#but idk you wouldn't get it unless you attended a school like that idk what to say man lol

[la-cocotte-de-paris]

SCARLET I suddenly remembered the time we had to watch the film Romeo and Juliet (1968) in English class when we were 14 or 15 for revision (it took about two or three classes to watch it all) and I was sitting at the front directly across from where our male English teacher's desk was due to the seating plan and I just KNEW there was gonna be a sex scene bc iT's A MoViE and being the culturally Catholic Irish girl who was attending an all-girls secondary school (Catholic, of course) and hadn't figured out she was Queer with a capital Q yet, I came into the next class (the one where I knew the scene would happen) with the school coat zipped up to the top so I could bury the bottom half of my face in it to hide my embarrassment and stifled laughter when the scene would come up BUT I ALSO PRETENDED TO WRITE IN MY HOMEWORK JOURNAL SO I DIDN'T HAVE TO LOOK AT THE SCREEN BUT THEN MY FRIENDS AFTERWARDS WERE LIKE "KATIE THAT MAKES IT LOOK LIKE YOU WERE TAKING NOTES FOR SEX"

and uh yeah basically i was doing fine until i remembered THAT lmfao

[raven-at-the-writing-desk]

I'm a bit confused about how the classes work at Night Raven... like, can students of different years go to the same classes at the same time? because we know Yuu goes/we go to the same class as Ace/Deuce, but I was doing some lessons w Floyd and he says something like "I think I'll go to your class today, Little Shrimpy!" ...is it just a Floyd Thing™️ where he randomly attends classes that he shouldn't, or are older students allowed to/have to go to some of the same classes that younger students have? Bc like... if he goes to the same idk, history class Yuu is at, wouldn't he just... be attending a class he practically already took? (Like how Leona says that he doesn't attend most classes bc he already saw that last year)

(also maybe this is just a silly question and it's a common school system thing in other countries, but at least on my country we don't really do that? I think? Classes are divided by years unless it's like a club activity or some other stuff like that, that's why I'm confused... or maybe it is based more on how a university operates? I haven't enrolled yet so I wouldn't know, sorry if it sounds like a stupid/obvious question 🥲🥲)

I go into more detail about class scheduling in this post. To put it simply though, here are the take-aways that are relevant to answering your questions:

There are “joint classes” where students of various grade levels are in attendance. Students mention this many times in various vignettes. However, it should be noted that joint classes most frequently happen in the context of P.E.

Some classes cannot be joint because there are different materials covered per grade level. For example, Magic History II covers the Just Judge but Magic History I does not.

Additionally, higher level classes require prerequisite courses first be passed. For example. first years’ classes are stated to be mainly theory based and second/third year classes involve more actual use of magic.

As far as we’re aware, NRC’s schedules run like a normal high school’s, meaning the classes are back-to-back and the only significant break in the middle of the day is lunch (a time which everyone seems to share). So when any boy says he’ll follow Yuu to class, it’s not as though he is on an extended break outside of lunch period.

All of the characters have Lesson lines similar to what you described for Floyd. The most likely reason why they say they will “follow you to class” or “do whatever you want to do” is because there is a separation between gameplay mechanics (Lessons) and the actual narrative (main story). For example, Malleus is canonically stronger than all of his classmates but this is not reflected in all Malleus cards having higher attack power; in fact, Dorm Uniform Riddle has the highest power of all student cards. Clearly, it does not make sense in-universe for the characters to take any class in whatever order they want just for the hell of it. However, the feature still exists as a way to level up your cards and to give fanservice to the players via voice lines (because it creates the illusion of bonding/spending time with the boys).

If you’re wondering how it works in universities, you’ll generally have some students from every grade level. Introductory courses may be mostly freshmen while specialized courses are mostly upperclassmen, but you might still get a few people outside of the usual grades interested and taking the class or even accelerated younger students in the high level classes. Electives especially can be mixed. It doesn’t really matter as long as you meet the prerequisites for the class (as you may need to have passes other classes to qualify for enrollment).

[cryogenically-frozen]

I like Takaaki x Hiroko so I designed a child.

Idk do you ever just realise you're very deep down the fandom hole?

