#it’s so easy to be misled by comhet when you’re demi bi and femme

[moonlightsapphic]

it’s funny how i suddenly went down a butchfem rabbit hole that none of my queer friends really understand. (and neither does my girlfriend—she isn’t butch at all, though i identify as femme. she enjoys being referred to as masc, “tomboy femme”, or just … a plain ole gay woman, no frills. which i respect, haha.) the contemporary sapphic community is so diverse (an awesome development of course!) and a lot of young people especially don’t necessarily feel the need for butch/femme terms, roles, or identities anymore. i get the vibe that they’re almost seen as old-fashioned somehow, especially with the term “masc” partially replacing the usage of butch over time. what can i say, i’m just an old soul ig! i do feel sort of silly but this magnetic attraction towards learning more about and leaning into butch/femme culture is also the signature of what it feels like when you find an existing identity that fits you like a glove. being queer is so confusing in this cisheteropatriarchal world and none of my identities came to me easily. The euphoria of stumbling upon a community that I belong in and that I’m Not Weird!™️will never get old.