#but when you have to figure out how to split off to separate insurance and have bought several furniture items together

[faithfulcat111]

I don't mention it nearly enough, but thank God I got the supportive and helpful parents. Because them helping me figure out what the hell I'm going to do is the only reason I've got my shit together still.

[doodlemunster]

You can't just leave me hanging with "great stories"! Would you kindly share your some stories from your Escape Room days that were the:

1. Craziest

2. Silliest

3. Wtf-iest (moment that made you go wtf/question humanity)

LMAO oh I am more than happy to tell them!! Strap in, cuz I def have a few!

Some of these stories kind of fall into all three categories and mixtures of both, but I'm gonna do my best!

Craziest

would have to be a story that I tell almost every time someone asks me about my time as a game guide cuz it THREW me for a loop.

Okay so, my workplace would offer group deals for companies looking to do 'team building exercises'. We have four themed rooms, so all four would be blocked off for their entire company to split up into. This was absolute chaos cuz our place was s m a l l and every time these events happened, it was damn near elbow to elbow.

Anyways, we had an insurance company come in to do the rooms and I was tasked with guiding them through our basketball themed room. This room had two hidden rooms separated by doors you had to solve and unlock. Each one even had its own TV too.

My team comprised of all women and they were pretty quiet, so I had to give them some extra nudges, but otherwise they did well and at the end, really got into the spirit of things! Sadly tho, they didn't break out so I went in to show them how and boy howdy, this is when things get interesting.

One puzzle you have to complete is this brochure with a cross word puzzle. Many people think you have to use this brochure for the entire game, but that's not true. It's a one and done thing. However, these ladies were CONVINCED it was crucial. Anyways, they handed it off to me and this piece of paper is SOAKED. Like, real soggy and its ripping apart. I'm confused because this is the worst state I've ever seen one of our brochures in. Didn't question it, continued to show them everything and ask if they had a good time.

As I'm ushering them up to the front, one lady approaches me and tells me that she panicked in one of the rooms. See, this room is about the 'rules of basketball' and that someone is running in to steal it and you have to find them before this mysterious thief gets it, so the TVs will periodically do emergency broadcasting beeps and have a panicked basketball player telling you you are their only hope. It DOES indeed get people panicked and makes kids cry at times.

So, she continues to tell me she believed the brochure was the actual Rules of Basketball and needed to hide it where no one could find it. At first, the way she worded it, I didn't quite get it till the whole group was done and gone. MY DUDES, SHE STUFFED THE BROCHURE IN HER PANTS.

She was sweating and this brochure had been stuffed next to her cheeks. As with all rooms, we game guides sit in the back watching and hearing the group to give them clues. I watched these people like a hawk, but she sneaked that brochure down her pants with EASE. So, in conclusion, I had a sweaty ripped brochure covered in booty sweat.

Silliest

I got two stories for this category as they are simply silly and light hearted.

The first one is a big family that also did the basketball room. One of these family members is this little girl, who couldn't be much older then like, 5. The adults were in a tizzy trying to figure out the answer to this puzzle, which was a number combo. It's loud and a lot of members are talking over each other, until I hear this little girl just spit out the answer but NO ONE heard her.

In these rooms, there is a small TV up above where I send clues and when I send one, it'll be beep. So I immediately sent them a message 'the little girl just said it! she said the answer!'. The family reads the clue and immediately, ALL the attention is on this little girl. All the adults are like 'What is it? What did you say??' and the girl is NOT prepared for this attention. She's giggling, smiling shyly and saying 'I don't know! I can't remember!' and the adults are scrambling to figure it out.

So, because the whole family was already SO close to breaking out and technically a member of their party DID say the right answer, I repeated what the little girl said to the group and they got the puzzle. It was really funny and a great time.

What running these rooms have taught me is that kids are VERY good at these escape rooms. They can by pass the bullshit and get to the actual puzzles/answers. They just need an adult to keep them focused, that's their only downside. I had SO many kids blurt out what they think the puzzle is and have adults straight up ignore them. So, I'd take the extra step and tell the adults to listen to their kids.

The second silly story is about a group of four who came to do our Y2K inspired room. This room theme was about how you are stuck at a New Years Eve party and its just about to be the year 2000, but its up to YOU to stop the computers from crashing and the world ending. I liked this one cuz you could listen to early 2000's music while the room ran. I always knew I had 3 minutes remaining in the room once Mambo Number 5 played.

Long story short, this group was struggling with a puzzle and one of them suggested to google the answer. Not sure how they would do that, but regardless, I was about to send them a message to NOT do that.

My worry was totally unwarranted, as another from their team blurted out 'You can't do that!! It's the year 2000, phones don't EXIST YET'. Which had both me and the rest of the group cracking up.

WTF Moments

as much as I loved being a game guide, I did experience a lot of fuckery in the rooms.

There is a reason most of the stuff in escape rooms are bolted down. People WILL try to destroy the room. Usually not intentionally, but some shit heads will try to on purpose, even AFTER you tell them to stop. So, sadly I do have quite a few stories.

I had a group of women come in to do our Civil War themed escape room. This room was all dark except for the lanterns you would use to pick them up and see around the room.

I had one lady yank on the portraits on the walls which I told her they do NOT come off. I told her once, she ignored it and continued. I had told her a second time and she STILL didn't heed it and RIPPED the fucker off the wall. This thing was ANCHORED INTO CONCRETE. I don't know how she did it.

Our cameras weren't the best so through the dark, the talking and everything else, I don't think I knew she did this till I came into the room to find the picture on the ground.

In the hidden room there was a pipe that is attached to the wall but is pretty fragile. This same lady kept grabbing it and pulling it at it, in which I had to tell her multiple times to STOP. She finally did after goading from both me and her team mates (her team mates especially because they were catching on that I was only sending them messages about her messing up the room). I was about to kick them out, but thank god she finally stopped.

Another group, two women, got mad at me for penalizing them for being super tardy (this isn't some unspoken rule, its a common rule at most escape rooms and is both posted on our website AND in the lobby). So, they picked every lock open in the Y2K room, messed up the flow of the puzzles, and in turn, didn't break out (womp womp).

Another group of two, a wife and a husband, did our Y2K room as an anniversary activity. The wife was nothing but smiles and was super excited to play. Her demeanor and attitude did a total 180 once the room started.

The husband got to looking at the walls, the decor, the drawers, etc. and was speaking out loud "hey, i think this might be a clue" "hey, I think this might be a puzzle", so on and so forth. She never really replied to these questions, instead ignored him and looked elsewhere. He then began solving these puzzles on his own and opening things up, which sent her into a TIZZY.

All of a sudden, she is getting pissed. "You've done this before haven't you?" "well how did you get that so fast? you done this before!" just over and over. He continued to deny it and would calmly say 'no, I haven't. I just found this and figured it was a puzzle'.

He gets to the secret room all on his own and now she is SUPER mad. Convinced he did this on his own, she sits herself down on a chair and exclaims 'Well, since you've clearly done this room before, I'll just sit here till your done' and crosses her arms.

Well, this is real fuckin awkward and I have....no idea what to say. I had tried to send freebies, but it didn't seem to help ease the tension nor make her any less pissed.

Toward the end, she did sort of try to help, but it was more like angrily stomping from place to place. At one point, she retorts 'I didn't think you would get it. You usually aren't this smart'.

which gob smacked the hell out of me. Holy jesus. This woman was terrible. I was reeeaaally not looking forward to coming into that room to ask them how things went, but ya know, its part of the job.

That's when her demeanor changed AGAIN. I opened up the door and said 'Oooh I'm sorry you guys didn't make it! Did you have fun tho?' and this woman turned to me, beaming and cheerfully saying 'omg yes it was so much fun! Were we close?' and while I was thankful it wasn't horribly awkward, it had me so incredibly confused. The poor guy was quiet but still very kind with me, but I just felt awful for him. If she was like this in an escape room, how was she like behind closed doors at home??

We also had some racist asshats come into our rooms and we had to kick them out and ban them from ever playing again. I wasn't there when this happened, so I don't have the full deets, but like damn dude.

Honorable Mentions and Other Tidbits

I had a group from Australia come in and give me a little nudge nudge, wink wink to tell me their 'coffee' was definitely not coffee. They were awesome.

I had a group forget my name, so they just called me God to ask for clues

On one of my first couple days of work, I looked away from my group for only a few minutes before discovering they had unscrewed and taken the vent cover off in my room. I never typed so fast in my life to tell them THERE ARE NO CLUES THERE OMG PLEASE DON'T STICK YOUR HAND IN THERE

I wasn't there for this, but my co-worker told me a story of a couple who played the basketball room, only for them to break up half way in. They sat on opposite ends of a bench in silence till time ran out

I had several instances of people getting VERY mad at me for giving them freebies.

A lot of people weirdly just...straight refused to pay attention to the TV where I gave clues. This was a bigger problem then I thought it would be for some reason.

If I had to give any tips on going to an escape room, It'd be this:

Be nice to your game guide. This should be a given, but you'd be surprised the amount of times people would forget I can see and hear them and say nasty things about me. If you are kind, you can get yourself some freebies in crucial moments or, in some super rare cases, even get some time added to your room. They WANT you to break out and are just as excited as you when you make it!

When a game guide asks if you have questions, def ask some! There is NO such thing as a dumb question. Escape rooms in of themselves are weird and not many people even know what they really /are/ or what the goal is. I know I was more than happy to answer them if asked. You'll feel better and do better if you ask.

Definitely get there at least 10-15 minutes early. Most escape rooms require you to sign a waiver and the guide has to go over all the rules before it starts, so it just makes it easier on them to keep their rooms on time. Like I said, most places have time penalties if you are late and that's simply to make sure the schedule doesn't get messed up. If you are lucky and the escape room place is small, like ours, you could get away with it, but there were times where even /we/ had to put our foot down and enact the policy.

Thank you so much for asking Mysc!! ^o^ So so sorry its a HUGE WALL of text lmaooo I tell stories in text just like I do irl -- long winded and too much context. But I freaking LOVE telling my stories from my game guide days. It was such a hoot.

[1d1195]

Oo oo oo!! Which calc?? Or like… ALL of the differential, integral, vector, etc? I hated vector unfortunately. I thought I’d love it bc, ya know…physics is my thing😂 but then we got into triple integrals and changing the variables of them, and I did not feel very hypnotic fully fresh anymore. I think derivatives were my favorite, but in integral, I figured out I could do IBP in my head 💀 so that was fun☺️

Also, I think I told you I decided to retake diff eq this summer(?) bc my instructor last year decided to hate me, but this term I got a 92 on my first exam and a 98.5 on my second one😭 We have two more exams before the term is out, so hopefully those go okay. like??? Fair grading goes so far! My instructor last year, if I lost a sign or fucked up a constant, they would take points off for every step after. I remember one problem I did that on like, step two, and it was graded a 1/15. Hello?? All my work is correct, I just made a tiny algebraic error, so what is this for😭 This instructor tho, they just write like “-.25” for that one part and call it good😂 BC I KNOW THE CONCEPTS!!!! I JUST CAN’T ADD FOUR AND SEVEN ANYMORE!! Got to far into math and now I have to check on my calculator three separate times that five and five is indeed ten 🤣 you think after four calcs, linear algebra, stats, diff eq, and a year of calc based physics that I can do simple arithmetic?? Absolutely not lmao

I’ve been looking for a new job because my current lab position doesn’t receive benefits, and where I live, you can only stay on your parents insurance until you’re 26. And I’ll be that old on the 26th😂 I have too many health issues to NOT have insurance.

I applied for a position at another lab, and they emailed me yesterday for the next step! It sucks that I have to leave my current lab since I’ve been there for over five and a half years, and I LOVE what I do, but there’s also been a lot of shit going down so it’s probably for the best lmao

-👩🏻‍🔬

Honestly, haven't even looked at the curriculum. I'm pretty sure it's Calc I for most college level courses. I actually took AP Calc ages ago and I remember we covered derivatives, limits, implicit differentiation (MY FAVORITE 😍😍), some integrals, optimization maybe? I forget. I'm pretty nervous about teaching it so I really SHOULD start looking at it, but I'm on fumes of remembering how much I LOVED it when I took it and I'm just so excited. IBP is actually terrifying to me. Idk if I could do that I really need to study 🤭

LOVE that for you! I knew you would do well! I'm happy to report that as a teacher I'm a very fair grader the way you described. If you mess up a sign anywhere on the problem I take at most 1 point away. (Algebra doesn't have like 15 steps for me to take away additional points). I want them to know the process more than the little arithmetic (but also they get a calculator that they REFUSE to use when I offer it so I like to take points off for that too). So 3/4 for an otherwise flawless problem is what I do.

I'M THE SAME WAY. All my friends ask me to split checks and do the tip when we go out to eat and I'm like "lol, give me a piece of paper be, I can't subtract anymore."

I hope you get the new job! Benefits are so important. Your golden birthday! How lovely! Do you have any fun plans? I'm going to do my best to remember but that's around when I go back to work!

Thanks for checking in! I hope you're having a great week! 💕

xoxo

[randomrings]

Streaming hiatus and struggling financially

Genuinely terrible update: The place that I was hired by texted me a few hours ago and said they just found out they can't afford to hire any new employees. This is because they are in the process of relocating. To add to it, their new building has a separate operations manager overseeing what goes on there. The manager that was going to hire me said he will send my application to the ops manager there. I have not confirmed an actual date on when the new location will be opened but I suspect January.

What does this have to do with you? I'm taking a hiatus from streaming until I figure out my finances. We are not doing okay here and finding out the day before I start that I actually don't have the job I was promised is a really big blow. At risk of sounding beggy: https://ko-fi.com/randomrings If you have a little money to spare, feel free to donate here. The situation is too fresh for me to know how much money I actually immediately need, especially because I'm also in debt for just trying to survive. Only give if you are safe to do so but we could really use it. Not for Randomrings Channel. Not for Lexi Karma. For survival.

Thanks, everyone for your recent support. I'll come back when I can do this thing without looming dread over my head.

EDIT [12:45pm est] - Just realized that posting this with the tags I did might be vague to people who don't follow me or know me personally. Hi! I'm Ayden. I use they/them and she/her pronouns. I moved in with my partner this year, quitting my transphobic job. See, I'm trans and was discriminated against and didn't feel safe there. Unfortunately, at the time of the move, they didn't have a transfer to another building available for me. That move was this past June. I have been unemployed since. The rest of the story is above. I'm on EBT so we can get by on food and I have some money left over to scrape by on bills for the month.

Rent and water combined is roughly $800 USD a month. My split of that I have documented as $400.81 for this past month. I may have a job lined up in January. I might find something in the new few weeks. But we're struggling now. So hope that clears up the situation. Thank you!

EDIT [11:38PM EST] I took off the mutual aid request tag. We ran into a few refund checks from my old insurance policy. Though only rough $86, still not nothing. I think *yes* we are still struggling. We're frustrated, scared, and upset but I think I posted this out of a bit of panic. We'll make it through December. If not, I'll make a post like this with a little more forethought. I should do commissions. But I'm still going to be on a streaming hiatus until I can get my life a little more together.

[bitchesgetriches]

Please help! My longtime partner and I are planning on getting married soon and need to talk about merging our finances. The good news is that we are both financially stable and have been since before we met, and our values around spending, saving and investing are well-aligned. The problem is that though we both love our work, our incomes are very far apart! I'm very frugal and a good saver, but make around 30k a year (gotta love nonprofits!) However, I have great cheap insurance through Obamacare that will go away if we combine finances, because... my partner is self-employed and makes 6 figures. While my partner has always been extremely supportive of my career in a low-paying field, it feels very weird to contemplate paying for things out of a shared bank account when I'm contributing so much less. But at the same time, combining finances will mean I owe more taxes and have higher insurance premiums. Up until now, we've always been meticulous about splitting our expenses on vacations, dates, and stuff around the house based on each person's costs, and I always felt sure I was paying my own way. Now things are going to get murky and I don't know what's fair.

Any advice on how to structure this money conversation in a loving, fair and feminist way, when our incomes are so vastly different?

Absolutely, cherub!

First off: there is no right or wrong way to combine finances as a married couple. And in fact, you don't have to combine finances AT ALL. Kitty and I talk about how we mostly do not combine finances with our spouses here:

How Dafuq Do Couples Share Their Money? 

In your case, it sounds like keeping your finances separate might actually save you some money. And as someone who has my finances large separate from my spouse (we only have one combined account that we both contribute $250 to every month for house maintenance, other than that everything is separate and we divide expenses equally), I'm here to tell you it's easier than you think. Plus, this might be one of the rare cases where separate finances will make sense for your taxes, which we explain here:

Season 3, Episode 8: "Should I Get Married for Tax Purposes? My Boyfriend Swears We’d Save Money, but I’m Not So Sure..." 

Lastly, there are a lot of things to consider when getting married. It goes way behind combining/not combining finances. So make sure you read through the list on this article to figure out what makes sense for you both:

How To Get Married: Bureaucracy, Finances, and Legal Paperwork To Do Before "I Do" 

[leverage-commentary]

Leverage Season 2, Episode 15, The Maltese Falcon Job, Audio Commentary Transcript

Dean: Hi I'm Dean Devlin, Executive Producer and Director of this episode.

John: I'm John Rogers, Executive producer and Writer.

Chris: I'm Chris Downey, Executive Producer, and this is the Maltese Falcon Job. Part two of our season two finale.

John: And this is a lot of fun, this was- this was born of an episode we never wrote. Just- we really wanted to just put them on their pins.

Chris: Right.

John: Just really knock them on their ass and so- were you handheld there? Handheld whenever there's a problem, right?

Dean: Well this is actually a 360 steadicam. And what we're trying to do is let- their entire world is spinning out of control, so we just wanted this just to keep spinning around. They don't know where they're gonna land.

John: This is a fast, hard reset. The second- the second half of the season finale last year, we kinda eased into it, we reset the locations.

Dean: Here we throw you right into it.

Chris: Right.

John: Yeah, you best be paying attention and you really see when, you know- they're the uber team. You know, you really need to put them onto the wall, and the FBI and Interpol in this situation, they're utterly lost. And Interpol, it was interesting, it was something we were saying last- cause it was Mark Sheppard credit in the last episode. We were looking for a villain, and the problem is we kept coming up with this recurring, separate villain. We’re like, ‘We've never met this person before, we don't care. The person you really want it to be is Sterling! But he's an investigator.’