Anyways here are the nuances:

-Her hair is Hiroko's hairstyle cut shorter because I think she'd take after Taka and value practicality. The first time she cut it herself and after that asked either Taka or Hiroko to do it. She doesn't really style it unless there's an occasion.

-Widow's peak from Taakaki.

-I'm pretty sure Takaaki wasn't born with grey hair so Kyo's hair colour is a mix of Taka and Hiroko's hair colour.

-Eyebrow's and eye shape are combination of both parents.

-Hiroko's eye colour because brown is dominant.

-Colour scheme for her outfit was based on Yasuhiro during DR1.

-The outfit was inspired by Taka liking Makoto's hoodie because she would 100% value what Taka says (hence the collar) but also value comfort over anything else when it comes to clothes (because she's related to Yasuhiro and Hiroko) so I figured the body warmer and comfy off the shoulder shirt was something she'd wear.

I've also been thinking of the nuances of the family dynamic. A lesson Kyo would learn very early on is that Taka probably shouldn't be told everything that goes on in the household.

This is maybe okay here and there but them without knowing the entire family did all of these on one day and:

And just like that Kyo was never asked to lie by omission ever again.

Oh, also there is uncle Mondo who absolutely knows not to swear in front of small children even when the situation demands it:

There's also the fact that this kid would be involved with so many famous people through her siblings. World famous programmers, superstars, writers etc. all just stop by occasionally. It's so unremarkable that she just says it to her classmates like it's nothing and becomes the centre of attention for reasons completely unknown to her.

Finally, and a little bit more angsty, I genuinely think Kyo would try so hard to get into Hope's Peak. She excels in classes, does sports, hobbies, literally anything in an effort to get into the school and follow in her brother's footsteps.

And then, when she's scouted, she comes home and tells everyone that she's an Ultimate and everyone is so excited for her. Then, they naturally asked what Ultimate title they gave her. She hadn't asked because she was so excited to be scouted so she opens the letter to find out...

...and she's the Ultimate Legacy Student.

I know this sounds like something a school wouldn't do but they have a draw to have one Ultimate Lucky Student every year and Hope's Peak is incredibly immoral so I wouldn't put it past them.

She struggles intensely with the fact that, according to the letter she received, non of her effort mattered. Her brothers are alumni, who are all still friends with their entire class of alumni, one of which is the current Headmaster of Hope's Peak. Did they just feel obligated to enrol her? Does she even deserve this letter if that's the only reason she deserves to attend?

Hopefully the fam can help out with that imposter syndrome.

[redsaurrce]

i just need to get this off my chest yk, school is mentally tiring and once friday hits imma be absent for 3 weeks straight and idk what to do—no motivation or anything its simply draining. is there any words of advice you mag give to me?

When I read this the first thing that came to my head was- "dO i giVe oFf tHe viBEs oF sOmeOnE wHo CaN GiVe aDviCe oN sCHoOL?" 😭

But like if u think I'm qualified to answer this question then I've got the following to say;

School is definitely tiring... this is coming from a person who has attended her high school while waking up at 5 am to go to school and return back home by 4 pm with a 3hr extra tuition classes right after school every fucking day. There was a point where I literally went to school and only waited for it to get over cuz man I hated there.

Well.. idk how it works for u but I'd advice u that if u are struggling to keep going to school everyday and tiring urself out to death, u might want to miss a few classes in between weekdays-- which is what I had started to follow. I would skip school every Wednesday and Thursday because I focused more on attending my practical classes which used to be held on Monday, Tuesday and Friday. Sat and Sun used to be holidays so that was a bonus.

Because practicals needed equipments which wouldn't be available in a normal house (unless ur parents are interested in keeping microscope or potentiometers at home LOL) so I attended school on those days (or mightve skipped even those days sometimes and then in the next class i would approach the teacher in the corner and request them to brief me over what they have taught in the last practical class). For the theory I didn't really had to attend school since I could cover that up in my tuitions or self study.

I think you can do something similar, mark the days which has the most important classes, u can even attend alternate days in consecutive weeks. For example if you follow the calendar in mobile phones, you can track week numbers of the year, now divide them into odd weeks and even weeks.

