#clinical behavior like truly absurd

[annikuh]

just thought “aw I wonder what my little freaks would be doing for this new years :3” and came to the debilitating conclusion that they’d all probably be alone for it and that realization—along with the realization that I can’t go keep them company and celebrate with them bc they Aren’t Real—hurt me so bad I wanted to cry LOL.

occupational hazard of liking characters that are canonically generally disliked (at best)

but now I have to go into a frenzy trying to figure out how they would end up spending time with someone else at midnight so I don’t fucking die LMFAO

[ushidoux]

Not Enough - Oikawa (Haikyuu) x Reader x Gojo (JJK)

Summary: Your relationship with Oikawa feels more like a curse than anything else as it comes to a close. (~4.2k words) or tl;dr gojo is mr. steal your girl

Warnings: breakup, idk Gojo is a warning, cracky angst?, pegging mention, yandere themes

A/N: Ngl I’m patting myself on the back for making a crossover fic work somewhat LOLLLL, you can roll your eyes if you want this is hella melodramatic.

(if you wanna commission more niche things, you can always dm me <3)

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“I-I think it’s best for us to end things here, Tooru...”

Oikawa’s fingers tightened around the cell phone in his hand at the sound of your shakily delivered proposition, and further at the abrupt pregnant pause thereafter - not because he was angry, nor afraid, but out of an all-encompassing confusion.

Two things were wrong with this situation. First of all, it was late enough for you, thousands of miles away, that he was genuinely surprised that you were still awake in the first place and the fact that your voice was thick with tears was particularly upsetting, implying that you’d been up all night before you decided to call. Second, you had to be feeling unwell because you were talking pure nonsense.

He must have not heard correctly. You wanted to ‘end things’?

End what? You and him? That couldn’t possibly happen.

Moments passed, maybe even a full minute, and Oikawa stood perfectly still in spite of the uncomfortable combination of a weightless sensation in his legs and a feverish pounding in his chest as he tried to let himself understand what you were saying. Suddenly lightheaded, he realized he had been holding his breath while you remained quiet on the other end of the line. Maybe he was hoping for you to fill the silence, but he knew you wouldn’t offer anything additional; he could tell from the single soft sniffle that betrayed your sadness.

He sucked air into his lungs.

“I... don’t know what you mean,” Oikawa replied, his voice steady even if his body wasn’t.

You continued.

“I don’t think I can do this anymore. It’s really hard… and I get so lonely, and I know it’s wrong, but sometimes it hurts to see you so happy without me…”

Your voice was smaller still, enough that he strained to hear you past the rush of blood past his temples. For a moment, he considered pretending he couldn’t hear you say such unpleasant things just so that he wouldn’t have to deal with the reality unfolding in front of him in this disdainfully sunny early afternoon, while he stood in the middle of the hallway right outside of his high rise apartment.

The fact that you had finally given up on him after all this time.

In a small way, Oikawa couldn’t blame you. While he had been gone chasing his dream, the emerging star had just as quickly been running further away from you day by day. He knew this was mostly his fault: he called you less frequently and whenever you did talk, the conversations were shorter and less substantial until you and he both felt like your interactions were a simple chore, a checkbox on his never-ending to-do list.

But yet, he could and would absolutely blame you. Long distance was hard but you had promised you’d stay by his side, hadn’t you? You’d promised him, rain or shine, through drought and storm. What could possibly be the issue now?

Even if you hurt, it would only be temporary, and he could always make up for it in full or even twice-fold. In fact, he was on his way to come see you in person this very second; it would just be mere hours before his flight would depart. Coming suddenly on holiday like this was meant to be a surprise, and his suitcase beside him was filled with gifts and souvenirs for you that would, at least partially, assuage your hurt.

At least he thought. Maybe the issue stemmed deeper, starting with the very fact that you weren’t such a fan of gifts - what you really craved was loyalty and quality time - and that too, he had chosen to ignore. Because it was easier to love you the way he wanted to love you, rather than the way you wanted to be loved.

You were often indecisive anyway. Did you ever truly know what you wanted?

“___, stop being silly. I love you -”, he paused at this last declaration for emphasis, gauging your reaction, of which you gave him none, then continued, “-and I’m coming to see you before the sun sets tomorrow,” he insisted, a stern edge in his voice to further supplant the denial that was keeping him able to breathe. Strength returning to his limbs, he resumed his path to the elevators, dragging his belongings behind him.

You were silly. You missed him and you were delirious from loneliness and sleep, and that’s why ridiculous things were coming out of your mouth, that’s all it had to be, he figured. End things? What you had was something precious and irreplaceable. Nothing could be better than what you were together.

It would be you and him for life, at least to him.

Unfortunately for you, that ideal had long since perished.

Any other time, you would have paused, your breath hitching in your throat, your heart pounding as you conjured up the image of your Tooru coming to be in your arms once more, to cross the vast distance and be yours again as it should be. He’d be quick to show you that he chose you over crowded gyms full of adoring spectators, a perfect set, the rush of victory, or a pretty Instagram model.

Any other time before, but time had run out with both you and him unsuspecting, in a flash of clear blue eyes.

---

A few months earlier...

“I’m not interested.”

Your voice was flat and so was your expression. Muttering a soft ‘excuse me’, you walked past the tall young man who had taken the fact that he’d helped you reach an item on the highest shelf (despite the fact that you were still somewhat tall, you still had struggled), as an invitation to follow you around the grocery store.

The stranger had started off indiscreetly at first, and you had to admit, when you’d passed him in the aisle, you had given him a double-take, and it wasn’t just because you were wondering how he could see the food before him with a black blindfold wrapped over his eyes, so you hadn’t thought too much of it. He was admittedly handsome - at least the lower part of his face was - and his relaxed voice and posture as he reached over and handed you your box of cereal reminded you just a smidge of your Tooru.

Your Tooru wouldn’t be caught in that nondescript dark ensemble, though.

Saying “thanks” and continuing on your merry way should have been enough. But instead, this same man had immediately started walking besides you as you pushed your cart as though he knew you, making comments about your groceries.

“I’m not particularly fond of eggs, but they’re a good source of protein.”

“You seem to have a sweet tooth, just like me!”

You probably should have been concerned about this man’s mental state, but he didn’t exactly seem harmful or delusional, just weird. But you were almost done with your shopping trip, and now he was in line with you with a single bag of chips in his hand, and it occurred to you for a while that this stranger might try to follow you home.

“Do you need something, sir?” You told him in exasperation.

He furrowed his eyebrows in mild confusion, still a smidge too close behind you and raised his bag of chips. “No, I’m fine.”

“Why are you following me?” You finally said, bolder than usual in this semi-crowded grocery store. You had had enough of being polite and you’d tried very hard so far. Today had been a long day and you just wanted to cook a meal and sleep, not argue with strangers.

“Oh, I was trying to be friendly,” he replied, shrugging, as though that were normal behavior, and thus here you were, switching lanes abruptly while making it clear to him that he needed to leave you the fuck alone.

Checking out of the store with your items occurred without incident but you had to admit you were both irritated and confused about that encounter, and again, while you didn’t exactly feel malicious intent or really any sort of ‘creepiness’ from the young man, the behavior was nevertheless alarming. You surreptitiously glanced over your shoulder just to make sure he wasn’t still in sight, only to catch him walking in the other direction, whistling again with the single bag of chips in his hand, now paid for.

Again stunned, you found yourself lost in a stare for a moment, a million questions in your head.

What was he trying to accomplish? And most importantly, how could he see with that blindfold?

What did he look like without it?

Quickly realizing your questions were getting absurd, you decided that whether he was attractive or not was a completely inconsequential thought, because the fact of the matter was that he had to be clinically insane. Absolutely.

With that thought in mind, you texted a friend briefly sparing the least salient details.

Call me in about thirty minutes if I don’t call you first. I’ll fill you in later.

Just for safety’s sake, but thankfully, you didn’t think you’d ever seen him again.

You may have brought up your odd encounter to Tooru that night, if he had managed to return your call.

---

“Go to sleep, I’ll talk to you when I land tomorrow. I love you, ____.”

Before you could protest, the line cut off abruptly and you lowered your phone to your lap. Now it was no longer just your voice wavering, but your entire body trembling as you sat over the side of your bed. You lurched forward, the pit of your stomach heavy with guilt.

Your Tooru was coming to see you and for once, he was the last person you wanted to see.

---

You had left your home a little later than usual but given that you would rather die than miss your morning coffee and croissant, you still stopped by your neighborhood bakery.

Noting that the line was a little longer than expected, you queued up, humming softly to the beats of your favorite song, not registering that the man standing before you had turned slowly in your direction and was now smiling down at you.

“Fancy seeing you here again.”

Your eyes furrowed as you looked up, then almost yelped in surprise when your eyes registered the same white-haired stranger who had stunned you at the supermarket lined up just two paces before you.

What the-

Of all the coffee shops in this city, why here? The hairs on your neck stood up on end, worse when he decided to keep speaking.

“Let me buy your coffee,” he proposed, tentatively. “Only condition is that you have to drink it with me.”

Today, the strangest of strangers almost looked normal; rather than a blindfold, his eyes were hidden by a dark pair of sunglasses and his hair had been allowed to fall into a slightly windswept cut. He was also dressed less eclectically, in a loose-necked long sleeved shirt and a pair of fitted dark jeans.

Like this, you could call him fashionable. He was definitely forward, at the very least.

He was obviously flirting and normally you would have a curt prepared answer for him, but the manner in which he leaned forward, smirking with hands on his hips, again felt too familiar. Like Tooru, who had forgotten to call you back and instead sent you a quick text that promised he’d get back to you.

If he remembered.

Before you knew it, and almost embarrassed as soon as it left your mouth, you blurted out, “I… have to go to work.”

It wasn’t a lie but for some reason it came out like one. Perhaps because what you would have normally said was, “I have a boyfriend,” without giving him a second look.

He frowned nevertheless.

“That’s too bad,” he finally said, letting out a loud sigh, excessively dramatic for the situation. You stared at him, dumbfounded, and he suddenly clasped his hands together, preparing to say something else but the barista had called for the next customer.

He made a motion for you to go before him, and flustered, you obliged, giving the barista a look that implored for help in any way he could offer it. The barista knew you well enough to ring up your order before you even asked for it, but not well enough to sense that the man behind you was actively harassing you.

“I can buy my own coffee, sir,” you murmured once you saw him rummage in his pockets and pull out his wallet while the barista went off to toast your pastry.

He grinned widely.

“Call me Satoru.”

---

“A drink for you, sir?”

The flight attendant’s voice betrayed a hint of irritation under her sweet tone of voice, hinting that she had been waiting for him to answer a while, and Oikawa realized that he had been staring at his phone for a lot longer than he expected. He flashed her his classic pearly whites before nodding, but the wheels in his head were still turning.

A mere couple of hours into the first leg of his flight back to Japan, he had taken to poring over his last few conversations with you.

Conversations that, at least from his end, had become pressured, short, and at times, he had been downright dismissive.

But he loved you - you had to understand that! It was a lot to manage:  being available for you but also giving 150% of himself to the game.

So what if he missed your calls but kept his Instagram up-to-date? So what if he was a little bit too cozy with his fans (and known to be so)?

There was always you, and you were supreme. He’d do anything for you.

“Wine?” The attendant offered him the higher octave in her voice making it clear that Oikawa had managed to charm her back into her retail persona.

Maybe a glass, but he’d limit his drinking. He wouldn’t want to disappoint you when you met.

---

You were shocked.

Satoru stopped a car that was meant to crush you, and you were still trying desperately to comprehend what had just transpired.

You were possibly too eager to escape that coffee shop, to get away from the young man whose presence both unsettled your stomach and made your face grown warm, that you’d hurried out into the crosswalk, somewhat complicated drink and slightly crisped pastry in hand, and right into the path of a car hurtling through a red light.

You didn’t have time to scream or rarely even time to drop your drink, but the impact of your carelessness and preoccupation, between him, being late to work, wondering why the fuck your boyfriend had yet again forgotten to text back, never came.

Instead, the car seemed to halt to a stop almost immediately before you, before him who now stood before you with lips held into a neutral expression, and one hand in his pocket. Even if time seemed to stop for a split second, the force that should have struck your body didn’t, instead hurtling around you in a terrifying gust of wind.

But you were safe.

There was a shatter of glass windows as energy redistributed and the car took the brunt of the shock, and airbags deployed, engulfing the driver who could have possibly ended your life.

When Satoru finally turned to you slowly, looking at your cowering form, you finally caught a glimpse of piercing blue. For once he wasn’t smiling, and he was suddenly much more terrifying than anything else.

As though the mask had come off.

He didn’t ask if you were okay. Instead, he asked you to control your grief.

---

You shouldn’t be able to love anyone so much that your heart breaks repeatedly.

Something about you had to be pathological - it couldn’t be normal to feel the pain of separation this acutely. It was just a long-distance relationship, even if he was just getting more famous and less available by the day.

You shouldn’t wake up wondering if you could still breathe without him.

You shouldn’t.

---

“I’m a sorcerer,” Gojo revealed as he stirred a warm caramel latte, as though he had said the most natural thing in the world.

You tilted your head over so slightly, knit eyebrows betraying your confusion.

“... Like a circus performer?”

The repetitive turn of his wrist halted almost immediately and he looked at you, the constant smug smirk immediately awash from his features.

“Do I look like I belong in the circus?!” He half-exclaimed, half-whined, as though you were the only patrons in this bustling coffee shop. Part of you was bent on saying yes, but you kept mum yet staring at his face in distress, you find yourself stifling a giggle.

Now that he’d saved your life, you felt (and probably erroneously so) obligated to at least indulge him in coffee, and your curiosity about the young man sitting before you a whole day later now waffled between morbid and genuine.

Cursed energy? Leaking from you? Sorcery?

He cleared his throat and leaned back in his chair once he realized you were more entertained by his distress than anything else, crossing his arms and raising his legs on the table. You stared at the bottom of his shoes with mild disgust but instead focused on his face.

He really was like your Tooru, the boyfriend that slipped away from your reach in your nightmares, causing you to wake in a cold sweat. You shook the thought of your head, a quick barely perceptible movement, and crossed your own arms.

“You’re sad enough that I can sense it, which despite the fact that I am obviously quite gifted, can be a bit of an issue long term.”

“Why would it be an issue to you?”

“Because grief creates spirits and spirits are a pain in my ass.”

You furrowed your eyebrows again.

“So you followed me because you thought I was sad?” It sounded far fetched enough but absolutely on brand for a weirdo like the man before you. You took a sip of your tea - you’d picked chai for this… meeting. It wasn’t a date.

He grinned, an elbow rested on the table propping up his chin as he leaned back towards you.

“No, it’s because I thought you were beautiful.” ---

For the first time in a year, Oikawa’s first step back on Japanese soil did not immediately bring him joy but anxiety.

It was odd for him to feel anxiety, this unsettling feeling in the pit of his stomach, but of course it would dissipate the moment he saw you.

But first, a warm shower in his new hotel room. Then he’d go to see you.

It felt odd not to have you waiting for him, your million dollar - no, priceless - smile on your face, so he could kiss you dramatically in the midst of all watching to again reassert that you are his, and his alone.

But you were upset, and understandably so.

So he would come to you, as a good boyfriend should.

---

“I have a boyfriend,” you told him immediately and indignantly, as you got up to leave. “I don’t know how many times I have to tell you I’m not interested.”

He didn’t rise as fast as you did, watching you calmly instead as you balled your fists in irritation. It’s so shameless how he flirts, you thought. He’s so bold and rude and even if he’s a ‘sorcerer’ as he claims, there’s no spell that he can cast onto you that will make you leave Oikawa for him.

