#came out as genderfluid and bi in a video the other day

[akrinorlordofthebanana]

This. So much this.

People who know me know that I used to identify as a crossdresser for about five or six years before I realized I'm not cis.

We all know that "crossdressing" and other gnc stuff is a common stepping stone on folks' egg cracking journey, but that does not mean that every gnc person you see is secretly an egg. And even if they were? Chances are they're not ready to face that yet. I know that I was often weirded out when people suggested I was trans; and that's not because I thought trans people were "weird". It was because other people presumed to know my gender better than I did.

Gender discovery is an extremely individual journey. Not everyone is ready to come to a realization at the same point in their life.

And that is again leaving aside the fact that calling a cis gnc person trans is misgendering and Really Fucking Rude.

just bc finnster came out as genderfluid doesn't mean you get to make egg jokes about people who are not (yet) out as trans. btw

[elysianasterism]

September 26, 2024

I'm writing this early!

Day started off a bit slow, since my earliest class is online today. Stir-fried my remaining ground pork and flavored it, turned out alright.

Didn't bother going to the student lounge, just went to the online meeting on my phone. We had a group quiz, and it's kinda hard to do online...

Then our next class, onsite. We discussed gender and sexual orientation, and at least I appreciate my instructor's efforts to use the right pronouns for the trans peeps he mentioned. And a couple of other students came out! Lowkey wanted to do that too tbh. The only people I'm not coming out too is to my family, or at least my parents.

We had a bit of classroom clash with another block for our next class... so we ended up not having that class and continuing our readings instead. I bought peanuts from the finally-working vending machine in the building (and I got coins for change!! I really needed coins.)

Last class, one thing that stuck to me was the mentions of this other university, which is run by priests. But let's not get too deep with that.

My friends and I ate dinner at the mall after. And I mentioned to them casually how I wanted to come out earlier. And they were like "you just came out casually 😲" and I didn't realize immediately 😅. I just told them how I was bi with preference towards those who aren't men and how I'm not very romantic, haven't told them yet about being genderfluid. We then talked about our experiences and the queer stuff they like to read (I'm not really into romance media so...)

Then we rode the jeep back; my friend noticed that the line at the train station was long (it was 5pm by then). She asked if the jeep stops at the intersection near her building, and I assured her that it was a major intersection (so it was gonna stop there anyway) and my building is past that road, so of course I'd look for a jeep that passes that road.

Got home, and looks like my friend had already went home. Welp.

So I'm just here, gonna listen to the thermodynamics video lecture for chem tomorrow. And that class is at 7am, so I probably won't stay up for Bluza. But I am looking forward to it!!

Good night!

[yellobb]

15 Questions Tag Game!

Thank you so much to the wonderful, amazing, stunning @raenestee and @shrekgogurt for tagging me 🥰 I love oversharing and I love other people oversharing, so this was a lot of fun! I definitely wrote a fuck ton, so it's under a cut 😅

No pressure tagging: @onepintobean @frjsti @angelsfalling16 @skeedelvee @cutestkilla @moodandmist @petedavidsonscock @palimpsessed @you-remind-me-of-the-babe @gekkoinapeartree @confused-bi-queer @ivelovedhimthroughworse @aroace-genderfluid-sheep @martsonmars @chen-chen-chen-again-chen

1. Are you named after anyone?

My first (government) name is from my aunt on my dad's side and my middle name is from my great grandma :) The nickname Macey is something my grandma came up with, and it has certainly stuck! I dunno, my full name is gorgeous, but it's not really me, so Macey has always suited me just fine 😌

2. When was the last time you cried?

Relatively recently 😅 It was... last Saturday, I believe. One of my best friends got me the book Burn After Writing by Sharon Jones, which is essentially a journal that prompts you with different questions about your past, present, and future. I was stressed and anxious about my future and feeling generally shitty, so I cracked it open. I wrote for the prompt "You have 9 minutes to live and you have a pen and paper. You can get a message out to the people close to you, giving them the best that you have learned. Give them something to carry with them in their own lives. What do you have to pass on?" It was incredibly therapeutic, but I also cried a lot, since I wrote to my sister, mom, and grandma about the things I'd learned and what I wanted them to know. Idk, it was a great exercise in gratitude for the people I care about most in life while also making me think about the lessons life has taught me

3. Do you have kids?

Not yet! I hope to adopt or foster one day. I'm aroace and deathly afraid of pain, so having bio kids isn't in the cards for me, but I still want to help kids. I love working with them, so I hope one day I'll be in a place where I can take care of a few, whether temporary or permanent :)

4. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

Not at all lol. I only tend to around the people I've known for the longest, and even then I don't really like it. I just feel like I'm being mean when I'm being sarcastic, which isn't great. Not that sarcasm is mean in general, it just doesn't land when I do it, so I try to be as genuine as I can be. My brother got all the sarcasm genes lol

5. What’s the first thing you notice about people?

I'd say the way they behave, probably. Like, are they talkative or quiet? What's their mood like? Stuff like that. I'm notoriously unobservant about physical characteristics (I'd have to think about it to tell you what my best friend of over a decade's eye color was whoops)

6. What’s your eye color?

Brown! Not super dark, but definitely not hazel.

7. Scary movie or happy endings?

I'd say happy endings. I do like some good sad endings, too, but only in controlled settings, like fanfic

8. Any special talents?

Not sure what counts as a special talent, but I can play the oboe and alto sax, so that's cool! I also pick up song lyrics really quickly, have gotten a perfect score on the jetpunk name all the countries of the world quiz, and can imitate the Disney font, but only to write "Disney" lmao (proof attached) (my sister thinks this one is a whole ass personality trait)

9. Where were you born?

The eastern coast of Virginia! I can't get too specific since I still live there when I'm not at school lol

10. What are your hobbies?

I'm a serial hobbyist. I think it's an ADHD thing, but I want to learn everything, but I almost never stick with the skills I learn. I'd say the ones that I have right now are art, reading fanfic (this counts!), video games, watching YouTube, and hiking

11. Do you have any pets?

I do!!!!!!!! My family has a dog (Piper) and a cat (Wishbone). I also count my grandparents' dogs (Nip and Tuck) and cat (Toby), since I used to spend half of every single week at their house (not exaggerating)

Piper and Wishbone are both sweetiepies 😭❤️ They both are very lovey-dovey, though Piper is a lot more hyperactive. Piper loves to play and terrorize the local wildlife, but she always comes and curls up with me to take naps in the bend of my legs. Wishbone is more hesitant about cuddles, though she's always down to play or receive pets. She's lied on my lap three (3!) times, and it melts my heart, since she makes muffins on my tummy first 😭❤️

Nip and Tuck are brothers, and they're old men in little puppy bodies. Nippie is very calm most of the time, just wanting to lie on laps and get pets, but he's also a manipulative little bugger. He likes to drop his treats when him and Tuckie get them, bark until Tuckie switches treats with him, then abandons his new treats to do it again. Or drop treats and stare at them until Tucker comes to pick them up, then bark like a madman when he does. Tucker is more of a sweetheart. He's a butterball, since he tends to eat some of Nipper's leftovers, but that's okay. He likes attacking my hair lol. Both of them are big face-lickers (Tuck is on the left and Nip is on the right)

Toby is a fat asshole lmao. He likes being around people he knows, but you can't come too close or he'll fight you. He bullies the puppies (he's way bigger than them) to the point where poor Nippie has anxiety!

12. What sports do you play/have you played?

I tried a bunch when I was little, but dance and swimming have stuck around the longest. I did dance (ballet, tap, and jazz) from when I was a little 5yo (hehe I actually had a picture of me and my sister in our costumes on hand, so enjoy) until I graduated high school. I still enjoy jazz dance in particular a lot, but haven't really found an avenue to continue it casually yet

Swimming I've done since I was like 6, if I had to guess. We have a pond in my backyard, so my mom wanted to make sure my siblings and I knew how to swim just in case. I ended up doing summer league from 10-18 and being on the varsity team at my high school (not a high bar, I'm very slow lol). Whenever I want to get a workout in, I go swimming above anything else. It's just so nice to be in the water :) Also, my main stroke is backstroke since it's the best one no I will not be taking criticisms

13. How tall are you?

5'6"

14. Favorite subject at school?

In high school I was always a STEM gal (with an emphasis on the STE). Right now, I like my more creative ones, so human-computer interaction, cinema courses, or anything that involves creative computing :)

15. Dream job?

Something that I won't get burnt out on, that allows me to work later in the day in the day instead of early in the morning. I want to do something with virtual reality and/or video games, but in a position where I can do all the different things. Design the experience, make the art, make the script, and code the stuff. I just love the creative process of video games and the art you can make with it and am also obsessed with virtual reality as a medium :)

[oneboxofmatches]

Hi!!! May I request a HP romantic and friendship matchup on both eras? (Preferably male), thanks in advance! 💞

𝗕𝗔𝗦𝗜𝗖𝗦 + 𝗔𝗣𝗣𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗔𝗡𝗖𝗘

19, Libra, Neutral Good, enneagram is 4w5, Ravenclaw, and my patronus spirit is swan. Bi Pan Genderfluid girl using pronouns of She/Her or He/Him. A friend of mine told me that I (kinda) look like Marinette from 𝗠𝗶𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗟𝗮𝗱𝘆𝗯𝘂𝗴, Musa from 𝗪𝗶𝗻𝘅 𝗖𝗹𝘂𝗯, and Alexandra Trese from 𝗧𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲 (a Netflix animated series), but the exception is I'm short (5'1.2") plus sized Southeast Asian woman with Spanish descent that has messy/wavy brunette medium hair, chocolate brown eyes, oriental skin and a small beauty mark on the forehead. My sense of fashion is in between emo and boyish plus korean glam.

𝗣𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗢𝗡𝗔𝗟𝗜𝗧𝗬

Distant and shy at first cause' I dunno how to initiate a conversation, but a total opposite if I open up---friendly, ambivert, witty, laughing loudly on a daily basis, talkative, awkward, daydreamer (I got embarrassed from knocking at the door even I'm inside the classroom 😂), EXTREMELY clumsy, secretly likes affection, easily overwhelmed, prone to melt over any wholesomeness, flusters on compliments, lightly blushes on cheesy banters, sarcastic person with a lowkey crackhead energy citing meme references, and talented girl who can be your no. 1 supporter and unashamed to be true to myself. In terms of leadership, I only educate and guide than being a prefect (I might take the role seriously), and will lift my group when there's lacking/incompleteness. About doing projects in school, I become too extra and prepared for efforts, but I'll forget the process in the end.