On odd weeks u can attend on Mon, Wed and Fri

On even weeks u can on attend Tue and Thurs

For example the current week number is 12 which is even and today is Wednesday so it's ur 2nd school day of the week, right?

So.. according to me, missing out 2 or 3 days a week is far better than missing out 3 weeks straight because not only you will be detached from the current situation of your syllabus of what's being taught in the class, this can also feed into ur demotivation era of yk.. thinking that oh no maybe u have missed out a lot so what are u gonna do now? Is it over? Stuff like that! And negative thinking truly sucks.

Also do not forget to take care of urself and keep urself hydrated time to time, sometimes water is all u need to stay alert.

And if u ever sit down to study and think- ugh what if I can't do this or that, trust me- at that very moment open ur book and set a timer of 10 minutes. In those ten minutes, just study and do nothing else. After that u can do whatever u want (but ik ur brain will choose to study a little bit more!)

[epicwafflepie]

thank god i have a pcp appointment tomorrow cuz i need to talk to them about issues ive constantly put in the back burner. the biggest ones being my vision issues/astigmatism and chronic pain.

like i always thought having slight astigmatism was normal but apparently even small amounts of astigmatism isn't normal. the biggest thing for me i attend to view text as blurry unless it's super fucking big ass text or right in my face. if it's neither i gotta squint or get close real close to what im reading. you know that meme of a dude in a fast food drive-thru but they're standing outside of their car and right in front of the menu to read it. yeah thats me. it's insane how my childhood doctors screened me for vision issues, saw me squinting to read shit, and went "yeah this kid has normal eyesight".

last bit i go on a tangent and graphicly talk about my childhood abuse to tw for that

and another issue ive put on the back burner is my chronic pain. specifically in my joints, muscles, and back. i have experienced it since childhood but it's gotten a lot more severe to where i need to get high to be able to do my job properly. as a kid i would just need some tylenol or aspirin and i would be fine but now it those don't help (and both severely irritate my stomach since developing dysautonomia) and i need to hit my vape a few times for it to fully go away. it also greatly upsets me that i wouldn't be dealing this pain if i wasnt horrifically tortured for the first 18 years of my life (that also gave me genital issues). because of all the shit my abusers put me through. all of the rapes, beatings, and general torture. i deal with awful joint and muscle pain. it also saddens me that i couldn't vocalize this pain as a kid because if i even dared to my aunt would beat me until i was bruised and bleeding and sometimes on worse beatings it left me unconscious. so like no shit i have chronic pain. no shit that all of the times where my aunt bashed my head into the wall, picked me up and threw me across a room (and even at the wall), and purposely dislocated my joints and popped them back in since the age of two left me with severe joint and muscle issues.

my back pain is probably from this too but that specifically worsened after i started attending a highschool where students used their backpacks as lockers. not because the campus didn't have lockers but because it was 3 schools on one campus and, depending on your schedule, you had to walk in-between these schools. and passtime was only 15 minutes (which isn't a lot when each school was a 5-10 minute walk from each other). so it made more sense to carry your backpack around. which permanently fucked up my back somehow. i was one of the only students who ended up with back pain so severe it left me crying. but maybe i wouldn't have dealt with it that badly if i wasn't tortured throughout my childhood. idk the exact cause for my back pain, it only became noticeable at the age of 14.

[lollytea]

unrelated to tot question, how did willow even get into hexside? Her dads canonically went to different schools (in Thems the breaks kids) and I may be misremembering this but pretty sure odalia said something like “we’ll make sure the girl never gets admitted into hexside.”

The only solution I can think of right now is Bump supremacy

Odalia did say that but it was a conditional threat. She would only become an obstacle in Willow attending Hexside if Amity didn't do as told and break off their friendship. She did so Odalia stopped paying any attention to Willow.

Gilbert and Harvey went to St. Epiderm and Glandus respectively but from what we know about both schools, it's not unlikely that they'd opt to send her somewhere else.

As stated by Raine, St Epiderm was both pricey (They could only attend on a scholarship.) and not in an ideal location (Their parents had to live by the Knee in order for them to attend and didn't like how cold it was.)

