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Stepping Away—With Love and Gratitude

Hey everyone,

This is a hard post to write, but after a lot of prayer and reflection, I know it’s time to step away from this space. I never started sharing my heart online to argue or prove anything—I just wanted to be real, to connect, and to live out my faith boldly. But over time, it’s become clear that no matter how much love I pour into my words, they’ll always be met with hatred from those who refuse to understand.

I have endured a lot—more than I ever expected. Disagreements are one thing, but the death threats, the cruel messages, the people telling me they hope my future children die… it’s just too much. I know Jesus said we would be hated for following Him (John 15:18-19), and I count it as an honor to suffer even a fraction of what He endured. But I am also human, and there is only so much I can take before it starts to weigh on my spirit.

The truth is, I don’t need to keep explaining myself to people who have already decided to hate me. I don’t need to spend my time and energy defending my beliefs when the Bible already makes them clear. My life is not meant to be lived in a constant state of debate—it is meant to be lived for Christ, in love, in truth, and in obedience to Him. And right now, I feel God calling me to step back and invest more in the life He has given me, rather than constantly fighting battles online.

To those who have supported me, encouraged me, and stood by me—I cannot thank you enough. You have been a light in the darkness, and I pray that in some way, I have been the same for you. You are seen, you are loved, and your faith is not in vain (1 Corinthians 15:58). Keep standing firm, keep seeking truth, and never be ashamed of the gospel (Romans 1:16).

I’m not disappearing completely, just shifting my focus to what truly matters—my walk with the Lord, my marriage, my future children, and the real-life ministry God has placed before me. I will always be praying for this community, and I hope you will pray for me too. I will leave my account here.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.” — Deuteronomy 31:6

With love and gratitude,

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Valentine’s Day isn’t about expensive gifts, fancy dinners, or over-the-top gestures—it’s about love in its purest form. The little things matter most: a heartfelt note, a warm embrace, an act of service that speaks louder than any store-bought gift.

True love is found in the quiet moments—doing the dishes so your spouse can rest, praying for them, speaking words of encouragement, or simply spending quality time together. This Valentine’s Day, let’s celebrate love the way it was meant to be—through selflessness, kindness, and devotion.

Love isn’t something we buy; it’s something we give. ❤️

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the feminine urge to soothe every crying baby, mend every broken heart, drop off home cooked meals at loved ones home, heal people’s ailments through various herbal concoctions, and rescue every injured animal with the intention of restoring them back to full health.

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Marriage, when divorce is an option, is a pointless concept. You’re basically one bad argument away from your spouse abandoning you and your children. Must be a very stressful way to live.

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Why Crude Language Isn’t Godly or Feminine

The way we speak says so much about our hearts. In today’s world, crude language, sarcasm, and harsh words are everywhere, but as women who seek to reflect Christ, we should strive for purity in our speech.

The Bible tells us, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up” (Ephesians 4:29). Our words should be filled with kindness, grace, and encouragement, not crude jokes, gossip, or harshness.

If we want to cultivate a more feminine and godly presence, we must be mindful of how we speak. Dainty, graceful women don’t use coarse language. Instead, they uplift, speak with gentleness, and carry themselves with dignity. Let’s be women whose words reflect the beauty of Christ.

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The purest form of love is consideration. When someone thinks about how things would make you feel. Pays attention to detail. Holds you in regard when making decisions that could affect you. In any bond, how much they care about you can be found in how much they consider you

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How to Be More Feminine in Appearance & Speech

Femininity is a gift, and embracing it with grace and intention is a beautiful thing. If we want to cultivate a more feminine presence, we should focus on both our appearance and the way we speak.

• Appearance: Dressing in soft, elegant clothing, choosing modest yet beautiful outfits, and taking care of our skin, hair, and posture all contribute to a graceful presence. Soft colors, flowing fabrics, and delicate accessories can enhance our femininity without being extravagant.

• Speech: Harsh tones, loud voices, and slang words take away from the gentleness we are called to have. Speaking softly, choosing kind and refined words, and avoiding rough or crude expressions will help us reflect a more graceful, godly femininity.

True femininity isn’t just external—it’s a heart posture. It’s in the way we carry ourselves, the words we speak, and the love we show.

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date sweet men. men who can articulate themselves. men who are soft spoken. men who are patient with you. men who respect their own bodies. men who are kind to your soul. men that are gentle. men who have self control.

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I disagree with this — And I think traditional men would too. Here’s why:

A man who desires to be a leader, protector, and provider in a relationship will not secretly admire a woman who prioritizes her own strength, independence, and personal ambitions above all else. While strength and confidence are not inherently bad, and having dreams is not sinful, the way these traits are framed in modern culture often contradicts God’s design for men and women.

Why Would a Man Not Feel This Way?

Men are naturally wired to seek a woman who complements them, not one who competes with them. A man wants to be respected, needed, and honored by his wife—not challenged by someone who insists on being entirely self-sufficient or who takes pride in her independence over her role as a wife and mother. When a woman exalts her own ambitions above the family structure, it can create tension and make a man feel unnecessary in the relationship.

