#christian friendship

[thatgentlewife-deactivated]

Fear of Submission: Ruining Relationships for Centuries

In today’s culture, submission is often viewed as a form of weakness or oppression. Yet, when we study the heart of submission through a biblical lens, we discover that it is not about losing power but about gaining harmony. Submission, partnered with humility, is a cornerstone of healthy relationships—whether in marriage, friendships, or everyday interactions.

The Root of Resistance

The fear of submission often stems from pride and a desire for control. Society teaches us to “put ourselves first,” to fight for our rights, and to never appear vulnerable. While there is a time and place for self-advocacy, the mindset of constant self-focus can breed division. When people refuse to yield to one another out of love and respect, relationships begin to fracture.

Submission in Marriage

In marriage, submission is not one-sided; it’s mutual. Ephesians 5:21 instructs couples to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” This means putting aside selfish desires to serve and honor one another. Husbands are called to lead with sacrificial love, as Christ loves the church, and wives are called to support and respect their husbands. This divine design isn’t about dominance or inferiority but about creating a partnership where both spouses thrive.

However, fear of being “less than” often leads to power struggles. When one or both partners refuse to submit, the marriage becomes a battleground of egos rather than a haven of love and peace. True humility allows both spouses to see submission as a strength that builds trust and unity.

Submission in Friendships

Friendships flourish when humility reigns. When friends are unwilling to compromise or apologize, small disagreements can fester into major rifts. Philippians 2:3-4 reminds us, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

When we practice submission in friendships, we choose to listen, to serve, and to prioritize the other person’s well-being. Friendships rooted in mutual submission grow deeper because they reflect Christlike love and patience.

The Fruit of Humility

Humility is the antidote to the fear of submission. When we let go of pride and embrace a spirit of servanthood, we create relationships that reflect God’s grace. Harmony comes when people stop striving for dominance and instead work together as equals, honoring each other’s strengths and lifting one another up in weaknesses.

By choosing submission and humility, we experience:

1. Deeper Trust – Knowing someone is willing to lay down their own desires for you builds confidence.

2. Stronger Bonds – Mutual submission fosters teamwork and shared purpose.

3. Lasting Peace – Humility diffuses tension and promotes reconciliation.

The fear of submission has sown seeds of disharmony in relationships for centuries. But God calls us to a higher way of living, one that embraces humility and submission as tools for unity, not oppression. By submitting to one another in love, we mirror Christ’s sacrifice and create relationships that glorify God.

Let us not fear submission, but rather see it as an opportunity to reflect the selfless love of Jesus in every relationship. Only then can we break the chains of pride and walk in the freedom of harmony.

Thatgentlewife

[hiddenplacx]

Thank you to everyone who interacts with me. I feel welcomed and I know that we are somehow in the same boat because we all share the understanding of receiving an undeserved grace. Trust in God, trust that He can put the right people in your life even if they live hours away, on another continent perhaps. God knows what you need to stand firm.

22/07/24

[vicbella-toria]

My friends arrived like love in its many forms, softly finding their way into my heart, building a home there. From quiet gestures to moments of raw vulnerability, they've become my people—now, life without them feels impossible.

[sagekjs21]

😊 @pinestripe37 @titaniumpeony

guys oh my god they invented a thing called friends. and they love you and want to talk to you and be around you. has anyone heard of this

[captainzigo]

when your powerful sorceress friend doesn’t understand ethics

[cephalosaur]

Love each other in a way that makes you feel close like brothers and sisters. And give each other more honor than you give yourself. Romans 12:10

[ghostlyarchaeologist]

Eliot Spencer and Harry Wilson in the Leverage Redemption Season 3 trailer.

[fanfictionismyaddiction]

Thank you to @wonderwolffs for this request

Everyone say thank you

Request: Given Toto is Lana Del Rey coded having a partner/wife who dresses 50s/60s inspired and is the talk of the paddock on race weekends

Pit Lane Glamour

Word count: 524

Pairing: Toto Wolff x reader

Summary: Y/n Wolff and her best friend, Dita Von Teese, are an effortlessly glamorous and mischievous duo

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The Monaco paddock was a spectacle in itself—glittering under the Mediterranean sun, pulsing with the energy of engines revving and cameras flashing. But even amidst the chaos of a Grand Prix weekend, there were two figures who managed to steal the show without even trying.

Y/n Wolff and Dita Von Teese were an evil combination.

Not because they were cruel, or sharp-tongued, or out to make enemies. No, they were simply too elegant, too poised, too unbothered. They floated through the paddock like ghosts of a bygone era, draped in silk and lace, red lips curled in amusement as they observed the world of motorsport with a level of detached amusement.

And at the center of their shared mischief? One very tall, very powerful, and very obsessed Toto Wolff.

“You know, darling,” Dita mused, adjusting the lace gloves on her delicate hands as they strolled through the paddock, “I do believe Toto might combust if you wear that shade of red any longer.”

Y/n smirked, glancing down at the cherry-colored dress that clung to her frame. “Oh, I know,” she replied. “He tries so hard to act unaffected, but I see the way his eye twitches.”

Dita sighed dramatically. “Men are so weak.”

The two of them reached the Mercedes hospitality suite, where Toto was standing, arms crossed, talking to one of the engineers. He was the epitome of power—suited, sunglasses shielding his sharp gaze, the embodiment of control.

Until he saw them.

Until he saw her.

Y/n watched as Toto stiffened slightly, jaw tightening, lips pressing together like he was already preparing for whatever chaos she and Dita were about to bring.

