#cis people texting

[sualne]

Old and new gifts.

(timeline)

[aropride]

i get why people aren't voting for biden but it is really awesome to be pre-transition and dysphoric and being near-certain a trump win will take away more rights for trans people even in safer states. that does feel really awesome and fine.

[sharkgirldick]

Chasers as a punchline for trans women is usually something along the lines of "What if someone cared about me as a person, even if it's only a facade for sex? What if someone found me incredibly attractive and told me so constantly, even if they didn't really mean it? What if I got to find just a little solace in being fetishized?"

Chasers as a punchline for cis people is "Lol aren't trans women annoying?"

[morethanwonderful]

Introducing: The Which MXTX Character Was/Would Be Most Insufferable Online Tournament Bracket

Beginning the evening of August 23rd, 2024 (USA time), I’ll be running a tournament via tumblr polls to determine once and for all which Mo Xiang Tong Xiu web novel character was or would be most insufferable if given access to the internet.

FAQ:

Why this poll theme?

I thought it would be fun to run another big MXTX tournament bracket, since the bugpoll last year was a blast, and this was the funniest theme I could manage to think of.

Why isn't Shen Yuan/Shen Qingqiu in the bracket?

Given what we know about our dear Peerless Cucumber, I fear an SQQ sweep would be a foregone conclusion if I included him. Therefore, after the bracket finds a winner, I'll hold a bonus round and pit the winner against Shen Yuan to determine the true most internet-insufferable character.

What is wrong with you?

Yeah.

My goal is to hold one round per day every day for a week, but I'm contending with a full-time work schedule, so things may get slightly more stretched out than that. I'll also be splitting the first round into Round 1 Part 1 (the left side of the bracket) and Round 1 Part 2 (the right side of the bracket) to avoid spamming people's dashes with 32 separate polls in one day.

If you’d like to either search for or blacklist posts related to this event, all of mine will be tagged with “MXTX insufferapoll.”

The full list of matches is under the readmore here. Happy voting!

Round 1 Part 1:

Wen Chao vs Jin Guangshan

Quan Yizhen vs Mobei-jun

Mu Qingfang vs Ban Yue

Pei Xiu vs Jin Zixun

Xie Lian vs Jiang Yanli

Gongyi Xiao vs Lang Qianqiu

He Xuan vs Xue Yang

Lan Xichen vs Xiao Xingchen

Feng Xin vs Tianlang-jun

Wei Wuxian vs Liu Mingyan

Shi Qingxuan vs Nie Huaisang

Pei Ming vs Shang Qinghua

Jian Lan vs Qi Rong

Lan Wangji vs Song Lan

Nie Mingjue vs Liu Qingge

Mei Nianqing vs Lan Qiren

Round 1 Part 2:

Ling Wen vs Jin Guangyao

Sha Hualing vs Mo Xuanyu

Lang Ying (Present) vs Lan Sizhui

Bai Wuxiang vs Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu

Jiang Cheng vs Ning Yingying

Jin Ling vs Ming Fan

Mu Qing vs Luo "Mianmian" Qingyang

Yu Ziyuan vs Yue Qingyuan

Xuan Ji vs Qiu Haitang

A-Qing vs Yin Yu

Wen Ning vs Zhuzhi-lang

Luo Binghe vs Wang Lingjiao

Wen Qing vs Yushi Huang

Hua Cheng vs Su She

Jin Zixuan vs Shi Wudu

Ouyang Zizhen vs Lan Jingyi

Round 2:

Wen Chao vs Quan Yizhen

Mu Qingfang vs Jin Zixun

Xie Lian vs Lang Qianqiu

Xue Yang vs Xiao Xingchen

Tianlang-jun vs Wei Wuxian

Nie Huaisang vs Shang Qinghua

Qi Rong vs Lan Wangji

Nie Mingjue vs Lan Qiren

Jin Guangyao vs Sha Hualing

Lang Ying (Present) vs Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu

Jiang Cheng vs Jin Ling

Mu Qing vs Yu Ziyuan

Xuan Ji vs a-Qing

Zhuzhi-lang vs Luo Binghe

Wen Qing vs Su She

Shi Wudu vs Lan Jingyi

Round 3:

Wen Chao vs Jin Zixun

Lang Qianqiu vs Xue Yang

Tianlang-jun vs Shang Qinghua

Qi Rong vs Lan Qiren

Sha Hualing vs Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu

Jin Ling vs Mu Qing

Xuan Ji vs Luo Binghe

Su She vs Lan Jingyi

Quarterfinal:

Wen Chao vs Xue Yang

Tianlang-jun vs Qi Rong

Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu vs Jin Ling

Luo Binghe vs Su She

Semifinal:

Wen Chao vs Qi Rong

Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu vs Luo Binghe

Final:

Qi Rong vs Luo Binghe

Bonus:

Qi Rong vs Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu

[redysetdare]

I said it once and i'll say it again the sooner the queer community drops the idea of the straight Boogeyman the better off we will all be. The sooner y'all accept that straight people can also be queer the easier it becomes to accept identities you don't understand.

Straight and queer are not opposite. They aren't contradictory. They aren't mutually exclusive. If you can accept that cis people can still be queer then straight people can to.

Straight trans people exist. Straight aspecs exist. They are all still queer. Grow the fuck up and get over it instead of throwing a fit because things are not about you.

[sarasade]

When I see those "Fujos/fangirls only care about m/m, dudeslash, BL and ignore women" -takes it feels completely alien to me and seems like a total misunderstanding of Slash fanculture.

Someone clearly hasn't witnessed the intense lesbo pining between female(*) Naruto and Sasuke cosplayers who LARP their fave ship at a local con.

Earth-shatteringly fierce homoerotism between slash fiction fans is the corner stone of shipping culture. Always has been.

[transboysokka]

First of all, all my students think I’m 100% cis.

Also every time I talk about significant others I say “boyfriend or girlfriend” (this culture is not ready to go beyond that atp)

My students are OBSESSED with trying to find out I have a girlfriend, even though I’ve never even told them I’m straight (because I’m not)

Today with my 3rd-4th graders…

ME: Why are you guys all so obsessed with knowing if I have a boyfriend or a girlfriend?

STUDENT A: Well you wouldn’t have a boyfriend, teacher, because that would make you gay.

ME: And I’m definitely not gay?

STUDENT B: No! You’re not like gay people.

ME: So what are gay people like? You think you can tell if someone’s gay?

STUDENT B: Definitely! Gay people always hold hands with other boys

(She’s got me there)

*A group of students start listing gay stereotypes and basically conclude that I’m not gay because I’m so masculine*

ME: Wow that’s interesting. Do you guys know any gay people?

*They all insist they do*

[dont-offend-the-bees]

Fuck I hate being an adult. I need a more adult adult to help with the volatile emotional situation.

[bisexualseraphim]

Alright fine I’m gonna speak my mind.

My cis followers, listen up:

Being attracted to trans people is not inherently a fetish. The way you speak about trans people CAN be fetishistic, but 99% of the time when I see cis people calling out trans fetishism it’s literally just. Someone being really horny for a trans person. That’s not inherently fetishistic.

Sorry but it actually hurts me a little when I see cis people claim that a content creator is being fetishistic for drawing a trans guy with tits and a pussy, or for writing smut where a trans guy really enjoys using his pussy for sex, or God forbid said trans guy is fem. Trans people like that exist, you know. I myself have a pussy and fuck yes do I want people I’m in a relationship with to be attracted to it. And the same goes for many transfemmes who keep their natal parts, especially butch transfemmes.

Trans people are not a monolith. We don’t all hate our bodies or experience dysphoria or express our genders the same way. I swear to God cis people are all “allies” until a trans man is fem or a trans woman is butch or an enby isn’t androgynous or we actually enjoy our bodies or we have a kink or sexual fetish you don’t like.

Cis people: I know your hearts are in the right place and I appreciate that, but spouting “oh this content is fetishistic and Bad because trans men NEVER like their vaginas and are NEVER feminine” (or something equal to other trans people) is seriously not the allyship you think it is.