I don't know the details of the Parks' living situation. They're certainly not poor but they're not nearly as well off as the Blights. (Who also chose to send their kids to Hexside, implying it must be a school with a good reputation.) Plus idk if the Parks lived in Bonesborough all along or if they moved there for the sake of Willow's education but if it's the former, having to migrate to the Knee/sending their daughter to school so far from home would not have been the convenient option.

While Epiderm might have been a consideration when Gilbert and Harvey were deciding Willow's future school, I imagine Glandus was simply out of the question from the beginning. Harvey attended himself so he would well aware of the social hierarchy there. It was established in TTLGR that Glandus students have a dog-eat-dog mentality. The strong are expected to push down the weak.

Considering what a shy, sensitive, insecure, clumsy, magically challenged little girl Willow was, Harvey knew she'd be bullied relentlessly if they sent her there. And the Parks definitely give off the impression that they're very protective of their child and most likely don't believe in the idea that being put in that kind of situation will help her in the long run.

(Obviously she ended up getting bullied at Hexside too but neither Harvey or Gilbert were familiar enough with the school to know that.)

As for how Willow got admitted into Hexside at all, yeah. It was absolutely Bump.

It's mentioned by Amity that in order to pass the Hexside entrance exam, you need to be able to cast at least two spells. I always saw this as just a formality to prove the child has a functioning bile sac, rather than an expectation for the child to be already talented before they even start school. So like, even if they're bad at magic, they have the potential to improve. This was Bump's mentality, I believe. Principle Faust probably had higher standards for the former exam but I figure Bump definitely changed a lot once he became principle, namely that every student have the opportunity to learn and excel even if they're not immediately perfect.

(Bump most likely had his faults tho. Ableism seemed pretty normalized on the Boiling Isles when it came to witches who couldn't do magic. So like. A kid like Hunter would probably have been turned away if he tried to enroll in season 1. Although Luz being a human and proving she could do magic in an alternative way definitely opened Bump's mind a bit. So from this point, I imagine he'd be more lenient in allowing students who aren't biological witches.)

So like. Willow could, at the very least, cast a plant based spell. Maybe something simple too, like a light spell (Amity once said disparagingly, that a light spell was something even a child could do.)

So I definitely see it as Willow just barely scraping by. She managed two spells, though she could only do one of them well. But Bump probably wouldn't turn away any witch kid with magical potential unless he could not see a single feasible way for them to improve at Hexside. (eg. a kid with no magical ability whatsoever.)

[doberbutts]

how did you end up getting diagnosed with dysautonomia? like, what kind of symptoms were you having that made you go, okay time to see a doctor & figure this out?

I was fainting in class and spending most of my gym classes somewhat unconscious lmao at some point my school was like "ok fr this is not normal go get this checked out" and my folks didn't really have a choice after that.

For me because I have a family history of "vasovagal syncope" which is an old term for POTS, once my pediatric cardiologist heard that combined with my symptoms she ordered a tilt table test and an ekg right away. The ekg picked up some crazy arrythmias but the tilt table test had me literally faint about 6 minutes in with the fantastic blood pressure of 60/40, so that kind of proved without a doubt that there was something fucky going on with my heart and blood pressure. So I did not have to wait the 7+ years that's average to be diagnosed unless you count the fact that I've had symptoms since being born and I was officially diagnosed in middle school. But I wasn't fainting *until* middle school, and my parents also didn't investigate symptoms further than a general practice "shrug idk uhhh maybe it won't happen again" until my school wouldn't let me come back without a doctor's note saying it was safe for me to attend.

[featherymalignancy]

Ahhhhhh I loved your answer to my Lucien question! Lucien is obviously charismatic and great at talking to people (the reason why he was Spring's emissary in canon), so I imagined him to be an estate realtor or something like that! I'm glad we had the same idea! However, I also think Lucien is pragmatic, and incredibly intelligent, so it doesn't seem far fetched to me he could work something related to science? Idk. Just my opinion. But I think what you chose for him is ultimately the best fit! I love these type of questions too and even more, your detailed non brief answers :) I have one more (hehe), you mentioned Elain is an "academic", but unless I missed it, what exactly is Elain's career? And, I wouldn't mind if you did Feyre too....IF YOU WANT TO

Sorry for the delay! I don’t hate the idea of Lucien working in a science-related role!

