#christian friendship

[thatgentlewife]

Fear of Submission: Ruining Relationships for Centuries

In today’s culture, submission is often viewed as a form of weakness or oppression. Yet, when we study the heart of submission through a biblical lens, we discover that it is not about losing power but about gaining harmony. Submission, partnered with humility, is a cornerstone of healthy relationships—whether in marriage, friendships, or everyday interactions.

The Root of Resistance

The fear of submission often stems from pride and a desire for control. Society teaches us to “put ourselves first,” to fight for our rights, and to never appear vulnerable. While there is a time and place for self-advocacy, the mindset of constant self-focus can breed division. When people refuse to yield to one another out of love and respect, relationships begin to fracture.

Submission in Marriage

In marriage, submission is not one-sided; it’s mutual. Ephesians 5:21 instructs couples to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” This means putting aside selfish desires to serve and honor one another. Husbands are called to lead with sacrificial love, as Christ loves the church, and wives are called to support and respect their husbands. This divine design isn’t about dominance or inferiority but about creating a partnership where both spouses thrive.

However, fear of being “less than” often leads to power struggles. When one or both partners refuse to submit, the marriage becomes a battleground of egos rather than a haven of love and peace. True humility allows both spouses to see submission as a strength that builds trust and unity.

Submission in Friendships

Friendships flourish when humility reigns. When friends are unwilling to compromise or apologize, small disagreements can fester into major rifts. Philippians 2:3-4 reminds us, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

When we practice submission in friendships, we choose to listen, to serve, and to prioritize the other person’s well-being. Friendships rooted in mutual submission grow deeper because they reflect Christlike love and patience.

The Fruit of Humility

Humility is the antidote to the fear of submission. When we let go of pride and embrace a spirit of servanthood, we create relationships that reflect God’s grace. Harmony comes when people stop striving for dominance and instead work together as equals, honoring each other’s strengths and lifting one another up in weaknesses.

By choosing submission and humility, we experience:

1. Deeper Trust – Knowing someone is willing to lay down their own desires for you builds confidence.

2. Stronger Bonds – Mutual submission fosters teamwork and shared purpose.

3. Lasting Peace – Humility diffuses tension and promotes reconciliation.

The fear of submission has sown seeds of disharmony in relationships for centuries. But God calls us to a higher way of living, one that embraces humility and submission as tools for unity, not oppression. By submitting to one another in love, we mirror Christ’s sacrifice and create relationships that glorify God.

Let us not fear submission, but rather see it as an opportunity to reflect the selfless love of Jesus in every relationship. Only then can we break the chains of pride and walk in the freedom of harmony.

Thatgentlewife

[hiddenplacx]

Thank you to everyone who interacts with me. I feel welcomed and I know that we are somehow in the same boat because we all share the understanding of receiving an undeserved grace. Trust in God, trust that He can put the right people in your life even if they live hours away, on another continent perhaps. God knows what you need to stand firm.

22/07/24

[vicbella-toria]

My friends arrived like love in its many forms, softly finding their way into my heart, building a home there. From quiet gestures to moments of raw vulnerability, they've become my people—now, life without them feels impossible.

[crnklart]

Some scans of drawings from 2022:

Death Disco - Max Out The BPM

Christian Friendship... Little Cherry

Forward Riddim

What Is Happening Now Is Not As Exciting As What May Or May Not Happen Next

I love everyone

Yee Ha

From THE VRNJJPTITTEBBA HONOURS

[sagekjs21]

😊 @pinestripe37 @titaniumpeony

guys oh my god they invented a thing called friends. and they love you and want to talk to you and be around you. has anyone heard of this

[captainzigo]

when your powerful sorceress friend doesn’t understand ethics

[rentedvsl]

i thought when i was in high school that having trouble making friends was something you would just overcome as you got older. now that I'm older & out of school, i realized it's actually harder. theres no classes, study halls, or school events to get to know someone in, & there are very few events organized by parents you have to go to anymore. you have to work, but depending on the job that can be a hard place to make friends. because who is truly authentic when they're under that kind of pressure & exhaustion? making friends when you get older is hard. making friends means you take the leap by suggesting hanging out with a coworker outside of work despite having no idea if they are only nice to you out of necessity. making friends means having uncomfortable conversations & driving people long distances and running out of things to say in the car. making friends means staying after church instead of walking out as soon as service is over and talking to that one girl you only ever smile at every sunday. making friends means saying "we should grab a coffee sometime" while your hands are shaking

[ae-cha08]

When you truly Love Jesus and spend time in Prayer and the Word, the way you Love people changes. You'll become patient and compassionate towards them and you'll start seeing them through the eyes of God.

