer team and a star player. maybe he and jimmy even picked ou#his first offical “boy” clothes and Jimmy picked most so he looked like the grungiest white boy but she was a boy so it didn't matter cause#it was with his friend who accepted him and I bet on the bed he looks back at all those moments and notices the little details that his#friend wasnt actually so happy but he can't be certain when he started looking so bitter or hes just imagining out of paranoia cause he jus#cant know and even if he could he wouldn't want to ask like god thinking about Anya and probably being a little glad if not heartbroken#that she did get out of it in the end like trans curly and anya destroy me even more its so upsetting like he didn't realize how much he go#you girl and waited to act like it was cowardice but then would she not realize what hes realizing? should that be a grace or more of a#condemnation in her mind like what are her thoughts? espically during the scene Jimmy hits Curly like she had to hear and what did she thin#they are tormented in a similar hells with the same demon and its fascinating#mouthwashing#mouthwashing game#anya mouthwashing#curly mouthwashing#jimmy mouthwashing
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good GOD can we stop gendering everything. I swear some of y'all just took the futch scale and decided to run with it as gender roles 2.0 (yassified edition)
#like use whatever labels you want for yourself and your communities idc! i love femmes i love butches im happy for you#my issue as always comes when yall start imposing those labels on anyone and everyone unsolicited#and ESPECIALLY when you tear apart other people for not being femme/butch enough#me personally i dislike both those labels because i know i will never be enough for them even if i try#plus i dont see the correlation between how a certain article of clothing or way of wearing my hair makes me more masculine or feminine#for ME that is. like if a skirt/kurti makes you feel more femme thats great. but that doesn't mean it has to universally be feminine#and telling me im femme because i like skirts is just reinforcing a universal gender to a piece of clothing#me personally i can't wear pants cause they're uncomfortable#anyway tangent aside. those “this is the most butch woman twitter can handle” posts were funny at first#but then they devolved into “HAHA twitter thinks girl with long hair is butch they don't know what a real butch is”#which is so annoying. what makes you butch. who gets to decide that#there is a problem when characters who express their butchness a certain way canonically get miscasted with traditionally femme stuff#and i get that butchphobia is very real#but also when that's not the case just let people express themselves man. you don't have to be dragging everyone all the time#liveblogging.pdf
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does anyone else have a weird fashion mismatch between what they think they like and what they actually like wearing?? half my style icons wear, like, waistcoats and wool trousers, but i'm usually at my most comfortable dressed like a bug type pokemon trainer. or a camp counselor.
#personal#it's weird and complicated and i frequently feel bad because i don't like how im dressed#like not because im Trying to wear stuff even though it feels wrong. more like i can't figure out what would feel right#kind of in a dysphoria way but idk if it's truly dysphoria#i think i still have Some Gender Weirdness going on thats a little more complicated than being a truly binary trans dude but like#it's hard to separate that out from internalized bullshit about gender roles#some of this also might be because of complications finding clothes that fit right + sensory issues + practicality issues#+ trying to minimize dysphoria about specific parts of my body#worst fashion advice ever is Just Be Yourself. who is myself??#don't really know but this ain't it
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If I ever draw fem Ishimondo. I fear I might anger some people
#theo is rambling again#really thinking about them for the past few days... Ishimondo girlies... Ishimondo sapphics...#love me my t4t ishimondo 🙏🏽🙏🏽 they're the best#hate it how when it's cis people it's “clothes have no gender” but when it's a trans person they have to dress exactly like the stereotype#of their gender. IT'S JUST CLOTHES!!! LET TRANS PEOPLE DRESS LIKE THEY WANT TO JUST LIKE CIS PEOPLE#anyway if anyone gets mad at my fem ishimondos. trans women don't owe you femininity ‼️
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Avatar: The Last Airbender Headcanon #2:
The palace was almost in shock after Azula was born because she was the first girl born since before even Sozin's time. They had a baby shower afterwards, and Ursa was gifted more baby clothes, pink blankets, etc than she knew what to do with. Like they threw the biggest, cutest baby shower in decades because "wow! I can't believe it's a girl! Oh no, all the clothes and decorations and toys we have are for boys! We need more pink, less red! We need hairbrushes and hair pins, and dolls, and all the girly things!"
#atla#atla headcanons#atla azula#azula deserved better#i personally don't think toys have genders but this is set in ye olden times so#lol what if izumi got to use all the old baby clothes azula didn't use just because they had so many
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(Yesterday)
Hunter: I often fuck up and use "she" for you instead of "they" and I know you prefer "they" better so I'm sorry :(
Me: technically I use any pronouns so people can just call me whatever. But yeah I do prefer they and I appreciate you being the only person who regularly refers to me by that :)
(later)
Me: I had such a great day because I got to see my two favorite men! Ah shit, I meant person for you, I'm sorry.