I don’t exactly know why, but I can’t really see Lucien being in the medical field, but I could definitely picture him in research/public health! I could also see him working at a venture capital firm focusing on health tech!

So Elain and Feyre are both in college during In Vino Veritas (and in fact, Elain is still in school—albeit grad school—during Navy Suits)

Elain is majoring in Art History with aspirations to attend graduate school, obtain her PhD, and either be a college professor/professional academic. (Many of the world’s most prominent scholars continue to teach even as they publish their research, curate exhibits at museums, etc)

Elain’s considered an Italianist, and her focus of study is specifically Papal patronage in Quattrocento (1400s) Rome.

Feyre is majoring in Fine Art, her medium is paint, and she is really inspired by the Abstract Expressionists and more specifically, the idea that use of medium is equal to “meaning”

Having been to Europe many times while their parents are still alive, Feyre is convinced that the art that Elain studies is boring and stuffy. It isn’t until Elain takes Feyre to the Uffizi and shows Feyre the way Botticelli used gold leaf in the Birth of Venus to give the painting a textural quality that Feyre gets down with the Old Masters.

[karasunology]

⸙ ˚₊ ➷ IWAIZUMI HAJIME BEING A DAD HEADCANONS! ❞

✎ . . . Herrroooo! 👋🏽 May I request a Baby daddy head canon (The “as dads” head canons lol) please? For Iwaizumi and Nishinoya please and thank you 💞 Love your writing too!!!

❝ ― submitted by @ nonnie <3 ❞

✎ . . . jae idk whether anyone has requested this but is it okay if i request for some iwaizumi and ushi dad HCs 🥺👉🏻👈🏻 ur HCs make me SO soft and tbh i just wanna live in ur imaginations 😢💞

❝ ― submitted by @b0kuto <3 ❞

✎ . . . since you did oikawa as a dad, what about my boyfie iwachann?? and maybe how their kids will interact with each other, thank you if you ever consider💛

❝ ― submitted by @ nonnie <3 ❞

-ˏˋ ➶ character(s) ━ iwaizumi hajime <3

[ trigger warnings ━ slight manga spoilers !! ]

✎ . . . DAD HEADCANONS.

[ SUGAWARA KOUSHI & OIKAWA VERSION. ] [ BOKUTO KOUTARO VERSION. ] [ MIYA ATSUMU VERSION. ] [ KUROO TETSUROU & KOZUME KENMA HEADCANONS. ]

-ˏˋ playing soleil's tape ˊˎ-

[ 📼 ] . . . happy 900 followers and happy birthday lizzie !! @kaidasen , i have two other iwaizumi hcs in my inbox and one being another dad req but not just general hcs and phew i'm tired

IWAIZUMI HAJIME.

➜ i'm not a s*mp but,,,

➜ i would glady offer him my hand in marraige

➜ you two weren't quick to settle down, since the both of you have been busy with your own jobs especially then, trying to survive a comitted long-distance relationship

➜ but now that it has been almost a year since you two got married, hajime knew he wanted to start a family with you

➜ and when i tell you that if MANS EVER EVEN THOUGHT of having children WITH YOU, you're in it for a long long run my love

➜ listen ─ iwa is a rational and decisive man, stubborn too, but overall thinks first before bringing these types lf serious stuff with you

➜ knowing that once you agree, mans will not be able to hold back anymore

➜ it was quite funny actually, since it has been a running joke between you two with your baby fever phase in high school that you soon grew out of when you attended collage.

➜ iwa used to relentlessly tease tf out of you but even then, he couldn't help but be the one that you want to have a child with

➜ now all the left over pride he has vanished away while he looks like a CLOWN as he nervously asked you about starting a family with him

➜ emodiment of👉👈😳🥺

➜ because now it was YOUR turn to tease tf out of him, payback bitch

➜ iwa : what if we . . start a family?? 😳👉👈 haha i'm joking . . . unless??