Not your Tooru, whose last Instagram post features a beautiful, tan, large-breasted and bikini-clad woman you’ve never met.

“Where is he then?” Satoru said in a low voice. He didn’t necessarily mean to cut but it did anyway. A lump formed in your throat.

“Overseas.”

---

The sound of chirping crickets is surprisingly loud for this part of the city, Oikawa considered, as he made his way towards your apartment building. It was an atypically warm evening for this point in the spring and he briefly mused if that is what excited them. Maybe they were cheering for him. They sounded a lot like the crowds if he closed his eyes.

He also hoped you had room for the gifts he carried with him, the most important of which was a Cartier bracelet he would hand to you once he departed, with a solid gold T for Tooru.

If he was on the search for fame and glory, he had to spoil you too, right?

To think that you were so angry with him that you had not yet contacted him since he had landed.

He knocked on your door finally, noting the shuffling of too many feet towards the door. This was the right door. He didn’t understand. Did you have friends over?

He called, and you didn’t immediately pick up.

---

“You have to leave!” You hissed. The statement was a plea and it was a command and it was a curse.

The blue of Satoru’s eyes was less electric in the dim moonlight, now more of a cool ice. Bare naked like this and barely visible save for the cracks of the illuminated city through your blinds, he was unfairly beautiful, as though he were carved out of marble. Again like your Tooru. Like, not better.

But still, he was there when Tooru wasn’t.

But Tooru was there now, knocking on your door, having traveled thousands of miles despite the fact that you had broken up with him just yesterday.

It was too little, too late.

But you didn’t love Satoru. He was just a band-aid for the loneliness that wrung agony out of you.

Right?

“I don’t want to leave,” your makeshift lover replied, flatly.

Your glare was sharp and instant, but Satoru matched your look, less pointed but unwilling to sway.

An unstoppable force, no different from the day he’d saved your life.

But he’d caused the problem in the first place, hadn’t he? Would you have run out so carelessly if not for him?

Your voice softened as you slipped on your clothes. The fight was lost before it started.

“Please? I… I can’t do this to him.”

Only a plea was left.

Your phone started to ring and your throat felt as though it would close up.

“___?”

Before you knew it, you heard your front door open and your heart dropped into your throat.

---

“What the fuck-”

Blue eyes were cruel.

Oikawa prided himself on his height but Satoru was taller, and his smirk was wide, while Oikawa’s face was ghostlike, devoid of any appreciable expression. Stunned.

“So you’re the boyfriend?” His voice dripped with mock amusement and he patted him on the shoulder before swinging open the door wide, letting Oikawa into his own girlfriend’s apartment, only to stand face to face with you whose feet seemed glued to the floor in shock.

“I.. T-Tooru..”

“Are you fucking serious?!”

His voice came out as a cry and his tears hot and fast. You never thought you’d see him crumple so fast, for you, for anything.

Your mouth opened and closed, and your hands shook but again, you stayed planted to the same spot while Satoru, still shirtless (but at least with the decency to have worn a pair of pants before answering the door), settled himself on the couch.

Before you could open your mouth to find a word to defend yourself to your sobbing boyfriend, your visitor let out an exaggerated yelp.

“____, you really showed no mercy on my asshole, did you?” he jeered. Then covering his mouth, he made a gesture of ‘Oops.’

What could you do?

Oikawa looked like he would stop breathing any second. He wanted to fight and maybe scream, but what use was that?

You had broken up with him yesterday.

You approached slowly, attempting maybe a touch, anything that would make your mistake less grievous.

You’d only been seeing Satoru for several weeks to… you weren’t sure why, really? Tooru was the one you loved. And to see him curl up like this… someone who was normally so proud...

You were disgusted with yourself.

“Tooru-”

“You said you’d wait for me.”

It was shocking how quick he rose, broken dignity, gifts and all.

“Tooru!”

He turned to leave, while Satoru contented himself on picking the earwax from his ears. It was easier to be like this, insufferable, than to gracefully accept the idea that his object of affection loved someone else.

He’d coveted you from the day he’d met you.

“Tooru!!!”

You were running after a man who gave 150% to everything, yet again. 

Everything but you.

But had he at the very least given you 100%? You weren’t sure.

Oikawa was the last person who could accept the thought of someone else. You weren’t sure if he’d call you ever again. You weren’t even sure you wanted to break up.

Cursed energy. Maybe you didn’t just leak cursed energy. Maybe you were just cursed.

Heart shattering to pieces once Oikawa was no longer within view, you made it back to your room. Satoru was there waiting, and you couldn’t see the look in his eyes, but his arms were open, and so you fell into them.

[kayr0ss]

Appointments Chapter 5: Headaches and Some Music

[LWA, Diakko, Small Town AU, Fluff and Slow Romance, Pining™ lol]  

Chapter 1 & Table of Contents AO3 Link

Diana pursed her lips, locked in a heated stare-down against the newest occupant of her apartment.

“Please behave yourself until I return.”

The cat ‘mew’ed’ in reply as though he understood and resumed licking the back of his paw. All things considered, he seemed to be a surprisingly well-behaved cat. Who looked polite. This small comfort was enough to make up for the ridiculousness of having to talk to a cat, and Diana realized that she had never been more excited to return to her clinic as she was now.

The normalcy of work, she thought to herself, is beginning to feel like a comfort versus the absurdity of my home’s current state of affairs.

She stepped through her doorway into a lovely Blytonbury morning. The habitual glance towards her watch read 09:51, urging her to walk at a quicker pace than usual. She regrettably strode right by Jasminka’s café—there was no time to pass by tea, and she hadn’t woken up early enough to make some for herself that morning.

Of course, because of the cat.

The day prior, she’d had to return home later than usual to fetch her feline tenant the basic supplies: a small can of cat-food, a litterbox, and two bowls for food and milk. The real challenge was in the ‘teaching him not to leave any form of excrement where he shouldn’t.’ Pleasant behavior aside, it seemed Toby was actually quite intelligent—although by the time it was two o’clock in the morning, her NewTube suggestions were a peculiar mix of medical lectures and ‘How to Potty Train Your Cat’ videos.

She made her way through the crosswalk—ensuring that no brunettes were running about—and mentally prepared herself for the day she was about to have. There were no scheduled patients before lunch, giving her enough time to review case files for a busy afternoon.

When she stepped through the glass door to her clinic, Barbara was already lounging behind her desk and flipping—as usual—through a novel.

“Good morning,” she peaked out from behind ‘NightFall 12: The Oblivion of Love’. “You’re on the dot today.”

“I always am,” Diana replied lightly. “Good morning to you as well.”

“You’re always at least fifteen minutes early,” Barbara corrected, smiling kindly. Then the nurse leaned forward, scrutinizing Diana with an observant gaze. “You’re…”

The blonde lifted her eyebrow in silent response.

“Something.” Barbara said slowly, as if trying to figure a puzzle out. She waved a hand to dismiss the thought. “Must have been my imagination, just thought there was something off. Anyway, I’ve laid down the patient files for the afternoon. We’ve got ourselves a slow morning.”

“Thank you,” Diana nodded politely, slipping into her whitecoat and thankful that she didn’t have to explain the kind of morning (and evening) she’d had. She settled into her chair, entertaining the thought of going through the documents Barbara had prepared before deciding she wasn’t in the right headspace for that. A headache. Massing her temples, she ascribed her irritability at a lack of sleep and constant worrying over her furniture’s wellbeing. She inwardly cursed her lack of morning tea—and really hoped her furniture were okay.

Learning back with a sigh, her eyes drifted towards a pamphlet at the edge of her table. It was the St. Beatrix MMC residency brochure on Cardiology. She’d probably read its contents nearly ten times over by now. In truth, the hospital had already reached out to her: she was “everything they were looking for”, or so the chief resident had said—a young doctor with an impeccable educational background. Diana had been truly grateful, but she was committed to taking the time she’d need to be absolutely sure. Which she wasn’t. At least, not yet.

There was a knock on her door, and Barbara was peeking through the doorframe. “Water. And an aspirin. Because for some reason you look—uh.”

“Off?” Diana tilted her head.

“Like shit.” Barbara nodded, and Diana would have had something to say about her choice of language if it weren’t for the fact that she was probably right. “Did anything happen?”

“Just a few issues to iron over at home,” she replied cryptically.

Barbara looked like she wanted to ask more, but decided not to prod. “That won’t do. We’re having lunch over at the Russian lady’s and getting those croissants you love so much, but in the meantime drink that Advil because someone’s gotta look after the doctor looking after everyone else.”

Diana smiled and felt a wave of gratitude pour through her over Barbara’s thoughtfulness.

“Which reminds me,” the other woman set the items down to Diana’s desk, “the cat’s gone.”

The blonde immediately looked down at the suddenly-very-interesting-patient-files. “I—Indeed.”

“You know, I think I’ll actually miss him. He was kind of cute.”

Diana was ready to remind her of the importance of workplace cleanliness when the front bell chimed louder than usual. The glass pane of the door practically swung open with force.

“Heya, doc! And miss nurse!”

Oh.

Barbara was the first to recover. “Where did you fall in this time? Was it a ditch? Or did you fly off your bike again?”

Atsuko Kagari-with-blood-ty—Oh, enough of that! She’s just Akko!—had come barging in with a large paper bag, effectively elevating Diana’s headache through several numbers up the VNRS pain scale.

“I—” Akko shot the nurse a smug look “—have yet to experience an accident this week!”

“That’s a first,” Barbara crossed her arms.

“But I’m here for you!”

Those stunning red eyes locked themselves onto Diana, and suddenly she couldn’t speak. Me? The brunette strode into her office. She dropped the paper bag onto her desk.

“I’m not quite sure I follow. What is this?”

“Child support!”

Diana flinched. Barbara blinked. Akko simply nodded to herself in smug satisfaction.

“For Toby. Since we’re co-parents now.” Akko clarified, looking completely serious. “There’s a bunch of cat food that should last a while, a cute mouse squeaky toy, and animal milk.”

The blonde felt her ears redden at the incredulous look Barbara was giving her, and seriously—was this seriously happening right now? “C—Co-parents?”

“Yes.” Akko nodded with a determined glint in her eyes. “And I’m no deadbeat mom!”

“I—I see.”

“Anyway,” Akko took one of the pens from Diana’s stand without asking (“Don’t do that.”), and leaned over to write on the blank prescription pad on the blonde’s desk. “Here’s my number so you can text me about anything he needs and so we can arrange my visitation rights!”

Visitation rights?

“Oh.” Akko paused, lifting her thumb to her chin. “We probably need to schedule a trip to the vet and get him a collar, too.”

We?

Not knowing what else to say and still completely blindsided by Akko’s—well, everything—Diana simply complied. “I… know a veterinarian. He’s a childhood friend.”

“Perfect!” Akko beamed.

Once again, it was disarming. She really had to stop doing that to Diana.

“I’ve got to study for a test so I gotta bounce but I’m so excited to see him again!” Akko leaned across the table, moving around at a pace faster than Diana’s sleep-deprived-due-to-Toby’s mind could follow. The brunette wrapped her hand around her forearm and gave her another smile. It was warm. “But really—thank you Diana! I’ll see you around!”

She turned on her heel like the bundle of energy she was and bolted right out the door with a wave to Barbara.

Barbara—who looked right about ready to explode into laughter in the wake of Akko’s departure.

“You kept him.”

“Please don’t.” Diana pleaded.

The nurse finally caved, leaning against the doorframe to her office for support while she snickered. “That’s why you look completely out of it! You’ve got to tell me everything.”

But then the thudding sound of footsteps interrupted their conversation yet again and the door swung open. Poor thing. Might need to have its hinges checked at this point.

“I almost forgot!” Akko came bursting into the room like a cannon ball. “I got this on my way here for you!”

She slammed a paper take-out cup from Jasminka’s café onto Diana’s desk.

“I have no idea what it is to be honest.” Akko yelled, already rushing back out in a hurry. “I just asked Jas for a cup of whatever your usual is! Okay-bye-for-real!”

She was gone in a flash. Diana could smell tea.

English Breakfast, prepared exactly the way she liked it. The aroma was enough to chase away the tension along her brow, and when she glanced towards Barbara, who looked just as lost as she felt—

—they shared soft laughter.

The whole thing was absolutely ridiculous. Including the fact that her cup was labeled: ‘Dr. Grumpy >:(’

 ---

 It was 5:30PM and Akko was in despair.

“Chikusho! That was a disaster.” Akko banged her head against the lecture room desk. She was reeling from the mental assault that was ‘Applied Physics Examination 1.’ Judging by the scowl on Sucy’s usually nonchalant face, it hit her pretty hard too. “How’d you do?”

“Tanginang test ‘yan.” She glowered in her native language.

“I’m going to assume that was a string of curse words.”

“For once in your idiot life, you are correct.”

“Mou!” Akko huffed.

“I’m out.” Sucy declared, and likewise, every fiber in Akko’s being wanted to get the hell out of this classroom as soon as possible. The purple-haired girl lazily slung her bag over shoulder and looked down at Akko (who was still very much slumped over the desk) through one eye. “So are you coming or should I leave you behind?”

Akko groaned. And then sighed. And then groaned another time while pointing towards the podium because—“First I have to walk over there and ask if she wants to join the running club.”

“The professor?” Sucy blinked.

“Ya, dude.”

Then Sucy was grinning daggers. “I think I’m gonna stick by and see if she’ll actually murder you this time.”

“Not funny!” Akko pouted while finally standing up and cursing the fact that she can no longer exist as a worry-free blob on a desk.

“It is. A little. Now go.” Sucy prodded on, repeatedly poking at her arm.

“Going, going!”

While the students slowly filed out of the room—in despair, mind you—Akko approached Dr. Meridies with Sucy lingering a safe distance behind her.

The lilac-haired professor looked up from a test sheet she was inspecting, looking, as one would say, way too tired for this shit. “No amount of begging is going to convince me to pass you.”

“I wasn’t going to!” Akko crossed her arms defiantly.

“Then why are we having this conversation?”

Well. There wasn’t any other way for this to go down than directly, so it was best to just blurt it out. “Do you want to join the running club?”

Dr. Meridies reeled, squinting. “The running club?”

“Yes.” Akko nodded. “The running club.”

“So many people are asking me to join this running club that I think I’m gonna start declining just out of spite.”

“Ugh!” Akko groaned. “I tried—can’t force you! Maybe Professor du Nord can, Kami-sama, why did I even both—”

“Wait wait wait—” Dr. Meridies raised a hand to shut Akko while scowling. “du Nord?”

“Yeah,” Akko said looked to the side with slumped shoulders, “the club moderator. And I’m here cause Diana asked so now that I’ve done that I’m just gonna boun—”

Oddly enough, the exasperated professor seemed to have tuned out. “Chariot du Nord, from Humanities?”

“Uh, yeah.” The brunette blinked. “Do you know her?”

“O—Of course.” The older woman began stare so hard at the table she could have burned a hole through. “Faculty and all.”

Akko caught on like a wolf, grinning mischievously. “You know her!”

“Like I said we both teach—”

“You know know her.”

“Out!” Dr. Meridies barked, “of my classroom!”

With a devious glint, which Akko swore she could see in Sucy’s eyes too, she waved in exaggerated politeness and made her way to the door.

“Okay, professor!” Oh, she loved this sort of drama! “Just saying—it’s on Monday evenings!”

--

“You should have seen her face!” Akko squealed with almost manic glee. “Oh, Lotte you’re gonna love it—I know you’re a sucker for this kind of stuff.”