Chris: ‘He's an insurance investigator, what does that have to do with insurance? We have to find a way to make this about insurance?’

John: Oh man, we killed ourselves.

Dean: Do you remember what you said John? The night-?

Chris: It was between you two, right?

John: It was us. I Skyped you at like 11 o’clock at night, you had come back from scouting-

Dean: And we were talking, and the idea came up, ‘What if we just made him interpol?’ Do you remember what you said?

John: No.

Dean: You said, ‘We are either coming up with the best idea we’ve ever come up with, or we’re both reall,y really tired right now.’

[Laughter]

Chris: And it was.

John: It was great.

Chris: As soon as I heard it, I said, ‘That’s a great idea.’ Because we needed to give him a wider mandate.

John: Yes, if we're gonna keep them as a recurring bad guy-

Chris: Great idea.

John: And what was great is, we already shot the episode that he was in before, so we had to go back and reshoot that ending.

Dean: Here's my favorite Tara bit, of her whole arc.

John: Oh, that's right.

Dean: And this man was actually our local assistant.

[Laughter]

Chris: That was AJ.

John: Yes. And a fine actor by the way.

Dean: He did a great job.

Chris: Oh look at this shot, look at this.

John: Look at just the look he's doing. Just a good 1960s Zero Mostel take there. Yeah, ‘Oops.’

[Laughter]

Chris: Mrs. Robinson.

Dean: Comedy frame.

John: Comedy frame. We got like nine takes of Christian reacting to that by the way.

Dean: And my favorite is they both originally put their heads back, and then only Christian’s head came back out again, but we didn't have time for that. 

Chris: Oh I love that.

John: We can't break for comedy too much here, cause you've got the momentum going. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: And you're like, you have to keep resetting - they are in trouble. This, by the way, great hack taught to us by Apollo Robbins.

Chris: Yes.

John: Our thief consultant took us through how you can get access to the hotel computer system through the back of your television.

Chris: Yes.

John: This is a real thing. Please don’t-

Dean: Please don't try this at home.

Chris: Please don’t try this.

John: Don't try this at home, but most hotels have internet enabled televisions now, and that allows you a backdoor into the- 

Chris: It's a good example, too, of our team is so good at what they do, that we always try and look for ways to take away all their tools and find a clever way they have to use whatever's around them to-

John: Yeah

Chris: -you know, get their information.

John: Yeah, and that's again, constrained in time, constrained in space.

Dean: And that little porno name here, we had to get clearance on. 

John: I know. We came up with so many pornos that were real. That we came up with the most ridiculous porno name, ‘Nope that's a real one, that’s a real one.’ What did we land with, Indie Panties Day?

[Laughter]

John: Yeah, there's also- I wonder if we got it on the DVD, a really creepy, awkward beat after they’ve watched the porno that Aldis and Beth did, just very. 

Chris: That's a nice little viral video.

John: Yeah we’ll have to find that. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: Oh, and a beautiful three way pass, by the way. That was a tough shot, you know, in a crowded-

Dean: And it's a callback from the Zanzibar Job. 

John: Yes.

Dean: Where they did a similar three way.

John: Yeah. 

Dean: And I love this local actor.

John: Oh man, he's fantastic.

Dean: Harold rocked it.

John: ‘Yes, it was delicious.’ Yeah no, Eliot's impatience. This, by the way- getting a hotel key without your ID, I was a little fuzzy on whether it would work or not. I had written it, and I was like ‘Ah, am I kinda cheating?’ So I went to a hotel and did it. 

[Laughter]

John: Two days before we actually did this.

Chris: You did?

John: Yes. I won't tell you what hotel because they shouldn't have done it, but I got a hotel room key that way.

Chris: That's great.

John: Yeah. It's amazing what you can do if you have no fear of prosecution.

[Laughter]

John: ‘Oh, I'm doing a television show.’ And this was tough. We had to split them up, we had to figure out what the geography was- oh he hates Sterling so much.

[Laughter]

John: And Mark Sheppard just teeing off, just- 

Dean: Mark is delicious in this part, man. 

John: Yes.

Dean: I'm telling you, I could just watch him play this guy all day long.

John: Yeah, and what's great is Richard Kind, kind of, really kind of justifying, really doing the evil speech of evil, ‘He's a good mayor.’

Chris: Yeah.

John: And he was the one who came up with, ‘I’m good for Bellbridge.’

Chris: ‘I was good for Bellbridge.’

John:  ‘I'm- no matter what I did, I did my job, you know.’

Chris: I like, too, that we have Nate and the mayor both- 

John: Both drinking.

Chris: Both drinking.

Dean: Yeah.

John: I think that was on the day we came up with that, where Nate would get the booze from. 

Dean: Right.

John: Same place. I think we were just- cause this is the same hotel room. That was the fun of this episode, it was figuring out all the identical space- the fact that all hotel rooms are identical.

Chris: Right.

John: And that we suddenly realized, ‘Wait that means we can shoot in one and just redress.’ This is a long ass speech, this was a tough day.

Dean: And again done in a one-er.

John: Yes.

Dean: So the degree of difficulty for poor Mark was very, very high, but he knocked it out again.

John: He's really abused in television. Cause I will tell you right now, a lot of show runners will be like, ‘I have two and a half of impossible bullshit, get me Mark Sheppard in here.’

Dean: Right.

Chris: He's- I think he went from here, he was- he did the- I guess that three part CSI-

John: Yeah.

Chris: Where they had all the CSIs in one link and he was the bad guy in that, and he works.

John: He's a great- he really in that British actor tradition, yeah. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: And this- this bio of this arms dealer is pretty much just a bio of an arms dealer we took. I'm not gonna tell you who, because it was Chris’s idea and if you're angry, you should take your vengeance on him and his family.

[Laughter]

John: And not me, I am a big fan of arms dealers.

Chris: Paul Blackthorne, great- what is he-?

John: Well he had done Dresden Files, I knew him from that. 

Chris: Dresden Files.

John: But he's, you know, nailed the accent, and he's also really tall, he's got a physically imposing presence. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: And Tim’s tall, and it's really hard sometimes, to find the villains that can kind of, you know. And this was a great scene, and really one of the few times that the team lays into Nate. And I like, by the way, Nate’s getting more and more rumpled. Everyone else is kind of pulling it together, and he's just getting rougher and rougher looking.

Chris: Didn’t we have some weather here?

Dean: On the outtakes reel that's actually on this DVD, you'll see some funny outtakes from this scene.

Chris: With the weather right?

Dean: With the weather and Tim’s hair.

[Laughter]

Chris: Oh wow.

John: Oh right, even Chris is having a problem here and he's in a ponytail. Yeah the wind- the whole day we were shooting this we had thunderstorms coming through. 

Dean: Right.

John: So we were literally, ‘It's sunny. Go, go, go!’ And running down and getting the exteriors, yeah. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: Yeah we banged this out fast, man.

Dean: And yet they really nailed it. Again, when our actors dig in, they find gold.

John: And this was a big moment, this was- this is something I think that people sometimes ask, ‘Why does Eliot do this?’ Eliot has made himself a promise, this is his job, he will keep them safe.

Chris: Right.

Dean: And Nate realizes-

John: That's all he has.

Dean: Nate realizes for the first time he's actually let his team down.

John: Yeah.

Dean: And now he feels like he has to make it up to them.

John: Well, you know, when Parker does it. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: I mean that's the thing, Parker never gives- expresses- she’ll tease, she’ll express sarcasm, but disappointment- you know, ‘Be the person we came back for.’ She's referencing the season opener.

Dean: Right.

John: And that's the problem, is addiction- he's allowed himself to be- he's no longer the guy who used to chase them.

[Silence]

John: That's me drinking my Guinness, don't mind me.

[Laughter]

John: Oh god. What would I do without booze? 

Dean: So now we come back to the hotel.

John: Was that on mic? Alright.

[Laughter]

John: So we’re back on the hotel. 

Dean: And again, our clue from the previous episode of the Maltese Falcon.

Chris: Really key to watch these two back to back folks.

Dean: Oh, now this is-

Chris: I mean, maybe get a sandwich, but don't do much more than that.

Dean: This, I think, is one of my favorite bullet time shots that we've ever done. 

John: This was not as- not quite as insane as- and America thanks you for Beth in the French maid outfit.

Chris: The french maid.

Dean: It’s after this gag.

John: Yeah. Not quite as insane as the- by the way, this moment is based on a comedy club in Winnipeg, when- where the comics would go perform, it was a contest amongst them to see how long they could go without leaving the hotel room, and without letting the maids in.

[Laughter]

Chris: Cause there was no-

John: There was nothing to do. 

Chris: Nothing to do.

John: So it was like, ‘I went 40- I went 72 hours; the maids left the towels at the door.’

Dean: Great passing out scene.

Chris: Oh there we go.

John: That man is passed out. And that looks like my bed in every stand up club I ever went at.

Dean: This was the bullet- this was a very complicated bullet time shot.

John: Is this as bad or worse than the pilot, where you did four different directions?

Dean: No, it's not as bad as the pilot, but the timing of it is hard because of the extras and the switching of directions.

John: Yeah. So we start with one-

Dean: And we were using a different steadicam artist who had never done this before. 

John: Oh, that’s right.

Dean: So we had to teach Norbert how to do it while we were doing it.

Chris: Oh, that's right. 

Dean: It was very tough.

Chris: Cause our camera guy had a-

Dean: It was the one day Gary Camp was actually sick.

John: Yeah.

Chris: His tooth exploded or something.

John: Yeah, and he still showed up for work, by the way. 

Chris: He did.

John: With a face that looked like somebody had worked him over with a bat.

Dean: Now originally you had a much more complicated gag to stall, and then you came up with this gag, and we were on the floor laughing.

Chris: Yeah, this is funny.

John: You said, you were like, ‘I can't shoot that gag, all I have is the elevator’ I was like ‘Alright, well we’ll do this.’ And it's funny cause it was really a throwaway, and then the more we talked about it, the funnier it got.

Dean: Yeah.

John: As you realize it's just comedy beat, after comedy beat, after comedy beat. Also: Mark Sheppard.

Dean: Yeah.

Chris: Mark Sheppard does the- he takes you through the- 

John: The fives stages of death and dying.

Chris: The array of reactions.

Dean: This is-

Chris: Puts on a [unintelligible].

John: And by the way- same elevator, we’re just changing the floor number on every shot.

Dean: And the plants.

John: And the plants.

[Laughter]

John: So yes. And we- but we did run Tim up the stairs a lot that day.

Chris: We did.

Dean: I'll tell you this may be my- the funniest gag we've ever done.

John: Just cause both actors- oh this- just the seething.

Dean: The rage.

John: And both actors kind of really digging in on it.

[Laughter]

Chris: Oh.

John: And then... 

Chris: Just kidding this right on his reel, this is all the different, kind of, reaction to it.

John: And I like, he's almost too tired to keep doing it. And up.

Dean: But what sells the whole gag for me is this last one. Because at this point now they've done everything they can, and they just don't care anymore.

[Laughter]

John: They're just. 

Dean: They're done.

John: They’re done, they’re just exhausted. And now- now Nate can give up. Yeah, he's bought them enough time to do what they need to do. And also this was a nice beat, cause Mark made a point of it, it's like if he just had one more second he would've figured it out.

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: Right.

John: You know you can never- Sterling- you always have to play fair with him. 

Dean: Right.

John: You know he's always this close to figuring it out. These guys were great as the vaguely resentful FBI agents. 

Dean: Exactly.

John: Because he's very insulting. And a timing joke. Mark carries a lot in this episode.

Chris: Door- door closed, there you go, door closes, door opens.

Dean: Mark had his work cut out for him this episode.

John: Door opens. ‘Hey, Bob.’ Yeah, these two had a lot of fun. There’s about 900 different takes of this. And oh this was tricky, because when we got up there, we were shooting on the top floor, but that meant we couldn't double the corridor.

Dean: That’s right.

John: Because we had the skylights.

Chris: Oh, hm.

Dean: So we had to find other corridors. 

John: Yeah, and sometimes people were sleeping, sorry about that.

Dean: This is a very simple bullet time shot, but a very effective one, I think.

John: Yeah, the big reveal.

Dean: Just the, ‘viola.’

John: And you're out.

Chris: How did they do that?

John: A lot of fun. And a wink, which would distract any normal human. And this is- I'm trying to remember where we came up with this bit. Oh the carts were brutal, trying to find the cart we could put a dude in.

Chris: Oh yeah.

Dean: But this bit here is a call back to the episode with the kids-

John: Yes. Yeah That's right- where Hardison and- 

Dean: Cannot rappel.

Chris: That’s just great.

John: Rappelling just does not fit well, he's just not left as- and by the way, it really- real risk of Aldis Hodge strangling there. Sorry about that, Aldis. 

[Laughter]

John: And he's figured it out. Yeah and that was a lot of fun. Nashua, New Hampshire, near where my sister lives, by the way.

Chris: Right that's where they're sending it.

John: That's actually where they are sending it- they're sending that trunk to my sister’s front lawn. What little I can do. And this is- what's fun is that we- the camera work is very energized, the game's afoot, and the second half- it’s interesting, the two previous seasons, the two episodes both had their own internal structure. This really just plays as a movie because all the set up is the first half.

Chris: Yes.

John: This entire episode is the rock that's been pushed down the hill, and we’re just chasing it.

Chris: And everything is paying off.

John: Yeah. And again, drawn from my experience in standup years, all the hotel rooms look alike. If you were to wake me up in any random hotel room, I woke up and my trash was there, I'd assume that that was my room.

Chris: Sure. I mean as any business traveller can tell you, they'll wake up and not know what city they're in.

John: And Richard Kind, by the way- poor Richard Kind spent a week in that bathrobe. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: On docks, on oil tankers, in hotel rooms.

Chris: Yeah, it’s true.

John: That was- he formed a very unhealthy relationship with that bathrobe.

Dean: And had to be in the bathrobe the whole time.

John: Yeah. This is my favorite bit- they're just the type of people who cut up people in tubs, that's their job.

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: But this little look of Eliot's right there tells you everything.

Chris: ‘Alright, I'm gonna cut her up.’

John: ‘Alright, this is my day.’ Aldis’s character Mr. Joshua, of course, named after the Gary Busey character from- 

Chris: Lethal Weapon.

John: Lethal Weapon. If we need a killer's name, why not-?

Dean: Go to the best.

John: Why not reference the best? Bunch of different versions of this. And I love them playing good cop, bad cop. But it was interesting, we had a version of this speech- and I will give this up to you as director, that explained everything. And you really looked at it and said, ‘Alright, here's the actual three things we need for this to make sense.’ Cause as the writer you never know, but you come at it from a storyteller like, ‘Here are the points the audience needs to be emotionally engaged to move forward.’

Dean: And it was a tough call, because Richard did such an amazing job with this speech. 

John: Yes.

Dean: You almost didn't want to lose anything. But, you know, we have time that we have to come in at the end of the show, and we needed to lose some time, so we really boiled it down.

Chris: Oh was this something that came out in editing? Or in-?

John: Yeah.

Chris: Oh it did, I didn't even notice.

John: You didn't notice, exactly. 

Chris: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

John: The speech was about twice as long. Because really there's a whole mini scene between Richard and Tim there. 

Dean: Right.

John: And it really was- you know, you got it, he's bargaining for his life. That’s all you need to know.

Dean: And Richard is so knocking it out, you're actually learning a lot more with even less.

John: Yeah. His relationship through his attitude. No, there are times- even a writer would admit-

Dean: And that's all real sweat, by the way, no sweat bottle came in there; he earned each drop.

John: Boom. I like Aldis’ vague resentment at not being allowed to punch the guy.

Chris: Yeah.

John: Because again, everyone has their niche. And also the great expression Beth chooses there. ‘Eh, I've been in the tub waiting while you beat up a mayor. I'm out now.’

[Laughter]

John: ‘What are we doing next?’

Chris: Yeah, completely blank affect.

John: Yeah, exactly.

Dean: Day at the office.

John: Yeah.

Dean: But the subtle look of feeling like she's on a sinking ship. 

John: Yeah.

Dean: That we get out of Tara at the end of this scene, is really very great for setting up the turn.

John: And even- It's interesting, to watch Chris choose- Aldis is having basically Hardison question dad, while Eliot is instead watching the interplay between the two of them to see how Nate treats Hardison. 

Dean: Right.

John: Knowing that's the better indicator of what the relationship is. He does a similar thing in 207, actually, between he and Sophie- between Gina, with the bomb scene. 

Dean: Right, right. 

John: Yeah.

Dean: And then here we drop our red herring. Has Tara jumped the shark?

John: For a minute or half we considered doing it. For a minute and a half, what would- the problem was, it's Jeri Ryan, and you like her and you're hanging out with her and working with her and it was like, ‘Nah, I don't want the- I like the character.’

Chris: Well it sets up the- the act where it all pays off is one of my favorite acts we’ve done.

John: It’s one of my favorite bits ever. This, by the way, it seems like it's just an act break, it's horrible. Sterling has used his- the fact he used to be best friends with Nate Ford, to know that he is going to use his child’s- dead child's art to trap him.

Chris: Yeah.

John: This is a moment that was kind of thrown away, and the two actors, I saw them actually talking about it on set and they really dug in on it.

Chris: Yeah.

John: It's like, that is a horrible moment. You know, because he knows he won't leave town without that, and Sterling is the only man on earth who knows he won't leave town without that. 

Chris: Right.

John: Yeah. And it's one of the few times we’re behind the desk there.

Dean: Yeah.

John: Yeah. It's a weird place to shoot; it's just got that picture behind it, it's just trough to frame

Dean: But we wanted to get there and we found a place. Now this scene is unusual in that we've gone now to our handheld, which we do when our characters are either in physical or emotional jeopardy. But unlike other scenes, we went musicless here.

John: Yes.

Dean: Because the performances were so strong and so right on-

Chris: Oh that’s great.

Dean: -we didn't want to tell the audience what to feel. Just- we just wanted them to feel it.

John: Also in the tradition, that's the same glass.

Dean: Yeah.

John: Nate and- 

Chris: Oh that's the same glass from- from Nate in-

Dean: Season 1.

Chris: Season 1. That’s great.

John: Nate and Sterling have one glass they pass back and forth between each other depending on who’s winning.

Chris: That's great.

Dean: Right.

John: And the fact he's brought it to give it to him is sort of a signature of the deal they're falling into. And again, by the way, the idea that you would protect a witness that might’ve killed a cop. When you do the research? Oh man. This was kind of the Whitey Bulger thing in costic.