People thought I'm a demure self-effacing woman that looks "idealistic" or "one of a kind," (due to my protective parents, a reason why I've never been in a relationship) but the truth is, I'm eloquent, warm-hearted, willig to help, kind, intelligent, supportive, nice, creative, enthusiastic, determined, tough, competitive, and feisty outside, but a real softie that can be childish and dramatic crybaby filled with doubts, frustrations, and insecurities with fear of failure that pushes off the limits to to please everyone, yet I still managed to be stronger than ever, even it's a slow burn process. I can be intimidating, sassy, and a douchebag if I receive ends. Immature, headstrong, perfectionist, demanding, hesitant, jumpy, very indecisive, overthinker, quick-tempered, sensitive, and anxious (no joke, my nervousness makes me think worse scenario will arrive or I might break a belonging due to my carelessness). Though can be procrastinator and arrogant, I raised as a religious 𝖺𝗇𝖽 diplomatic person, willing to fight what I believe (including my dreams) 𝖺𝗇𝖽 what is right. In addition, I have a habit of staying up late and doing sign of the cross to ease nervousness.

Blunt but the loudest idiotic feeling-brokenhearted and bitter friend in the group who fangirl a lot, swears like sailor, will act like a silent backstabber on people that we loathe, will crack up over your stupid antics before helping, and bring gossips, but a hopeless romantic who tends to banter with sarcasms or pick up lines as an endearment (but gets grumpy if I received sappy or offensive one), still generous and concerned in a subtle way.

𝗛𝗢𝗕𝗕𝗜𝗘𝗦

My hobbies are singing, drawing, roleplaying, listening to music, chatting/browsing on social media, conceptualizing, writing, and reading some stuffs. 𝖨'𝗅𝗅 𝗂𝗇𝖼𝗅𝗎𝖽𝖾 making corniest jokes/puns, 𝗌𝗅𝖾𝖾𝗉𝗂𝗇𝗀, and dancing when nobody's around or walking like a model if I feel so bold (even I'm terrible at both xD).

𝗟𝗜𝗞𝗘𝗦

Loves kittens, eating a lot, cartoons, watching YouTube videos (mostly pageants, ASMR, edit audios, and mukbangs), also enjoys playing games on my sister's PSP. Sucker for arts, choir, night sky, makeup, fun/deep/dumb conversations, Christianity, documentaries (about saints, real crime stories, and inspirational people), reading interesting stuffs, talking about social issues, and writings, chilling both indoors and outdoors. Beside that, my music taste are like late 90s-2000s songs (mostly rock, pop, and country) sometimes kpop and ppop, chocoholic, and a sweetooth as well.

𝗗𝗜𝗦𝗟𝗜𝗞𝗘𝗦

Things that I hate are stereotyping, HUGE creepy crawlies (spiders, toads, snakes, and cockroaches), firecracker sounds, being left out, loneliness, heart break, blackout, and judgemental people. One random fact about me is, I 𝗐𝗂𝗅𝗅 vent out EVERYTHING I despise in my entire existence---from bad soap operas to toxicity and worse scenarios in real life, because it's a big deal for me, and I consider forcing me to do what I'm not into and manipulating me as my major pet peeves.

𝗧𝗥𝗜𝗚𝗚𝗘𝗥𝗦

In terms of triggers...I only have two which are ta𝖨king about divorce/annullment/separation because I came from a generational broken family and religion/beliefs discrimination, cause' there are reasonings that doesn't makes sense because some are too hypocritical.

𝗧𝗥𝗜𝗩𝗜𝗔

My best assets are smile, eyes, personality, singing voice, artistic skills, writings, intelligence, and oratorical skills...so I can consider myself as a singer, artist, orator, and a top student who's a former active campus ministry member with three roles (choir leader, psalm singer, and reader). Currently an incoming college freshman, learning how to cook and have so many interests, to the point I don't know what I'm into because of my dreams to become a popular Filipino YouTuber, a novelist, and being part of a successful chorale competing internationally...I also consider joining pageants at school too once the pandemic ends, but maybe.

Thank you so, so much for requesting! I had a lot of fun with this one (as you can tell by some of the really long answers lol) and I hope you enjoy!!

In the Golden Trio era, I romantically pair you with…

CEDRIC DIGGORY

One of the most beautiful things about Cedric is that although he may show some introverted tendencies, he still manages to have a natural gift for connecting to others and allowing them to feel comfortable enough to open up. Really, your initial distance and shyness don't last nearly as long towards Cedric as they would with most other people.

Hearing your laughter brings the widest, cheesiest grin to Cedric’s face. Not only does he adore seeing you happy, but he also recognizes that your anxiety, insecurities, and strong emotions can sometimes cloud up your demeanor. Therefore, it brings him comfort knowing that (for the moment) you’re finding joy. He thrives when you thrive!

However, as much as he loves seeing your more energetic and happier self, it goes without saying that he’s the best comfort for when you’re not having the best day.

Cedric is an excellent listener, so he’ll most likely let you talk without interruption for as long as you need before even saying a word. He wants to make sure he truly understands your current state before acting. He may take a few seconds to process everything after you finish speaking, but then he’ll help you tackle whatever problems you’re facing. He’s especially talented at giving words of affirmation.

Cedric’s listening also comes in handy whenever you talk about your interests! He genuinely loves hearing about the things you’re interested in solely for the fact that you’re interested in them. Side note: you can count on him to be at any music performances, pageants, etc. you may have -- this guy is truly your #1 supporter.

Cedric’s a very good student (though I suspect he’s somewhat of a procrastinator himself), so I can also see you two supporting each other through schoolwork and celebrating each other’s successes.

Like you, Cedric has a strong urge to do the right thing. Talking to him about social issues stirs up a need to help, and I could see you two doing volunteer work together in your spare time.

I like to believe one of Cedric’s biggest love languages is quality time. Don’t get me wrong, this guy loves staying involved and busy. But taking a couple hours to be with you in small ways (even if that means just being in the same room while you scroll through social media) gives him a nice balance.

Overall, this kind boy will be there unwaveringly through the bad times and will laugh just as loud as you through the good!

As a friend, I think you’d best be matched with…

LUNA LOVEGOOD

You wanna talk about the best conversations, relentless support, and overall the most wholesome friendship you could ask for? Luna’s your girl.

Being unashamed to be true to yourself is one of the biggest reasons why Luna is so drawn to you. While she’s very friendly and insightful towards everyone she meets, it can get a bit repetitive for her to constantly interact with people who try to shelter their unique characteristics from the world. In her mind, these unique characteristics are what make people so fascinating! Why should anyone hide who they are?

Luna’s creativity is endless, and I can see it blending well with yours. Collaborating on a personal project outside of school (ex: novel, blog, etc.) together is definitely something I could see you two doing.

Speaking of creativity, finding creative solutions to everyday problems (both in school and in life) is your specialty as friends.

Admittedly, Luna isn’t usually drawn to louder individuals. However, the complexity behind your personality makes it easier for her to know you are much more than what meets the eye.

Speaking of, Luna has a difficult time standing up for herself -- whether it’s because she doesn’t feel a need to or she just doesn’t recognize the meaning behind certain phrases. She NEEDS a friend like you to stand up for her sometimes, and I know you wouldn’t hesitate!

Ranting to Luna is therapeutic to say the least. While her aloofness at times may make it seem as if she isn’t fully paying attention, that couldn’t be further from the truth. She’s actually catching every word, and once you’re done she’ll leave you with a philosophical solution that may seem borderline insane/irrelevant when you first hear it, but it strangely makes sense.

Overall, the lack of judgment from either of you is what draws you together. As a result, you build a unique bond that couldn’t be broken even if either of you wanted it to.

In the Marauders era, I romantically pair you with…

REMUS LUPIN

Let’s be honest, it would take you two so long to ask each other out. You were probably already really close friends, but the insecurities and “what if?” questions from both of you delayed an actual relationship.

When you finally started dating, you were both so relieved. You still share a laugh at how almost nothing changed in the way you interacted with each other.

While with mutual friends, Remus sometimes likes to sit back and just watch you, especially when you get really talkative because this is when you become the most expressive. He has the softest smile when you’re actively cracking jokes, discussing something you’re passionate about, or even calling someone out. Sometimes you may be too distracted to notice, but other times you’ll catch him.

“What?”

“Oh, nothing.” (While that same soft smile never leaves his face.)

You both hold really high standards for yourself in terms of school, so expect late-night study/work sessions to be your best bet for quality time.

Though the occasional instance of walking through/lying on the grounds becomes a favorite for both of you.

Remus listens when you’re particularly struggling through anxiety or strong emotions, but he has to consciously stop himself from interrupting because he can’t stand how he feels knowing you’re going through a tough time.

All he wants to do is soothe you during these moments. If you’re comfortable, he’ll hold you while speaking to you in a soft voice. Remus, the intellectual that he is, is also your best chance at finding a reasonable solution. So if you're not in the mood for calming words, he's also a great person to turn to for answers.

As for your ambitions, no matter what you choose to pursue, you already know Remus is going to be your biggest source of support every step of the way. He’s more than happy to help in any way he can!

Overall, Remus appreciates you, and he’s always going to make sure you know it.

As a friend, I think you’d best be matched with…

LILY EVANS

Lily especially connects to you because you manage to be determined, competitive, and intelligent without sacrificing your kindness, which is something she can relate to.

You and Lily are the C.E.O.s of doing the right thing. Neither of you hesitates to back the other up when it comes to confronting someone because you know it’s justified.

As perceptive as Lily is, you never need to tell her when something is bothering you. All it takes is a quick glance before she puts whatever she’s doing on hold to check in with you.

The reverse works as well. Typically, Lily really doesn’t internally struggle too much, and when she does she tries to hide it. You’re one of the only people who can see right through whatever she tries to pull.

The constant banter between you two is unmatched, but you both know it's because you really care about each other.

Overall, you and Lily have each other’s backs through anything, even when the other isn’t actively asking for help.

[nerdygaymormon]

what do you think about the new handbook?

In January 2016 I received a calling that gave me access to the Church’s Handbooks and I was surprised at the amount of specific things in there on which I had never considered the Church having an official position. I imagine a lot of people are having that experience this week.

I’m glad the Church made the Handbook available to everyone, it’s a move towards transparency. Before this, people were being held to standards or facing processes that only their leaders could access.

I appreciate that in some areas there’s better framework and clarity, but am sad that it often came in the form of being more restrictive or not in line with modern science.