“But I can’t imagine it! How does Professor du Nord—” Lotte gestured towards her life with both hands for emphasis “—who seems super sweet and kind of introverted but is generally made of sunshine, find herself with a history of romantic involvement with someone like Dr. Meridies—” she made a quick jerking motion towards the right. “Who I haven’t actually seen in person, and if I were to base my judgments off your descriptions she sounds like some mad-scientist antagonist in an anime who’d wear a cape.”

Akko blinked. “That’s a good one.”

Sucy actually nodded.

“It makes no sense!” Lotte shook her head. And then… she swooned. “But love never does, does it?”

“Makes about as much as sense as this idiot getting that doctor to adopt the cat.”

“’The cat’ is named Toby!” Akko chided, “and you’d be hard-pressed to deny him if you’ve seen that cute little face of his.”

The three women were lazing about Lotte and Sucy’s living-and-dining area, with Akko sprawled across the couch that she’d be sleeping on since the pair—or just Lotte—invited her to stay over. There was take-out and beer (which Sucy and Akko had picked up on their way home), and the mini-get-together served two purposes: to recover from that horrid examination, and to keep Akko company because “tomorrow’s my first day of work and I am way too nervous to fall asleep without beer or Lotte nagging me to!”

There was something deeply comfortable about the small apartment. The furnishing didn’t match up and yet every piece felt like they belonged. Pots and pans hung above the stove, used yet well-maintained. They always had an extra set of everything—as though guests were welcome and often come and go. She loved it. And loved how welcome she felt in it. And though she’d never impose unless invited, Akko felt… cozy. Books, and mushrooms, and odd test-tubes, and literary manuscripts and all.

Lotte was in the middle of sharing the gist of her latest writing exercise when Akko felt her phone buzz.

“Hold on,” she excused herself, “I swear if this is a Canvas notification I’m gonna cut a bi—oh!”

“What is it?” Lotte asked.

-

18:53 Good evening. This Dr. Cavendish’s number – I’ve been able to secure an appointment with Dr. Hanbridge, the veterinarian I had mentioned. I apologize for the short notice but his soonest availability is tomorrow at around 1:30PM. Check-up aside, an agent in his clinic should likewise be able to assist with any documentation that needs sorting out given our arrangement. Your prompt response will be appreciated.

18:54 Heeeya Doc! 😊 u sound like an e-mail. :P

18:54 But sure lol I get off work @ Arcturus school around lunch time

18:55 Is it gonna be far?

18:55 But srsly lighten up abit it’s just me we can me at the bus stop or whrvr

18:56 I’ll be hailing a taxi service from my home and will collect you from your workplace at 12:30PM. Please be on time.

18:56 PLS add me on WhatsUpp through this number PLS omg I want pics of my little bby!!!! DO U FEED HIM and I can send you memes to show him so he’ll laugh LOL

18:56 LOL wtf ‘collect’

-

“It was Diana.”

Sucy cocked an eyebrow, “’Diana’?”

“I have a vet trip with Toby tomorrow!” Akko buzzed. “Oh bother, now I’m never going to get any sleep.”

“Is she for real?” Sucy indifferently pointed towards Akko while speaking to Lotte. “She’s like some ‘instant-friendship’ anomaly. Even I feel personally victimized.”

Lotte only smiled. “You have to sleep lest you subject poor children to a zombie for a teacher tomorrow.”

“That’s mean!”

Akko shared a laugh with Lotte, urging her to carry on with her story. They were getting to the good part—Edmund was about to confess!

One successful synopsis reading and a few topic changes later, Akko’s phone had buzzed once more.

It was a picture.

She squealed so hard her cheeks hurt.

“Akko, down! Yes—I see him—stop screaming or else I’m going to poison your drink.”

 -

 The driver pulled up at Arcturus School’s main driveway at exactly half-past noon.

“Please wait a moment.” Diana politely requested, mildly aware of the fact that she was beginning to miss the luxury of having her own car and service.

“Sure, just don’t leave me alone with that little fella, don’t matter how cute he might be.”

With a sigh—which was one of many at this point—she gently peered over to Toby whose head was poking out of the most comfortable canvas tote bag she could scavenge. It was that or nothing at all, and no, she wasn’t going to carry him in her arms.

‘Mew.’ He stared back up towards her. At least he seemed comfortable—and she tried to fight it but then she gave in and chuckled.

“Oh, come on then.”

Diana stepped out of the vehicle with Toby in tow. She pulled out her phone, putting a call through for the latest addition in her phonebook.

Ring. Ring. Ring.

Typical. She wasn’t picking up.

Fortunately she had anticipated this, there was a half-hour allowance in her schedule. Instead of bombarding the brunette with several missed calls, she opted to walk towards what looked like the waiting area where children were fetched. She took a moment to look around, noticing that the school grounds had an abundance of trees—much like the rest of Blytonbury and the campus of LNU. The morning classes were dismissed and children ran about. A few of them began to notice her special baggage, and one little girl ran up to her and nearly hugged her legs.

She had hazel eyes, and big, goofy grin. “You’re so pretty!”

Diana blinked. “Thank you.”

“Is that a cat?”

“Yes.” She lowered the bag a little, appreciating the wonder in the little girl’s voice. “But I can’t let you pet him yet, I’m afraid. He still bites.”

“But I—”

The little girl was cut-off by the sounded children cheering. Diana followed her line of sight and saw…

Akko.

She was playing music. And laughing. But more than that—everyone around her was smiling just as bright. Children sang while they danced in a circle around her, clapping their hands to the beat of what sounded like a ridiculously complicated rendition of the ABCs on the violin. The pace was quick while she played a progression of eight and sixteenth notes. The feel of the song was less classical and more like an upbeat Celtic dance.

And dance they did. Laughing, and clapping, and bouncing around in mirth without a care in the world.

Akko played with such joy and passion that Diana could feel the warmth from several meters away. She kept still—already forgetting her earlier dismay on being behind schedule—and simply watched.

“Do you know her?” The little girl with hazel eyes asked in a small voice.

Diana nodded, smiling to herself while trying to wrap her head around the conundrum that was Atsuko Kagari—who had red eyes, who tripped over nothing and scraped her knee, who could barely make it to her classes on time and yet could bewitch a crowd with a smile and a bit of music.

“She’s…”  

Even Toby looked he was watching.

“…my friend.”

 -

end chapter

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A/N: Hello everyone! Hope you're doing well, stayin' safe and staying home. So anyway here's another chapter and admittedly I only have a very rough outline of where I want this story to be and well... I like writing one shots because I'm REALLY bad at plotting out longer stuff like seriously, when I started this, I thought it would be 5 chapters long at most and yet here's chapter 5.

So I've decided to just go with it and take the time to explore and narrate the relationships/interactions I've got in my head AND I don't know anything about taking care of cats I AM SORRY IT PROBABLY SHOWS

Hope you're enjoying it so far! (AND I still owe Diana a happy birthday fic that may or may not involve feet due to some shenaginas I've seen on tumblr which I don't know if are jokes or not)

[vexus-u]

Anti discourse is eating fandom from the inside-out at the moment. This sort of thing is everywhere in the past few years, because the minority of people who gun hard for that sort of thing are so widespread, self-assured, and so ready to drop vile accusations at the drop of a hat that they are almost impossible to ignore.

I feel like a lot of people see this going on but don’t want to talk about it or comment on it, because they’ve seen the sort of fire that can be drawn if you don’t toe the line absolutely. People skirt the issue, or avoid talking about it, because really, who does want to deal with that whole mess? Who wants to risk the backlash? And then there are the folks who haven’t engaged closely enough to see through the buzzwords; the people who see a post that proclaims that it’s condemning “real pedophiles”, and like any outsider rightly would, thinks, “oh God, that’s awful!” and clicks reblog.

It’s a good camouflage, maybe even the best. I feel like these people might even have one-upped the TERF posts claiming to rail against misogyny, but by analogy at least I think people can be shown what’s really going on.

If we are going to make fandom a safer and less toxic place, I think we need to start facing this behavior head-on and stop averting our gaze as a community. As an individual it’s hard, I know. But there are real world consequences; self harm, mental illness, and suicide attempts (believe me when I say that I know from experience), that cannot be swept aside as easily as antis/fandom police can proclaim that anyone who disagrees with them simply deserves to die. If you’ve ever had tangential contact with that sort of discourse and have internalized what these people say as the norm, I think it would benefit you to take a step back and realize how unhealthy a mentality that is to have. It’s easy to denounce anyone who questions you as a degenerate unworthy of life. Makes things a lot easier for you, but I think that we all know where that can lead.

If you are reading this and truly are unaware of what I’m talking about, let me give you a brief run-down. I don’t have the time or the stomach to jump into this discourse as deep as the rabbit-hole goes, but I will give some context as to where I am speaking from. I am a queer woman with clinical OCD. So called anti-shipping/anti-fic/fandom purity discourse started appearing in my sphere round about four years ago, and pretty much nothing since has been as dangerous to my mental health. I cannot begin to sum up how much self-hate and anguish this sort of gaslighting has resulted in for me, but let me tell you, it’s been bad. My compulsion to deal with this sort of thing tends to manifest as anxious research, and so, trust me. I know what I’m talking about here.

Namely, if you are a complete outsider, there is a school of thought that has taken root in certain younger fan communities, among groups that feel like they lack control over the world at large. As fandom is often the main community that these folks have (I counted myself among that crowd), this frustration has evolved into an reactionary ideology that takes ideas about the cultural impact of fictional works in our society to ludicrous, absurd extremes.

Ideas about poor portrayals having the potential to convey negative ideas to a reader have evolved into the creation of a code of morals that frames any interaction with fiction as a form of moral advocacy for that which it contains. Shipping is reframed as an expression of beliefs about desirable relationship dynamics. Depictions of abuse are reframed as advocacy for abuse. The concept of romanticization, which usually is only applied to ideas in the context of otherwise contextless mainstream works without prior warnings, is transformed into an indictment of any depiction of any that could be perceived as harmful which is not followed by an explicit condemnation of said act. This becomes even more absurd when you consider that these attacks are often aimed at fanfiction which has already been tagged with explicit warnings for the reader. Always invoked to justify this is the spectre of “negative influence on the children”, but this is both neither the responsibility of random internet users operating in adult-tagged spaces, and also, as with the video game violence scare of the 90s, mostly unjustified fearmongering.

Perhaps even worse, this logic is extended to fictional elements that might be thought to recall certain negative ideas in the mind of the reader. Short characters are, fairly offensively, dubbed “child-coded”, and it is verboten to include them in any adult works. Similarly, adult AUs of younger characters which include sexual content are condemned simply because the characters concerned were initially portrayed by a different author as younger! This leads into a deeper rabbit hole, where fictional characters, who are plot figments with no “real” version or portrayal, are effectively reframed as if they were actual people, who can be harmed by the way that they are portrayed in fanfic. In some extreme fringe cases, I have actually seen this been expressed literally; by invocation of alternate realities in which fiction is real, or through otherkin.

These people will claim glibly that they are fighting against real abusers, and who would want to hear what a dirty abuser might say in response? But don’t be fooled. This lens is almost solely turned back on people in fandom communities who are most vulnerable, and is driven by an underlying fear of sex, sexuality, queer expression, and perceived “degeneracy”. Any slight excuse to construe a transformative work as impure is taken as license to reframe the author or artist as scum, and therefore worthy of the harassment they will ultimately receive. Tellingly, the most affected groups are often queer women, and this sort of thing can and does destroy lives and careers. Moreover, the vicious cycle of social pressure and retribution for stepping out of line ensures that this toxic ideology holds people who step into it in its grip, lest they be expunged from their communities. Sight is lost of the fact that, at the end of the day, all that the perpetrator is guilty of is creating fanwork that some people might find distasteful.

There’s a lot more to say which I won’t, but I will stress again that the harm that this sort of thing is doing cannot be underestimated. It’s an insidious and toxic mode of thought that seeps into communities through the buzzwords it leverages - accuse somebody of being a pedophile and people pay attention! But these words are being misused, and this discourse distracts from actual predators even as it is cause for unjustified targets to be suicide baited, driven from fandom spaces, and vindictively destroyed. People who already suffer from mental health issues, and especially anxiety disorders such as OCD, can be driven to self-destruction by the repeated accusations and gaslighting. We need to remind people that these behaviors are not normal, are not the righteous causes they present themselves as, and are not tolerated. In fandom communities particularly, I honestly believe that this issue is one of the most insidious and dangerous that we currently face. Fandom has become nominally progressive, at the expense of trojan horse ideologies such as the anti/purity discourse positioning themselves as too risky to shout down.

I think it is time to stop turning a blind eye, recognize what is happening in our communities, deradicalize the people who are responsible for the harassment, and try to fix some of the damage that has already been done.

[olivervalencia1993]

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[ochards]

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[thistherapylife]

Do you find it's harder to get teenagers to 'open up' as opposed to say an adult? What's it like working with teenagers in general? Do your feelings change towards them because of their younger age?

Hi anon, 

Let me tackle each question individually because I really love working with clients between 13 and 25!

Do you find it’s harder to get teenagers to ‘open up’ as opposed to say an adult? 

Personally, I don’t. I find it way easier. This isn’t the case for every clinician but my clinical style works really well with teens. I’ve written about Thistherapylife the Human vs Thistherapylife the Therapist and how they are different. Thistherapylife the Therapist? In that situation, my ego isn’t involved in clients coming to session (i.e. a clients has a thousand possible reasons to not want to engage in treatment. if one of those happens to me - I’d love the opportunity to explore it but I’m not going to get mad a client is mad at me or how ever they feel, etc.). It gives a lot of flexibility to clients. 

A lot of teens are wary about therapist - that’s fair! Most of my clients have had positive and negative experiences with therapists already and will be walking in with that but they aren’t walking in with same entrench defensive mechanisms as adults. While I find that much easier to deal with in session, others don’t. Even if they come in saying “I don’t want to share with you,” chances are for a large portion of them, they want to share it with someone who cares about them and who isn’t going to mock or dismiss them. Why on Earth would someone who has been hurt (often badly, by those who were supposed to love them) walk in with the expectation that the therapist will be a person like that? Maybe that person is you - if you give them time, honesty and respect they deserve. They want someone to understand them and to validate that what they are going through is hard. Becauses it really can be.

What’s it like working with teenagers in general? 

It requires a lot of understanding and patience. It requires honesty and being truly present. You gain more ground by admitting that you don’t know about x or that, you know what? I’m not on the top of my game this week because I’m getting over a cold - but I wanted to make sure that I checked in with you than half-truths. I love it. 

I feel like therapy isn’t about “fixing” - it’s about giving choice and working through stuff so that choice is there. This is doubled with teens. SO many people want them “fixed” or to be different in some way - From the mental health aspect teens get the same garbage that society feeds the rest of us but often from their caregivers (even if they aren’t meaning to be mean/harmful) From the mental health side - “Don’t be so anxious. You have nothing to worry about.” “Don’t be depressed - you don’t know suffering.” “Eat more/less.”  to the more typical “Get better grades” “Why aren’t you dating anyone?” (which can be loaded with homophobia among other things). Or you have kids who don’t have anyone asking those questions and who are having to figure it all out without that base that says, “You are worthy.” If you think about it, it is exhausting. But because they are still “kids,” that’s not validated for a lot of them. My job is to meet the client where they are at, while creating a collaboration around the goals they want to reach - which feels different than fixing them to me.

