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Seaside Exit   -   Marcel Schellekens

Dutch b.1954-

Etching

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How to stop maladaptive daydreaming?

Mindfulness and Tracking. These are the two methods researchers have found to be particularly helpful to MDers.

Here is a study showing the initial treatment experiment: 2023-RCT-MD.pdf (dropbox.com)

And here is a place where you can sign up for the next round: The Official© Online Maladaptive Daydreaming Treatment Program (daydreaming-treatment.com)

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Is it possible for me to control the daydreaming? Or to become better do I have to give it up entirely?

MD can be controlled. Researchers recommend Mindfulness and tracking (jotting down when/howlong/trigger etc, bujo-style). Total elimination is not recommended.

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I've never been jealous with mdding...the worst emotion I've had was feeling pathetic for daydreaming extensively instead of living. But this jealousy thing is worse.

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Hey:) What do maladaptive dreamers actually daydream about? I always think of fictional characters

Qualitative analysis identifying daydreaming content: main categories:

Celebrity/hero (being one, or in a relationship with one): 36.5%

Romantic/sexual relationships: 34.1%

Idealized version of self (maincharacter is the daydreamerbut with characteristics theyenvy): 34.1%

Imaginary family/friend (daydreamer’s self is in these interacting with imaginary people): 17.6%

Fictional characters taken fromanother source (i.e. TVshow/book/movie/videogame): 16.5%

Imaginary world (daydreamer’sself is not in these andcharacters are original to thedaydreamer): 15.3%

Popularity and receiving extraattention (sometimes due toillness/vulnerability): 14.1%

Death, violence: 11.8%

Sci-Fi/Futuristic or not inpresent time period: 10.6%

Negative feelings (revenge,vulnerability): 9.4%

Life course changes (fixing pastor imaging the future): 7.1%

Real life scenarios: 7.1%

Wish fulfillment: 5.9%

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back at it again with the overwhelming hatred of my daydreams

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I was reading about maladaptive daydreaming and I want to asses the kinds of scenarios in which I imagine myself partaking. They generally tend to be those where I'm the centre of attention, either I'm winning an award or being interviewed or giving a speech or giving an opinion about current events, or I am meeting somebody I adore but even then I'm the one doing most of the talking. I suppose, this need to be the most talked about or the best or better than others stems from the same sense of insecurity and not having found a solid sense of self, that enables feelings of envy and comparison. So the symptom is daydreaming but the causes are feeling s of insecurity, of inferiority, of self-doubt and self-defeat. They must be addressed to correct any behaviours one doesn't like.

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act ii   COWBOY CARTER   3.29

"It's interesting, because a lot of people don’t know that Beyoncé is my last name. It’s my maiden name. My name was Celestine Beyoncé, which at that time was not a cool thing, to have that weird name. I wanted my name to be 'Linda Smith,' because those were the cool names.

I think me and my brother Skip were the only two that had B-E-Y-O-N-C-E. It’s interesting — and it shows you the times — because we asked my mother when I was grown. I was like, ‘Why is my brother’s name spelled B-E-Y-I-N-C-E? You know, it’s all these different spellings’, and my mom’s reply to me was like, ‘That’s what they put on your birth certificate’ so I said, ‘Well, why didn’t you argue and make them correct it?’ and she said ‘I did one time. The first time, and I was told be happy that you’re getting a birth certificate because, at one time, Black people didn’t get birth certificates."

- Miss Tina Knowles for In My Head with Heather Thomson (2020)

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I have a feeling all my cries for help won't work & I'll never be cured of my jealousy & I'll live a miserable life forever.

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unfortunately no eclipse photography can ever outdo the waffle house one from 2017

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Wish I could just teleport into my paracosms to like, fully escape.

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