I’m going to outline the changes and add a few comments. ’ll put my opinion about all of this at the end, so if that’s what you want to see, scroll to the bottom.

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Miscellaneous

The Handbook covers a lot of information, so I’m certain in the days and weeks ahead more new things will be discovered. But for now, here’s some assorted policies.

Sacrament

We’re supposed to take the Sacrament with our right hands

The wording that young men are encouraged, but not required, to wear a white shirt and tie is gone. All males who pass the Sacrament are asked to be clean and well groomed.

For a long time, which hand to use has been considered a personal choice, and some associated special meaning by using their right hand.

In February 2019, Elder Oaks saw some youth take the Sacrament with the left hand and he gave a short lecture that went viral telling these kids they were wrong, and now it’s official policy in the Handbook.

Dress Standards

The Relief Society Presidency is to teach dress standards to the sisters so their appearance and clothing show reverence and respect at Church and at the temple.

These are adult women!!! They can’t figure this out for themselves? It mentions ostentatious jewelry and casual clothes without any examples of what this means. I’m afraid some leaders will enforce their personal opinions, such as pants are verboten.

Also this section included a comment about ostentatious jewelry. What is that? Having 2 earrings in 1 ear?

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Discipline

Disciplinary councils have been renamed “Membership Councils”

People no longer are disfellowshipped or excommunicated. They have “formal membership restrictions” or “withdrawal of membership”

Does away with the unequal disciplinary structure for adult men vs adult women.

Before, men who were endowed had a disciplinary council at the stake level. Everyone else had a disciplinary council held by their bishopric.

Now anyone who is endowed and likely to have their Church membership withdrawn will have a stake membership council. Everyone else has a ward membership council for serious sins & actions

At the ward level, membership councils still function the same (the bishopric holds a council with the person whose membership is at risk).

At the stake level, the council now is similar to the way it works at the ward level (the stake presidency meets, without the high council also being involved).

The individual’s bishops can sit in on the council. The individual can also choose for the Elders Quorum or Relief Society President to sit in on the council.

Same-sex marriage is no longer apostasy

Apostasy has been removed from a list of reasons to hold a membership council. Instead it is on a case-by-case basis.

The stake president can place informal membership restrictions on the person and the stake president counsels with the Area Presidency (which are Seventy) about anything more than that, such as a membership council

The language is softer but the results are the same.

I like that men & women are treated equally in this new system. It always struck me wrong that most men in the church automatically had a council of 15 men and women had 3 men.

The reversal of the 2015 Policy of Exclusion finally made it to the Handbook. 

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Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Same-Sex Attracted

Families & members should be sensitive, love and respectful of people who are gay, lesbian & bi

Sexual activity with someone of the same gender is on the same level as an unmarried sex.

Membership councils are optional in these cases, based on the leader’s discretion.

As long as an LGBTQ member is “striving” to live the law of chastity, they’re allowed to hold a calling and temple recommend

“Sexual cohabitation” used to be forbidden, now it’s “cohabitation”. So I guess gay people living together is a problem regardless of whether they have sex. I do know of a few couples who live together, but have given up sex in order to be temple worthy. I guess that’s no longer an option.

The mormonandgay website was done away with and some of the items moved to a new page titled “Same-Sex Attraction.”

Most of the links on this new page don’t work. I’m sure this will get fixed

Most of the “resources” from the old page aren’t on the new page.

The last 4 video stories of members from the former site are on the new site.

Credit for finally making this page available in languages other than English.

I wonder if it will still say it’s okay to identify using the terms gay, bi or lesbian.I know President Oaks prefers the phrase “same-sex attraction” and a lot of his influence is seen in the new Handbook changes. 

The best section of the previous site was a collection of 17 members who are gay, bi and lesbian (well, 2 of them are parents of gay kids). Hearing them tell their story in their own words was powerful. Most of them have asked for their video to be removed.

The only stories remaining are 2 people in a mixed-orientation marriage and 2 parents who have a gay son. Each of those 4 members now has multiple videos (Laurie, Laurie’s husband, Laurie’s bishop, Laurie’s friend). 

The experience of most LGB people in the Church is now absent from this page, which again confirms for me that this has been a site for leaders & family, not actual members who are bisexual, lesbian or gay.

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Transgender

Preferred names can be noted in your membership record and Church leaders are encouraged to use them.

People can also to ask others to use their chosen pronouns

Elective surgical or medical intervention (which I believe means hormone treatment) for the purpose of transitioning, and social transitioning will result in membership restrictions.

These restrictions include not getting to exercise the priesthood, receiving or using a temple recommend, and receiving some Church callings

Even if the hormone therapy is prescribed by a medical professional to ease gender dysphoria or reduce suicidal thoughts, membership restrictions will result

Transgender people who don’t transition can have Church callings & temple recommends

Gender is defined as “biological sex at birth.”

This is recorded on Church records and determines whether someone can receive the priesthood and how they experience the temple ordinances

Transgender people & their family are welcome to attend Sunday church meetings and social events

There is now a page for transgender people, just as there has been for LGB people

This whole section of the Handbook makes me sad because it reduces these members to being a mistake and they need to choose a side. Nevermind they were born this way and have complex lives, they need to look and act like a cishet member.

I’d love if the church leaders could show scriptural backing & the words of the Savior to justify their views on trans folks other than the Family Proclamation.

Credit to the Church for switching from “transsexual” to “transgender

While trans people are welcome to attend the 2nd hour of church, no guidance was given about if they can choose either Relief Society or Elders Quorum

It’s problematic to define gender being as your biological sex at birth. If gender is eternal, why is “at birth” needed? A doctor or nurse assigns a biological sex at birth by taking a look at the newborn’s external genitals. This is only 1 of 5 markers of gender. A doctor or a nurse is not God.

5 components of biological sex

external genitalia

inner reproductive anatomy

sex hormones

chromosomes

gonad differentiation (gonad secretions cause sex-specific patterns in many other tissues & the brain)

This section of the Handbook still speaks of gender as binary–you’re either male or female and trans. Genderfluid, nonbinary, or any acknowledgement of a spectrum doesn’t exist.

To say a trans person will face consequences for social transitioning is really troubling. What does “social transitioning” mean? Do pronouns count as “social transitioning?” Long or short hair? If people must dress according to gender stereotypes, then it seems like leadership is more concerned about the feelings of the 99 and not the health & well being of the 1.

Why is it only transgender members who have a ban on these surgeries? Lots of breast enhancements, reductions and mastectomies take place every month with not a whiff of interest by church leaders, but if it’s done to affirm one’s gender identity, then it’s forbidden, even if it’s life saving.

It did make me feel queasy to read that even if medical or surgical intervention is prescribed by medical professionals to deal with gender dysphoria or suicidal thoughts, too bad, we’re still going to punish you. What kind of monsters came up with this?

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Intersex, aka People Whose Sex isn’t Clear at Birth

The Handbook says the incident rate of intersex is extremely rare

Questions about membership records, priesthood ordination and temple ordinances for youth or adults who were born with sexual ambiguity should be directed to the Office of the First Presidency.

This is the first I’ve seen Intersex given their own section in the Handbook.

While policies about LGBT people are listed as “moral issues”, the section on intersex people is under “medical and health policies.” That’s a good sign, it means that the medical profession determines what is best, not a church leader.

I appreciate that church takes this out of the hands of local leadership. It’s a complex issue that untrained people shouldn’t get to have say over.

The Church assumes that surgical & medical intervention is needed for this group of people. Unfortunately it implies the default is to do so in infancy or early childhood when current best practices would be delaying, if possible, until the individual can weigh in on their body & identity. 

The idea that intersex is rare, well that depends on what they consider rare.

The rate could be as high as 2% of the population or as low as 1 in 2000.

If we think of that in terms of Church congregations, it suddenly seems not so rare.

In North America, a ward must have 300 members. If 1%-2% are intersex, that’s a couple people in each congregation.

If we go with the lowest rate of 1 in 2000, consider that in the US & Canada a stake requires a minimum of 3000 members. So 1 or 2 members per stake would be intersex.

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I think these changes show that the Church is willing to include queer people up to a point. We can feel & be the person we believe ourselves to be as long as we don’t actually act in a way that affirms who we are.

We are to be loved, respected and welcomed, however these homophobic and transphobic policies remain in place. Love & respect is more than smiling & being nice to someone.

The policies of the Church regarding queer people is out of line with science. As science continues to advance and confirm that gender identities and sexual orientations are real and biological and not changeable by will, the tension for the Church on these topics will continue to grow.

“The only clear line I draw these days is this: when my religion tries to come between me and my neighbor, I will choose my neighbor. Jesus never commanded me to love my religion.” -Rev. Barbara Brown Taylor

Considering Jesus admonishes us again and again to love each other and that we are all alike to God, I can only guess that Jesus wept. Again.

[bisexual-in-every-gender]

Pride Asks

Is your family accepting?

What is your sexuality?

What is your gender identity?

Favorite color?

When did you find out your sexuality?

What do you wish you could tell your past self?

Have you changed labels since realizing you were LGBT?

How was your day?

Do you have any gay friends irl?

What’s your favorite hobby?

Who’s the best gay icon in your opinion?

Which pride flags do you like the most design/color wise?

Do you wish you could change any pride flags?

Are you openly out?

Are you comfortable with yourself?

Do you experience dysphoria?

Bottom, top, or verse?

(Lesbians) are you femme, butch, or neither? (Bi girls) Doe, tomcat, stag, or none of the above?

Do you bind?

Do you shave?

If you could date anyone you wanted, who would it be?

Are you in a relationship?

Describe your partner.

Have you ever dated anyone of the same gender?

Dated anyone of another gender?

Tell me a random fact about yourself!

Do you own any pride flags/merch?

Have you ever been to a pride parade?

Any advice to someone who isn’t out or who is exploring themselves?

Pineapple on pizza?

1. It depends. Certain people are, certain people aren’t. My nan, mum and little sister are fine with my wife being trans although at least my mum and my nan ignored me being bisexual for the most part until my wife came out as transgender. Then they HAD to face the reality. My dad and older sister pretty much ignored it, too. Now that my wife has come out, they keep ignoring it, HOWEVER, they do absolutely NOT accept my wife. So it’s a mixture really.

2. I’m bisexual with a strong preference towards men (despite being married to a woman).

3. Cis female.

4. Pink and royal blue.

5. When I was in my teen years. I had strange feelings towards certain girls very early on (as early as 5) but never had a name to put on it. When I was 15, I was introduced to the word “bisexual” and it suited me.