Chris: Well I mean, you know, we- it gave us a chance to explore- it was a whole different episode from the point of view of the FBI. 

John: Yeah.

Chris: About the compromises that people make when they get confidential, you know- 

John: Informants.

Chris: Cooperating witnesses, of looking the other way of other things they're doing. All they are focused on is their case.

John: That mayor is giving them 20 good busts.

Chris: Yeah, yeah.

John: They're not going to follow rumors. Also Mark Sheppard is a- man, this is a great scene. There's two versions of this scene. This is the one we used, the one I like. One where he's angry and superior, and one where he's genuinely hurt that Nate Ford had become this man. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: That he's genuinely hurt he has to offer him this deal. And this is the take we used. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: Which was an oddly vulnerable moment for that character. He doesn't want to be here, he doesn't want to be giving him this offer. Wow, this is all close up, too, which we almost never do.

Dean: Yeah. But this is- there's a lot of things that we did in this two part season finale that we don't normally do, that were out of the box, but necessary, it was very interesting.

John: Yeah, and this is him telling him this is his last chance. No, and- I always wonder- I gotta- I need to ask Tim when does- cause I know Tim in his head knows when Nate makes the decision what he's gonna do. Is it here or is it after the phone call? Is it after the phone call?

Dean: I think it's after the phone call.

John: Yeah. But there's alot going on.

Dean: But the twist here was cause Nate always is two steps ahead. Until he said, ‘And my team,’ and the guy- and he says, ‘No, just you.’ And there's a look on his face and it's one- it’s again, a rare vulnerable moment for Nate where he didn’t see that one coming. 

John: Yeah. And loses his hand and it's like, you know.

Dean: Again, getting to shoot at the actual docks was fantastic.

John: Except we can't shoot past her right shoulder, cause there was a navy ship there that we started to shoot, and the nice gentlemen came over and told us not to put that on camera, please.

Dean: That’s right.

Chris: Oh really?

John: Yeah.

Chris: Wow.

John: Yeah.

Dean: And briny despair may be my favorite Parker line.

John: Briny despair, old clowns.

Chris: Old clown shoes.

John: Briny despair. And again, there's a mini arc here, and the actresses are very good friends, and they're really found it, of their developing physical friendship and, like, just the fact that she can be- Parker’s physical character, and so the fact she’ll walk in pace with Tara is a big deal.

Dean: And now we've brought back Sophie.

John: There you go.

Dean: First time we haven't seen her on a monitor this season.

John: Exactly.

Chris: And here's the payoff from the scene in-

Dean: 207.

Chris: Well part one also, this-

Dean: But we set up really at the- 

Chris: We did, you're right.

Dean: At the- The Two Live Crew Job that she was going off to find herself. 

John: Yeah.

Chris: Right.

Dean: And then in the next episode, when he tried to bring her back, she says, ‘Do you want me back for the team, or for you?’ 

Chris: Right, right.

Dean: And now he calls that back and says, ‘Not for the team, for me.’

Chris: Right, right.

Dean: ‘I need you back.’

John: It was also subtle, but we've shown her in conveyance in a lot of the other shots when she's away, so you won't be tipped off by the fact that she's in a conveyance. That she's in transport.

Chris: That she's in a helicopter.

John: She's in transit, she’s in a helicopter. We've shown her in cars, she’s done the cell phone in different locations. 

Chris: Yeah, yeah, that’s true.

John: So hopefully you were not like ‘Oh, why are we seeing her in a different context?’ 

Chris: Right.

John: We've seen her in this context before. Now this was- man, this was a great day, this was just- we cleared the set and Tim just parked his ass on the floor. 

Dean: We did three takes, but this is actually his first take. He so nailed it on the first take.

John: Oh, really?

Dean: That the others were really just for safety. But he just came in there, ready to do this part.

John: Yeah. And this is- you know.

Dean: And then the tragedy that she didn't hear any of it. 

John: Yeah.

Chris: It's one of the great things about cell phones. Is that- from a dramatic standpoint- I mean they help you bring characters together, but you can also use them to- 

Dean: Separate them.

Chris: To separate them.

John: Never in 1940s comedy is or 1940s movie is like, ‘Pennsylvania 927: Oh the killer is-!’ ‘Oh I lost him.’

Chris: ‘The line went dead!’

John: ‘The line went dead!’ ‘No sir, the line’s not dead, I'll reconnect you right away.’ Thank you operator.’

Dean: But his feeling of betrayal at losing the connection.

John: Yeah.

Dean: Really again, is a wonderful red herring where we feel like, ‘Oh my god, he's really gonna sell this team out.’

John: Yeah.

Chris: Yeah.

John: Or at the very least you have no idea what the hell he's gonna do. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: You know, he is drunk, he is pissed off. No he-

Chris: And he's been put- he's been backed in a corner.

John: And you know, which-

Dean: But even the way he said here, ‘I have a plan that will fix everyone.’ It’s like, woah.

John: And having the picture that Sam drew. It's interesting that it's essentially a codependent relationship, but it's a functioning one that they have.

Dean: And here, again, is a strange bit of blocking that we had never done before, where Nate has isolated himself on the stairway. 

John: Yes.

Chris: Well that helps sell everything, too, doesn't it? Separated from them.

John: Well he's not in front of them, he's behind them. He's separated from them, exactly. Fun bit of blocking, too, actually. It's- we’ll use it again, I'm sure.

Dean: Yeah.

John: Cause that's a nice angle. And yes and then everyone- and then her coming around to pull focus. No, it's for a static shot, it's really interesting. But this is one of the few times we don't tell you the plan.

Dean: Right.

John: You know, it's one of the few times we transition. Usually we-

Chris: We did that in part two of season one, also.

John: Yeah, yeah. It’s- we’re usually an open mystery. 

Chris: Yes.

John: At least- and this was one of the few times that you're not- you have no idea- because the rules for the show usually are, you know what's gonna happen and the fun is seeing it go wrong and how they're gonna recover. This one it's like, you’re just gonna have to trust us.

Chris: Who invented the ‘And this is what we're gonna do’ was that Aristophones? The first one.

John: That was Aristophanes.

Chris: ‘Alright everyone, gather around. Grab your togas; let’s go.’

Dean: Now once again we've got the teams separated in different locations, each with different objectives.

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: And that's a little bit of a callback to the pilot episode, when she did the burn gag.

Chris: That's true.

John: Yes, the burn scam. Yeah, wow was this a tough shot.

Dean: That's a little bit of scale, huh guys?

Chris: Wow. 

Dean: How about that?

Chris: They let us- now was that digital or do we- let us paint on the ship?

Dean: We digitally put the name on the ship.

Chris: We did, ok.

John: Well, we did paint some of it .

Dean: We did paint some of it. You’ll see a sign later that we actually painted.

John: That was a lot of fun, just trying to figure out like, the whole break into the FBI office. And what's the easiest way? 

Dean: Short fight, but one of my favorites. 

John: Yeah, just brutal. This is a tough- this was a tough day. Chris did all of these fights in one day, straight through, and ran back and forth between the dialogue scenes.

Dean: This really should've been two days of shooting, that we did in one day.

John: He did like a 20 hour day here.

Dean: This was an insane day.

Chris: Oof.

Dean: But we only had use of this ship for two days, so we had to get it all in.

John: Yeah. He's got the samurai ponytail rocking there, that's how you can tell there's gonna be some fighting. And we have money, and we would like to arrange a meeting. ‘I'm a man with a briefcase full of money, I would like to meet your boss.’ It’s a great, classic trope.

Chris: I like this act, this is my favorite act.

John: I also like- I gave them this running bit where he's counting guys with guns.

Chris: Yeah, I remember that from- you came up with that last season.

John: Season one, and we never found a place for it.

Chris: That's a great shot, too.

John: Yeah, that's a great shot. That and- actually on the boat, that's the way you get between decks. This is actually one of my favorite Parker bits, just talking- coming up with the speech about what it's like to die in an air vent. Because the fact that she's always in air vents, is worth addressing, you know.

Dean: And it shows you the way her mind thinks.

John: Yes, exactly. ‘Scratching on the metal.’ She's kinda turned on, I'm not sure where this is going. 

[Laughter]

Dean: Yeah, that’s fair.

Chris: It's the tongue, the darting tongue and she shakes out of it.

John: Let’s go and we’re off.

Dean: She loves the danger.

Chris: We didn't get wet that down folks, that was actual Portland rain.

John: Yes, Beth Riesgraf and Jeri Ryan were on a rooftop, on a skyscraper, with a thunderstorm during most of this day.

Dean: Not dangerous at all.

John: Not dangerous, ignore the lighting, kids. Man, what were we thinking?

Dean: And he pulled out the Scottish accent out of nowhere, which was fantastic.

John: I know, I know. Which was a lot of fun. Because the idea is the mayor has gotten in over his head, and he's dealing with the same sort of businesses that- power drill was the nastiest thing I could think of.

Chris: And that's quite a nasty bit on it, too.

John: Yes, exactly. Well that’s- you know, I mean, if you're gonna mess up somebody's knees, that's the bit you're gonna use yeah. ‘Still counting.’ Oh yeah, then we just reset- it was really tricky because it was so complicated, we had to reset their goal at the beginning of every act. 

Dean: Right.

John: What do they need to get? Yeah. And again, it's like, do these guys really meet in broad daylight to look at their goods? Yes! Yes they do!

Chris: Yeah.

John: And usually-

Dean: And here's where we set up the phone does voice dialing, which is crucial to our final act.

John: Thank you 21st century. Because we enjoyed tying up Richard Kind and we’ll leave it at that.

Chris: Yeah, I'm sure the fact that GPS is in every phone is gonna be our best friend and possibly our worst enemy this coming season. 

John: No, it's a big deal. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: A phone that's on is a phone that can be tracked.

Chris: Yup.

John: Exactly. And yes and Richard, by the way, finding the desperation. ‘They cut her up in a bathtub!’ 

John: Like the murder wasnt the worst thing in the world, but the fact that somehow it was so undignified? Yeah. Nice scream. And that was, by the way, great little comedy beat, just like, ‘Well to be fair, he did most of the cutting.’ 

Chris: Yeah.

John: The two of them- we don't usually have Eliot and Nate doing comedy together, but when they do it's a pure relationship, it's a nice rhythm.

Dean: And if you look closely, there in the distance, we've set up Sophie is actually with the buyers.

John: Yes.

Dean: But you wouldn't notice that unless you watched it again.

Chris: Oh, that's great.

John: And now they've broken in, they've come down through the air vent, she did not enjoy the experience in any way shape or form. Oh man, this was a tough day. That's like-

Chris: Hot? Cold? What was the temperature? Do you remember?

John: Brutal, brutal hot. Cold at night. Hot at- you know what? There's never-

Dean: Back and forth.

John: It's never comfy on an oil tanker deck.

Chris: No- I’m trying- yeah I'm trying to imagine-

Dean: And there again, there’s Sophie in the distance.

Chris: There she is, that's great.

John: Sophie in the distance. And this is a real fusebox we tacked into. Sorry.

Dean: In city hall?

John: In city hall. 

[Laughter]

John: This was actually a fun thing is, this year we shifted to Hardison not using a signature laptop, but using the minis. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: Because our hacker consultant, Kevin Mitteny told us that's what they're using. They're using $300 computers and throwing them away if they're gonna get busted. And running stuff off the thumb drives.

Dean: And this was the- in the actual cargo hold of the oil tanker, so this was very confined space to shoot in. It looked great, but it was very difficult to light and move the camera around and because the top of the stairs- that was the only stairs that was the only way in and out of that room. So all the lights, all the cameras all had to go up and down stairs- there was no other way in or out.

John: And remind you, Gina’s in this scene later. Gina at, like, 17 months pregnant.

[Laughter]

John: Came down those stairs like a fricken trooper, man. We were just- we were more scared than she was. She was like going down them, and we were like, ‘Ahhh, oh god.’

Chris: Just kind of like [unintelligible] step.

John: It’s an oil tanker! And she’s in like fashion boots, and a kicky top, you know.

Chris: Wow.

John: This was- you know what’s weird? This speech doesn’t advance the plot in any way, shape, or form. This speech is just him selling his character to buy time, and yet it’s really interesting. 

Dean: Yeah this-

John: Tim’s digging in on the character here. It's his evil speech of evil, you know.

Dean: Right

John: And he never gets to give one.

Chris: Yeah, it's interesting when we can do that. We've done that a few times, the- 

John: Glengarry, Glen death.

Chris: Sophie also- also as the Indian pharmaceutical rep gave an evil speech of evil.

John: Yes.

Dean: And this you wrote in the script as the Bourne fade. 

John: Yes.

Dean: Which I thought was the perfect description.

John: It's a perfect- it’s a good shorthand. He's there, and then he’s not there.

Chris: It's great.

John: By the way, Chris has just stepped three feet to the right into a tool locker.

[Laughter]

Dean: Right.

John: There's no actual exit there. And- was there a reason for the 360? Just to keep it- just to be interesting? Because I don't think it was-

Chris: And how hard was that within that space?

Dean: Really hard. But we felt that it was a great way to, again, the world has changed. We thought one thing was going on here, but now we've spun it by-

Chris: And that's steadicam.

Dean: That's all steadicam. Gary Camp.

John: It's weird, because it's also, kind of, Nate Ford buying into his persona there. That's one of the times you really see him.

Dean: And Jackie ‘The Joke Man’ Martling.

John: Who came in and did a great job for us!

Dean: You know what's funny, is that I thought he was just gonna be a comic that you had to teach how to act. But you know what? He really came in with the character, he committed to it, he wasn't just trying to be jokey. I mean, he really knocked it out.

John: He totally gives us serious takes-

Chris: He’s totally convincing as the evidence locker guy.

John: Slightly more convincing than Jeri Ryan in insanely hot pants as the FBI agent. 

[Laughter]

John: I gotta with Jackie here on the verisimilitude scale. Although we did put Jackie in those pants, that didn't work out for us as much. But no, he's great and the kind of vaguely resentful- you can totally see him doing this character on a- 

Dean: And yet he gave us a great exit line here.

John: ‘Oh no, who wants to talk to the evidence guy?’ 

[Laughter]

John: And that was, by the way, that was him, that was not in the script.

Chris: That’s true.

Dean: And not overselling it either.

John: No, no, it was really nice. You could see him playing that role on a cop show.

Dean: Totally.

John: Absolutely. Nate Ford, international man of mystery and arms dealer.

Chris: Peacoat really working well on the boat.

[Laughter]

John: Yeah, nice. It's very much-

Chris: That was a coat waiting for a set.

John: Yeah. Well it's interesting cause- 

Dean: Oh and there's Sophie in the background.

Chris: There’s Sophie!

John: And some people in the first screening kind of caught her, but- 

Chris: Now she's there buying guns? Who’s-?

[Laughter]

John: Well she's- she is buying guns, you know. 

Chris: For her library?

[Laughter]

Dean: Library needs guns, too.

John: Libraries need guns, too. I like to think- I like to think that she is a Swiss buyer.

Chris: No, I mean, it’s a well armed library.

John: She's a Swiss buyer, she’s-

Dean: And here's a nice little turn.

John: Nice swing around. Shot that day on the boat to reveal that they talked. And then over again. Wow, and we all shot this in a real container.

Dean: In a real containter.

Chris: It was for real? Oh, wow.

Dean: Yeah. Now back on the roof, and this is my favorite Parker bit we've ever done. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: Yeah it's tough. There's a lot of good ones, but. 

Dean: But.

John: But we never expected Beth to do this.

Chris: This turn here is great.

Dean: This is the first time since the pilot that we brought back how lethal she can actually be.

John: There's a bit in Stork Job, but boom. Oh yeah and she locked in on Jeris throat on that, too. 

Chris: Yeah.

John: And Jeri goes over the edge. 

Chris: Over the edge. 

John: She's wired, but that's Jeri Ryan hanging over the edge. And it was-

Chris: And again, it was raining and windy. 

John: Raining. Yeah no, they were both fearless up there. 

John: They had a good time up there. They really wound up working well together. And now it's all gone to hell.

Dean: But it's a real callback to that pilot line of, ‘Going to my angry place.’

John: Yeah. This is just- because what's happened is- and just for writing thing, Parker has let her into the family. The only people who are human beings are members of the family. Once Jeri’s betrayed them, she’s moved outside the family, and is an object.

Chris: Well, also to betray the family is-

John: Real ship captain.

Dean: Real ship-

Chris: Oh wow, that's great.

John: You were saying? To betray...

Chris: To betray the family is even worse.

Dean: This is a great hit right here.

Chris: Oh!

Dean: Bam! Man.

John: Yeah- man shooting- that's as wide as that space is, guys. 

Dean: Yeah.

John: That was brutal to be down there.

Dean: And these are two guys from the beginning of the previous episode. So again, if you haven't watched them back to back, you might not realize these are the two guys who shot Bonanno.

Chris: Yeah.

John: Yeah, so you know we've linked up, physically, the bad guys.

Dean: Now that one actually- we put that one actually up there.

John: Yeah, that's a real sign. And this is my favorite, this is one of my favorite character reveals ever, and it's because she's doing one of my favorite characters ever. Gina’s doing Annie Croy here.

Chris: Annie Croy.

Dean: Which, again, ties back to the beginning of the season.

John: Yeah it's almost like we think this through. Yeah and- I'm sorry we're all gonna be quiet here because we all love this.

Dean: ‘Bye now.’

John: ‘Bye now.’

[Laughter]

John: That's fucked up, man. I'm sorry, I'm gonna swear on DVD and say that is fucked up.

Dean: That ‘bye now’ is. 

Chris: The ‘bye now’ throwaway.

Dean: Oh boy, ruthless. And then my second favorite reveal of a character all year.

Chris: Oh.

John: Yeah. No, that's fantastic. And the way Tim sells this like, ‘What the hell is going on?’ No, even writing that character reveal I wasn't sure it would work, and even when we shot it I'm like, ‘Yeah, this works.’ Gina- you've been so waiting to be- hear her voice.

Dean: She is so talented.

John: We've also really lined it up like there’s no out here. We- usually the audience- a smart audience member will see a backdoor we put. There is no backdoor, she's the backdoor. 

Chris: Yeah this was a tricky bit of scripting too, right? I mean we had a ship, and we needed to disable it. I mean, what was- right?

John: It was a lot of wandering around on the ship going, ‘Alright, how does this work exactly?’