It’s hilarious and moving and absurd and enlightening. It’s insightful and challenging. It’s heartbreaking on the regular. It’s frustrating at time. It’s delightful most of the time. It requires a lot of consistency and boundary setting with a lot of flexibility. I laugh with my clients a lot. There are almost always big feelings, expressed verbally or no. It’s a study in contradictions and self-exploration. We do deep amazing work. I love it. 

Do your feelings change towards them because of their younger age?

Probably? It’s easier for me to see the behaviors that get them referred as symptoms of a larger issue or trauma without being frightened, especially with male clients (which is 100% my own shit). 

I think the hardest bit is knowing some teen clients are in shitty situations that they can’t get out of or when they have very few, if any, adults in their lives who really care about them. That’s when I like to being in community mental health and just around in the school a lot of the time - I can (and am expected to) be more engaged on a day to day basis than when I’m in a private practice setting so I see those clients in the halls, I follow up about whether or not they did the thing we talked about, etc. in a way that’s just not feasible when you aren’t onsite.

[foralwaysinallways-blog]

&& another one bites the dust..

Okay, so remember​ how MyDude played You Are Not The One by The Grouch the other day? Yea, well, it doesn’t end there, actually.. See, idk if you recall but when the song bit went down, MyDude and I were en route to drop Dre n Jackie off at Hunter’s apartment, on our way to the clinic that morning. Yea, well.. it wasn’t too long after MyDude played that excruciatingly hurtful song at me, that Jackie ran a her low-key batting her lashes bit at MyDude- gushing over every other song err artist that he chose to put on. Then proceeding on to go back n forth with him about who they have seen live && gushing all over every single one he shared. All from the backseat where she sat bitch next to Dre who was behind MyDude. Then as we got to their stop, they came up to a low-key dramatic situation that was shittiest for Jackie, having gotten into a big built up fight with Hunter the day before + her ex bestie, MissMe.inaction whom fucks with Dre, I guess, was also there && completely outa no where she all of the sudden starts persistently pushing to get MyDude to go inside with she and Dre, completely refusing NickBlunten’s eager offer to go up with them for her. But no, she aggressively insisted that she be accompanied by MYDUDE.. && you know i can’t even beg, guilt err bribe MyDude to back me up in similar situations. But there I was, stunned by what I was watching this girl run right in front of my face, as if I was not even seated right there the entire time.. my jaw finally dropping as I continue watching as he starts moving and reacting / responding to this whole situation in sucha way that immediately showed me that he was preparing himself to get out of the car asap. I responded without even thinking at all whatsoever, and casually got his attention, and privately expressing my perception of Jackie’s behavior and how it’s absolutely absurd to believe that she’d make that happen in sucha way. She clearly doesn’t properly understand who she’s been fuckin with; who I truly am. Anyways, since then, I have more elaborately discussed everything with MyDude and increasingly fucked with him / gave him shit for his ‘new GF, Jackie Robinson’ (oh, ughh - I called him Christopher Robin- ugghh fuuuuuck..=|) && still, every time we spend time with her, she clings to MyDude’s nuts in all kinds of various ways, all of them cliche n obvious af that she whole heartedly believes that she is being sneaky and succeeding lol Eventually I told MyDude that if we are guna be around Jackie any more that I need him to not behave in ways that promote, condone or encourage her inappropriate actions towards, about and to him by any means. He needed to not only shoot her advances down, but also make a firm point to express his love, respect n loyalty to me in response to her every single time. So he was not only consistently rejecting her but proudly repin me n us at the same times too. He firmly agreed with me saying that he totally understood and was capable and willing to do so, being present and solid in his personal role within the entire situation. I immediately challenged him entirely, calling him out on prior situations that went down exactly like we just had before.. with him convincing me that he will absolutely act and behave a particular way within a previously​ predicted n anticipated situation with another individual whom I was beefin with at the time && how every single time did he not only betray me completely by not backing me up n behaving as he previously promises but furthermore, blatantly choosing to back up the opposing person and fighting against me, entirely on my own. He stayed unflinching, swearing promises of going to bat for my team this time around. And so, one a fuckin gain, I surely can’t truly hardly believe in an ounce of a single damn thing that he says.. but I don’t think I can live the rest of my life wondering what if he really has finally learned the error of his ways n is genuinly assuring me this time, with complete sincerity of what he is saying he’ll do. So, knowing all too damn well by this point that the probability err likeliness of this time being any different from each of the last times is slim to none.. Therefore, it’s beyond highly doubtful that MyDude is guna ultimately choose to simply invest, even the teensiest amount of himself into MY happiness n well being. But I hold onto the hope within the possibility n giving him the opportunity to completely fuck me off in the same exact way all over again n wait, watching in hopes of any kinda sign that this was really it this time afterall. Damn, fuckin a, man, how embarrassingly pathetic, ykno? Shit man, fuck! Ugh! But yea, so.. the next time we spent with her was last night. She whined some dramatic shit about Dre being a dick to her n fucking her off n over n ’ leaving (her) for dead ’ so I immediately discussed the whole bit with MyDude n confirmed his solid promised word before hitting her back to say we r on the way to swoop her. She was right back at it from the very millisecond she entered into our presence. MyDude obviously wasnt all in err fully committed, if you will, but there was a definite improvement on his part none the less which lead to my overall choice to cut him some slack while enjoying the legitimate progress he’s made despite that we were most definitely not completely in the clear just yet, by any means. But I bit my tongue n stayed smiling anyways. It was late already as we picked her up so we were all together back at the pad for a very short legnth of time before we MyDude and I said goodnight n made our way to our bedroom together. We slept in uncommonly late the next day (today) ultimately leaving Jackie out in the garage until late this afternoon lol MyDude was quick to agree as I asked him to go wake her up as I finished up getting myself ready to head out to the clinic, taking n dropping Jackie off where she needed on the way. I mean, yes, I did ask him if he would please wake her so I could finish getting ready.. that’s completely true. BUT MyDude didn’t have to accept err agree. Not by any means. I mean, even tho we have not experienced this particular issue with each of our roles reversed like, I haven’t had to make any of the specific promises that he has had to make to keep me yet in the same situation vice versa, I would have automatically replied back to him saying, ’ no, he’s a guy, you wake him up, please?! If it was a girl I’d do it for the same reason of respect n loyalty but I’d totally appreciate it if you would handle the one on one kinda stuff whenever it’s another dude that we are kicking it with, ykno? Im not trying to make you mad or refuse to help you out when you specifically asked me to but I just think it’d be much more worth it to handle this this way, ykno? Is that okay? && Is there another way I can help you out right now? ’ .. all I’m saying is that there is absolutely no valid reason that MyDude wouldn’t be able to reply to me in a similar nature, right? Right. N the way that I see it, if he truly felt for me as he so consistently swears up n down to, then he should, naturally keeping me in his mind, find himself identifying the specific things I have talked to him about, afterwards, in real life, ykno? N when such situations arise again, he should be making a legit point to be handling everything differently then before in efforts of improving overall, to benefit me and my life n my overall well being. But whatever.. all in all, he chose to promptly agree to wake her as I asked n went right out n did it. Staying silent as he came back into our bedroom with me. Soon after that we were all back in our usual seats in my mom’s whip, dipping out to drop her off wherever on our way to the clinic together. As we made our way onto the freeway the song I Got 5 On It began playing on the station my lazy ass had left the radio on focusing moreso on finishing my makeup. As the song played I remembered the last time that we were making the same drive around the same time of day with Jackie n Dre, and how Jackie had made an obvious attempt to ’ unintentionally’ showoff how she knows all of the words to the whole song, as it’s a classic crowd pleaser, no doubt. She wanted to impress MyDude, having just recently run her first 'music match made in heaven’ bit on him right in front of my face. I mentioned out loud to him that I’d noticed how the song had played last time we were driving to drop her off n MyDude agreed without saying much but obviously thinking deeply in his head, sitting silent to my left. He soon began bursting out in little fits of laughter and Jackie would echo each and everytime without fail, n he continued to add little bitsof commentery with his laughter, that quickly let me know that the radio station had censored the song, slaughtering the lyrics up with super funny alternative lines n rhymes. So he and Jackie listened intently to the song, laughing together at every last little change as I stayed quiet, not knowin all of the words, thus not knowing when to laugh.. just stuck being left out while MyDude makes a point of obviously silently telling the braud who’s been crushing on him, that he likes and knows all the words to that song too n sits listening to keep on laughing with her over n over again, right in front of my face even though he’d just recently assured, promised, swore n even confirmed to me to reject her while reppin his love, respect n loyalty with me, remember? Yea.. && I knew the probability of this kinda outcome but I still held onto that stupid little hope within possibility, ykno? Ugghh!

Oh && also.. we still haven’t had sex again yet. Last time was early morning of 3/14 … N it’s now April 28th, fuuuck man. How pathetically embarrassing on my part, right? Shit man, fuck.. ugh. *sigh*

[Friday.April.28.2017…855pm]

[psychologicaltherapy]

A Psychological Treatment Based on The Recognition of The Truth

The true interpretation of this significance of fantasies reflects the superior understanding of their subconscious mind which produces your fantasies within an organized manner with all the aim that will simply help your conscience eventually become smarter and overcome emotional illnesses. The subconscious mind is really a therapist. Carl Jung could detect the actual significance of the symbolic fantasy language and also the psychotherapeutically capability of this subconscious guidance in fantasies.

 But, Jung's way of dream interpretation is more complicated, frustrating, and vague. His method is therefore complicated that those that follow with his psychology can't learn his way of dream interpretation, so unless they devote special consideration to the significance of fantasies for a very long time period, which has to surpass a couple of decades of fantasy therapy.

 The simple fact clinical psychology therapy Pasadena CA I could simplify Carl Jung's way of dream interpretation afterwards detecting more and afterwards healing lots of individuals to clinic for 2 decades simplifies a significant issue. Nobody would be able to study this complicated and vague technique of dream interpretation for decades to detect the actual power of fantasies. But this ability is an option that may end all human issues.

 I really could simplify Jung's way of dream interpretation because I just uttered the advice of this subconscious mind which produces our fantasies, while Jung was scared to wholly trust the subconscious mind, even with detecting that the subconscious mind is God's mind.

 The celestial subconscious mind revealed me that the full content of this mental faculties, working such as a therapist for me personally, and like a teacher. I really could detect the occurrence of our crazy hindsight, that the anti-conscience. This discovery is extremely important since it reflects the conclusion of mental disorders. The anti-conscience creates mental ailments inside our conscience.

 You've got to get rid of your anti-conscience through familiarity, so you can eradicate the absurdity you've inherited. This is actually a procedure performed through fantasy translation. All fantasies contain messages that are precious, which work just like psychotherapy and mind boggling.

 These messages also work-like spiritual purification as you do away with one's immoral and violent trends. You learn to listen to some other people's pain. You know to honour every one and become always loyal to an ethical prosecution.

Now you recognize the significance of goodness. You know the way you can be a patient one who consistently shows understanding to all humans. You quit after a behavioral patterns of anger and aggression. You grow to be an aware individual who's consistently sensitive and wise.

 Your fantasies provide you trustful information as they're natural resources made by God to safeguard your sanity and also allow you to grow. You check the wisdom in the fantasy messages whenever you interpret their significance in line with this scientific system of dream interpretation.

 The scientific writings depending on Carl Jung's discoveries and in my discoveries later continued his research are many unique from the fantasy interpretations of this dumb world.

 By Way of Example, this is a fantasy scene by a very long dream surfaced by a man:

'There has been quite a narrow and long wooden bridge over the lake. I was scared to make use of this bridge to cross over the river. I was seeking a boat. I saw an abandoned ship close to the lake '

 Fantasy translation:

'There has been quite a narrow and long wooden bridge over the lake. I was scared to make use of this bridge to cross over the river'

The bridge indicates you have to cross the river. It symbolizes challenging. At the opposite side of this bridge, you'll fulfil your anti-conscience, the uncontrolled side of one's own conscience. Which usually means you will confirm the occurrence of a foolish conscience in your brain.

The wooden bridge isn't quite as watertight as a iron bridge. The simple fact you were scared to make use of this bridge usually means your self is fearful of this practice of understanding that you need to follow, therefore you can comprehend the occurrence of one's absurd and wicked anti-conscience.

You can't accept the simple fact that a huge part of one's conscience is under developed. This approval is debilitating for you since you never desire to comprehend that people are in reality caked primates.

You prefer to feel that you're intelligent. That you never desire to feel poor as you've got an absurd and wicked conscience which did not evolve just like your individual conscience.

That you never desire to think in the presence of one's anti-conscience. You would rather feel that you're intelligent and you also know what it is you might be doing in your life. That you never desire to satisfy your own absurdity.

 ·         'I was searching to get a boat. I saw an abandoned ship close to the lake '

·         You reflect your own self in fantasies.

·         The ship reflects a study.

 The left-handed ship could be your left-handed search of a certain section of one's own personality.

 Yourself wishes to keep on the abandoned search of a certain portion of one's nature and find out about the task you need to handle in the place of crossing the bridge along with accepting this challenge without even knowing what might happen for you personally.

 Which usually means you have to create more efforts in order to relish the individual nature without feeling feeble. You've got to review more and analyze this thing for the reason that it disturbs you and you also don't need to instantly recognize the prerequisite to simply accept your ridiculous side.

 You've got to comprehend that by recognizing the occurrence of one's absurd and wicked conscience you're going to have the ability to get rid of it in the mind and mind. In the event that you'll insist on dismissing its presence, you'll be a casualty of this absurdity it arouses to a conscience, without any understanding the truth.

 You're frightened to verify that you're less balanced because you believed you're, and you don't restrain your behaviour in most conditions.

 But this knowledge may assist you to learn to develop into balanced individual being and consistently restrain your behaviour. To start with, you've got to comprehend the reality.

 After comprehending the facts, you encourage the prerequisite to modify your behaviour and quit making the mistakes enforced by your own anti-conscience, to ensure you, the individual being existing to your conscience can restrain your behaviour, and maybe not your crude conscience, the dangerous anti-conscience.

 In the event that you'll won't acknowledge the fact, you'll necessarily be a casualty of one's crazy conscience without comprehending that the strange thoughts that move across the mind aren't your ideas. They truly are ridiculous ideas sent from the anti-conscience, as when they belonged to a conscience.

 You've got to think in the presence of one's anti-conscience therefore you may possibly seriously struggle the absurdity it arouses to a conscience, with no passive victim of its own absurdity since you feel that its thoughts result from the conscience.

 Your anti-conscience invades your conscience together with its foolish notions and must participate in one's conscience. You need to discover to distinguish the notions that appeal to an own conscience by the absurd notions which can come in the anti-conscience.

 This is the reason it's very important that you handle your anti-conscience at the opposing side of this bridge.

 The recognition of this facts can be debilitating for you whether you're vain, or whether you're naïve and also you feel human beings have become intelligent animals. The celestial subconscious thoughts can help you accept the facts about your crazy nature; therefore, you can discover the way to get a distinct mindset.

 In the event you really don't desire to observe that you're abusive in most conditions, you won’t have the ability to learn just how to often be calm and serene. As a question of fact, you won’t have the ability to comprehend the significance to be calm as opposed to bursting of anger.

 Lots of men and women think their anger protects them out of the planet, plus so they don't really wish to learn the way to make calm. In the event that you'll stick to this mentality you won’t comprehend just how superior you're whenever you reveal understanding.

 Whenever you're calm, you're not infected by anger. You mechanically forgive all of human beings since you are aware they truly are imperfect creatures.

