#butchfem

[vampyre--dyke]

butch tits. you agree. reblog.

[murmurs-of-a-lonely-dyke]

Soft masc culture must end! It really annoys me that people seem to hate masc and butch lesbians. It shows how we've regressed as a society.

And this may not affect fictional characters in any real way, but it can certainly affect real people. These people only end up perpetuating stereotypes and hatred against masc/butch women and I'm sorry. kindness, adoration and love are not feminine traits. If you love your partner, that should happen. Period.

And I'll be quick to say, ellie and violet butch forever >>>

And this is not direct hatred towards that person, but a reflection.

[fruitfulchaos]

femme bunny x butch hare

do you see the vision

[fizzyshark]

something for agent 12 day dont really like how it came out...

[pearlofthewoods]

“Why do so many bisexual girls want so desperately to be lesbian?”

Hmmmm. I dunno, perhaps it’s because every piece of sapphic history pre-1980 is constantly stripped away from us and claimed as ‘lesbian-exclusive’… despite that fact that bi women were considered lesbians during this time??

Because I wondered, for so many years as a bi girl with primarily sapphic attraction, why there was so little sapphic culture for Bi women.

Why lesbian women seemed to have such a rich history and diverse range of identities, communities, signifiers and fashion…. And for us, there was just a void.

I never understood why lesbians had butch-femme, violets, lavender, lesbian fashion history and we just had nothing. No words except bisexual. Nothing more specific than ‘bisexual woman.’

Because that simple language wasn’t enough to explain me and the depths of my sapphic-ness. Not when (due to the split-attraction model) my attraction for women vs men is like 85-15.

Not when my sexuality centres women.

It couldn’t explain the specific love I felt for butches and how I revelled in my femininity as their counterpart.

It couldn’t express how I actively chose to perform my femininity for a female gaze. For a sapphic gaze.

It couldn’t explain how I constructed my femininity like an art piece, like a drag persona. How I revelled in the dressing up for other queer women and performing femininity in a sapphic space.

So when, out of interest one day I started reading about lesbian history and the butch-fem(me) community…

(something I’d never allowed myself to do before, unable to bear the heartache that this culture just wasn’t meant for me)…

…You can imagine my fucking surprise when I found out that for the history of so much of this ‘lesbian’ culture, bi women were considered lesbian too.

That when we were split from the lesbian community, bi women were severed from our own history. Our own culture. Our own inheritance.

And because the modern-day lesbian community kept the word that had once described all of us, our shared history was slowly rewritten, reanalysed and reinterpreted to fit the new more exclusive definition of ‘lesbian’. And bi women were disinherited from our own culture.

But it wasn’t that there was ever a void in Bi sapphic culture. It was that sapphic history had been anachronistically reanalysed to quietly ignore and erase the existence of women who loved women, but not exclusively. Women like me.

Women who had helped create butch-femme culture in the 1940s/50s/60s. Women who now, even though they may still be alive… would no longer be considered femmes by teens on the internet.

Women who may have lived their whole lives as femmes, lived the butch-fem(me) dynamic, would now be excluded from the very label they helped create.

And it’s heartbreaking. It truly is. To find a word and an identity and a history that you feel describes you and everything that you are, and that you have every right to claim…

…But that people want to gatekeep. To erase the nuance and complexity of a community and a whole history. To silence bisexual women and sever us from our own history and sapphic lineage.

Well sorry, I’m not going to be silenced anymore. Because that Tiktoker made me realise something.

If bisexual women keep conceding our shared sapphic history, terms, and culture then of course young bisexual women will wish that they were lesbian.

Because in comparison, our culture is impoverished, our place in sapphic history forgotten.

And that’s the saddest thing of all. That beautiful young bisexual women feel the same way that I felt. That there’s something lacking about bisexual sapphic identity. Something missing.

And the only way to change that is to refuse to be silenced. To hold your ground. To be that greedy bisexual and hold on tight to our history and to our language.

Bisexual femmes will not be erased, nor will we be silenced. We deserve the language to adequately describe our identities and experiences. And we have it, because we never lost it in the first place.

So hi, I’m a bisexual femme. Nice to meet you.

[wildwren]

this video, which features an entire qualitative study about the word Fem/Fem(me)/Femme and its use as an identity label by different subsets of the queer community, is so good and i recommend every minute of its length.

id: a white, queer woman youtuber addresses the camera in five panels with captions, saying "we are living in a time that is not progressing in terms of human rights and LGBTQ-issues. stop fucking arguing about the existence of He/Him Lesbians and Bisexual Femmes. both valid identities fyi. and if you disagree, shut the fuck up. it doesn't matter. focus on the real issues. unite for fuck sake. get out on the streets!"

[femmesacred]

woke her up with a sext i know i’m driving her up the walls and i love it

[pyrrhicpoison]

🐝butch yang week day 6: free day🐝

[moonlightsapphic]

it’s funny how i suddenly went down a butchfem rabbit hole that none of my queer friends really understand. (and neither does my girlfriend—she isn’t butch at all, though i identify as femme. she enjoys being referred to as masc, “tomboy femme”, or just … a plain ole gay woman, no frills. which i respect, haha.) the contemporary sapphic community is so diverse (an awesome development of course!) and a lot of young people especially don’t necessarily feel the need for butch/femme terms, roles, or identities anymore. i get the vibe that they’re almost seen as old-fashioned somehow, especially with the term “masc” partially replacing the usage of butch over time. what can i say, i’m just an old soul ig! i do feel sort of silly but this magnetic attraction towards learning more about and leaning into butch/femme culture is also the signature of what it feels like when you find an existing identity that fits you like a glove. being queer is so confusing in this cisheteropatriarchal world and none of my identities came to me easily. The euphoria of stumbling upon a community that I belong in and that I’m Not Weird!™️will never get old.

[byebyebbyblu]

Butch who bites X femme who scratches

[murmurs-of-a-lonely-dyke]

Butchfemme × Butchfem ꘓ͜͡ :ೃ࿔𔓘

[fruitfulchaos]

BUTCHFEMME TEMP TATS >:-)))))

pls appreciate it, hurt like a bitch! 🫨

[toothtoast]

kneading bread is to adult lesbians what playing with slime is to 8 years olds with adhd

[pearlofthewoods]

if this were the nineties I just KNOW me and all my bi mutuals would be running a bisexual butchfemme zine

[sunbleachedfragments]

"[my children] were forbidden to be in my home because I was what a woman shouldn't be. I was too much woman, I was not woman enough. I was too interested in women, in sex, in my own sex. No home for me, though my job paid the rent. No home except loneliness, living in the in-between places."

– Minnie Bruce Pratt, S/he

[femmesacred]

butch telling me how much she wants me while at work is vile