A truly godly man respects a woman who embraces her femininity, supports his leadership, and fosters a peaceful, loving home. He does not need a woman who acts as though she is his equal in authority, but rather one who trusts his ability to lead while offering wisdom, grace, and support.

Pride is Sinful, Dreams Are Not

The original statement suggests that a woman should have “pride in who she is.” However, Scripture repeatedly warns against pride:

• “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)

• “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)

Pride is dangerous because it places the self above God’s design. If a woman takes pride in herself in a way that exalts her independence, her achievements, or her personal strength over humility and submission to God’s will, she is walking in sin. However, this does not mean that dreams and ambitions are wrong. A woman can have goals, but they should always be in alignment with God’s plan and never take precedence over her role as a wife and mother if she is called to marriage.

Strength and Confidence Aren’t Bad, But How They Are Used Matters

The Bible does not condemn strength or confidence—in fact, Proverbs 31 describes a woman who is strong:

• “She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.” (Proverbs 31:17)

• “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” (Proverbs 31:25)

However, this strength is not about independence from men or the pursuit of personal fulfillment. It is strength in character, in faith, and in her ability to serve her family. Confidence, when rooted in Christ, is a beautiful trait. But when it is rooted in pride or self-importance, it becomes a stumbling block.

Conclusion

A man who desires a biblical relationship does not secretly admire a woman who prioritizes herself above her God-given role. He values a woman who is strong in faith, confident in her identity in Christ, and humble in spirit. Dreams, strength, and confidence are not wrong, but they must be submitted to God’s will. A woman’s greatest beauty and worth come not from pride in herself, but from her devotion to the Lord and her willingness to embrace His design for her life.

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How We Can Make Homemaking Our Mission

The world tells us that homemaking is outdated, unimportant, and lacking ambition. But nothing could be further from the truth. A woman who pours her heart into her home is shaping the next generation, strengthening her marriage, and creating a place where love and faith can flourish.

Homemaking isn’t just cleaning and cooking—it’s a ministry. It’s about making our homes places of warmth, prayer, and beauty. It’s about being intentional with the atmosphere we create, the values we instill, and the love we pour into our daily routines.

Let’s reclaim homemaking as the God-given mission it is, embracing it with purpose and joy.

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The difference then, between a tradwife and a homemaker, is the difference between the law and the gospel. Tradwives focus on what to do and what not to do as their identity and the source of their goodness. Do the right thing, and you'll get the right result. But homemaking isn't about role-play or fulfilling some nostalgic ideal that never was. It's about loving the actual people in your actual home, not the ideal people in your ideal home. It's about providing nourishing retreat from the pressures of the world, and giving and receiving grace as lavishly as it's been given to us. ~Gretchen Ronnevik, "Homemaking, Now and Then: Edith Schaeffer Versus the Tradwives" in The Mockingbird, vol. 25: The Home Issue, 34.

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Whenever someone calls vintage clothes “grandma clothes” or crafts “grandma hobbies” as an insult I can’t help but wonder… When did people start hating grandmas?

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Going to try to find a dress for Valentine’s Day today. My goal is so find something sensual, but classy at the same time. Hubby is taking me out to dinner next week. Want to find something nice to surprise him with. ☺️

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“If my life is surrendered to God, all is well. Let me not grab it back, as though it were in peril in His hand but would be safer in mine!”

Elisabeth Elliot

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It’s interesting how feminism claims to support women’s choices—until a woman chooses something they don’t approve of. If a woman decides to embrace traditional values, homemaking, and biblical marriage, suddenly, she’s not “fully human” or “participating in misogyny.” But isn’t true empowerment about giving women the freedom to choose how they want to live?

I don’t view myself or other women as objects meant to serve men. I see my role as a wife as one of love, partnership, and purpose. Submission in marriage isn’t about oppression—it’s about trust, just as a husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the Church. That’s a sacrificial, selfless love, not domination.

Sisterhood shouldn’t be conditional. If feminism is really about uplifting women, why is there so much hostility toward women who don’t fit the modern mold? I don’t expect everyone to agree with my choices, but I do expect the same respect and dignity that feminists claim to fight for. You don’t have to understand or live like me, but dismissing women like me as if we’re blind participants in our own oppression is just another way of stripping us of agency.

We can disagree without assuming the worst about each other. The real question is: does feminism allow space for all women, or only the ones who think a certain way?

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One thing I’ve noticed is that women who uphold misogynistic beliefs—whether they’re conservatives, “trad wives,” or religious women—often get upset when you don’t want to engage with their views. They’ll try to guilt you by saying things like, “So much for sisterhood,” or “What happened to feminism?” But the truth is, many of these women have never truly valued sisterhood or seen women and girls as fully human. Instead, they view women as objects meant to serve males. While we can try to educate and support them, it’s ultimately their responsibility to recognize and reject the misogynistic systems and behaviors they participate in.