 The subconscious mind is actually a smart therapist. The subconscious mind makes it possible to comprehend just why you must leave the abusive, selfish, and immoral trends you have endured, and without thinking they truly are part of one's self-defensive mechanism. You detect a philosophical foundation behind your activities, which can help you warrant that the prerequisite to depart the previous behaviour and possess a distinct mindset.

 This backdrop makes it possible to truly feel just like a hero if you're fighting your unwanted tendencies. You know that by confronting this challenge you're evolving as an individual being. You comprehend that the significance of wisdom.

 The side of one's conflict provides you an objective. You struggle what's awful since you think in the ability of goodness. You would like to evolve. You wish in order to at all times show understanding rather than behaving like a crazy creature whenever something or someone causes your anger.

 The subconscious lessons assist you realize the need for one's own transformation. You've got explanations which allow you to change your own behaviour and eventually become more self-explanatory. You believe you are ready to at all times restrain your behaviour rather than create the mistakes that you will create in case you were abusive.

[aruneshgoyal]

O

OF LIFE n @ WORK!!   

Of LIFE & At WORK!! Golden rule: Work to live, NOT live to work! 

(Although these days one lives and works only for money…….) Just think, how fragile life is? (These days one believes he is immortal and just can never die; 

….. how can I….. let others die by all means but how can I…) 

Control your actions or someone else will! 

(Although these days one likes to control others as much as he can ……) 

Seek simplicity (these days, however, one is considered ultra modern and advanced if he seeks the complex instead of being naïve & simple, other words for a complete fool…) 

Understand yourself and themes related to your life; invest in things/values you value most; prioritize your values (what components do you WANNA in your life?) 

{Nothing really to think about, man; you only want money, nothing else) 

Friendship 

Honesty 

Loyalty 

Power & Influence 

Respect for others Love 

Integrity 

Ego 

Self-fulfillment 

Close relationships 

Community 

Acquisition of k/w 

Creativity 

Stability 

Adventure 

Excitement 

Public Recognition 

Cooperation 

Competence 

Self-value 

Family relations 

Use of force/violence 

Forgiveness 

Reliability 

Physical-wellbeing 

Sports 

Work 

Career 

Interests/Hobbies ETC. 

{All the positive abilities one can easily ignore if he has money power at his command….} 

Have a master plan as well as short term & long term goals (write IT out!) ….. NO NEED really, all plans just cater to money

It’s not cast in stone (focus -> dream -> involve -> okay to redefine and refine!) …….. WHAT WILL YOU DREAM, REFINE …. Except money 

Align work & life goals (if possible, have a life vision/mission statement!) ….. Vision statement , well 100 x KBC’s 

Analyze your finances (how much money do I actually need so as NOT to feel insecure after 35, 45, 55 ..?) 

….. In spite of whatever money one has, he still feels insecure, so better to forsake, I feel than accumulate….of course others may have a different opinion …. Which I accept fully and bow down! 

What do I need to feel good? ….. Of course, you said It… money N what else 

What makes me feel bad; how to change this? ……… Shortage of money, in one word, nobody can of course change this; it is self-created! 

What drives me? YOU SAID IT NOW again – Money or … anything…something 

What I WANNA do? …. Make money 24 hrs. 

When will I be truly content /happy? (OH GOD, this is an easy One, …. NEVER 

Live for yourself too! …. That’s what people are doing; I don’t really know what the writer means or wants to say; has he gone insane or just berserk?? When I live for my ego, my image, my reputation, I’m in fact living for others …… That I don’t WANNA Do at any cost! 

I have to try and avoid extremes which seem tempting! …… This law fails when it comes to extreme of money, as I understand, right? 

Remember the law of diminishing returns (you can’t work beyond a limit) …. Yes, you can, because you have an unending and insatiable desire for money …… and of course…..that! You must recharge before you begin again ….. Money and that is the best recharger ever built!! 

From complexity, go to simplicity (less is more!)….. Oh! MY GOD!! What bullshit!! One should always do the reverse in the modern context…… 

Lower your expectations … What? Are you mad?? Are of this world??? 

Get over materialism….. Impossible (in one word that is, if you like) 

Live within your means …. WHY should I? Premium loans, credit cards ALL are easily available …. Just press of a button… that’s all it takes, get IT

Prune your friendships …. Why should I? Expand, man expand, who knows, you might just need anybody in your eternal search for money!! 

Go for quality …. WHAT? Quantity is the byword, Understand, my dear? `Challenge the mundane….. NO, routine is better than constant Change… what do you say? 

“Falling in love” skews the balance in your life invariably; don’t get irritated OVER it! ……… Anyway, what will you get even if you get irritated or bang your Head against the wall??? 

Career and a family have to be carefully and astutely managed……. Career comes first, forget the family, man 

Immediate/Extended family….. What are you talking about? Extended family… I never heard anything like that ……. Only immediate results… immediate family for ME 

Steal time from work….. NO need, work from morning to evening like an ass is best today 

Family just WANNA you be there with them…. Nobody wants you to be there unless and until you have IT, of course, you got It, I mean, the money

… Involve family in your work…… YOU just need to involve yourself in money …… and …. That!

 Don’t pretend you are working for family …… WHAT? Pretensions are a way of modern day life! 

Keep your partner happy….. WHO SAID IT? You only need to keep yourself happy, let everybody else go to HELL, by ALL Means!!!!! 

Remember special days/occasions…. Forget why they are special, remember everything else, right? 

Formalize your shared goals….. SHARED? I’m so sorry. YOUR EXCLUSIVE GOALS…. 

Allow each other time alone….. NOT AT ALL. Loneliness is just not a way of life these days… 

Provide support & encouragement…… YOU have to support and encourage only yourself for the cause of money…..understand, my dear? 

Don’t compete with your partner…..  I got it so utterly wrong when in fact competition is a way of life in the modern world! 

Spend special time with children; don’t lower their self-esteem; remember quality time spent with them is a good/strong investment, not wastage of time……. Well, children WANNA their own whale of a time; they don’t WANNA listen to good advice …. So better stay away from them!!!! 

Saying ‘NO’ helps sometimes (‘sorry’ isn’t the hardest word!)……. DIE BUT NEVER SAY SORRY….it can harm your ego so much! 

Speak softly but carry a big stick …… SPEAK HARD & CRUDE with a soft stick works best now-a-days 

Say ‘no’ graciously ……. I never heard of IT 

Be honest, supportive, do later, offer another suggestion; cite prior commitment,  “My partner will kill me”……….. WHATEVER EXCUSE YOU CAN OFFER will do! 

Be aware of your obsessions and obsessive behavior …….. WHY????????????? Taking on too much….. That’s how you are considered worthwhile & responsible Manage your boss……….. NO WAY you can do it since your boss is more cunning than you Make yourself indispensable….. Don’t even think about it …. You will be straight away fired Pre-empt your boss and superiors…… SAME PROBLEM here too 

Time Vs Money ……. MONEY Vs Money Time is NOT something that can be saved but ONLY utilized properly…… Time is considered best utilized when it is indulged in making money…..in fact, lots of money at that 

Slow down time; sit & observe; enjoy and remain in the ‘present’………. In the age of moon & Mars, this is utterly foolish and absurd 

Try to move up the ladder in Maslow’s need hierarchy: (Forget IT, only need is Money and to some extent….. that) 

TOP: ..(MONEY & THAT) 

Self-actualization (being my thing) ……. 

MONEY & that Esteem (self and peer value) …………..

Money & that Belonging (friends, affiliations, love)…… 

MONEY & that Safety & Security (freedom, physical & mental feeling of being secure)…… 

Money & that Physiological needs (food/drink, shelter, relations) ……. 

Money & that 

BOTTOM: …. (MONEY & THAT) 

Where is my pressure coming from? …….. Of course, from money and wife Residual Guilt…….. Wife 

Disappointment……..Wife 

The emotional drain of fear……… WIFE 

Time is running out……… WIFE 

Confusion of values……… WIFE 

Conditioning………..Wife 

Fear of future…….WIFE 

Is it real or just my perception? Of course, my perception 

Who/what conditions me? MONEY, Wife, that 

Am I able to make decisions? Wife Does  

Do I have k/w, education/wisdom? Wife has

  Do I feel left behind? YES, behind my wife; ahead of all others! 

Do I fear retirement/should I retire? Why should I ever retire when I can still earn and then my wife…. The thought sends shivers down my spine!! 

Are my behavior patterns entrapping me? I’m entrapping everything!!!!!!!!! 

Do I need to change my mind set about aging? ….. YES, of course, I can always color my hair black, you see!! 

Can I feel better physically? YES, there’s the ultra modern gym for me!!!!!!! Eating healthy YES, burgers, pizzas and what you have are the in-thing, home-made bread and food is surely OUT 

DETOX Yes, DETOX Clinics abound; never mind the money they charge! Weight control exercises etc. Yes, I can control my weight to look handsome and sunny, never mind the expenses!! 

Who do I trust to tell the truth? NOBODY (in one word) 

The more one is educated and the more experience one has, the more is the realization of the simple gift of common sense! (NOBODY has common sense but thinks only he has, all others are fools of the highest order) 

Organizations can help people find fulfillment by: (organizations are just there to exploit employees to make money) 

A culture of sense and transparency (What are you talking about; when they talk about transparency, they in fact, mean to be absolutely opaque and nothing else) 

Making work enjoyable (rotating work hours, work from home facility, etc.) ….. These are just bywords to please on paper, not in actual essence!

 Making products in alignment with customer needs, not just for the wow factor! WHAT DID I SAY NOW? A Big Blunder! How can anybody forget the wow factor ever????????? 

WAKE UP TO THE CLARION CALL AND GET READY TO DO WORK! /….. Get ready to earn more money……../ 

BE IDEAL LADIES n GENTLEMEN /………… be practical women & men ………../ 

MAKE GOOD USE OF YOUR TIME /…..To earn …… and Do …… that, Got IT……../ BE CAREFUL TO LIGHT THE LAMP OF KNOWLEDGE (True Wisdom) /…… lamp of money & that is enough …………. /

  I KNOW THAT I DON’T KNOW /….. Oh I know everything in terms of the modern man …………/ 

Love All /…… loving yourself, in fact, money is enough ………/ 

BE YOUR OWN SELF /…. Be a hypocrite …../ 

Glory of Equanimity / …… NOT for you …/

Never ever look at other’s faults but your own blunders ?reverse loop will be better/ 

Live for others and they will live for you ?live for yourself N world is at your feet in case you earn enough/ 

HAPPINESS IS JUST A CREATION OF OUR MIND; RESOLVE TO BE HAPPY AT ALL TIMES!  / resolve to earn @ALL times/ 

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One CUP Away 

It is commonly believed and I quote:

 "One Cup of Tulsi leaves juice every day keeps you away from Cancer forever; 

One Cup of Apple Juice every day keeps you away from the Doctor forever; 

One Cup of Milk every day keeps you away from weakness of the body forever"!

 I just want to add n share: 

'One cup of Divine Nectarine Juice every day keeps away the fear of death forever: 

The Nectar of God's HOLY n Pious NAME..! 

Bhaj Manna Radhe Govinda, Shriman Narayan Vithhala........ ! !' 

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Concerns You’ve Always Wondered Concerning Your Sexual Desire

Concerns You’ve Always Wondered Concerning Your Sexual Desire

Sexual desire intel awaits.

You’ve most likely pondered more often than once if for example the partnership to intercourse is actually typical. Do you consider about any of it adequate or a lot of? Are you currently having pretty much gender than everybody else? And, moreover, in case you care and attention?

Whenever broaching the topic of sexual desire, it’s tough to not right away inquire exactly just just how “normal” your thoughts, behaviors, and choice is. But, similar to ideas relating to our anatomies, sexual desire was just great deal more complex than most of us imagine. Very, we expected health that is sexual simply to walking all of us through sexual desire 101, delving in to the usual issues therefore the interesting nuance that encircles this topic. Hopefully you’ll come far from this with a significantly better comprehension of what’s “normal” and what you should do in the event that you continue to have inquiries.

What exactly is lib

You have read this phrase put just like a catch-all to spell it out a couple of various phenomena that are sexual. “It’s those types of statement that gets tossed in a lot, and people may have a different notion of just what this means,” Madeleine M. Castellanos, M.D., a board-certified doctor specializing in gender treatments and writer of attempting to wish, informs HOME.

Specialist, nevertheless, generally utilize the name “libido” to send with the psychological facet of intimate desire.

“It’s that feelings of drive or desire to take part in intimate actions,” intercourse and affairs specialist Kristen level, Ph.D., M.P.H, manager for the sex Health advertising research and a co-employee teacher of fitness marketing during the institution of Kentucky, says to PERSONAL.

Could it be exactly like sexual arousal?

Not necessarily, nevertheless they are relating. As Dr. Castellanos describes, sexual desire is approximately what’s taking place in your thoughts (like whenever you’re shed inside a hot dream) while sexual arousal is all about what’s taking place within you (like acquiring damp for those who have a penis) if you have a vagina or getting an erection.

The dilemma is available in because sexual desire and arousal that is sexual increase and drop along, claims Mark, who’s furthermore an affiliate marketer professors associate at the Kinsey Institute for investigation in Intercourse, sex, and copy at Indiana college. For this reason issues obtaining physiologically turned on can restrict mental need and the other way around.

But arousal and libido aren’t usually linked. Your may undertaking higher quantities of sexual desire without having the real indicators of arousal (like whenever you think truly switched on but aren’t getting wet). Or perhaps you can experience real indications of arousal (like improved erection or lubrication) even in the event you’re not necessarily psychologically into the state of mind.

That is referred to as arousal non-concordance. There’s nothing completely completely wrong along with it. It is just something which can happen often whenever a body is had by you. It is usually believe that individuals with vaginas which determine as lady generally have significantly less dexterity between their particular biological intimate arousal and emotional want than individuals with penises perform, tag states. But, like a great many other products with sensual erotic massage porn regards to intercourse, it isn’t a rule that is hard-and-fast.

Could it be odd if We don’t feeling switched on until situations get started?

Never. That’s called receptive need, also it’s the principal style of sexual desire for most people, tag states. Receptive need do arise until someone n’t starts participating in sexual intercourse, Dr. Castellanos clarifies. Perhaps you happened to be theoretically available to sex with your lover but performedn’t truly have the need until they begun scrubbing the back.

This really is rather than desire that is spontaneous. In cases like this, you almost wish gender away from nowhere, like should you decide glance at your lover and see their head of hair is dropping for the reason that swoopy ways you like.

Both kinds of want were perfectly organic. It is additionally regular experiencing both paperwork at different details or even in various contexts. Inside our people plus in typical advice when you look at the mass media (imagine: intimate comedies, pornography, etc.), impulsive need is oftentimes depicted while the best type, and sometimes even truly the only sort, so you could think strange if you’re more of the receptive sort. Believe all of us, you’re perhaps not.

What matters being a “normal” sexual desire?

Very good news: “There was no regular,” Leah Millheiser, M.D., medical associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology and ob/gyn at a women Sexual drug regimen at Stanford medication, says to PERSONAL.

Every individual possess their very own standard of what seems very great, all-natural, and libido-wise that is satisfying Dr. Millheiser describes. It’s likely you have no obvious sexual desire to talk about and believe completely good with this. You could become some amount of intimate appeal every and be fine with that day. Both include great. Sexual desire can vary as a result of different points we’ll go into afterwards, but all of our point nonetheless stall.