➜ you : it's funny how bitches turned into my fans💅💸

“ wow how the turn tables ”

“ baby girl, i don't think that's how it ─ ”

“ ─ aha simp ”

➜ but regardless, you immediately agreed to his offer and you BET that iwa would give you payback for all the teasing you have done in the bedroom

➜ ok bet fill me up to the brim sir

➜ okay um chile ,, i have to keep reminding of myself that this is a family friendly show

➜ he may be a little busy with work sometimes, but he'll always try to have time to go with you on your baby check ups and appointments which, he, actually booked the second you told him you were pregnant

➜ but whenever he doesn't, he would always be a lot more affectionate whenever he goes home to see you and would hear how you talk about updates from the doctor as he just RUBS YOUR TUMMY as he apologizes for not coming with you😭

➜ when you gave birth to a beautiful hanako, iwa couldn't help but cry because wow??YOU ARE SO WONDERFUL AND HE IS SO PROUD TO HAVE YOU AS HIS WIFE, AND YOU GAVE HIM THIS LOVELY MASTERPIECE OKAY AIGHT

➜ hajime didn't really care about gender now, but before he actually wanted a son, but as i said now, all his mind was just about you and your daughter ─ his precious girls

➜ besides, he has all the time in the world to make a son with you or two

➜ hanako, no matter how sweet she could be ─ she is lowkey a little shit too

➜ prefers hajime over you but would LOVE to rile him up and make it seem that she prefers you over him

➜ he would be a strict father, but such a softie for his daughter that he forgets why he even was mad when your daughter pulls up with THE TRUMP CARD with the same puppy eyes you always used on him

➜ like mans was already a goner but aight

➜ gets FLUSTERED AND EMBARESSED whenever hanako wants him to play with her with her dolls and he also has to act out with her lmao, but we all know she was doing it on purpose

➜ your daughter is a   s a d i s t

➜ makes her dad watch all the OLD barbie movies because she doesn't👏like👏the👏new👏ones👏

➜ periodt 😡💅

➜ has grown to LOVE the thought of being a princess AND HAJIME CALLS HER PRINCESS ALL THE TIME AHH

“ but daddy i'm a princess !! of course i need a prince ” hanako pouted as iwaizumi's tick mark just grew with the thought of his daughter having another boy in her life other than him ( and oikawa & perhaps future brothers😳 )

“ why would you need a prince when you already have your knight in shinning armor here, ” he gestured vigorously to himself with his hands moving up and down from his head to toe

“ oh yeah! i guess i'm okay with that ” your daughter giggled before calling out to you as she saw you coming into her line of sight, reaching her hands out for you to carry her

➜ and by the time you have her in your arms, she would always nuzzle her little head onto your neck, but this time, before he could, she looked back at her father ─ but this time with a mischievous glint

“ ─ for now ” she smiled cheekily before tugging you to head over to kitchen because one, she wants to get away from her father's intense aura emitting from him, and two, she was hungry

➜ as you can see, bb girl loves to rile up her father, but as i said, iwa could never stay mad for too long

➜ would, yes, kinda yell at his kids, but would NEVER EVER hit them

➜ would kinda BONK🔨💥 them but not the childhood traumatizing methods

➜ he has strong beliefs that hitting children are a no-go, because it would probably affect them in the future, and there are other, better and appropriate ways to handle them without leaving them in child trauma

➜ since argentina is close to california where you and iwa have settled down, you bet that oikawa BEGGED them to have a small little reunion atleast every other three months LMAO

➜ and when you gave birth to your son, hayato, oikawa's offer did not STOP, and when oikawa finally had the time to visit you guys with his family ─ it was chaotic.

➜ first of, hanako is so mean to oikawa for some reason but she also kinda likes him too?? 😭

➜ oikawa : that's so upsettin😔

➜ then moves to hayato because unLIKE A CERTAIN SOMEONE, hayato being the precious bb boy he is, accepted all the love oikawa would give him

“ hana-chan, yahoo !! ” before uncle tooru could engulf hanako as he ran up to her with arms open wide, she avoided his figure as he went pass her and hit himself on a lampost

➜ with a blank stare, she crouched to his cowering figure as he rubbed the spot on his head that hit the post while whining, poking his side in curiousity.