6. To not be so hung up on labels, that sexuality is fluid and to not get bogged down on guys so much when maybe a girl is waiting (and she did :))

7. Yeah, I considered myself bi for a really long time, then when my wife came out as transgender, I thought I was straight because I had a hard time adjusting. But I think that was only because I was used to her body and looks as they were before, not about her gender specifically. I do feel attracted to her still and to other girls, so I switched back to considering myself bisexual. I also identified as demisexual/asexual for some time.

8. Meh. I’m tired and a bit anxious about a phone call I have later but all in all, it’s been okay-ish.

9. Sure do! One of my closer friends, Konstantin, is gay. I also have several gay acquaintances. Our tattooist is lesbian, my and my wife’s common friend Will is bisexual like me, Vic is bi and genderfluid and of my wife of course is trans and lesbian.

10. Reading, swimming, learning languages. I’m also interested in riding horses but here in China, no one offers it :(

11. If “gay” in this context means “LGBT”, I’d say Jamie Clayton for sure. I also hugely admire Adam Lambert, Munroe Bergdorf, Laverne Cox and Janet Mock.

12. I love my bi flag! It’s my three favourite colours: pink, purple and blue <3 The trans flag has a nice colour scheme, too.

13. The Demisexual and Asexual one are really bland looking. The black and gray is not colourful enough in my opinion. I also don’t like the lesbian flag because I hate the colour orange, but that’s just me.

14. To most people, yes.

15. Hmm, I’m trying to be. It’s a long journey.

16. Nah.

17. ???

18. None of the above. I don’t reject either masculinity nor femininity but also wouldn’t say that I’m androgynous.

19. Nope, I’m cis

20. I shave my legs, armpits and intimate areas if that’s what you’re asking.

21. My wife <3

22. Married and proud.

23. She’s a lovely trans girl (though when we married, she still identified as a cisgender male). She came out 6 months ago as transgender. Though her attire is very femme, she’s extremely butch in her behaviour. She loves beer, football (or soccer as Americans call it) and video games. I love her very much <3

24. I’m married to the same gender! :)

25. Yep. The full bi experience, haha! My ex is a guy, my wife is (obviously) a woman.

26. I speak 5 languages, 3 of them on a fluent level.

27. Sure do! We have my wife’s trans and lesbian flags and recently ordered my bi one! :)

28. Twice, yes.

29. Don’t be afraid of playing about with labels. The one you choose now may not be the one you stick with. Explore your identity and sexuality. Don’t be afraid of finding out who you are. And fuck everyone that stands in your way.

30. Meh, I can take it or leave it. I don’t have strong opinions on it either way.

[thecourtneychronicles]

“Courtney Act took second place for the 16th season of Dancing With The Stars Australia finale on Monday. Performing with their partner Joshua Keefe, the drag queen, performer and reality television star lost out to actor and radio presenter Samuel Johnson.

Act maintained a consistently high level of performance each week, repeatedly outpacing every other performer on the leaderboard. In fact, since the season’s debut in February, they were given the top score every week except during week four for a Samba, and even outscored Johnson and his partner Jorja Freeman in the finale. During week 6, Act and Keefe also won immunity, a feat that no other pair accomplished across the season.

In the finale, the former Australian Idol, RuPaul’s Drag Race, and Celebrity Big Brother contestant pulled out all of the stops including a wig reveal. The drag performer opened up the show in an encore performance of their quickstep, which received a score of 29/30. Then they came back out for a freestyle that incorporated jive to Janelle Monae’s “Make Me Feel.” It was during this number, after emerging in a seemingly Cruella de Vil black and white number, that came the aforementioned reveal as Act and Keefe both swapped into neon colored looks. The tricks — and talent — got the pair a perfect score of 30/30. But, it was more than just about high scores for them, Act also sought to surface conversations about gender.

“The first time I saw two men ballroom dancing together I was changed,” she tweeted a few days before the finale. “It confused my brain in the best possible way and broke apart a limiting expectation that I didn’t even know was there. Of course two men can dance together.” With the tweet they posted photos from the semi-finals where they performed out of drag for the entirety of the performance. It marked the first time there was a couple both presenting as male, performing together on the Australian franchise though Nyle Dimarco had preceded them on the American version.

“We’ve been a same-sex partnership all season, but oddly it felt less controversial being dressed up as a girl dancing with a boy than it did to be a male presenting couple,” they continued. “I hope for people who saw two men dancing together for the first time they saw something beautiful.” They went on to point to Billy Porter as a style inspiration.

But it was more than just the semi-final performance. Though Act mastered every dance style on the show, their tango was an explicit message about coming to terms with their own gender. On week three they performed to Joe Jackson’s 1982 track “Real Men,” in a show that saw them come out of drag on stage. In the accompanying intro video they talked about coming to terms with being genderfluid and hoping to portray that on stage.

Finishing in the top two adds DWTS to a string of notable reality television spots Act has had. Last year they also hosted the UK’s first bisexual dating show with The Bi Life. According to reports, they are also is working on a late-night talk show.”

Out Magazine article about the DWTS Australia season finale - April 23, 2019

[saejsystem]

Here is another intro post! This is the most noticeable LGBT+ group. Many of us are asexual, pansexual, bi, or other/undecided, but these are the main few that call it a defining trait about them.

Bailey/Baxton - This is our genderfluid, only into females, member. They are a protector and are super open and wild, go with the flow and carefree. They do what they want with no cares in the world.

Day - This is our nonbinary side! Day is definitely a lot more timid than Bailey. They struggle a bit more with anxiety, but they enjoy times where they forget about it. Long car rides blasting music or roller coaster rides are all really fun for them.

Zack - He is our closeted gay. Shhh, don't tell him I said that lol. He is often very defensive when called gay directly, as he isnt technically fully gay. Surprise: Day and Zack are in a relationship. It was an unplanned event but they went away for a while and came back as a semi couple and have gotten more close since then. It's surprising because, while Day is quiet and soft spoken and anxious, but also liking wild fun, Zack is loud. He plays video games a lot and is blunt. He doesn't care any bit for anxiety and the opinions of others. He does as he wants and he does it loudly.

Cloud - Cloud is someone we don't know a lot about yet. They're genderfluid and very sweet. They are just what their name says they are, not a bunch of water molecules attached to dust particles in the atmosphere, but rather a softy. They're very "fluffy", warm and willing to take any hit for you or do anything for you. They don't come out often or even venture near the front, but when called for they will be there in an instant. And if ever need be, they can become the raging storm called for.