There is absolutely a conversation to be had about fetishising trans people — chasers in particular — but it’s quite a bit less black and white than hating certain FICTIONAL portrayals of trans people because these types of trans people exist in real life and we can see what you say about us.

I love my dick and my pussy (because I have both — are you aware we can have both?) but I saw a post today by someone I really like that actually made me feel kind of shit about myself because it was a cis person essentially saying that smut that describes my genitals in any particularly horny light is fetishistic and that really kind of hurt me. It made me feel like people think I’m undesirable due to my body only it was said in some backwards attempt to be an ally which is almost worse than deliberate transphobia lol.

I guess my point is: not all trans people’s feelings and experiences are universal. Call out obvious transphobia when you see it, yes, but please stop speaking for us about complex situations you just can’t fully understand unless you’re trans. Trans identities and experiences can be so much more complicated than what mainstream celebrities and articles will tell you and I just really need cis people to stop behaving as though the issues we face are a quick and easy fix. It never is. Sometimes the best allyship is to listen to how WE feel and take it into consideration instead of saying whatever you think we want you to say — because a lot of the time, we don’t.

[that-one-guy-with-dyslexia]

Me explaining my gender identity:

So imagine strawberry flavoured ice cream was feminine and chocolate is masculine. My gender would be like mint chocolate. If it had to be sorted into chocolate or strawberry you would have to go with chocolate, but you might be disappointed if you asked for mint chocolate and just got regular chocolate ice-cream instead.

[dramaticsigh]

Shout out to all the people born into a world that was literally not made for you and in fact sets you up for it to be difficult to be alive- how are we all doing??? Not good huh?

[morethanwonderful]

Introducing: The Which MXTX Character do You Most Want to Study Like a Little Bug Tournament Bracket

Starting February 20, 2023 (American time), I'll be running a tournament via tumblr polls to determine once and for all which Mo Xiang Tong Xiu webnovel character the fanbase most wants to study like a little bug.

FAQ:

What do you mean by "most want to study like a little bug"?

Which character makes you want to pick them up, put them in a glass jar, examine them with a little magnifying glass, and poke them with a stick to see how they react? Which character is so so small and pathetic and also truly deeply bizarre? If you don't get what I'm talking about, this poll may not be for you.

Why on earth are you doing sixty-four characters?

A perfectly even bracket has to have 16, 32, or 64 starting contestants, and since there were 33 characters that I really wanted to include, I decided to Commit.

What is wrong with you?

Yeah.

If you'd like to either search for or blacklist posts related to this event, all of mine will be tagged with "MXTX bugpoll."

You can find the full list of matches under the readmore. Happy voting!

Since there's so many characters, I'll be splitting the first round into two days. Round 1 Part 1 (the left side of the bracket) will begin tomorrow (Monday), and Round 1 Part 2 (the right side) will be on Tuesday. We'll continue with one round per day from there.

Round 1 Part 1:

Yin Yu vs Gongyi Xiao

Luo Binghe (Bing-mei ver.) vs Quan Yizhen

Xuan Ji vs Mei Nianqing (Guoshi)

Luo Binghe (Bing-ge ver.) vs Pei Ming

Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu vs Shi Qingxuan

Jin Ling vs Lang Qianqiu

Ban Yue vs A-Qing

Liu Mingyan vs Lan Jingyi

Mobei-jun vs Lan Wangji

Zhuzhi-lang vs Su She

Bai Wuxiang vs Jiang Fengmian

Jin Zixuan vs Tianlang-jun

Qi Qingqi vs Lan Qiren

Su Xiyan vs Yu Ziyuan

Nie Mingjue vs Mu Qing

Jin Guangyao vs Pei Xiu

Round 1 Part 2:

Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu vs Mo Xuanyu

Ning Yingying vs Luo "Mianmian" Qingyang

Xiao Xingchen vs Xie Lian

Yue Qingyuan vs Lan Xichen

Ling Wen vs Shang Qinghua

Jian Lan vs Jiang Yanli

He Xuan vs Nie Huaisang

Wen Chao vs Jin Zixun

Wei Wuxian vs Xue Yang

Wen Qing vs Mu Qingfang

Sha Hualing vs Qi Rong

Song Lan vs Jiang Cheng

Liu Qingge vs Feng Xin

Hua Cheng vs Wen Ning

Ming Fan vs Lan Sizhui

Yushi Huang vs Shi Wudu

Round 2

Yin Yu vs Luo Binghe (Bing-mei ver.)