Hunter: it's alright, same as you, I'm just whatever. But I know how to BE A BRO *flexes their muscles*
#they're my favorite person to explore gender with#they prefer using ''he'' in certain situations & I've known them since before gender exploration so I got used to saying ''he''#which they don't mind at all. just like me they're exploring pronouns and identities#it's so nice to have a friend to explore those things with#i've given them so much of my old femme clothing i love it so much#the other ''favorite man'' I saw yesterday was my friend Michael. amazing dude#.bdo
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I wish I could put you all in my head for like 5 minutes so you can absorb all of my thoughts and feelings on iovita's gender and then I could pull you back out and we could both nod and shake hands
#⌜❝ 𝚃𝙱𝙳. so long. good luck. goodbye. ❞ ⌟#I am only saying this because I have the WORST time articulating it and I LIKE to talk about it#but it's a (mostly) direct reflection of my own and my feelings on that involve a lot of wordless noises and vague gesturing#and informing you that certain things make me feel like a deep dark disgusting pit has opened in my chest blah blah blah#if you stay in there just a little longer I could show you the animations I make up in my head to certain songs?#and then we could nod and shake hands again etc etc#idk I just!#io................#io is.#that's it ig#they sway towards feminine descriptors for themself a lot because it's an 'opposite' to an outside perspective#[which is an opposite of how I do it. I like to pick masculine descriptors for myself for the same reason]#feminine descriptors and a masculine clothing style and full makeup makes the brain go brrr#and it's their default u know#but io will absolutely play it more feminine clothing/style wise sometimes in a way that still shows /something/ masculine about themself#the way they sit/stand/act/reveal#io plays with gender like it's sculpting clay#but they genuinely just#don't want to be anything#yknow?#me and io shaking hands about desiring just Not Existing. Actually. but still existing#not perception no body just The Person#RAHHHHH this is why I need to be able to put u all in my brain rq#anyway. had a gender crisis myself this evening. how are we doin#do i tag this#what do i tag this#ask to tag#?#i also think that io's relationship with gender is very human and also very inhuman together#because they at their core aren't really human. but the humanity of it. is important.
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i need the government to invent new genders now
#our post comrade.#i will start constructing one out of old clothes soon if they don't send me a personalized gender signed by joe biden
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shout out to the obviously gnc teen that came into my shop today with their dad who was forcing them to try on dresses. i see you and im sorry. i love you and it will get easier. shopping for clothes won’t always be this hard, i promise.
#i felt so hard for this kid oh my goddd#they were literally crying in the store and wouldn't come out of the fitting room#and their dad just kept picking out dresses for them#and the worst part is i literally work in the queer person clothes store. like. we have so many unisex options gdsjhhdshk#honorable mention to the person who had to deadname themself bc i needed their email#i was just like just write it down so u don't have to say it nd i'll save ur phone for next time#if u fuck with yer gender u gotta make a new email account follks
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just saw the most dumb take alive. goodnight.
#‘im not saying clothes = gender but this 40 yr old man doing drag HAS to mean theyre trans’#their reasoning is no gen x person would do drag if they werent. when drag has been around for literal centuries.#points and stares at the tiktok queer.#more serious note. i get wanting your idols or characters to be a symbol or representation and how special and meaningful that is.#i dont care about HC. it may be weird when about a real person but like. don't fucking harass them and i dont give a shit what you post.#but by saying something like that youre dismissing actual drag kings and queens and the history of drag. the performance and expressionism#of it. the artform. you're referring to real people to ‘prove’ your gender theories and that IS harmful to that community youre dismissing.#also when youre sending this shit to them or putting it in their comments or tweeting it... its just fucking harassment.#annoying at best and straight up harassment and pressuring them to ‘come out’ at worse.
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my life if i could dress femme in front of people without judgement or repercussions
#personal crap#and before anyone says 'you can!' i Really don't pass so that's a no#i just wish i could go out in a dress or skirt without having to worry something bad will happen the way women can wear suits and trousers#it's so stupid how we've only got the 'clothing has no gender' thing for one gender
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the trans experience of making your 4th oc that basically just looks like you and realizing that you yourself are bascially just a physical oc
#like- Jay was the first self insert oc- inserting myself into real life lmao#ofc i keep using these design elements- its what i like- i used them on myself first#get ready for a ramble sorry my parents called to talk about gender stuff earlier so im feeling introspective#between senior year of hs and freshman year of college i basically became a new person- new name new haircut (some) new clothes new pronoun#new glasses frames i havent changed since whereas i used to change them every 1-2 years#its kind of like having trans friends in the later half of hs and getting more online unlocked a character customization option for myself#my mom asked me today if i feel more comfortable presenting like i do now than i did before and I honestly didnt know#i didnt think much about gender or presentation while i was her#i don't think i was “uncomfortable” but I didn't especially liked how i looked i guess#i certainly didn't make self insert ocs that looked like me back then- or really any self insert ocs at all#i had ocs that i would imagine being but they werent really me- they were more separate from myself than my current ones (and all women btw#i wish i had been able to become Jay sooner bc its way more fun#but its ok bc i can be him now#and keep changing and updating the “design” as i go bc it seems so limiting to only be one way forever#my diary
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you ever just forget you're trans
#for a second there i was so caught up in having had cool clothes that make me feel good about myself#that for a moment i lived in a world where i was easily able to find clothes for myself 😔#trying on nice dresses for concerts and such and i'm like damn :/ these are nice dresses why don't they look good on me even though they fi#ITS CUZ YOURE A BOYYYYYYYYY#to clarify i look great in dresses as a boy#it's just that some dresses are more woman-y than others#to my own personal internal gender radar#and therefore do not work for me 😔#forgor im lowkey a guy LOL#godddd i gotta get on t one day RAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH#bluebird.txt
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ive been seeing a new wave of transmedicalists lately I think we gotta start being vocal again about how nasty they are. you don't need to take hormones or have surgery to be a trans person. changing your name and pronouns is gender affirming care. wearing new clothes and hair and makeup is part of transitioning too. you dont need to pass to be trans, you don't need to be male or female.
nonbinary, agender, genderfluid, genderqueer people are trans too if that's a label they want to use for themselves. and anyone who says otherwise is a piece of shit. it's not "anti-transitioning" to say so, it's anti-telling other people what to do with their bodies. it's pro-minding your own fucking business and letting people do what they want with their gender and treating them with compassion and enthusiasm
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