Additionally, take into account that progressively obsolete presumptions about intercourse and gender perform a part that is huge the conception of “normal” libido, level states. A lot of us have already been provided the lay that people remember gender 24/and that ladies can generally go on it or let it rest (look at the stereotype that is old of lady choosing a frustration as a reason never to have intercourse along with her spouse). This sort of reductive reasoning are oppressive to folks of all men and women. Yes, it is correct that some human human bodily hormones usually thought of as “male,” like testosterone, is related to improved sexual desire and usually present in greater values in individuals with penises. But to utilize that thought to declare that everybody by having a manhood experience higher amounts of sexual desire after all circumstances is actually absurd, not forgetting clinically unfounded. The main thing to keep in mind is the fact that there’s quite a bit of area for just what matters just like a “normal” sexual desire, irrespective of the gender, sex identification, or sexual direction.

Can there be such thing as also lowest or libido that is too high?

This dates back compared to that entire thing that is no-normal. Their sexual desire are too much or lower in some way for you if it’s persistently deviating from your norm or bothering you.

An individual whoever libido has actually plummeted can be having libido that is low up to a ailment like despair, that could drain a large amount of the delight from ordinarily enjoyable tasks. Additionally, actually you have depression, you might have trouble getting physically aroused or having an orgasm if you do mentally want to have sex when. an instability of neurotransmitters in it can be made by the brain hard for mind tissue to organize blood circulation towards the intercourse body organs, the Cleveland center explains.

Another issue that is common can cause a lowered libido was dyspareunia, the healthcare label for serious pain during intercourse. Numerous ailments could cause they, like endometriosis, uterine fibroids, vaginismus (if the genital muscle groups reflexively tighten up, producing entrance harm), and vulvodynia. Aside from the actual disquiet, dyspareunia can donate to emotions of worry across the simple looked at sex, more lowering sexual desire, Dr. Millheiser states.

There’s also a great deal of healthcare interest around exactly exactly what has come is titled hypoactive desire disorder that is sexual. In the event that you’ve come disrupted from a chronically lower or missing libido for at the least half a year and you’re able to exclude additional factors, then you might has HSDD. “These were those who generally believe okay in almost every different part of their particular lifetime except her sexual drive,” Dr. Castellanos claims. “It just evaporates, and there’s hardly any other reason we are able to look for.” Professionals were exploring whether or otherwise not neurological distinctions could be viewed when it comes to those having, Dr. Millheiser clarifies.

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Expert: Western culture is clearly obsessed with rules, guilt, submissiveness and punishment. By now it is clear that the West is the least free society on Earth. In North America and Europe, almost everyone is under constant scrutiny: people are spied on, observed, their personal information is being continually extracted, and the surveillance cameras are used indiscriminately. Life is synchronized and managed. There are hardly any surprises. One can sleep with whomever he or she wishes (as long as it is done within the ‘allowed protocol’). Homosexuality and bisexuality are allowed. But that is about all; that is how far ‘freedom’ usually stretches. Rebellion is not only discouraged, it is fought against, brutally. For the tiniest misdemeanors or errors, people end up behind bars. As a result, the U.S. has more prisoners per capita than any other country on Earth, except the Seychelles. And as a further result, almost all conversations, but especially public discourses, are now being controlled by so-called ‘political correctness’ and its variants. But back to the culture of fear and punishment. Look at the headlines of the Western newspapers. For example, The New York Times from April 12. 2018: “Punishment of Syria may be harsher this time”. We are so used to such perverse language used by the Empire that it hardly strikes us as twisted, bizarre, pathological. It stinks of some sadomasochistic cartoon, or of a stereotypical image of an atrocious English teacher holding a ruler over a pupil’s extended hands, shouting, “Shall I?” Carl Gustav Jung described Western culture, on several occasions, as a “pathology”. He did it particularly after WWII, but he mentioned that the West had been committing terrible crimes in all parts of the world, for centuries. That is most likely why the Western mainstream psychiatrists and psychologists have been glorifying the ego-centric and generally apolitical Sigmund Freud, while ignoring, even defaming, Carl Gustav Jung. Poster of human zoo at Military Museum in Paris (Photo: Andre Vltchek) The extreme form of sadism is a medical condition; it is an illness. And the West has been clearly demonstrating disturbing and dangerous behavioral patterns for many centuries. Let’s look at the definition of sadism, or professionally, Sadistic Personality Disorder (SPD), which both the United States and Europe could easily be diagnosed with. This is an excerpt of a common definition of the SPD, which appears in Medigoo.com and on many other on-line sites: …The sadistic personality disorder is characterized by a pattern of gratuitous cruelty, aggression, and demeaning behaviors which indicate the existence of deep-seated contempt for other people and an utter lack of empathy. Some sadists are “utilitarian”: they leverage their explosive violence to establish a position of unchallenged dominance within a relationship… It is familiar, isn’t it? The Empire’s behavior towards Indochina, China, Indonesia, Africa, Latin America, Russia, the Middle East and other parts of the world. US sponsored coup in Chile on 9-11-1973 (Photo: Andre Vltchek) What about the symptoms? …Sadistic individuals have poor behavioral controls, manifested by a short temper, irritability, low frustration tolerance, and a controlling nature. From an interpersonal standpoint, they are noted to be harsh, hostile, manipulative, lacking in empathy, cold-hearted, and abrasive to those they deem to be their inferiors. Their cognitive nature is considered rigid and prone to social intolerance, and they are fascinated by weapons, war, and infamous crimes or perpetrators of atrocities. Sadists classically are believed to seek social positions that enable them to exercise their need to control others and dole out harsh punishment or humiliation… Just translate “sadistic individuals” to “sadistic states”, or “sadistic culture”. Is there any cure? Can a sadist be effectively and successfully treated? Treating a sadistic personality disorder takes a long time… And many sites and publications carry a clear disclaimer: The above information is for processing purpose. The information provided herein should not be used during any medical emergency… And humanity is right now clearly at the crossroads, facing annihilation, not only a ‘medical emergency’. The world may soon have to literally fight for its survival. It is because of the SPD of the West and its Empire. ***** So, what is in store for us now; for instance, for Syria? What will the sadistic psychopath do to a country that refused to kneel, to prostitute itself, to beg for mercy, to sacrifice its people? How horrible will the “punishment” be? We have just witnessed 103 missiles being fired towards Damascus and Homs. But that is only what the Empire did to entertain its masses. It has been doing much more evil and cruel things to the nation which constantly refuses to glorify the Western imperialist and its neocon dogmas. For instance, the Empire’s ‘professionals’ have been manufacturing, training and arming the most atrocious terrorist groups and injecting them into the body of Syria. The torture will, of course, continue. It clearly appears that this time the script will be based on some latter adaptation of the Marquise de Sade’s work, on his novel Juliette, not Justine. You see, in Justine, women were ‘only’ tied up, slapped and raped. In Juliette, they were cut to pieces, alive; they were burned and mutilated. While Justine can still be read, no normal human being could go through the 700 pages of pure gore that is Juliette. But our planet has somehow got used to the horrors that have been administered by the sick Western Empire. People watch occurrences in places like Afghanistan, Syria, Iraq or Libya as ‘news’, not as the medical record of a severely ill psychiatric patient. The most terrible ‘novel’ in the history of our Planet has been written, for centuries, by the appalling brutality and sadism of first Europe and then by its younger co-author – the United States. And the human beings in many parts of our Planet have gotten so used to the carnage which surrounds them that they do not throw up anymore; they do not feel horrified, do not revolt against their fate. They just watch, as one country after another falls; is violated publicly, gets ravaged. The mental illness of the perpetrator is undeniable. And it is contagious. Names of, and photos of, murdered Chilean people by pro-US military junta (Photo: Andre Vltchek) In turn, the extreme violence that has been engulfing the world has triggered various neuroses and mental conditions (masochism, extreme forms of submission, to name just two of many) among the victims. ***** Exposure to the constant and extreme violence ‘prescribed’ and administered by the West, has left most of the world in a neurotic lethargy. Like a woman locked in a marriage with a brutal religious fanatic husband in some oppressive society, the world has eventually stopped resisting against the Western dictates and tyranny, and ‘accepted its fate’. Many parts of the planet have developed ‘Stockholm Syndrome’: after being kidnapped, imprisoned, tormented, raped and humiliated, the victims have ‘fallen in love’ with their tyrant, adopting his worldview, while serving him full-heartedly and obediently. This arrangement, of course, has nothing to do with the healthy or natural state of things! Poster of Human Zoo at Military Museum, Paris (Photo: Andre Vltchek) In Africa, Latin America, the Middle East and Asia, bizarre things are happening! People from those nations that have been robbed and devastated for centuries by the European and North American despots, have been flying happily and proudly to Paris, Berlin, London, Madrid, New York and other Western cities, in order to ‘learn’, to ‘study’ how to govern their own countries. There is usually no shame, and no stigma attached to such obvious intellectual prostitution. Many victims are still dreaming about becoming like their victimizers, or even more so. Many former and modern-day colonies of the West are listening, with straight faces, to the Europeans preaching to them (for a fee) about ‘good governance’, an ‘anti-corruption drive’ and ‘democracy’. The media outlets of non-Western nations are taking news reports directly from Western press agencies. Even local political events are explained by those ‘wise’ and ‘superior’ Europeans and North Americans, not by the local thinkers. Locals are hardly ever trusted – only white faces with polished English, French or German accents are taken seriously. Perverse? Is it perverse? Of course, it is! Many servile intellectuals from the ‘client’ states, when confronted, admit how sick the continuous global dictatorship is. Then they leave the table and continue to do what they have been doing for years and decades; the oldest profession in short. Freedom Equality Brotherhood. For French maybe but not for colonized Vietnamese (Photo: Andre Vltchek) Such a situation is truly insane. Or at least it is extremely paradoxical, bizarre, absurd. Even a mental clinic appears to make more sense than our beloved planet Earth. However, clinical psychiatrists and psychologists are very rarely involved in analyzing the neuroses and psychological illnesses of the brutalized and colonized planet. They hardly ever ‘analyze’ the perpetrators, let alone expose them for what they really are. Most of psychologists and psychiatrists are busy digging gold: encouraging human egotism, or even serving big corporations that are trying to ‘understand their employees better’, in order to control and to exploit them more effectively. Other ‘doctors’ go so far as to directly serve the Empire, helping to oppress and to ‘pacify’ the billions living in the colonies and new colonies of the West. In 2015, I was invited as one of the speakers to the 14th International Symposium on the Contributions of Psychology to Peace, held in Johannesburg and Pretoria, South Africa (hosted by legendary UNISA). During that fascinating encounter of the leading global psychologists, I spoke about the impact of wars and imperialism on the human psyche, but I also listened, attentively. And I learned many shocking things. For instance, during his chilling presentation, “Human Rights and U. S. Psychologists’ Wrongs: The Undermining of Professional Ethics in an Era of ‘Enhanced Interrogation’”, Professor Michael Wessells from Columbia University, New York, spoke about U.S. psychologists and their participation in torturing political prisoners. Instead of diagnosing the Empire with SPD and other violent and dangerous conditions, many psychologists are actually helping to torture those who are opposing this unacceptable arrangement of the world. ***** Those who refuse to ‘learn from the West’, to fall in love with it, or at least to serve it faithfully, are being brutally punished. Lashes are hitting exposed flesh. Entire nations are being destroyed, genocides distributed to all continents. East Timor, Afghanistan, Iraq: it never stops. I follow the discourses of the US and especially British UN delegations, ‘discussing’ Syria and even Russia. What comes to my mind is Punjab in India. I recall those old, historic photos of Indian men being hanged by the Brits, pants down, and flogged in public. Flogging-on-Punjabi-man-by-British-colonialist They have been doing this kind of stuff for centuries. They like it. It clearly excites them. This is their democracy, their respect for human rights and for other cultures! If someone refuses to take his or her pants down, they catch the person, rape him or her, then do the flogging anyway. I also recall what my Ugandan friend used to tell me: When the Brits came to Africa, to what is now Uganda, their army would enter our villages and first thing they’d do was to select the tallest and strongest man around. They’d then tie him up, face towards the tree. Then the British commander would rape, sodomize him in front of everybody. This was how they showed the locals who is charge. Brits enjoying Africa How symbolic! How healthy is the culture that has been controlling our world for centuries! One of the most frightening things about mental illnesses is that the patient usually does not realize that he or she is suffering from them. It is about the time for the rest of the world to treat the West as a mental patient, not as the ‘leader of the free and democratic world’. We have to think, to gather, to develop a strategy of how to deal with this unfortunate, in fact, terrible situation! If we refuse to understand and to act, we may all end up in the most dangerous situation: as complacent servants of the perverse whims of a frustrated, extremely aggressive and truly dangerous SPD patient. http://clubof.info/