Dita leaned in, her voice a purr. “He looks like a man in distress.”

Y/n grinned. “Let’s fix that.”

She stepped forward first, her heels clicking softly against the pavement. “Mr. Wolff,” she greeted, voice laced with sweetness.

Toto sighed, already exasperated. “Mrs. Wolff.”

Dita followed, a vision in a navy blue fitted dress and a vintage hat that cast the perfect shadow over her sharp eyes. “Oh, Toto,” she crooned, “you look so serious. Aren’t race weekends supposed to be fun?”

Toto pinched the bridge of his nose. “It is my job, Dita.”

“And your job includes looking at your wife like she’s a particularly dangerous curve on a racetrack?”

Y/n beamed, looping her arm through Toto’s. “He can’t help it. I’m simply irresistible.”

Dita sighed. “I really don’t know how he gets anything done.”

“I don’t,” Toto admitted flatly. “I don’t get anything done.”

Y/n giggled, pressing a kiss to his cheek, leaving the faintest trace of red lipstick behind. Toto groaned, wiping at it in vain while the two women exchanged a look of pure delight.

“Oh, we’re awful,” Dita mused.

Y/n nodded. “Horrible.”

Toto shook his head, defeated. “You are both evil.”

But even as he muttered it, his arm tightened around Y/n’s waist, pulling her closer. Because the truth was—no matter how much trouble she and Dita caused him, no matter how much they teased and tormented him—he wouldn’t have it any other way.

[thewordfortheday]

“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17

I prayed for a friend, a praying friend. And God so graciously answered my prayer. I can’t tell you how blessed I am. Whenever we meet, (i.e. seldom these days as we live miles apart) we pour out our hearts to each other, share what the Lord has done for us, talk about His goodness and then lay our burdens at the feet of Jesus and pray together. We confide our failures to one another and are open to advice and correction. I have grown in the Lord with her.

We need people in our lives whom we sharpen and who sharpen us. As God’s Word explains, there should be someone in your life who knows can count on you when he/she is down: “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow,” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Are you lonely? Seek to be a friend. Make time to be a friend. If you still haven’t found a friend, ask God for one. God will provide. He knows your deepest longing.

[orthodoxchristianity]

“Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord:”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭14‬, NKJV‬

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[rentedvsl]

i thought when i was in high school that having trouble making friends was something you would just overcome as you got older. now that I'm older & out of school, i realized it's actually harder. theres no classes, study halls, or school events to get to know someone in, & there are very few events organized by parents you have to go to anymore. you have to work, but depending on the job that can be a hard place to make friends. because who is truly authentic when they're under that kind of pressure & exhaustion? making friends when you get older is hard. making friends means you take the leap by suggesting hanging out with a coworker outside of work despite having no idea if they are only nice to you out of necessity. making friends means having uncomfortable conversations & driving people long distances and running out of things to say in the car. making friends means staying after church instead of walking out as soon as service is over and talking to that one girl you only ever smile at every sunday. making friends means saying "we should grab a coffee sometime" while your hands are shaking

[hiddenplacx]

Hi ! I was going through your blog, your most recent post about not feeling like God loves you and taking refuge into sin really resonated with me ! I just want to encourage you in saying you’re are not alone in that.

But I know how hard it can be to do this walk alone. We definitely need other people to help keep us on the straight and narrow. Lastly I just want to leave you with Matthew 12:48-50! You are my sister in christ, and I am here !

Thank you so much for this message. It breaks my heart that you have to face this same difficulty, but it also makes me glad to know that we are not alone. It comforts me to know that we recognize the harshness of the journey, but with all the struggle we choose to persevere. Feel free to talk to me whenever you want and need to. I'm here for you too!

“He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”Matthew‬ ‭12‬:‭48‬-‭50‬ ‭

[ae-cha08]

When you truly Love Jesus and spend time in Prayer and the Word, the way you Love people changes. You'll become patient and compassionate towards them and you'll start seeing them through the eyes of God.

Only then, it is possible to Love a person unconditionally.

[theinwardlight]

Unlike almost every other contested idea in early Christianity, including the nature of Christ and the doctrine of the Trinity, the unanimous witness of the ancient fathers and mothers was that hospitality was the primary Christian virtue.

Diana Butler Bass, A People's History of Christianity

[mizgnomer]

Behind the Scenes of St. Trinian's 2 with David Tennant and Christian Brassington

Excerpts from the "Book Off!" podcast with Host Joe Haddow, David Tennant, and Christian Brassington:

[ Talking about how they became friends while working on St. Trinian's 2 ] Christian Brassington: We did that and we were just surrounded by girls everywhere. David Tennant: Yeah Joe Haddow: A friendship just blossomed, I assume, from this? DT: Well I think we were both nervous about being seen to be talking to a lot of teenage girls. [ the others laugh ] DT: So we just sort of sat in a corner and talked to each other. CB: Yeah. DT: We were the baddies. We were the villains. CB: I played David's sidekick DT: We were very subtle. Very subtle performances. CB: Oh my goodness! It was almost like a documentary, what we were doing DT: So nuanced, what we did Host: [ Laughing ]

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[sad-boy3]

Some tf2 drawings I made, it’s nothing to big but I’ll will try posting more soon

Some speeding-bullet doodles

A small silly comic of CBS (Christian Brutal Sniper)/Brutalight Sparcake and Asspancakes (if you know the lore of elements of insanity you’ll understand)

And some human designs for Pootis and Medimedes I’m still working on bloo and a male version of medimedes