Gunn - This is one of our most outgoing alters. Gunn is Gay, and he loves to flaunt it. He's super steampunk and he's based off of a lot of steampunk ideas, but oddly enough he works great in the modern world. He's wild and energetic, yet kind and gentle. He doesn't care too much for the opinions of people in the outside world but he still loves to hangout outside.

~~~***DISCLAIMER- I do not claim ownership to any of these images and I did not create any of the art. All of these images were found and downloaded off of pinterest. Again, I do not own any of them and I do not claim ownership.***~~~

[good--bye--binary]

They/Them or She/Her

Happy Priiiiiiiiiiiiiide!!! 🌈🏳️‍🌈

I got a couple of pics in before heading out to the Chicago Pride Parade today and even talked my mom into taking a couple selfies with me while we were there!

I’m also in the process of coming out to every person I know that I haven’t yet. Most of these are people that are very important to me, but either I don’t get to see them very often and/or they’re more conservative and not at all educated on LGBTQ issues. To that end, I finally wrote a coming out letter and I thought I’d post it here just in case anyone else wanted to use portions of it! 😁

Dear ________,

In case you didn’t already know, this month is LGBTQ+ Pride Month. Both because of this and, more importantly, because I respect and cherish our relationship, I feel compelled to tell you that I am transgender. Specifically, I am non-binary, genderfluid, and transfeminine (more on all of those terms later). Although I have always questioned my gender, I came out to myself in November of 2016. Now I feel it is the right time for absolutely everyone to know.

I have written, deleted, rewritten, and revised this letter many times over many months because I want it to be as clear as possible. To that end, I thought it best to organize it as a list of questions directed towards myself, questions that I would expect you to have. Of course if you ever want me to explain something more, an answer doesn’t make sense, or you have a question that isn’t on here, PLEASE TALK TO ME. You might find that reading these questions and answers are enough, but if you don’t, I would much rather you talk to me directly rather than speculate, be confused, or turn to the internet which may have misleading or inaccurate information. On this last point, I don’t just mean anti-LGBTQ+ websites and organizations; gender is a very complicated and personal experience, so even pro-LGBTQ+ literature may define or explain terms in ways that are different from how I apply them to my gender experience.

Q1. How do you know/what makes you think you’re transgender? A1. Like almost all LGBTQ+ people will tell you, I always knew I was somehow different from most of the other kids. For me, it was about never feeling completely comfortable or understood by boys and men. For as long as I can remember, I have not only preferred the company of girls and women, but I have never felt “like one of the boys.” My closest friends have always been (and continue to be) women. Even in films, TV shows, video games, novels, and short stories, I almost immediately identify with female characters, but rarely do I do the same with male characters.

Have I been able to “fit in” with boys/men in the past? Yes, of course I have, because society has always suggested that I should and that there would be consequences if I didn’t. Did I enjoy the act of having to hide, censor, and think very deliberately about my behavior so that I wasn’t bullied or seen as weird? Absolutely not. I went to sleepovers at my male friends’ houses in grade school, but I hated them. I would get terrible anxiety as the scheduled day came closer and once I got there, I couldn’t wait for them to be over. I hated “acting like a boy.” It brought me literal pain and discomfort.

These feelings of pain, discomfort, and anxiety are symptoms of what is known as dysphoria. Dysphoria is an experience that nearly all transfolk experience. Euphoria is the feeling that everything is perfect—being in a state of mind that is complete bliss and one that you hope will never end. Dysphoria is the opposite of that. It’s the feeling that everything is wrong—a mental and emotional state of torture that feels like it will swallow you up and crush your spirit forever. When applied to transfolk specifically, dysphoria is what we used to mean when we said things like “I feel like a man trapped in a woman’s body” or vice versa. That phrase typically isn’t used any more because it implies that a person is only a man if they have a “male body”/a woman if they have a “female body,” but the intended meaning is the same.

I know that I’m transgender because I experience dysphoria. There are days that I look at myself and I just want to throw up because I don’t feel like I look right from a gender perspective. It feels like I’ve hijacked some other person’s body, like there’s a disconnect between my mind and the person I see in the mirror. Some days I look at my men’s clothes and putting them on feels like putting on clothes made of fire or acid. I see the hair on my legs and I want to rip each and every one of them out. This is dysphoria and it feels terrible.

Q2. What do you do when you feel this way? A2. Before I came out in November of 2016, I just buried it. As a child, I of course had no idea why I felt this way. Not only that, but even in the 1990s society wasn’t ready to talk about gender the way we talk about it now, so the idea of saying I was transgender could never cross my mind because there was next to no representation of transfolk. But now, when my dysphoria hits, I don’t avoid it. I listen to my body, think to myself, “Ok, so you’re not a man today,” and adjust my gender presentation accordingly. This brings me to my specific labels of being non-binary and genderfluid.

Traditionally in Western/American culture, we think of gender as a binary experience—everyone is either a man or a woman. Even most transfolk that you may be familiar with, like Caitlyn Jenner, Jazz Jennings, Laverne Cox, and Chaz Bono, are all binary transfolk. They identify as the “opposite” gender they were assigned at birth. Being non-binary means that I don’t completely identify as a man OR as a woman. Some non-binary people identify as more male than female, more female than male, or feel that they have no gender at all (this is known as being agender). However, I also identify as genderfluid, which means that similar to how water (or any fluid) in a glass can move fluidly in a glass depending on how you tilt it, my gender also moves fluidly.

Try thinking about gender as a spectrum (which nearly all psychologists agree it is), a line from 0 to 10. On one end, you have the feeling of being completely male all of the time and on the other side being completely female.

Though it is impossible to qualify with any kind of numbers, I would say my gender identity varies from day-to-day anywhere between a 4 and and a 10. Because I am more likely to be on the feminine side of the spectrum (6-10), I can also say that I’m transfeminine, meaning that while I don’t identify as a woman every single day (and thus am not a trans woman), I do, on average, tend to feel more like a woman than a man.

So, on days that I’m at a 4 or a 5, I probably just look like what you would expect a man to look like. However, if I’m at a 7, maybe I’ll wear “mens clothes” but also wear some make-up and/or nail polish. If I’m at a 9 or 10, I probably will wear “womens clothes,” make-up, a stuffed bra, and sometimes a wig. However, no matter what my gender expression/presentation is, I’m always non-binary.

Q3. Does this mean you’re a crossdresser? A3. No. Crossdressing is a hobby, which is totally fine if that’s what you’re into. It usually refers to men who always identify as men but find it “fun” to dress in women’s clothes. When I’m a man, I wear men’s clothes. When I’m a woman, I wear women’s clothes. It’s not a fetish or a hobby. I dress for whatever my gender is that day.

Q4. Does this mean you’re gay? A4. Because my gender is constantly shifting, labels like straight, gay, lesbian, and bisexual don’t apply to me. A person’s sexuality is defined not only by who they’re attracted to, but also their own gender. A man who is a attracted to men is gay. A woman who is attracted to men and women is bi. I am only attracted to women, but I myself am neither a man or a woman, so I can’t say that I’m straight, nor can I say that I’m a lesbian. Therefore, it’s most accurate for me to say that I’m attracted to women and just leave it at that.

Q5. What am I supposed to call you now? Are you changing your name? A5. I still go by Rich. If I’m in a very public place (like when placing an order at Starbucks for example) and I’m identifying/presenting as a woman and don’t want to get clocked as transgender, then I use the name Christina.

The only big change is that I don’t go by gendered pronouns (he/him or she/her). Like most non-binary people, I go by the gender neutral they/them. For example, a friend of mine wouldn’t say, “That’s my friend, Rich. He is an English teacher.” Instead, that friend would say, “This is my friend, Rich. They are an English teacher.” You might notice that I changed the gender preference on Facebook to reflect this (i.e. “Rich has changed their profile picture”).

Also, in general, I do not appreciate being addressed with terms/phrases like “Hey man” or “What’s up, dude?” I understand that most of the time when people use “man” or “dude,” they don’t mean it in a gendered way, but it still really aggravates my dysphoria to be called “dude,” even if I’m identifying/presenting as more masculine.

I also understand and can respect that having to think about my pronouns like this may seem strange and/or difficult to remember, but all I ask is that you try your best and definitely don’t misgender me on purpose.

Q6. Are you going to have “the surgery”/a sex change? A6. Just for the record, the term “sex change” isn’t used any more; the medical term is gender reassignment surgery (or GRS). But no, I am not. I do not plan on undergoing any kind of surgery to change my sex nor do I plan on taking hormones. My wardrobe and gender pronouns are enough to qualm any dysphoria.

I know that this is a lot to take in, both literally in the sense that it was almost 2,000 words long and uses terms you might never have heard of before, but also that it might be emotionally difficult, so thank you if you’ve made it this far into this letter. All I can say is that I wanted to come out to you because I love you and because I care about our relationship. I don’t want to be ashamed or hide who I am from you any more. Take as much time as you need to process this and again, please, if you have any more questions or concerns, talk to me. You can call me, text me, or write me a letter of your own, whatever makes you most comfortable.

Much thanks and even more love, Rich

[arcadefloorvibes]

I do indeed wish to know more about your OCs and what their names are 👀

I know you got one called Jasper cus I went "Hey me too!"

AH YES I GET TO TALK ABOUT MY CHILDREN

I was going to answer this the day I got it but then I opened the "Colors" document and found it blank and I had a moment of

"Oh my god i never wrote it down"

Anyways so Colored Hearts doesn’t have much in terms of character descriptions but I can at least give base details on Jasper and Blue

Jasper by all technicalities has two names, Jasper and Romeo. He goes by Romeo for the beginning parts of the story before changing it to Jasper midway. He’s a cheerful dude, he has a ridiculously high cold tolerance which means he wears a sleeveless shirt with a chest window in the snow. He’s a tornado of jokes and flirting and he’s just a really fun dude to hang out with.

Blue doesn’t have much for personality yet other than he’s very honest, chill and is the leader of a desert traveling market which means he’s got the flowy outfit and the staff because that's cool.

and that’s pretty much it for Colored Hearts... I haven’t worked on it much since it still feel weird to call that universe “my creation” it was originally an idea my brother and I came up with before he decided that he didn’t want to continue with it but I got too attached

Now I’m going to talk a lot about my other universes so here’s a read more

So I have 3 other universes;

Orchards

By Alchemy or By Trickery (BAOBT)

Beastiary

Ranked from most worked on to least.

Originally everyone except Orchards were in one modern universe before I realised there were too many characters that didn’t have anything except a character design I liked and no personality, so I split everyone up into different universes and fully removed some characters.

So I’m just going to give a really basic explanation of the three universes and go from there

Orchards is the main story I’m working on and talk about the most. That universe it planned to be a dating game so I kind of need to know a lot about them in this. They have had a tendency to not talk to me right now though so I’m in a bit of a rut.

There are eight characters that I have gotten developed. They are:

Adelaide: The main character and the one I consider my only daughter. She’s very kind but holds her ground, she’s also a biology student. Her motif is a peach

Reed: Our resident edgy boy who’s a big sweetheart, he likes taking photos. His motif is an apple

Caspar: Big buff surfer boy who likes sweets and coffee, he’s our resident tsundere. His motif is an avocado