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You can be quite stubborn and willful in relationships. You are often suspicious of others motives. In love you are extremely stubborn and often use the take away to achieve your goals, however, you are the one that has to suffer the most because of this. This can take place in many different forms but often by threats of cutting people off and never speaking to them, extreme verbal attacks, and often withdrawing to make your partner come to you. These threats are often followed through and if the person whom you are trying to get to react does not, then you can result in many manipulative tactics to get your way whether through blackmail or threats. あなたは関係においてかなり頑固で故意にすることができます。あなたはしばしば他の動機を疑っています。あなたは非常に頑固で、あなたの目標を達成するために持ち帰りをしばしば使いますが、あなたはこれのために最も苦しんでいるものです。 これはいろいろな形で起こりますが、多くの場合、人々を切断し、決して話をしないという脅威、極端な言葉による攻撃、そしてしばしばあなたのパートナーがあなたに来るように撤退することによって起こります。これらの脅威はしばしば追跡され、あなたが反応しようとしている人がそうしなければ、脅迫や脅威を経由するかどうかにかかわらず、多くの操作的な戦術が生まれる可能性があります Power is very important to Moon Pluto people, and they need to have their loved ones close and in check and often use manipulative tactics to do so. They tend to obsess over situations and once their mind is fixed. They have a great difficulty letting go of the outcome of any given situation. They are often subject to paranoia and obsessive behavior. In order to avoid this, it is important they learn to control their thoughts and turn them to a more optimistic nature. We all have had our share of wrongs, but what good does it too to stay in that mindset, it only perpetuates much of the same. Quantum Physics has provided scientific proof that we manifest our thoughts, and all the more reason you need to stop worrying and be more positive, learn to let go of the things you can not control. 月の冥王星の人々にとっては、権力は非常に重要であり、愛する人たちを閉じてチェックする必要があり、しばしばそうするために操作的な戦術を使う必要があります。彼らは状況に執着し、彼らの心が一度固定される傾向があります。彼らは与えられた状況の成果を放棄することが非常に困難です。 彼らはしばしばパラノイアと強迫観念を受ける。これを避けるためには、自分たちの思考を制御し、より楽観的な性質に変えることを学ぶことが重要です。 私たちは皆、間違ったことの分かち合いをしていますが、その考え方にとどまることは何が良いのでしょうか、それは同じことの多くを永続させます。 Quantum Physicsは、私たちの考えを明らかにする科学的な証拠を提供しました。そして、あなたが気になることをやめて、より積極的にする必要があるすべての理由は、あなたが制御できないことを放棄することを学びます The early life of a Moon-Pluto native was likely full of what may seem to the native as outside forces or unexplainable subtle energies that were imposed on the individual through one or both of the parents, often but not always with the mother. The mother may have made drastic decisions that left the individual feeling uncertain of what may come next or what may happen. There was a level of uncertainty an unsafe feeling of at any moment things could get out of hand very quickly. The mother may have taken on strong Pluto qualities ( controlling, manipulative, dominating, and or extremely unpredictable behavior). Often there will be found within the family many different forms mental violence in the day to day behaviors within the family, or in many cases even physical violence. 月 - 冥王星出身の初期の生涯は、親の片方または両方を介して個人に課された外部の力や説明できない微妙なエネルギーとして母親に見えるかもしれません。母親は、次に来ることや何が起こる可能性があるのか​​不明確な個々の気持ちを残す劇的な決定を下した可能性があります。 物事が非常に迅速に外れる可能性がある、不安な気持ちがある不確実性のレベルがありました。母親は強い冥王星の性質（制御、操作、支配、または非常に予測不可能な行動）を取った可能性があります。 多くの場合、家族内の日常的な行動や多くの場合、肉体的暴力でさえ、多くの異なる形態の精神的暴力が家族内に存在することがあります I have also seen that within the family there is a distinct feeling of not of not being heard or understood or even cared about or the complete opposite cared about to an extreme and suffocated. If there was physical violence it is often masked as tough love ie. " I did it for your own good" or " I want to protect you" or because " I care too much". This type of behavior leads to the confusion of the individual later in life where they have a difficult time separating "love" from manipulation or control later in life. In some of the more dramatic cases the individual was exposed to a family member with perhaps an emotional or mental disorder whether clinically diagnosed or not, there was an emotional instability prevalent in the parent and their home life may have been so absurd that they now have great difficulty developing a realistic view of life and people. This makes it difficult for them to relax, trust and even fit in and understand family dynamics. The emotional extremes and oddities at home they experienced may have felt so strange or bazaar in such a fundamental way that they have no idea how to adapt themselves to a normal life outside of their strange family life. They more than likely never felt loved for themselves; without the use of manipulation and control so they carry this out into their approach to love in the future. 私はまた、家族内では、聞かれない、理解されない、または気にされないという別個の感覚があること、または完全な反対が極端に気になり、窒息し��いることを見た。 物理的な暴力があった場合、それはしばしば厳しい愛として隠されます。 「私はあなた自身のためにやった」「あなたを守りたい」「あまりにも気にしているから」。このタイプの行動は、後の人生の混乱につながります。そこでは、後の人生で「愛」を操作や制御から分離するのが困難な時があります。 より劇的な症例の中には、臨床的に診断されているか否かにかかわらず、精神的または精神的な障害がある可能性がある家族に曝露された場合、親に蔓延する感情的不安定性があり、人生と人の現実的な見方を発展させるのが非常に難しい。これは、彼らがリラックスしたり、信頼したり、家族の力学を理解したり理解したりすることを困難にします。 彼らが経験した自宅の感情的な極端さと奇妙さは、奇妙な家族の生活の外で正常な生活にどのように適応するかを知らないような基本的な方法でとても奇妙でバザーに感じるかもしれません。彼らはおそらく自分自身のために愛されていたと感じることはありませんでした。操作と制御を使用せずに、彼らはこれを将来の愛へのアプローチに導いています Love and Relationships There are inherent trust issues in love, and their deep-seated fears often come to the surface. Fear of being manipulated, lied to or deceived and perhaps not being loved for them. Although there is a strong desire to know all there is about their partner, investigating is very common, however the native their self-tends to be highly secretive with their own life, which causes many unwanted problems in love. Whether they realize it or not this causes the majority of their problems in love. You can keep your emotions under wraps for long periods of time, but when you let go you let go with a fury. You tend to be highly secretive, and this can cause your partners to have suspicions about you, causing emotional games and jealousy into play. Although you are secretive, you insist on knowing all there is to your partner and expect them to be an open book and need full disclosure. Which is fine if you were to do the same. 愛と人間関係 愛には本質的な信頼関係の問題があり、深い座り込みの恐怖がしばしば浮上します。欺かれたり、欺かれたり、おそらく彼らのために愛されていない恐れ。調査は非常に一般的ですが、ネイティブは自分の人生で非常に秘密になりがちですが、これは恋愛における多くの望ましくない問題を引き起こします。彼らがそれを実現するかどうかにかかわらず、これは恋の問題の大半を引き起こします。あなたはあなたの感情を長時間ラップしておくことができますが、離れるときは怒りを放りましょう。あなたは非常に秘密になる傾向があります。これにより、パートナーがあなたのことを疑うことができ、感情的なゲームや嫉妬が起こります。あなたは秘密主義者ですが、パートナーにはすべてのことを知っていることを強く主張し、彼らはオープンブックであり、完全な開示が必要です。あなたが同じことをしていればうれしいです。 This aspect often leads the native to suppress their emotions until it's too late, or to where it comes out in a downright venomous way appearing quite unstable. Rather than expressing their upsets when they happen, they tend to bottle them in until they can no longer be suppressed. This is because they would rather not appear to be "what they think their partners would consider is weak" (which is actually normal communication between two people), or they choose to pretend it does not bother them so instead they act like they "don't care" when they actually really do. It is so important to learn to be direct. Because they don't often say what it is they think or feel instead go about it in indirect or passive aggressive and even manipulative way, confusing their partner adding too much of the confusion and even disaster that happens in their relationships. This is another one of the problems attached to Pluto moon. If they can learn to say what it is they want directly it will cut out half the obsession with trying to find out. Don't say what you don't mean or act as if you don't care when you really do. この面は、しばしばネイティブの感情を抑制し、それが遅すぎるか、まったく不安定に見える悪臭のあるような方法で出現します。 彼らの出来事が起こったときに彼らの怒りを表現するのではなく、彼らはもはや抑圧されなくなるまで、彼らをびっくりさせる傾向があります。これは、「パートナーが考えると思うものは弱い」（実際には2人の間の通常のコミュニケーション）と思われたり、気にしないふりをしたりするように思われるからです彼らが実際に本当にやっているときは気にしません。直接的であることを学ぶことはとても重要です。彼らはしばしばそれが何であるかを言い表していないので、間接的または受動的で積極的で操作的な方法でそれを考えるか、パートナーが混乱をあまりにも多く混乱させたり、これは、冥王星の月に付随する問題のもう一つです。 彼らが何を言っているのかを学ぶことができれば、彼らは直接的に欲しいと思うことに戸惑いの半分を切り捨てます。あなたが本当にやるときにあなたが気にしないかのように、あなたが何を意味するのではなく、行動しないと言ってはいけません If the Moon Pluto person does not get the response they crave, in the time frame they were expecting, then they can become pushy, obsessive acting in ways that can truly frighten others, making them want to disconnect completely. Pushing someone or harassing them usually backfires and makes the person look as if they have no self-control. If you do not have the person attention because of the wonderful characteristics you have, then what good is it to have them out of fear. It only perpetuates the same cycle over and over. With this aspect, one much learn to overcome the negative view of the world and people, and when they come across people they can not trust or that betray them to let go and move on. It's important to learn to understand that their life experience was to build a stronger identity outside of experience. Astrology helps us to illuminate these more negative qualities of our personalities to avoid falling at the hands of our predicted behavior and ending up fated rather than reaching our destiny. This aspect can sometimes make the individual lose faith in the good in people and, as a result, becoming paranoid often questing others motives or doubting them. People with hard Pluto aspects not just the Moon, but also the Sun, have often experienced much manipulation and saw the negative side to people that has changed their perspective. To overcome the negative side of this aspect one must project what it is they truly desire, and not to take part in passive aggressive behavior, being indirect leaves to much open to interpretation which can lead to assumptions that are incorrect and cause much drama that could be otherwise avoided. There is usually a deep craving for love and intimacy but at the same time a deep fear of appearing needy or weak. Pride is Pluto's biggest problem and it interferes the most with being able to connect truly with another. Those that experience Pluto by transit learn that Pluto will take away anything that we hold on to dear life for, so we are then forced to let go. While Pluto empowers he also strips us of that power he gave us in the first place, that is his lesson to learn to handle power. This aspect shows that "There is a fine line between love and hate" and people with this aspect often fluctuate between the two. When love is not returned, or they feel that they are somehow losing control, the feelings can become quite powerful to where in extreme cases their relationships end both dramatically and painfully and with much hatred. 月明かり冥王星の人が期待していた時間内に彼らが欲しがっている応答を得られなければ、本当に他人を驚かせるような強迫的で強迫的な行動を起こし、完全に切り離したいと思う。誰かを押すか嫌がらせをするのは通常は逆行し、人は自制を持たないかのように見せます。あなたが持っている素晴らしい特性のために人の注意を持っていないなら、恐怖からそれらを持つことは何が良いですか？それ��同じサイクルを何度も何度も繰り返します。この面では、世界と人々の否定的な見解を克服することを多く学び、人々を遭遇したときには信頼できない、あるいは彼らを放棄して移動することを裏切る。 彼らの人生経験は、経験の外でより強いアイデンティティを構築することであったことを理解することが重要です。占星術は、私たちの予測された行動の手に落ちることを避け、私たちの運命に達するよりも運命に終わることを避けるために、私たちの人格のこれらのより否定的な性質を明らかにするのに役立ちます。 この側面は、時には個人が人々の善を信じなくし、その結果として、しばしば他の動機を探求したり疑念を抱かせるような編集的なものになります。 冥王星だけでなく、太陽も冥王星を抱える人々は、しばしば多くの操作を経験し、彼らの視点を変えた人々に否定的な側面を見出しました。この側面の否定的な側面を克服するためには、彼らが本当に望んでいるものを投影し、受動的な積極的な行動に参加しないこと、間違った仮定を導く可能性のある他には避けてください。 愛と親密さには深い欲求がありますが、同時に貧乏人や弱者になるという深い恐怖があります。 PrideはPlutoの最大の問題であり、真に他の人とつながることを最大限妨げています。トランジットで冥王星を経験する人は、冥王星が私たちが愛する人のために握っているものを取り除くことを学びます。冥王星が力を発揮する間に、彼は私たちが最初に与えたその力を私たちに取り去りました。それは力を扱うことを学ぶための彼の教訓です。 この側面は、「愛と憎しみの間に細い線がある」ことを示し、この側面を持つ人々はしばしば2つの間で変動する。愛が返されないとき、あるいは何らかの形で支配権が失われていると感じるとき、極端な場合には極端に痛ましいほどの憎しみで終わります If the focus is turned positive rather than what could go wrong then Pluto Moon people have great powers of observation and emotional strength and reserve. If this power of focus and determination is used to reach new heights in one's life, or used in it's positive form, these people can truly make a powerful difference both other people's lives and the world itself. It is by no means easy to reprogram our beliefs or thought patterns, but because of our early life experience we have developed certain thought patterns and beliefs. We are impressionable early on. This is why books like the highly acclaimed " A course in Miracles" which aims a reprogramming these negative beliefs through love and forgiveness, and feeling a tremendous sense of peace, which in turn draws amazing things into your life simply by thinking differently. Much like we would go to a counselor or a therapist, for answers to traumas we would need to heal them, how? by reprogramming our beliefs into a positive self-worth, and allows us true inner peace. If one can switch their thought patterns to see things more objectively and positively, these people can learn to manifest positive things in their life much easier than others. This is because they have tremendous focus and drive. フォーカスが迷惑にならないように正の方向に向かうと、冥王星の人々は観察力と感情的な強さと予備力を得ます。この力と決断の力が、人生の中で新たな高さに到達するために使われたり、それが積極的な形で使われれば、これらの人々は本当に他の人々の生活と世界の両方に強力な違いを生み出すことができます。 私たちの信念や思考パターンを再プログラムすることは決して容易ではありませんが、私たちの初期の経験のために、私たちはある種の思考パターンと信念を発達させました。私たちは早い段階で感傷的です。これは、愛と寛容によってこれらの否定的な信念を再プログラミングすることを目指す評判の高い「A Course in Miracles」のような本であり、驚くべきことを単に違った考え方であなたの人生にもたらします。私たちがカウンセラーやセラピストに行くのと同じように、私たちは彼らを癒すために必要なトラウマの答えをどうやって得るのですか？私たちの信念を積極的な自己価値に再プログラミングし、私たちに真の内なる平和を与えます。より客観的かつ積極的に物事を見るために思考パターンを切り替えることができれば、これらの人々は、他のものよりもはるかに簡単に自分の人生において肯定的なものを明示することを学ぶことができます。これは、彼らが大きな焦点と運転を持っているためです。 Many different ailments can come from this placement, because of the emotional extremes and obsessive stress. Common illnesses are: Stomach ulcers, binge eating, nervous disorders, panic anxiety, and bipolar disorder are common links to Pluto Moon especially if the moon is in Gemini or Sag. It is said that It is very important for them to Learn to let go of the past and forgive others including their family for they themselves had their own craziness past down from their previous generation. Pluto's ultimate lesson is that anything that we hold on too close or to tightly or attempt to control through manipulation will eventually break free. Stop alienating yourself, and learn to go with the flow of the universe, and realize that everything has its course. When the power of Pluto is used in its positive form, it can be a force for great positive change.

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Unfortunately haven’t made any progress in learning programming today. Played Chaos Reborn a bit, also Gwelled. Having trouble doing anything. For most of the day I felt disoriented. Had to play music through speakers 14-19 to defend my room from evil drummer and flute player. Very unpleasant day.

Managed to spend an hour drawing, though.

Took a Big Five Test today. The results are quite worrying:

Your Results: This personality test examined how you score on the Big Five Personality Dimensions.  In addition, each of the Big Five Personality Dimensions can be broken into several smaller facets, or sub-components.  Your scores, based on your responses, are listed below.

Big Five Personality Dimensions

Extraversion - 11th percentile - very low Agreeableness - 20th percentile - very low Conscientiousness - 11th percentile - very low Neuroticism - 92nd percentile - extremely high Openness - 51st percentile - about average

The Big Five personality dimensions are broad personality traits that describe the majority of ways that people can differ from each other.  What does this mean?

Each of the Big-Five personality dimensions contains several smaller "facets."  

What is a facet?

Extraversion

Extraversion - 11th percentile - very low

You are very low in extraversion. Extraverts are sociable, like to take risks,and feel lots of positive emotions. The six facets of extraversion are:

Activity - 32nd percentile - low You prefer low levels of activity, such as being on the go and staying busy.

Assertiveness - 34th percentile - low There're low chances that you'll take charge and lead others.

Cheerfulness - 16th percentile - very low You experience very low levels of happiness, joy, and other positive emotions.

Excitement Seeking - 3rd percentile - extremely low You like to seek extremely low levels of thrills.

Friendliness - 31st percentile - low You're low in your desire to be around other people and show an interest in their lives.

Gregariousness - 12th percentile - very low You're very low in flocking toward other people and being talkative and sociable around them.

Extraversion score not equal to the average of its facets?

Agreeableness

Agreeableness - 20th percentile - very low

You are very low in agreeableness.  Highly agreeable people tend to do whatever it takes to have positive relationships with other people.   The six facets of agreeableness are:

Altruism - 15th percentile - very low You are very low in generally wanting to be good to other people, including helping them when they need it.

Cooperation - 13th percentile - very low There are very low chances that you'll try to get along with other people.

Modesty - 10th percentile - extremely low You have extremely low levels of modesty.  Modest people don't like to brag or show off, because those types of behaviors can be harmful to relationships.

Morality - 46th percentile - about average Sticking to the rules and treating everyone fairly is of about average value to you.

Sympathy - 82nd percentile - very high You have very high levels of sympathy for other people, which includes caring about them and wanting what's best for them.

Trust - 19th percentile - very low You're very low in believing that other people are generally good and not out to harm you.

Conscientiousness

Conscientiousness - 11th percentile - very low

You are very low in conscientiousness.  Highly conscientious people are diligent, hard-working, and responsible. The six facets of conscientiousness are:

Achievement Striving - 9th percentile - extremely low You have extremely low desires to work hard and get ahead.