Mei Nianqing (Guoshi) vs Luo Binghe (Bing-ge ver.)

Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu vs Jin Ling

Ban Yue vs Liu Mingyan

Lan Wangji vs Zhuzhi-lang

Bai Wuxiang vs Tianlang-jun

Lan Qiren vs Yu Ziyuan

Mu Qing vs Jin Guangyao

Shen Jiu vs Ning Yingying

Xie Lian vs Yue Qingyuan

Shang Qinghua vs Jiang Yanli

Nie Huaisang vs Jin Zixun

Wei Wuxian vs Wen Qing

Qi Rong vs Jiang Cheng

Liu Qingge vs Hua Cheng

Lan Sizhui vs Shi Wudu

Round 3

Luo Binghe (Bing-mei ver.) vs Luo Binghe (Bing-ge ver.)

Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu vs Liu Mingyan

Zhuzhi-lang vs Tianlang-jun

Yu Ziyuan vs Jin Guangyao

Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu vs Xie Lian

Shang Qinghua vs Nie Huaisang

Wei Wuxian vs Jiang Cheng

Hua Cheng vs Lan Sizhui

Quarterfinal

Luo Binghe (Bing-mei ver.) vs Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu

Tianlang-jun vs Jin Guangyao

Shen (Jiu) Qingqiu vs Nie Huaisang

Jiang Cheng vs Hua Cheng

Semifinal

Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu vs Tianlang-jun

Nie Huaisang vs Jiang Cheng

The Final Round

Shen (Yuan) Qingqiu vs Nie Huaisang

[scaridea]

being a transman in lgbtq spaces is a nightmare.

I have male privilege because im a man but also i cant say i experience transandrophobia because that doesnt exist and its just misogyny but also i cant say i experience transmisogyny/misogyny because thats for women only and im not a woman and actually because im a man i dont even face that much bigotry so i should be quiet and not talk about my experiences but also transmen are dominating trans spaces while also not facing that much transphobia because we're invisible.

im very tired.

[magz]

Sending bunch of job applications to international remote and local job listings.

Will figure out how manage do interview and how to work with these disabilities + irl circumstance after, as am just more and more desperate.

[sharkgirldick]

Corrected a guy today after he called me sir. He kept slipping up and apologizing a lot and also never called me ma'am.

[smilepaint]

anyway the concept of passing is a scam. we will never be liberated until the idea that a trans person's inherent value and worth and validity is directly proportional to their resemblance to a cis person. and i say this not just to those who struggle to or do not fit into that box, but to those who very much do and are counting themselves lucky.

the same way that its unhealthy and unreasonable to expect a same gender couple to conform to notions of what a heterosexual family should be, its unhealthy and unreasonable to have to expect a transgender experience of identity and a transgender body to conform to a cisgender ideal. not only does it further the marginalisation of trans people and drive a wedge in our community, but it's an unhealthy way to see the world and relate to yourself. its not fair to expect a human being to go their whole life in states of checking the value of their body and their life against a societally imposed, often unattainable model that may not even reflect their own desires or goals.

it's tough, i know how tough it is to go against everything you've been taught, and the right to seek medical intervention to reshape ourselves in a way that deepens and solidifies our connection to our bodies is and will always be important. but for your own mental health, whatever shape you take must reflect yourself first. not a cis persons. transition is about making a home out of the body you're living in, in whatever way works for you.

you deserve the mental freedom that comes with removing "passing" from your emotional radar entirely. trans bodies are good bodies.