“ uncle, are you alright ─ ”

“ ─ oi, shittykawa what are you doing ─ ”

➜ as you and your husband along with oikawa's wife and kids, run up to where the two duo were crouching, your toddler son tilted his head innocently

“ shittykawa . . . ? ”

➜ usually these reunion day would always end in traditional family dinner with the iwaizumis and the oikawas ─ and after that, their offsprings just couldn't get away from each other when it's time to go 🥺

“ i don't want them to leave :( ” hayato pouted as he wouldn't let go of his little tug on akiro's sweater

“ hana-chan !! ” hikaru clung onto hanako as hanako quietly glared at him, trying to shake him off while she shyly held onto akio as aiko starts scolding her little brother

➜ also side note : you bet that they would come back to japan just to attend aobajohsai

➜ anywh0res😍

➜ iwaizumi is the type of dad that would give EQUAL amounts of love to his children, would never have favouritism with his children because that shit actually hurts ngl😔

➜ would arm wRESTLE with hayato but he doesn't wanna hurt him so he would always let him win though it may cost his pride

➜ someone thirst with me about his arms please😭😭

➜ when he's soft'ish

➜ it was near father's day and you have been planning for it along with your children but you guys were anything BUT LOWKEY

➜ iwaizumi could literally hear giggling in one of the rooms and he goes to check it out and sees nodding vigorously at hayato.

➜ wanting to join in the fun, he opened the door and leaned onto the door frame expecting for you to call for him to join you guys

➜ but to his suprised, you guys stayed unusually quiet while your two kids avoided eye contact with him

➜ iwaizumi was upset being left out, but didn't really comment on it. but as father's day rolls in with your two kids waking him up as he goes down to the kitchen to see his favourite breakfast along with some cards from hanako and hayato, and with you smiling warmly at him as you took off your apron before kissing him a goodmorning in his cheeks ─ he knew it was worth it, whatever you guys were planning

“ ew, mommy kissed dada!! ” shrieked by your children as hajime stuck a tongue at them as he grinned at you, lovesick, before he could get to steal kiss on your lips, you pushed his head to look at the opposite side

“ brush your teeth first, and THEN, i will think about kissing you ”

[adventurousrecovery]

"Friends"

(I had met with my ex to exchange items after my chiropractor appointment. My lengthy speech days before was not enough clarification so he sought further, questioning our status. I smiled at the stupidity of the question and responded, "Friends." My answer was not the one he wanted and I received numerous messages before I had returned home. He wanted to make sure all items had been returned.)

Me: Yes unless I come across something else.

Ex: super great

Ex:I removed myself from your artist page

(I had made him an admin when he questioned my loyalty after my previous ex and his wife had messaged me.)

Me: Ok. I don't think I'd know how to do that lol

(I wouldn't.)

Ex: ok

Ex: pictures.

Ex: i need to remove tags and pictures

Ex: fucking facebook

Ex: its all like oh something went wrong

Ex: im about to just block you and see if that takes care of it

Ex: did you do a thing or did it work?

(He was looking for a response and I wasn't going to give it. I was more so stressed that he wouldn't leave me alone.)

Me: idk?

Ex: did you delete pictures on your end?

Me: No?

(I responded in the form of a question because I had deleted pictures of us weeks before we broke up, but not from social media. I felt he would not respond well to my confessing of the prior.)

Ex: oh ok

Ex: ok i think I got them all

Me: Good job lol

(What did he want...a pat on the the back?)

Ex: thanks LOL

(LOL was his common response when upset or not in control while seeking the last word in an attempt to feel in control. I find it to be the equivalent of "I'll pray for you" when Christians argue.)

Me: *sends a GIF of A. C. Slater and Zack Morris from "Saved By the Bell" giving themselves a pat on the back*

Ex: I take that as sarcastic

Ex: im still debating blocking you lol

(He was still looking for a response.)

Me: If you wish

(Encouragement in hope that he does.)

Ex: k bye

(I saw an opportunity.)

Me: There is one thing you should know.

Ex: ?

Me: *sends a picture of the Joan Jett and Styx concert tickets*

Me: Hahahahahaha! Bye

Ex: wow.

Ex: im glad you think thats funny

Me: You threatened me with Journey. I got the tickets the day after Indy.