Gilbert: I don’t have favourite characters I don’t have favourites, Gil is our soft boy who plays video games and he’s really shy. His motif is a blueberry

Jax: When you like your men a little pathetic, I’m trying to find a way to enjoy writing Jax still. His motif is a lemon

Mango: Out of everyone Mango probably would use tumblr, she’s very much a chaotic fandom mess. Her motif is (you’d never guess) a mango.

Bee: She doesn’t talk to me much so I still don’t know a lot about her, but she’s the leader of the group. Her motif is a blackberry.

Now technically, James isn’t a main character but he is my son and i love him very much. He’s Gilbert’s ex and they still get along, they’re just opposites in energy and I love James’s design and I want to show him off but I haven’t drawn him properly yet

By Alchemy or By Trickery is a death game set in the 1800s that I haven’t decided what format I want it to be in.  BAOBT also has the most characters from the original universe.

Technically there are like 30 characters in this but I’m only going to discuss the main 6 since they’re the most defined:

Alexis: Our genderfluid bi mess, they’re the “trickery” part of the title, trying to use their wits to get them out of the game. They also have a huge crush on Oliver. I also created Alexis with a lot of my traits before I realised that I was genderfluid, I also created them before the universes got split, so they have a more modern drawing of them somewhere. His flower is freesia

Toby: Toby is my son my boy my baby and he’s the oldest OC out of all of them here since everyone else has been revamped to hell and back. He’s a scientist boy, the “alchemy” part of the title. He honestly doesn’t want to be here and looks like he needs a nap all the time. He lives with Alexis as well so the two of them make the title. Toby’s theme song is “Venom” sung by HIRAGA and his flower is larkspur

Viola: She’s the butch lesbian that struggles in the 1800s victorian era, she tries to act tough but melts whenever she’s with Flora. We’re still working on a proper character arc for her. Her flower is amaryllis

Flora: The femme to the butch, very cottagecore kind of vibes and she’s sweet but totally could break a chair over your head if you hurt her girlfriend. Also working on a personality. Her flower is plumeria

Oliver: Also my son my boy my baby, he’s that cute boy with freckles you see reading a book in the corner of your library, he’s the sunshine that lights up your life, he’s the boy with suspenders playing the violin softly at midnight. Can you see why Alexis is so in love with him yet? His flower is forget-me-nots

Lance: Rich, handsome, and flirtatious what else do you need? A personality? Well we got that too! Just add a bit of parental issues, trauma and most importantly compassion and we got Lance! His flower is yellow tluip

The main theme song of BAOBT is “Dramaturgy” by eve, so that’s fun :)

Beastiary was the hardest to create since it took my cat girl and dragon boy and initially didn’t work until i just made all the animal people in this story. This is about a spider queen trying to create a live beastiary containing one of every species in the world for her own private zoo. It’s designed to be an rpg so we got rotating parties and honestly not much has been done on it.

There are currently 5 that I can at least semi explain.

Leo: Chameleon boy, he’s kind of timid and tends to chamoflage when he gets nervous, he also changes colors with his emotions which makes him a horrible liar. He’s like an older brother figure to Kitty and Valeria.

Catherine (Kitty): Now Kitty is also known as Natsumi and if you look on my artfight she’s still there. I haven’t redesigned her yet but I like the art I’ve gotten from people drawing her so she stays for now, but Natsumi and Kitty are two seperate people now, but I don’t know the difference yet.

Valeria: A snow owl girl, who is the chosen one in this quest. She holds an air of elegance and comes off as very mature but she’s had almost no social interactions with other teens her age so she doesn’t really know how to relax.

Myra: She is the daughter of the spider queen, she’s trying to fight back against her mother but is currently imprisoned. Not much on Myra but she’s my younger brother’s favourite.

Finny: Playful fox boy, he likes playing pranks and has a huge crush on Myra when he accidentally fell into Myra’s courtyard (its underground) and he helped her out. He now sends flowers every now and then to her. He’s a cutie.

Not every story has art for it yet, and there’s technically more that haven’t been worked on yet but that’s the majority of them! This isn’t counting the fan ocs either mostly because those are self inserts for the most part.

I probably should post the art I have of them here, since its my blog and everything, I’d love to talk more about my characters I love all of them (except maybe Jax he’s on thin ice)

Imma throw a link to my artfight as well since that’s pretty much the only place I’ve put people: https://artfight.net/~TheDarlingGamer-Art

so yea those are my children and buddies~~~

I wish they’d talk to me more~~~

[fairytaledaycare]

🌟About our Monarchs🌟

🐉Dragon Queen Maddy🔮:  Hello Everyone I’m Dragon Queen Maddy, I'm the creator and one of the owners of Fairytale Daycare.  I’m 24, my little age range is 5-8, and I’m a Wolfie, Dragon, Bat Regressor. I have a Daddy who I’ve been with for 6 years. I’ve been an age regressor for about a 3 years and a pet regressor for about 2 months. I’m also a Witch and have been for 5 or more years. I’m a Hellenic Pagan, I worship Erebus and Hades, and I’m an oath bound Devotee of Nyx. I love Disney especially Nightmare Before Christmas. I also love video games, stuffies, coloring, reading, writing, and watching tv and movies with my Daddy. I also really like anime, especially My Hero Academia in case you couldn't tell by how often I post gifs of it. I really enjoy creating fun lessons, activities, and tips for our members. I want this blog to be a safe place for Littles/age regressor/dreamers, CG, and Pets. If you ever need to talk or have suggestions please let me know. You can reach me on our blog, Discord, or on my personal Tumblr @daddywitchylittle. 

✨Pixie Queen Pixie✨: Hiii!! I’m Pixie (Vulpix, Pixel, Pix, Pixarkle, Pixelpedia, etc. etc.) I am one of the original monarchs and co-owner of FTD. I am a 21 college senior majoring in psychology :3 I am a lover of all things Disney, psychology related, conspiracy theories, hockey (the flyers are my home team and favorite team ever ). I am a baby witch, meaning I have a loooooooot to learn, but I am very interested in researching everything I can. I love to cook and bake, which is how the cooking classes came about  I am an age regressor ranging from 1-6 age varies a lot between those ages. Though I rarely regress due to adult like sucking away all my fun  I am known to visit the other team chats and provide some.... pixie cheering up so to speak, I do love me some glitter. I am a creative writer, I love writing short stories though haven’t written much lately. I am always available to chat if anyone needs a vent space or a virtual shoulder to lean on. My tumblr is: @ PrincessPixieStick

🐉Dragon Princess Mushroom🍄:Hey Friends! I’m Princess Mushroom 🍄 , one of the Monarchs for Fairytale Daycare and unofficial Master of Ceremonies for movie night. You can call me Mush! I’m 27, Little age is about 3-5 but can go up to 7ish at times. I’m also a kitten and a dragon regressor! My caregiver/husband is our Royal Guard @LethalTrinity who I’ve been with for over a decade. I’ve been a Little for a couple years now but a Pet for 10 years. I’m totally obsessed with all things mushroom related, you can consider me the ultimate mycophile!! I find them utterly fascinating and beautiful. I’m a practising DruWitch, but I was raised in a mixed faith household which helped me become very passionate about studying theology. I give talks a few times a year on interfaith interactions and religious identity as well as talks about mushrooms, and am always up for giving advice on the subjects. I have my own business, Little Dragon Designs, making costumes and other textile crafts and my CG is a traditional leather crafter, so let me know if you’re looking to have something made! I love gaming, crafting, and finding adventures. My favorite Little shows are Detective Conan, Vampirina, Duck Takes, Sailor Moon, Milo Murphy’s Law, Star vs the Forces of Evil, and Miraculous Ladybug. Ponyo is my favorite Little movie because my CG says I act like her when I’m smol!! Favorite books are too many to list, but I’d love to talk about them with you!!(edited)

🐻 BearyBunny 🐰: Hello everyone!! My name is Wesley, and I'm the Mermaid Monarch! I'm 18 and I range from 1-6 when I'm in little space. Im genderfluid so I often switch pronouns with how I feel on different days. I'm a little and I have been for about 4 years. I am a druid Witch, although I rarely practice now. I really like pastel things and goth things- that sums up my style. I love reading and dinos and zombies, both in and out of little space. Zombies are my all time favorite thing in little space though. Im in college to be a teacher which is super fun. If anyone needs help or just wants to talk you can message me on tumblr @fuggybunny or here on discord! If you have any questions feel free to message me!

Dragon Monarch Riley: Hello! I’m Riley and I am from team dragon! I am 24, my little age is 2-8 and I am a kitten as well. I have not regressed in awhile so I have not been super active but you can find me @princess-of-stuffies on tumblr. I go they and I am bi and nonbinary. I am fairly new to the little community and am still learning but I love everyone I have met here! I really like animals and being creative (knitting, cross stitch, sewing, you name it). I am a spoonie so I run out of steam pretty quickly but that doesn’t mean I don’t try! I am pretty bad at intros so if there is anything else you want to know about me, just ask!

[that-genderfluid-kid]

About top surgery

I was very scared to talk about this publicly, but I’ve finally got the courage to post this; it’s gonna be an adaptation of the text I sent my friend a few days ago, and it’s gonna be pretty long, so...

So, I’m genderfluid.

And that’s usually not a problem for me, I’m very happy with it and I love myself like this. However at some times, I feel some dysphoria and it’s horrible. I don’t feel it towards my genitals, tbh, because my aceness make me pretty much repulsed by any genitals and I just wish I didn’t have to be near any one, but since it’s attached to my body I’m okay with the one I have; but I do have lots of problems with my breasts, which is why I had a binder made and I very rarely use bras, only when I really need them. I just feel they’re terrible and even when I’m more on a neutral or feminine mode, I still rather not use them; even if I’m not gonna use the binder, I’d rather use nothing than a bra.

The point is, I found this youtube channel, Ash Hardell’s, through an ace page on facebook because they made a video about ace and aro; however the person who runs the channel is non binary and they have many other videos talking about themself.

Now, there’s this video. Where they talk about getting top surgery, and it just blew my mind. For a long long time I thought about the whole top surgery thing, because I hate my breasts most of the time. But I had never heard of enbies doing top surgery, only female-to-male trans people, and since I have those few times when I feel more on the feminine spectrum, I decides that maybe I shouldn’t think of that, and kinda accepted my breasts. Sometimes I look at them, think “I hate you” and move on. But after seeing that video, I could actually feel the weight of my breasts on me, because for the first time an enby was telling me it was okay to have top surgery even if you didn’t fully identified as male. It was okay to want that just because you don’t feel comfortable with your breasts. And now I’m very keen on that idea, even though it scares the hell outta me. I actually wanna know more now and do something about it.

Another thing was the whole name thing. Ever since I found out I was enby I’ve wanted to find a neutral name that could stand for both male and female since my name is only feminine, there’s no masculine version and is so obviously for a girl. But I could never find one that I liked and that I thought fit me, so I kinda have been pushing it aside ever since. But I really want a gender neutral name and I have no idea what to do or anything. I want it to be short and I’ve been using a nickbame because of that reason, it’s short and doesn’t make my name so obvious. Still I can only relate it to feminine, so it bothers me a little sometime.

Some people sometimes see me and treat me with male pronouns, which I actually love because it means people can really see me as a boy, but then they hear my voice and my name and start apologising and treating me as “miss”, “lady”, and I absolutely hate it, but I can’t find a way to explain that no, I’m not a lady, but I’m also not a boy, so I just roll with it.

I feel like this is very personal and something that I can’t talk to anyone about because it’s about my gender and I might bother people, but I finally gathered some courage to post it. I also feel like people don’t really care about all this? When I tell someone I’m genderfluid, most of them just go on with life without even asking for an explanation. I have a few friends who always ask me what pronouns I’m using that day and I love it, but most people just don’t care, and I feel so uncomfortable telling them they’re using the wrong pronouns because it seems like I’m bothering them.