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: And even though Tim is out of focus here, you get everything right there.

John: ‘The hell’s going on?’ And she doesn't break character, no.

Dean: Cause she is the ultimate grifter.

John: Yeah, no she does a great- and OK, shoot this guy in the face when I'm off the-’ She's impatient and that's actually kind of a nice thing. And now this.

Dean: Terrific little fight scene shot by Marc Roskin.

John: Yes, at some ungodly hour of the morning. And this is where we pay off the numbers. We've been waiting two years to do this.

Dean: And again, in the actual ship.

John: Yeah, there's a lot of stuff to hurt yourself on. 

Dean: And this gun going off was not easy.

John: Yeah.

Chris: Oof. 

John: Yeah, we're spilling brass all over the inside of the ship. The- this is a brutal fight sequence, all these stunties did- you know, they're banging off metal all over the place.

Dean: In this kind of space, it is so hard to do this safely, these guys were champs. And Christian- I’m telling you, he's amazing in these things.

John: No double.

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: Refuses to get a double.

John: Refused to get a double. There you go, and down, he counts. By the way, we’re not exhibiting superhuman strength here. This is how you break flexicuffs.

Chris: Oh wow, that's a little hulk moment.

John: Yeah, the only thing keeping- if you- if- that's why they flexicuff you behind your back. The only thing keeping you in flexicuffs in front of you is the belief that you should be in flexicuffs. Little survival tip.

Chris: Oh wow.

John: And this is also a favorite bit, because it was really written as a kind of expositional, but Beth found this really weird rhythm near the end of it.

Dean: Oh boy.

John: This is shot with the XD right?

Dean: Yeah.

John: This is all shot with a Prosumer-level camera. 

Dean: She just finds this little bit of evil.

John: ‘Oh, I actually thought you were going to throw me off.’ Yeah, exactly.

Dean: Just this little fake laugh here, just so great. I think it's actually in the two shot, because it has to be in the comedy frame.

John: Yeah the- also the- it's interesting that the- the idea that it's fair enough that they would indeed-

Dean: Here it is.

John: Here it is, coming up. ‘I thought you were actually going to throw me off the roof’. And there she is. The look before hand, the ‘Oh, that's right, this is how humans are supposed to react.’

[Laughter]

John: ‘Eh, I was totally going to throw you off that roof.’ 

Chris: Yeah, that’s great.

John: But the whole understanding that yes we probably- that's actually a favorite line and Jeri really nailed it, which is ‘You would have forgiven him.’ They're all enablers, they're all in this weird broken family, and you know, it's both their strength and their weakness. Also, again, by the way, director thing, I had a whole explanation of how Hardison disarmed the ship, and we had no time to shoot it and you were like, ‘Giant wrench!’

Chris: Giant wrench!

John: You know what he's done.

Chris: When you see a giant wrench, you see that he messed something up.

John: He is a monkey wrencher. You know! It's a term.

Dean: In the comedy frame. so-

John: And by the way, ‘Took you long enough,’ is a recurring theme for the entire back half of the season.

Dean: Right there.

Chris: Oh that's right.

Dean: And she walks by. ‘Huh?’

[Laughter]

Dean: Love it.

John: And then a beautiful over the shoulder. Oh that's a hero shot right there. No, it really is- it’s interesting because it was very scary, because you know, you didn't know how long Gina would be with us going into the season and everything.

Chris: Oh, this is great.

John: And the entire act depends on Sophie being the best grifter on earth.

Chris: Even him-

Dean: And it's just fun to see them all back together again, because we've been starved from it.

Chris: Him being like places where he doesn't know he was all throughout this episode.

John: Yeah, it's a nice running gag actually. And zero. And by the way, it was Chris who caught the count. Chris came up to me and was like, ‘If that's the last guy I'm gonna-’ I was like, ‘Oh, good catch at 2am, nicely done.’ ‘Took you long enough,’ again.

Dean: And this sets up the handcuff bit at the end.

John: Yeah, that was tricky.

Chris: Right he has the handcuffs.

John: Oh god, yeah. Boy this was really easy to keep track of.

[Laughter]

Dean: And both of them really delivered- you know, this is a very short scene that needs a lot of emotions. Because it wraps up really where they are and where they're going next season, and they just did it with looks and with subtext. And it was just terrific.

John: You poor bastard. And also, by the way, what I love about this is, this is the happy ending to most television shows, this moment right here. We then fuck it up.

Dean: Right, exactly.

John: Yeah. They really care for each other, they are really good friends.

Dean: And they're there for each other.

John: And they're there for each other, and he's a broken bastard. And what's great is he walks out of there without really knowing what the rest of the plan is.

Dean: My favorite Richard Kind line right here, ‘I don't know.’

John: ‘I don't know.’

[Laughter]

Chris: That's very Richard Kind. That’s Mad About You, Spin City Richard Kind right there.

John: Yeah, it really is. And by the way, yeah, only two ways out of this. That seems like a design flaw to me. Because that front window is a 40 foot drop onto the deck of the ship; you can't get out through that front window. 

Chris: Oh wow.

John: Yeah if you lock these doors, they ain’t going anywhere. Yeah, and a nice run and gun there, and there's also a little mini scene we blew off there with Paul sort of turning on Richard. Hero moment, hero- the team together.

Dean: By the way, those are some digital effects to remove the pregnant belly.

John: Nice, nicely done.

Chris: Oh really, wow.

Dean: Yes.

Chris: I say it a lot.

John: And nice hug.

Dean: And also just on a small note, we couldn't afford two helicopters. Because we had a helicopter in the scene, and we also needed a helicopter that could shoot the scene. So we used the same helicopter for both and then just digitally erased the camera that was mounted on the end of the helicopter.

Chris: Wait wait, so in other words when you're up there with them you're also shooting- the cameras below it?

Dean: So in other words- yeah, so when you see the helicopter arrive later, there was actually a camera attached to it.

John: A giant camera rig on it, like the size of a VW bug on the bottom of it.

Dean: But we erased it.

Chris: Oh that's amazing.

John: Yeah. Yeah and Sophie’s thought of everything. There's a way out, you hear sirens, it's all coming together. 

Dean: And it's fun to see them back together again.

Chris: And again, not that we do this typically. But this was, in a sense, this scene was kind of conceived of first, this scene and him on the deck. 

Dean: Right.

John: That's right.

Chris: That we were leading up to.

John: The original version of the script is, it opens with him bleeding out on the deck and you have no idea where he is.

Chris: But I'm saying even in the beginning of the season.

John: Oh yeah.

Chris: This scene was kind of where the show was going. How we were gonna get there was the question.

John: You don’t- everyone has their different ways. Before we shot a frame of season two, I knew it ended with Nate Ford saying, ‘I'm a thief.’

Chris: Right. But even- but even on a- also on the deck of a ship remember- I remember that.

John: Yeah, on the deck of a ship.

Dean: Now I think this ending is one of the bigger endings we’ve ever done, and it's really the most emotional ending I've ever done.

John: Really? I dunno you and I-

Dean: More than I was expecting it to be.

John: You and I disagree, because we all have our favorite stuff, but yeah, it-

Chris: It’s certainly a huge hero moment.

John: It's a huge hero moment, and they're all making great choices. Eliot really wants to just tear through these guys, and Nate’s not gonna let him.

Dean: Yeah.

John: Yeah. 

Dean: He's being a good dad for once.

John: Yeah. He’s- and by the way, again, this is not the right choice, he shouldn't have lied to them, he shouldn't have had a plan he didn't tell them, he shouldn’t- he's a control freak. Even in his moment of sacrifice, he's a selfish, alcoholic bastard.

[Laughter]

Dean: That's right.

John: I just wished to make sure nobody makes sure nobody thinks he's being super heroic here. He doesn't really change that much. 

Chris: That’s true.

John: No, and this was fun, we had all different kinds of versions of lockers and found out that yeah, that's how they keep a lot of evidence.

Dean: That’s crazy.

John: That was fun though too, also, you only had two rows of those evidence lockers, so you staggred them to shoot through them to make it look-

Dean: To make it seem like they went on forever.

Chris: Yeah where was that? Where-?

John: That was on set that was- remember the small soundstage we had?

Chris: Oh, ok.

Dean: It was actually a reworking of the set at the end of 207 at the airport. 

John: Yes. It was the airport, but we just moved it over to the other stage. And I also love the idea again- Nate and Sterling are playing a game that just nobody else gets to be a part of. This is just- this is just nine moves ahead guys. 

Dean: Right.

John: There's another version of the show where Katie O'Grady chases Eliot, Parker, and Hardison for an entire season, yeah, but in this version. ‘I can feel you thinking’ he knows him, he knows him that well. He knows the counter move- no, they really dug in here. And by the way, it's 110 degrees on that deck, Tim’s in a peacoat handcuffed to a rail. He's working his ass off here. 

Dean: With the turtleneck.

John: With the turtleneck, yeah. Oh and just the sheer rage Katie O'Grady is radiating there. 

Chris: Now what time- what day- part of the shooting day was this? Did you make-?

John: This was morning.

Chris: This was, like, first thing?

Dean: Yeah, this was the first shot.

Chris: Is that a challenge to do the most emotional thing first?

Dean: It is, and especially because when we started shooting it we were in cloud cover and then halfway through the scene the sun came out. And so then trying to make that all work was really difficult. 

Dean: This, I thought, was surprisingly more emotional than I anticipated when we were there.

John: Well it was weird because when we were there, we couldn't quite get the staging, and they seemed like they were standing really far away. ‘Cause the deck was bigger than we thought.

Dean: Right.

John: And no- well this is the shot because by shooting this way, you get intimate, it feels like they're right on top of them. The other reverse kind of shows you the space.

Chris: I think it also parallels from season one, also-

John: Yeah it does, it does.

Chris: The scene where they’re standing around, really nicely.

Dean: But they're all disappointed in him, which is great. He sacrificing for them, but that's not what they want.

John: No. And he lied to them. And he's- you’re an idiot, I mean, that's really what Eliot’s thinking right there.

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: Yeah.

John: Like, ‘You know what? If you just talk to us.; I really never realized how [unintelligible] this episode is. 

Chris: It is.

John: It’s a big hero sacrifice, but it’s- you know he really broke the family. Again.

Chris: Yeah.

Dean: And Gina just nails this scene. I mean, we waited for this kiss for two seasons.

John: Yeah.

Dean: And it comes out, and she's crushed by it. It’s great.

John: Yeah. And again, and- you know this is a big hero moment in his head and she calls him on it. Because she- and this is what's interesting, Sophie Deveraux is a more advanced human being than Nate Ford is at this point. She went away, she took her space-

Chris: Right.

John: You know. 

Dean: And she lets him have it.

John: In the same way he let her have it at the end of season one, she's letting him have it at the end of season two. I love that look, by the way, that Eliot- Chris and Mark really set up the fact that they can't stand each other, really well.

Chris: And here, you know, the relationship between these two kicks in also. 

John: Yeah.

Chris: Between Nate and Sterling.

John: Yeah, the fact that he held it together- and they don't know, by the way. 

Chris: Right.

John: They have no idea when they're leaving.

Dean: That little look with Christian is just great.

John: And there's a camera mount on that helicopter.

Dean: That's been erased.

Chris: That's great.

John: ‘Who the hell is this guy?’ That- this is- you’re right, we wrote the ending first.

Chris: Yeah, I remember, this was-

Dean: He goes, ‘I don’t know.’

John: I remember this was the first thing ever.

Dean: This was the end of the arc. ‘I'm a thief.’

John: ‘And I'm a thief.’ I mean this is a callback to him saying I'm not a thief for two years. 

Dean: Right.

John: Wow. Thank god this is the last episode of the show.

Chris: And we’re not listening- and we can't hear it here in the commentary, but Joe Le Duca did- the orchestration for this is absolutely fantastic.

Dean: It's actually the first time he went and got a real orchestra. 

John: Yeah.

Dean: Went to Salt Lake City and recorded with a real orchestra, and I mean the scale of this is outstanding.

John: It's giant. 35- I think we had close to half a- 50 FBI agents here. And just cars, helicopters, and this is a big- this is a big hero moment, man. This is a film ending, you know.

Dean: Yeah, it really is.

John: This is it. I love his choice here, it's like, ‘And if I die, I'm totally cool with that.’

Chris: Oh here we go.

John: And he's bleeding out, can you see?

Dean: See the blood on the ground.

John: The blood- he's bleeding out. There's no guarantee Nate Ford will make it.

[Laughter]

Chris: Wow.

John: Which was fun actually shooting this, ‘cause Tim really loved this. And two days before we finished shooting, he turned to me and went, ‘Wait am I dead?’

[Laughter]

Chris: Oh that’s something.

Dean: Stay tuned for season three and you'll find out.

John: I know. No kidding, you'll find out.

Dean: Thank you again for hanging in there with us and listening to this commentary.

John: We had a great time and we really appreciate you guys watching the show.

Chris: And thanks again for watching season two; we can't wait to bring you season three.

John: And thank you, Portland.

Dean: Yes.

John: Big thank you, Portland.

[medicallyinevitable]

Medically Inevitable

Chapter 15:- Hopeful Happenings

Characters:- Arielle Valentine, Ethan Ramsey, Ines Delarosa, Kyra Santana

Pairing:- Ethan Ramsey x Arielle Valentine

Warnings:- Slight mentions of cancer

Word Count:- 1700+ words :)

General PoV:-

As the sun shines bright in the late morning, Arielle parks her car and heads straight towards Edenbrook’s locker room, a to-go cup in hand from Starbucks instead of Derry Roasters not wanting any chance to bump into Dr. Ramsey, despite knowing that he’s her boss. Making her way to the nurses’ station, she picks up her charts and textbooks and heads toward the cafeteria.

Arielle’s PoV:-

You keep at your textbooks, scouring the pages for anything that could explain Nigel's symptoms, and the tidal wave of self-doubt doesn’t help either. You let out a sigh, "Maybe Dr. Ramsey's right. Maybe I really don't belong here..."

"Mind if I join you?" A cheery voice snaps you back to reality.

You turn around to find Kyra. Dread fills in you as you see her. "Kyra, what are you doing here? Is your cancer back? Is something wrong?", you start asking.

"Woah! Dial down the doom and gloom there, Dr. Sob Emoji. I'm in remission." Kyra beams.

"What?! Oh my god congratulations! I’m so happy for you!" You envelope her in a warm hug which almost melts all your tension away.

"Just had another check-up. Will be coming a lot for those," she catches you up with her remission plan as you two sit. "No offense but I definitely look in better shape than you!"

"Ugh I know. I'm exhausted.” And just like that, all the tension fills your mind as you give her the details. " My shift ended like five hours ago, but instead of going home I am sitting here and reading till my eyes bleed."

"You should probably get that looked at." Kyra's face morphs into something serious but genuine as she continues.

"Look, I don't want to be that cancer survivor… but it did make me realize that life is too short." You give her a sad smile knowing how painful it must have been for her.

"We only get so many chances you know? But maybe you need that lesson more than I do," she continues after pausing for a moment.

"Is it that obvious?" You raise your brows.

"Let's chalk it up to my incredible intuition." Kyra smiles," Anyways there's an amazing ice cream shop nearby. They make an triple chocolate gelato that's literally to die for," she jokes, " You can take my word for that." "Why don't we visit that place? It'll give you a distraction and a much needed break."

You look at her and then your textbooks, not understanding what to do. All you can see is blurry lines. the words and concepts swim around in your very exhausted brain. You close the textbook with a slam after your answer is crystal clear.

"How can I say no to chocolate gelato!", you say dramatically.

"That's more like it!", Kyra beams. The two of you collect your belongings and make your way out as you tell Kyra everything about the dilemma with your latest patient.

"This place is pretty cute.", you say as you look around.

"Try nauseatingly adorable. I want to make it tiny and keep it in my bookshelf," Kyra replies. You laugh.

"You collect tiny shops?" You ask as the two of you made your way to the counter.

"I collect many sickeningly adorable things," she laughs before turning her attention to the boy behind the counter. "I’ll have the large Death by Chocolate please. And my absurdly attractive friend here will have…”, she nods for you to continue.

You roll your eyes at her before placing your order. You take a look at their menu before deciding to have the same one as Kyra as it's the most chocolatey one.

“I'll have the same.", you smile at the server.

The server scoops your gelato into two big cups and slides them across the counter while Kyra rummages through her bag for her wallet.

"I'll pay.“, you say getting your card out.

"No way!", she stops you by swiftly taking your card from you. You whine but to your dismay she doesn’t budge.

"This was my idea. Besides I didn't get out much during recovery. I've got months of dining-out budget to blow."

The next minute she's handing the cash to the server and then guiding you to a booth. As you two take your seats, Kyra hands you your card.

She takes a spoon full of her Death by Chocolate and sighs blissfully.

“Mmmmmm…”

You smile at her antics. "That good?" You ask before taking a bite.

"Orgasmic. I never used to eat junk food before my diagnosis."

She takes another bite and you take your first. You can't help but let out a moan as the chocolatey silkiness melts on your tongue. Kyra smirks and gives you a smug look.

She then continues, "I was super into exercising and calorie counting. I never did anything I wasn't supposed to." She smiles sadly. "And I still got lung cancer. At my twenties!"

"You must have been so strong!", you reply.

"Everyone keeps saying that but-", she pauses, "I don't know. I just went to the doctor to see why I was breathing weird."

She sighs. "Then suddenly I was going for all these tests, and then I had cancer."

She laughs humorlessly. "Life went from jogging and juice every morning to chemo and puking."

You can almost feel the pain as she speaks about her experiences even when you’re aware you’ll never truly understand.

"But I didn't do anything," she says, " Those things had to happen , and I had good insurance, so I did them. And it's not like I had any alternative."

"I think you should give yourself more credit.”, you reach for her hand and squeeze it in a comforting manner.

"You faced death with a smile on your face. I'll always remember you cracking jokes on the way to surgery-", you stop for a second before adding,"You are the strongest person I know Kyra."

Kyra blushes, a little embarrassed. "Well you can laugh or you can cry and I chose to laugh.”, she shrugs with a smile on her face.

"And like I said, I don't want to be that cancer survivor but it does put certain things into perspective."

"That kind of clarity must be nice.", you reply.

"Well yeah, you have to get some kind of consolation price for nearly dying, right?" She then shakes her head.

”But enough about that. If we keep talking about this you'll always see me as a girl who beat cancer."

"I'll never, Kyra." you say truthfully. "That's not how I see you."