(We went to Indy for my appointment and had both looked forward to getting out of town. On the way he questioned my delay in response to his questions the day before. Eventually he suggested, "Maybe we should break up", which was his go-to when things got rough. I took his offer. I went to my appointment and he sat outside. During that time he managed to convince himself that I had been using him the whole time. We left and got in the car where he proceeded to drive recklessly while being verbally aggressive. His excessive fidgeting had me worried he was going to hit me. I sat in silence as he brought up every concern and emotion he had ever tucked away. He attacked my sexuality. He put me down. He spoke on my behalf, answering his own questions. We were halfway back to Terre Haute before we began to communicate appropriately. By the time we returned to my apartment he was convinced we could work things out. Nothing changes if nothing changes. I told him if we were to further pursue this relationship I would have to see changes made, but that did not guarantee permanence. We went to DD for coffee. I knew he would pay. I didn't order. He was surprised. I didn't want him to think I was using him. We returned to my apartment and I got out of the car and walked away. It was only a matter of minutes until I received phone calls and messages.)

Me: But, still...its funny?

(He doesn't deny his threats.)

Me: This whole conversation is ridiculous.

Ex: I get that you got tickets to something

Ex: im glad you did

Ex: I hope you have a good time

Ex: but honestly I didn't expect you to tell me like that. I assumed you were a little better than that.

Me: I am certain I will. I didn't want to tell you like that but you weren't being nice.

(It was a dick move, but it was a good one!)

Ex: sure

Me: Threatening me with Journey tickets is an attempt to get an emotional response and gain some sort of control was a dick move, but then I quickly realized joan jett was the same night and I can still make it to work. I tolerated your harsh words and irrational behavior. I hoped things could be nice but it was clear that was not gonna happen, especially now.

Ex: ok

Me: I do wish good for you and believe you are better than you present.

Ex: ok

Ex: When did I threaten you with journey tickets exactly?

Ex: How so?

Me: In the car, "I think I'm gonna sell the tickets."

Me: "Okay"

Me: "Try to get my money back"

Me: "Okay"

Ex: that wasn't a threat, that was me hoping you would offer to buy them

(I offered to, but then I realized it was symbolic of all the times he pulled the "Maybe we should break up" card and me finally responding as he wished by begging and pleading no. I am not that person. I will not be that person. Instead, I bought tickets to Joan Jett and Styx after remembering they were to be performing in Noblesville the same night Journey was performing with Def Leppard in Louisville. Plot twist, asshole.)

Ex: call me.

Ex: please/

Me: I can't right now cause I'm still with my sis and packing up kaine to drop stuff off at work before going to the dog park

Ex: ok

Ex: well, nevermind then.

(I thought the conversation was finally over. Nope.)

Ex: I have $240 in the tickets, and at that moment i was frustrated and it was becoming clear we wernt going

Ex: I apologize that you lack the ability to see things outside of your scope and also lack the ability to recognize that sometimes people have moments.

(Again, he was speaking on my behalf. What I experienced was not a moment. It was the red flag I needed for the others had been bright enough. It was not just a "moment". It was an indicator of what I would experience if the relationship continued.)

Ex: Especially for someone who has so many. You complain so much about people not understanding you but it seems like you also arnt willing to take the time to understand other people.

Ex: and im sorry that you view everything as an attack on you, i know that sucks for you.

(Seems my voice was never loud enough and I admit that. I do fail to understand things. Ya can't teach a know-it-all. I do not view everything as an attack, but a potential attack. Trust is a HUGE issues and I didn't have that with him. I admit there are people I do not understand. I have become better at recognizing when to take time to understand because I know that whatever behavior or words were present were not of that person's character and who is actually an asshole that I cannot and do not have to fix. I understood that it was more than a moment and I was not going to stick around to "understand" and be manipulated and brainwashed to think otherwise.)

Me: I told you the truth of my limitations upon entering the relationship.

Ex: I know.

Me: School, work, mental health, recovery etc.

(I was extremely thorough with all that surrounded my mental health and placed great emphasis on my education and limited availability. I suggested he build relationships with those around him, staying in communication, and even attend counseling because there would be times I could not give him the support he was seeking.)

Ex: right

Ex: well, congrats.

(Congrats on my newfound freedom and reduction of stress? Yes!)

Ex: I guess the whole friends idea is done then?