#ciswomen

[squishymain]

Women shouldn't have to be feminine, men shouldn't have to be masculine. Stop trying to push people into boxes.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

DFAB/AFAB Lesbian Pride Flag

A flag for lesbians who were assigned female at birth (AFAB).

This includes cis lesbians/cisbians (such as lesbian cis women and cisfeminine lesbians), some lesboys (such as lestroys), some isogender or non-binary/abinary lesbians, some intersex lesbians, some altersex lesbians, lesbians who self-assign as AFAB, system lesbians, etc.

[luxshine]

Today when we commemorate the fight for #womenrights, We also want to commemorate the #athletes who, despite everything, kept playing #baseball and other sports, because sports were for everyone! (And soon I will tell you all in #Travelingseers how the fight for the right to play baseball was tied to the suffragette movement!) #8M #womenplayers #allwomen #Ciswomen #Transwomenarewomen and they also played (and play) in the female leagues!

[muchymozzarella]

I don't think it's said enough how happy the vast majority of women in the entire world are to share womanhood and feminine joy.

But more than that, despite the amplification of shithead bigots online, most people will want to make you feel happy and welcome on your terms. Most people, whether out of kindness, basic respect and etiquette, real compassion, or even excitement and enthusiasm for you, will want you to be happy - and when you come out as trans, most people will be happy to latch onto that fact to ensure you are happy and comfortable by affirming your womanhood, especially most ciswomen I know.

The worst thing you can do, as someone who has recently realised they are transfem, is to let terves and transphobes convince you cis women will never accept you.

I was told that when I came out everyone would reject me. That I would find myself isolated from the world, and from other women especially, who would react to me with horror and revulsion.

In reality, within the first months of coming out, in no particular order:

My sister's reaction on my coming out was, "Right, so I have a sister instead of a brother. Cool. I'm taking you clothes shopping tomorrow."

A friend, when she learned I am a woman, immediately invited me to her women-only, girls-night-out birthday party the following week.

Another friend, when a friend of hers expressed doubts about my gender, immediately shut them down and reaffirmed I am a woman.

I went camping with a group of friends, and we had two tents, one for the boys and one for the girls; I was unsure as to which I should enter, to which a girl friend responded by grabbing me and physically dragging me inside the women's tent.

In the women's bathroom at a movie theatre a random woman, whom I'd never seen before and haven't seen since, stopped me as I was going into a stall, to warn me there was no toilet paper in there, because she'd just used the last of it.

All of these, and more, some from friends, some from complete strangers. All within a few months, as a trans woman who hadn't started medical transition yet, and was very visible as being a trans woman.

I've had some people reject me, true, but the vast majority, including almost all cis women, accepted me as a sister with open arms.

Cis women are cool. It's terves who are bigots.

[up-in-flames-writing]

In lieu of Stuff Your Kindle day, can we talk about the issue of how the m/m genre of books, romance or not, is almost entirely dominated by women? Can we talk about how the most recognisable gay couples in media are written by women? Can we talk about how queer men can't even write about ourselves, how we are only allowed to exist when it's from the point of view of a straight woman sexualising us?

Can we talk about that? Or am I going to get called misogynistic for pointing out the disparity between who gets the writing deals, & who gets their books turned into movies, & whose shit gets popular versus whose doesn't? Can we talk about how m/m fiction is only allowed when it appeals to a cishet gaze, or is that too much for tumblr to take?

Can we also talk about how trans queer men are even more hated by publishing? Can we talk about how we get shit from both sides? Can we talk about how books about the experiences of being a queer man, written by queer men, never get the same recognition as books written by women on this subject (barring academia which has its own problems)?

Can we talk about that? Can we?

[sunlitmcgee]

I don't know who needs to hear this but reminder to all ciswomen but transmen and transmasculine trans people Matter and we don't exist to make you comfortable or to solely uplift you in discussions on rights and reproductive freedoms that include us equally

[rapha-reads]

That moment when you jokingly ask your friend group on Insta why none of them are following Motaz Azaiza and send them a few posts about Palestine that could interest them, even though none of them has said a single word in support in three months, and one of your oldest friend immediately react all offended, saying that they can follow who they want and they don't have to report to me, and also this isn't the place to talk about the "conflict", and not everybody has the same opinions.

... Tell me you support IsraHell without telling me you support Isntreal.

And if I'm not supposed to talk about this genocide that's breaking my heart and making me cry for the past 3 months with my friend group of 10 years, then with whom the FUCK am I supposed to talk to? The walls? The void?

[mold-girl]

i just saw a post so incomprehensibly misogynistic, very long post and at the end talking about red flags in any ideological posts they said "implying that feminine people are targeted by the patriarchy more then masculine people" as a bad thing???????

saying that "féminine presenting people" aka mostly women are targeted by the patriarchy more than men.... is a bad thing???????????