"Oh yeah? And how do you exactly see me?" She asks playfully.

"I think you are inspiring."

A blush creeps on her face as she’s caught off guard, but quickly retaliates with a sassy reply. “If you keep giving me compliments then I’ll never let you hear the end of it.”

“We’ll see about that.” You both dissolve into fits of laughter as Kyra fills you up on the hospital gossip...

“What wait?! Seriously?! I can’t believe it!”

“Me either, but you know how gossip is!”, she replies with a shrug.

Just then your phone chimes. You pull it out to see it’s a reminder for your shift.

“Crap, I have 10 minutes till my shift.”

“Oof, you better hurry!”, she replies.

“We should do this again, this was really nice.”, you say as you gather your things.

“We should! Besides there would have to be 12 different things wrong with someone to turn down Gelato!”, she jokes.

“..12 different things wrong….. oh my god, Kyra, you’re a genius!”

You scramble to your feet and quickly throw away your cup.

“I like to think I am but what did I do?”, she asks.

“I’ll explain later!”, you yell.

“Ookay…” You rush back to the hospital, typing out a message on your pager as Kyra sits there in utter confusion.

“Well I guess I could get another scoop of gelato…”

————————————————————

An hour later, you take a deep breath before entering Nigel's room to find Ethan and Ines already inside.

“Well what are you waiting for?”, Dr. Ramsey says. Pushing back all of your invading memories of him, you continue with your explanation.

"I spent the last two days trying to figure out the one thing causing all of Mr.Platt's symptoms.”, you say as you stand beside Nigel's bedside.

"And?", he asks. For a split second, you can see a slight look of hope in his eyes, but it passes as quickly as it came, leaving you to believe it was a mere delusion of yours.

"That's when I realized nothing was causing all of them-" But before you can continue, you’re interrupted by Nigel.

"Are you calling-", he burps, “me a liar?", he asks, rude as always.

You control the urge to roll your eyes. He could've at least let you finish your sentence.

Ignoring him, you continue what you were saying," Mr.Platt has been experiencing tingling and hair loss but also cold sensitivity and some hearing problems." You pause for a second before continuing,"All of which point to hypothyroidism caused by Hashimoto's disease easily treated with levothyroxine."

"Go on." Ethan orders in his usual cold bossy tone.

"I couldn't fit in the constant burping and the chest pain… because it was completely separate." You explain. "I ordered a barium swallow X-ray and detected a hiatal hernia in the esophageal hole through the diaphragm."

"The treatment?", he asks, motioning you to continue.

"I have already booked a laparoscopic surgery to repair it.”, you answer with a touch of pride.

"Good work Dr.Valentine." Ines smiles at you.” You return it with a nod and a tentative smile.

"So ... I'll be cured?" Nigel asks.

"Yes-“, you calm yourself down before you rip him apart and then continue.

"You'll be good as new." you say instead with a forced smile.

"Good... because I don't want to spend a -" he burps, " second more in your hopeless company."

Your blood boils at this point as you bite your lip to control yourself. “The audacity! Ugh, he's a patient, Arielle. You have to be nice to him.”

"Mr. Platt, might suggest viewing this as a new lease on life. Perhaps a life where you don't make everyone around you miserable.”, Ethan's stern voice retorts, shocking you and Ines.

“No way...he did not!”

"Dr. Ramsey!" Ines exclaims with a shocked expression on her face, which you’re quite sure your face resembles.

"I'll report you! I want to talk to your manager," he says more angrily than before.

"Go ahead," Ethan says with a sarcastic smile." Maybe she can't talk to you like this but I sure as hell can."

You look at Nigel who looks like he's about to say something but just then Bryce struts in. He winks at you playfully as he passes you.

"Someone called for a laparoscopic surgery?"

"Oh great, first Barbie and now the damn Ken doll!” You don’t even attempt to hide the disgust on your face as you roll your eyes.

By the time you’ve finished your consultation with Bryce, Ines and Ethan have already left the room. Pleased with yourself, you take a left in the hallway without noticing Ethan standing leaning against the wall.

"Rookie..." His velvety baritone voice calls out, pulling you out of a haze.

Wincing, you stop dead in your tracks as the memories of the previous day replay in your mind. Still embarrassed with your encounter, you turn around but never meet his eyes. You’re sure you look like a kid, standing before him with your feet crossed, one hand fiddling with your hair as you bite your lip.

"So, you figured it out in the end. And you kept things professional.”, he nods, barely visible.

"I guess I just needed a… push.”, you reply in a timid voice laced with embarrassment.

"Maybe you aren’t so hopeless then.", he says.

Unlike yesterday, his voice isn’t filled with disappointment and malice.

So mustering up some courage, you look up to meet his eyes. Relief washes over you as you don’t detect a hint of disappointment in his eyes. He isn’t smiling but something in you tells you he isn’t angry. You don’t realise you’ve been staring into his oh-so blue eyes until his pager beeps, shaking you out of your reverie.

“..Uh- I’ll see you around, Dr. Ramsey.” You can almost swear that you see longing etched into his chiseled features as you lose yourself in his eyes once more.

“Likewise, Valentine.” With that, he turns around and stalks away.

You sigh and lean against the wall, the events since you started your residency swirl around like a hurricane filled with memories.

“What the hell am I supposed to do now?”

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And this concludes Season 1 of Medically Inevitable!

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[mhawithtaste]

Shared Afflictions part 1

You find out you share a similar ailment with an unlikely stranger.

Warnings: Mentions of blood and itchy, peeling skin.

Character Focus: Shigaraki Tomura

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It was summer when you first bumped into him in the corner store, looking for an emergency lotion to tie you over until your dermatologist was able to refill your prescription. You were standing in your pajamas, searching the various lotion brands for something that could offer even a bit of relief to the constant itching and buring and tingling and peeling—

A little sigh slips out. Your week, month... hell, the last year had been busy. College. Work. Mental health. Family. It all just crashed together and never seemed to stop from the moment you were old enough to understand what "Time lost is never found" actually meant.

And then your skin condition had flared up. You'd always had a bit of an issue with your skin, but it really seemed to flare up when you were stressed or anxious. And, well, suffice it to say this last year saw your stress and anxiety thrive. Typically, you could deal with it; wait for it to go away or you could relax a bit and let it die down. Only lasts a month, usually, maybe two.

It was 6 months of constant itching and burning that pushed you to your limit.

20 minutes of google, a visit to the doctor to get a recommendation to a dermatologist, and two separate trips to the dermatologist to get a professional confirmation of what google had shown you; seborrheic dermatitis. "Or just seborrhea if you want to be casual." Your dermatologist had said it in what could only be described as a cartoon salesman's voice, laughing at his own joke as you realized your insurance wouldn't cover the cost of the $200 lotion to give you the relief you need. Constant drying up of your skin, burning as it peels and you scratch it away so that your skin stops tingling, meant that this wasn't something you could put off.

So you dipped into your savings jar and practically cleared it out.

A 12 ounce tube. You'd make it last, you had said. And you did. Now, it had run out and you had just gotten off an eight hour shift and you couldn't sleep because the skin of your face and head felt like ants were crawling beneath it...when it wasn't burning like someone was taking a torch to it.

Absent-mindedly you reach up to the back of your neck, where your hairline just starts, and lightly brush your fingers against the patch of peeling skin just forming. The slight touch makes your skin tingle uncomfortably and without meaning to... you start scratching. It takes longer than it should but eventually, finally, the itch is sated. When you pull your hand back you don't check the nails on that hand, knowing exactly what you'd find under that fluorescent lighting. You could feel the slow drip of blood rolling down the back of your neck and sigh.

You'd been doing so well, thanks to a mix of specially prescribed lotion and a buildup of self control. The exhaustion made it easy to fall back on old habits, though. Wiping the blood on your nails on the fabric in your pants pocket, you finally find something for sensitive skin with aloe vera and none of the chemicals that your dermatologist had warned you against. After turning the bottle over in your hands a few times, you nod to yourself and glance to your left down the dingy aisle to see if the cashier was still loitering behind the counter.

Then you nearly scream when you see the tall, looming figure shoving lotion bottles around on the hunt for something. You'd say he looked suspicious in his all black clothing but, in all honesty, he looked too...gangly to be much of a threat. Still, shouldn't you have heard him approach the aisle?

It's belated that you realize you've been itching at the skin beneath your left eye. The skin hasn't broken, put it is peeling and the burning has set in. Glancing back at the man, you shrug lightly to yourself.. You were caught off guard at his presence...yet you couldn't blame yourself for not noticing him. You had a lot on your mind after all.

So you go to slip around him when he lifts a hand and starts to aggressively tear at the skin of his neck. You watch it peel, break, and the blood starts saturating his nails. You can practically feel the burning yourself.

And then he glances over at you through oily blue hair and you finally get a glimpse of his face. Dry skin, peeling and red, over scars that must burn in the sun. Without thinking, you point at the spot the lotion had been. Red eyes follow your gesture and you see the scowl form on his face. Without meaning to you mirror the look, feeling your lips press tightly together and eyebrows draw low. You turn to look, ready to clarify which bottle you meant, when your eyes land on an empty space on a rickety shelf.

Ah. Well. Shit.

He's scratching the skin on his face now, much harder than you ever do; surprising, considering your parents have compared the way you tear your skin to taking a grinder to a stone. You see his skin break and can feel the momentary relief that shows all over his scarred face before it morphs. He's grinding his teeth and tensing his jaw because the relief has shifted to burning. He doesn't need to tell you because you know.

It's a split second decision, one born of empathy. You offer the tube in your hand to him. He looks at it, looks at you, and narrows his eyes. It feels as if cotton has been shoved in your mouth from anxiety as you realize how strange you must look, clad in only pajamas and trying to hand off a bottle of lotion to a stranger in a corner shop. Hell, he must think you're a weirdo. You sure as hell would if the roles were reversed.

"Wh—"

"I'll—"

Great. Now you were talking over him. You feel yourself scratching at the skin beside your ear; a place where you'd already made the skin raw. Then you see him mirror the action, scratching at his neck where the skin starts to peel. So you stop scratching.

"Look," You pat your free hand against your shirt from nerves at having to actually talk to someone. "I've been looking for something would stop the itching and burning and peeling for, hell I don't know, like 30 minutes? You're not going to find anything that works that doesn't make your face feel like it's on fire or dry you out even more." If possible, his eyes narrow further. Then they widen, scan your features, and you see him lower his proverbial hackles when he takes note of your cracked and peeling skin.

You hold the bottle out again and he snatches it away like a feral cat stealing food from someone's plate, afraid they'll take it back if a single moment is spent hesitating. With one more look at you, at your face, he turns and stalks away. Another sigh as you turn and look at the lotions, knowing that there's nothing there for you.

Ah.

There's a ding as the door to the shop is opened and you hear the cashier shouting about needing to pay for that lotion.

Well.

It takes a moment to realize that the man you had so kindly just offered your salvation had stolen it.

Shit.

[knowyourlegalrights]

Top 10 Things NOT to Do When You Divorce

The divorce process can be a particularly emotional and vulnerable time. Don't make these common mistakes.

As anyone who's gone through a divorce can tell you, the process is rarely easy. Tensions run high, and couples often make poor decisions in the heat of the moment.

Given the mountain of financial, practical and emotional details that have to be sorted, it's not surprising so many couples wind up making critical mistakes on the road to divorce. However, there are a number of things you should do, or more specifically not do, to lessen the chance you'll regret your decisions later on.

Here are the top 10 tips on what to avoid when filing for divorce.

1. Don't Get Pregnant

Having a baby during your divorce complicates a lot of things, and could even hinder your right to divorce. In November 2004, a Spokane County, Wash. judge refused to allow Shawnna Hughes, a pregnant woman, to divorce her abusive husband. Hughes' husband is not the father of her child. But because Hughes became pregnant during the divorce proceedings, state law presumes Hughes' husband to be the father of her child born up to 300 days after her divorce. The judge refused to grant Hughes a divorce because he was concerned there would be no father to take financial responsibility for the child. Although many states now grant single parents the same rights as married ones, having a child when you're in marital limbo can be problematic.

2. Don't Forget to Change Your Will

Getting divorced does not automatically revoke a will. If you want to prevent your soon-to-be-ex-spouse from receiving the monies and privileges granted them in your will, you need to update your will. You can re-do a will at any time. But if you die before you are granted a divorce, and you have left your spouse nothing, he or she can sue and recover part of your estate.

3. Don't Dismiss the Possibility of Collaborative Divorce or Mediation

In a collaborative divorce, you can get the help of professionals—attorneys, divorce coaches and therapists, to divide property and manage emotional stress. Some critics of collaborative divorce believe that attorneys, divorce coaches and therapists who engage in collaborative divorce are not really experts, and cost too much time and money. But the majority of jurisdictions with collaborative divorce have stated that collaborative divorce is more cooperative and less adversarial than traditional divorce.

Mediation is different. Only one third-party professional—a divorce mediator—helps you and your spouse reach an agreement. Mediation is more of an ongoing process than a one-time intervention. Although lawyers are generally not allowed into mediation sessions, you can consult a lawyer at any time during the process to make sure you are getting the right result.

4. Don't Sleep With Your Lawyer

It's easy to get close to the one person who is on your side. But it's also a big mistake. Some states prohibit all sexual activity between an attorney and client. Other states allow an attorney and client who had a sexual relationship before the case to continue the relationship. In either case, sleeping with your lawyer can compromise your attorney-client communications because you may be charged with adultery for the infidelity.

5. Don't Take It out on the Kids

Children need a supportive environment to deal with divorce. Minimize the amount you talk about the process. It will give you more time to be there for them. Refocus your energy so you can attend their school and after-school events, help them with homework, and take them out once in a while to the movies or the zoo. When you are relaxed, they get more relaxed. Though you should be comfortable talking with your children about the divorce, the point of this divorce is to relieve stress on you and your family.

6. Don't Refuse to See a Therapist

Seeing a therapist can help you get through the range of emotions that you will experience when dealing with divorce. It is a good idea to get help before you become extremely depressed or angry. A therapist is not just someone to talk to. They are also a professional who can show you how to relax, how to talk to your kids, and how to remain calm in court. Most importantly, a therapist can help you figure out how to become self-sufficient.

7. Don't Wait Until After the Holidays

You already know the holidays are not going to be difficult. So why wait?

Divorce lawyers often see an increase in clients before, during, and after Christmas. It's also easier to get used to an empty home before the holidays. If you wait (and fight) through the season, you may destroy any chances for an amicable split and wind up hashing out your differences in court.

8. Don't Forget About Taxes

Typically, the person who is awarded custody of the children gets the house. But the house may not be the best deal. If you can't afford the mortgage, taxes and upkeep on the house, you want to ask for the investment portfolio of equal value instead. However, before declaring yourself king or queen of your block, remember:single people are not allowed to shelter as many capital gains from taxes. Stocks can also be at issue. Newly-purchased stocks may be more desirable because they will cost you less in capital gains taxes.

9. Don't Settle Early

Just because you want out of your marriage immediately doesn't mean you should forfeit your financial security. Make multiple copies of all of your important financial documents: pension statements, tax forms, brokerage and mutual fund statements, credit card statements, and other records. It will make you aware of what you own and even what you owe.

Make sure that you and the children will continue to have health insurance during and after the divorce proceedings. While you are still married to your spouse, an illness or accident can change how property is divided.

If you and your spouse can work out an amicable agreement on your own, you can file what's known as an "uncontested" divorce. This will save you both time and money in court costs.

If this is simply not possible, you may want to hire a professional mediator or an attorney. If you decide to retain legal counsel, remember to bring three things to the first meeting with your lawyer so you can assess what you will need once separated: a balance sheet listing the family's assets and debts, an accounting sheet of your income and expenses, and your tax return.

10. Don't Increase Your Debt

Divorce is expensive. On top of attorney's fees, you will need money to set up a new household. Though it may be difficult to make ends meet, you should get used to having less now. Remember, your legal bills and court costs may come due before you receive your first payment of alimony or even your share of the marital property. While it may seem stressful, the freedom you'll enjoy down the line will be well worth the struggle.

One Final Note

Putting aside strong emotions in favour of cooperating with your spouse and managing the thornier issues of your separation with a calm and level head will definitely pay off in the long run. Both of you will make wiser decisions and come out of the process with fewer bruises. Find the Best Divorce Lawyer in Albuquerque NM here.

[m00nlitknight]

bonfire pt. 2: acquaint

fandom: IT (2017) pairing:  patrick hockstetter  /  reader word count:   2.4k+  warnings:  smoking, mentions of underage drinking, cigarette burns, possessive/patrick behaviors extra: part two of bonfire. part one here.

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The deep-woods bonfires thrown by Henry typically went down as legendary for most of the student body, yet his impulsive and sporadic timing left a lot to be desired. Come Wednesday morning and nearly half of the upper class men who attended were wiped out from the chance of even going to school. There were the strong few whose parents all but forced them out the door. They would likely drag through the day with a near-ghoulish aura, disturbed only when they found it within themselves to whine of the self-medicated headaches or migraines. Occasionally, they’d mutter some regret-induced reverie of ‘never drinking again,’ despite being one of the first to jump at the boozing until loosing.

Then, there were the select few who showed little to no physical signs of the night’s previous activities. Whether it be a graced, humane level of sleep granted to them, or purely divine intervention; they earned their day’s nickname as “The Elite.” Thankfully, you were one of them, though falling into the former category yourself.

The fortunate reality was that you’d managed to fall asleep in your lawn chair after gazing at the fire for what was practically an eternity. Miraculously, you awoke to the sun peaking over the horizon, and no signs of possessions being taken from you or any obscene drawings donning your features. Oh, perhaps if you’d the time you could’ve poured one out for your skill of packing light and flying under the radar of those who tended to fool around with the vulnerable.

The unfortunate reality came as you stepped through the doors. It wasn’t that you were particularly a loner to any extreme capacity, really. Just that many of the student body didn’t catch your eye in terms of friendship. Whether it be your nearly always-present resting bitch face, the fact that nearly everyone went with the same flow, or that your addition to the town was so quiet nobody was actually able to pin-point your exact time frame of appearance; you weren’t really sure. The few friends you made were evidence of how you typically kept people at arm’s length, what with how you only really hung out with them during school hours or the odd sleepover, along with how you tended to keep almost every thought to yourself. Sure, teacher’s appreciated the silence, but your couldn’t help but feel left out from the typical rowdiness some of the students got to indulge in.