Only then, it is possible to Love a person unconditionally.

[mizgnomer]

Behind the Scenes of St. Trinian's 2 with David Tennant and Christian Brassington

Excerpts from the "Book Off!" podcast with Host Joe Haddow, David Tennant, and Christian Brassington:

[ Talking about how they became friends while working on St. Trinian's 2 ] Christian Brassington: We did that and we were just surrounded by girls everywhere. David Tennant: Yeah Joe Haddow: A friendship just blossomed, I assume, from this? DT: Well I think we were both nervous about being seen to be talking to a lot of teenage girls. [ the others laugh ] DT: So we just sort of sat in a corner and talked to each other. CB: Yeah. DT: We were the baddies. We were the villains. CB: I played David's sidekick DT: We were very subtle. Very subtle performances. CB: Oh my goodness! It was almost like a documentary, what we were doing DT: So nuanced, what we did Host: [ Laughing ]

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[proverbs31girly]

Send this to your non-blood family 💘

[tadpoles-and-daydreams]

Why I cuss (affectionately) at my deities, sometimes, and why it's important to me

I'm having some feelings tonight, so here have another "Frog is rambling again" post. This one's about Loki, because they seem intent on speedrunning teaching me shit. Seriously it's been like three weeks.

I wasn't prepared for what working with Loki actually looks like. /pos

Because what that actually looks like, apparently, is sitting watching a comedy anime and getting the distinct vibe that it has a sense of humor that Loki enjoys. And then realizing that's because Loki is actively hanging around... watching fuckin' anime with me. Why the hell would Loki want to watch a dumb comedy anime with the funny little guy he works with?

Seeing a post about watching comedy as a devotional act to Loki later felt intentional, so I ended up deciding to do just that.

Thing is, I grew up exposed to the idea that God is an all-powerful being who deserves nothing less than the best and humans are the scum of the earth. I'm only now seeing that it's been damaging my relationship with my deities. I'm afraid to just chat with them 'too casually.' I apologize if I feel like I said something that's too disrespectful. I've apologized to Loki multiple times because he pulled some shit and my response was "god damnit Loki" or "you motherfucker."

And then they remind me that I call my mom the same thing, and she laughs. It's the same with my friends. All because it's not insulting, or disrespectful, it's a sign of affection. I would never say that and mean it; they know that, so it's funny. It's playful.

Amongst many other things, Loki is teaching me that joy is to be valued. This world tells us that it's dumb, childish, or any other assortment of negative descriptors- and that it has no place in spirituality. Certainly no place in the presence of a god- and that's fucking sad. I think Loki is sad about it too. I think Loki's fucking pissed, actually. How dare we be made to feel shame for what makes us happy. The gods deserve to partake in our joy and our fun just as much as they deserve to be part of our sorrow and fear.

Maybe it's just me, but I'm starting to think that hanging out with some fucker who's scrolling through memes and blasting music might just be a nice change of pace for them.

[sad-boy3]

Some tf2 drawings I made, it’s nothing to big but I’ll will try posting more soon

Some speeding-bullet doodles

A small silly comic of CBS (Christian Brutal Sniper)/Brutalight Sparcake and Asspancakes (if you know the lore of elements of insanity you’ll understand)

And some human designs for Pootis and Medimedes I’m still working on bloo and a male version of medimedes

[hiddenplacx]

Hi ! I was going through your blog, your most recent post about not feeling like God loves you and taking refuge into sin really resonated with me ! I just want to encourage you in saying you’re are not alone in that.

But I know how hard it can be to do this walk alone. We definitely need other people to help keep us on the straight and narrow. Lastly I just want to leave you with Matthew 12:48-50! You are my sister in christ, and I am here !

Thank you so much for this message. It breaks my heart that you have to face this same difficulty, but it also makes me glad to know that we are not alone. It comforts me to know that we recognize the harshness of the journey, but with all the struggle we choose to persevere. Feel free to talk to me whenever you want and need to. I'm here for you too!

“He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”Matthew‬ ‭12‬:‭48‬-‭50‬ ‭

[vicbella-toria]

Falling isn’t the problem. Being so afraid to fall that you make yourself hard is the problem.

- Craving Connection

[onceatpeace]

[gnnosis]

on friendship

[ falsettos, “what would i do?” / @beetlejuices / dead poet’s society (1989) / “old friends,” simon & garfunkel / the west wing 01x12 / the raven cycle, maggie stiefvater / ted lasso, 02x12 / “lost in the light,” the bahamas / our flag means death, 01x06 ]