#but were taught to complain about our bodies when we're thin

[smallswingshoes]

I think people don't realize that what they're likely experiencing with comments about their thinness is body policing thru the lense of sexism or misogyny. Whereas fat women in particular experience that PLUS fatphobia.

Skinny people need to realize there's a time and place to talk about how we feel about our bodies and that time and place is NOT on someone else's post about fatphobia!!! In fact, we have so many times and places to talk about it that maybe we should shut the fuck up and listen about the fatphobia!!!!! Some thin people might learn something!!!!!!!!

thin people get called "too skinny" like once growing up and then think they're allowed to clown on any post talking about fatphobia. they want skinnyphobia to exist soooooo bad.

[menshusband]

long, long, long vent, lots of capslock. I'd have so much more to say but my brain got tired.

girl are you serious. are you FUCKING serious. you REALLY don't want me to have a good day, do you. EVERY TIME. i have a good FUCKING day, you manage to RUIN it with your capricious attitude. I TOLD YOU TIME AND AGAIN THAT THAT THING ANNOYS ME. AND YOU. KEEP. FUCKING. DOING IT. IT'S LIKE YOU WANT TO BREAK MY FUCKING PATIENCE IN TWO AND YOU'RE ASKING ME TO SCREAM AT YOUR FACE. BUT I WON'T BECAUSE I'M FUCKING NOT LIKE YOU. YOU ALWAYS COMPLAIN THAT WE'RE SO SIMILAR THE SECOND I TELL YOU ONE FUCKING HABIT OF MINE, ONE FUCKING THING I ENJOY, ONE PET PEEVE, IT'S ALWAYS YOU, YOU, YOU, YOU. YOU MAKE ME LOSE MYSELF, ALWAYS, AND THE LORD KNOWS I'M TRYING SO HARD TO FIX OUR RELATIONSHIP BUT I SEE EFFORTS ON YOUR PART ONLY SOME OF THE TIMES THAT I TELL YOU I'M ABOUT TO FUCKING THROW UP. YOU ACT LIKE AN OFFENDED ASSHOLE WHEN I TELL YOU ABOUT MY BOUNDARIES OVER AND OVER AGAIN, AND YOU KEEP BREAKING THEM, YOU GET MAD WHEN I SNAP AT YOU BECAUSE I HAVE THE FUCKING AUTISTIC MELTDOWNS AND THE DAMN ADHD THAT DOESN'T LET ME REGULATE MY EMOTIONS AND MY PATIENCE IS ALREADY, ALWAYS SO THIN. AND YOU KNOW IT, AND YOU KEEP GETTING MAD AT ME FOR SNAPPING AT YOU, DESPITE CLAIMING TO BE THE ONE WHO KNOWS ME BEST. HOW I WISH I COULD YELL AT YOU JUST HOW WRONG THAT IS. THERE'S SO MANY THINGS YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT ME, OR THAT YOU KNOW BUT DIDN'T FIND OUT THROUGH ME, BECAUSE IT WAS MY CHOICE. BECAUSE TRUTH BE TOLD, I DO NOT TRUST YOU NOR YOUR HUSBAND, WITH WHOM YOUR MARRIAGE IS FAILING AND I CAN SEE IT. JUST. SOMETIMES I WISH I COULD PUT YOU IN MY HEAD AND BODY TO SHOW YOU JUST HOW FUCKING HARD IT IS TO LIVE WITH MYSELF. BUT NEURODIVERGENCIES ARE SO WRONG, RIGHT? BECAUSE THEY'RE GETTING TOO MUCH RECOGNITION, BECAUSE OUR SOCIETY'S BECOMING TOO “POLITICALLY CORRECT”, BECAUSE AS SOON AS YOU SEE A WELL DONE REPRESENTATION OF AN OFTEN MISREPRESENTED GROUP OF PEOPLE YOU LAUGH, BECAUSE “THAT'S A BIT TOO MUCH”, RIGHT? OHH, YOUR WHITENESS FEELS SO THREATENED AS SOON AS YOU SEE A BLACK LITTLE MERMAID, DOESN'T IT. YOU FEEL SO UPSET AS SOON AS I SAY THAT A PERSON GAINS POINTS FOR ME JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE A 50 YEAR OLD MAN WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED WITH HIS HUSBAND FOR OVER 10 YEARS. YOU GET SOOOO MAD BECAUSE THE TRUTH IS YOU JUST ACT LIKE YOU'RE TOLERANT, BUT AS SOON AS IT'S TIME TO BE TOLERANT, YOU FIND THOUSANDS OF EXCUSES. THAT'S WHY I DON'T TELL YOU ABOUT MY DOUBTS ABOUT MY NEURODIVERSITY. THAT'S WHY I HAVEN'T COME OUT TO YOU. THAT'S WHY I DON'T WANT TO DISCUSS POLITICS, THAT'S WHY THAT'S FUCKING WHY IF YOU TRIED TO UNDERSTAND ME INSTEAD OF ALWAYS THINKING YOUR OWN FUCKING WAY!!!!!! PUT YOURSELF IN MY DAMN SHOES, YOU NEVER DO, EVEN WHEN YOU SAY YOU DO!! OR SHUT THE FUCK UP!! PLEASE!! I WANT TO LOVE YOU BECAUSE I'M SURE YOU DID YOUR BEST TO RAISE US WITH WHAT YOU WERE TAUGHT BUT YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS NOT THE RIGHT WAY TO APPROACH ME NOW. PLEASE. FUCKING CHANGE YOUR POINT OF VIEW SOMETIMES.