This morning, you found that your typical ‘ride or die’ for the day, Celine since she had the same schedule as you, didn’t have the will to drag herself from bed. A relatable struggle, since you had wanted nothing more than to cuddle into your bed and sleep the day away when you’d managed to get yourself ready from the aftereffects of the party. The mascara and makeup of yesterday was wiped off in the form of a much needed 10-minute shower, relishing in the direct heat and nearly falling asleep in its clutches. How you managed to take yourself from it and into the surrounding cold air was nothing short of an extremely strong sense of will for a high schooler, you assessed yourself.

Tiptoeing through the house was a familiar feat, your parents having come home to an empty home and falling into bed just hours before your own arrival. The rift between you was noticeable, not that you really cared. It often felt like they forgot about you, leaving the door locked even when you said when you’d be getting home - only to need to crawl through an unlocked window after knocking the screen out. Surprisingly, from their own lack of attention or some angel unlocking the door for you, you’d managed to sneak in through the front door completely undetected.

Regardless of the carelessness of your parents in the recent past, your independence from them was becoming greater and greater. A license at a reasonable age, a car you’d bought and insured by yourself, and a job lined up for the near future; you could say you were doing pretty well, at least currently. Many of your accomplishments were your own, born of blood, sweat, and tears.

School was something you never found yourself really struggling with, taking a natural interest in science and history and having a natural capability when it came to math and language. Physical education was the bane of your existence, but you’d managed to get the two credits required out of the way your freshman year. Despite these feats and having done them by yourself, the nights spent lonely and draining your energy over math, having to work through problems, both academic and real-world, bore into you a bit. Loneliness ebbed away at you, yearning for something more was becoming harder and harder to ignore and push off, affection was a commodity in your mind.

Was that why Celine’s absence was a bit harder hitting then it usually should’ve been? Suddenly you worried a bit more about how you would be perceived standing alone by your locker, marinating in the awkwardness of lone teenagerdom.

In spite of the flurry of vulnerability, you cast them aside for the typical, cooler and unfeeling side of yourself. Looking busy was an art form, and you, the artist. Today would be spent in the depths of your mind, pondering the most important subjects you crossed, and staring out the classroom windows and into the soul of mother nature herself. Maybe you could even catch a nap.

The first two classes, math and history, managed to pass in what you could only assess as a blur, a mess of lectures, worksheets, and book work, and you left to fend for yourself in the hallways. Eyes passed over you like you were a translucent apparition, something easily brushed off and forgettable. As used to you as it was, the sensation of eyes upon you - an unfamiliar, and from the feeling of it, beastly gaze - was unsettling. For the short time in the hallway, spent crouching down to your locker, exchanging and retrieving the correct books and work, it was easily ignored. However, the trek to class was an uneasy one, since the stare seemed to follow as you sat down in your seat. Carefully, you scanned the area, through uninterested lashes and a stony face. You found all eyes you looked upon to be drawn anywhere else, whether it be to their friends or into a separate astral plane.

That is, until looking into the dead - green stare of Patrick Hockstetter himself. Your seemingly dazed gaze fell into his, sharpened and widened a fraction, causing a wolfish grin to appear on his features. Had he not been sitting two rows away, and the teacher’s demand of attention, you could’ve done more than a cowardly head - turn back to the front.

The confinements of the room seemed to be too little, even though you were so comfortable with the two empty desks around you only a short moment prior. Time, which had been breezing by with the ease of water, suddenly felt like it was freezing. Despite this, your mind sped up, beginning to race with momentarily panicked thoughts. An unruly beast, you found emotions to be, just when you thought them to be tame they’d break free from their chains once again. It took a moment of tense shoulders, closed eyes, and a deep breath to realign yourself back to a cold demeanor.

Patrick observed, witness to the small tells such as the shift of your foot backward, lean forward onto your elbows, arms crossed on the desk and shoulders going rigid. The leg bouncing had him snickering to himself, a sound quiet enough it didn’t seem to rouse you from your thoughts. Had it been a more appropriate setting, he would’ve found himself outright cackling at the image of dispelling your momentary panic, if only to watch your reaction. Though, shock factor was reserved for any time but class time. He’d learned earlier that to fly under the radar of teachers, he’d need to stay quiet and not disrupt class. Unfortunate for his friends, two of which weren’t even present for the day, they hadn’t really figured that out. Well, except Vic, but Vic was different.

He stared at you for practically the rest of the period, much to your own disdain, smirking in amusement as he watched you practically race out of the room and into the hallway. Homeroom was next, then lunch, both of which he didn’t have the faintest idea where you went. Your presence in the school seemed to disappear almost completely, not that he had really been paying attention before this instance. Now, though, you were a target of interest. The lax defiance shown the night before had him intrigued, excited to break you; physically or mentally, he didn’t really care. So often was he faced with the typical submissive individuals in Derry, even adults had a tendency to break eye contact.

Instead of sitting with Belch for mid-day detention, he ventured out of his designated location for homeroom to instead snoop around. The repercussions would likely be ‘disastrous’ by his mother’s standards, but to be frank, when did he ever give a fuck about what other people had to say?

His legs carried him down empty hallways, knowing full well you wouldn’t be in any of the occupied classrooms, around the school’s courtyard and into the football field. Few students were littered around its premises, most of which couples who’d managed to sneak out and get handsy on the bleachers. From the looks of it, it’d either be most likely that you were here, even though his search hadn’t been the faintest bit thorough.

Under the bleachers you stand, staring emotionless into the distance. In your hand is a cigarette, a forgotten pack worth nothing to them and the world to you. The brand didn’t matter so long as you hand your hands on it, you weren’t raised a picky child. It wiped the slate clean of the emotions you were feeling, numbed the stress that caused skull-splitting, chest-tightening fits of self-hatred and school. From the outside eye, you appeared deep in thought, a modern-day Socrates in her own right. In reality, you weren’t truly thinking about anything. A blank mind and a dazed head taking the shape of a tired kid.

Originally, you’d spent homeroom and lunch in the library, soaking in texts that were available until one of your ‘friends,’ Angel, began poking fun at you for being a bookworm. After that you would nap, but the librarian eventually had enough of you “sleeping your precious school-time away” and forced you to go somewhere else. Eventually, you began sneaking out to the football field, finding mostly peace and quiet. Most of the time you stayed outside for lunch, managing to sneak back in and blend in with the rest of the student body as they went to their next class.

“My, oh, my, it seems I’m not the only voyeur around,” to be so abruptly pulled from your thoughts was not only startling, but also rude. A shriek nearly fell from your mouth, caught in your throat and instead a sharp intake of air being its replacement, as you looked to who so rudely interrupted your thoughts, eyes wide and stance tensing once more. His words seemed to evade you completely, left in a dumbfounded shock instead staying plastered on your face for a long moment afterward. Composure came slowly, and yet you still found an edge in your voice.

“It’s like they say, first come first serve. I didn’t come out here to watch them fuck, they came out to watch me think and smoke,” somehow, your voice managed its typical flat, emotionless tone.

“Or did you come out to hide and smoke?” the evident grin in his voice is enough to make your head snap in his direction with a sneer on your face.

“What do you want?”

“A smoke,” he shrugged innocently, making an attempt to give you puppy dog eyes. Unbeknownst to you, he was about to tell a bold-faced lie. “I ran out this morning.”

You take a second to give him a look-over. The two of you hadn’t really crossed paths, aside from being placed near each other in seating charts once or twice during freshmen and sophomore year. Those didn’t ever last, though, and honestly the first time he’d approached you was at the bonfire the night before. Needless to say, his body language and actions were a complete and total mystery to you, all you really knew was that he was a creep, and what your friends said in huddled whispers from time to time.

You give him the one in your hand, finally, watching him take a drag from it. Your hand is held out expectantly, and he gives another toothy grin. “C’mon, can’t a guy get more than a taste?”

“No, I don’t get these often, anyway.”

“It’s supposed to be puff-puff-pass, princess,” the nickname rolls off his tongue like velvet, and suddenly the charm of him clicks. It doesn’t leave you interested in any capacity, more annoyed than anything. “Besides, I can get you these whenever you want if you’ll be mine.”

Another action to catch you off-guard? This guy was like the worst kind of surprise. “I’m not fuckin’ property, Hockstetter.”

Taking another drag from the cigarette, his hand shot out to grab your wrist. His speed was that of lightning as he plucked the cigarette from his lips. Tugging your wrist away proved futile immediately, and panic arose in your chest when he chuckled darkly at your meek expression. “You could be.”

The cigarette burned as it touched your skin, digging into you oh-so-tenderly. A gasp tore from your throat, followed by a grunt and more forceful jerking to release his grip. “Careful, now, I’d like a clean mark more than a messy one.” He felt internal glee when he felt you submit.

He held it there for what seemed to be an eternity and an instant, only taking it from your skin to relight it by his own flame. The grip didn’t release until he was finished admiring his work, a dark glint overtaking his eyes as he watched you bring your wrist to your chest.

He inhaled deeply, taking the cigarette from his lips once again and stepping closer to you. Had you not been leaning on a pole, you would’ve stepped back in fear. “See’ya around.” And with that, he turned and left.

[storesand22]

Mediation

It is necessary to bear in mind, that you need to divulge all your monetary possessions. This consists of jewelry, cars and trucks and those off-shore savings account in the British Virgin Islands! It is very important to not just count properties, but also debts, which may be credit scores or store cards.

How do I start a mediation?

This article focuses on the basics—the recommended first steps for those who want to enter this field. 1. Write a short essay to yourself. 2. Write your mediator bio. 3. Take a basic mediation training course. 4. Start reading. 5. Get connected. 6. Pay your dues: Volunteer to mediate. 7. Practice in your own backyard. More items•

Your moderator will certainly create a 'memorandum of comprehending' - this is a file that shows what you have actually concurred. Consider what you wish to leave arbitration before you start.

Just How Much Is Arbitration?

Usually talking, the success of financial mediation cases remains in the prep work as well as collection of financial information, before starting the arbitration procedure. The arbitration company will send out an economic details pack, which will certainly need finishing with as much detail as feasible. In addition to this, current savings account declarations will certainly require to be offered. It is essential to give as much details about home mortgages, residential property evaluations, insurance policies, endowments as well as any kind of other financial investments, such as supplies and also shares. It can not be stressed enough to do this as early as feasible, to make sure that when you attend your initial arbitration session, you will certainly be prepared as well as your time in arbitration will be effective.

There are someexceptions when you do not need to go to the MIAM before litigating- as an example, if you have actually endured residential abuse. Arbitrators deal with separating couples in manner ins which are versatile and custom-made for your situation. You do not have to remain in the very same space as your ex-spouse if you or the arbitrator decides that working with you in separate spaces would certainly be preferable.

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On top of that, there may be small business loan, or even ones from relative. By obtaining all this details with each other, it will certainly permit everyone to intend their future financial resources better. Lots of people think that court will certainly give them the answer they are searching for. In truth, you are giving the decision making procedure to somebody that does not know you or your family members, as well as just has a really short time period to choose what they believe is ideal. On lots of occasions families end up with a court order that does not suit any individual. With Free family mediation Winslow @ freefamilymediation.co.uk , the decision making remains in your hands, not a stranger's.

The mediation process starts with an Arbitration Info & Evaluation Satisfying, which is valued at ₤ 120.

Throughout it, you will certainly discuss your scenario as well as issues you are encountering.

The expense per hr each always stays the same, if your case advances to family mediation.

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If you as well as your ex lover agree to proposals gone over in mediation, your mediator will talk about with you both about how these can be turned into a court order and also if it is needed. For child arrangements, the courts constantly take into consideration the no order principle. With monetary agreements made in mediation, conciliators will urge that a financial authorization order be sought. Pairs look to household arbitrators after they have divided, typically when issues occur around child arrangements.

For How Long Can Mediation Take?

Mediation is more likely to succeed if you can spend the sessions focusing on points you really disagree on. Phone around to locate the most effective rate, yet bear in mind the most inexpensive could not be the best. Legitimately binding means you need to adhere to the terms of the agreement by regulation. You don't require to head to mediation to aid you end your connection.

What does family mediation involve?

Mediation is the process by which families can negotiate about future arrangements for children with the help of a neutral third party. The mediator does not tell parties what to do, but can help the parties to reach their own agreements amicably, whilst trying to improve communication between them.

We are the nation's leading family mediation technique that is experts in youngster associated matters. We are constantly obtaining positive responses regarding from our clients. ' Friendly, useful, encouraging, neutral, non-judgemental, effective as well as low cost', these are some of the terrific attributes people associate with the Family Mediation & Therapy Solution. Financial mediation is for individuals that intend to reach an agreement concerning funds, message separation or separation, which can consist of residential property, such as the household home. It is difficult to claim how many arbitration sessions it will certainly take to find an arrangement, however generally it takes anything from in between 2 and also four meetings. If the financial resources are complex, after that be prepared that it may be much longer.

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Family mediation intends to encourage separating couples to sit down with each other and exercise options to the economic and also family-based problems that can be component of separation or separation. The goal is for both partners to come to an amicable agreement which fits every person entailed, avoiding the prices-- actually as well as figuratively-- of bitter fights in court. https://www.freefamilymediation.co.uk/join-us/ can aid to protect a far better end result for couples and also youngsters-- it often tends to be quicker, much less pricey as well as much less combative than resolving issues via court or solicitors. Splitting up as well as separation is a stressful time and money can frequently be limited, only creating even more concern as well as worry. However, expenses are involved in any type of lawful procedure and you need to choose that are appropriate for your household, especially when there are youngsters included. For instance, you and your ex-partner will require to settle on the department of finances and property, along with kid plans. Mediation is well suited to support you via making these agreements and also setups.

Mediators are trained to provide legal info but not legal advice. Some people really feel much safer with a moderator who is additionally a certified lawyer. They can not provide you legal suggestions however they are obliged to tell you if you are about to make an arrangement that is very different to what a court would certainly buy. Or the search on Resolution's site, explains in the results the length of time the mediator has actually been a family legislation solicitor. ( Not all good family mediators and also lawyers appear on Resolution's search, just their members). Mediation services lie in all components of landmass as well as island Scotland.

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It is very important to keep in mind, that you require to reveal all your financial possessions. trusted-mediators.co.uk mediation hertfordshire free trial consists of jewellery, cars and those off-shore checking account in the British Virgin Islands! It is necessary to not just count properties, yet additionally debts, which may be credit report or shop cards.

How do I start a mediation?

This article focuses on the basics—the recommended first steps for those who want to enter this field. 1. Write a short essay to yourself. 2. Write your mediator bio. 3. Take a basic mediation training course. 4. Start reading. 5. Get connected. 6. Pay your dues: Volunteer to mediate. 7. Practice in your own backyard. More items•

Your moderator will certainly compose a 'memorandum of understanding' - this is a record that reveals what you've concurred. Consider what you wish to get out of arbitration before you begin.

Just How Much Is Mediation?

Usually speaking, the success of financial mediation cases remains in the preparation and collection of monetary information, before beginning the arbitration procedure. The mediation company will send out an economic details pack, which will certainly need completing with as much information as feasible. Along with this, up-to-date savings account statements will require to be given. It is essential to provide as much information regarding mortgages, residential or commercial property evaluations, insurance plan, endowments as well as any kind of other financial investments, such as stocks and shares. It can not be emphasized sufficient to do this as early as feasible, so that when you attend your initial arbitration session, you will be prepared as well as your time in mediation will certainly work.

There are someexceptions when you do not have to go to the MIAM before going to court- for example, if you have actually experienced residential abuse. Conciliators work with dividing couples in ways that are versatile and tailor-made for your situation. You do not need to be in the very same space as your ex if you or the mediator decides that working with you in different areas would certainly be preferable.

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Furthermore, there may be small business loan, and even ones from relative. By getting all this details with each other, it will allow for everyone to intend their future funds more effectively. Many individuals think that court will give them the answer they are seeking. In reality, you are providing the choice making procedure to a person that does not know you or your family, and just has a really brief time period to select what they believe is finest. On several occasions families end up with a court order that does not fit any person. With family mediation, the decision production remains in your hands, not a stranger's.

The mediation process begins with an Arbitration Details & Assessment Satisfying, which is valued at ₤ 120.

During it, you will certainly speak about your circumstance and also issues you are dealing with.

The price per hr each always continues to be the very same, if your situation progresses to family mediation.

They were friends with a gay pair, Matthew and Teddy.

If you and also your ex-spouse agree to propositions reviewed in arbitration, your mediator will certainly talk about with you both concerning just how these can be become a court order as well as if it is required. For child plans, the courts always consider the no order concept. With economic arrangements made in arbitration, arbitrators will certainly encourage that a monetary consent order be looked for. Pairs count on household mediators after they have divided, generally when issues arise around child plans.

How Much Time Can Mediation Take?

Mediation is more probable to do well if you can invest the sessions concentrating on things you actually differ on. Phone around to locate the very best cost, however keep in mind the least expensive might not be the best. Legally binding means you need to stick to the regards to the contract by legislation. You don't require to visit arbitration to assist you end your connection.

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What does family mediation involve?

Mediation is the process by which families can negotiate about future arrangements for children with the help of a neutral third party. The mediator does not tell parties what to do, but can help the parties to reach their own agreements amicably, whilst trying to improve communication between them.

We are the nation's leading family mediation technique that specialises in child related matters. We are always getting favorable comments about from our customers. ' Friendly, interesting, encouraging, objective, non-judgemental, effective and also inexpensive', these are some of the fantastic qualities individuals associate with the Family Mediation & Coaching Solution. Financial arbitration is for people who wish to reach a contract regarding finances, message splitting up or separation, which can consist of home, such as the family home. It is difficult to state the number of arbitration sessions it will require to locate an arrangement, however generally it takes anything from between 2 as well as four conferences. If the financial resources are complicated, after that be prepared that it may be much longer.

Family mediation intends to urge separating couples to take a seat with each other and work out solutions to the monetary as well as family-based problems that can be part of splitting up or divorce. The goal is for both companions to come to an amicable arrangement which fits everybody involved, avoiding the costs-- essentially as well as figuratively-- of bitter fights in court. Arbitration can help to safeguard a far much better result for pairs and also children-- it has a tendency to be quicker, much less pricey as well as less combative than dealing with issues via court or solicitors. Splitting up and also divorce is a difficult money and time can usually be tight, only producing even more worry and also worry. Regrettably, prices are involved in any kind of lawful process as well as you should choose that are appropriate for your family, particularly when there are youngsters entailed. As an example, you and your ex-partner will certainly need to agree on the department of funds as well as residential or commercial property, as well as kid arrangements. Mediation is well fit to sustain you through making these agreements as well as setups.