[legofrans]

I think "theyfab" is a dumbass term but comparing it to "shemale" only works in a world without context. C'mon.

[megane-sama]

Okay so life update yeah?

Being inactive hasnt just been because of my finances, but I've also been going through the most rancid, awful string of breakups in the past few months and my emotional state kept me well off most of my SM.

However it's over now thankfully, and I am using this Christmas for self care and recuperation and that means finally coming back online.

So hiii~★

[ilhoonftw]

women get married in their 20s, pay for a professional photos and then use the one solo photo the like the most as profile pics on every site they use for at last 5 years. maaaybe except linkedin, where they use their corporate headshot that they put instagram filter over

[up-in-flames-writing]

I've never fucking experienced misogyny as bad as when it was directed at me from ciswomen. All you idiots hiding behind your 'but male socialisation!' nonsense babble to explain why you think trans people are soooo misogynistic, droves of misogynists in the fucking trans & gay community, have literally never sat down with a bunch of dolled up teen girls & been the only fucking tomboy in the group.

The call is coming from inside the fucking house, people. You all justifying your homophobia & transphobia ain't cute, it just makes you look like a fucking asshole. Seriously, when will people learn that saying 'most people in X group are bad people. No, I'm not being Xphobic, is just true' still makes you a bigot!

[sunlitmcgee]

cis gender women when they see a post about a historical transmasc person and have to go on and on about how clearly this was just a poor woman being forced to live as an ugly dirty male and calling him a man is erasure are. The most frustrating kind of people for me.

[learningtorecognize]

People born with a uterus are, from a young age, trained up by nature to manage unexpected bloody messes which must be cleaned up immediately. I truly do think this is a root cause of gender disparities.

I think often of how fucking easy it can be for many cis men to walk away from a mess, never even thinking about the cis woman who will inevitably clean it up because she has been learning so long how to do so without complaint.

How historically, cis women have been tied to hearth and home tending to the daily messes of life. Their husband could have a secret second family ten miles away (as did my grandmother’s grandfather in the late 1800s)—but those mothers would always be obligated to tend the home and children. Stuck and dependent, cleaning up the messes. Possibly being raped every night by their husbands as they fulfilled their wifely duties, which denies need for consent.

I applaud all us AFAB people, the mostly unrecognized cleaners of messes, the noticers, the quiet fixers when others walk away, taking up the slack left by others, raising our most precious commodity, children. Being forced by law and ignorance to risk our lives when denied access to safe abortions,—forced to bear the mess which can only be made by a sperm. The donor penis-bearer always able to walk away from the mess.

This is not to discount all the lovely things that occur right alongside the messes—the small beauties of daily life like a child’s smile or laugh, a beautiful sky, the sound of the wind, a lover’s touch, being understood by another, a delicious meal, a laugh with a friend, a baby’s snuggle into you (so fleeting, so precious). Too many quiet moments to mention, in between the daily demands of life.

“Here is the world,” wrote Frederick Buechner. “Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.”

You, menstruating person with uterus—applaud yourself for your strength and resilience as you manage monthly symptoms and messes. You didn’t sign up for this.

(I see you, young trans men who are made keenly aware of your gender dysphoria when you menstruate. The mess is especially awful for you, and you’re getting through it! You’re doing it! You’re especially amazing.)

Periods make us powerful. They make us strong and resilient as we practice cleaning up the messes. We do it privately, quietly, for the most part. Most cis men immediately shy away from any blood in the toilet. They’re weak. They couldn’t do what we do.

We are mighty. We are strong. We have monthly practice cleaning up the messes no one asks for and others try to ignore. Life asks a lot of us. It asks us to carry pain and mostly pretend it’s all easy or not even happening—none of us deserve that.

[opossumfury]

I think if someone called me a cissexual I'd throw a brick at their teeth

[oysters-aint-for-me]

my (very queer) friend is pregnant for the first time and she’s been on all the baby message boards (eg tiktok, facebook) and she found this tag that was like “ftm pregnancy” and she was like “oh cool! there’s whole tag for pregnant transmen!” and then was extremely confused as to why the tag was full of what appeared to be cisgender women. she was like “i mean i don’t wanna judge, maybe they are transmen but they don’t look how i expected them to, that’s okay, if they say they’re trans then they are” except she kept looking through the tag and literally NONE of them were transmen, ALL of them appeared to be ciswomen. she was VERY confused, seriously questioning what she knew about trans people (and not to be like “she has trans friends!” but literally her partner is trans, her sibling in law is trans, many of her friends are trans/nb, hell i think she’s a bit nonbinary herself, idk, we haven’t actually talked about that recently lol) and doubting reality in general.

and then she found out that, amongst a huge section of the internet to which she had never been exposed before, “ftm” stands for First Time Mom.

there’s no moral to this story i just thought it was funny