Cautiousness - 76th percentile - very high The odds are very low that you'll just jump into things without really thinking them through.  You spend very high amounts of time planning what to do.

Dutifulness - 11th percentile - very low You're very low in sticking to your word, keeping your promises, and upholding your obligations.

Orderliness - 18th percentile - very low You prefer very low levels of cleanliness and order in your environment.

Self-Discipline - 6th percentile - extremely low You have extremely low self-discipline—which is the ability to get to work quickly, stay focused, and avoid distractions or procrastination.

Self-Efficacy - 12th percentile - very low When you need to do something, you have very low ability to get it done and do it well (or maybe more accurately, you

believe

that your ability is very low).

Neuroticism

Neuroticism - 92nd percentile - extremely high

You are extremely high in neuroticism, which means that you experience extremely high levels of negative emotions, like anger, fear, and stress.  The six facets of neuroticism are:

Anger - 94th percentile - extremely high Your levels of anger and irritability are extremely high.

Anxiety - 91st percentile - extremely high Compared with other people, you have extremely high stress, fears, and worries about the future.

Depression - 87th percentile - very high This is NOT "clinical depression."   This score simply tells you that, compared with other people, you feel very high amounts of sadness and like yourself to a very low degree.

Immoderation - 80th percentile - very high You have very low self-control when it comes to resisting temptations; there are very high chances that you'll give into your desires and binge (on shopping, eating, drinking, or whatever your vices are).

Note that self-discipline (a facet of conscientiousness) deals with your ability to focus your attention on accomplishing goals, whereas immoderation refers to your ability to resist temptations.

Self-Consciousness - 85th percentile - very high You like to draw very low levels of attention to yourself, and feel very high amounts of unease when interacting with others socially (especially strangers).

Vulnerability - 78th percentile - very high The chances that you'll be overwhelmed by difficult circumstances are very high.  Notice that this is different from anxiety (which refers to general stress- and fear-proneness) and self-efficacy (a facet of conscientiousness that reflects your confidence in your ability to accomplish tasks).  Vulnerability specifically refers to your propensity to feel overwhelmed by difficult situations.

Openness to Experience

Openness to Experience - 51st percentile - about average

You are about average in openness to experience.  Openness is a broad, diffuse personality dimension with many seemingly very different facets.  In general, highly open people like a variety of new experiences, whether physical, emotional, intellectual, or cultural. The six facets of openness are:

Adventurousness - 32nd percentile - low Your prefer low amounts of variety and new experiences in your life (i.e., you have low openness to new experiences). Artistic Interests - 32nd percentile - low You have low love for art, music, and culture (i.e., you have low openness to aesthetic experiences).

Emotionality - 90th percentile - very high Your attunement to your own and others' emotions is very high.  Whereas cheerfulness and excitement seeking (facets of extraversion) capture your propensity to feel positive emotions and neuroticism captures your propensity to feel negative emotions,

emotionality

refers to your overall openness to/desire to truly feel emotions. Imagination - 15th percentile - very low You have very low imagination (i.e., you have very low openness to experiences of the imagination).

Intellect - 86th percentile - very high Your desire to play with ideas, reflect on philosophical concepts, and have deep discussions is very high (i.e., you have very high openness to intellectual experiences).

Liberalism - 38th percentile - low Your political liberalism is low (conversely, your political conservatism is high).  This is a facet of openness to experience because liberals tend to desire progressive change, whereas conservatives tend to prefer less political change.

Looks like my constant suffering caused by past abuse and living in a disgusting savage society that doesn’t pay awesome financial compensations to people traumatized by abuse and doesn’t provide financial help and all help necessary in recovery and is capable of randomly abusing people like this in the first place made me completely non-functional. Which shows why help and compensation is a moral necessity in the first place.

I have no idea why it gave me very low liberalism.

I picked my answers for imagination, not because I’m not open to experiences with imagination, but because I don’t have vivid (visual) imagination.

The low interest in art is absurd. It was assigned only because I dislike noise and boring and noisy concerts.

I’m misunderstood by a test :/ .

It would be nice if something nice would happen from time to time, like someone buying me a coffee.

It’s not easy to be a little mouse!

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Learning to accept uncertainty about obsessions should not be viewed as a form of defeat. Jon Hershfield | 03.16.2017 | KEY TAKEAWAYS Jon is the Director of The OCD and Anxiety Center of Greater Baltimore and a specialist in the treatment of OCD and related disorders. In this article, he explains common misconceptions about what accepting uncertainty in OCD really means. Improving your ability to open up to, accept, or even embrace uncertainty in the face of OCD is essential to getting mastery of the disorder. Uncertainty is simply the absence of certainty, which is a state you are already in. It doesn’t mean everything you care about hinges on the flip of a coin. The simplest, or perhaps the most all-encompassing conceptualization of OCD is to understand it as a deficit in uncertainty tolerance. Those who are anything but new to the diagnosis, who have seen any therapist remotely acquainted with it, are likely to have heard, “Well, you will have to accept the uncertainty that your fear may be true in order to overcome it.” There is no getting around this, no matter how absurd or irrational (or abhorrent) the fear may appear to you. However, a limited understanding of what it means to truly accept uncertainty can lead OCD sufferers (and their therapists) toward ineffective interventions and even additional suffering. In my clinical practice and in the online support groups I contribute to, I often encounter people who are repeatedly telling themselves incredibly negative things about reality assuming that this is the only way to do exposure. Though exposure is scary and often painful, learning to accept uncertainty about obsessions need not be viewed as a form of defeat. Here I will discuss a few common mistaken beliefs about what it means to accept uncertainty: Mistaken Belief 1: Uncertainty Means 50/50 Obsessions often begin with the words “what if” and follow with some description of an event the thinker finds intolerable. What if there is disease-causing bacteria on my hands? What if I snap and harm a loved one? What if the faucet isn’t closed all the way and my home floods while I’m at work? Compulsions are designed to increase certainty about these unwanted outcomes. Using the above examples, a person might wash his/her hands, avoid being around knives, or go back home to check that the faucet is indeed closed. Failure to do the OCD’s bidding results in anxiety, disgust, or some other unwanted internal state, often coupled with vivid mental storylines of brutal consequences. No amount of thinking through the problem is likely to result in the kind of illusion of certainty provided by actual compulsive cleaning, avoiding, or checking. This issue may be best exemplified by the OCD sufferer who becomes aware of the thought that he/she might have harmed someone in the past and then meticulously reviews his/her memories to get a sense that the harm could not have taken place. Since this effort never really works in the end, either because the compulsions intensify the obsessions by validating their existence or because the compulsions ultimately feel unsatisfying when the truth can’t be locked down, the thinker is left with only one option – accept uncertainty that the feared concept could be true. Accepting uncertainty does not mean accepting that there is a “1 out of 2” shot that your fear could be true. What it means is you have abandoned the mandate to determine what the odds are in the first place. As I write this, I am accepting the possibility, however small, that my computer is emitting some kind of toxic substance that may be giving me some kind of health issue. I am further accepting that, merely by attending to writing this, I may be failing to attend to a more important matter, such as whether I may have committed some kind of crime earlier in the day. To say these things is not to say that I believe these concerns are as likely to be true as a flip of the coin. What I am saying is that the possibility simply exists at a level greater than absolute zero. This allows for the understanding that the possibility may be so low, that I can treat it with such disinterest such that I refuse to even analyze how low the possibility is. Resistance to accepting uncertainty about things that seem unacceptable (e.g. harm to a child, violating religious laws, burning down your house, etc.) is heightened by a mistaken belief that accepting uncertainty must mean accepting some meaningful level of probability. It doesn’t have to be framed that way. Rather than 1 out of 2, it can also be looked at as 1 in some number so big that to attempt its calculation would be an inefficient use of our finite time on Earth. All that uncertainty acceptance truly requires is the number 1. The number this is out of can be as high as you want. Just don’t try to calculate it. The aim is not to compulsively reassure yourself that the probability of your fear being true is low. The aim is to live as if this is already understood and no math is required. Mistaken Belief 2: There Are Things We Cannot Accept Uncertainty about This belief betrays a poor understanding of the nature of certainty and how it differs from confidence. Certainty is an illusion, an assessment that events (e.g. triggers) and responses to those events in the universe can remain constant. The closest thing to a certainty might be that we all die. All people who have once lived and live no more, have died. So this we can be certain of. Except that I have not carefully examined all people who have lived and live no more. You might also be certain about particular chemical reactions, that if you make two molecules interact, there may be some predictable response 100% of the time (I’m going to assume Neil deGrasse Tyson won’t be reading this and that if I am wrong, the larger message still holds true that some things may get close to being certain). Still, chemicals may respond unpredictably if me observing them affects their behavior somehow. So we may get close, but certainty is still not a thing. At some point we say, “Good enough, I’m calling it, the sky is blue.” Mostly we use the word certainty interchangeably with the word “confidence”. Confidence is a feeling. It is a sense that, given certain triggers, certain responses are predictable. I am confident that if I tell my wife I love her, she will reply with the same or something similar. I am confident because this interaction has been repeated multiple times. I may say that I am certain because I feel confident, but I am in fact not certain. She may or may not reply the same next time, but I assume so strongly that she will, I can’t bring myself to analyze the reasons why she would not. Embracing this difference between the feeling of confidence and the state of certainty is easy when the consequences seem tolerable. Though it would break my heart if she ceased to reciprocate my love, I can envision a life in which I cope with and even tolerate living with a broken heart. For people with OCD who experience intrusive thoughts about being pedophiles, murderers, banished to an eternal hellfire, or responsible for the untimely death of innocent people, they may struggle to envision a world in which they cope with these outcomes. This gets translated as a reason to commit to compulsive behavior because they simply have to, because there appears to them to be no way uncertainty about this issue could be tolerated. The problem is, certainty doesn’t exist. Only confidence exists. And compulsions are the very thing that deplete confidence. They are the behaviors that send the message to the brain, “warning: confidence is lacking.” We must accept uncertainty about all things, not because all things are likely or even worth any attention at all, but because certainty does not exist. There is only confidence. When confidence is absent, we can find it by engaging in the behaviors of confident people, not by certainty-seeking. Mistaken Belief 3: People With OCD Are Not as Good at Accepting Uncertainty People with OCD may have a deficit in tolerating in some ways. This does not mean they have a general deficit in this area. More likely it is a reflection of the intensity and the fine detail with which they care about the things they care about and are aware of the ways in which these things could be harmed. For example, a person without OCD may value hygiene and wash his/her hands after touching a public toilet handle. A person with OCD in the same scenario may conceptualize hygiene as a function of social responsibility and connect it to the safety of others and the determination of their morality and thus, may be consciously grappling with whether or not e. coli has gotten on the hands, what the probability and specific health consequences are of e. coli getting from their hands to another person would be, and what the philosophical ramifications would be to a person who was indifferent to this harm. They would then wash in a manner that ensured confidence that every millimeter of skin on and around the hands had come in contact with soap and the right kind of warm water that had not been additionally contaminated by any contact with the sink or faucet. More succinctly, the OCD sufferer may be less willing to view the issue as a simple matter and may find more issues to be uncertain about. However, given that OCD sufferers often see things in finer detail and become aware of what others might consider “fringe” thoughts that don’t demand attention for others, consider that OCD sufferers feel like they experience more ideas that require one to be uncertain about. So truly, OCD sufferers are spending significantly more time accepting uncertainty, and doing it well, than people who aren’t noticing the things we have to accept uncertainty about. It is only when the focus of attention is on a particular obsession (the focus of their OCD) that people with OCD struggle to accept uncertainty. For example, a person with OCD may think about the possibility of a sinkhole suddenly appearing beneath them and just write it off as nonsense. A person without OCD might have the same thought very quietly or not even be aware of a thought like that formulating unless their attention was drawn to it, so treating it like nonsense is easy. But a person with OCD who thinks about the sinkhole and also has an obsession with dying in a sinkhole, would be more resistant to writing it off as nonsense. In other words, OCD sufferers are uncertainty-accepting pros. They notice what others don’t and they allow things to be as they are more often than not. Where they can benefit from this in treatment is learning how to generalize this skill to apply to specific obsessions, instead of only to the plethora of other thoughts on the radar. Mistaken Belief 4: Accepting Uncertainty Means You Can’t Assume the Best There is a myth that OCD promotes in the mind that you don’t deserve to be happy; that if you’re happy, it must be the result of not paying enough attention to something important. So if you have OCD and try to do what happy people do, you may feel an urge to neutralize that with self-criticism or self-punishment of some kind. Consider a person with sexual orientation obsessions who has a life history of being heterosexual, but notices an increased heart rate occurring while watching an action movie with an attractive same-sex actor performing in it. The OCD may say, “This is evidence that you are gay.” The urge to compulsively neutralize that by saying “No, I know I’m not gay and this is just an exciting scene in the movie” may be very strong. A cognitive behavioral approach would be to accept uncertainty that maybe the reaction to the movie is a sign of some sexual orientation confusion. However, accepting that your OCD could be right does not preclude assuming that it isn’t. This is not done by repeatedly making self-reassuring statements (as in, “I assume I am straight”), but by simply responding to the increased heart rate as if it were not a threat. This would probably look something like remaining focused on the film, taking another handful of popcorn, and staying out of the debate altogether. People going through OCD treatment often make themselves unnecessarily unhappy by interpreting uncertainty acceptance as a mandate to assume the worst and then dwell on it. Rather than it having to be a net negative experience, it can be a freeing one. If you assume your fears are untrue and engaging in behaviors that reflect this, while still allowing for the possibility that you are wrong (and hence, necessarily accepting uncertainty), you can allow yourself to enjoy the experience on your own terms. By letting go of resistance to uncertainty, you free yourself up to act like a person who thinks things will work out fine. For those with morality-themed obsessions, this means assuming you are good instead of trying to prove it to your OCD. As long as you leave space for being wrong, you are accepting uncertainty even when you are framing things positively. So… All of the above are basically saying the same thing. Improving your ability to open up to, accept, or even embrace uncertainty in the face of OCD is essential to getting mastery of the disorder. But this need not be looked at as an intolerable burden or a recipe for misery. Uncertainty is simply the absence of certainty, which is a state you are already in. It doesn’t mean everything you care about hinges on the flip of a coin. It means only that investing in something unattainable is less helpful than investing in the present moment and in your values. Acknowledging that your fears could be true does not mean admitting your fears are likely or reasonable. In fact, accepting uncertainty can mean living joyfully with the assumption that your fears are not true, that your OCD is a glitch at best, or a liar and bully at its worst. The OCD makes it seem as if the content of your specific obsession is the one thing a person should never have to accept uncertainty about. But that’s a trap. There is no certainty. There is only confidence and assumptions. So even as the OCD stretches as far as it can into the grotesque, the sinful, or the horrifying depths of your mind, it is still simply trying to con you with the idea that it’s found the one exception to the rule. Uncertainty is everywhere. One in a 100 trillion is an uncertainty. And remember, you practice uncertainty acceptance more than someone without OCD. You make an exception for your obsession because the disorder itself creates an illusion that this content must be made certain. Assuming everything will be fine is not a compulsion. It is actually the greatest exposure, so long as it includes the willingness to be wrong. Jon Hershfield is the Director of The OCD and Anxiety Center of Greater Baltimore and a specialist in the treatment of OCD and related disorders. He has previous experience as the Associate Director of the UCLA Pediatric OCD Intensive Outpatient Program and as a Psychotherapist for the OCD Center of Los Angeles. You can read more from Jon here.