Arbitrators are trained to give legal details yet not legal recommendations. Some people feel much safer with an arbitrator that is additionally a certified lawyer. They can't offer you lawful recommendations but they are obliged to inform you if you are about to make an arrangement that is extremely different to what a court would purchase. Or the search on Resolution's website, describes in the outcomes how long the conciliator has been a family members law solicitor. ( Not all great family mediators and also solicitors appear on Resolution's search, just their members). Arbitration services lie in all components of mainland and also island Scotland.

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Phone around to find the best rate, but remember the cheapest may not be the very best. You don't require to go to mediation to help you end your partnership. There are someexceptions when you don't have to go to the MIAM prior to litigating- for instance, if you have actually endured domestic misuse. If you go to a lawyer first, they'll most likely speak with you regarding whether utilizing mediation initially could help. We make use of cookies to enhance your experience of our website.You can figure out more or opt-out from some cookies. Our workplace mediation solutions solve complicated as well as difficult conflicts quickly, successfully and with as little disturbance as possible.

By following this method, we can make sure that things get off to the perfect begin, that everyone comprehends the process, and that every person is collaborating towards that objective that we're all searching for. As long as individuals are interacting well, assisting each other out, and drawing in the same direction, then the job obtains done and also everybody wins. Stay in touch with the current mediation as well as ADR news as well as assuming using social media sites, plus our regular article as well as podcasts.

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Jan is the Chair of The University of Mediators as well as in 2018 won Family members Conciliator of the Year at the National Mediation Honors. Legal Help is often readily available to those who get on a low earnings or on certain advantages, such as Universal Credit report. To see if you qualify, complete our cost-free online Lawful Help analysis type. If you make an effective Legal Help application, there will certainly be on the house for your MIAM and also mediation sessions. In addition to this, it will certainly also pay for the MIAM and initial mediation session with your ex-partner.

Simply intended to thank you for browsing me as well as 'A' through some actually difficult problems. Your involvement has actually brought us all to a location we couldn't have gotten to without your assistance.

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Out of these, the cookies that are classified as required are saved on your web browser as they are essential for the working of standard functionalities of the website. However opting out of some of these cookies may affect your surfing experience. The board participants bring a wide range of experience to the company, with supervisors' backgrounds varying from organization to community service. She was previously the Director of the Household Mediators Association and a Member of the Ministry of Justice Family Mediation Guiding Team.

It's a great suggestion to talk to a solicitor prior to picking settlement - they can tell you if it's appropriate for you, as well as might be able to recommend a good neighborhood family mediator. A simple settlement case might cost ₤ 1,000, but you could end up paying a lot more - the precise quantity depends where you live and the length of time it requires to reach an arrangement.

Household adjudication is one more alternative if you want to avoid of court. You ought to ask your lawyer to give you a written estimate of just how much your lawful costs will certainly be. If you're not yet prepared to obtain a divorce or finish your civil partnership, they can record your setups as a 'splitting up contract' rather.

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You'll each need to pay your lawyers' fees, which can be costly. How much you'll pay at the end relies on how much time it considers you as well as your ex-partner to get to a contract. This is a created or on-line record of how you and your ex-partner intend to take care of your children.Find out even more about making a parenting plan on the Children as well as Family Court Advisory and also Assistance Solution website. Courts generally will not determine who a kid lives or hangs around with if they assume the parents can arrange points out themselves. Your conciliator will certainly write a 'memorandum of understanding' - this is a document that reveals what you have actually concurred. Think of what you intend to leave mediation prior to you begin. https://workplacemediations.co.uk/conflict-resolution/reading/ is more likely to succeed if you can spend the sessions concentrating on things you really disagree on.

I just wished to leave a message to state a Thank you to the woman on the front desk, I rated with a lovely smile and also a pleasant, kind expert service. We have our own devoted mediation properties in a silent yet central area, with 3 mediation spaces, different waiting locations, a function area with added seating and also a back workplace. If you would certainly prefer us not to share this comments details with the moderator concerned, please tick this box. Tiny Claims Court Genie is a trading style of SV Legal Training Ltd|Our site only relates to the courts in England & Wales|Copyright 2020. If you want to give on your own the best chance of being successful, download our supreme overview. It takes you with the procedure detailed and in plain English. There is absolutely nothing to quit the events attempting again to reach terms of settlement between the two of them prior to test.

The moderator is a court staff member that is learnt mediation skills.

There is mediation readily available for insurance claims outside the small cases track such as fast-track and also multi-track track insurance claims.

There are a large number of moderators around, both independent as well as mediation bodies.

This indicates that your divorce, or separation, will certainly be a lot much less burdensome in regards to financial repercussions for your kids.

You will discover that with mediation there is a great deal more money which is left over for the essentials of life.

Meetings are exclusive and at the arbitrator's office or a neutral venue. We'll call you to discuss your client's needs as well as figure out whether an online MIAM is best for them. Then, you can either schedule a meeting on your client's part or we'll contact them and keep you in the loophole.

Our lawyers compose your contract into a separation arrangement which you sign as well as witness. We can resolve your financial, residential property or parenting concerns agreeably, price effectively and also rather. Mediation is when a neutral person - learnt managing tough conversations between 2 opposing sides - acts like an umpire in a conflict. We can't reply, so if you require assist with an issue learn exactly how you can get advice from us. You can likewise find a household mediator online on the Institute of Family members Regulation Arbitrators internet site.

Jess works in our head office as well as is in charge of our legal bundles and also customer relationships. Belinda runs our head workplace as well as guarantees you receive an expert and also thoughtful solution. Advise an independent barrister to tell you what would be a most likely result at court on your case.

Our team of professional and skilled workplace moderators deal with all parties in a conflict to establish their underlying needs as well as passions, encourage discussion as well as eventually, help with a mutually appropriate resolution. When workplacemediations.co.uk business mediation services bournemouth: full feature set introducing a mediation programme, there are three ways a work attorney's duty is most likely to be valuable.The first is that no person is much better placed to encourage making use of mediation. Any kind of practitioner that has experience of basic complaint and corrective procedures will certainly recognize just how binary the outcomes tend to be and the method which events often tend to come to be adversarial. If you can find more information on workplace mediations's mediation services here. was not nearly enough, when litigation occurs, they observe carefully the stress and anxiety produced and also are totally involved in drawing away supervisors from their key duties to prepare for hearings.

Can you bring evidence to mediation?

Although mediation is confidential, if you show evidence to the other party, there is nothing to stop them using this evidence if your matter later goes to court and they can find the evidence in another way.

Nonetheless, if terms can not be reached, a Judge will certainly make a decision the issue at test. It is likely nonetheless, that to get to a negotiation, both events will certainly require to endanger as well as make concessions. The moderator will focus on striking an offer, rather than entering into the detail or trying to determine who is appropriate or wrong. As opposed to apportioning blame, he will certainly aim to restore the connection if ideal. We after that examine back in with the celebrations after 6 weeks to see just how things are going and to guarantee that whatever is running smoothly. Every circumstance is various though, as well as among the primary reasons we are so effective is that we are flexible in our method to mediation. However, normally speaking, this bypassing structure works extremely well.

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Some child contact centres will certainly accept recommendations from parents directly, yet others may only accept a recommendation from a solicitor, through Cafcass or a family court, a family support worker, or a social worker. Financial arbitration is for individuals who intend to get to a contract regarding funds, post splitting up or divorce, which can consist of building, such as the family house. It is difficult to claim the amount of arbitration sessions it will certainly require to locate an arrangement, yet typically it takes anything from between 2 and 4 meetings. If the financial resources are complex, after that be prepared that it might be longer. Typically talking, the success of financial arbitration cases is in the preparation and collection of economic information, before beginning the arbitration procedure. The arbitration firm will send a monetary info pack, which will need completing with as much information as feasible.

Children as well as youths are not offered suggestions or counselling by the conciliator and they are not asked for choices or choices. The moderator only shows to moms and dads the messages or tips that the youngster asks the arbitrator to offer. Youngsters claim that they locate it a relief to speak easily, without worrying that the arbitrator will tell parents whatever they say.

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In most situations, the mediator will certainly aid the parents to talk as well as assure their youngsters without the requirement for the child or young adult to fulfill the conciliator. A kid or young adult will only be welcomed to be associated with mediation if both moms and dads concur and if the parents have actually currently been involved in the arbitration process regarding the setups for their kids. Achild call centreis one alternative for separated parents that settle on monitored get in touch with between the child and also the non-resident parent. Youngster contact centres are a risk-free, neutral, as well as informal place where non-resident parents can spend quality one on one time playing games or reading with their youngsters in loosened up as well as comfortable environments. The child get in touch with centre will guarantee the physical security as well as emotional well-being of the youngster. This includes a member of the kid call centre personnel being present to provide help if needed.

Family Arbitration is a confidential process, however where there are concerns concerning the safety and security of a youngster, the protection of kids overrides the principles of both discretion as well as adult decision-making. The arbitrator will discuss this to you when you come for your first meeting, called a Mediation Info and also Analysis Meeting.

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The Parenting Strategy, which has actually just recently been revised, is designed to help moms and dads discuss what is best for their children. This has lately been upgraded to ensure that children are at the centre of arrangements of this nature. Section 20 is about a Regional Authority providing somewhere for a kid to live if he needs it. The LA does not share Parental Responsibility with the moms and dads if a child is accommodated under section 20. If parents broken up and also can not agree on exactly how to figure out contact or living arrangements for their children, they might require to put on court for a Kid Arrangements Order. This order will lay out exactly how a kid spends his time with each of his parents. mediators Europe finances utilized to be called 'call' and also 'home' orders however were transformed by the Kid and Households Act 2014.

What questions do they ask at mediation?

Some of the questions that a mediator ought to ask counsel for the parties during the mediation include the following. What are your/your client's goals for this mediation? What would help you achieve your goals? What are the obstacles to resolving the dispute?

Along with this, up-to-date checking account declarations will certainly require to be supplied. It is crucial to give as much info concerning home mortgages, property valuations, insurance policies, endowments and also any kind of various other financial investments, such as supplies and also shares. It can not be emphasized sufficient to do this as very early as possible, to ensure that when you attend your first mediation session, you will certainly be prepared and also your time in mediation will be effective. It is important to remember, that you require to reveal all your financial assets.

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Subsequent brief mediation sessions are often valuable every few months to iron our parenting concerns as well as evaluate and review the contact arrangements. Separation and divorce highlights solid emotions in pairs; trying to make call arrangements for your children can be a filled, dissatisfied procedure.

Our approved mediators can organize a private meeting with kids that will certainly after that have a possibility to place their perspective concerning their family members circumstance and also adjustments. Children's views will be appreciated, without any stress being placed on the children and the conference will be friendly and casual. Neither moms and dad exists during the time the conciliator invests with the youngsters. The kids decide with the moderator what they desire passed on back to their parents.

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The emotional damage to kids experiencing their moms and dads' contentious separations can be lasting. The moderator will facilitate conversations between you and your companion to attempt as well as settle different concerns to include plans for the kids, that is to provide the divorce request as well as monetary arrangements. Mediation can be used in different contexts to consist of household separation, acting monetary plans, long term economic arrangements and so on . The procedure entails a joint meeting with the parents and also conciliator, a private conference between the youngsters and also the conciliator, and also an adhere to up meeting between the moms and dads as well as arbitrator. This enables the dreams as well as sensations of the kids to be thought about by the parents when considering arrangements for the future. The courts can buy joint or sole guardianship, which is the capability to make crucial choices on behalf of the kid and also implies a physical protection of the kid. On that basis the moms and dads are more likely to combat each various other for sole guardianship.

However, in some cases this is as well aspirational as well as in high dispute cases the court will purchase single custodianship. Determining arrangements for kids is a hard and distressing procedure as well as it's crucial to look for professional help. Our mediators are totally trained to mediate sessions between you as well as your previous partner so that you decide on problems that are very important to the welfare of your youngster.

ex pats Poland mediators service includes jewellery, automobiles as well as those off-shore savings account in the British Virgin Islands! It is very important to not simply count assets, however additionally financial obligations, which may be debt or store cards. Additionally, there might be bank loans, or even ones from relative. By obtaining all this information together, it will allow for everyone to prepare their future financial resources better. Whilst alternating weekend breaks permit the youngsters quality time with both of their parents, the plans for during the college week, vacations and special celebrations will vary for every single family members. Points get even extra complicated when a moms and dad functions changes or has a varied job pattern. 11.03 In most cases, events have the ability to clear up contact as well as house concerns themselves without going to court or ADR.

In fact, there is little sensible distinction between sole and joint safekeeping as both celebrations ultimately can have a say in the important choices in their kid's life. There is an increased focus, which is sustained by arbitration, on the responsibilities and obligations of parents rather than their civil liberties and authority. Courts will normally order joint guardianship in the hope that moms and dads will certainly resist suggesting when it involves their kids.

Child comprehensive arbitration-- We can supply child-inclusive arbitration, where suitable, with a particularly educated family members moderator. This will certainly go through protecting to make sure that both moms and dads are fully knowledgeable about the effects of consisting of children while doing so, the reason and objective. Consisting of children in Family members Arbitration gives them an opportunity to feel that their voices are being heard, as well as a method of exploring their thoughts and worries. try this web-site concerning shared-parenting strategies are normally two-hours long and also are spaced every few weeks usually over 4-6 sessions. Moms and dads or carers can determine a plan for the short term, maybe for the following couple of weeks or months, to observe just how the youngster fares. This is specifically vital for children that may require time to get used to the adjustments.

Arbitration sustains people in a 'conflict' attempt to find their own resolution to the issue.

After 2 mediation sessions, which resolved their conflict and also lack of participation, the parents had the ability to focus on the needs of their children, that took part in a child inclusive arbitration.

The parents remained in litigation concerning their youngsters, finances and also service interests and their children remained in the middle of their disputes.

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We motivate our customers to participate in mediation before they come and see us.

We believe that a line of interaction open in between the events makes the whole procedure go efficiently and also leads to a much better as well as much more durable agreement.

Our conciliator Beverley Long is trained and qualified to consult with youngsters and young people. The choice for an arbitrator to talk with children and include them in the mediation process needs to be considered very carefully.

Once it is concurred by all that the children will see an arbitrator-- they will certainly understand that both parents support them giving their desires and sensations to a nominated moderator. The alternative court procedure could mean the Court might require a CAFCASS officer talk with the children regarding their dreams and also sensations. Below at Progressive Arbitration, we are vastly experienced in family arbitration and also in particular where youngsters are associated with the dispute between separating parents. We additionally understand when seeing the youngsters as part of the mediation procedure it will certainly benefit everyone included and also we will actively urge it. If you are not functioning or on a reduced revenue, you may be eligible for legal help for arbitration so you will certainly not have to pay the mediator.

At Rock King we provide youngster inclusive mediation and are able to offer this not just to our arbitration clients but additionally to those who might be seeing mediators who aren't kid comprehensive trained. Consisting of kids and also young people in arbitration reveals them that they matter and that their parents agree to comprehend their sensations as well as concerns.

You will likewise validate that you comprehend this at the beginning of your first mediation session, when you authorize a contract to mediate. Component of my function as a family members conciliator can in some cases entail me talking with kids as part of the arbitration process. This is in situations where both parents feel their child or youngsters would gain from having their voice listened to through the mediator, and also the arbitrator considers it appropriate. Federal government expectation is for all kids over the age of 10 to be provided the possibility to have their voices heard when arrangements between their moms and dads are being reviewed.

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As a negotiator, you must make certain that your job is to help with a feasible problem in between two or additional gatherings. If you want to help make the process soft working, you need to also ensure that you may aid various other events within a trade-off. This post will definitely explain the high qualities of an excellent conciliator and also a few of the perks that you can easily exist having one.

One of the most necessary benefit of being a moderator is that you get to supply a mediating company. The importance of being an arbitrator has been obtaining extra popular considering that lots of people perform certainly not possess the adventure of being actually a conciliator. A mediator is normally entrusted to offer an answer that would deal with a specific concern between the 2 events. Because the conciliator is actually expected to embody each parties, there are actually no problems in conveying the message of each events. The arbitrator can have various capabilities like public speaking, being a forerunner, or even revealing sympathy for the target or the other gathering.

An additional advantage of being actually a negotiator is actually that you are counted on to have adventure in mediation. Lots of folks assume that adventure is certainly not necessary yet it is very important. Along with the know-how of exactly how to deal with issues, you may give recommendations or recommendations to both events as well as allow all of them understand the most ideal technique to come close to a certain problem.

The significance of being actually an excellent arbitrator concerns the criteria of rely on the conciliator. Most people tend to rely on others without also recognizing that they are trusted. Consequently, you must possess strong communication skills. ScheidingsCenter aangekondigd must have the capacity to connect in a suitable method, without sounding pompous or creating it look like you are demanding. If you possess a solid control of the foreign language, you can aid share the correct message as well as make sure that the 2 events recognize just how to move toward the issue in an effective way.

The most necessary benefit of being a moderator is that you reach work as a 3rd party. This is actually a perk that you need to consider since it could assist you conquer lots of communication problems that you might face later on. Folks tend to interact and also make the communication stations just when the individual that the interaction was actually intended for is actually absent. As an example, if you appear a presentation, you might refer to as a person that can easily pay attention to your presentation to make sure that she or he can offer comments as well as remarks.

The demand for rely on is actually likewise necessary considering that the moderator is expected to serve as the "gatekeeper" of the communication channel. The negotiator is the one who must determine whether the communication has gone well or otherwise. If the communication went well, the negotiator will definitely decide whether the events require to find each other once again or otherwise. If the interaction was not going well, the moderator will certainly store all of them responsible and help them fix the issue.

You are going to also reach participate in the role of the "non-attached person". Given that the conciliator is actually certainly not directly associated with the conflict, he or she is generally considered a person who is only seeing. Therefore, the negotiator is phoned call to work as a neutral party in fixing problems.

The usefulness of being actually an arbitrator pertains to the premiums of an excellent arbitrator as well as the benefits that you can get along possessing one. Right now, you recognize what an arbitrator is and also just how to turn into one.

What is actually the Job of the Mediator in the Case of Separation?