[rtothe3rd]

Being a girl;

I don’t like the “pick me” misogynist idea that stereotypically “feminine” things are inherently negative or shameful and can’t overlap with “masculine” ideas or qualities, and I hate how toxic and sexist and pro-ED the embracing femininity communities (coquette girlblogging) can be, as if being a woman is made of suffering and a woman's body is a vessel for misogyny in thin, white, childlike standards of beauty. Fuck it all; I do love the color pink and wearing lip gloss and buying clothes and Lana Del Rey and sometimes I even look at my horoscope and I use copious amounts of hairspray, but I want to be a lawyer when I’m grown up and and I swear like a sailor and I’m an honors student and my favorite thing to talk about is politics and I’ll debate anything that breathes, and I try not to equate my worth (or anybody else's) with the number of inches around my waist. How can’t those two things coexist? Why can't I put Taylor Swift's album drop and the senate midterms on my calendar? Why can't my walls be plastered with photo strips and artsy postcards alongside my 4 framed speech awards? Why can't I fantasize about being in love and also about kicking a nazi in the face? I'm a female; therefore everything I do is feminine, no matter what people say. I want to celebrate and RECLAIM femininity for myself and for womankind, not for the male gaze. Coquette pro ED and pick-me-choose-me-love-me subcultures have one major thing in common: catering to men and men in particular. The day that we as women stop hating ourselves is the day we stop feeding into a school of thought that fuels a multibillion dollar industry that creates and profits off our insecurities. If you're gonna wear makeup, wear it for you. If you're gonna change your weight, do it for your physical and mental health. If you're gonna get plastic surgery, understand why. Why you've always wanted bigger/smaller breasts, a bigger/smaller butt, a flatter stomach, a smoother face. Girls, don't feel rushed to go through puberty, but when you do, celebrate that you're maturing and changing. The stretch marks are healthy. Your breasts don't need to be any bigger or smaller to serve their purpose, whether that is to feed children or just exist. The blood is not filthy, it's a sign of health. Yeah, I know it sucks, but don't let anybody make you feel bad. Those asshole boys wouldn't exist if their moms never menstruated. And to women MY mom's age, you don't need to starve yourself to achieve what filthy pigs tell you you should look like after carrying and delivering a pregnancy for 9 months. You don't need to be as thin as you were at 20, this is supposed to happen. You don't need to inject toxins into your face to make it look like you've never smiled or seen the sun. You don't need to be ashamed of living and aging naturally, aging is healthy, you are supposed to get older. When was the last time you heard a a man your age complain about lines on his skin or 5 extra pounds? When was the last time you saw a male celebrity's stomach rolls or cellulite blown up on a tabloid cover and picked apart by the whole world? when was the last time you witnessed a man reduced to his appearance? why do WE owe beauty to the world, a world where our bodily autonomy is in jeopardy? Why are we only beautiful when we're weak and starving and cold, where we're miserable and tired and hurting, when we're manipulated and injected and stuffed and exploited and profited off of and sexualized and traumatized and forced? forced to perform and change and carry a child? Men will pay to see videos of naked women seducing them and turn right back around and advocate for our disenfranchisement. Men have been taught that they have the authority to reduce us, shrink us down to sex symbols and forget our humanity, and these men do what they want and make millions and get elected to America's highest offices and win grammies.

If you're a woman and you're reading this, you do not owe a man's perception of you to anybody. Every time a grown man online treats me like I'm stupid; every time a boy taunts me about Andrew Tate; every time another woman acts like politics are inconsequential; every time I remember an 80 year old man making obscene gestures to me on the street; every time I read a school dress code implying that my body is inherently pornographic; every time another pig is elected to our government; every time our trans sisters are oppressed and excluded by other women, the fire grows. soon it will consume me.