So I just let it pass without correcting anyone or something like that.

But yeah

I’m thinking of telling my sister and my niece about this. I don’t really wanna talk to my mom about it because I know she’ll react badly and I love my mom too much and I don’t want her getting mad and stop talking to me like she did once I implied I might be bi, especially not now that I live in another city and we don’t see each other every day, but I think my sis and niece will be ~hopefully~ more understanding.

It’s scary. I’ve never actually came out of the closet for anyone, it was just out in the open for everyone. Talking to family is different I guess.

I just

I’ve been having thoughts on the whole top surgery thing for a while and after watching those videos, I felt like I needed to tell someone about this.

I wrote that a few days ago. Ever since, I’ve been thinking and rethinking this and I just can’t go a day without thinking about my breasts and what I wanna do with them.

First, I’m terrified of the idea of ‘surgery’. Just when watching a video of, for example, someone losing a leg, I can feel pain on mine. If I see a needle being put into someone’s arms, it hurts my own arms. So, if I do wanna do the surgery, I’d have to know all the procedure.

Now just imagine me, terrified of needles and surgery in general, knowing full well what’s gonna happen to me, which includes cutting my body to change it.

It’s terrifying. ~and I’ve used this word a lot in this post~

Second, it’s a very permanent thing. Usually, all the changes I do are things that can be reversed. Cut my hair? If I don’t like it, it’ll go again. Enter college in another city? If it becomes too much, I can always go home. I’m not sure if this is related to the whole astrological sign thing - I’m gemini -, but this. This is permanent. If I do this, I can’t go back, and the ‘what if’s keep haunting me. What if I dislike it? What if it makes me even more uncomfortable? What if...

It’s scary. And I don’t like scary.

And last, my mom. If I do decide I wanna have the surgery, I’ll have to come out of the closet for my mom. And that’s more scary than the needles, the cutting, the regrets. Because I’m sure I could go through all that with my mom’s support, but I know that if I tell her, she’ll hate it. She’ll try to change my mind, because “God made you like this for a reason, you should be happy” and all that. So I can’t. I just can’t tell her, because my worst nightmare is my mom hating me. My mom stop talking to me because of who I am. That scares me the most.

That’s it, sorry for the long text, doubt anyone read that. Thanks if you did, though!

This tumblr just became something like a diary for me, so I can talk about my whole gender and sexuality without bothering anyone, so I’m happy every time I see someone read what I wrote.

Yeah.

That’s it.

[skittykittys]

second life

in which i try to fix endless summer ending 1 because it hurts and also i KNOW these kids will end up overthrowing rourke somehow, also i love diego. thanks

fandom: endless summer

pairings: pretty gen, varyyn/diego kinda implied

words: 941

completed: probably not

summary: diego and taylor-centric look at Rourke HellWorld, part one of possibly more. diego knows something is off about today, he just doesn’t know what. taylor grapples with their choices. diego watches some RourkeTube.

warnings: just like, a general sense of anxiety and impending doom, and spoilers for es rourke ending

Diego wakes up on the first day of his freshman year feeling like he’s forgotten something very important. This in itself isn’t all that weird, considering his anxiety does this to him about every other day, but something about today just feels… wrong. He often dreams of far-off places and adventures he could be having, but last night’s dream felt different, a jumble of scenes that almost felt like memories. He wakes up slowly, trying to hold on to the last wisps of dream images, barely knowing where he is.

When he checks his RourkeBook feed before heading to class, still groggy, a news article about the Vaanti threat catches his eye. Seeing their blue skin and elaborate masks gives him a jolt, and for a moment his mind forgets they’re real and then somehow feels like they’re the most familiar thing in the world. He skims the article; it’s nothing new, just Emperor Rourke’s clearly made-up bullshit about how dangerous they are. He remembers wanting to be one as a kid, imagining a world before Rourke was born when he could have lived free with them in paradise, but the memory is oddly hazy. He spends his classes in a daze, trying not to panic and just numbing himself instead.

**

Taylor tries to pretend everything is normal. This is the only way I’m going to get through this, they tell themself, and try not to cry every time they run into another friend who doesn't remember them. It wasn't worth it, they know that instantly, but they can't help feeling happy and relieved at the chance to be human.

Everything they see triggers a new memory. Two girls holding hands, talking and laughing, walk to class ahead of them, and they smile remembering the first time they realized they liked girls, when they came out to their parents as bi and then again as genderfluid. And god, in this timeline they know that about themself, and they have a family who loves them for who they are, and they can remember the first time their mom used the right pronouns and their dad's goodnatured shitty "gender fluid" puns he probably found online.

And then every time they almost forget what they sacrificed for this, they hear another person talking about Emperor Rourke, or an army recruiter with a white binder and a too-bright smile, or look up at the statue of Rourke in the courtyard. He's everywhere, a constant reminder that he's won, he's gotten what he wanted.

**

Diego has had what feels like the longest day in the world, but meeting Taylor made it feel like things might be looking up for once. He can't explain why, but he knew their name a split second before they said it, and god he sounded like a total dweeb saying he feels like they knew each other in a past life or whatever but that at least sounds a little better than "hey I think you were in my dream last night and also I have this really strong feeling that we've been close before and I just don't remember it"? It doesn't help that whenever he tries to remember where he'd seen them before his migraine gets worse. He's been nursing it all day and at this point he's absolutely ready to pass out at the ungodly hour of 7 pm.

He can't go to sleep just yet, he decides, because it will ruin his sleep schedule and also he's a tiny bit scared to sleep because of the dreams, so he opens his laptop instead and dicks around on RourkeTube. He opens a cat video channel and starts randomly clicking suggested videos and searching up things he remembers, bouncing around from cute animals to one episode of a let's play to podcast animatics to vine compilations. By midnight he's watching something called MAKING A VAANTI IN SPORE and has absolutely turned his brain off by this point except to halfheartedly laugh as the Spore creature becomes increasingly ridiculous looking and the narrator keeps insisting it looks exactly like a Vaanti. He leaves the video running to go brush his teeth and comes back to some news thing autoplaying from the suggested videos. Rolling his eyes, he's about to turn it off when he hears his own name.

"What the fuck," he says out loud, and rewinds the video because clearly it's late and he's hearing things.

He's not hearing things.

He watches the video four times in a row, trying to figure out what the fuck is going on. Part of him is convinced that this isn't meant for him and he's reading too far into something that's probably a staged propaganda stunt, but the whole rest of him is screaming "this is the adventure you've been waiting for" and honestly he'd much rather listen to that part. Plus, there's the fact that the more he looks at the chained Vaanti's face, the more he seems familiar--not in a "I've seen this man on the news" way, more of like, "this is the man of my dreams and I think I mean that literally" way. It's the same feeling he got when he saw Taylor earlier. And god it would make so much sense if he really were forgetting something like the man said, some past that involved him and Taylor and Diego together.

He wouldn't put it past Rourke to have brainwashed him somehow. After all, he's done it to the whole rest of the world.

He bookmarks the video and takes a little too much Tylenol PM. He's gonna need to talk to Taylor.

[phoenixyfriend]

Trans Headcanons for Team Voltron

A few people expressed interest, so here we go! I was mostly musing on some plot ideas for a fic, and then realized that I just... really like the fact that I have enough trans headcanons to actually be able to play around with who feels which way about the concept of gender, body dysphoria, and presentation, since IRL not all trans people have the same approach to these things. Most of this is from a conversation with @firebirdeternal​, my usual beta.

Some things to keep in mind: I am not trans, I just like diverse headcanons. @firebirdeternal​ is nb. I don’t always headcanon a character the same way from one universe to the next. I will almost always headcanon Pidge, Hunk, and Coran as trans. The others more just... happen as I write. Sometimes they are, sometimes they aren’t, depending on which fic it is and what my brain decided was a good idea.

Anyway, I’m sticking this under a Read More because Lance, Matt, and Keith all have multiple paragraphs for their sections and the post got... long.

Hunk is uncomfortable with sexual situations and anything below the belt, but strangely ambivalent about his chest. He’s fine going around without binder so long as he’s wearing a shirt, but super unwilling to do anything involving taking off his pants unless he’s either completely alone or in a medical situation where the medical professional in question doesn’t say cissexist things or try to talk about his genitalia for no reason. On HRT by the time he’s at the Garrison and looking into surgical options to figure out what he’s most comfortable with, but hasn’t actually gotten any yet.

Pidge doesn't super mind being mistaken for a boy, and frequently wears boyish clothes, but there's a lot of gender euphoria for her in stuff like sundresses and long hair. She likes being a girl, but isn’t super bothered by people thinking she’s a dude so long as it really is just a mistake (or her being undercover), and they correct themselves afterwards. She’s also interested in transitioning hormonally and with surgery, and was on puberty blockers before Voltron happened. (Altean medical technology means a safe and nearly painless vaginoplasty, breast prostheses, etc.  and Pidge has no hangups at that point.)

Coran transitioned literally centuries ago and is comfortable in his own body, but only due to the fact that Altean surgeries meant he could definitely get the body he WANTED when he wanted it. He had some fairly strong dysphoria before that. He’s pretty solidly a dude though, and hasn’t had the kind of internal debates that Pidge and Lance get since he was very, very young.

Lance's relationship with gender is kind of tenuous. He settled on identifying as a dude a few years ago, but actually likes his vagina and wants a pregnancy at some point (because Lance loves the idea of having kids and is down with being the one to carry them), and has admitted to considering identifying as nb because he still sometimes likes the IDEA of dressing up and being viewed as a woman for a night? He’s a dude. He identifies as a boy/man (he’s at the age where either word works and it doesn’t really matter), but. You know. He’s got some interests that people would consider feminine and he still sometimes looks at women and goes “Huh, I wouldn’t mind looking like that for a day”

firebirdeternal See, I've kind of headcanoned Lance as being very fluid except for one thing, he really doesn't like chest based intimacy with himself. Like that's the one thing that does actually bother him, and it isn't a rational thing for him.

Lance's gender is a complicated thing that he's mostly just given up on trying to untangle. He tells people he's a dude and stays fairly solid on that unless he super trusts someone, because a lot of people have tried to dictate his gender FOR him when he explains the details. He doesn’t actually think it’s that big of a deal? Hell, even when he considers “would it make more sense to identify as genderfluid or bigender or something,” it’s usually with about the same level of seriousness as picking out which color boxers he wants to put on after a shower, or what flavor his Frappuccino of the day is going to be, because he’s comfortable in his own skin at this point and as far as he’s concerned, that’s all that matters?

It’s just that other people keep trying to tell him that it’s a big deal and that is Very Tiring.

firebirdeternal I like that a lot. Sticking to the label you know people will at least SEE rather than get into the complexities of how you really feel, at least with people you don't trust yet.

Since I mentioned it for the others: he got top surgery but isn’t interested in anything else.