A separation is a complicated and also nerve-racking issue that requires effective and relevant conversation, however it needs to have to be taken very seriously with the aid of a mediator. Divorce commonly means a lot of modifications happening in the lifestyles of the parents and also kids. It might likewise imply a splitting up coming from the husband or wife that had been actually with all of them for a very long time. zoals Scheidings Center meldt are actually quite tough to approve and also to deal with. Additionally, the kids may reside in the center of emotion lost without their parents. This is actually why it is actually necessary to look for the support of a really good negotiator that will definitely mediate in order to come to a fair and also efficient remedy to the issue.

Back then of separation, lots of married couples attempt to maintain their kids after the breakup by utilizing house after separation insurance policy that is actually usually shared by the partners of the marriage or by utilizing medical carriers to care for the little ones. Both the property after a breakup and also the residence after breakup insurance coverage is actually advantageous if taken care of correctly. Yet the negligence for this is that the kids may wind up residing in poor circumstances as well as at risk of being mistreated or even ignored. This is actually why it is vital to take the youngsters as well as the various other partners truly as well as to look after all of them. In such instances, it is far better to undergo the home after a breakup as well as the home after breakup insurance so as to get what you actually yearn for as well as to stay clear of squandering your money in an excessive answer. If the little ones are associated with the arrangements between the gatherings after that it is actually advisable to look at the arbitration procedure also.

After home after the divorce, it is very important to likewise stay clear of any kind of kind of threat in the house after breakup particularly using command mechanisms like physical violence and also mental adjustment. The instance of splitting up can additionally result in anxiety in the kids if the moms and dads perform not handle all of them every bit as. This is actually why it is essential to move toward a moderator in such situations. The mediator is going to offer his suggestions on just how to produce the parents agree to a solution on the basis of mutual regard and also decency. This may help each parties in solving the situation in a favorable manner in order that they may proceed on the basis of mutual appreciation and also decency.

What is actually the Duty of the Arbitrator in the Case of Breakup?

What is actually the role of conciliator when it comes to divorce? If your husband or wife is actually telling you that the child is living with one more parent and also this various other moms and dad is properly paid, and also it is actually feasible to obtain the house after separation? This can be an extremely emotional instant for you and your ex-spouse. It is constantly most effectively to consult a conciliator who is actually trained and also an expert. If you carry out not recognize just how to deal with obtaining an arbitrator or if you intend to find out more about just how to accomplish this at that point the observing will definitely give you some really good recommendations on how to deal with this condition.

In a breakup there are three principal elements to check out, one is actually the kid is actually coping with an additional moms and dad, the 2nd aspect is actually the division of the home and also the 3rd is the guideline of energy distribution. If the little one is actually dealing with yet another moms and dad, the moderator will definitely sit along with the parents to figure out a technique to obtain the little one back in addition to its own birth parents. The little ones may stay in the exact same residence, or even they can move out as well as cope with their moms and dads. There is additionally the concern of residential property. Currently the mediation might not make it possible for the gatherings to settle on precisely what residential or commercial property is certainly not theirs. They may set a crack of the house and other properties.

The guideline of electrical power circulation is probably one of the most essential thing to opt for when your partner is actually mentioning that they don't prefer the kid back. If they are able to obtain custody of the kid, they are going to find yourself receiving the exact same quantity of funds and also expenditures as you carried out. If they perform certainly not have that perk, after that you need to make sure that you receive your decent allotment of the money. A single thing that is mosting likely to develop the branch of energy is who receives child support remittances. You and also your ex will need to bargain the amount of loan you will certainly pay out to see to it that both of you are actually acquiring the exact same volume. But once that has been agreed upon it is well to take care of your ex to ensure they are certainly not lured to rip off on you. That's the duty of arbitrator when it comes to breakup.

What's the Role of Negotiator on Kid in Separation?

When our team discuss mediation on little ones in breakup, our experts can easily certainly never think of that a person must know the duty of negotiator on children in divorce. During the course of a divorce, youngsters are a really essential part of every family, and if youngsters are actually taken away from their parents, it will be actually a significant loss for the youngsters and also they will likewise be actually a wonderful loss to the whole household. The mediation in between both sides is actually taken into consideration to become one of the very best achievable procedures when it involves recovering the excellent associations between the separating events. There are actually several main reasons regarding why you need to have to discover the function of mediator on kids in breakup. These reasons are primarily all associated with the health and wellness and also welfare of the children, as well as it is actually a crucial factor to consider in a scenario when the kids are actually worried.

Another reason is actually that when both edges have actually reached out to a trade-off, and when they remain to interact along with one another as well as reach a good understanding, there will certainly be actually an excellent outcome of the mediation on youngsters in breakup. Some of the important things that are taken into consideration to be among the crucial factors to discover through arbitrators on kids in breakup is actually the function of adolescence. It is only throughout adolescence that teens begin to become private as well as start to experience various circumstances that might be actually dangerous to all of them. This is actually likewise the grow older where the little ones find out how to manage the various problems that are faced through all of them in a regular technique, and this is also the grow older where they start to create a school kid throughout divorce. This will be actually a vital procedure if both the parents are fiscally tough good enough to assist the education and learning of their youngsters during the course of separation.

Yet another explanation regarding why one needs to find out the task of arbitrator on children in separation is actually that throughout the process of arbitration, parents need to regularly keep in mind that they ought to be totally separated from their youngsters. It is very important that while the procedure of mediation is happening, parents need to certainly not make their children aware of the main reasons for separation, otherwise they could experience unpleasant during the course of the arbitration. They need to always remember that during arbitration, they should only be actually focusing on the method as well as the issues involved, and also they need to avoid from the courthouse process and also care for the youngsters's' problems during the arbitration method.

What is actually the Duty of Mediator in Adult Plan?

In any sort of scenario entailing breakup, which one will be actually the best handy to the individual requiring the information? Which one will assist the individual getting the assistance? Most individuals will certainly go with the 1st concern yet you might be right. And an excellent question will definitely get the person the answer you are looking for. You can not only inquire what's the job of negotiator in the parental planning?

There is actually an incredibly important explanation that this is the case as well as our team will certainly look at it as well as our task as a negotiator so as to guarantee that all gatherings are going to know what each people can possibly do as well as what the other person requires to perform if you want to possess a well-balanced partnership. Deal with it momentarily. Which one perform you think would help you more? The answer is actually each of all of them interacting in consistency. Deal with it and choose.

There is a really vital aspect to think about which is that the process of resolving in any type of condition is a two-way process where you as an arbitrator necessity to deliver the two events together to make sure that they recognize the agreement as well as each other's demands. If the 2 of you don't recognize what each other needs then no amount of arbitration can assist. Our company as negotiators know what needs to be done and also our company can easily aid all of them obtain that target. What's the part of the arbitrator in the parental program? This is actually something that requires to be clearly know because it will assist you in the method of resolving as well as help you en route to success.

What's the Part of Negotiator in Retirement Pension?

What's the role of conciliator in a retirement life pension? A moderator is going to appear at every step of your life in the course of your life expectancy. He is the one who will certainly be resting at your side to provide you the opinions and tips pertaining to exactly how to be happy and exactly how to obtain success in your company or even social life. He is actually certainly not there certainly to evaluate you, but he will certainly be actually offering you guidance on exactly how to advance and exactly how to take care of all things that appear.

When you are ready to move up in your career or even the association, your mediator will definitely be actually resting along with you and also will provide you a direct on the concerns that could surface or even your transfer to a higher role within the company or organisation. You are actually certainly not meant to inquire your arbitrator excessive inquiries that may start the ball rolling. He will simply inform you to sit and also believe just before you flirt up the step ladder of your job. He will see to it that you do not slide and also drop on your way to obtaining effectiveness. To steer clear of any sort of potential difficulties, it is actually always really good to collaborate with a reputable mediator that will certainly listen to you and assist you by giving you unprejudiced guidance.

Therefore what is actually the part of negotiator in a retirement pension? Our experts have spoken about the simple fact that he will definitely help your firm. But what else should you find out about your negotiator?

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Mediator - What Are Its own Benefits?

As a conciliator, you should make certain that your task is actually to promote a feasible disagreement in between two or even additional parties. So as to aid produce the procedure hassle-free working, you must also ensure that you may help other parties in reaching a trade-off. This article will cover the top qualities of a really good negotiator and several of the advantages that you can easily get by possessing one.

The absolute most essential perk of being a moderator is actually that you come to deliver a resolving company. The value of being a moderator has been obtaining more popular considering that most individuals perform certainly not possess the adventure of being actually a mediator. A negotiator is actually generally tasked to provide a service that will deal with a certain issue between both celebrations. Given that the moderator is expected to work with both events, there are actually no problems in sharing the information of each events. The mediator can easily have various capabilities like public speaking, being actually an innovator, or presenting sympathy for the victim or the other party.

An additional advantage of being actually a conciliator is that you are counted on to possess knowledge in mediation. Many individuals believe that knowledge is actually certainly not required but it is essential. With the knowledge of exactly how to resolve issues, you can easily provide insight or even suggestions to both celebrations as well as allow all of them know one of the most appropriate method to come close to a specific issue.

The value of being a good negotiator involves the criteria of trust in the arbitrator. Lots of people have a tendency to count on others without even understanding that they are actually relied on. Therefore, you need to have sturdy interaction capabilities. You ought to have the ability to connect in an appropriate method, without sounding overbearing or even creating it look like you are actually demanding. If you possess a sturdy command of the language, you can easily help communicate the best message as well as be sure that the 2 parties recognize just how to approach the problem in an effective way.

The absolute most important advantage of being actually a moderator is actually that you get to serve as a third party. This is a conveniences that you ought to think about since it could assist you get rid of many communication issues that you might face later on. People often tend to correspond and develop the communication network just when the individual that the interaction was planned for is not present. For instance, if you appear a presentation, you may known as an individual that may pay attention to your discussion to ensure he or she may give comments and reviews.

The need for trust fund is actually additionally significant due to the fact that the negotiator is actually expected to work as the "gatekeeper" of the communication channel. The arbitrator is actually the one that needs to determine whether the communication has actually gone well or otherwise. If the interaction went well, the moderator will definitely decide whether the events require to observe each other once more or otherwise. If the interaction was certainly not working out, the conciliator will store them accountable as well as aid them resolve the concern.

You are going to likewise come to participate in the duty of the "non-attached person". Considering that the mediator is certainly not directly associated with the conflict, she or he is commonly seen as an individual who is actually just seeing. Therefore, the moderator is contacted us to work as a neutral party in addressing disputes.

The relevance of being actually a negotiator relates to the qualities of a really good moderator as well as the advantages that you may cope possessing one. Currently, you recognize what a negotiator is actually and also just how to become one.

What's the Part of the Mediator in the Case of Divorce?

A divorce is a complicated and also difficult issue that asks for appropriate and purposeful conversation, however it requires to become taken truly through a conciliator. Breakup often means many modifications occurring in the lives of the parents and also kids. It could additionally suggest a splitting up from the significant other that had actually been actually with all of them for a very long time. All these are very tough to approve and to take care of. Additionally, the children might reside in the middle of emotion dropped without their parents. This is actually why it is important to seek the aid of an excellent mediator who will resolve in order to come to a fair and also helpful service to the concern.

Back then of separation, many married couples attempt to keep their kids after the divorce by using home after breakup insurance that is usually discussed by the partners of the marriage or by utilizing healthcare suppliers to take care of the children. Both the home after a separation and the property after divorce insurance policy is helpful if taken care of appropriately. However the fault for this is actually that the youngsters may find yourself living in inadequate circumstances as well as in danger of being mistreated or disregarded. This is actually why it is essential to take the little ones as well as the other partners seriously and also to care for them. In such situations, it is actually far better to undergo the residence after a breakup as well as the property after separation insurance policy to get what you really want and also to steer clear of losing your loan in an unnecessary remedy. If the children are actually involved in the arrangements between the parties then it is recommended to undergo the arbitration procedure as well.

After house after the divorce, it is necessary to also steer clear of any type of compulsion in the home after breakup particularly the use of control systems like physical violence as well as psychological adjustment. The scenario of splitting up may additionally cause clinical depression in the little ones if the moms and dads do certainly not alleviate them just as. This is actually why it is crucial to come close to a negotiator in such cases. The conciliator will provide his guidance on exactly how to make the moms and dads agree to a solution on the basis of mutual appreciation and also dignity. This can easily assist each parties in settling the instance in a beneficial way so that they may move forward on the manner of reciprocal regard as well as modesty.

What's the Role of the Mediator in the Case of Divorce?

What is actually the function of mediator in the case of divorce? If your partner is informing you that the kid is actually coping with another moms and dad and this other parent is actually effectively paid, and also it is actually achievable to obtain the home after divorce? This could be a very psychological minute for you and also your ex-spouse. It is actually constantly well to consult a conciliator who is actually qualified and also a professional. If you do certainly not recognize just how to engage in getting an arbitrator or even if you desire to learn more regarding exactly how to perform this after that the adhering to will certainly provide you some great advise on how to manage this circumstance.

In a divorce there are 3 major aspects to take a look at, one is the little one is actually dealing with yet another moms and dad, the second element is actually the department of the residential or commercial property as well as the 3rd is the concept of energy circulation. If the child is coping with one more parent, the arbitrator will take a seat along with the parents to figure out a means to get the child back alongside its birth parents. The youngsters can stay in the same residence, or even they can easily leave and also live with their moms and dads. There is actually likewise the complication of residential or commercial property. Currently the arbitration may not allow the events to settle on specifically what property is certainly not theirs. They may agree upon a split of your house and various other properties.

The guideline of electrical power circulation is probably the best important trait to decide on when your companion is actually pointing out that they do not desire the youngster back. If they have the capacity to obtain custody of the little one, they are actually mosting likely to find yourself getting the exact same volume of money as well as costs as you did. If they carry out certainly not have that perk, after that you need to ensure that you acquire your decent share of the money. One thing that is actually mosting likely to come up with the department of energy is who acquires kid support payments. You and your ex-boyfriend will definitely have to arrange the amount of money you will certainly pay for to make sure that each of you are getting the very same amount. Once that has been actually set it is well to handle your ex-boyfriend so that they are actually not tempted to rip off on you. That is actually the duty of conciliator when it comes to separation.

What is actually the Task of Conciliator on Children in Breakup?

When we discuss arbitration on kids in divorce, we may never envision that a person has to learn the duty of moderator on youngsters in divorce. Throughout a breakup, little ones are actually a really essential part of every loved ones, as well as if little ones are eliminated from their moms and dads, it is going to be a primary reduction for the children as well as they will also be a fantastic reduction to the entire family members. The mediation between both sides is actually taken into consideration to become some of the very best achievable processes when it involves restoring the really good relationships in between the divorcing parties. There are many main reasons as to why you require to learn the job of arbitrator on children in divorce. These causes are generally all of connected to the health and wellness as well as well-being of the little ones, and also it is actually a necessary consideration in an instance when the youngsters are actually involved.

An additional factor is actually that when the 2 edges have reached out to a trade-off, and also when they continue to connect along with each other as well as achieve a mutual understanding, there will definitely be actually a terrific end result of the arbitration on youngsters in separation. Among the important things that are actually taken into consideration to become some of the necessary things to discover through negotiators on little ones in breakup is the part of teenage years. It is actually simply throughout adolescence that teens begin to end up being individual as well as begin to face different situations that may be actually unsafe to them. This is also the grow older where the kids discover how to handle the different disputes that are faced through them in an ordinary technique, as well as this is actually likewise the age where they start to develop a schoolchild in the course of separation. This are going to be actually an essential procedure if both the parents are actually economically tough good enough to assist the learning of their youngsters throughout breakup.

Yet another reason concerning why one requires to know the task of conciliator on children in separation is actually that throughout the procedure of arbitration, moms and dads must consistently keep in mind that they ought to be completely removed from their little ones. It is necessary that while the procedure of mediation is actually taking place, parents should certainly not create their little ones knowledgeable about the reasons for separation, or they might experience uneasy during the course of the arbitration. They should remember that throughout arbitration, they need to just be focusing on the process and the concerns included, and also they ought to avoid from the courtroom procedures as well as take care of the youngsters's' complications during the arbitration method.

What is actually the Job of Negotiator in Adult Strategy?

In any type of circumstance including breakup, which one will be actually the absolute most beneficial to the individual requiring the info? Which one will help the individual securing the guidance? https://scheidingscenter.nl/scheiding-online/ are going to go with the 1st question yet you might be right. And also an excellent question will definitely receive the person the response you are trying to find. You can not just inquire what's the task of conciliator in the adult program?

There is a really necessary cause that this holds true and also we will definitely examine it along with our part as a moderator so as to guarantee that all gatherings are going to know what each of us may do and what the various other person needs to accomplish to possess a well-balanced relationship. Think about it for a moment. Which one do you believe would certainly aid you much more? The answer is both of them collaborating in harmony. Think about it and also decide.

There is actually a very crucial variable to think about and that is that the procedure of resolving in any sort of scenario is actually a two-way process where you as a negotiator need to bring the 2 gatherings with each other in order that they understand the good understanding and each other's needs. If the two of you do not know what each other demands at that point no quantity of arbitration can help. We as conciliators understand what needs to be carried out and our team may assist all of them obtain that objective. What's the duty of the mediator in the parental plan? This is something that needs to have to be accurately know due to the fact that it will definitely direct you in the process of resolving and help you en route to results.

What's the Role of Mediator in Retirement Pension Account?

What's the duty of conciliator in a retired life pension plan? A moderator will be present at every action of your lifestyle in the course of your lifetime. He is actually the one that will be actually sitting at your edge to offer you the opinions and tips pertaining to exactly how to be satisfied as well as how to attain excellence in your service or social life. He is certainly not certainly there to determine you, yet he will be providing you assistance on exactly how to get ahead and also just how to handle all things that arise.

When you are ready to move up in your career or even the institution, your arbitrator will be actually sitting with you as well as are going to offer you a direct on the complications that could crop up or your move to a higher role within the institution or organisation. You are certainly not meant to ask your conciliator too many inquiries that might start the ball rolling. He will simply tell you to sit and think prior to you flirt up the ladder of your profession. He is going to see to it that you perform certainly not slip and also fall on your way to obtaining results. To steer clear of any sort of potential problems, it is always really good to team up with a trusted arbitrator that will certainly listen closely to you as well as help you through providing you impartial suggestions.

Thus what's the task of negotiator in a retirement pension plan? We have actually referred to the truth that he will definitely benefit your firm. But what else should you learn about your arbitrator?

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