Relevant:  I know a trans guy who occasionally dresses in drag (mostly 1700s dresses because he's a history nerd, or...well, some old thing like that), and I like to think that Lance, even as a trans dude, would probably still dress in drag sometimes, because clothing isn't inherently gendered (fuck you, Victorians) and also GLITTER IS FUN AND SO IS DANCING and anyway, Lance would definitely still be down for crossplay and RuPaul’s Drag Race levels of Extra and wearing dresses even when he’s firmly sure that he’s a dude because it’s just a pretty outfit.

Keith's dysphoria kind of... oscillates? I don't headcanon him as trans often, but when I do I usually headcanon him as an "out of sight, out of mind" person. If he's wearing a binder and pants, then he doesn't have to think about it. If he isn't, then it's really a flip of the coin.

firebirdeternalyeah, he seems very much like: The less he has to think about it the happier he is. I can honestly see a scene where Keith has a mild breakdown because he has to get a new binder and it gives him Bad Sensory Issues because of something different about the fabric.

(NOTE: Both firebirdeternal and I headcanon Keith as autistic, since...well. There’s evidence for it in canon, and we like to project.)

This affects his approach to sex. If he's having a high dysphoria day, then he doesn't really want to be on the receiving end of anything? He's perfectly happy pleasuring his partner most of the time, but not... actually touching himself or being touched Like That. On the other hand, sometimes the dysphoria is barely there and anything goes. Definitely interested in HRT but not super comfortable with the idea of any kind of surgery, even with Altean medical tech.

firebirdeternal Yeah, up and down days, basically. I just... I love the trans Coran headcanon so much, especially when paired with any number of trans paladin ones, because I can just see him being such a good Space Dad to the kids. Like, even with the differences in Culture he'd be So There for them.

I only recently started playing around with trans Matt headcanons, and I think he's kind of similar to Pidge in that he's mostly about the gender EUphoria, and he got top surgery before Kerberos and doesn't really care about below the belt. I think the best way to put it for Matt is that he's trans but ranks that fact lower on his list of Important Identities than the others (save for Lance) do.

firebirdeternal He likes feeling like a Cool Guy Anime Protagonist honestly.

He's trans, and open about it, but it's not a thing he really thinks warrants much attention or discussion or even self-reflection? He'd rather play video games and gush over his little sister's coding.

EXCEPT FOR THE PUNS.

Matt is all about the queer jokes.

firebirdeternal Oh god he loves them. HC that Matt came out of the closet at like 12 with a joke because the opening his mom gave him was TOO GOOD to be ignored, and after a split second his mom and dad were just giggling up a storm and hugging him. Pidge too.

Colleen already had suspicions but her first reaction was a snort and a facepalm. "So THAT'S how you've chosen to come out."

firebirdeternal All this followed by GRATUITOUS AMOUNTS OF REASSURANCE. Pidge is like "Matt come out again, mom baked brownies for like three weeks the last time you did"

"I already told her I was bi and trans, there's nothing LEFT." 

(I've also played around with Matt being intersex but I'm not comfortable delving much deeper into that, especially on a public platform, until I've done some more research on intersex representation and common issues so I know I’m not doing anything offensive with the headcanon.)

[dreams-your-smp]

who/what made you start questioning? Im pretty sure it was just like. An anime or smth I was watching with my brother, and I was reading fanfic for it and I was just like :0 girlsssss ajdjahjs how old were you when you started questioning? Uhhhh. 10 maybe? 11? what other labels have you used other than your current ones? A lot wjdjahsj . Uhh, demigirl, deminonbinary, lithromantic, aromantic, arospike, arospec, demiromantic, genderfluid, transmasc, demiboy for a bit I think, OH! Bigenderflux!plus some others probably, I just can’t remember tell the story of the first time you came out Ok, so essentially I had been questioning reading a bunch of “am I going to hell if I’m bisexual” articles, and then I had a therapy appointment and it was online so I like turned the camera away from me and went “uhmhuh I. I think I’m bisexual “ and my therapist was like “ok” and said some stuff or whatever tell the story of the funniest reaction to you coming out Theres this one girl I go to school with, and she knew I was queer but had no idea what flavor and I mentioned that I was bi and she went “YOUR BI?” tell the story of the best reaction to you coming out Um. Uh. So. I really haven’t had reactions to me coming out, im only out to my friends, most are queer, so I just kind of like. Made gay jokes till they figured it out and sometimes mention new labels. Im also oht to my brother but he just sent a thumbs up emoji and went “ok” so uh. I guess none of them? was there a queer artist/show/book/movie that you listened to constantly when you were in the closet? still am in the closet ajdjajsj. Recently it was The Village by Wrabel or just Cavetown ever called out/stood up to a homophobe? I like turning around in the school hallway whenever people are using gay as an insult when it’s dismissal and going “IM gay” favorite queer celebrity? no idea! favorite queer character? Nick from Heartstopper have a childhood crush that you didn’t realize was a crush until later in life? oh so very many. One was in kindergarten and she wore pretty dresses and I always wanted to talk to her but then she moved, and then one in like. Idk first grade and we had the same capris and she was blonde. if you had to do a gay lip sync dance performance, what song would it be to and what would your outfit be no idea tbh but maybe like. Nice dress shirt and pants favorite gay music video? I still don’t know pffft "how did they not realize i was gay" moments? I actually don’t have any of those gayest photo of you? not comfy sharing photos, but I’ve got one of me with my friend taken on the last day of school that I look pretty gay in happiest pride memory? my friends congratulating me after I came out to my brother :] talk about your first pride! uhhh I wanted to come out to my brother but then didn’t. That’s about it! fit any stereotypes about your sexuality? im really indecisive ajdjaj FILL IN THE BLANK: if the heteros find out we can _______, they’re going to tell the church! shapeshift ofc. describe your type in a haiku boys, girls, anyone. my only type is to be loved to be honest describe your coming out experience in a haiku out to friends out to one family, nothing but casual actions make an acrostic poem out of a label you use (sexuality, gender, pronouns, etc)

Hair

eyes

tuxedos

Haircuts

energy

yelling

(idk man Gender things I suppose)

do one through twenty two.

ask a fellow gay to do the same :)

-Someone who just came across your blog because of falsettos

Dang alright.

1. The internet, because that’s when I realized that they were other things besides straight and cis

2. Arounddd..7-ish.

3. Oh dear god there are quite a few. To name the more significant ones I used at a point were.. pansexual, bisexual, Polysexual, demigirl, non-binary, biromantic, genderqueer, asexual and Opalian.😀👍

4. The first time I came out was to a really close online friend and there rlly wasn’t anything interesting about it she just kinda went:

“cool, I’ll support you through whatever:)”

so.

5. that time I came out as trans to my friend group as trans like January of last year and they were like:

“yeah we know.”

LMAO

6. oo, uhm I’d have to say my English teacher who was completely cool with it and used my name and pronouns and put up with the changes lolz

7. Cavetown. Always.

8. Online? Absolutely, many times. irl? I mean if we’re talking about stupid kids in my class who were homophobic, then absolutely.

9. Im not s u r e -

10. Whizzer brown, all the way.

11. S o many.

12. Uhm. Probably to therefore I am(Billie eilish) or boyfriend(dove Cameron) and I have no clue outfit wise.

13. Boyfriend, dove Cameron.

14. my Instagram. That’s all I have to say.

15. This one.

16. I don’t necessarily have a happiest pride memory, but I guess just being able to be not single during it was nice lolz

17. My first pride wasn’t really anything to special, I mean I drew a pride frog. That’s like it. fjhdhd

18. I am a trans man who listens to Cavetown and yes I’m aware that it says sexuality but Im doing my gender cuz I can’t think of anything else

19.”if the heteros find out we can make a decent music playlist, they’ll tell the church!”

That’s directed towards one very specific person so

20. I can’t write haiku’s🥲

I will just straight up tell you tho, emos.☺️

21. Again, can’t write haikus to save my life but I already talked about my main coming out experiences-

22. U h m I’m writing it about myself lmao

tranquil

restless

ambivert

needy

sleepy

gay👍

e m o s .

nerdy

doltish

emotional

romantic(a hopeless one in fact)

there ya go

Anyways @dreams-your-smp I’m asking you to do all 22 Lmao/nf

also I love how a lot of people have found me through falsettos somehow

Which I’m not surprised it’s just funny to think about I don’t know fjfhhd

[jujywrites]

another PokeGo post that went way further than I expected. ^w^

I! Have! Pokemon headcanons! (for a game I’ve never plaaayed help) Hold onto your hats it OT3 time yo (this has no order whatsoever just fyi and jaysus feck is it long I’ve been sitting on it for days)

Spark has zero guilty pleasures. If he likes something he likes it wholeheartedly, without shame.

Blanche is genderfluid and leans toward she/her. She just. doesn’t care about gender that much? When she came out to the other two they immediately were like “oh wow sorry do you want different pronouns what can we do” “…what? No just call me what you’ve been calling me its fine” occasionally prefers other pronouns, and lets Spark and Candela know when. totally chill about whatever other people read her as unless they pull “what are u” shit in which case this happens (and then she catwalks the fuck outta there). If there’s a persistent asshole and the other two are around Blanche has to restrain them from beating the asshole up.

Candela’s considered herself hella gay since she was a preteen. Meeting Spark was a “wtf he’s cute” moment, and she’s since decided she’s hella bi. 99.99% of the time only ladies turn her head tbh (Spark would rather think she’s Sparksexual and… Candela doesn’t argue that) Sometimes the other two will tease her if they catch her drooling over a girl, “you are so gay” “IM SO GAY” it’s become a running joke between them

Spark and Candela compete to see who can make Blanche blush because it’s so damn cute they can’t even deal(no, srsly, sometimes they have to leave the room so they can squee at each other over it). They keep a tally.

Blanche is tallest. Spark just makes it to her shoulder, and he’s barely 2 inches taller than Candela, but C likes heels and platform boots so everyone thinks Spark’s the shortest.

Candela and Spark bicker over the silliest things. Early on Blanche was bothered by that but now is 1000% over it all the time. (They’re idiots but they’re her idiots ya feel)

Blanche is the kind of person who reads smut with a straight face. In public.

Blanche is also the kind of person who writes smut with a straight face. But not in public.

Spark and Candela are big fans of Blanche’s smut but they don’t know it’s hers. Blanche has her suspicions that they read her stuff but prefers to think they don’t (and she would d i e if they actually found out who writes it)

Spark likes to wear skirts sometimes. Candela likes tuxedos. Blanche can barely handle one or the other(she… really likes it) but one time for Halloween C+S did a magician/assistant thing and she nearly spontaneously combusted (the blushometer hit new heights that day)

Candela’s into running. Spark’s into trying to keep up. Blanche prefers swimming.

The only things scarier than Candela and Spark playing video games competitively is Candela and Spark playing video games cooperatively. They will crush u at literally anything

Blanche likes to sing but doesn’t like to when anyone can hear her. This does not compute with C+S because Blanche’s voice is beautiful. The other two aren’t just ~anyone~ so she feels slightly more comfortable; sometimes she’ll sing without thinking, catch herself and stop. They pretend they don’t notice and she pretends she doesn’t notice them noticing and it’s all good

Spark can hold a tune but that’s about all. His enthusiasm makes up for it. Blanche freely encourages/praises him (which makes him want to burp rainbows) and sometimes they gang up on Candela to go to karaoke because with both of them singing too Blanche can sing without (too much) mortification

Sometimes it just hits Blanche, how much she loves them, and she kind of just short-circuits bc hOW WILL THEY KNOW CANNOT CONVEY. This often manifests in her being extremely cuddly. The other two know the signs and always make sure to smother her in kisses and hugs(even when she’s not like that they do though)

Candela’s usually the little spoon. Other fav configurations are Spark as the little spoon and Blanche in the middle but they have approximately 183925 combinations and it’s rarely the same two nights in a row